Speaker 1: If you're ever in deep, deep grief and you wonder
Speaker 1: how to move on, I'll say this, till I die,
Speaker 1: you only have the next breath. That's all you have.
Speaker 1: The current heartbeat and the next breath. That's all you got.
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode
Speaker 1: twenty one, and technically for the people watching on YouTube,
Speaker 1: for you, this is episode two. There are nineteen episodes
Speaker 1: on your normal podcast app, which is you could find
Speaker 1: it on Apple Music. I'm not sure about Android. I
Speaker 1: can't answer that. I wish I could, But for everyone else,
Speaker 1: welcome to the podcast. This is This is gonna be
Speaker 1: a good one. I have some some cool stuff plan.
Speaker 1: I have a bunch of the questions that I'm continuing
Speaker 1: to answer for you guys, and it seems to be
Speaker 1: such a good way to put out a podcast once
Speaker 1: a week, and so I'm gonna put these out I've
Speaker 1: decided every Monday. The reason I sound hesitant is because technically,
Speaker 1: at here currently the time I'm recording this, I haven't
Speaker 1: released them yet. So I'm gonna I'm gonna record probably
Speaker 1: three or four and then release them, and then we'll
Speaker 1: get on a consistent basis and they will come out
Speaker 1: every single Monday time TBA. If you want to know
Speaker 1: more about this podcast, or if you have a question,
Speaker 1: I should say hashtag Grangersmith podcast on social media, So
Speaker 1: we go to Twitter or Instagram or Facebook and go
Speaker 1: to my page type of question, hashtag Graders fifth podcast.
Speaker 1: That way I can go and search for it and
Speaker 1: find it. And that's what I'm doing today. And I've
Speaker 1: got kind of I got a screenshot at some lighthearted
Speaker 1: stuff and some deeper stuff, and I think it's important.
Speaker 1: And from everything I do, like whether it's the Smiths
Speaker 1: or whether it's music videos, I could never answer questions
Speaker 1: enough and so I think I think it's important to
Speaker 1: do this once a week. I got to say this
Speaker 1: podcast will be today, brought to you by Ye Ye Apparel.
Speaker 1: I just talked to my little brother Parker, he runs
Speaker 1: it over there at the Eye Farm, and he told
Speaker 1: me to tell you guys that we're coming out with
Speaker 1: the spring release in March. And what that means is
Speaker 1: every season we put out a new release of a
Speaker 1: bunch of new merchandise. This hat is one of them.
Speaker 1: So this camera hat you can't find until the Spring release,
Speaker 1: which comes out to March. And this is an awesome hat.
Speaker 1: This is a really good all this stuff is this solid.
Speaker 1: I'm really excited about the spring release and you could
Speaker 1: find that at Yee Apparel dot com or grangersmith dot com.
Speaker 1: I also want to do a giveaway here, so I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do I'm gonna do a giveaway every episode, and
Speaker 1: now that we're we're on the YouTube as well, you
Speaker 1: could see it, so I'm giving away right here for
Speaker 1: those of you that aren't watching. This is a a
Speaker 1: black cap and it's uh, we called this sunset buck,
Speaker 1: and that's what we call it at the at the office.
Speaker 1: But so it's a white tailed buck standing in front
Speaker 1: of a sunset. It's a pretty awesome hat. And this
Speaker 1: one in particular has been worn. It is it is
Speaker 1: weathered because I just took it straight out of my closet.
Speaker 1: So I'm at home today. I'm in my home studio.
Speaker 1: We just got off the road. Sometimes I want to
Speaker 1: record these on my bus Wildflower, and sometimes I'm gonna
Speaker 1: record them here at home. And so wherever I am,
Speaker 1: I will grab a peach piece of merchandise, either from
Speaker 1: my bus or from home that I could take. And
Speaker 1: I've worn, and you got to be aware that it
Speaker 1: is worn. And I will sign it like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do right now and go comment on my h on
Speaker 1: the We'll say the YouTube video of this podcast and
Speaker 1: say say hashtag Grangersmith Podcast Hat Giveaway twenty one. That
Speaker 1: way I can I can keep it straight from because
Speaker 1: I'd have a way a hat on episode twenty as well.
