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Speaker 2: Hello Cheekyes, Oh my god, I love you so much girl.
Speaker 2: I met you in your Los Angeles concert. I remember
Speaker 2: askaying on top of you.
Speaker 3: Girl.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm sorry. You've been an inspiration for
Speaker 2: me for years now and I'm in the process of
Speaker 2: doing music as well. Funny enough, you inspired the name
Speaker 2: of my new album. I'm gonna name it King B
Speaker 2: And I just want to know how is it for
Speaker 2: you doing Abjarna? How is it like you know, the process,
Speaker 2: the ideas, How did it all come together?
Speaker 1: Ooh Alexis Well, thank you for going to my concert.
Speaker 1: First of all, I don't remember you being on top
Speaker 1: of me or anyone. I don't know, but either way,
Speaker 1: I'm sure we had a good time, and I hope
Speaker 1: you had a great time in my concert. I love
Speaker 1: the name for your album, King B. Love that for you,
Speaker 1: So you know what, I am very traditional. We live
Speaker 1: in a world that everything is like single, single singles.
Speaker 1: I like to complete things, which is why it's so
Speaker 1: important for me to have a complete album. And what
Speaker 1: I do usually is I think of a concept and
Speaker 1: now you have your concept. You have King B. So
Speaker 1: what does that mean to you? Right? Like? What does
Speaker 1: that name do to your heart until your soul every
Speaker 1: time you say it out loud. That's what I did
Speaker 1: with Aberherna. It wasn't a thing for me. It like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm a freaking queen f everybody. No, it was like,
Speaker 1: how can I inspire people through my story through my music?
Speaker 1: And I want to tell a story, which is why
Speaker 1: I have an intro in the album, and I have
Speaker 1: interludes and I have an outro because that's what's gonna
Speaker 1: complete it. I love just completing things, so there has
Speaker 1: to be a beginning and end in the middle. So
Speaker 1: that's why that album is so like that. And I
Speaker 1: feel like every album here on out is going to
Speaker 1: be like that. And that's what I would just suggest, like, Okay,
Speaker 1: asking yourself, Okay, how do I feel? What makes me
Speaker 1: feel like a king be? What is a king be?
Speaker 1: How can I inspire other people through this name?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 1: It's like having a mission behind everything you do is
Speaker 1: so important, not just doing it to do it, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you like music and great, but why are you gonna
Speaker 1: record the songs that you're recording? Can you defend them?
Speaker 1: Have you live that? Do you feel it? Can you
Speaker 1: make other people feel it? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like all that is so important, Like I just don't
Speaker 1: sing songs to sing songs even like certain words that
Speaker 1: don't make me feel comfortable and have more of like
Speaker 1: a negative connotation, I remove it and I change it
Speaker 1: for something positive. I'm just very I believe in the
Speaker 1: power of tongue, and like what I say and what
Speaker 1: I speak and what I sing, I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: manifesting at the same time. So just keep all that
Speaker 1: in mind and just know what is the core value
Speaker 1: in this album when you're doing it and when you
Speaker 1: do that and you do it from a place of
Speaker 1: love and comes from the heart. It reaches the heart.
Speaker 1: So I hope that helps. I cannot wait to hear it,
Speaker 1: to hear your album. Go on, King B do your thang,
Speaker 1: Do your thang. Alrighty guys. Our next question comes from Alexandra.
Speaker 4: Hey, Cheeky's just needed some maybe encouragement or words that
Speaker 4: can help me help my son just cope with the
Speaker 4: morning of his father that passed away about two years ago.
Speaker 4: But had times, you know, he said, he.
Speaker 3: Feels very angry, upset, and sometimes I'm just last in
Speaker 3: words of what to tell him, what to say to
Speaker 3: encourage him, and you know, keep on going through.
Speaker 4: The right chat because he's a great kid.
