WEBVTT - Shameless Plugs 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:19.320 Hello, and welcome to We Knows Parenting. I'm Peter mcattarney. 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:25.799 I'm Beth Noel. But we're in a good mood tonight. 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:29.479 We're in a good mood tonight. Um, we're in a 0:00:29.560 --> 0:00:36.760 very good mood tonight. Um. You make it sounds so straight. 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:39.919 I made it sound creepily sexy and it's not. Yeah, 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:44.320 you make it something there's like a you know anyway. Yeah, 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:48.880 we're just we've two cool cats. Life's a little less 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:52.360 stressful than it was yesterday, and who wants stress? Yeah, 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.240 So we have some announcements. Yeah, we're gonna plug some things. 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:59.720 We're gonna plug something. So some of you, what's up 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:03.440 big one? Yours a big one? Uh, those of you 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:05.520 who follow me on social media? And I've already seen this, 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.119 but I can finally talk about the fact that my 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:13.160 pregnancy book is coming out February fourth. You wrote a 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:16.960 book about pregnancy. I wrote a book from for new 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:21.640 moms about pregnancy, childbirth, You're going to say, from memory 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:25.560 and having a baby. And I co wrote it with 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:29.479 my best friend Jackie Jackie and Ruise, and she did 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:32.679 all the illustrations and we tried to make it. Can 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:36.320 I talk I'm just chiming into interrupt and say that 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:39.880 mumble things under so that my words become unintelligible and 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:43.920 no one knows. Incredible. You should read it, okay. So 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:48.720 I'm really excited to be finally promoting it. We've been 0:01:48.720 --> 0:01:50.480 working for a really long time and we were just 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:54.400 trying to make the sort of like a funny, encouraging, 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:58.440 yet informative book about what is actually in store for 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.520 you when you're having a baby. So I apologize to 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:03.880 everyone listening to this. You already probably have children, most 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:07.200 of you, but if you know anyone who is expecting 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:10.760 in the next few months. The book comes out February fourth, 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:16.919 available for preorder. Um, I really like this is one 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:19.000 of the few things in my life. I really feel 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:22.040 good about the work I've put into it and the 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:26.639 amount of research and energy and love. No, I mean, 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:28.560 I feel this way about other things, but it's not 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:32.000 all like often something comes along that you're just like, wow, 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:36.600 that's really I really put a lot into that, I think, 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:40.440 especially because Jackie and I started writing this book Proposal 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:44.720 when Maven was like a month old, So this is 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:47.200 this has been a labor of love for three years 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:52.600 now and we've we've worked really hard to remember in 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:55.920 graphic detail what it actually feels like to have a 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:59.080 newborn and if we felt like when we got pregnant, 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:03.400 the books out there we're kind of either fearmongerie and 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:06.960 making you anxious, or they're kind of just like vaguely 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:09.640 uplifting in sort of a cheesy mom way. It's just 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:12.160 like they didn't didn't feel like there was pregnancy books 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.400 out there that really spoke to real women and our 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:17.760 frustrations with pregnancy and childbirth and all of that stuff. 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.240 But and I think the reason why is because when 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:24.680 you're postpartum, you're way too fucking tired to write about 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:29.440 this stuff. So I'm very proud that we wrote all 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:32.400 of our sleepy notes down in our phones over the 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:35.600 course of many years and finally made a book out 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:37.560 of it, and some of you while you were while 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:41.720 your thyroid was not working, and some of the while 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:44.920 I didn't have a functional thyroid. So I'm proud of it, 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:48.640 and I hope it makes someone else's pregnancy journey a 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:52.120 little bit easier. Well, Beth, I'm very proud of you 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:56.080 and the snippets that I've read sneakily through the drop 0:03:56.160 --> 0:04:01.880 box that you use that is owned by me. Um. Okay, 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.400 I haven't read the whole book, but I have lord 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:07.360 it over me that you can afford a drop box membership, 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:10.960 that I am forced to sell some books and afford 0:04:11.040 --> 0:04:15.200 your own drop box, I will, Okay, I'm fine with that. 