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Speaker 1: Welcome back to IG Part two.

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Speaker 2: It's Kelly ben Simone, one of your celebrity mentors here

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Speaker 2: on the pod. I am having so much fun with

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Speaker 2: this show, and I've been really open about putting myself

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Speaker 2: back out there into the dating scene and just being

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Speaker 2: really open to meeting people and having a good time.

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Speaker 2: So today we're going to talk about setups not only

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Speaker 2: in the romantic but also in the platonic. So we're

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Speaker 2: meeting Cheryl Burke, who I love so much, and also

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Speaker 2: my producers Amy Sugarman and Heather Monday are also have

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Speaker 2: set me up and are going to set me up

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Speaker 2: with a platonic relationship, a new friend and a romantic one.

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Speaker 1: So I have a lot of fun.

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Speaker 3: In So what we want people to know is this

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Speaker 3: is real, right, It's not it's not like we didn't

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Speaker 3: cast this person.

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Speaker 4: It's not a celebrity.

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Speaker 3: This is an actual, real setup that we hope on

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Speaker 3: the romantic one that you'll really possibly like this guy.

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Speaker 4: So it's it's totally real.

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Speaker 3: But we do have his permission to give all the details.

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Speaker 4: So we want to take everyone on this journey with you.

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Speaker 2: Yes, this has been very exciting and very fun, so

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Speaker 2: Amy Sugarman introduced me to a really nice guy.

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Speaker 1: He's a lawyer.

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Speaker 5: Hey, what do we call him? Do we call him

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Speaker 5: tennis Man? Do we call him?

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Speaker 4: Because he's a real guy? Because this is a total guy.

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Speaker 3: Not a famous person, not a person on a dating show,

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Speaker 3: not a person like who wants to be on the

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Speaker 3: reality show. It's a real guy. So we just got

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Speaker 3: to give him a nickname. So what are we calling him?

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Speaker 1: The tennis Man?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Mister Tennis.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's really good.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, So.

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Speaker 3: I've known mister Tennis since seventh grade and I'm fifty,

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Speaker 3: so that's a lot of years. I know his family.

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Speaker 3: His sister's one of my oldest friends. I know his parents,

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Speaker 3: so I can definitely vouch for this guy.

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Speaker 4: And basically he was in a relationship.

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Speaker 3: He's out of that relationship, and I said, Hey, I

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Speaker 3: want to set you up with my friend Kelly.

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Speaker 4: He did know who you were, like, he's never.

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Speaker 3: Really watched, but he knew your name and I think

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Speaker 3: he knew what you looked like.

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Speaker 1: Ok.

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Speaker 3: And so basically we started a text group with the.

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Speaker 4: Four of us. He probably was like, why are there

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Speaker 4: two supervisors in here?

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Speaker 3: But so we want everyone listening, like we're going to

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Speaker 3: tell you the real, real stuff.

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Speaker 4: So Heather read, So basically, I started.

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Speaker 5: The text and said, Amy played matchmaker, Kelly, meet mister Tennis,

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Speaker 5: and then read what Kelly's first text was.

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Speaker 6: Kelly said, Aloha.

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Speaker 5: I don't live in Hawaii, but I think Aloha really

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Speaker 5: sums me up, sonny and happy about everything.

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Speaker 6: Have an amazing holiday season.

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Speaker 3: Now, did Jana not tell you not to write aloha anymore?

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Speaker 1: She did?

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Speaker 4: Okay, so that's Finana Kramer did.

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Speaker 2: Jana Kramer did tell me her advice was to not

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Speaker 2: write aloha, but it's just.

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Speaker 1: Like my thing.

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Speaker 4: That's fine, you be you.

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Speaker 2: And I also like the fact that it's like very

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Speaker 2: me because it is very sunny. But it's also like

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Speaker 2: no one says aloa must It's.

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Speaker 3: Fine, it's fine, It's totally fine. We're not gonna judge it.

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Speaker 3: We're just gonna do it. So then he responded quickly,

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Speaker 3: and Heather and I were still in the text at

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Speaker 3: this point, and then Heather what did he say next?

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Speaker 5: He said, Hey, Amy, you're amazing and always looking out

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Speaker 5: for me. I'm very appreciate of that, Kelly. I'm glad

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Speaker 5: we have connected. Amy says nothing but great things about you.

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Speaker 5: Your energy is fun and cool, positive and smart with

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Speaker 5: an amazing smile. I live in LA and from San

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Speaker 5: Francisco Bay Area. My work office is headquartered in New York.

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Speaker 5: Have a great holiday season. We'd love to connect over

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Speaker 5: the phone and or in person at some point soon.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so all right, let's analyze this.

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Speaker 3: He's got some game, right, Like I think he's got

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Speaker 3: game because he's super nice, but he also is like

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Speaker 3: dropping the carrot or whatever the saying would be. He's

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Speaker 3: dangling the carrot. He's saying, let's connect on the phone.

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Speaker 4: So he's figuring out a way to get me and

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Speaker 3: Of there, and then he's saying some nice compliments acknowledging

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Speaker 3: then also he's kind of moving it along right like

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Speaker 3: he's saying, let's maybe see each other in.

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Speaker 5: Per And he's also saying that your area is already

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Speaker 5: on his radar, like he, oh, yeah, not a problem

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Speaker 5: for you to be on the East coast, Like that

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Speaker 5: works for him, is what he's saying. And he's throwing

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Speaker 5: in a really nice compliment saying that you have a

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Speaker 5: beautiful smile. So he's showing attraction as well in this message.

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Speaker 4: So, Kelly, how did you feel when you first got

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Speaker 4: the text? And have you seen his picture? Have I

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Speaker 4: sent you a picture of him?

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Speaker 1: He sent me, yes, a thirst trap was very attractive. Yes,

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Speaker 1: oh good, okay, yeah he said.

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Speaker 6: You a thirst trap?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he said, Amy said this was a thirst trap?

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Speaker 4: Wait which picture did he send you? Is he with

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Speaker 4: the kids?

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Speaker 6: Stless at the gym? Like where is he?

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Speaker 1: He sent me one with his kids, but he sent

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Speaker 1: me one where he's like on a blue T shirt

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Speaker 1: and he's kind of like looking out, and then he

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Speaker 1: said another one.

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Speaker 2: He's obviously playing tennis because he'd in green and he's

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Speaker 4: He's a really good tennis player.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely athletic, which I love. And he's also he's

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Speaker 1: just you know, I like, I really like smart.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's really smart. So how we went to college together? Also,

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Speaker 3: so we went to Berkeley, so I will out that

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Speaker 4: He's smart.

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Speaker 3: So how did you feel based on his first text

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Speaker 3: before you saw the picture? Just from the text, were

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Speaker 3: you feeling like, I don't know, just judge the text?

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Speaker 2: Reading his text was like so nice and it was

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Speaker 2: really sweet for him to be complimentary, but not like mushy.

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Speaker 1: He just was like, you're funny.

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Speaker 2: You know, you have a nice personality, and you know

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Speaker 2: he could tell immediately. I think that's when the aloha

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Speaker 2: is nice because like people are like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: she's like playful and I'm not taking myself too seriously.