Speaker 1: So that is that's a lot of the housekeeping. I
Speaker 1: wanted to get out of the way and let's get
Speaker 1: to let's get into some of these questions and I'll
Speaker 1: start with I screenshoted. I wanted to get like a
Speaker 1: lighthearted one too, because there's some there's some deep ones
Speaker 1: on here too. Lighthearted. We'll start with this one, your
Speaker 1: first truck. I got this off Instagram, my first truck.
Speaker 1: The reason this one's easy to answer is because any
Speaker 1: of y'all that have seen Earl Dibbles Junior, you've seen
Speaker 1: that green truck that Earl drives. That was actually my
Speaker 1: first truck. It's a nineteen seventy four GMC three in
Speaker 1: the tree straight six, a single cab, and that truck
Speaker 1: is its been. It has so many stories with me.
Speaker 1: You can imagine a young version of myself, young teenager,
Speaker 1: driving this truck everywhere, going to school in it, going
Speaker 1: to high school in it, going deer hunting in it.
Speaker 1: I've wrecked it so many times. I flipped it the
Speaker 1: caveat to that is, I wasn't in it at the time.
Speaker 1: I was actually I was actually working out it Dad's
Speaker 1: ranch and left it in neutral and it was a
Speaker 1: you know, it wasn't much of an incline, so I
Speaker 1: didn't think anything about it, and several minutes later, the
Speaker 1: wind picked up and actually took the truck down the
Speaker 1: hill onto a fence and flipped, so the roof was
Speaker 1: completely dended in. I got a hammer and knocked at
Speaker 1: the roof back together, but the door was beaten pretty bad.
Speaker 1: It never really shut right. So fast forward a couple
Speaker 1: of years. I've got a puppy, brand new lab puppy
Speaker 1: in the back of my truck, and I'm backing out
Speaker 1: of the barn and I'm looking back like this, you know,
Speaker 1: making sure the puppy isn't going to jump out of
Speaker 1: the bed of the truck and I don't run over him.
Speaker 1: So I was worried about that, and my stupid seventeen
Speaker 1: year old brain I didn't realize the driver's side door
Speaker 1: was still open, so as I went out of the
Speaker 1: barn with the door open, it ripped the door. I
Speaker 1: didn't rip it off, it just bent it really bad
Speaker 1: and then it was unrepairable. I couldn't I couldn't get
Speaker 1: it back on, and anyone that has tried to work
Speaker 1: on it, it's just going to take too much work
Speaker 1: to get a new door, and it would be too expensive.
Speaker 1: So my dad and I just took the door off,
Speaker 1: which is why if you watch Earl Dibbles, any Earl
Speaker 1: Dubbles video, his truck is missing a door. Ladies and gentlemen.
Speaker 1: That is why. Because I was stupid. It was a
Speaker 1: stupid teenager. Next question, this is from Twitter. It says,
Speaker 1: what is one of the weirdest or craziest things you've
Speaker 1: ever seen in the crowd while performing? And I screenshoted
Speaker 1: this question because it's interesting to me because I have
Speaker 1: a very specific answer to one of the weirdest or
Speaker 1: craziest things I've ever seen while performing. And this goes
Speaker 1: back to when we were performing in Iraq, and we
Speaker 1: performed in Iraq and seven and eight and then again
Speaker 1: in nine O nine was Christmas and New Year. So
Speaker 1: that was a really special time. And I've never felt
Speaker 1: more connected to music and fans than I did back then.
Speaker 1: And the funny thing is no one even knew me
Speaker 1: back then. No one even knew my music back then,
Speaker 1: which is interesting that perspective. But one time, in particular,
Speaker 1: I we played. People say, oh, do you went to Iraq?
