Speaker 1: Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
Speaker 1: put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
Speaker 1: share with you on our daily podcast through last night,
Speaker 1: if you were listening to my show, you might have
Speaker 1: heard me talking about the topic of forgiveness. And I
Speaker 1: think I think I'm probably going to touch on that
Speaker 1: probably every night for the rest of this year. I
Speaker 1: think that's kind of going to be an overarching theme
Speaker 1: because it seems to me like there's a whole lot
Speaker 1: of anger and a whole lot of rage going on
Speaker 1: around us, and a lot of people are feeling like
Speaker 1: nothing is fair.
Speaker 2: Today. I probably had three.
Speaker 1: Phone conversations with people not on the air, just in
Speaker 1: my personal life where people said, that's not fair. It's
Speaker 1: so unfair. Guess what it is. It is unfair. There
Speaker 1: are so many unfair things, things that are not right,
Speaker 1: and what can you do about it. Well, if you
Speaker 1: can right the wrong, then do that. But a lot
Speaker 1: of times all we can do is forgive and move on,
Speaker 1: because if we stay stuck in that feeling of it's
Speaker 1: not fair, it's not fair, they owe me an apology.
Speaker 1: Guess what happens doesn't hurt them? Whoever wronged you. It
Speaker 1: doesn't hurt them, it hurts you.
Speaker 3: Hi, Donna, Hi, I want to know if you could
Speaker 3: play a song for my two beautiful daughters.
Speaker 2: What are their names, Brittany and Ashley? How old are they? Mom?
Speaker 3: Brittany is eleven and Ashley is five?
Speaker 2: And what do you want to tell them?
Speaker 3: I want to tell them that I love them very
Speaker 3: much and they will be home soon. Me and their
Speaker 3: dad are going to a big custody battle and they're
Speaker 3: with him, and they want to come home really bad.
Speaker 3: And I just want them to know that I love
Speaker 3: them with all my heart.
Speaker 4: Now, is there any way that you two can work
Speaker 4: through your problems and they can be a part of
Speaker 4: both your lives?
Speaker 2: Yes, we probably could for their sake.
Speaker 4: Yeah, the more peace that you two can establish, whether
Speaker 4: or not you get along, you're going to have to
Speaker 4: figure out a way. Seems to me the best situation
Speaker 4: would be to put your differences aside and say, let's
Speaker 4: agree to disagree and agree that we don't get along,
Speaker 4: but for our children's sake, let's make this thing work.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we need to do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you do.
Speaker 3: And they just I miss him really bad. I've not
Speaker 3: seen him. They've been gone for about four months now.
Speaker 2: And does he live out of the area.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he does.
Speaker 2: Do you not have visitation at all?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 3: Not right now, just because we argue and he's got
Speaker 3: a girlfriend that we don't get along at all, and
Speaker 3: we fight and argue, and I know what's wrong.
Speaker 2: Okay? How bad does your heart hurt missing your kids?
Speaker 3: It hurts really bad?
Speaker 5: Because does it.
Speaker 4: Hurt bad enough to swallow your anger and swallow your
Speaker 4: pride and swallow the fact that you have probably been
Speaker 4: wronged and find a way to stop fighting with him
Speaker 4: and his girlfriend for your kid's sake.
Speaker 3: I need to do that.
Speaker 4: Do you know what forgiveness is, honey? Forgiveness is not
Speaker 4: a feeling. And forgiveness is not saying what you did
Speaker 4: is okay. Forgiveness is saying, God, I am going to
Speaker 4: stop expecting somebody to pay me a debt they rightfully
Speaker 4: owe me. Does he owe you a debt for wrongs
Speaker 4: that he did in your marriage?
Speaker 3: To be honest with you, yeah, I do.
Speaker 4: And is the fact that he wronged you and hurt
Speaker 4: you and did things that were inappropriate in your marriage
Speaker 4: causing you to hang on to anger and bitterness and resentment, Well.
Speaker 3: It's hard it's hard to let go.
Speaker 4: But if you don't let go of that, and I'm
Speaker 4: not saying that you need to feel warm and fuzzy
Speaker 4: about this man, But if you don't let go of
Speaker 4: that anger and that hurt and that resentment and put
Speaker 4: it in God's hands and let him figure out justice
Speaker 4: in the situation, Donnie, you're going to lose more than
Speaker 4: your children. You're going to lose your serenity, and you're
Speaker 4: going to lose your peace, and you're going to lose
Speaker 4: your joy. I know that when you can get to
Speaker 4: a point where you say, you know what he wronged me.
