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Speaker 1: iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate Summer of Love tree.

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Speaker 1: This is Famously Available Joost Ben Higgins. I'm very excited

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Speaker 1: for today's conversation. It's really fun. When we launched Famously Available,

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Speaker 1: the messages that I received from so many people about

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Speaker 1: how incredible this human is, how beautiful she is, and

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Speaker 1: how sweet she is, and how nobody can believe that

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Speaker 1: she's single. Well, we got some big news for you.

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Speaker 1: We haven't been able to send Mercedes on a date

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Speaker 1: yet with Famously Available, so Mercedes did it herself, but

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Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that we don't get an inside look

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Speaker 1: into where her dating life is today. She's a date

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Speaker 1: this weekend, so I want to get in touch with Mercedes.

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Speaker 1: She's on the streets of Boston currently, but we gave

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Speaker 1: her a call because she's getting ready, prepped and excited

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Speaker 1: about the date ahead. We're going to talk to her

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Speaker 1: and get some intel on how things are going. She's

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Speaker 1: excited about, and we're going to continue to follow her

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Speaker 1: on this journey to finding love. All right, Mercedes, to

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Speaker 1: kick us off, we do know here that you're going

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Speaker 1: on a date.

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Speaker 2: How did you meet this guy? Kind of walk us

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Speaker 2: through how you met what's gone on so far? Why

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Speaker 2: we're talking about him the day?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So I met him on Instagram.

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Speaker 4: Actually, he dmmed me and said he was coming to

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Speaker 4: Nashville and would love to take me out, and I

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Speaker 3: Gotta say yes.

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Speaker 4: I was like, I can't turn another one down.

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Speaker 3: So I said yes.

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Speaker 4: And I honestly didn't expect much out of it because

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Speaker 4: he doesn't live in Nashville, and yeah, I just I

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Speaker 4: And then I actually really ended up liking him and

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Speaker 4: we hit it off great. And then he was like,

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Speaker 4: I want to see do you want to come out

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Speaker 4: to Boston? And I was like sure, So now I'm

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Speaker 4: in Boston for the weekend.

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Speaker 1: Uh are Okay? There's so much I want to ask you.

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Speaker 1: First off, Instagram is a great way to meet somebody.

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Speaker 1: How my wife and I met, so you never know,

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Speaker 1: you never know. But before I get too excited, just

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Speaker 1: about all the questions that I want to ask you,

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Speaker 1: let's take it slow. So tell us about him as

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Speaker 1: a person. What does he look like, how old is he?

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Speaker 1: What industry is in? How do you find you? All

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Speaker 1: those things?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I honestly don't know how he found me, but

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Speaker 4: we do have like a couple of mutual friends that

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Speaker 4: we figured out later on.

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Speaker 3: But he's definitely my type. He has dark Harry's tall,

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Speaker 3: he plays hockey.

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Speaker 4: He's not like a professional hockey player, but he like

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Speaker 3: I hope he never listens to this.

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Speaker 4: But like going into the date, he like is on

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Speaker 4: Instagram obviously, and he posts like days in the life

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Speaker 4: like I really didn't have high hopes. And then like

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Speaker 4: with like like when women find out they have breast cancer,

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Speaker 3: I need to ask more about it, but like.

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Speaker 4: Something along those lines, and I'm like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 4: you're like actually like a really cool, like good human.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I mean, I just I really didn't expect

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Speaker 4: anything out of this date, and then now here.

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Speaker 2: I am the nerves.

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Speaker 1: You know that first you know, travel date, that first

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Speaker 1: time that you give up a weekend of your life

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Speaker 1: when you are interested and you've admitted that you're interested,

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Speaker 1: But how are the butterflies?

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Speaker 3: Honestly, like pretty good. I thought I would be more.

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Speaker 4: I was definitely nervous yesterday because he picked me up

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Speaker 4: from the airport and I was like, oh my godd

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Speaker 3: In Boston right now, Like what the heck am I doing?