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Speaker 2: And he was also very proactive about making a plan.

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Speaker 2: And he's been like, yeah, okay, when am I talking

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Speaker 2: to you on the phone. I'm like, well okay, oh

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Speaker 2: my god.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so he's like okay.

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Speaker 3: So behind the scenes, he did call me because he

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Speaker 3: sort of said, should I go to New York? Because

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Speaker 3: he does he doesn't have his kids right now, so

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Speaker 3: he was like, uh, should.

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Speaker 6: I do that?

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Speaker 4: And I did encourage him.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, like Kurpe, dim do this, Like yeah,

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Speaker 3: And you would have been excited, right if he jumped

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Speaker 2: Oh he was supposed to come tonight because he has

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Speaker 2: his kids tomorrow, and he was I thought that was

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Speaker 2: also really amazing that he was just going to hop

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Speaker 2: then leave the next day and see his kids. Like

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Speaker 2: that's like real, that's like legit. It's not like, let

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Speaker 2: me talk to you after the New Year. Hope you're

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Speaker 2: having a nice time.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: He's definitely not like half assing this. He's like, I

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Speaker 3: want to go out with you, which I think is great.

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Speaker 2: And he's also like a real human, like he's a dad,

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Speaker 2: he's he has a great job, like he's a real human.

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Speaker 1: He's not you know, So what has happened since?

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Speaker 4: He Okay, so he basically started texting you.

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Speaker 3: Without Heather and I being able to see. So we

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Speaker 3: can't see it anymore. So what have you guys talked

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Speaker 3: on the phone or just text or what not yet?

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Speaker 2: But he said, uh, hi, kel, I hope you're having

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Speaker 2: a great Christmas and save travels Vermont. I said, Aloha

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Speaker 2: is working today hopefully leaving leaving tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Vermont.

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Speaker 2: How's your And then I said how's your day? He

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Speaker 2: said Aloha?

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Speaker 1: He loves it.

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Speaker 2: He goes, Aloha working the day after Christmas is very impressive.

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Speaker 2: I should too, but I started running errands and haven't

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Speaker 2: stopped going to play tennis around four thirty.

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Speaker 1: That's very cool. Vermont looks so peaceful.

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Speaker 2: I'm watching this show on Peacock called based on a

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Speaker 2: true story, which is so ridiculous, but I now kind

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Speaker 1: I needed a break from the drama thrillers.

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Speaker 4: Okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, because I want to follow this.

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Speaker 4: So he's watching it, or you're watching it.

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Speaker 1: He's watching it.

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Speaker 4: Oh, so he's really engaging. Okay, Okay, good keep going.

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Speaker 6: That's a good show.

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Speaker 4: By the way, I'm going to watch it.

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Speaker 2: He's telling me what he's doing, which is like, it's

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Speaker 2: not like hey, I'm He's like, this is my day, Kelly,

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Speaker 2: I'm playing to mister Tennis is like playing tennis and

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Speaker 2: he's watching you know, Peacock.

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Speaker 5: He's also a meaty texter, like these are like yeah,

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Speaker 5: little paragraphs. It's really putting some thought behind it. You're

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Speaker 5: not getting the one word answer. You're not getting like

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Speaker 5: multiple bubbles. You're getting like nice, little meaty responses, which

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Speaker 5: I think is a good sign.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let me ask Okay, I'm gonna finish reading that

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Speaker 2: and then I want to ask you about the bubbles

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Speaker 2: and the meaty texting. So remind me of that. So

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Speaker 2: he said, looks Pete von Vermont, looks peaceful. He's he's

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Speaker 2: watching Peacock. That we should talk over the phone at

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Speaker 2: some point, right, Oh.

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Speaker 4: That's good.

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Speaker 3: I like that he wrote that, I know there are

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Speaker 3: there are rules blah blah blah.

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Speaker 1: But what do you think?

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Speaker 4: What are the rules? What does he mean there are rules?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. Is he remember the

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Speaker 1: book the rules? Remember the book?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: And I said, I'd love that exclamation point. Tell me

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Speaker 2: when the house I'm saying at is an old inn.

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Speaker 2: I'm excited to relax and ski. And then he said,

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Speaker 2: so he goes, okay, He's like back to the date.

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Speaker 2: He's like, that's nice to hear about your of a

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Speaker 2: cover modifacation. But Kelly, he was like, this is text

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Speaker 2: they're trying to like the president.

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Speaker 1: Kelly. I like that he uses my name. But I

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Speaker 1: know there is a.

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Speaker 2: Time difference, So don't want to call you too late.

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Speaker 2: I can try around nine thirty or ten.

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Speaker 4: Oh, so you're supposed to get a call tonight.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I know, getting a call in like three hours? Okay,

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Speaker 1: I can, I can.

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Speaker 2: I can call you tonight your time or this weekend

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Speaker 1: That was very clever and fun. That's so nice. While

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Speaker 2: I mean, that's just a very also thoughtful, you know,

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Speaker 5: That's a that's a flirty technique he's using by saying

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Speaker 5: very interested. This is like really good green green flag,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I like that he's scheduling the time for

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Speaker 4: And I'm not coaching him up at all.

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Speaker 3: He's doing this all on his own, other than asking

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Speaker 2: So here's my question about the bubbles, because okay, so

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Speaker 2: So but I so then I was like, well, okay,

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Speaker 6: I think you just said it.

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Speaker 5: You do what you want. You're you're having good bab

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Speaker 5: do what you want. It's not like you're blowing him

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Speaker 6: To a phone call. So I think that's even better.

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Speaker 3: This is what I prefer about a setup versus like

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Speaker 3: that's when you start playing this weird game and you're

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Speaker 4: It's like you you know me, I've set you up.

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Speaker 4: This guy knows you he's a good guy.

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Speaker 3: He has every intention of being a good guy going

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Speaker 3: I think you it's easier you just be you and

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Speaker 4: I think the apps are make it really hard, but with.

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Speaker 6: Talk again tomorrow, do another.

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Speaker 6: To like show him that I'm not. Don't don't do

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Speaker 6: any of that. Don't play that. That's a game.

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Speaker 5: Your daughters are in their twenties and a lot next

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Speaker 5: and flirting, you have to follow that kind of protocol.

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Speaker 5: When you're in your I do part two, those things

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree, I agree.

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Speaker 3: like I said, this is a real guy, but he

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Speaker 3: we're not betraying that.

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Speaker 2: No, And you know what else, I really liked is

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Speaker 2: that he said, you know, we can talk tonight. We

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Speaker 2: like we can also talk on the chairlift. We can

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Speaker 2: talk on the weekend. Basically, it's just like we can

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Speaker 2: talk anytime. Well, like some guys are like you want me,

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Speaker 2: don't you talk to me when you can like really

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Speaker 2: trying to share what he's doing with his life, which

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Speaker 2: I think is really really really sweet.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it feels very loose.

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Speaker 5: He's not hiding behind a keyboard. He's like, let's get

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think that's a great, great thing too for people

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Speaker 4: It's like we're all old, so.

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Speaker 3: Go back to the way it was like we are

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Speaker 3: I want you to bring her up to speed, see

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Speaker 3: good luck to you guys.

