WEBVTT - Ep 5: The Guy With The Foot Fetish 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:04.640 This show contains adult material and swearing. You have been warned. 0:00:05.760 --> 0:00:08.559 I feel like you're like working for the pr foot 0:00:08.560 --> 0:00:10.840 fetisures right now. I'm sold. 0:00:11.000 --> 0:00:13.840 Yeah, I'm sold. That's train. I'm like, let me get 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:16.040 my foot out, suck my toes. 0:00:17.560 --> 0:00:18.000 Around me. 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:23.079 I'm a savage. 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:27.880 Are you bored of modern dating? Meeting the same people 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:30.600 from the same apps in the same bar You've only 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:32.680 chosen because it's close to your house and you can 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:36.040 make your usual quick getaway. It's time to change the 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:38.920 narrative on how we find love. It's time to start 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:43.280 looking for love in all the wrong places. I'm going 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:46.720 on a wild dating adventure, only picking people who are 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:49.760 the total opposite of my type. And after twenty eight 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:52.879 of these dates in two months, will I find that 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:56.680 special someone? Or well, this experiment proved that I should 0:00:56.720 --> 0:01:01.040 just give up on dating altogether. It's time to find out. 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:10.479 I'm Grace Campbell and this is twenty eight dates later. Hey, Grace, 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:12.040 hi Ross, how are you. 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.319 I'm good? I am very excited about this week because 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:18.240 you went on a date with someone who has a 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:21.600 foot fetish Like, tell me, like, where did you find him? 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:25.160 Honestly, what is my fucking life. I found him on 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:29.080 field and on his profile it said that he has 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:34.600 a foot fetti. Really yeah, And okay, what's your like 0:01:34.720 --> 0:01:37.520 initial when you hear something? If you found out that 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:39.919 someone you know has a foot fetish, what do you think? 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:41.200 I wouldn't judge at all. 0:01:41.319 --> 0:01:43.760 Like I'm intrigued by it, like and not an intrigued 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:45.480 in a way of like it's a novelty. 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:46.920 I think I'm kind of intrigued by. 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:48.520 It because I'm always trying to get my boyfriend to 0:01:48.520 --> 0:01:49.800 give me a foot massatae and he's like. 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:50.320 No get away. 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:53.480 And I'm like, I wish you had a full fetish, 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:53.760 you know. 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:55.560 What I mean. If you're tired at night, you should 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:56.840 be like, look, just I keep my. 0:01:57.360 --> 0:01:57.800 End of the bed. 0:01:57.880 --> 0:01:59.960 You do your thing, although I'm not. 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.280 Really sure that that's what a full fetish person will 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:05.280 be doing. My football listen, I like, as long as 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:09.079 you're touching, and I think it is really well. 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:11.560 I think they like to massage fee. I think they 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:14.840 like to suck toes and stuff. I think maybe they 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.560 also like to sexualize feet, so it's maybe okay. 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:20.840 Well, I feel like, okay, I feel like he wouldn't 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:23.120 necessarily like me like I have been hiking for a 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:25.400 long time. I have a bion on one side. My 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.679 feet are like I've got big feet, Like, actually, maybe 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:29.240 they'd like that. 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:31.360 Well, this guy was really into hiking. 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:34.240 I did, actually, sorry, I did look at his profile 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:37.960 and I was just like, he is like a wholesome lad. 0:02:38.280 --> 0:02:40.440 Yea his fast picture, he's scuba diving. 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:43.040 His second picture he looks like he's on a boat 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:44.359 and he's very. 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:45.880 Talk because he hunched over. 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:48.400 It, like, yeah, it is his head touching the room. 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.440 Sorry, he's six seven, he's six seven. And then he 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.000 has another photo that I have no idea what this is. 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:56.320 So he's done a test, right, and he's put the 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:59.160 screenshot of the results of his test, and it's basically 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:02.840 a test to see what his kinks are. And there 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:06.519 are loads of words here. I don't know, rigor exhibitionists. 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:10.320 He got hard percent for Voyer non monogamoust degrader one 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:14.000 hundred percent dominant, ninety percent experimentalist. 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:18.040 Say this, sorry, what's a brat tamer? That sounds like 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:19.680 my type? 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:23.640 Also a primal hunter, Like, what's what are you gonna do? 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:24.760 Dress you opposite deer? 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:31.079 Sorry? A brat tamer is what I'm looking for, So 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:35.160 he's making it clear there that he's looking for people 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:42.560 who are exploring their kinks. When I got there, he 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:45.040 was sat down and he didn't actually stand up when 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:47.160 I got there, So I didn't really get to soak 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.360 in how tall he was until later on. 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:51.200 But the first. 