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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please

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Speaker 1: to read this one right here, right now. I'm buggle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tape. We got it for you. Here it

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter subject how large It's too large?

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I am in a struggle right now,

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Speaker 1: and I need a little advice for a big problem.

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Speaker 1: I have a male friend that I've known since first

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Speaker 1: grade and we're almost forty now. I'm divorced and dated

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Speaker 1: a lot of men after my divorce. After a one

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Speaker 1: day recently, I had a revelation that my soul mate

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Speaker 1: is someone I have known all my life. My good

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Speaker 1: male friend and I hang out all of the time.

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Speaker 1: But he's not who I had in mind if I

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Speaker 1: were to date someone i've known a long time. He's

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Speaker 1: a tall man, almost six five, with big hands and feet.

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Speaker 1: He's not overweight, but he's massive in size compared to me.

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Speaker 1: I'm petite and barely five three, so he towers over me.

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Speaker 1: He's always well groomed, but handsome. He is not exclamation mark.

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Speaker 1: So he and I met up after work for dinner

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Speaker 1: with another male friend of ours. He paid my tab

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Speaker 1: as usual and said all I owed him was a hug.

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Speaker 1: He walked me to my car and I got on

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Speaker 1: my tiptoes like I always do to give him a hug.

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Speaker 1: But this time he kissed me. That was a first,

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Speaker 1: and I must have had too much wine because I

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Speaker 1: started kissing him back. He picked me up and sat

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Speaker 1: me on my car and we kissed for a good while.

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Speaker 1: He didn't say a word. Afterwards, he took me down

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Speaker 1: off my car and said good night. I was so

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Speaker 1: turned on that I told him to follow me home

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Speaker 1: at my house. We kissed some more and then went

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Speaker 1: to my bed. After a few minutes of us trying

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Speaker 1: to have sex, we realized it wasn't going to work.

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Speaker 1: This man is large and in charge in all areas.

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Speaker 1: I was not ashamed because I've known him forever, and

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Speaker 1: we laughed for hours about it. He opened up and

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Speaker 1: said he wants to date me, and I'm all for

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Speaker 1: trying it because I do love him and I know

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Speaker 1: he loves me, but it is intimacy out of the question.

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Speaker 1: I will need to try it before I get too

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Speaker 1: serious with him. What should I do? Oooh okay, I

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Speaker 1: understand your concern, and this is certainly the opposite of

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Speaker 1: some of the letters we get, that's for sure. I'm

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Speaker 1: sure many women would want to be in your shoes

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Speaker 1: right now, but it's not about them. This is about you. First.

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Speaker 1: I would tell you to talk to your doctor. Women

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Speaker 1: to push babies out and all that. But it's always

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Speaker 1: good to be sure about what's going on with your

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Speaker 1: own body. And I think it was the wine that

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Speaker 1: took over your body and you went too far a

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Speaker 1: little bit in this one, and that maybe that's why

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Speaker 1: you know you were struggling and didn't fit. You were

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Speaker 1: trying too hard. I think you need to be sober

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Speaker 1: if you want to be into it with him and

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Speaker 1: intimate with him. I say, the next time you guys

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Speaker 1: get together, maybe you should relax and let things happen organically.

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Speaker 1: Don't try too hard, don't think too hard, don't try

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Speaker 1: to force it any of that. It's gonna either fit

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Speaker 1: or won't. I mean, you know that, and that's how

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Speaker 1: life is, I guess. But you you got to take

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Speaker 1: your time, relax and not rush into this situation. And

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Speaker 1: that's all I got to say. Well, I don't worry

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Speaker 1: about it. Sometimes you can't be ginger. Shelly to hear

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Speaker 1: people help now his ladies in the struggle right now.

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Speaker 1: She's been knowing this man since they was in the

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Speaker 1: first grade. They thought that she's divorced. She's dated several men.

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Speaker 1: She had this um revelation, yeah, that her soul mate

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Speaker 1: you know, revelation, premonition, feeling, dream, whatever she had. Well,

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Speaker 1: she got a good male friend to hang out all

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Speaker 1: the time. And he's not who she had in mind

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Speaker 1: if I were to date someone. He's tall man. He's

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Speaker 1: noticed time is very quiet normally he got something to

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Speaker 1: say on these I got it. Okay, Well I got another.

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Speaker 1: I got the part. Well, I'm gonna you chime in

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Speaker 1: time to just sit tight. I found a part for you.

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Speaker 1: He's not overweight and he's massive in size compared to me.

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Speaker 1: Once again, this is not timming. Well, it's just he lived,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's just short. You know, this man six five.

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Speaker 1: We can't be talking about tom big hands. You've seen

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Speaker 1: his hands when you do some live remote. Got a

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Speaker 1: little raccoon hands, you know. I remember when time was

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Speaker 1: the baby. He couldn't even hold an apple, you know.

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Speaker 1: With the letter, I'm just saying we had to cut

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Speaker 1: the apple slice. He's not overweight, but he's massive in

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Speaker 1: size compared to me. Well, now, I'm petite five three.

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Speaker 1: He's well groomed, yeah, which is a plus. Now he's

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Speaker 1: always whale groom She's barely five three. He towers over me.