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Speaker 2: All right, so I'm bringing in my new bestie, Cheryl Burke. So, Cheryl,

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Speaker 2: I have to tell you that Amy and Heather introduced

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Speaker 2: mister Tennis. We've been texting back and forth. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: And yes, I did that yesterday.

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Speaker 7: Okay.

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Speaker 2: He's super cute, very smart, super very smart, which is

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Speaker 2: like really good for me, has kids and he lives

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Speaker 2: he's like a good guy, like a guy that I

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Speaker 6: Like.

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Speaker 7: Did he send you pictures?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Okay, and he's very good looking.

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Speaker 2: I also know that Amy and Heather may Or may

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Speaker 7: Wait, I was gonna I was gonna break.

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Speaker 8: I was gonna break the interesting news as soon as

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Speaker 8: I heard your perspective. But yes, Amy the executive producer,

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Speaker 8: she definitely set me up. He was my first and

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that. So how was it?

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Speaker 7: It was good? It was good for me to go

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Speaker 8: I wasn't necessarily like, Okay, I tried not to like judge.

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Speaker 7: I don't try.

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Speaker 8: I mean, it's hard not to judge a book by

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Speaker 7: But there was just no there was just no chemistry

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Speaker 1: Me, right for you. Yeah, he was cute.

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Speaker 8: He was a cute, smart guy who seems to be

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well that's really good that you know him now

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Speaker 1: I have to ask you a question.

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Speaker 2: What do you think of because we don't I don't

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Speaker 1: So what do you think of.

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Speaker 2: Introducing your friends to guys that you went out with

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Speaker 1: What do you think about that?

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Speaker 2: Like in our situation that do you think it's a

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Speaker 2: good idea to like, you dated, he went on a

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Speaker 7: Totally?

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Speaker 1: I do too. I actually did that with a friend

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Speaker 2: I introduced her to a guy that I want to date,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, he's nice, but he's not my

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Speaker 1: I did not know anything.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I think if it was if it were opposite,

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Speaker 2: Right, Well, I would say no, because I also am

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Speaker 2: why would I want to go out with him? And furthermore,

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Speaker 7: For sure?

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Speaker 8: I mean like and he wouldn't be for you, right

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Speaker 8: because like we're talking about like evolving and wanting to

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Speaker 2: Ghost ghosts like ghost ghosts, it's like they think it's

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Speaker 1: Are you a ghost her? No?

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Speaker 7: No, No I'm not.

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Speaker 8: I mean, first of all, every you know my number,

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Speaker 1: So did he wait? Did he respond he.

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Speaker 1: Okay? And then did you say you just said no?

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Speaker 8: I just you know, I didn't necessarily give that vibe

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Speaker 1: Yes, you're a dancer, and you're.

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Speaker 8: She's like, lean back, I keep it very like.

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Speaker 1: Other conversation cast. Okay, totally on the broadcast how to

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Speaker 7: Like you should FaceTime? For sure? I wish I would

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Speaker 1: So did you do a phone call or no?

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Speaker 7: We went straight to the dinner.

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Speaker 1: Oh you went from text to dinner?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, because you know Amy. I also trust Amy, and like,

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Speaker 7: Like is he?

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Speaker 8: I have really nothing bad to say about him other

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Speaker 8: a little indecisive and that just was a trigger for

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00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:16,800
Speaker 8: me for some reason. Not and that wasn't just the

448
00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:18,200
Speaker 8: only thing right wait?

449
00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:20,840
Speaker 1: No, seriously, So he couldn't decide what food he wanted.

450
00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:23,960
Speaker 7: Or he took a really excited about it, took a while.

451
00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:25,840
Speaker 2: Was he like, I don't want the chicken because it has

452
00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:26,639
Speaker 2: cheese on it?

453
00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:27,159
Speaker 4: Or no?

454
00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:29,119
Speaker 7: He actually ended up ordering what I ordered.

455
00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:34,520
Speaker 1: He probably was nervous because you're you're pretty hell.

456
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:35,640
Speaker 7: I was nervous.

457
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:37,960
Speaker 8: I think I was there, Like I used to live

458
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:40,199
Speaker 8: down the street from Pace. I think I left my

459
00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,400
Speaker 8: house like thirty minutes before when I could just roll

460
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:43,080
Speaker 8: down my hill.

461
00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:46,720
Speaker 7: But I don't like a man that's indecisive. I just don't.

462
00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:49,960
Speaker 8: And maybe he's not and maybe whatever, But like there's

463
00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:52,080
Speaker 8: it was more than just that. I mean, you can

464
00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:54,359
Speaker 8: just feel it right when you stay with somebody for

465
00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 8: a couple of hours.

466
00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:57,399
Speaker 7: Dinner is a commitment. And I wish I would have

467
00:20:57,440 --> 00:20:58,359
Speaker 7: done FaceTime first.

468
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's what I was wondering too, Like, so

469
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,880
Speaker 2: should you do coffee? Should you do a drink?

470
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:07,400
Speaker 8: I think you should FaceTime. Doesn't he live in La Yeah,

471
00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:08,000
Speaker 8: and you live.

472
00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:10,679
Speaker 1: He was going to come here tonight, but he couldn't

473
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,840
Speaker 1: come to see his kids tomorrow. He was just like

474
00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:15,159
Speaker 1: going to the date. Yeah, he was just going to

475
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,359
Speaker 1: pop on a plane, which I thought was really attractive.

476
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,879
Speaker 8: Oh really, Okay, So that's so I was going to

477
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:21,320
Speaker 8: ask that. That was my next question.

478
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,400
Speaker 1: I also live in New York City, where people are like,

479
00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:25,560
Speaker 1: you're single. That's nice.

480
00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 2: It's like how about like, yeah, let's go on a

481
00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:29,680
Speaker 2: date or let's get drinks in New York people are

482
00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 2: just like so like uninterested in anything.

483
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,679
Speaker 7: So so that is a turn on for you. What

484
00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:36,879
Speaker 7: if you were someone to be.

485
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,399
Speaker 2: Excited, I mean you know and be like hey, I

486
00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:42,240
Speaker 2: can't wait to you know, talk to you more, versus

487
00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:43,480
Speaker 2: like people that are just like.

488
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:45,760
Speaker 1: Too cool for school and it's like, you know, you

489
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:47,119
Speaker 1: get zero read on people.

490
00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 7: Well, there's also a gray area in between what we

491
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Speaker 7: just said.

492
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:52,440
Speaker 1: There's also that gray area.

493
00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 7: But wait, how long have you guys been talking? I

494
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 7: just want to know a day whoa Okay, so you.

495
00:21:57,440 --> 00:21:59,720
Speaker 8: Don't so for me if someone were to say that, though,

496
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,879
Speaker 8: it's great and I can imagine like a movie scene

497
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 8: right from like the Notebook and like right, but it's

498
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:05,520
Speaker 8: just not real.

499
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 7: However, it does first it's also amy. It does it

500
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 7: not give you signs of desperation?

501
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 2: Well, no, because I think that it's hard to meet

502
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 2: it's hard to meet women, it's hard to meet men. Uh.