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Speaker 4: So I was definitely nervous, But then like I don't

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Speaker 4: and it's never been like awkward, Like there's no awkward

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Speaker 3: Like we just like definitely like we're both they appers

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Speaker 4: So we just like yeah up, yeap, and just like

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Speaker 4: So we're just talking about everything under the sun, and

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Speaker 4: it's yeah, it's great. Conversation's great. So butterflies in the beginning,

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Speaker 4: But then like now that I'm here, I'm like.

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Speaker 3: It's just fun.

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Speaker 1: What is uh what's the plans while you're there? Obviously,

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Speaker 1: I mean you're there for a few days probably, right.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So we're going we're walking around Seaport I think

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Speaker 4: is the area. We're walking around there today. He works

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Speaker 4: into like one so after he gets off work, we're

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Speaker 4: gonna do that and then we have dinner tonight and

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Speaker 4: then tomorrow we're going to Salem, which do you want

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Speaker 4: to know something is so funny, Ben, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I so.

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Speaker 4: I don't know why I thought this, but when he

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Speaker 4: asked me to come there, he was like, have you

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Speaker 3: Or come here? He's like, have you ever been to Salem?

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Speaker 4: And I'm like no, and he's like, well, we could

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Speaker 4: do that, And for some reason, I thought he meant

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Speaker 4: like the whole weekend in Salem. So I was like,

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Speaker 4: I was like telling my mom. I'm like, Mom, like,

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Speaker 4: I don't even know what we're gonna do in Salem

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Speaker 4: for three days. Like I was like kind of like

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Speaker 4: tweaking out a little bit because it's like, you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I have no idea what we're gonna do.

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Speaker 3: But we're just going for a couple hours tomorrow.

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Speaker 4: And then we're going to dinner tomorrow night, and he

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Speaker 4: his cousin and his girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: Are going to meet up with us.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, I know.

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Speaker 4: But it's like I feel like they're like just really

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's amazing. It's okay, there's two ways to look

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Speaker 1: at Do you want my input on this?

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I do.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I think as a guy, you when you're very excited

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Speaker 1: about somebody, even if it's early, like just early on fun,

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Speaker 1: no pressure, like no, like it's not super tentship. I

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Speaker 1: And I think let's look at these people as friends

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Speaker 1: not family. But that's a big deal. I think you

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Speaker 3: No, for sure.

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Speaker 4: I know when he told me that, as he's like,

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Speaker 4: I hope that's not weird, I'm like no, I was like,

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Speaker 4: I think that's great, Like I would love because I

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Speaker 4: think like meeting people that you have, like in your circle,

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Speaker 4: like you learn a lot about the person that you're

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Speaker 3: Getting to know too. You know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm excited. I think it'll be fun. And then

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Speaker 4: I leave Sunday, so those two.

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Speaker 1: Days it's gonna be it's gonna be great. I think

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Speaker 1: Salem will be super interesting. Outside of Boston is nothing

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Speaker 1: but beautiful. Massachusetts itself is a gorgeous, very romantic state.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he planned this just perfectly.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 4: And I told him, like with Salem, I was like,

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Speaker 4: just so you know, like I'm a scaredy cat, like

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Speaker 4: I don't do well with this kind of stuff.

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Speaker 3: And he's like, yeah, me too. We're screwed. The go perfect.

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Speaker 1: You hold me, I hold you right literally obviously because

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Speaker 1: of your background in my background, we have to ask

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Speaker 1: has he ever been.

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Speaker 2: On reality television and did he know you from the

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Speaker 4: No, he hasn't been on TV. And then he said

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Speaker 4: he's like never really watched it.

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Speaker 2: So no, I mean, so how did he know about you?

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Speaker 2: But you don't know that right? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: No, I think it was just because you know, on Instagram,

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Speaker 3: I'm sure I just like came up on there or something.

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Speaker 2: You matched his algorithm something.

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Speaker 3: I have no idea how it came up.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, that's fun.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, it's not that far off from my story,

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Speaker 1: but it's uh yeah, that's a goodness.

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Speaker 2: Today's world is wild.

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Speaker 4: Literally insane I know, but at least it wasn't hinge.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a good point. And he brought you out

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Speaker 1: of these are good signs because here's what else could happen.

