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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: going to read this one right here, right now. You

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Speaker 1: never know, it could be yours. You never know. I

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Speaker 1: just never know. So buckle up, hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: subject bubble Bath, Bourbon and Berry's. Dear Stephen Shirley, My

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Speaker 1: husband and I have been married for two years, and

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Speaker 1: when I met him, he came from out of nowhere.

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Speaker 1: I do not know anyone that knows him and could

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Speaker 1: not vouch and could vouch for his character. I knew

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Speaker 1: he'd been married before, and I found who she was

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Speaker 1: and how she looked and carried herself on social media.

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Speaker 1: She was dressed ghetto and she loved multi colored wigs,

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Speaker 1: but she's a nurse, so she must be professional at times.

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Speaker 1: I also noticed that she was still wearing her bridle, set,

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Speaker 1: the ring and the band. I asked him if he

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Speaker 1: I felt like he wasn't being truthful, so I decided

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Speaker 1: to his phone out of the blue. On her second anniversary,

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Speaker 1: out that he had lied about what he was arrested for.

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Speaker 1: It was for issuance of a bad check and it

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Speaker 1: was to an apartment building. I got his watch, wedding ring,

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Speaker 1: and cell phone and headed home mad as heck. I

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Speaker 1: video of him one of those two our motels, sitting

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Speaker 1: The ex wife was standing over him, and I won't

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Speaker 1: tell you what he was doing to her. I'm so

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Speaker 1: outdone with this nasty man, and I want to move

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Speaker 1: out while he's in jail. I found his ex wife's

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Speaker 1: because I'm done with him. What do I do now? Well,

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Speaker 1: what do you mean? What do you do now? I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think it's quite clear what needs to be done.

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Speaker 1: You already said that you want to leave him while

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Speaker 1: he's in jail. Your husband is cheated on, you lied

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Speaker 1: to you about why he got arrested. More importantly, he

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Speaker 1: You said he was in jail for a bad check

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Speaker 1: to an apartment building. You saw him with his ex

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Speaker 1: want to tell us he was doing. So you said

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Speaker 1: It's just like he came out of nowhere and there

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Speaker 1: was no one to vouch for his character. So why

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Speaker 1: did you marry him? Well, now you know quite a

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna stay and take the disrespect of seeing him,

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Speaker 1: you know, in videos doing whatever to his ex wife

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Speaker 1: know that's up to you. What are you going to

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Speaker 1: Steve Well, Shelley's right. O can't really say nothing about that.

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Speaker 1: She's correct, bubble bell, bourbon and berries. Here's the first

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Speaker 1: part explains his whole letter to me. Shelley and Steve

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Speaker 1: my husband and I've been married for two years. When

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Speaker 1: still wearing her bridle set. Now, I think that you

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Speaker 1: y'all's age. But he's been round the whole time he

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Speaker 1: And he has a history. That's a fact. The fact

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Speaker 1: know what it was, but you just did it too quick.

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Speaker 1: Are you ask him if he still talked to her,

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Speaker 1: and he said only on social media? Well that's talking

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Speaker 1: these days, so you can say only on social media,

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Speaker 1: but text. They got emojis. Now you can see it

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Speaker 1: video social media and you can FaceTime shit chat. You know,

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Speaker 1: got arrested for fail you to pay a traffic fine.

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Speaker 1: That can happen, but you got to the jail to

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Speaker 1: try to bail him out, and they said he'd have

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Speaker 1: to stay overnight. I got his belongings and find out

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Speaker 1: was for insurance of a bad check and it was

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Speaker 1: he lied about what he was arrested for. You don't

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Speaker 1: know this man, and there's more to come. Oh M,

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Speaker 1: all right, Hold on, Steve, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response coming up at twenty three minutes after subject

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Speaker 1: bubble bath, bourbon and Berries. We'll get back into it

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening Stry Morning Show. All right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter, bubble bath,

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Speaker 1: Bourbon and berry. We haven't gotten to the bubble bath,

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Speaker 1: that this woman don't know this man. She didn't married

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Speaker 1: the man gets arrested. While he's arrested, she goes down

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Speaker 1: to bail him out on their second anniversary. He said

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Speaker 1: She gets down there and find out his for insurance

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Speaker 1: we keep videos? Man? Anyway, goes to the phone, finds

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Speaker 1: say what he's doing to her. I wish you had

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Speaker 1: Make ass out of you and me. Now, since we're

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Speaker 1: talking about that part, we're assuming that's what happened. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: that's not the story. I was so overdone with this

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Speaker 1: in jail. I found his atuit phone number told her

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Speaker 1: What do I do now? Shirley said, it right. You

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Speaker 1: nasty man. Now, how old is the video? Yeah? See,

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Speaker 1: you didn't say that if it's from when they was

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Speaker 1: a nasty man because he never did that. You yeah, man,

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Speaker 1: Miss Jackson. If you nasty, now, I'm saying, that's fine

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Speaker 1: if you you know, if that what you yeah, you

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Speaker 1: he beat? Give me a beat a lately Rhythm Nation Star.

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Speaker 1: You know. So, I don't know your definition to nasty

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Speaker 1: if his definition nash is two different things. I'm going

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Speaker 1: and move out. It's really not not I can give you.

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Speaker 1: But to be honest, you cannot have a relationship with

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Speaker 1: You'll be in jail. Yeah, yeah, we already know who

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Speaker 1: it's jailed now right as he should be. In the

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Speaker 1: But it's gonna be more the same and so not.

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Speaker 1: There you have it. I don't know what else to say, Shirley, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I mean that was good. Sometimes that's all you can say.

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Speaker 1: You know, you can't help everybody. I think he helped

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Speaker 1: her just fine. I'm glad it was a blueberries, like

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Speaker 1: I said, and he is paying her rent right, he

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Speaker 1: wrote the bad check to the apartment building. What was that?

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Speaker 1: A bad chick. That's why he's in jail. Hot checks, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because that money is immediate. They don't chase checks no more. No, no,

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Speaker 1: ain't no yea. All right, all right, thanks Steve. Post

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