503
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 2: And it's also like the holidays, so it's kind of

504
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 2: a free time, do you know what I mean? It's downtime,

505
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 2: Like okay, you know, I'm doing some stuff today, we're

506
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:30,159
Speaker 2: doing some work today, but like normally, you know, I

507
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,240
Speaker 2: mean yesterday I was free the day before that. I want,

508
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 2: you know, I want did one an hour of work,

509
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 2: but you know, I'm kind of like just spending time

510
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:40,399
Speaker 2: with my kids and hanging around and you know, just

511
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 2: walking around, sit to the city and really doing nothing.

512
00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:44,879
Speaker 7: Well then ef it.

513
00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 2: So I think that people are really like I think

514
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:51,640
Speaker 2: the holiday season, especially this period the twenty sixth through

515
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,360
Speaker 2: the first of January, is like peak.

516
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:57,680
Speaker 1: Peak dating time PDT.

517
00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 7: Okay, well, so is he come or not?

518
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,680
Speaker 1: He couldn't because he literally was going to come tonight

519
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 1: and then he has to go back.

520
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:06,119
Speaker 7: Tomorrow, so you can't do that.

521
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,640
Speaker 1: No, No, he wanted to, and then he was like,

522
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 1: I'd have to come back.

523
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 2: He was like, I would come tomorrow, but I'd have

524
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 2: to come back on the next day.

525
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:15,439
Speaker 1: And the only reason that.

526
00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 2: That would be something that would be super attractive to

527
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,120
Speaker 2: me is because he's known Amy.

528
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 1: Since the fifth grade.

529
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,400
Speaker 2: So if if you were like a guy on RIAH,

530
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:26,119
Speaker 2: or if it was a guy that a friend of

531
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 2: mine met that was like, oh my god, I have

532
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 2: to meet her, him coming be totally different. This is

533
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 2: like a long time friend. This is like me introducing

534
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:35,360
Speaker 2: you to a guy that I've known forever.

535
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 8: From Like literally, that's the only reason why I got

536
00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 8: I left my house and went on a date was

537
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:41,400
Speaker 8: because of Amy.

538
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 1: But see that's even better.

539
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 2: You know that's he was like the reason that he

540
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 2: got you out to do something that you weren't really

541
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 2: in the mood to do. I love that is long

542
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 2: distance okay for you? I mean long distance isn't exactly

543
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 2: what I'm looking for. So you know, if this works out,

544
00:23:58,400 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 2: we're gonna have to figure out something.

545
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 1: Who knows, maybe I'll move or whatever.

546
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 2: But I WHOA just saying like, I'm not like, long

547
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 2: distance is not my I mean I was married to

548
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:09,720
Speaker 2: a man that was in New York twice a month

549
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 2: like that.

550
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: That does not work for me.

551
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 7: I want do you even want to open the can

552
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:14,960
Speaker 7: of worms?

553
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 6: Then?

554
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 7: If you know that this is not going to work for.

555
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 1: You, well I don't.

556
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: I don't have any reason to not date people wherever

557
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 2: they live. I mean, I'm I can my kids are older,

558
00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 2: and I can go and do whatever I want wherever

559
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 2: I want.

560
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 8: Okay, I just I'm just I'm asking you all the

561
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 8: questions just so. You never sent a percent sure.

562
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 2: And one of my friends was like, I think you

563
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 2: should move to Paris, you know, because I speak French

564
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:39,879
Speaker 2: and I've lived in Paris for a long time. And

565
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 2: she's like, I think you should move to Paris and

566
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 2: like meet people in Paris.

567
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, by myself, okay, like.

568
00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 8: I don't think you need to move anywhere, Like you

569
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,440
Speaker 8: can just go to places for a few months, you know.

570
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,719
Speaker 2: Right, But everyone's like telling me to like move all

571
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:54,679
Speaker 2: over the place. I'm like, Okay, I'm not sure how

572
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 2: I feel about the moving right now. I just moved

573
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,719
Speaker 2: twice in the past, like you know, ten months, so

574
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,200
Speaker 2: it's been a log moving, right, So who do you

575
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 2: trust more for setups? Is it coworkers? Is a friends family?

576
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 2: Like Kelly, like, you know what's interesting?

577
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 7: Like for me?

578
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 8: I mean, I I'm just trying to think back like

579
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 8: my last few relationships, and that's been my own setup.

580
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:19,160
Speaker 7: I guess it's been kind.

581
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 8: Of like like with my ex, it was because his

582
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,400
Speaker 8: older brother was on Dancing with the Stars and we

583
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 8: met through the show, right, And I would say during

584
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:31,280
Speaker 8: that time frame when I was on the show for

585
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 8: seventeen years, like there, it was a lot of that

586
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:37,359
Speaker 8: type of interaction, right, But as far as like I

587
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 8: guess I would trust like though, my sister's never set

588
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 8: me up with anyone, which is fine, like we've got

589
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:46,959
Speaker 8: a huge age gap nine years, but like she I

590
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,720
Speaker 8: trust her, you know, and I would trust friends as well,

591
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 8: But like also I don't necessarily I think my friends

592
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 8: in a way, my two like my close close friends,

593
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 8: I don't think are good as far as setting me

594
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 8: up because they have this vision in their head that

595
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,560
Speaker 8: what they believe this guy would should be for me,

596
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 8: and maybe that's not and maybe it's because it's like.

597
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 7: They're too protective, you know what I mean. Yeah, so

598
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 7: it's like I don't know.

599
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 8: I don't I don't want to also play it safe

600
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 8: when I date with somebody either, like there's a fine line, right,

601
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:19,239
Speaker 8: Like I don't know.

602
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 2: So it's interesting because like when I was on Housewives,

603
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 2: it's all women, So there's no like hot guys that

604
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 2: you're dancing the samble with. It's like you know me,

605
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,640
Speaker 2: you know, like literally running away from women, like spitting

606
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,160
Speaker 2: at me and you know, trying to do all.

607
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 1: These awful things.

608
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 2: And then in real estate, it's funny because everyone's like, like,

609
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 2: you know, Derinda, one of my co stars, she was

610
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:44,719
Speaker 2: like I met my husband, my rich husband, Richard, I

611
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:49,199
Speaker 2: told him an apartment and you know, for me, I

612
00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:51,400
Speaker 2: have There's been two guys who I've sold really really

613
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 2: nice apartments too, and I represented them as well, and

614
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 2: I just vound it.

615
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 1: Found it to be such a huge conflict of interest.

616
00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 2: And I would never want I'm just saying I would

617
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:04,439
Speaker 2: never I would I will Actually I would never want.

618
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 2: I would never want them, Nor would I want my

619
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 2: industry to think that. I mean they already do think that,

620
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:12,119
Speaker 2: but I would never want people to think that, Like

621
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 2: there I am like showing apartments and flirting and because

622
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 2: I'm not like that, like I'm super professional, what if.

623
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,760
Speaker 7: They are aggressively flirting with you? Would you?

624
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:21,959
Speaker 1: And I?