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:18.520 My next book, you'll never know what it's about. You'll 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:21.000 find out when the people find out. I shouldn't have 0:04:21.120 --> 0:04:25.040 challenged you. How many times must I learn that lesson? 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:28.600 And I spent the last two days recording the audio book, 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.160 or at least my half of the audio book, and 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:34.920 so I can't believe my voice is functioning right now. 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:39.599 You know something I think you may not have thought 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:45.479 about yourself being The sentence is off to a rocky start. Um, 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:50.839 but I'm gonna power through is a voice over artists 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:54.360 Voice over artists. Since doing this podcast, we've had many 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:58.720 people talk about how soothing your I don't know if 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:02.680 people are kidding me or not, but I've really in 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.080 the recent months overcome a lot of imposter syndrome I 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:09.320 have about how annoying my voice is. Because I said 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:12.240 I didn't want to listen to my voice on this podcast, 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:14.719 and someone wrote in about it to make me feel better. 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:21.040 But like doing the book the audiobook, it felt like 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.360 I was like, you know, I'm actually not anxious about this. 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:27.080 I've done a lot of podcasts, and I feel like 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:31.880 you've done You've done eighty episodes of a parenting podcast. 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.920 You can do an audio book that you've pre written. 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:38.480 It's just nice to feel slightly secure in something in 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:40.760 your life where you're like, you know what, I can 0:05:40.839 --> 0:05:44.120 talk for a very long time. You know what, I 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:50.360 know how to speak these words of mine. I love you, 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:59.240 love you. Um, that's fantastic. Bravo to you reading it 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.599 for for I haven't done yet. I look forward to 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:05.320 seeing it. It's full colorful glory with all Jackie's illustrations 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:09.560 printed and um, there's some really funny illustrations and infographics. 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:11.760 That is the part of the dropbox that I went 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:14.560 all the way through graphics. We make a little bit 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:21.720 of fun of husbands and male partners. Um. So if 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:27.200 you like this podcast. Oh but I didn't get to 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:30.080 say the title because you kept interrupting me every single 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:34.839 second because I woke up and Okay, so the title 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:38.039 of the book is There's No Manual, Honest and Gory 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:40.920 Wisdom about having a Baby by Beth Newel and Jackie 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.880 and Ruise Um. And yeah, you can find it up 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:48.080 on Amazon now and probably other places find it. Find it. 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:51.680 But you had something you wanted to plug. Well, it's 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:55.440 not as good as that. No, it's very exciting. If 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:59.240 you ask my mom, your news is more exciting. So 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:03.440 you are going to be on the Tonight Show. It's 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:06.040 true and settled down, settled down. It's not a big deal. 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:10.640 It's a small small things. You have a small appearance 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:16.120 in a music video sketch right, yes, our dear friend 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.600 Rachel when it's If you're a Story Parts podcast fan, 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:22.520 you know Rachel. She's Rachel from the podcast um Rachel 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:25.720 when also known as Rachel also known as Rachel, she 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:29.680 plays Rachel Um also known as a writer on the 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:34.080 Tonight Show. And she is incredibly good at doing like 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:38.240 musical parodies and funny music videos and songs. And she 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:42.880 is in a musical duo called Friends who Folk that 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:46.400 really get that l in there, Friends who Folk Friend Folk. 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:52.560 As an audiobook reader, I'm very familiar with enunciation. Um. 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:55.640 So yeah, um, yes. If you're a fan of the 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:58.720 Story Parts podcast and you love such hits as Cat 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:02.520 Sit on You, or Hamster's work Day or all eight Unicorns. 