WEBVTT - How do you move on from THIS?

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<v Speaker 1>If you're ever in deep, deep grief and you wonder

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<v Speaker 1>how to move on, I'll say this, till I die,

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<v Speaker 1>you only have the next breath. That's all you have.

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<v Speaker 1>The current heartbeat and the next breath. That's all you got.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode

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<v Speaker 1>twenty one, and technically for the people watching on YouTube,

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<v Speaker 1>for you, this is episode two. There are nineteen episodes

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<v Speaker 1>on your normal podcast app, which is you could find

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<v Speaker 1>it on Apple Music. I'm not sure about Android. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't answer that. I wish I could, But for everyone else,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to the podcast. This is This is gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>a good one. I have some some cool stuff plan.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a bunch of the questions that I'm continuing

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<v Speaker 1>to answer for you guys, and it seems to be

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<v Speaker 1>such a good way to put out a podcast once

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<v Speaker 1>a week, and so I'm gonna put these out I've

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<v Speaker 1>decided every Monday. The reason I sound hesitant is because technically,

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<v Speaker 1>at here currently the time I'm recording this, I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>released them yet. So I'm gonna I'm gonna record probably

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<v Speaker 1>three or four and then release them, and then we'll

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<v Speaker 1>get on a consistent basis and they will come out

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<v Speaker 1>every single Monday time TBA. If you want to know

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<v Speaker 1>more about this podcast, or if you have a question,

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<v Speaker 1>I should say hashtag Grangersmith podcast on social media, So

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<v Speaker 1>we go to Twitter or Instagram or Facebook and go

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<v Speaker 1>to my page type of question, hashtag Graders fifth podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>That way I can go and search for it and

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<v Speaker 1>find it. And that's what I'm doing today. And I've

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<v Speaker 1>got kind of I got a screenshot at some lighthearted

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<v Speaker 1>stuff and some deeper stuff, and I think it's important.

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<v Speaker 1>And from everything I do, like whether it's the Smiths

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<v Speaker 1>or whether it's music videos, I could never answer questions

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<v Speaker 1>enough and so I think I think it's important to

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<v Speaker 1>do this once a week. I got to say this

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<v Speaker 1>podcast will be today, brought to you by Ye Ye Apparel.

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<v Speaker 1>I just talked to my little brother Parker, he runs

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<v Speaker 1>it over there at the Eye Farm, and he told

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<v Speaker 1>me to tell you guys that we're coming out with

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<v Speaker 1>the spring release in March. And what that means is

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<v Speaker 1>every season we put out a new release of a

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<v Speaker 1>bunch of new merchandise. This hat is one of them.

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<v Speaker 1>So this camera hat you can't find until the Spring release,

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<v Speaker 1>which comes out to March. And this is an awesome hat.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a really good all this stuff is this solid.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really excited about the spring release and you could

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<v Speaker 1>find that at Yee Apparel dot com or grangersmith dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>I also want to do a giveaway here, so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do I'm gonna do a giveaway every episode, and

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<v Speaker 1>now that we're we're on the YouTube as well, you

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<v Speaker 1>could see it, so I'm giving away right here for

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<v Speaker 1>those of you that aren't watching. This is a a

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<v Speaker 1>black cap and it's uh, we called this sunset buck,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what we call it at the at the office.

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<v Speaker 1>But so it's a white tailed buck standing in front

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<v Speaker 1>of a sunset. It's a pretty awesome hat. And this

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<v Speaker 1>one in particular has been worn. It is it is

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<v Speaker 1>weathered because I just took it straight out of my closet.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm at home today. I'm in my home studio.

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<v Speaker 1>We just got off the road. Sometimes I want to

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<v Speaker 1>record these on my bus Wildflower, and sometimes I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>record them here at home. And so wherever I am,

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<v Speaker 1>I will grab a peach piece of merchandise, either from

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<v Speaker 1>my bus or from home that I could take. And

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<v Speaker 1>I've worn, and you got to be aware that it

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<v Speaker 1>is worn. And I will sign it like I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do right now and go comment on my h on

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<v Speaker 1>the We'll say the YouTube video of this podcast and

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<v Speaker 1>say say hashtag Grangersmith Podcast Hat Giveaway twenty one. That

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<v Speaker 1>way I can I can keep it straight from because

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<v Speaker 1>I'd have a way a hat on episode twenty as well.