Speaker 1: Where did you play? We literally played everywhere. We played
Speaker 1: fobs all over the place. We would jump in these
Speaker 1: these helicopters, and one black Hawk would take us and
Speaker 1: one black Cock would take our gear, and we would
Speaker 1: go to these small, remote places where people never saw entertainment.
Speaker 1: You know, that's not like where the cheerleaders went. The
Speaker 1: Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders did not go to these places. And
Speaker 1: I don't know if partly it was because we were
Speaker 1: a nobody band or partly because I was requesting the
Speaker 1: most remote places, but one in particular, I remember one
Speaker 1: fob in particular, and this is a place that didn't
Speaker 1: even have running water. They didn't have bathrooms. The people
Speaker 1: deployed there actually went to the bathroom in a tube.
Speaker 1: They just went into the desert. It just went into
Speaker 1: the ground. And lunch and dinner were like sandwiches, you know,
Speaker 1: brought in from coolers. There was no dining facility or anything.
Speaker 1: So the specific memory to answer this question, what is
Speaker 1: one of the weirdest or craziest things you've seen while performing?
Speaker 1: They literally put us on the only little piece of
Speaker 1: concrete that they had a little slab, and they drove
Speaker 1: in tanks to the edge of the concrete and all
Speaker 1: the men and women get you know that, all the
Speaker 1: soldiers got up onto the tanks. It was army and
Speaker 1: they that was like their bleachers for the show. So
Speaker 1: I took some pictures of that was that was the
Speaker 1: weirdest or craziest thing and also the one thing that
Speaker 1: made me built. I felt very safe at that show,
Speaker 1: for sure. I get a lot about guitar lessons. Did
Speaker 1: I teach myself guitar? Yeah? I taught myself guitar and
Speaker 1: I was fourteen years old, and I mentioned this, I
Speaker 1: believe in podcast number one, episode one. But uh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I taught myself guitar and I was just so passionate
Speaker 1: about it. There was a little book. My grandmother gave
Speaker 1: me this guitar when she gave up on it. My
Speaker 1: mom's my dad's mom and she gave up on it,
Speaker 1: and it was in my closet and there was a
Speaker 1: little book that told you where to put your fingers,
Speaker 1: and that's how I learned how to play guitar. I
Speaker 1: was so into it when I was fourteen years old.
Speaker 1: I was so committed. And that's if you're thinking about
Speaker 1: getting your kids into music, that's That's a good thing
Speaker 1: to know, is that it's really hard to get into
Speaker 1: music or playing an instrument unless you really really want to.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I mean, isn't that isn't
Speaker 1: that similar with anything in life. It's it's hard if
Speaker 1: you're not if your heart's not in it. And my
Speaker 1: heart was in it. I wanted to learn so bad
Speaker 1: A lot more about that on episode one of this podcast,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get I'm gonna get a little bit deeper first.
Speaker 1: Before I dive into some deep stuff, I want to
Speaker 1: talk about our tour dates and you can find these
Speaker 1: at grangersmith dot com. Forward Slash Tour March fifth, Dothan, Alabama,
Speaker 1: March sixth, Baton Rouge, Louisiana, March thirteenth, Huntington, New York,
Speaker 1: March fourteenth, skin Kanannadi, New york Man. This is like
Speaker 1: the second time I did this on the Smiths too.
Speaker 1: Skink skin kannet CANDADDI sorry, God, I better learn how
Speaker 1: to pronounce that before I get there. Uh. March fifteenth, Lancaster, Pennsylvania.
Speaker 1: March twentieth, Indianapolis, Indiana. March twenty first, Medina, Ohio. The
Speaker 1: twenty sixth of March. We're in Royal Oak, Michigan, twenty seventh, Champagne, Illinois,
Speaker 1: twenty eighth West Peoria, Illinois. And that's March. If you
Speaker 1: didn't hear your name called, I promise we're going to
Speaker 1: be coming around. And if you don't, if you go
Speaker 1: to grangders dot com and don't see your tour date
Speaker 1: or something around you, we probably just haven't updated it yet.