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:05.440 Rachel wrote all of those. Anyway, you probably haven't heard 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.560 her that much these days in the podcast because she 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:10.400 works for The Tonight Show, which Peter will be on 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:14.160 on Thanksgiving night. And unless they cut me, and then 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:20.600 this will be regrettable that I said, it definitely be 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:23.680 a less than three second shot of But I did 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:25.520 just get a text saying they were giving me more 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:31.239 money because my part now has a line, so big time. 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:36.000 But this is where to celebrate. Rachel wrote a really funny, 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:39.760 awesome thing that you should listen to. But anyway, I 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:43.240 debated whether I should tell you because I knew you 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:46.320 would tell your family and on Thanksgiving when we're all together, 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:50.920 someone's gonna love it. You love it, I didn't. I 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:54.880 love people telling me that they enjoyed something after the fact. 0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:59.680 But my family needs something to latch onto every holiday. 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:02.600 Other wise they're just going to be arguing about cooking 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:06.600 or something. So if you give them an excuse to say, oh, 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.200 Mr Tonight Show every time you walk in the room, 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:13.000 that is a preferable distraction. I don't say at the 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:17.760 time at a family reunion where we were all, you know, 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:20.560 I don't know how many people, it seems like a 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:24.160 million sometimes, all sitting around and someone's like, hey, Peter, 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:28.240 you've got you've got an acting Because we were watching 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:31.760 like my cousin's like high school like video project on 0:09:31.800 --> 0:09:33.480 YouTube or something, and then we were like, what else 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:35.400 can we watch? Somebody hooked up the computer to the 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:38.679 We watched your reel, which is very embarrassing for you. 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:41.439 If you guys want to look it up, just google 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.480 Peter Peter McNerney, real acting, real fun. I don't care 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.199 if you do it. Look it up. Look it up. 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.880 It's pretty good. But you Peter McNerney dot net, you 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:54.600 were so uncomfortable, Well, how with your family be like hey, 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:59.599 let's watch it and watch you watch it? Thankfully it 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:02.920 got a lot of laughs. Yeah. It did really help 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:04.520 me in the end because I was like, oh, there's 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:09.600 a clip in there. They got no laughs. And that's 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:14.360 the biz, you know, that's the big feedback. Incorporating feedback 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:18.680 um all also plug story pirates. Right now, we just 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:22.240 launched UM the Story Parots Creator Club. If you're a 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:25.080 story Parts fan and you want to get some special 0:10:25.160 --> 0:10:30.360 insider treats, Lego, Story Parts Magazine, v I P tickets, 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.320 t shirt, all the stuff. Go and check it out 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:36.360 Story Prize Creator Club and also our third Story Parts book, 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:48.120 which is called Um The Uh, The Case, the Crusaded, 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:50.200 the Crystal Ground. This is what happens when you get 0:10:50.200 --> 0:10:53.800 plug happy, Peter, we don't have to pullock every single thing. 0:10:54.640 --> 0:11:00.320 We embarrassed, um that I don't know the aim of 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:03.400 my own company's book. Oh my god, You're gonna get 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:06.320 so much for this. I'm gonna I'm gonna have to 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:09.480 edit this out. Well, go to the story Pirates. Go 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:11.839 to story pirates dot org and you can find out 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:15.080 all sorts of information about story Pirates. Another podcast that 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:20.600 is not this podcast, Um, The Quest for the Crystal Crown. Okay, 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:23.560 I knew that. I've known this for a year. That 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:27.840 book comes out a weekend. We we kind of okay, yes, 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:31.480 so by best book first, Well, if we're gonna keep 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:34.840 doing plugs, I'll also fit I'll also say February is 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:38.240 a great time to think about buying The Reductors's card game. 0:11:39.160 --> 0:11:41.000 We'll be out. Do you guys know that Beth is 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:46.720 the co founder and the creator and the CEO president 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:50.560 of Well anyway, we made a card game called Play 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:54.320 the Patriarchy and it's not really I don't think it's 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:57.040 been announced yet, but it's coming out in mid to 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:01.760 late February. And as someone who you know well does 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:06.920 not enjoy games easily, I did my darndist to design 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:11.559 gameplay that is not annoying to have to play when 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:15.040 you're slightly drunk at a party. So you've asked my 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:18.439 input on some things before. Are you mad that I didn't? 