625
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:23,919
Speaker 2: This one guy said to him, and I was like,

626
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,399
Speaker 2: after I said, I really appreciate you. And I said,

627
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 2: after we are finished with all the transaction and you're

628
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 2: done and everything, if that's a time that we should

629
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:35,919
Speaker 2: you want to, you know, talk about going out or

630
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 2: going on a date, I'd be happy to do that.

631
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: And you know what, he didn't. She was weird.

632
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:43,959
Speaker 2: I was like, wait a minute, So you want me

633
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 2: to sell your home or you want me to help

634
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 2: you buy a home. But then when it's like real time,

635
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:49,119
Speaker 2: you don't.

636
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 7: That's it's almost a blessing in disguise.

637
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:52,160
Speaker 1: Yeah.

638
00:27:52,160 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 7: I was like, no, so are you talking to anybody else?

639
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 1: So I am talking to one other guy. I met

640
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: this amazing guy in New York.

641
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 2: He's a big, big, big he's a big doctor here,

642
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 2: super super nice.

643
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 1: I actually met him playing polo. He's really sweet.

644
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 7: He's a polo player. I bet you he's where I live.

645
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:25,360
Speaker 7: In that area. There's a huge polo community.

646
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know. I told you I play polo. You have.

647
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:30,680
Speaker 1: I don't play polo. I am learning.

648
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 2: I'm a big rider, and so this summer to get

649
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 2: out of my comfort zone, I decided to learn polo.

650
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 2: I was like, let's do something totally totally out my

651
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 2: cover zone. Very difficult, very very difficult.

652
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: It was so fun. It was really you're a.

653
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 7: Crotch afterwards, just everything super sore.

654
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 2: I mean, you're a dancer, so you're used to moving.

655
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 2: But I'm like the way that I ride. As I ride,

656
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 2: like I do not move my upper body and then

657
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 2: I just use my legs. But in polo, you're like

658
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 2: all over the place using your arm.

659
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 7: But did you know how to ride before the polls?

660
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 2: Yeah?

661
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 1: I'm a big I'm a big rider.

662
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 4: Yah.

663
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is important information.

664
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 7: Yeah.

665
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 2: So it was really fun and he's really sweet and

666
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,719
Speaker 2: really nice. And then I was I was dating this

667
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 2: other guy who was younger, is forty three, very very nice,

668
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 2: very successful, very sweet.

669
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 1: I met him through a friend of mine and.

670
00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 2: He was really great, except for he was just he

671
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 2: was saying things and acting in a way that didn't

672
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 2: make me feel like he was like, I want to

673
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 2: get married. You're my You're my person, and not love

674
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 2: bombing me in the way that like. I mean, he's

675
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 2: known me for a long time and he's just like,

676
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 2: I want to I want a second chapter with someone,

677
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 2: and I wanted to be with someone like you.

678
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: And that made me. I know, that sounds like a

679
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: red flag.

680
00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 7: Did that give you the like creeps a little bit?

681
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 1: No?

682
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 2: No, because he's a really nice person and I've known

683
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 2: him for a long time, and I was very I

684
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 2: was very I was really I was really moved by that.

685
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: I thought that was really really sweet.

686
00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: So we were having these issues where he was super communicative,

687
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: but I was trying to be as well, but we

688
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 2: weren't communicating in the same way.

689
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 7: He needed more communication and that's different.

690
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: So then I just I kind of got mad at

691
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 1: him because he was didn't talk to me for like

692
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: two days, and I.

693
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 7: Just like, I don't have this story.

694
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 2: I came back from LA. I came back from LA

695
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 2: and I was like, I can't I was in New York.

696
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 2: It was a Sunday morning. I was like I woke

697
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 2: up around like eleven because I just come back at

698
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,479
Speaker 2: like two o'clock in the morning, and he was like, Oh,

699
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 2: We're gonna have lunch and do all this stuff. And

700
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 2: he didn't call me all day long, and then he

701
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 2: called me the next day and was like, oh, yeah, hey,

702
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 2: I didn't hear from you yesterday. I'm like, you knew

703
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 2: I was flying flying back because I texted I was

704
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 2: flying back, and he just was kind of like doing

705
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 2: his own thing. He was kind of like making me

706
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 2: feel bad for going to LA and working.

707
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 1: And then he.

708
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 2: Was like yeah, He's like we're just not communicating well,

709
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 2: and I'm like, we'ren't communicating at all, Like and I'm

710
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 2: not gonna I'm one thing I'm not gonna do is

711
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 2: I don't chase men.

712
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 1: I just don't like I'm not chasing them. I am

713
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 1: not you know.

714
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 2: Begging men to date me, like if you want to

715
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 2: hang out with me and have a great time, Like,

716
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 2: I am all for it one hundred percent, but I'm

717
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 2: not gonna chase a man.

718
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 1: Wait.

719
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 7: How long did you guys date before this happened?

720
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 1: Two months?

721
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 7: Two and a half months, but you knew each other?

722
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, really was. He's a very nice person. So I

723
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 1: just just like, you know, too.

724
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 7: Much communication to turn off for you.

725
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 2: No, not too much communication, but like, hey, if you're

726
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 2: getting off a flight, like know that person is like

727
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 2: getting off a flight. They haven't seen you. My god,

728
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 2: they're super excited to see you. Make plans like I

729
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 2: wanted him to. I want to take him to look

730
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 2: for a Christmas tree, just to like do things that

731
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 2: are fun. And you know, he was like sleeping the

732
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: whole day, so I just was like, and that's fine.

733
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 2: But you could just say like, oh my god, you

734
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 2: could be like the night before ba, I'm super tired.

735
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 2: I think I might take tomorrow off and just you know,

736
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 2: chill out and relax. That's totally fine.

737
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 7: What are your non negotiables?

738
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 1: Not commune kating?

739
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 7: Well, like not like the ghosting, Like yeah.

740
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 2: When a guy like doesn't talk to you for a day,

741
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 2: or you text and you're like hey, and they don't

742
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:08,160
Speaker 2: text you back.

743
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: Like that doesn't work for me.

744
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 2: When guys don't make plans like they are not like

745
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 2: let's do something. Hey, what are you doing on a Tuesday?

746
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:18,479
Speaker 2: Like it doesn't have to be every day, but like

747
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: you should have like one or two date nights a

748
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 2: week when you're dating people then uh, you know, no

749
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 2: drug abuse, no, you know, jail time, like you.

750
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 8: Know, no current not currently in jail. Like you wouldn't

751
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 8: date a menendous brother or anything.

752
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 1: I would.

753
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 7: They're hot, don't kidding, I know how to pick them.

754
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 2: You want just you know, just things that are just

755
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 2: you know, I'm I'm you know, I just just things

756
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 2: that are not out of the ordinary.

757
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 1: And you know, like my ex, you know, I want

758
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 1: someone that has like.

759
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 2: A really good job, really good parent, just you know,

760
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:02,240
Speaker 2: just overall like just good person. You don't have to

761
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 2: be a gazillionaire, but just like an honest, real person.

762
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I don't want.

763
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 2: Anyone that talks about badly about their ex wives, like

764
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 2: because everybody means you're going to talk badly about me.

765
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 8: Or exes in general, especially when you're first dating, Like,

766
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 8: don't bring up the exes, thank you.