Speaker 1: Oh, Alexandra, I'm so sorry. Oh it's so tough, especially
Speaker 1: on boys when they lose their dad. Is just I
Speaker 1: saw it with Johnny, my brother, when he lost his dad,
Speaker 1: and you know, a boy needs his dad, you know,
Speaker 1: and especially if they lose them to a passing Hugh.
Speaker 1: So I totally get it, and I think you know me,
Speaker 1: I am all about therapy and the five stages of
Speaker 1: grief are very real. It takes some of us a
Speaker 1: little longer. And even though it's been two years. It's
Speaker 1: just even my mom passed away, what almost eleven years ago,
Speaker 1: and still still there are days when I am like,
Speaker 1: what the f is happening? Like how did this happen?
Speaker 1: How is this my life? But what has helped me
Speaker 1: so much is understanding those five stages of grief, and
Speaker 1: I think maybe buying him a book. I don't know
Speaker 1: how old he is, but buying him a book on
Speaker 1: that so he doesn't feel that he's all alone, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? In this pain. It's gonna take
Speaker 1: some time and prayer, and I think just for him
Speaker 1: to know that he has you and that he has
Speaker 1: your support will definitely help. And if you can some therapy,
Speaker 1: therapy is just wonderful, some counseling, some life coaching, something
Speaker 1: to just help him gets this, get to just release
Speaker 1: all these feelings and these thoughts that he has so
Speaker 1: that it doesn't become resentment to life, to just everything
Speaker 1: that happened.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: I am definitely praying for both of you, And just
Speaker 1: tell him he probably I don't know if he knows
Speaker 1: who I am, but just tell him I know what
Speaker 1: he's feeling. I understand, and I'm sending him a big hug,
Speaker 1: and he's not alone in this pain. So ugh, I
Speaker 1: just I wish I could hug him like seriously and
Speaker 1: just tell him everything is gonna be okay, but it's
Speaker 1: gonna take some time. Just be patient and remind him
Speaker 1: how much he's loved and that he has you, and
Speaker 1: that God is on his side, and that his dad
Speaker 1: is an angel watching over him. And to have peace
Speaker 1: because he's no longer suffering. That is what gives me peace,
Speaker 1: that my mom is in a better place, she's not
Speaker 1: suffering here in this world. De mando unavrasta. I send you, guys,
Speaker 1: lots of love, light and love. So thank you, Alexandra.
Speaker 1: I hope that helps. Okay, guys, So we have another
Speaker 1: question and it comes from an anonymous listener. Okay, let's see, Hello, chickies,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to know what's your thought are on
Speaker 1: couple's therapy?
Speaker 5: Do you think it.
Speaker 1: Works, like even if you're not married?
Speaker 4: Like, what is your thought on couple's therapy?
Speaker 3: Ooh?
Speaker 1: I love therapy. I love therapy. I wish I knew
Speaker 1: your name, but it's okay. Don't worry you guys. If
Speaker 1: you can say your name, please say your name, if
Speaker 1: you want to just keep it a secret, I get it.
Speaker 1: But anyways, I love therapy, huge advocate always in forever.
Speaker 1: I've been doing therapy since I was twelve years old.
Speaker 1: It's been the best thing in my life. I go
Speaker 1: on and off, but anyways, couples therapy, whether you're married
Speaker 1: or you're not, if this is a person you want
Speaker 1: to be with, you want a future with, I highly
Speaker 1: recommend it. I feel we all need therapy, and I
Speaker 1: think sometimes we need a middle person in a relationship
Speaker 1: that's gonna help us see things in a different way,
Speaker 1: because I feel like when we're arguing with our partner,
Speaker 1: you sometimes don't want to agree with them, Like it's
Speaker 1: just like, no, I'm gonna go against you because I
Speaker 1: just don't want to agree with you. But when someone
Speaker 1: else is in the middle and is mediating and is
Speaker 1: telling you, hey, try seeing it this way, it just
Speaker 1: changes your perspective. And it just helps to have someone
Speaker 1: to say hey, even to your partner, like if they're
Speaker 1: not doing something right, it'say, wait, try listening to her,
Speaker 1: to him, this is what they're trying to say. Hearing
Speaker 1: it from someone else always helps. So I think we all,
Speaker 1: all of us need therapy individually and as couples and
Speaker 1: even friends. I just think it's the best thing, and
Speaker 1: it's a good way of just releasing, you know, releasing
Speaker 1: emotions and thoughts and the whole thing. So that is
Speaker 1: my take on a couple's therapy. I say go for it,
Speaker 1: try it, and it'll probably take a little bit to
Speaker 1: find the person that you, guys feel comfortable with. And
Speaker 1: sometimes men don't want women therapists, so you got to
Speaker 1: kind of figure that out too, you know. That's another thing.