Speaker 4: I'm hurt, I'm angry. What's happened is wrong. But I
Speaker 4: am not going to hold him accountable any longer. I'm
Speaker 4: going to let God deal with him. I'm going to
Speaker 4: put it in God's hands, and I am going to
Speaker 4: find a way to get along with this person and
Speaker 4: his girlfriend at any cost for my daughter's sake. You
Speaker 4: need to do that for your girls, but mostly you
Speaker 4: need to do that for you. Marcus High, Welcome to
Speaker 4: the Delilah Show. Who is on your heart tonight?
Speaker 6: Well, actually it's a friend of mine and as I've
Speaker 6: been traveling back and forth. I keep listening to your
Speaker 6: show because it has to be the only thing on
Speaker 6: that's really interesting. They can't need to play any good
Speaker 6: stuff on the radio anymore except our show.
Speaker 5: So.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 6: Yeah. Well, I keep hearing all these stories of you know,
Speaker 6: heartache and things like that, and coming back from a
Speaker 6: friend tonight, I kind of realized the truth that I
Speaker 6: have never realized before and starting to make me wonder
Speaker 6: of everything that I write about is actually wrong. But
Speaker 6: as she is on my mind, I'm wondering, you know,
Speaker 6: maybe if there's any answer to love and all that,
Speaker 6: maybe the only thing we can do is take a
Speaker 6: step back and quit dreaming of the fantasy of it
Speaker 6: and really focus on the it, which is probably the
Speaker 6: most successful part of it, or what we really need
Speaker 6: in our lives. Of course, that might just seem like
Speaker 6: mindless philosophy too, I don't know.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I think that so many people.
Speaker 7: My producer Janie and I were talking this morning about
Speaker 7: how when you're young, especially, you buy into this fantasy
Speaker 7: of what you think it is supposed to be, and
Speaker 7: you miss out on so many important and life changing
Speaker 7: and wonderful situations because you're expecting it to look like
Speaker 7: something else right.
Speaker 6: Well, And the thing is, you know, I always talk
Speaker 6: about the things that we're most afraid of are the
Speaker 6: things we don't understand, and maybe that is true, but
Speaker 6: I think the things that we're more afraid of is
Speaker 6: the actual success of it.
Speaker 2: Leona, what can I do for you?
Speaker 5: My biological father was what everybody calls a deadbeat dad.
Speaker 5: So my sister and I grew up without knowing our father,
Speaker 5: and for many years I was very, very bitter about
Speaker 5: it and very angry. I never really had a father figure,
Speaker 5: true father figure me and my grandparents helped to raise me,
Speaker 5: but that was about it. And we found out that
Speaker 5: he passed away and I really didn't care at the time.
Speaker 5: And then two years ago my sister decided that she
Speaker 5: wanted to try to find our family on that side,
Speaker 5: and she did, and for me, it was kind of
Speaker 5: like this door that I had dead bolted and everything
Speaker 5: had just been yanked wide open. And it's just been
Speaker 5: two years of being on emotional rollercoaster, and I've loved
Speaker 5: meeting my family, but I still didn't want anything to
Speaker 5: do with hearing about my father or anything like that
Speaker 5: until about four months ago, and I was striving to
Speaker 5: work and had passed an accident, and I started praying
Speaker 5: for the people in the accident, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 5: I just started crying, and I really felt like God
Speaker 5: was saying, it's time for you to stop running. You
Speaker 5: need to go and take care of this. And so
Speaker 5: I called my sister and we made a trip to
Speaker 5: take care of that, and I went two weeks ago
Speaker 5: and she had some of his ashes. He had been cremated,
Speaker 5: and so I took some of his ashes and went
Speaker 5: out onto the pier that they had had the ceremony
Speaker 5: on and made my peace with him. And it was
Speaker 5: I've never felt more free in my life. And I felt,
Speaker 5: all of a sudden, I just felt this immense love
Speaker 5: not only for him, but the love that he actually
Speaker 5: did half for us. He was really screwed up and
Speaker 5: for whatever reason, he couldn't make it work. But I
Speaker 5: forgave him that day. And it's just the last two
Speaker 5: weeks this has been really awesome. I've just felt so free,
Speaker 5: and there's just so many things that are coming together
Speaker 5: now that I took that step.
Speaker 1: I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
Speaker 1: much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
Speaker 1: more with you each weekday. On eight, it's Delilah Love