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Speaker 1: But handsome he is not. Okay, right there, Tommy, right there,

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Speaker 1: you got something you want to say? Right there. I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna be ugly with you and Julia, but this

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Speaker 1: is the part I'm just I told you it's a

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Speaker 1: part in the letter where you could come in. He

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Speaker 1: falls on time, though they man up after work for dinner.

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Speaker 1: All right, hold that thought, and right after that it

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Speaker 1: started popping. All We'll be right, all right, We're gonna

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Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response coming up. In twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour, subject how large it is?

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Speaker 1: Too large. We're gonna go to break and get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening Morning Show. All right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letters. Subject with

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Speaker 1: which you seem to think it's about Tommy. Just no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: that ain't Tommy. He's just a section in him. Which

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Speaker 1: section is that? We'll get to it. Okay. This woman

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Speaker 1: is in the struggle right now. She got a big problem.

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Speaker 1: She got a male friend she knows in the first

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Speaker 1: grade day forty now, and she's divorcing. She's dated a

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Speaker 1: lot of men, but she had to reach a recent

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Speaker 1: premonition that her soul mate was somebody that she's known

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Speaker 1: for a long time. Now. She got a good male

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Speaker 1: somebody she thought it would be. He's tall man, almost

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Speaker 1: six five, big hands, big feet. This is not Tommy.

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Speaker 1: Six five, big hands, big feet. That ain't Tommy. He's

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Speaker 1: not overweight, but he's massive in size to me that

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Speaker 1: I'm putting ahead barely fright. She fired three. They ain't

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Speaker 1: hard to be bigger than her. No, massive inside, it's

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Speaker 1: what I'm doing. I know because she fired three. I'm

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Speaker 1: not talking back. Yeah, she fired three. I'm gonna get

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Speaker 1: you that dog. We are, but I got the line

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Speaker 1: for you. This whole type. He tires over me. He's

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Speaker 1: always wear of groom. Here we go, Timmy but handsome,

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Speaker 1: he is not there. You go on any comments. I'm

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Speaker 1: not feel free. I got that. I understand that. That's

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Speaker 1: called denial. Okay, let's move on with the letter. We

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Speaker 1: of ours. He paid the tab and he said, ah,

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Speaker 1: you know, and was a hug. He walked to the car.

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Speaker 1: I got on my tipper toes like I always do

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Speaker 1: to get him a hug. But this time he kissed me.

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Speaker 1: Now here we go. This was the first. That was

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Speaker 1: the first. And I must add too much wine because

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Speaker 1: I started kissing him back. And Sureley, come tell about

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Speaker 1: instant one. No, it wasn't. It wasn't the wine. You

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Speaker 1: wanted to. Wine and alcohol make you do exactly what

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Speaker 1: you think. It removes reasoning. Another time, Tommy got something

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Speaker 1: you wanna say, right downright, None of sex is where

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Speaker 1: you might and have something say? All right, He picked

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Speaker 1: me up and he set me on my car, and

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Speaker 1: we kissed for a good little while. He didn't say

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Speaker 1: a word afterwards. That's that, ain't you, Tommy. You can't

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Speaker 1: pick him picking him on the well, you know how

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Speaker 1: mess around and fall back, break your back. Don't try that.

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Speaker 1: We told you you had a gi Joe. We wouldn't

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Speaker 1: And we kissed for a good while. He didn't say

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Speaker 1: and said, good night. Player, move straight, player, move right there.

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Speaker 1: me home. She ain't drank that much shell because she

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Speaker 1: we kissed some more and then went to my bed,

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Speaker 1: because this is what you do. So you've got him

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Speaker 1: Now let's put the brakes on trying. How you trying

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Speaker 1: to have sex? I don't know about that. This man

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Speaker 1: is larging and charging in all errors. I'm not ashamed

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Speaker 1: because I've known the fairy and we laughed hours about it. Well,

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Speaker 1: how he he? Hell in the half sex, we don't

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Speaker 1: for now. I'm just trying. I'm just asking because they're friends.

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Speaker 1: And it didn't work. So you know, they laughed it off.

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Speaker 1: the bat, it's probably. But then I have other answer.

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Speaker 1: that you practice all this. We got to practice. We

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Speaker 1: Then you gotta do a ten k. Yeah, you can't

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Speaker 1: do half a marathon, third he miles and follow what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. So, since this man is large, we got

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Speaker 1: to ease into this. We got to and not noticed.

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Speaker 1: I've been through, I've been through. This is not your part, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: you had your part. You still back there trying to

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Speaker 1: put up on the car. I'm at the house second time,

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Speaker 1: trying to work out how we're gonna do this. Now

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Speaker 1: how to become successful, and I'm gonna share it with you.

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Speaker 1: And this is all I'm gonna say about this letter.

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Speaker 1: I've given this advice to millions of people. Inch by inch,

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Speaker 1: anything's a cinch. Yeah, have a happy life, enjoy yourself,

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Speaker 1: work it out, post your comment today. Strawberry Letters. Do

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Speaker 1: you back there trying to put up on that car?

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