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:52.600 Thing I asked him about was what was it like 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:54.800 being so tall? You're six and seven? 0:03:55.040 --> 0:03:58.040 I am, yes, God, I bet that gets you loads 0:03:58.040 --> 0:03:59.560 of a bit of. 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:04.040 A tenter, quite a lot of facts. I would say, 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:05.640 I love format they do. 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.600 Yeah, I feel like I wouldn't want to be any tolderman. Yeah, 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:11.600 I once matched with a girl who is four foot 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:15.040 eight on hinge. I didn't see when I. 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:17.760 Couldn't. 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:23.120 Oh, that would be like where on your body? 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:24.040 Maybe? 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:27.280 No way? 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:28.600 Where? Sorry? Where did he point to? 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:30.360 Like below his ribs? 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:32.839 I'm gonna I'm such a dirty mind. It's like where 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:36.560 did he point to his dick? So? Like, is he 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:37.640 to deal breaker for you? 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:38.600 Uh? 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:39.839 Yeah? 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:41.880 So sorry? What height are you? Grace? I know you're 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:42.160 like what. 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:46.799 I'm yeah, yeah, So it's it's not a deal breaker. 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:48.480 I don't need to go out of a basketball player, 0:04:48.520 --> 0:04:50.960 but I don't I would, I wouldn't want a boyfriend 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:52.480 who's shorter than me, you. 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:55.760 Know, yeah, God, like I suppose I'm five five eleven. 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:57.480 I've always gone it with guys who are told than 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:01.560 me but are the same. Yeah, I actually I've I've 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:03.520 actually sorry, I want to get to someone who's smaller 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:08.120 than me. Did you, Tom Hardy, if you're listening, what 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:09.119 I actually I did? 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:12.880 I did actually go out with someone who was smaller 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:14.520 than me. Yeah, by how much? 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:18.039 Oh? He was probably like I'm so I'm five five eleven, 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.720 he's probably five to seven. You're lying, No, No, I'm serious. 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:27.080 Yeah that's a mad difference. Yes, wow, And did you 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:28.120 and you didn't mind that? 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.240 No? Like he was I was in school. 0:05:31.279 --> 0:05:33.800 He was really cool, So like I think I was 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:35.520 just like you know, when you're in school, you just 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:37.080 want to go out with the popular guys whatever. 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:40.080 But yeah, it didn't actually bother me at all. But 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:41.120 I think from then. 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:44.240 I've never gone out with someone who's who's smaller anyway, Like, 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:46.680 was there anything maybe at the day that you didn't like? 0:05:47.000 --> 0:05:49.160 Because I'm sorry, but you seem you're like, oh, it's 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:50.720 really nice, but you don't seem. 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:51.480 Like I did. 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.320 I don't think I don't think like I could tell 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:56.800 yeah that he was attractive, and I feel like he 0:05:56.960 --> 0:06:02.720 shags a lot. Really why because he told me, how 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:03.559 long have you been single? 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:06.200 About nine months? Now? 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:09.599 Like when I came out of my relationship, I was like, 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:11.919 went through a bit of a slusty period. 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.040 Just enjoying myself. 0:06:16.200 --> 0:06:17.919 And then yeah, then had a bit of a haters 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.800 for a couple of months, and now I'm like, bash, 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:22.680 I bet yeah, I had quite a bit of fun 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.679 a few weeks ago, had a freesome with a girl 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:26.560 and her best mate. 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:31.280 That was super fun. Now it's just like living living 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:34.520 your life, living my best life. This was not me 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:35.640 like a couple of years ago. 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:40.279 Bless him. He's having he's having his slat period. 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:43.039 It's funny because like on other dates when guys have 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:45.040 bragged a bit off like this, I'm like, oh whatever, 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.200 But with him, I'm like, go you no, No. 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:51.240 I don't know why. He just seems like such a 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.320 nice guy because he had. 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.919 A sort of like very humble, like kind of nerdy energy. 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:57.760 Why don't you just see Yeah, so he was twenty eight, 0:06:57.839 --> 0:06:58.600 So as me. 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:02.560 Jesus, I thought you were forty. Fuck off. 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:06.440 Somebody said to me the other day that I could 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:07.320 be sixty four. 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:12.440 Oh my god, Grace, Oh my gosh. Yeah, so like yeah, eight, 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:14.480 like he's just living his best life. 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:17.400 He's just living his life, and so I feel he 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:19.880 just wants to like have fun and he's doing that. 0:07:19.960 --> 0:07:23.400 But he seemed quite like communicative. He'd probably be one 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:25.840 of those guys, which also annoys me if he'd start 0:07:25.840 --> 0:07:27.400 seeing someone them be like, by the way, I want 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:29.320 to say, I'm not looking for a relationship right now, 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.600 but I think he'd communicate that he wouldn't like lead someone. 