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Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject praise and a raise. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm a thirty one year old married woman and my

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Speaker 1: marriage is basically over. A year ago, a twenty four

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Speaker 1: quarantined with this man, so I made the best of it.

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Speaker 1: By December, I had started having virtual counseling with my pastor.

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Speaker 1: He was one of the first to be vaccinated in

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Speaker 1: tap into my inner beauty and my great physique. He

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Speaker 1: really helped me change my mindset from victim to conqueror.

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Speaker 1: He told me that he could show me how I

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Speaker 1: should be loved, and I went with it. At that point,

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Speaker 1: I would have done whatever he told me to do

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Speaker 1: because he had me under his spell. He started making

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Speaker 1: passionate love to me once a week, and it really

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Speaker 1: helped my self esteem. His love making gave me you

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Speaker 1: heard me. His love making gave me the courage to

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Speaker 1: I never used my femininity to my advantage. I dressed

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Speaker 1: He asked me to show him why I deserved a raise,

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Speaker 1: and by the look on his face, I knew exactly

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Speaker 1: what to show him. He saw what he needed to

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Speaker 1: see and even got to rub it and bam, I

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Speaker 1: got a twenty percent raise. I know I sound trifling

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Speaker 1: af and that's fine. But men do what they do

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Speaker 1: I enjoy the game a little bit with them. The

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Speaker 1: pastor is married, but he is such a great lover.

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Speaker 1: I still see him occasionally for sex. He jokes that

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Speaker 1: he's created a monster, but I'm just glad I got

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Speaker 1: my mojo back. I don't plan to keep this up forever.

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Speaker 1: But if I do, what's the worst that can happen?

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Speaker 1: Isn't this how the world works now? Just curious? Well,

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Speaker 1: for starters, the worst that could happen is that you

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Speaker 1: could get killed and go to hell. If his wife

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Speaker 1: caught you guys and decided to get revenge, you could

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Speaker 1: get killed. Hell is for continually breaking the lord's commandment

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Speaker 1: to not commit adultery. Or how about you could just

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Speaker 1: get a disease or something. I mean, there are a

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Speaker 1: lot of bad things that could happen to you. There

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Speaker 1: are a lot of bad things that could happen to you.

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Speaker 1: If you're talking about what's the worst that could happen?

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Speaker 1: So casually, so cavalier with your attitude about this? Why

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Speaker 1: why don't you Why don't you stop now that you've gotten,

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Speaker 1: as you say, your mojo back, since that's what you

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Speaker 1: were trying to do. Uh yeah, leave the married pastor alone.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you certainly didn't like it when your husband

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Speaker 1: was cheating on you, now, did you? And the thing

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Speaker 1: is with your boss, you probably could have gotten a

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Speaker 1: you don't have to do that. Huh It what I

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Speaker 1: didn't hear you, Steve, I'm no, oh not twenty percent. Well, anyway,

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Speaker 1: you say the pastor's love making gave you the courage

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Speaker 1: to file for divorce and ask for a raise at work, Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: keep the courage part of it. Keep the empowerment stuff

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Speaker 1: you have going on. All of that you could do

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Speaker 1: all you could still do all of that. But you

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Speaker 1: know you don't have to give yourself a way like this.

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Speaker 1: You know you could be strong, you could be empowered,

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Speaker 1: and you don't have to do it this way. I

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Speaker 1: still believe you could have gotten the raids anyway, twenty

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Speaker 1: you're the right kind of employee, you would have gotten it.

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Speaker 1: Believe more in yourself. You say you got your mojo back.

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Speaker 1: Make sure that you have your self esteem and don't

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Speaker 1: don't do that, Steve, I see so much. Lady she tripping,

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Speaker 1: this is by December, I started having virtual counseling session pastor.

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Speaker 1: When did he get to vascinating? Suddenly this wasn't available

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Speaker 1: just thinking maybe she had been counseling for a while

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Speaker 1: is this? Yeah, who in the counseling meeting tells you

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Speaker 1: to tap into your inner beauty? Got that and your

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Speaker 1: great physique? Damn pastor. He really helped me change my

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Speaker 1: mindset from victim to conqueror. Then she said, at that point,

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Speaker 1: on it. He started making passionate out to me once weekend.

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Speaker 1: It helped my self esteem. Help your self esteem? No,

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Speaker 1: he helped himself. His love making gave me the courage

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Speaker 1: did he do to you? And those two things don't

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Speaker 1: go together? He did you so good you went in there,

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Speaker 1: to know what did pass to do to you to

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Speaker 1: make you jump? I'm on a damn divorce and damn it,

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Speaker 1: give me a raise too. Past hold that thought, Steve.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters, subject

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letters, subject pray,

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Speaker 1: praise and the raise. Here's the third. One year old

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Speaker 1: woman married twenty four year old woman sends her a

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Speaker 1: picture of her husband in bed with him. This starts

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Speaker 1: and demise of the marriage. Of course, that quarantine last

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Speaker 1: year and she hated it. But she started doing virtual

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Speaker 1: does this? So this is Reverend Trickett. Reverend Trickey told

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Speaker 1: I went with it. At that point, I'd done whatever

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Speaker 1: he really helped you change your mindset. You don't see

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Speaker 1: him helping himself, all right. He started making passionate love

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Speaker 1: self esteem. Really, it would help everybody's self esteem. I

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Speaker 1: What did this pastor do to you that was so outstanding?

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Speaker 1: I never used my femininity to my advantage. I dressed

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Speaker 1: I got a twenty raised, sister, the pastor did all

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Speaker 1: pastor raising your self esteem or did he raise something

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Speaker 1: else in you? Because he seems to have brought out

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Speaker 1: a devious side of you has nothing to do with

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Speaker 1: think about that, because you even said, I know I

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Speaker 1: sound trifling, Alfie, and that's fine. But men do what

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Speaker 1: You wrote us, we didn't even know nothing about this.

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Speaker 1: was trify. You just told us you was trify. Now

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Speaker 1: I'm glad I got my mojo back. You got what back.

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Speaker 1: before that. You just didn't have this stupid attitude you got.

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Speaker 1: That's doing a lot of stuff that ain't gonna benefit you.

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Speaker 1: many dudes I know that were selling drugs talking about

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Speaker 1: this how the world works now, just curious. Yeah, this

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Speaker 1: is how the falling works now exactly. The falling world

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Speaker 1: get your ass? Will? Who's gonna whip your ass? The

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Speaker 1: See what your departure you're missing. The pastor used you

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Speaker 1: that how the world work? Well? Okay, well yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: don't mean you should do something, right, young lady, you

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Speaker 1: better get some morality in your life and really get

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Speaker 1: some self esteem about yourself and stop just passing yourself

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