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<v Speaker 1>So that is that's a lot of the housekeeping. I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to get out of the way and let's get

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<v Speaker 1>to let's get into some of these questions and I'll

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<v Speaker 1>start with I screenshoted. I wanted to get like a

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<v Speaker 1>lighthearted one too, because there's some there's some deep ones

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<v Speaker 1>on here too. Lighthearted. We'll start with this one, your

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<v Speaker 1>first truck. I got this off Instagram, my first truck.

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<v Speaker 1>The reason this one's easy to answer is because any

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<v Speaker 1>of y'all that have seen Earl Dibbles Junior, you've seen

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<v Speaker 1>that green truck that Earl drives. That was actually my

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<v Speaker 1>first truck. It's a nineteen seventy four GMC three in

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<v Speaker 1>the tree straight six, a single cab, and that truck

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<v Speaker 1>is its been. It has so many stories with me.

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<v Speaker 1>You can imagine a young version of myself, young teenager,

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<v Speaker 1>driving this truck everywhere, going to school in it, going

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<v Speaker 1>to high school in it, going deer hunting in it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've wrecked it so many times. I flipped it the

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<v Speaker 1>caveat to that is, I wasn't in it at the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I was actually I was actually working out it Dad's

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<v Speaker 1>ranch and left it in neutral and it was a

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it wasn't much of an incline, so I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't think anything about it, and several minutes later, the

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<v Speaker 1>wind picked up and actually took the truck down the

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<v Speaker 1>hill onto a fence and flipped, so the roof was

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<v Speaker 1>completely dended in. I got a hammer and knocked at

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<v Speaker 1>the roof back together, but the door was beaten pretty bad.

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<v Speaker 1>It never really shut right. So fast forward a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of years. I've got a puppy, brand new lab puppy

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<v Speaker 1>in the back of my truck, and I'm backing out

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<v Speaker 1>of the barn and I'm looking back like this, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>making sure the puppy isn't going to jump out of

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<v Speaker 1>the bed of the truck and I don't run over him.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was worried about that, and my stupid seventeen

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<v Speaker 1>year old brain I didn't realize the driver's side door

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<v Speaker 1>was still open, so as I went out of the

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<v Speaker 1>barn with the door open, it ripped the door. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't rip it off, it just bent it really bad

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<v Speaker 1>and then it was unrepairable. I couldn't I couldn't get

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<v Speaker 1>it back on, and anyone that has tried to work

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<v Speaker 1>on it, it's just going to take too much work

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<v Speaker 1>to get a new door, and it would be too expensive.

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<v Speaker 1>So my dad and I just took the door off,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why if you watch Earl Dibbles, any Earl

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<v Speaker 1>Dubbles video, his truck is missing a door. Ladies and gentlemen.

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<v Speaker 1>That is why. Because I was stupid. It was a

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<v Speaker 1>stupid teenager. Next question, this is from Twitter. It says,

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<v Speaker 1>what is one of the weirdest or craziest things you've

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<v Speaker 1>ever seen in the crowd while performing? And I screenshoted

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<v Speaker 1>this question because it's interesting to me because I have

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<v Speaker 1>a very specific answer to one of the weirdest or

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<v Speaker 1>craziest things I've ever seen while performing. And this goes

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<v Speaker 1>back to when we were performing in Iraq, and we

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<v Speaker 1>performed in Iraq and seven and eight and then again

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<v Speaker 1>in nine O nine was Christmas and New Year. So

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<v Speaker 1>that was a really special time. And I've never felt

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<v Speaker 1>more connected to music and fans than I did back then.