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Speaker 1: He could have asked you to come to Boston and

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Speaker 1: it sounds really nice, Mercedes, Like movie nights in my

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Speaker 1: apartment and let's just like lounge in the couch, which again,

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Speaker 1: at some point in your life are all you look

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Speaker 2: Really.

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Speaker 1: However, right now, you know, first date stuff, you want

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Speaker 1: the pressure of being one on one all weekend, you know,

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Speaker 1: So this is good so far. I'm really excited for this.

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Speaker 1: You did I heard you've referred to this guy. I

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 1: On your on the first like interaction, you you told

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Speaker 3: Yes, I did say that.

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Speaker 4: I literally said yes, because I'm like, oh, it's a

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Speaker 4: practice date like this perrevict. He doesn't live in Nashville.

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Speaker 4: Like it's yeah, it's fine, and now I actually like

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Speaker 4: the dude, So goodness, how that works?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's kind of great. Do you think at

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Speaker 1: some point he would come on here and just chat

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Speaker 1: with like me, one on one.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe I don't know.

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Speaker 2: You should see it.

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Speaker 4: I mean I told him that I'm doing this, but

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Speaker 4: like he definitely doesn't know I'm talking.

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Speaker 3: About him right now. No, it's I had a meeting.

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Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, I have a meeting.

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Speaker 2: You do you do have a meeting at eleven thirty?

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Speaker 2: You just have a meeting about him? I? Yes, exactly.

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Speaker 1: Let's hope he doesn't listen, but if he does, we're

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Speaker 1: going to keep this good and positive.

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Speaker 2: A couple like rapid fire.

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Speaker 1: Questions from the listeners out there, on a scale of

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Speaker 1: one to ten, how is the flirting.

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Speaker 2: Sure, sure, lean into it. How fun with it? If anything?

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Speaker 3: Like this is fun?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so we just said no, we know each other

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Speaker 2: This is gonna be great.

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Speaker 1: The other rule was we never left each other without

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Speaker 1: It helped keep things fresh, It helped keep us intentional

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Speaker 1: This was like two weekends in We're like, no, I

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Speaker 2: Let's like figure out how to do it.

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, how long did were you guys? Long distance?

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Speaker 1: I would never take that season back because it was

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Speaker 1: That's my advice for long distance. We're not quite there yet.

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Speaker 4: Perfect alcome would be just like getting to know him

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Speaker 3: To like fizzle out. After this, because I feel.

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Speaker 4: Like we've been talking every day, but I'm like, is

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean I think those are great, great day conversations,

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Speaker 1: He would have done this, I don't think unless yeah,

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Speaker 4: He just like has plans and he like may and

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Speaker 1: And maybe it's just good timing. I mean, I'm thirty

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Speaker 3: True, we love a man.

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Speaker 2: We love a man. We love a man. This is awesome.

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Speaker 2: This is super fun to hear. Now. I think this

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Speaker 1: This all goes well this weekend, have a blast. We

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Speaker 1: like thanks for joining us, and we are we're going

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Speaker 2: Excited that the two of you are going to go

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Speaker 3: No, I think he would totally be open to it.

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Speaker 4: He's like, literally can talk to anyone like, he's so cool,

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Speaker 2: Awesome. Yeah, Mercedes, you have a big weekend ahead of you.

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Speaker 1: Just have fun with it, be excited for you are

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Speaker 1: a tremendous human, so anybody's lucky to spend a few

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Speaker 1: this plan. No, he could have asked you not to come,

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Speaker 1: and he didn't. He wants you there, So just live

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Speaker 3: Okay, perfect, Thanks for the advice.

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Speaker 1: Appreciate that you're going to do great, have fun rock

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Speaker 1: and roll in Boston, have fun and Salem too. I'm

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Speaker 1: interested to hear what you think of it. And Mercedes

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Speaker 1: tell this this man hello, please, thanks for coming on.

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Speaker 2: We appreciate you.

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Speaker 3: All right, bye, this.

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Speaker 2: Has been famously available until next time. I've been Ben