Speaker 1: But we will be there. So that is a great
Speaker 1: segue into this next question. And this is off of
Speaker 1: Facebook and it says as an airline pilot, I struggle
Speaker 1: most weeks leaving home. I struggle most weeks with leaving home,
Speaker 1: leaving my significant other, and wrapping my mind around the
Speaker 1: fact that it's time to go and make my living.
Speaker 1: It's what I signed up for, but it never gets easier.
Speaker 1: As a Tory musician. What routine do you use to
Speaker 1: be able to walk out of your door in Georgetown
Speaker 1: with your head held high and with strength. I feel
Speaker 1: like it may be easier because you have the reward
Speaker 1: of a show each night, and you have your buddies
Speaker 1: with you bandmates, But I know that even shows can
Speaker 1: get stale, just like flying a jet or anything else
Speaker 1: in life. And then right under it, there's a comment
Speaker 1: that says truckers are the same way man and hey,
Speaker 1: airline pilots, truckers. We mentioned men and women in the military.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of professions that just have to travel
Speaker 1: for a living a lot. You know, there's a lot
Speaker 1: of people at my record label have to travel to
Speaker 1: go meet radio stations and they're gone all the time.
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of professions that travel. And it's
Speaker 1: such a great question, and I want to try to
Speaker 1: answer it specifically to the way that you asked it.
Speaker 1: For instance, you said, wrapping your mind around the fact
Speaker 1: that it's time to go and make a living. It's
Speaker 1: what I signed up for. But it never gets easier.
Speaker 1: First of all, with so many emotions in life, with
Speaker 1: so many things in life I've had, it's taken me
Speaker 1: a lot of years to realize that whatever I'm feeling
Speaker 1: at the time is okay. So, for instance, if you're
Speaker 1: leaving your house and you've got to go fly, you know,
Speaker 1: your jet, and you're trying to convince yourself that, okay,
Speaker 1: it's time to leave the family and go make a
Speaker 1: living to what I signed up for. Are you trying
Speaker 1: to convince yourself of that? Or is that what you're
Speaker 1: trying to mask the other feeling of that, Maybe you're
Speaker 1: a little sad leaving. So the truth is, it's okay
Speaker 1: to be It's okay to be frustrated, it's okay to
Speaker 1: be a little sad leaving. It's not it's not that
Speaker 1: you're ungrateful of your job. Same with the guy that
Speaker 1: commented about being a trucker. It's not that you're ungrateful.
Speaker 1: Of course you're You're grateful and you got man, you're
Speaker 1: making a living, you got you got a good job,
Speaker 1: you got a paycheck coming in, and so it's natural
Speaker 1: to also, at the same time, the same time you're
Speaker 1: grateful simultaneously sad that you're leaving your family, maybe a
Speaker 1: little regretful that you're leaving your family. So there's there's
Speaker 1: there's a couple of ways I tackle this mentally. One,
Speaker 1: I ain't try to be as present as possible when
Speaker 1: I am home. That means I try to shut work off.
Speaker 1: That means, you know, I'm just yes, I'm sitting here
Speaker 1: doing this podcast, which is work right now in my
Speaker 1: own house. But Amber's gone and she had a haircut appointment,
Speaker 1: and then she's going to grab us lunch, and the
Speaker 1: kids are at school. So when Amber gets home with
Speaker 1: that lunch, and then a little bit later when the
Speaker 1: kids get home from from school, I'm gonna shut this
Speaker 1: work thing down, and I'm gonna try to be as
Speaker 1: focused as I can on their lives and their stories.