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:35.360 On, So like, Okay, he's very open about like obviously 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.200 his fetishes and his sex life. 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.400 Was there anything that he was like like did he 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:41.600 ask you any questions? Like was he like this is 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:43.080 something I want to do? U? 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:46.360 No? No, because I think I was very much the 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:48.880 vanilla person in that situation, which you can relate to. 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:51.480 He was very much in his slot era and he 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.600 is shagging around. Do you date quite a lot? 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:56.640 Yeah? 0:07:56.760 --> 0:08:00.360 Yeah, because like you're having sex, like is. 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:03.680 It like more like I've got a very high sex drive, 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:07.120 so it's more for the sex. But I'm not into 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:08.320 like one night stands. 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:12.120 Right, Okay, Mostly they can be good, but mostly ship. 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.000 If you've got like kinks and fetishes, you're not. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.480 Gonna dispose at the beginning. 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:19.960 Time, like trusting communication. 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:21.600 Yeah, what are you? 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:25.720 I like a bit of lingerie massiveish and a bit 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:26.440 of foot fetish. 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:27.760 Really yeah. 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:31.000 I feel like some people get like proper wedded out 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.640 by it and be like, oh no, but why exactly? 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:35.680 Yeah, I don't really understand that. 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:36.440 No, I don't. 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:39.760 But but then a lot of a lot of obviously 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.000 not everyone's the same, of course, but a lot of 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:46.760 women they never have their foot slicks whatever. 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:48.520 Yeah, and then they love it. 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:55.160 Yeah. Yeah, I've got like amazing feet, so I'm always 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:57.400 very like show off my feet. My grandma says I 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.559 should have been a foot model. They and she was 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:01.960 right now. 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:06.680 He just came. Yeah, he was hard and you could 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:07.679 tell the boner. 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:10.319 I was waiting for you, like the whole conversation, just 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:13.240 to be like, I've got grafie until he can see them. 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:16.040 When he was like a lot of women don't realize 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:17.959 that they have a footberge until they get there. 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:19.080 He sucked. 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:22.400 I was like, I feel like you're like working for 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:25.960 the pr heat fetishes right now, I'm sold. 0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:27.880 Yeah, I'm sold, let's try it. 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:29.080 I'm like, let me get. 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:30.959 My foot out, and he sucked my toes. 0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:33.680 Back. 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.520 When I was like twenty one twenty two, I had 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:38.559 a bit of a sugar mama sit question. 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:42.319 Really very weird set up, right, this obviously been in life. 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:43.240 A twenty two year old lad. 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:47.000 I was like, yeah, why not had this woman take 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:49.680 me out for dinner by myself? 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:50.640 How old was she? 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:51.400 She was thirty eight. 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:52.480 How did you meet her? 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:53.760 Just some tinder? 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:57.560 And then after after a few weeks of it, it 0:09:57.640 --> 0:09:59.880 was very like it wasn't anything long term. But after 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:03.440 each told me she was married and her husband knew 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:05.240 that she has taken. 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:06.680 Me out, But what are you getting with each other? 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:07.600 Wow? 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:13.920 Her husband enjoyed this and wanted to watch us, And 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.760 I was like, oh, twenty two year old lad, why not? 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:22.319 And yeah, there's one a couple of occasional, I think. 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:24.320 The second time, I was like, this is a bit weird. 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.679 Well he was there, yeah, yeah, he was there. 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:29.280 Just watching me get with his wife. 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:33.440 God, I feel like I've really not lived alife. 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:36.640 Wow, you agree, you haven't lived a life? So you're 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:38.720 a fellare has seen you been railed with someone else? 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:43.120 I'm telling you by a twenty one year old. That's 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:43.840 kind of mad. 0:10:43.960 --> 0:10:48.440 He was twenty one. Yeah, that's fucking insane. Yeah, and 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:50.920 also kind of weird that she didn't say from the 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:55.120 get go, I'm married, and then I'm married and she's what, 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:58.000 what's the difference seventeen years older than him? 0:10:58.400 --> 0:10:59.400 It's kind of mad. 