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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Hailey is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Nate.

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Speaker 2: She has no idea why, So in a few minutes,

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Speaker 2: we're gonna call him and ask him why he's ghosting

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Speaker 2: her and maybe get her another date. But before we

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Speaker 2: do that, Hailey, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Nate.

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Speaker 3: That's been four days?

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, not too long. Yeah, are you sure you're

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: Not like a hundred percent sure, but I'm pretty sure.

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Speaker 1: Why do you think so?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 3: Like, the name went really well, but.

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Speaker 5: I worry that I I don't know, Like, so we

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Speaker 5: went on a picnic and it was really nice and

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Speaker 5: we even like got to slow dance a little on

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Speaker 5: the picnic blanket, and.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was really sweet, and I was like, I

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Speaker 3: don't know, he was just really attentive.

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Speaker 5: But I just worry, like I can't dance and I

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Speaker 5: kept stepping on his feet, and so I'm like, maybe

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Speaker 5: he just didn't.

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Speaker 3: Like that I can't dance. I don't know. I've been

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Speaker 3: like hyper fixating on it. But I'm just like I

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Speaker 3: really was bad, but I was like nervous and stuff.

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Speaker 3: So I can dance a little better than I did.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, it was pretty good.

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Speaker 1: Okay, did he say anything about your dance skills?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 5: I mean we both laughed it off, but like you know,

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Speaker 5: sometimes people pretend things are funny or okay and it's not.

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Speaker 3: And I don't know, it's the only thing that I

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Speaker 3: really feel like I did wrong.

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Speaker 2: So tell us about the date though, Like, how were

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Speaker 2: things with him? Did you guys get along?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we had a lot in common, so like I

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Speaker 5: brought the wine, he brought the food. We met up

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Speaker 5: at the park and we had a picnic and it

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Speaker 5: was just really chill and we got to talk a lot,

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Speaker 5: so like we got to know each other a little bit,

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Speaker 5: and I really liked it.

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Speaker 3: It was just a nice, peaceful date.

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Speaker 5: You know, I've been dating a little and like nothing

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Speaker 5: really exciting, so this was kind of to me, this one.

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Speaker 5: This really stood out and it felt really special. So

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Speaker 5: like it went really well. We even like got to

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Speaker 5: make out a little bit, so like I thought he

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Speaker 5: really liked me, But I don't know. I just I'm

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Speaker 5: really concerned because I would have hoped that like the

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Speaker 5: next day or maybe even a couple of days later.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I know people have jobs, but I just

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Speaker 5: haven't heard a thing.

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Speaker 1: Was he supposed to reach out to you? Like, did

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Speaker 1: you try to contact him at all?

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Speaker 3: I haven't, But he said he would like text or call,

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Speaker 3: and then I just hadn't heard anything. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I feel like after a date like that, I would

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Speaker 1: also want to hear back, like the next day or two,

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Speaker 1: because it ended so well, Like why wouldn't he be

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Speaker 3: Well, like he said he.

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Speaker 5: Would reach back the next day, but I texted him

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Speaker 5: when I got home and said thanks for such a

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Speaker 5: great date. And he didn't text back that night, and

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Speaker 5: he didn't text or call the next day like he

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Speaker 5: had said he would, oh the day after that.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, I don't know, So what was your

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Speaker 1: communication like leading up to the date. Is he just

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Speaker 1: kind of one of those guys that takes a few

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Speaker 1: days or was he more attentive?

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Speaker 5: Well, we have a mutual friend who set us up,

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Speaker 5: so like we didn't really talk much before the date. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 5: we just like we texted a little bit so organize

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Speaker 1: But that was really it, So do we know that

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Speaker 1: he's not sick? Like, did you do some investigating with

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Speaker 1: a mutual friend?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I did, Okay, so yeah I asked her because she

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Speaker 5: works with him, and she was like, no, he's fine,

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Speaker 5: he's at work. Oh yeah, So like because I wanted

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Speaker 5: to give him the benefit of the doubt, like I've

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Speaker 5: definitely been six after a date and then haven't.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, no, he's fine.

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Speaker 2: What I heard watch me pull up real quick.

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Speaker 3: Well that is a little bit weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it is all right. Well we'll see if

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Speaker 2: we can figure it out for you. Then we'll play

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Speaker 2: a song come Back, and then call him and ask

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Speaker 2: him why is ghosting you? And maybe get you another date? Okay,

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Speaker 2: thanks guys, all right, we'll play song come Back, get

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Speaker 2: your first date, follow up next. Right in the middle

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Speaker 2: of the first date follow up, and if you're just

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Speaker 2: joining us, Hailey is on the phone. She's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by a guy named Nate. So in a second we're

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Speaker 2: gonna call him seefa toss, why is ghosting her? Maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date? But first, Haley, why don't you

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Speaker 2: catch everybody up on your situation?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So basically we went on this really nice picnic

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Speaker 3: date at the park.

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Speaker 5: It was, in my opinion, pretty romantic, and I thought

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Speaker 5: it went really well.

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Speaker 3: We had a lot of fun.