Speaker 1: And that makes me feel a little bit better. So
Speaker 1: for guys like you know, the airline pilot in the trucker,
Speaker 1: you have to look at it that most people that
Speaker 1: work are going nine to five, and then they're getting
Speaker 1: home from work about six, and then it's time for dinner,
Speaker 1: and then the kids are you know, taking baths or
Speaker 1: reading and going to bed, and then you might leave
Speaker 1: the next morning before they even wake up. So that's
Speaker 1: typical too. So no one has it easy, you know,
Speaker 1: anyone that's working for a living. No one has it perfect.
Speaker 1: Everyone's got to go unless you're just retired or you're
Speaker 1: for some reason home all the time. So no one's
Speaker 1: immune to this. So number two, the second thing I
Speaker 1: try to do is remind myself that and in every
Speaker 1: way and everything I do, I'm setting an example for
Speaker 1: the family and setting an example for the kids. And
Speaker 1: so if they see Dad leaving, kissing them and goodbye
Speaker 1: and going to work, knowing that I'm following my passion.
Speaker 1: I love what I do. I'm grateful that I have
Speaker 1: a job. I'm grateful that I'm working and paying the bills.
Speaker 1: And if I come home and I'm super present with
Speaker 1: them and maybe bring them a little piece of candy
Speaker 1: every once in a while and love on them, then
Speaker 1: I think that's a good example to teach them that
Speaker 1: life is worth pursuing, a career and something you love,
Speaker 1: happiness is worth pursuing. And that as the alternative of yeah,
Speaker 1: I remember dad and he went to work before I
Speaker 1: got up, and then he got home and he was
Speaker 1: usually tired and mad at his boss, or you know,
Speaker 1: there's that. There's that scenario, So keep that in mind.
Speaker 1: You're doing good, buddy. The fact that you're even asking
Speaker 1: me this question means you're doing good. You're hanging in there.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm talking to Amber on the phone and I'm
Speaker 1: on tour and she hears this, she laughs, I mean
Speaker 1: because I carry this dag and water bottle with me everywhere,
Speaker 1: so she recognizes that sound. Do you do devotionals like Amber?
Speaker 1: If so, what kind of devotional is your favorite? I've
Speaker 1: never got I've really gotten into this and the answer
Speaker 1: is yes. I do devotionals every morning, Christian devotionals, and
Speaker 1: I struggle a little bit with I don't want to
Speaker 1: be too you know, I don't want to shove God
Speaker 1: down anyone's throat. I don't want to be too preachy
Speaker 1: that I'm a country singer, and I feel like I
Speaker 1: could try my best to live by example, but I
Speaker 1: don't want to. I don't want to be too preachy.
Speaker 1: But you asked me, so I will answer you. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's my caveat. Yes, there's I read several devotionals every morning,
Speaker 1: and that's like my time. You know, my phone doesn't
Speaker 1: turn on. My normal apps don't turn on till nine
Speaker 1: am every morning. I have them set like that, so
Speaker 1: I can't go and look at Instagram and starts judging
Speaker 1: people or watching people judge me. I don't deal with
Speaker 1: that till nine am. But I would say, out of
Speaker 1: the ones that I read, number one, the best one
Speaker 1: is called Ambersome, the best one is called Jesus Calling,
Speaker 1: and that's a great Maybe maybe I should say entry
Speaker 1: level devotional, but at the same time, it's I'm on
Speaker 1: probably my third year of reading it, and you every
Speaker 1: day you flip to a new page and it just
Speaker 1: always seems to speak to where you are at the time.
Speaker 1: So Jesus Calling, it's an awesome one. Lindsay, you asked
Speaker 1: that question, and I saw that you asked too, and
Speaker 1: I'm going to answer your second one as well, Ambersome
Speaker 1: with the lunch. I want to get okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get kind of deep with this one. Lindsay. You asked,
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm assuming that you're kind of connecting that
Speaker 1: devotional question to this one. But you said I lost
Speaker 1: my fiance. I know it's not like losing a child,
Speaker 1: but how do you get through each day? Hey, I
Speaker 1: don't know if I'm totally qualified to answer this question
Speaker 1: because I don't know what you've gone through. And you
Speaker 1: say you know, I know, it's not like losing a child,
Speaker 1: but at the same time, you can't you can't grade
Speaker 1: your grief compared to anyone else because what you're going
Speaker 1: through is what you're going through, and that is that
Speaker 1: is your trial right now. And so first of all,
Speaker 1: I don't want you, Lindsay, to look at anyone else
Speaker 1: and go I lost my fiance and you know that's bad,
Speaker 1: but it's not as bad as you know him or her.
