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Speaker 1: twenty one, and technically for the people watching on YouTube,

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Speaker 1: for you, this is episode two. There are nineteen episodes

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Speaker 1: a good one. I have some some cool stuff plan.

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Speaker 1: I have a bunch of the questions that I'm continuing

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Speaker 1: every single Monday time TBA. If you want to know

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Speaker 1: more about this podcast, or if you have a question,

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Speaker 1: I should say hashtag Grangersmith podcast on social media, So

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Speaker 1: podcast will be today, brought to you by Ye Ye Apparel.

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Speaker 1: I just talked to my little brother Parker, he runs

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