Speaker 1: Alright, let's maybe horsion, but let's rock him round, all right?
Speaker 1: Is this recording? We live? We live, hang on the
Speaker 1: song Get some money, man, I get some money. Let's
Speaker 1: go hold on, let us ride. What what? What? What?
Speaker 1: Shout out to Cardi B. Yeah, that's that's that's a
Speaker 1: real come up story. Man. That's a whole different chapter
Speaker 1: when it comes to like, you know what I'm saying
Speaker 1: these scripts out here, You know what I'm saying from something,
Speaker 1: it's a whole little different shout out to Cardi. Well,
Speaker 1: let's go ahead and get into an intro and then
Speaker 1: we gonna go ahead and talk about the strong. Welcome
Speaker 1: to you another episode of Horrible Decisions. This is the
Speaker 1: girl ANYB. And I'm Wheezy's motherfucking late. Y'all know we've
Speaker 1: been talking about these late motherfucker's and she's late, you
Speaker 1: know Jesus, so she will be joining us in the
Speaker 1: studio any motherfucking second now, um, and we have our
Speaker 1: lovely guests in the d You want to go ahead
Speaker 1: and let our listeners know y'all names, what y'all rep
Speaker 1: and what platform you guys are ladies? First, baby, I'm Alyssa. Um,
Speaker 1: we're coming from black Chat and oistly okay, originally a
Speaker 1: show from London. Um, it's like at the base show.
Speaker 1: So it's our online YouTube show and we give a
Speaker 1: topic and girls and boys just go at it back
Speaker 1: and forth. So now the ship we like and my
Speaker 1: name my name Fleet. You know, some people like to
Speaker 1: call me about my government code. Yo. I want you
Speaker 1: to know he ain't either. Well he's saying here, trying
Speaker 1: to sound off and ship he ain't ship, y'all. Hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I'm not perfect, but you know it all comes from
Speaker 1: a good place. Man, But I'm trying not to make
Speaker 1: some horrible decisions. They're not they're not bad decisions, you know,
Speaker 1: they're not bad. Always lead to something good sometimes always always.
Speaker 1: So we were talking about I want to again shout
Speaker 1: out CARDIV. She made the number one on Billboard, and
Speaker 1: I saw one of the topics on y'all shows, you guys,
Speaker 1: UM debated strippers and if they were wife a bull
Speaker 1: and if you could look at them a certain way
Speaker 1: and just kind of the stigma behind women whose trip
Speaker 1: and she talks about apparently how she was a stripper,
Speaker 1: how she came from being a stripper to now you
Speaker 1: know a number one recording on its artist. Absolutely, So
Speaker 1: what are you guys thoughts on women in this strip
Speaker 1: club and women who choose that profession. Are they looked
Speaker 1: at any specific way? What was the the opinion you
Speaker 1: had on that. I personally don't think there's nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with somebody who's a stripper. I said on the show
Speaker 1: that if my life came to it financially, if my
Speaker 1: life came down to it financially, I wouldn't mind being
Speaker 1: a stripper. What does that mean? You wouldn't mind being
Speaker 1: a stripper? So, like, if I need the money under
Speaker 1: certain circumstances, and like's gonna make a clap, right, Like
Speaker 1: my mom's not helping me, I don't nobody's giving me
Speaker 1: any type of money. I would, I would consider it.
Speaker 1: I don't think there's nothing wrong with But yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't think there's nothing wrong because you're still real hesitant
Speaker 1: when you even talk about it. It's not like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to nursing school and me in our end,
Speaker 1: Like you're still kind of hesitantly. I mean, I'll be
Speaker 1: a stripper if I have to write. Even how you
Speaker 1: talk about it, you still kind of have you know,
Speaker 1: kind of a backdround to what it means. So is
Speaker 1: it because of how other people would look at you?
Speaker 1: Or what's the hesitant in your voice as to why
Speaker 1: you may not want to be it? No, I don't
Speaker 1: care how people look at me. That doesn't bother me.
Speaker 1: I think, um, the backside of it, like they're they're
Speaker 1: like worried about their safe at all times, like being disrespected. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't want a man to feel like, because I'm
Speaker 1: a stripper, you can degrade me, like disrespect me. But
Speaker 1: I feel like that's part of the culture. Unfortunately, it
Speaker 1: is part of the strip. And we got a man
Speaker 1: in here. Like, do you feel like men look at
Speaker 1: females in the trip differently? I think men look as
Speaker 1: at hors. Definitely, if you out here, put out here
Speaker 1: putting miledge on your COUCHI and man gonna look at
Speaker 1: you some type of way. You know what I'm saying? Okay?