Speaker 1: It'll take a little bit of time to find the
Speaker 1: perfect match, so be patient, or maybe you'll just find
Speaker 1: the perfect match right away. I don't know, but thank
Speaker 1: you for your question, and I hope you try it
Speaker 1: if that's what you're thinking. Okay, okay, guys, So our
Speaker 1: last question comes from aj Dear cheekies.
Speaker 5: I'm going through a process of chemotherapy. I got diagnosed
Speaker 5: with cancer. Lef home my cancer, and I find it
Speaker 5: difficult to get back to life and start all over again.
Speaker 5: What's your best advice?
Speaker 1: Hi, Aj, I am so sorry. First of all, I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry that you are going through this right now,
Speaker 1: but I do appreciate you taking the time and having
Speaker 1: that will to live and to feel better because you're
Speaker 1: asking me a question and you want to know, and
Speaker 1: I'm going to give you the best advice I possibly can.
Speaker 1: First of all, I love that you said dear cheekies.
Speaker 1: I thought was so cute're like dear cheekies. I love
Speaker 1: it so thank you. But look, God has you here
Speaker 1: for a reason, bottom line. And I don't know if
Speaker 1: you believe in God or if you believe in a
Speaker 1: higher power or whatever. I'm a woman of faith and
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to put my faith on you or
Speaker 1: anything like that, but a higher power definitely has you here.
Speaker 1: And yes, something is happening in your body, something is
Speaker 1: invading it. But God has you here for a reason.
Speaker 1: And I think holding onto that thought and saying, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm going to live in the best way I possibly can.
Speaker 1: For as many days as the world as the universe
Speaker 1: is going to have me here, I'm going to live
Speaker 1: it in the best way I can. I'm gonna love,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do my best to give back. I think
Speaker 1: when you find that purpose of yes, you're going through
Speaker 1: something difficult, but also like stepping out of yourself and
Speaker 1: saying how can I help someone else, It just makes
Speaker 1: you feel better. How can I make someone else smile?
Speaker 1: And that's the advice I can give you. Like, I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure your body's going through pain and and I
Speaker 1: wish I could take it all the way. I really do.
Speaker 1: But I also know the power in making others feel good,
Speaker 1: and I think that maybe that will give you the
Speaker 1: will to keep living and to live the best life
Speaker 1: that you possibly can while you're here, and just be
Speaker 1: at peace with that, like knowing that I did all
Speaker 1: of this or you know what, look miracles. I believe
Speaker 1: in miracles, I really do, And something could just happen
Speaker 1: and you can heal your body and I don't know
Speaker 1: I wanna send you. I'm sending you, like right now,
Speaker 1: a big hug filled with energy and healing energy and
Speaker 1: love and peace and joy, and may you have the
Speaker 1: will to live the best life that you possibly can
Speaker 1: because you deserve it. You deserve it. And AJ thank
Speaker 1: you for your question and I want to hear from
Speaker 1: you again, Okay, I really do. I hope that that
Speaker 1: that helped. Okay, well, guys, this does it for this
Speaker 1: week's episode of Dear Cheeky. Please thank you so so
Speaker 1: so much for your questions. If you need help sorting
Speaker 1: through any issue, I'd love to hear about it. Leave
Speaker 1: your questions at speakpipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast,
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