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Speaker 5: We slow danced, we drank wine, we ate snacks. What

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Speaker 5: more could a girl want? And yeah, I was really

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Speaker 5: hoping for a second date. And I texted him that night,

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Speaker 5: no response, And I haven't heard of thing since so and.

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Speaker 2: You think it might be because of your bad dancing?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I have no sense of rhythm.

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Speaker 3: Okay, it's only gotten worse than it has better.

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Speaker 2: All right, well we'll see if that is it. Are

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Speaker 2: you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm answered tonight.

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Speaker 2: Please, yes you can. Name is Jewbeil. I host a

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Speaker 2: radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Hi, Nate, whole show's here. I'm Nina, Hi and

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Speaker 1: I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: How are you.

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Speaker 7: Doing all right? That I like win something or what's.

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Speaker 2: Going on here? You might have I'm not really sure.

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Speaker 2: Do you listen to the show ever?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Actually big fan?

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Speaker 2: Oh cool than you? Are you a big enough fan

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Speaker 2: to know what the first eight follow ups are?

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Speaker 7: My god? Yeah? Yeah I am.

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Speaker 2: You know why I'm bringing that up?

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Speaker 3: Nate I might as well just tell me.

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Speaker 2: I'm go, you're ghosting somebody. And they emailed us because

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Speaker 2: they want to know why they're getting ghosted? Do you

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Speaker 2: have any idea who would email us? I'm imagining this

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Speaker 2: is Haley Haley. Yeah, well yes, if I guess you

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Speaker 2: forget that there and she forgot. Yes, Haley is on

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Speaker 2: the line, Nate. She wants to know why you're ghosting her.

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Speaker 2: I'll just let you guys talk it out now.

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Speaker 7: Oh my god, Hey, what's going on?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 3: You know? I was just telling so what what happened?

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Speaker 3: I know I can't dance, but like, I didn't think

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Speaker 7: No, actually I didn't consider myself that good of a dancer.

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Speaker 7: There's no don't worry about that. That's all good.

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Speaker 4: Like I said, I mean, I did have a good time.

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Speaker 7: But you know, I mean, honestly, the whole entire time

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Speaker 7: we were on the you know, on our picnic, you

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Speaker 7: just kept talking about your you know, comparing comparing me

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Speaker 7: to your X from well how long ago, about six

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Speaker 7: seven years he said, I don't I did. Every time

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Speaker 3: Okay, so it was six years ago and I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: I just knew that you had mentioned it even through

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Speaker 5: a recent breakup, and I was not comparing you to him.

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Speaker 3: I was trying to like relate your situation.

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Speaker 5: So what I went through, I wasn't like, I'm sorry

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Speaker 5: if I brought up too much, but I was just

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Speaker 7: Yeah, So like there was there was times where you know,

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Speaker 7: I laughed at something that you said, you know, you're

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Speaker 7: You're like, oh my god, Jason laughed that way, And

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Speaker 7: I was like, this is like are you even over him?

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Speaker 7: Like it is not even like is this something I

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 4: I tried to brush it off every time, you know,

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Speaker 4: like I said, just every single thing you brought up

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Speaker 4: I'm like, my name is not Jason.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm so first of all, I'm really sorry, Like

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Speaker 5: I did not mean to do it that much.

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Speaker 3: I think I was just really.

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Speaker 5: maybe I was just I mean, I was I was excited,

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Speaker 3: I was just like, I think I was just nervous.

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Speaker 5: and like, okay, so like I was comparing your laugh

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Speaker 3: Did have a good laugh.

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Speaker 5: So it was just like I was nervously complimenting you,

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Speaker 5: I guess, and like, but I love your laugh and

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Speaker 3: In the past.

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Speaker 5: related it to a past experience and I was sorry.

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Speaker 3: No, I mean, there's no need to apologize for it.

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Speaker 7: I mean, sometimes wine does talking for us. But you know, honestly,

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Speaker 7: is there something that I'm gonna have.

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Speaker 3: To be worrying about, you know, day in day out?

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Speaker 3: Is she like are you even over him?

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Speaker 7: Like you haven't even said anything about that, like whether you.

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Speaker 3: Are over him or not, and well, so yeah, definitely

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Speaker 3: over him.

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Speaker 4: No, No, I mean I'm definitely over him. Yeah you

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Speaker 4: said it was just it was just a major, major

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Speaker 3: And like, yeah, I don't know where you want to

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm really like I said, I'm sorry and I'm

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Speaker 5: over him. And if you're willing to give me another shot,

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Speaker 5: I will.

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Speaker 3: I promise that the word Jason will not come up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, not one.

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Speaker 7: I would hope not. But I mean, yeah, I mean

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Speaker 7: I don't don't give me a shoot your text tonight

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Speaker 7: and see what you're doing if you're free or maybe.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, on another day with Hayley. We'll pay

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Speaker 2: for it.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, I mean I'm down, But I just hope

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Speaker 4: that it's a Jason free night, like I'm not trying.

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Speaker 3: To remember my name is Nate. Awesome.

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Speaker 5: I'm super excited and I promise that it'll be a

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Speaker 5: fun time.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much for your another shot.

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Speaker 2: Congratulations, Hailey, Thank you Dad.

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Speaker 7: Thanks guys.

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