Speaker 1: And is that only if you out here? I got
Speaker 1: sleeping with the same crew, Because if a man goes
Speaker 1: on to a girl's Instagram or meets a girl in
Speaker 1: the street, he don't know what miledge is on her pussy.
Speaker 1: Oh you know, the streets always be talking, always gonna
Speaker 1: come out some holes, and nobody knows any nigga that
Speaker 1: sees as shure he would like listen, I know Hosy
Speaker 1: are married right now. I ain't gonna hold you. They've
Speaker 1: been practiced for a long time. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: God with the right nigger, Like, goddamn you that juices
Speaker 1: for real. You know what I'm saying. So like that's
Speaker 1: a that's a whole different hole. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: category of things. But Nick is always gonna talk the streets,
Speaker 1: always talk. You're gonna hear it happen. What's her name?
Speaker 1: Um On girls, Kanye West? And you know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: it's always somebody's different situation. She's already famous, so it's
Speaker 1: gone whether you are in a bigger position or niggas
Speaker 1: is petty, man, Come on this. We live in an
Speaker 1: era full of petty niggas right now. If you're out
Speaker 1: here smashing the team and smashing anybody, nigga's gonna let
Speaker 1: niggas know. Oh you baha, Okay, all right, we was
Speaker 1: with her last week. Okay, we hope you're uncovering that,
Speaker 1: especially if you were good niggas gonna try to look
Speaker 1: out for you. If he was a whole nigga, they're
Speaker 1: gonna let you ride out. Fine, So here's my thing.
Speaker 1: At any point, does a man sit here and just
Speaker 1: be like, nigga, mind your business like? So? Do you
Speaker 1: not sit here and as a man be like? Okay?
Speaker 1: She put everybody like, when do you When do you
Speaker 1: guys just sit here and not give a funk about
Speaker 1: what all these other men think they want to be.
Speaker 1: We're not knocking that you could be. You could choose
Speaker 1: not if you bring it up in his face, you can.
Speaker 1: If a nigga brings up to your face, that means
Speaker 1: he got love for you and he's just trying to
Speaker 1: make sure that you're not You don't you don't go
Speaker 1: in the wrong direction. He's just trying to make sure
Speaker 1: you're making the right decisions for your life. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But but you know, if the nigga
Speaker 1: don't tell you, that means you don't like you. Go ahead?
Speaker 1: Do you think like I listen, if I see my
Speaker 1: bro hanging around with somebody that got extra miledge on
Speaker 1: this ship, I'm like your family. I don't know how
Speaker 1: long if he's extra knowledge. If he's happy, well he
Speaker 1: makes so happy because you know, people do change, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So, but as females, we're supposed
Speaker 1: to accept that the nigga have been through man, we
Speaker 1: got We're not supposed to care about your We we
Speaker 1: was here first. Wait what we was here? Even here
Speaker 1: at the same time. I know what you're talking about. Confused,
Speaker 1: I'm being a little bit sexist, but you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, completely double standing. Just say hold on, hold up,
Speaker 1: just saying your Instagram names. So everybody who watches this
Speaker 1: ship could come at your dumbass, but they say coming
Speaker 1: at me. Can you say some dumbashi? No, no, niggas,
Speaker 1: I keep it at buck fifty. Niggas was definitely here first,
Speaker 1: and we definitely do live because it's written like the
Speaker 1: book where scripture says Adam was created first and then
Speaker 1: and then some niggas was here first, exactly first, right.
Speaker 1: I I don't know about all of that. I don't
Speaker 1: know about all of that, but this is what I know.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. A man was made first,
Speaker 1: and then after that came a woman. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So obviously we're gonna live in a double
Speaker 1: standard world, or I believe an equal opportunity. I believe
Speaker 1: equal opportunity, but I was living on a line of
Speaker 1: double standards. You can't talk about equal opportunity, not less.
Speaker 1: I was raised by a single parent, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. My mom was a single parent, So if
Speaker 1: she didn't have equal opportunity, I don't think she will
Speaker 1: be in a position to you know, raise or provide
Speaker 1: forward financially because my pops. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It's like rolling stone. So I definitely do believe it,
Speaker 1: but it's always that meant. But I'm just saying, like,
Speaker 1: we just live in a double standard, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, because we created differently for different purposes. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. That's that's how I look at it.
Speaker 1: That's just my perspective, you know. So I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: real quick, real quick, how I just think of him.
Speaker 1: So I'm in school right now, and I love the
Speaker 1: classes where I get to write an answer because I
Speaker 1: feel like I could write myself in circles to where
Speaker 1: the professor may think I know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: That's you, alright, that's what you just did. You just
Speaker 1: did a whole bunch of talking to where we think
Speaker 1: we feel you, but we don't know. But it's cool.