767
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: Just leave the exes alone, leave the exes where they

768
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 1: are for their exes. And I don't need to be

769
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 1: part of the excess narrative, Like I don't. I'm not.

770
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 2: Like, just because you're dating me doesn't mean that we

771
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 2: have to make collective decisions on everybody else.

772
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 8: Like you're not going to tell mister Tennis that I dated,

773
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 8: that we went on a date, right, Yeah, you are,

774
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 8: or you know.

775
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 1: Because you're glorious and it makes me look good?

776
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 7: Wait you are?

777
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course?

778
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 7: Or have you No?

779
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 1: No, I'm going to tonight.

780
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:43,719
Speaker 7: That's weird.

781
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 1: It's my friend Cheryl.

782
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 7: Do you think that's going to be a turnoff for him?

783
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 1: No, I think he's gonna love it. I think his

784
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 1: ego is going to.

785
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 8: Be I about physical features before quickly before we move

786
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 8: on to platonic relationships.

787
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 2: Uh, physical features, you know it's nice to have. I

788
00:33:58,560 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 2: mean I really don't have a type.

789
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 8: Uh uh, tall, dark and handsome. You're like, okay, oh

790
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 8: I married not tall and not as dark, but handsome.

791
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 2: Uh yeah, my ex husband had great, curly hair, wearing

792
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:16,240
Speaker 2: little glasses.

793
00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 7: Does he have to be taller than you? No, he doesn't.

794
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 2: You don't care, Okay, No, I mean I dated one

795
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 2: guy that was six two, dated another guy that was

796
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 2: six one. I'm five to ten. I dated my ex

797
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 2: husband was five nine. You know, I don't really I

798
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 2: don't really care about the height. I just care about

799
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 2: the person that's nice.

800
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 7: I mean it would help though, right, like if he

801
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 7: was hot.

802
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 2: I mean not necessarily, because, like I mean, I've dated

803
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:42,879
Speaker 2: some really hot guys that were really.

804
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:43,480
Speaker 1: Not good guys.

805
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:47,959
Speaker 2: I've dated some hot guys like I dated this one guy.

806
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,360
Speaker 2: His name is Alejandro, and he was probably the nicest

807
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:54,959
Speaker 2: hum I've ever met my entire life. No, he actually

808
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 2: took photos of me that were so beautiful I had

809
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 2: to put them on my Instagram.

810
00:34:57,520 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 7: They were certain tango dancer.

811
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 2: What if you taught me how to dance and then

812
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:07,719
Speaker 2: you introduce me to this really hot dancing coach And

813
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 2: then I was.

814
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 8: Like, you definitely not. You're not dating a dancer.

815
00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: A lot of people they dancers. J Lo Madonna.

816
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:21,919
Speaker 7: Now look at them. Now, dancers are no good.

817
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 1: Let me see.

818
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:24,880
Speaker 7: This is the thing with dancers.

819
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 8: You have to be super secure with yourself because this

820
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 8: is what they do for a living, is dry hump

821
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 8: other people. So like, wow, people like j Lo right,

822
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 8: Like that's how they do. So, like you can't be

823
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 8: on their job. You gotta like completely surrender and hope

824
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:40,879
Speaker 8: and pray they don't cheat on you.

825
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 2: No, no, I could never watch another man dance with

826
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 2: woman like provocatively.

827
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:45,799
Speaker 1: I would literally have an.

828
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 8: Answer to sleep with maybe once or twice maybe, but

829
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 8: that's about it. You definitely need to have sex with

830
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 8: the dancer once at least one in your lifetime.

831
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 7: Have you had one?

832
00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:58,400
Speaker 1: No? Are they gonna like throw my legs?

833
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 8: I mean it's different strokes for diferent folks. Don't know, right,

834
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:06,879
Speaker 8: Different dancers like different things. But like they're great in bed. Wow,

835
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 8: if they're a good dancer, if they're an actual like

836
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 8: if their occupation is dancer, they're most likely a great lover.

837
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 2: I love how like Cheryl is like super composed and

838
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 2: I am, like my dress is read and my face

839
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:20,760
Speaker 2: is like orange.

840
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,800
Speaker 8: So maybe before you go out with mister Tennis, you

841
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 8: should try and just have sex with a dancer really quick,

842
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 8: just in case you guys get married. Okay, let's talk

843
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 8: about platonic relationships and setups.

844
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 2: Do you think that everyone has to know hold on

845
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 2: till before you ask me this question. Everybody has to

846
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 2: know this is like, this is real, This is like

847
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 2: you and I our friendship has evolved from this podcast.

848
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 2: My second chance is it has like we knew, like

849
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 2: a new friendship now all fun friend who I can

850
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 2: like talk honestly with, and I love.

851
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 8: That we've never been in the same room together. We're

852
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,800
Speaker 8: going to Yeah, well no, and I feel super comfortable

853
00:36:58,840 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 8: with you.

854
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 7: So this is kind of Oh, I guess this falls

855
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 7: under the coworker category. I guess, right, yeah, but still.

856
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: Co worker friend.

857
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 8: Yeah yeah, But what do you think about actual like

858
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 8: you know, as maybe another divorced woman or just like

859
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:19,000
Speaker 8: single women in general, and friends like setting you up

860
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 8: on platonic type of setups and relationships like that.

861
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 2: So I have like two schools of thought about that.

862
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 2: I met this really really cool woman today. Her name

863
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 2: is Louise. She's like super smart, sassy, fun, you know,

864
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,279
Speaker 2: amazing woman, and I trust her. I don't know her,

865
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 2: but I get a really good vibe from her. I

866
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:44,839
Speaker 2: really like her energy and I I trust her. And

867
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 2: then I've met a lot of single women who I

868
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 2: just don't trust. I feel like they're using me for

869
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 2: chum and that they're like, oh, just bring Kelly around

870
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 2: because she'll talk to the guys or the guys we'll

871
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 2: talk to her and then we'll kind of just like

872
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 2: take the guys from her. Or that's what happened many

873
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 2: times that they just like they.

874
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: Just use me. They're like, oh, yeah, Kelly's our friend.

875
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 1: That happened to me.

876
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 2: This one girl that we were friends and she basically

877
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 2: was just using me to meet guys.

878
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 7: Wait what so wait wait how are you?

879
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:16,359
Speaker 8: And so I don't know because we haven't hung out

880
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:20,359
Speaker 8: like that, So you are not shy right like you will,

881
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 8: but like they use you like it's one thing to

882
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 8: like use somebody like to.

883
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 7: Get into the clubs. Like what I experience, I'm.

884
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 2: Not shy this way, but I'm shy.

885
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 7: Like like vulnerable way.

886
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 1: Right one on one like getting to know me.

887
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 2: Like I'm very shy like that, but I'm not shy

888
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:41,520
Speaker 2: with like opening myself up and I'm not you know,

889
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 2: I'm not shy that way.

890
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 7: Oh interesting, I'm the opposite.

891
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 1: I'll be like dragging.

892
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 7: I'll be like, where's the.

893
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 8: Darkest corner and the most private area, That's where.

894
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 7: I want to be.

895
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 1: I'm like bright lights.

896
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 7: Oh hell no.