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<v Speaker 1>And the funny thing is no one even knew me

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<v Speaker 1>back then. No one even knew my music back then,

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<v Speaker 1>which is interesting that perspective. But one time, in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>I we played. People say, oh, do you went to Iraq?

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<v Speaker 1>Where did you play? We literally played everywhere. We played

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<v Speaker 1>fobs all over the place. We would jump in these

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<v Speaker 1>these helicopters, and one black Hawk would take us and

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<v Speaker 1>one black Cock would take our gear, and we would

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<v Speaker 1>go to these small, remote places where people never saw entertainment.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, that's not like where the cheerleaders went. The

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<v Speaker 1>Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders did not go to these places. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if partly it was because we were

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<v Speaker 1>a nobody band or partly because I was requesting the

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<v Speaker 1>most remote places, but one in particular, I remember one

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<v Speaker 1>fob in particular, and this is a place that didn't

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<v Speaker 1>even have running water. They didn't have bathrooms. The people

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<v Speaker 1>deployed there actually went to the bathroom in a tube.

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<v Speaker 1>They just went into the desert. It just went into

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<v Speaker 1>the ground. And lunch and dinner were like sandwiches, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>brought in from coolers. There was no dining facility or anything.

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<v Speaker 1>So the specific memory to answer this question, what is

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<v Speaker 1>one of the weirdest or craziest things you've seen while performing?

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<v Speaker 1>They literally put us on the only little piece of

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<v Speaker 1>concrete that they had a little slab, and they drove

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<v Speaker 1>in tanks to the edge of the concrete and all

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<v Speaker 1>the men and women get you know that, all the

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<v Speaker 1>soldiers got up onto the tanks. It was army and

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<v Speaker 1>they that was like their bleachers for the show. So

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<v Speaker 1>I took some pictures of that was that was the

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<v Speaker 1>weirdest or craziest thing and also the one thing that

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<v Speaker 1>made me built. I felt very safe at that show,

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<v Speaker 1>for sure. I get a lot about guitar lessons. Did

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<v Speaker 1>I teach myself guitar? Yeah? I taught myself guitar and

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<v Speaker 1>I was fourteen years old, and I mentioned this, I

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<v Speaker 1>believe in podcast number one, episode one. But uh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I taught myself guitar and I was just so passionate

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<v Speaker 1>about it. There was a little book. My grandmother gave

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<v Speaker 1>me this guitar when she gave up on it. My

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<v Speaker 1>mom's my dad's mom and she gave up on it,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was in my closet and there was a

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<v Speaker 1>little book that told you where to put your fingers,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's how I learned how to play guitar. I

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<v Speaker 1>was so into it when I was fourteen years old.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so committed. And that's if you're thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>getting your kids into music, that's That's a good thing

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<v Speaker 1>to know, is that it's really hard to get into

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<v Speaker 1>music or playing an instrument unless you really really want to.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean. I mean, isn't that isn't

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<v Speaker 1>that similar with anything in life. It's it's hard if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not if your heart's not in it. And my

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<v Speaker 1>heart was in it. I wanted to learn so bad

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<v Speaker 1>A lot more about that on episode one of this podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get I'm gonna get a little bit deeper first.

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<v Speaker 1>Before I dive into some deep stuff, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about our tour dates and you can find these

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<v Speaker 1>at grangersmith dot com. Forward Slash Tour March fifth, Dothan, Alabama,

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<v Speaker 1>March sixth, Baton Rouge, Louisiana, March thirteenth, Huntington, New York,

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<v Speaker 1>March fourteenth, skin Kanannadi, New york Man. This is like

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<v Speaker 1>the second time I did this on the Smiths too.

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<v Speaker 1>Skink skin kannet CANDADDI sorry, God, I better learn how

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<v Speaker 1>to pronounce that before I get there. Uh. March fifteenth, Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

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<v Speaker 1>March twentieth, Indianapolis, Indiana. March twenty first, Medina, Ohio. The

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<v Speaker 1>twenty sixth of March. We're in Royal Oak, Michigan, twenty seventh, Champagne, Illinois,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty eighth West Peoria, Illinois. And that's March. If you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't hear your name called, I promise we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>be coming around. And if you don't, if you go

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<v Speaker 1>to grangders dot com and don't see your tour date

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<v Speaker 1>or something around you, we probably just haven't updated it yet.