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:21.640 Did you know that this game was even happening? But 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:24.480 this is the one where I'm I'm surprised you asked 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:29.280 my input on other things and not this. But when 0:12:29.280 --> 0:12:32.240 have I ever asked for your input on anything? You 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:35.800 have me read scripts sometimes you don't like what I 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:39.040 have to say. I mean, maybe it means you asked 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:43.719 to see things that I'm working on. I am very 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:48.240 excited whenever you But this is like the pluggiest episode. 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:51.679 Never plug our stuff. We don't. We don't do a 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.200 lot of plugging on this podcast. So honestly, you guys 0:12:54.240 --> 0:13:00.679 asked for it, and episode we've earned it. Check out 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:04.240 O the stuff that doesn't you know? Okay, should we 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:09.080 talk about our kids? I want to oh sound installation, 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:12.240 blanket is falling off the wall in eight episodes. This 0:13:12.320 --> 0:13:15.439 has never happened. It used to have every episode. Should 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:18.199 we pause and fix it? Are you good? Okay? Good? 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:24.439 So bran Uh. We tried. We tried to go no, 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:29.599 no more pull ups at bedtime, despite the fact that 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.679 every morning he wakes up and the pull up is 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:38.440 full to the brim of the pp and uh, you know, 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:40.840 I was like, let's go for it. Let's see what happens, 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:42.959 because I've heard some people as soon as you take 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:45.760 it off, you know, subconscious day, they can feel it's 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:47.959 not on and they don't pee. So let's give it 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:51.680 a whirl. So I bought a heavy duty mattress wrap 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:54.480 plastic wrap so that if you pee in the bed 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.960 it would be fine. And so he did. Of course 0:13:57.000 --> 0:14:01.079 the next morning, okay, great, well we'll try again. And 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.600 we did a whole week um and every morning there 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:09.880 was an unimaginable amount of urine. My favorite part is 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:11.760 like two or three days and he woke up and 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:15.840 he goes, I didn't pee, and then he was covered 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:20.320 in pea. He was so excited, amazing. We all jump 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:22.080 around and then I touched him, I like, all of 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:25.800 your jammies are wet up to your neck. Your pajamas 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:28.840 are wet. He's like, oh, um, I guess I peete 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:32.120 a little bit, just all over myself. I mean, we 0:14:32.240 --> 0:14:35.480 kept a light, we were I'm very conscious of not 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:40.080 making him feel ashamed. If anything. If there's one thing 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:44.359 I'm not worried about with him, it's his ego. Um. 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:49.120 So he we we washed the sheets every morning for 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:52.720 a whole week. And then he finally obviously said I 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:54.480 think I want to go back to my pull ups. 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:57.920 I go, okay, that's fine, Yeah, we'll do that. But then, 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.800 of course at this point you didn't have any pullups 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.240 because he dramatically wanted to run down to the very 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:05.760 last pull up and then say no more pull ups. Well, 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:07.320 I gotta say he got on board with the plan. 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:09.720 So when we did no pull up, he was positive 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:11.880 about it. He goes, let's go for it, and he 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:14.680 never freaked out. And we got him more and he 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:17.000 was having to put it back on and then he 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:21.480 peas to the brim and overflows the pull ups. Yeah, 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:24.320 so we got him a bigger size. So we got 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:26.040 him some good nights. We got him some good nights, 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:29.880 although I did hear a rumor that the Good Knights 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:33.160 are not very absorbent. So then I got these what 0:15:33.240 --> 0:15:36.720 are they called, um their pads. Yeah, but they have 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:41.160 a name like Docie or something like something weird, booster 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:44.160 booster pads, Booster pads. They have a different name than that, 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:46.400 that's not the brand, but they So they are these 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.760 pads that go in the pull up or the Good 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:53.320 Knights to give it more a little more soaking power, 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:55.880 which is what our son is definitely in need of, 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:58.560 because the second we went back to the pull ups, 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:01.280 he was just so came through the pull ups all 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:04.840 over the bed anyway. So weirdly, tonight we get we 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:09.200 finally got the bigger size, and I'm like, all right, Britain. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.280 So we're putting on putting on one of these, and 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:13.080 then he got real anxious. He goes, no, I want 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:16.880 my old one, and I'm like, I'm not going to 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:19.280 play this game, and so I put my foot down 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:23.200 and he gets it escalates quickly. But I had already 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:27.280 said no books in bed until you put this on. 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:32.400 And and you came in like right after it escalated, 0:16:32.480 --> 0:16:34.400 and I'm like, I can't back. I can't back down. 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:36.240 And so there was a bit of a time where 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:40.320 he was crying and freaking out and screaming, and I 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.640 had to turn out the light and calm calming down, 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:46.880 and then and then and then we'd calmed down, and 0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:48.560 I put in my lap and I held them and 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:50.920 I was like, how do you feel right now? Because 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:53.920 I feel angry? You know how you ask your kids 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:56.640 how they feel and they don't actually engage in that conversation, 0:16:57.280 --> 0:16:59.680 but he did in a way never had goes I'm feeling. 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:03.640 I think they've been talking about feelings a lot at school. 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.920 I loved it that he gave me a very honest answer. 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:11.560 One thing I appreciate in his classroom, which seems to 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:16.080 me sort of a town wide like effort, is that 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:22.600 they're focused a lot on um kids needing to move 0:17:22.760 --> 0:17:25.320 and fidget and like, you know, there's like the fidget 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:28.600 spinners that people talk about, like so they like when 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:31.040 I went. So I went in for his parent teacher 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:34.320 conference last week, which we haven't fully talked about, but 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:38.159 the teacher was saying, how like she can tell by 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.919 the end of the day that he's like kind of 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:44.480 needing to move because he'll be like crab walking along 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:47.280 on the floor like he's like on his hands and feet, 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:49.800 which I was like, oh, yeah, that's him. Um, but 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:52.640 she kept like, she kept like prefacing it by being like, 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:54.960 I mean, it's a long day for all of us, 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:57.720 and it makes sense that he's getting a little like, 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:00.560 but they have a corner in the class room where 0:18:00.880 --> 0:18:03.680 kids can go to this basket for like sensory stuff 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:06.439 and like play with the fidget spinner, do these things. 0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:09.160 And she said, he actually doesn't go over there very much, 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:12.600 like I don't think that's his thing. He wants to 0:18:12.640 --> 0:18:20.679 be like rolling on the floor. Yeah, but um, I 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:24.120 really appreciate that they're like monitoring that in a way 0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:29.480 that feels very empathetic to the children and their needs 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:33.160 and not like they're angry at them for getting fidgety. Yeah, 0:18:33.200 --> 0:18:36.240 it's not a sit still. They have you know, what's 0:18:36.240 --> 0:18:40.920 their their mindful mindfulness our or not our but mindfulness 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:45.199 this time Yeah, where it's it's not nap time, but 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:47.800 you can you can meditate, you can. It's just a 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:50.359 quiet sort of they have a whole hour. It's not 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:54.000 an hour, it's mindful. Like that sounds insane for a 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:57.040 five year old but mindful is in the name. He'll 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.920 tell you all about it. Okay. Well, so I was 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.080 asking her because she was she was like going through 0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:05.879 all the things, and I knew exactly what she was 0:19:05.880 --> 0:19:08.639 going to say because she was like, you know, here's 0:19:08.680 --> 0:19:11.239 his letters, and he's doing pretty good. And that's like 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:14.960 developmentally at the right spot. And he's very smart and 0:19:15.040 --> 0:19:17.959 social and like he gets along well with everyone and 0:19:18.000 --> 0:19:22.040 he has a lot of friends. And she's like, but 0:19:22.080 --> 0:19:27.239 the thing is, he sometimes has trouble like focusing, like 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:29.760 when we're all walking down the halls and he's kind 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:32.560 of like that's safe. Yeah, And she's like, it's what 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:34.600 my concern is, it's not safe. And I was like, no, 0:19:34.720 --> 0:19:37.680 I get it. This is like everyone's complained about him 0:19:37.720 --> 0:19:40.840 because he gets so excited to be around kids and 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:45.080 other people, and he's like so distractable and like happy 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:48.399 to be with everyone that he's not focusing on the 0:19:48.440 --> 0:19:52.600 stairs he's walking down or like, well, he told me 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:56.439 that she told him that he's in charge of keeping 0:19:56.480 --> 0:20:00.240 everyone safe. Oh, he said that. He told me she 0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:04.119 told him, he's like, hey, will you keep these kids safe? 