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Speaker 1: Happy last day of twenty eighteen.

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Speaker 2: Everyone, Welcome to episode thirty four of Hurdle of podcast

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Speaker 2: that talks to everyone from top CEOs to entrepreneurs about

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Speaker 2: how they got through tough times hurdles of sorts by

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Speaker 2: leaning into wellness.

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Speaker 1: Emily of Audi here and today it's just you and me.

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Speaker 2: I want to kick off this episode with a big,

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Speaker 2: resounding thank you. Today, December thirty first marks one year

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Speaker 2: of the pod crazy and in that time I've recorded

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Speaker 2: thirty seven episodes in two different countries, four different states.

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Speaker 2: I've sat down with some of the most unbelievable people,

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Speaker 2: starting with Nike Master Trainer Alex silver Fagan in episode

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Speaker 2: two Inside of My Apartment, to Sadie Lincoln, the founder

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Speaker 2: of Bar three and the first of many to join.

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Speaker 1: Me inside of the We Work recording studio.

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Speaker 2: The conversations we've had have forever changed my life. And

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Speaker 2: you know, there were a lot of reasons I wanted

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Speaker 2: to start the pod, but one of my twenty eighteen

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Speaker 2: goals was to sit down with a new person every

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Speaker 2: single week and just learn from them, and I'm lucky

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Speaker 2: to have had the opportunity to do that with Hurdle.

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Speaker 2: Of course, there have been a ton of conversations between

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Speaker 2: me and you guys too, through Instagram, DM or through email.

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Speaker 2: I try my hardest to respond to every single reach out.

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Speaker 2: I repost the videos you guys tag me in and Instagram.

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Speaker 2: I share some of the awesome hurdle moments you guys

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Speaker 2: send along with our community there too. I wake up

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Speaker 2: every morning to videos tagged of me with people tying

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Speaker 2: their shoes, which, by the way, that whole time I

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Speaker 2: shoot things. Sometimes I get up in the morning, I

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Speaker 2: film it sitting in my apartment putting on my sneakers,

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Speaker 2: and then I get out and I go do some

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Speaker 2: fitness and it's caught on in such an unexpected way,

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Speaker 2: and it makes me smile every single time when I

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Speaker 2: see someone conquering a morning hurdle of their own. It's

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Speaker 2: the same way I feel when someone out of the

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Speaker 2: Bluest tells me to tell me that they love the

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Speaker 2: podcast and are you Emily, and it's just it's bananas.

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Speaker 2: It's special because it makes me feel like this is

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Speaker 2: all worthwhile. I think about how I would feel if

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Speaker 2: I got the chance to meet some of the content

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Speaker 2: creators and podcasters that I admire, like drama from short

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Speaker 2: story long or Guy raz from How I Built This

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Speaker 2: Ryan Flaherty of Nike. When I sat down with him

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Speaker 2: for episode thirty one, it was awesome because I was

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Speaker 2: so inspired by him. I am so inspired by him

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Speaker 2: with the material and the interviews he's doing over on

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Speaker 2: Nike's Trained podcast, and I was lucky enough to get

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Speaker 1: Goodness over here with all of you.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, in summary, being a podcaster is pretty awesome.

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Speaker 2: And trust me, there's some really really good stuff coming

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Speaker 2: from Hurdle in the new year. In today's episode, I'm

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Speaker 2: going to be running through eight of the greatest lessons

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Speaker 1: The mic with Hurdle's guests.

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Speaker 2: Please take a screen grab of the pod today while

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Speaker 2: you're listening, make sure to let me know what resonates

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Speaker 2: with you, what you'll like, post it to your social

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Speaker 2: media tag me tag Hurdle Emily a Body and Hurdle podcast,

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Speaker 2: Shoot me an email Emily at hurdle Us to share

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Speaker 2: a hurdle moment of your own, or even just clue

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Speaker 2: me in on what your goals are for the new year,

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Speaker 2: what you got going on. I'm big on goal setting.

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Speaker 2: I'm big on going after what you want, and I'm

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Speaker 2: personally ready to do some big things in twenty nineteen,

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Speaker 2: and I hope you are too.

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Speaker 1: And with that, let's get to.

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Speaker 2: Hurdling, all right, Lessons. So, with New Year's resolutions being

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Speaker 2: a super buzzy topic right about now, it feels appropriate

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Speaker 2: to start with this nugget from episode twenty eight guest

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Speaker 2: Robin Arzon lesson number one set smart goals.

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Speaker 1: So smart is an acronym.

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Speaker 2: It stands for specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time pound.

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Speaker 2: I'll break each one of these down just a little bit,

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Speaker 2: using an example of one of my goals for twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 2: So in twenty nineteen, I want to save two thousand

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Speaker 2: to be realistic. Another example, when I set out to

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Speaker 1: But I did set small, actionable goals.

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