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<v Speaker 1>But we will be there. So that is a great

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<v Speaker 1>segue into this next question. And this is off of

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook and it says as an airline pilot, I struggle

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<v Speaker 1>most weeks leaving home. I struggle most weeks with leaving home,

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<v Speaker 1>leaving my significant other, and wrapping my mind around the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that it's time to go and make my living.

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<v Speaker 1>It's what I signed up for, but it never gets easier.

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<v Speaker 1>As a Tory musician. What routine do you use to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to walk out of your door in Georgetown

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<v Speaker 1>with your head held high and with strength. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like it may be easier because you have the reward

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<v Speaker 1>of a show each night, and you have your buddies

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<v Speaker 1>with you bandmates, But I know that even shows can

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<v Speaker 1>get stale, just like flying a jet or anything else

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<v Speaker 1>in life. And then right under it, there's a comment

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<v Speaker 1>that says truckers are the same way man and hey,

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<v Speaker 1>airline pilots, truckers. We mentioned men and women in the military.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of professions that just have to travel

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<v Speaker 1>for a living a lot. You know, there's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people at my record label have to travel to

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<v Speaker 1>go meet radio stations and they're gone all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's a lot of professions that travel. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>such a great question, and I want to try to

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<v Speaker 1>answer it specifically to the way that you asked it.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, you said, wrapping your mind around the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that it's time to go and make a living. It's

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<v Speaker 1>what I signed up for. But it never gets easier.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, with so many emotions in life, with

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<v Speaker 1>so many things in life I've had, it's taken me

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of years to realize that whatever I'm feeling

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<v Speaker 1>at the time is okay. So, for instance, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>leaving your house and you've got to go fly, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>your jet, and you're trying to convince yourself that, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's time to leave the family and go make a

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<v Speaker 1>living to what I signed up for. Are you trying

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<v Speaker 1>to convince yourself of that? Or is that what you're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to mask the other feeling of that, Maybe you're

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<v Speaker 1>a little sad leaving. So the truth is, it's okay

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<v Speaker 1>to be It's okay to be frustrated, it's okay to

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<v Speaker 1>be a little sad leaving. It's not it's not that

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<v Speaker 1>you're ungrateful of your job. Same with the guy that

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<v Speaker 1>commented about being a trucker. It's not that you're ungrateful.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course you're You're grateful and you got man, you're

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<v Speaker 1>making a living, you got you got a good job,

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<v Speaker 1>you got a paycheck coming in, and so it's natural

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<v Speaker 1>to also, at the same time, the same time you're

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<v Speaker 1>grateful simultaneously sad that you're leaving your family, maybe a

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<v Speaker 1>little regretful that you're leaving your family. So there's there's

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<v Speaker 1>there's a couple of ways I tackle this mentally. One,

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't try to be as present as possible when

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<v Speaker 1>I am home. That means I try to shut work off.

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<v Speaker 1>That means, you know, I'm just yes, I'm sitting here

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<v Speaker 1>doing this podcast, which is work right now in my

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<v Speaker 1>own house. But Amber's gone and she had a haircut appointment,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she's going to grab us lunch, and the

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<v Speaker 1>kids are at school. So when Amber gets home with

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<v Speaker 1>that lunch, and then a little bit later when the

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<v Speaker 1>kids get home from from school, I'm gonna shut this

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<v Speaker 1>work thing down, and I'm gonna try to be as

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<v Speaker 1>focused as I can on their lives and their stories.