897
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 5: The day.

898
00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 8: If you leave it up to me to make reservation,

899
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 8: I'm like dark corner and away from as many people

900
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 8: as possible.

901
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:17,959
Speaker 2: You know, I'm just very skeptical about meeting other single

902
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 2: women because.

903
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:20,359
Speaker 7: You don't trust them.

904
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: I don't trust them, and I feel like they use

905
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 1: me as chump and they do.

906
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 8: What's interesting when I heard you just say you met

907
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:27,640
Speaker 8: someone just the other day and you trust How do

908
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 8: you trust somebody so quickly?

909
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:30,280
Speaker 1: Because I can.

910
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,839
Speaker 2: Tell, Like, for example, like when we're when we were

911
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:37,360
Speaker 2: filming Ultimate Girls Trip and Saint Bart's after we finished filming,

912
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 2: the women are like, oh, here, take Kelly to the

913
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:44,239
Speaker 2: bar so she can introduce us to people, Like okay, Like,

914
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 2: let me just take you to the bar and choose

915
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:46,439
Speaker 2: your people.

916
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: I don't know them, Like why am I? Uh So?

917
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 1: It just you know, it's just it's always kind of

918
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 1: like that.

919
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 8: How important is it to have friendships that, like solid

920
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:59,439
Speaker 8: ones that you've known for a few years, that really

921
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 8: know you and keep you grounded during this whole like

922
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 8: dating process.

923
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 2: Well, I think it's super important to have solid friendships.

924
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 2: And you know, I have my like group chats and

925
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 2: my friends. I'm like Hi, guys, Like hell, and we're

926
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 2: going to see each other. What's happening? And you know

927
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 2: that most of them are married, so it's hard for

928
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:17,279
Speaker 2: me to like make time with them, which I totally understand.

929
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 2: Uh so I end up spending a lot of time with.

930
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: My you know, my gay gay friends, and which is

931
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 1: great too with my kids obviously.

932
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,880
Speaker 7: Is it hard to have married friends? Like does it?

933
00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 8: Does it make you want to rush the process? Like

934
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 8: meaning like feeling the need to be in a relationship.

935
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: Let's say, well, you know, it's so weird. That's a

936
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 1: good question. Is that when.

937
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 2: I started dating my ex boyfriend, he people were like, oh,

938
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 2: you have a boyfriend.

939
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 1: Oh oh you're engaged, Okay, bring him, you know, bring him.

940
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 1: We want to meet him, we want to do all

941
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:47,600
Speaker 1: this stuff.

942
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 2: And all of a sudden he became like, you know, people,

943
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 2: I was invited to more things because we were together.

944
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 2: And he and he said the same thing, like he

945
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 2: was invited to a lot more things because we were together.

946
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:00,840
Speaker 7: Right, like as couples, like a couple as a.

947
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 2: Couple, right, yeah, And I feel like, I mean, I

948
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:05,319
Speaker 2: don't know if this is.

949
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:07,319
Speaker 1: True or not. This is just how I feel. I

950
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 1: feel like.

951
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 2: A lot of people just don't want me to be

952
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 2: the extra one person at the table.

953
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, I know that feeling.

954
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:22,760
Speaker 1: Because they're like, oh, it's Kelly's are they feel sorry?

955
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 8: They don't understand how like for some like, look, I

956
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:27,919
Speaker 8: totally understand what you're saying.

957
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 7: I hear you.

958
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:31,240
Speaker 8: It's like they feel more they feel sorry. They're worried

959
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 8: about me, but like they don't understand because they've never

960
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 8: gone through it themselves. As far as like being so

961
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:39,919
Speaker 8: comfortable being alone that it's almost like I don't need

962
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 8: to worry about who I'm with or their mood or

963
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 8: to get them to like come to a friend's dinner

964
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 8: that's not their friends, and then like having them be

965
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:51,720
Speaker 8: so like not wanting to be there and me trying

966
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 8: to like.

967
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:53,280
Speaker 7: Play both sides.

968
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 8: It's just there's a lot more peace for me when

969
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:57,920
Speaker 8: I go out, actually because I just worry about myself.

970
00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 8: But there is I do definitely, like when we talked

971
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,839
Speaker 8: about this this last episode about how I can count

972
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:08,760
Speaker 8: on one hand my friends and just it just happens

973
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 8: to be that most of them are divorced. But we

974
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:13,840
Speaker 8: were friends before, Like we were friends when you know,

975
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 8: like one of them, was my maid of honor when

976
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 8: she was also married for many years and you know,

977
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 8: so I knew her when I was married, also met

978
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 8: her when I was single and now single again. But

979
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 8: like I, it is interesting because your friends change when

980
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 8: you're single, especially as you get older, and it is

981
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:34,879
Speaker 8: Do you believe it's harder to meet people and meet

982
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 8: other potential friends as you get older?

983
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 2: I mean, I just found it strange that, like, my

984
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 2: friends didn't really introduce I mean, two of my friends

985
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:46,640
Speaker 2: introduced me to some really nice people, but most of

986
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 2: my friends, I mean, I've lived in New York, raised

987
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 2: my kids here, you know, been here since forever, and

988
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 2: they just didn't never introduce me to people.

989
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:55,400
Speaker 1: And I don't know if they just wanted me to

990
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 1: be single.

991
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 7: Why would they want you to be? Like why would I?

992
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: Honestly, maybe you're thinking this, this is crazy, but I

993
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 2: feel like they're like, oh, she's pretty, so she should

994
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 2: just be happy with you know.

995
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:10,480
Speaker 1: She just should just gets someone based on that, I

996
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:11,319
Speaker 1: don't need to help her.

997
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 2: And meanwhile, on the opposite, if I meet someone, I'm like,

998
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:14,799
Speaker 2: oh my god, I met someone that's so great, Oh

999
00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 2: my god, I want to introduce you to them, oh

1000
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 2: my gosh, I you know, like I'm always and I

1001
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,879
Speaker 2: mean I said this today, like I'm typically the one

1002
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 2: that's like always taking care of people and helping them

1003
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:28,279
Speaker 2: and giving them like help or if like, oh my god,

1004
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 2: I found this job for you, it'd be great.

1005
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 1: I got this for you.

1006
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:34,080
Speaker 7: I don't feel like that's reciprocated by your not at all.

1007
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: No, no, no, not at all, like like not at all.

1008
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 8: Listen, I have to say, and I've said this to

1009
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 8: you before, like my sobriety and kind of just being

1010
00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:44,799
Speaker 8: a lot more present, I guess, and just awake in

1011
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 8: general and not numbing through substances has really this is

1012
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 8: why I can count on one hand my friends and

1013
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 8: even that, like I have to reassess every year, like

1014
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:56,919
Speaker 8: you know, and naturally it's not.

1015
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 7: Like, oh okay, you didn't pass this test, like acting you.

1016
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:03,359
Speaker 8: Like weeding you out, but you know you are you

1017
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 8: are who you hang out with two you know, and

1018
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:10,359
Speaker 8: it's like you're such a good person and I can't

1019
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:13,800
Speaker 8: wait for our friendship to develop more because I feel

1020
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 8: the same like and I definitely don't feel like it's

1021
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 8: shocking to me to hear people use you to meet

1022
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 8: like I have never heard of such a thing in

1023
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 8: my life.