Speaker 1: That's that's that's not right. What you have is overwhelming
Speaker 1: and very deep that you got. The first thing I
Speaker 1: would lead you to so is go to YouTube and
Speaker 1: go to to find this. I just typed in TED
Speaker 1: Talk Ted, Ted Talk Grief and then find the one
Speaker 1: that has the title We don't move on from grief,
Speaker 1: we move forward with it. And this is just an
Speaker 1: incredible video of y'all and it's worth seeing anyone. I
Speaker 1: saw this. I was introduced to me at therapy with
Speaker 1: Amber and I and it's really good. It's it's a
Speaker 1: woman speaking and she's just a great speaker, and she
Speaker 1: talks about losing her husband and after she lost her husband,
Speaker 1: a few years went by and then she she fell
Speaker 1: in love again and she got married again, and she
Speaker 1: mentioned that, you know, kind of most of her friends
Speaker 1: were like, oh good, thank god, you know, she's she's
Speaker 1: gonna be okay. And the fact is is that you
Speaker 1: never really move on. You could only just move forward.
Speaker 1: And that's the same with any grief. And so the
Speaker 1: product of you losing your fiance is it's changed you forever.
Speaker 1: You are a different person because of your fiance and
Speaker 1: because of how he left you. You'll never be the
Speaker 1: same in good and bad ways. There is there is
Speaker 1: always two sides to look at this. So Lindsey, I'm
Speaker 1: assuming it is a very safe guess that you will
Speaker 1: find somebody else, that you'll fall in love again. And
Speaker 1: I want you to know that if you do, and
Speaker 1: when you do, it's not a bad thing. People won't
Speaker 1: judge you and think that you have finally forgotten your fiance.
Speaker 1: It's not what this is about. It's about knowing that
Speaker 1: you will meet your next somebody because of who you
Speaker 1: are now from your fiance and because of his life
Speaker 1: and because of his death. It was through that process,
Speaker 1: through that trial, through that obstacle, that then led you
Speaker 1: on a new path to find love again. And that
Speaker 1: through the dark time you must be going through. Isn't
Speaker 1: that a crazy, beautiful thought that you will find joy again,
Speaker 1: you will laugh again. You won't stop grieving, and you
Speaker 1: won't you won't stop missing him or being sad. But
Speaker 1: the new version of you will lead you down the
Speaker 1: path you were supposed to be on. It's very deep
Speaker 1: and crazy and overwhelming and sad and joyful and invigorating
Speaker 1: and devastating, all in the same breath. But I want
Speaker 1: to say good luck to you, and thanks for asking
Speaker 1: that question, and I hope that I hope that you
Speaker 1: follow up with me. And I think going back to
Speaker 1: the devotional thing Jesus calling would be great, a great start.
Speaker 1: And if you're ever in deep, deep grief and you
Speaker 1: wonder how to move on, I'll say this, till I die,
Speaker 1: you only have the next breath. That's all you have.
Speaker 1: Current heartbeat and the next breath that's all you got.
Speaker 1: So if you wonder how to get through tomorrow, it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Just get through the next breath. That's all
Speaker 1: you need to do. Right now. Breathe. That was the
Speaker 1: best advice given to me, and I think I'll leave
Speaker 1: it with that. If you guys have a question you
Speaker 1: want me to answer it. I'll deliver every Monday. Go
Speaker 1: to grangersmith dot com or go to social media hashtag
Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast. Ask your question. Love you guys, thanks for listening.
Speaker 1: I'll see you down the road. I ge