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<v Speaker 1>And that makes me feel a little bit better. So

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<v Speaker 1>for guys like you know, the airline pilot in the trucker,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to look at it that most people that

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<v Speaker 1>work are going nine to five, and then they're getting

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<v Speaker 1>home from work about six, and then it's time for dinner,

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<v Speaker 1>and then the kids are you know, taking baths or

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<v Speaker 1>reading and going to bed, and then you might leave

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<v Speaker 1>the next morning before they even wake up. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>typical too. So no one has it easy, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>anyone that's working for a living. No one has it perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone's got to go unless you're just retired or you're

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<v Speaker 1>for some reason home all the time. So no one's

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<v Speaker 1>immune to this. So number two, the second thing I

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<v Speaker 1>try to do is remind myself that and in every

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<v Speaker 1>way and everything I do, I'm setting an example for

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<v Speaker 1>the family and setting an example for the kids. And

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<v Speaker 1>so if they see Dad leaving, kissing them and goodbye

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<v Speaker 1>and going to work, knowing that I'm following my passion.

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<v Speaker 1>I love what I do. I'm grateful that I have

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<v Speaker 1>a job. I'm grateful that I'm working and paying the bills.

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<v Speaker 1>And if I come home and I'm super present with

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<v Speaker 1>them and maybe bring them a little piece of candy

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<v Speaker 1>every once in a while and love on them, then

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's a good example to teach them that

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<v Speaker 1>life is worth pursuing, a career and something you love,

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<v Speaker 1>happiness is worth pursuing. And that as the alternative of yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I remember dad and he went to work before I

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<v Speaker 1>got up, and then he got home and he was

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<v Speaker 1>usually tired and mad at his boss, or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>there's that. There's that scenario, So keep that in mind.

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<v Speaker 1>You're doing good, buddy. The fact that you're even asking

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<v Speaker 1>me this question means you're doing good. You're hanging in there.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I'm talking to Amber on the phone and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on tour and she hears this, she laughs, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>because I carry this dag and water bottle with me everywhere,

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<v Speaker 1>so she recognizes that sound. Do you do devotionals like Amber?

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<v Speaker 1>If so, what kind of devotional is your favorite? I've

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<v Speaker 1>never got I've really gotten into this and the answer

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<v Speaker 1>is yes. I do devotionals every morning, Christian devotionals, and

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<v Speaker 1>I struggle a little bit with I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be too you know, I don't want to shove God

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<v Speaker 1>down anyone's throat. I don't want to be too preachy

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm a country singer, and I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>could try my best to live by example, but I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to. I don't want to be too preachy.

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<v Speaker 1>But you asked me, so I will answer you. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's my caveat. Yes, there's I read several devotionals every morning,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's like my time. You know, my phone doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>turn on. My normal apps don't turn on till nine

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<v Speaker 1>am every morning. I have them set like that, so

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<v Speaker 1>I can't go and look at Instagram and starts judging

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<v Speaker 1>people or watching people judge me. I don't deal with

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<v Speaker 1>that till nine am. But I would say, out of

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<v Speaker 1>the ones that I read, number one, the best one

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<v Speaker 1>is called Ambersome, the best one is called Jesus Calling,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's a great Maybe maybe I should say entry

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<v Speaker 1>level devotional, but at the same time, it's I'm on

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<v Speaker 1>probably my third year of reading it, and you every

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<v Speaker 1>day you flip to a new page and it just

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<v Speaker 1>always seems to speak to where you are at the time.

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<v Speaker 1>So Jesus Calling, it's an awesome one. Lindsay, you asked

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<v Speaker 1>that question, and I saw that you asked too, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to answer your second one as well, Ambersome

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<v Speaker 1>with the lunch. I want to get okay, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get kind of deep with this one. Lindsay. You asked,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm I'm assuming that you're kind of connecting that

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<v Speaker 1>devotional question to this one. But you said I lost

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<v Speaker 1>my fiance. I know it's not like losing a child,

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<v Speaker 1>but how do you get through each day? Hey, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if I'm totally qualified to answer this question

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't know what you've gone through. And you

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<v Speaker 1>say you know, I know, it's not like losing a child,