1024
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god, all the time, or they so women

1025
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,600
Speaker 2: use me to meet other men and then men sit

1026
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:33,880
Speaker 2: when they meet me up they like me. They'll be like, oh,

1027
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 2: like it's a game, and they'll be like, oh, you know,

1028
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 2: I just don't know if like I can handle like

1029
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 2: everything you do. I'm like, what that I work in

1030
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 2: real estate and that I have a job, and that

1031
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 2: I'm providing for my children?

1032
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:51,880
Speaker 1: What am I supposed to do? Not provide for my children?

1033
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 1: And yeah, am I supposed to be?

1034
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 2: It seems to me that like when I'm this is

1035
00:44:57,440 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 2: like what I'm kind of rounding up after like watch

1036
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:03,240
Speaker 2: a lot of Christmas movies. If you're the victim, everyone

1037
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,919
Speaker 2: wants to help you, but when you're trying the one

1038
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:07,840
Speaker 2: that tries to be like I can handle things, I

1039
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 2: can organize things, I can try to make things like

1040
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 2: you know, something nothing into something. Then people are just like,

1041
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 2: oh yeah, whatever, They'll just you know, you're just the

1042
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:17,760
Speaker 2: giving tree.

1043
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:20,360
Speaker 7: But not all people though, No, I know I'm not.

1044
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 2: I'm just generalizing, but I feel like it's like I

1045
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,320
Speaker 2: feel like I'm the giving tree and I'm like, oh, okay,

1046
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 2: here's a little stump.

1047
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 7: Now now, maybe stop giving so much.

1048
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 2: But you know, meeting you and talking with you and

1049
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:35,280
Speaker 2: being on this podcast has changed has changed me so much.

1050
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:40,399
Speaker 2: Like I'm just I'm more I'm less forgiving and I'm

1051
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:43,320
Speaker 2: more like kind to myself.

1052
00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 7: Do you ever go out? Like do you? Okay?

1053
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 8: Do you have different tiers of friendships? Like I definitely

1054
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 8: do so. Like I have my my friends who I

1055
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:55,240
Speaker 8: can like always count on that I know will drop

1056
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 8: everything that they're doing if I need them, even if

1057
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 8: I live a few hours away from them. Right then

1058
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 8: I've got the second tier, which is like friends that

1059
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 8: maybe when I'm in LA will go out or whatever,

1060
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:07,840
Speaker 8: but like they don't know everything about me. And then

1061
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,680
Speaker 8: you've got the third tier, which is like residue.

1062
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 7: From my last job.

1063
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 8: Right like literally, and it's like we were friends because

1064
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 8: of work and we just happen to still stay in

1065
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:21,919
Speaker 8: touch type thing. And when we see each other, hey,

1066
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:25,959
Speaker 8: you know, like we'll say hi. We're like almost kind

1067
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 8: of weird acquaintances.

1068
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 1: In a way, you know what I mean, because you

1069
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:30,280
Speaker 1: don't see each other.

1070
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 8: Yeah, because we don't make the effort. It's not because

1071
00:46:32,640 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 8: we don't see each other it's because like there's no

1072
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 8: effort being made right, meaning like it doesn't matter, like

1073
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 8: we could you just need to pick up the phone,

1074
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 8: Like it just matters.

1075
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 7: It's about who wants to put in.

1076
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 8: It's just as much work as a real like intimate

1077
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:47,399
Speaker 8: relationship friendship, I think, right.

1078
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:49,759
Speaker 2: And I'm a texter and so I'll like send text

1079
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:52,359
Speaker 2: my friends and just like thinking of you, how's your day,

1080
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 2: how's my girl beauty?

1081
00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:55,719
Speaker 1: Like I just am like that's what I do. Like

1082
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 1: I'm a text story. So I'm checking with people. People

1083
00:46:59,040 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: never check in.

1084
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 7: Well, and some people aren't like and I have to say,

1085
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 7: I suck at that.

1086
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: They're just not like how are you? They're like you.

1087
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:08,879
Speaker 7: Respond to that. I'll respond to that. But I don't

1088
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:09,840
Speaker 7: like long monologue.

1089
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 8: Don't like even though I write monologue texts, but like

1090
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 8: I can't like when my mom goes at.

1091
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 7: Me sometimes, which I'm home right now.

1092
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 8: So these long text messages are long, like to the

1093
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 8: point where you have to hit the arrow and it

1094
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:23,200
Speaker 8: goes to.

1095
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 1: The next stage like long, but like a novella.

1096
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 8: Yeah, But like there's also friends that I have that

1097
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 8: I don't need to talk to literally for months, and

1098
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:33,400
Speaker 8: we're good.

1099
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 1: Right, and you just pick it up.

1100
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 7: Yeah, and we don't. We don't give each other.

1101
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 1: I love you.

1102
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 2: I love you so much to help you have the best,

1103
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 2: best best time with your family. You are amazing and

1104
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:45,760
Speaker 2: I cannot wait to tell you more about mister Tennis.

1105
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 1: Keep your keep it, keep your you know, keep your

1106
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:48,840
Speaker 1: eyes open.

1107
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 7: I can't wait till you tell mister Tennis about me.

1108
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: He's gonna be like, she's hot, Like.

1109
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Speaker 7: You might want to think twice about that, though, I

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Speaker 7: don't know.

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Speaker 2: I like, I see, I like the kind of guy

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Speaker 2: that you're talking about, Like, I actually like that. I

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Speaker 2: think it's like charming and yeah, like it's just I

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Speaker 2: like someone that like, really like is excited.

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Speaker 7: You might just have to order for him though. Just

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Speaker 7: take it upon yourself.

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Speaker 2: Don't say solid fish done. Yeah, stay done, thank you,

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Speaker 2: thank you, thank you. I'm going to keep you updated

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Speaker 2: on my phone.

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Speaker 1: Call and my dates. And we need to do stuff

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Speaker 1: like fun stuff.

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Speaker 7: Yes, I have room for one more friend in my life.

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Speaker 1: Cheryln Kelly out of the town.

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Speaker 8: That's right, via zoom via the zoom.

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Speaker 1: All right, have a great holiday. Happy New Year, Sheryl,

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Speaker 1: Happy New Year. Here's to us.

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Speaker 7: Cheers. Cheers to us.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that was so much fun talking to Cheryl.

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Speaker 2: I could talk to her all day long about friends, relationships.

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Speaker 2: I'm just so happy to have her as a new friend.

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Speaker 2: And if you guys are interested in falling in love

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Speaker 2: and having your net, next I do Part two.

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Speaker 1: We are here for you.

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Speaker 2: We're here for you for looking for dating advice, love advice,

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Speaker 2: friend advice, all of it. We're having so much fun,

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Speaker 2: so call us or email us, follow us on socials.

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Speaker 2: All the information will be in the show notes. Make

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Speaker 2: sure to rate and review the podcast. I Do Part

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Speaker 2: two an iHeartRadio podcast. We're falling in love is the

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Speaker 2: main objective.