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:08.520 And it's exactly when I'm directing a show and I 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:12.879 have an actor who's backseat directing and taking focus. I 0:20:12.920 --> 0:20:15.280 will pull them aside at some point and go, hey, 0:20:15.480 --> 0:20:18.280 can you help me with this younger actor? I could 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:20.520 just use your help. And you learned this because it 0:20:20.560 --> 0:20:25.040 was done to you when your BACKATRECT. This to me, 0:20:26.280 --> 0:20:28.199 and he'd give me a job because can you make 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:32.080 sure everyone has different color shirts? On Captain? It's perfect 0:20:32.160 --> 0:20:34.320 for him because Brent is like when we saw him 0:20:34.320 --> 0:20:36.679 in his school performance last year. He's like the one 0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:39.000 who's like turning everyone on stage and being like, hey, 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:42.280 we're going to like and he's like just giggling and 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:48.919 wants to direct all the fun. Give him some responsibility. Yeah, anyway, 0:20:49.000 --> 0:20:51.399 I need to furnish my story in the bedroom. What 0:20:51.520 --> 0:20:54.359 happened with the pull up? So he said he was 0:20:54.400 --> 0:20:58.240 angry and I didn't explain why, and then he didn't 0:20:58.240 --> 0:21:00.960 want to put on the good night And then I 0:21:01.000 --> 0:21:05.080 had a stroke a genius. I have a full story 0:21:05.119 --> 0:21:09.760 parts model, which is just distract find be something, be 0:21:09.880 --> 0:21:14.120 more interesting than the problem. And I said, all right, 0:21:14.320 --> 0:21:16.879 here's the deal, and I got real serious. I go, Britt, 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:20.840 this is my final offer. Are you listening? He's like 0:21:21.160 --> 0:21:24.159 you suddenly he's intrigued, like if you put on the 0:21:24.160 --> 0:21:29.000 good Night, and only if you put on the good Night, 0:21:29.760 --> 0:21:33.040 I will take another good Night and I will put 0:21:33.040 --> 0:21:35.360 it on my head. And then he looked at me 0:21:35.600 --> 0:21:38.520 and he tried not to smile. And I go, and 0:21:38.600 --> 0:21:40.840 I will go into mommy and Daddy's from where maybe 0:21:40.960 --> 0:21:43.800 and Mommy are, and I will dance in a circle 0:21:44.400 --> 0:21:47.360 while screaming I am daddy diaper head, and I will 0:21:47.400 --> 0:21:50.760 make fart noises. And I said, you better not be laughing, 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:53.280 because this is what I'll do. And then he jumped 0:21:53.320 --> 0:21:56.159 out of bed and pulled off his jammies and his 0:21:56.840 --> 0:22:00.200 pull up and put on the good Night. And that's 0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:02.160 why I entered the room and said I was dandy 0:22:02.200 --> 0:22:06.119 diaper head, masterful. Did you piece that together when I 0:22:06.160 --> 0:22:14.840 was dancing? Yes? I did pretty good? Right, pretty good worked? Um, 0:22:15.200 --> 0:22:32.399 I am daddy taper pants. This next segment is called 0:22:32.520 --> 0:22:36.760 We Don't Knows. It's where we share a perplexing parenting moment. 0:22:38.000 --> 0:22:41.720 You know what I don't know. I don't knows what 0:22:41.920 --> 0:22:46.520 to do at a five year old birthday party where 0:22:47.720 --> 0:22:52.000 I don't know anybody, and I am allowed. So Brand 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:56.200 went to his his good friend from school's birthday party. 0:22:56.320 --> 0:22:59.840 Was exciting to be invited by a friend of his 0:23:00.040 --> 0:23:04.800 that I never met, a friend of his who I 0:23:04.880 --> 0:23:08.680 have to say, I have to tell this story. Okay, 0:23:08.800 --> 0:23:13.560 So Bryn came home this week and he keeps quoting 0:23:13.600 --> 0:23:17.640 this kid from school, imitating him, and he goes, I'll 0:23:17.640 --> 0:23:20.520 follow him up back and I hit my face and 0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:24.879 he says it over and over again because apparently and 0:23:24.960 --> 0:23:27.720 last the circle, and then Mayven started copying him and 0:23:27.760 --> 0:23:31.040 saying it. He's just copying his friend at school. So 0:23:31.080 --> 0:23:33.959 obviously he has no context for what this means. And 0:23:34.000 --> 0:23:37.040 we don't know what it's from. We don't. Please tell 0:23:37.160 --> 0:23:40.240 us if anyone knows, but this is his friend from school. 0:23:40.280 --> 0:23:43.639 And I was like, I was really worried because he 0:23:43.760 --> 0:23:47.199 was doing kind of like a black voice, and I 0:23:47.240 --> 0:23:50.880 was like, I don't. I'm like worried about what these 0:23:50.920 --> 0:23:55.040 kids are quoting and what's happening, and like, and we 0:23:55.080 --> 0:23:57.879 don't know who these kids are because we don't always 0:23:57.920 --> 0:24:00.760 pick him up from school or see them. You were 0:24:00.760 --> 0:24:05.679 worried that our son was doing a culturally insensitive imitation 0:24:05.720 --> 0:24:08.199 of a thing he didn't understand, right, I was, I 0:24:08.240 --> 0:24:10.960 was like, what is he doing um. But then we 0:24:10.960 --> 0:24:15.320 found out that his friend is bi racial and half black, 0:24:15.400 --> 0:24:17.280 and I was like, I feel a little bit better 0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:19.320 knowing that he's just hanging out with a kid who's 0:24:19.320 --> 0:24:23.200 black and not like, who knows what he's quoting? I 0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:26.720 don't know, because but Britain doesn't know. I've asked him. 0:24:26.760 --> 0:24:28.359 I was like, is this from something? He's like, No, 0:24:28.400 --> 0:24:30.919 that's just what my friend says. But it's like his 0:24:31.040 --> 0:24:35.400