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<v Speaker 1>but at the same time, you can't you can't grade

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<v Speaker 1>your grief compared to anyone else because what you're going

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<v Speaker 1>through is what you're going through, and that is that

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<v Speaker 1>is your trial right now. And so first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want you, Lindsay, to look at anyone else

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<v Speaker 1>and go I lost my fiance and you know that's bad,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not as bad as you know him or her.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's that's not right. What you have is overwhelming

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<v Speaker 1>and very deep that you got. The first thing I

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<v Speaker 1>would lead you to so is go to YouTube and

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<v Speaker 1>go to to find this. I just typed in TED

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<v Speaker 1>Talk Ted, Ted Talk Grief and then find the one

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<v Speaker 1>that has the title We don't move on from grief,

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<v Speaker 1>we move forward with it. And this is just an

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<v Speaker 1>incredible video of y'all and it's worth seeing anyone. I

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<v Speaker 1>saw this. I was introduced to me at therapy with

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<v Speaker 1>Amber and I and it's really good. It's it's a

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<v Speaker 1>woman speaking and she's just a great speaker, and she

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<v Speaker 1>talks about losing her husband and after she lost her husband,

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<v Speaker 1>a few years went by and then she she fell

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<v Speaker 1>in love again and she got married again, and she

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<v Speaker 1>mentioned that, you know, kind of most of her friends

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<v Speaker 1>were like, oh good, thank god, you know, she's she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be okay. And the fact is is that you

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<v Speaker 1>never really move on. You could only just move forward.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's the same with any grief. And so the

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<v Speaker 1>product of you losing your fiance is it's changed you forever.

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<v Speaker 1>You are a different person because of your fiance and

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<v Speaker 1>because of how he left you. You'll never be the

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<v Speaker 1>same in good and bad ways. There is there is

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<v Speaker 1>always two sides to look at this. So Lindsey, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>assuming it is a very safe guess that you will

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<v Speaker 1>find somebody else, that you'll fall in love again. And

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to know that if you do, and

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<v Speaker 1>when you do, it's not a bad thing. People won't

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<v Speaker 1>judge you and think that you have finally forgotten your fiance.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not what this is about. It's about knowing that

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<v Speaker 1>you will meet your next somebody because of who you

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<v Speaker 1>are now from your fiance and because of his life

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<v Speaker 1>and because of his death. It was through that process,

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<v Speaker 1>through that trial, through that obstacle, that then led you

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<v Speaker 1>on a new path to find love again. And that

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<v Speaker 1>through the dark time you must be going through. Isn't

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<v Speaker 1>that a crazy, beautiful thought that you will find joy again,

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<v Speaker 1>you will laugh again. You won't stop grieving, and you

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<v Speaker 1>won't you won't stop missing him or being sad. But

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<v Speaker 1>the new version of you will lead you down the

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<v Speaker 1>path you were supposed to be on. It's very deep

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<v Speaker 1>and crazy and overwhelming and sad and joyful and invigorating

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<v Speaker 1>and devastating, all in the same breath. But I want

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<v Speaker 1>to say good luck to you, and thanks for asking

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<v Speaker 1>that question, and I hope that I hope that you

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<v Speaker 1>follow up with me. And I think going back to

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<v Speaker 1>the devotional thing Jesus calling would be great, a great start.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you're ever in deep, deep grief and you

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<v Speaker 1>wonder how to move on, I'll say this, till I die,

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<v Speaker 1>you only have the next breath. That's all you have.

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<v Speaker 1>Current heartbeat and the next breath that's all you got.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you wonder how to get through tomorrow, it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter. Just get through the next breath. That's all

0:25:13.640 --> 0:25:16.920
<v Speaker 1>you need to do. Right now. Breathe. That was the

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<v Speaker 1>best advice given to me, and I think I'll leave

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<v Speaker 1>it with that. If you guys have a question you

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<v Speaker 1>want me to answer it. I'll deliver every Monday. Go

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<v Speaker 1>I'll see you down the road. I ge