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.440 I think the term for that is cuck where he's 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:03.320 in a cut cold. 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:05.000 God, I'm sorry. 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:09.440 I just feel so like naive, like I live under 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:13.240 a rock vanilla like, but like Genie Mack. 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:14.360 That's what I'm saying. 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:17.280 Was That's what I'm saying, Like even and even I 0:11:17.400 --> 0:11:21.120 feel like that, and I don't usually feel like this 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:22.720 what I do so type. 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:25.640 Of question like obviously you know he's spoken to walknely, 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:28.400 but he's like, I'm gonna call them sexipades. Would you 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:31.760 feel like inferior in terms of how much he's done? 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:36.720 No, No, I don't really. I don't really worry about 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:39.600 stuff like that, to be honest. I just think if 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:41.800 I like someone and we're like dating, I'm like, yeah, 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.040 just be good in bed. And sometimes people are better 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:46.559 in bed because they have had all of these excapades. 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.840 Sometimes they're not. I don't really mind about that, No, 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.160 as long as you don't lie about like things that 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:51.800 have happened. 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:55.400 I definitely would anyway. Really, I think i'd be like, 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:56.600 oh God. 0:11:56.880 --> 0:11:59.120 But it's like that thing where you know, it's like 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:02.000 the craziest of way that people like put this pressure on, 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:05.040 like what your partner's like body count is. I once 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:07.600 had a boyfriend and I told him how many people 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:10.760 I'd chagged. He told me how many people he chagged, 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:13.319 but I could just tell he was lying to make 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.000 it more because he was so intimidated by how many people. 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:19.520 And it actually ended up being a huge issue because 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:21.959 he had this issue with how many people I'd already 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:24.360 had sex with, And I was like, why do you care? Like, 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:27.040 I'm not having sex with them in front of you. 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:29.520 I'm not having sex with them now before you even 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:30.520 knew that I existed. 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:31.760 Isn't it funny here? 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.559 Like if you start dating someone and if they asked 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:35.720 that question, which you just. 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:36.920 Probably shouldn't even get into. 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:41.600 I know from my upbringing in a very religious all 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:43.520 girls school, you almost are like. 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.160 Oh, just counted on one hand, you know, like you 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:47.760 always need an underpaged back Jesus. 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:51.000 No, Well, I think until really recently, like most women, 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.280 if it was a lot would lie, oh yeah, until 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:57.640 very recently. But then now I also think women feel 0:12:57.679 --> 0:12:59.360 they need to lie and say it was more, which 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:01.080 is also on necessary and ridiculous. 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.360 There's there's kind of no right or wrong way. 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:06.320 After the state did you did you go home and 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:07.280 tell your parents a been. 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:12.720 Um, no way, the thing is right, Like my dad 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:14.640 and my mum like when they watch me do stand up. 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:17.160 Obviously it's a hard process for them because I talk 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.360 so much about like my sex life and my dating 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:22.400 life and whatever. And people always say to my dad, like, 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:24.839 how does it feel like watching Grace? And he says, 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:26.760 this thing I can't work out of this an insult, 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:30.720 but he says, I just disassociate, so like I'm there, 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:33.680 but I'm not quite there. And when I realize I'm there, 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:48.920 I tell myself that's not your daughter. I think we're 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:52.359 very conditioned into like not being able to have these conversations, 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:55.840 which is why it's always quite uncomfortable. Like even when 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:57.880 you were young, you didn't really know how to be like, 0:13:57.960 --> 0:13:59.840 I actually don't like that. Do You'd let it? 0:13:59.840 --> 0:13:59.920 How? 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:02.120 And then you get older and you're like, actually, no, 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:04.320 I don't want you to do that, but then you 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.560 sort of are scared of what you know. Men will 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:08.440 say men. 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:13.200 Yes, I love a debrief afterwards after sex and like 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:16.600 just talking about like what your highs were, and then. 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:19.960 It's very garassed. 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:24.800 Locker room. 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:30.200 No, I agree, tell me, but. 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.040 They didn't like that, or like they prefer me to 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:36.240 do something different for that to be better for them. 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:37.760 When you talk to your parents. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:41.000 About oh yeah, huge bit of my stick is like 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.320 talking to my parents about my sex life again. So well, 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:47.520 I have to say I got a bit ick when 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:49.320 he said talking about the high. 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:52.120 Debrief, Yeah, like I'm going to send you Google for 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:53.600 him if you just feel it out and let me. 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:56.080 Know how it was. Yeah, that gave me bick, But 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:58.440 I get what he was saying, and I think that 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:00.640 I get what he's trying to say, because I do 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:03.760 think the problem with sex is when you don't feel 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.880 you can say to your partner, I really want you 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:08.800 to do this because you worry that they're going to 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:10.800 be like, oh, you don't think I'm good in bed, Like, well, 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:12.080 that's what I've worried about. 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:13.840 For Yeah, Like I get it, Like if you're in 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:15.640 a long term relationship to really go to be like, hey, 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:18.360 what do you enjoy all that? But like, I think 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:20.120 it was just how he worried it, like a debrief 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:21.200 after after. 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:26.040 Yeah, Garret Southgate being the England football team manager. 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.080 Thanks for explaining. I actually have no idea who he was, 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.640 did you not? No, No, I knowed who he was, 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:35.240 So like meeting everyone, how do you think that went? 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:37.240 You could have done better there? Yeah? 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:38.200 Yeah, yeah, that's what I mean. 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:40.960 It's like the halftime like rids and loads like you 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:42.720 were in well arrested before we started. 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:43.800 Yeah, well the. 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:45.240 Highs were when it ended. 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:50.480 Crazy, Harry, Listen, you're pulling some some people out of 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:54.000 this bag. You're like a magician. You're like, I don't 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.640 where you're getting these people from. But I also have 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:59.360 this theory which I have. 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:01.960 Experience in the last few months while I was on tour, 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:05.560 where because I talk about sex at my work, I 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:08.400 end up getting people very straight off the back when 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:11.240 they meet me, telling me mad ship about their sex fives. 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:13.080 Yeah, and do you know what I As I said, 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:15.600 I'm living vicariously through you. So I'm totadly enjoying this. 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:17.680 I'm like, whoa, I feel like, I feel like every 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:18.480 day we talk. 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:21.320 And you're debriefing, I've got debrief in my head and 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:25.040 no debriefing. A date and I'm like, I feel like 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:26.840 we were in like ephour year or something. 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:30.000 Thank you. That makes me feel super cheap. 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:35.480 I've got a date this evening. 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:36.720 I love that. 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:45.520 Date. Check the time, I've got another one. It's fine. 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:48.920 Got a busy day of. 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:53.920 Grace. Did you really have another date? I actually did? 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:58.320 Okay, oh my god, sorry, kind of different. I'm making 0:16:58.360 --> 0:17:01.160 a podcast where I'm going on loads of he genuinely 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:02.120 had another day. 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:03.640 He sounds so flirty. 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:06.120 Yeah, he's he's a player. 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:09.280 Yeah, and but like it's funny because from his profile 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.440 he comes across quite wholesome and. 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:15.040 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, No, he was definitely he was 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.960 definitely like into freaky shit and also like shags a 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:21.720 lot kind of gel to be honest, and I like that. 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:25.119 I'm like this man from the get go. He's like, 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:28.600 this is who I am. Open minded, sex passive, yeah, 0:17:28.640 --> 0:17:32.320 and eighty percent a brat tamer. Yeah that's what my dad. 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:34.680 If you ask my dad what does Grace need, he'd 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:35.600 say a brat tamer. 0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:39.160 I actually, you know, I don't think he's for you. No, 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:42.080 I didn't think he was for me. Yeah, you don't 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:44.240 seem like what was it? 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.240 He just wasn't really like my kind of man, but 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:49.679 I liked him. I also think I just have to 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:51.679 say this because I know that a lot of these 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:54.840 were talking about the men, but I also think the 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:58.760 location of a day is so important, and I found 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:01.640 where we were on this day really off putting, and 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:04.040 so it did stress me out quite a lot, and 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:06.479 it made me think about like how important is of 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:09.399 where you are on a day because they were like, crying, baby. 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:10.000 You picked the location. 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:12.840