Speaker 1: It's cool because that's what you know. But it's cool though,
Speaker 1: because like we always gona not gonna see all the
Speaker 1: eyes of Venus versus Mars things really that we have,
Speaker 1: you know, right, So we're gonna go ahead and get
Speaker 1: into the homemail for this episode, and then we're gonna
Speaker 1: get into the kink and hopefully were these year right now? Yes, Um,
Speaker 1: if you guys want to go ahead and send us homemail,
Speaker 1: you can send us um your letters, your questions at
Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com, or send us some
Speaker 1: d M because y'all love d M s and this
Speaker 1: one is out of our d M s, so it says, Hi, guys,
Speaker 1: I have a question. My old best friend as a guy,
Speaker 1: and I was so in love with him from middle
Speaker 1: school to college. Anyways, we hooked up a few times,
Speaker 1: but it was always on some friendship I guess, friends
Speaker 1: with benefits I don't know. Fast forward to present. He
Speaker 1: is getting married in two months and he came over
Speaker 1: last week for my monthly kick back. Yeah. Wait, let
Speaker 1: me finish let me finish. He told me that it
Speaker 1: should have been me that he is married, but he
Speaker 1: said I didn't want his ask, but I do well
Speaker 1: I did before his fiance asked me to be in
Speaker 1: their wedding, right trifling. I absolutely know that we can't
Speaker 1: be together because he's pretty much a married man now.
Speaker 1: But how can I be more flirty? Because I thought
Speaker 1: I was giving him signs that I wanted him, but
Speaker 1: I guess they weren't strong enough. Guys tell me all
Speaker 1: the time, I am too shy. I just want them
Speaker 1: to come to me first. Help love you guys, by
Speaker 1: the way, I'm not gonna say your name that definitely
Speaker 1: don't know it wasn't damn you like the second guess
Speaker 1: that be thinking about like no, it made me um,
Speaker 1: But I feel like this is kind of a question.
Speaker 1: I guess we can get it to her and then
Speaker 1: more so talk about how you're friends with guys or
Speaker 1: girls that you may have feelings for, and how you
Speaker 1: let it be known without just staying in a friend
Speaker 1: zone the whole time for her, right, she's now gonna
Speaker 1: be a part of the wedding, so I think her
Speaker 1: trying to come up with ways to flirt with him more.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't understand how that's going to help,
Speaker 1: because I feel like she just needs to she needs
Speaker 1: to tell him to cancel that wedding, Like, just cancel
Speaker 1: the whole ship. You're gonna make him get married to
Speaker 1: this girl that he's not happy with, and then you're
Speaker 1: gonna look a hypocrite because he attended the wedding. But
Speaker 1: it was the side check the whole time, right, So
Speaker 1: I feel like she should like, I mean, to me,
Speaker 1: if he's wedding, I don't know how true it is,
Speaker 1: of course, but he said you're the one I should
Speaker 1: be marrying. That's the movie type ship. Like to me
Speaker 1: if he said this, like maybe you should go and
Speaker 1: walk down the aisle. No, you shouldn't get married, and
Speaker 1: he's settling like a part of him is just like, well,
Speaker 1: I didn't get you, but this girl likes why not?
Speaker 1: Just like that? I feel like niggas lie to niggas, nigga,
Speaker 1: but you know why, niggas be I'm listening because you're
Speaker 1: the truth never works for us. The truth never works. Listen,
Speaker 1: I'll be trying to be the truth. I tell I'm
Speaker 1: telling you all the truth right now. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, So I'll be trying the best. Um. But
Speaker 1: it's just just the way you know the planet in
Speaker 1: the university. You think it's possible that this her best
Speaker 1: friend is just saying that to make her feel better. Man,
Speaker 1: it sounds like a sticky situation. Man. I feel like
Speaker 1: if they because it could be some feelings. If you
Speaker 1: can't come up, you can't come up and say, yo,
Speaker 1: you're the one I should be married. When you don't
Speaker 1: put it down payment now and ago, you don't walk
Speaker 1: down the hour dress on her, everything you can't do
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, I would have nothing if he
Speaker 1: did that, if he really loved this girl that he's
Speaker 1: talking about. Like listen, man, you you will, you will
Speaker 1: go to the moon to come right back for But
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, But that's just sticky, crazy situation.
Speaker 1: Somebody needs to write a book because she needs that
Speaker 1: needs to be sold, man, not to be told that
Speaker 1: should be sold. She should just either talk to him
Speaker 1: like say, yo, you don't go through with this, or
Speaker 1: she just needs to get the funk out the wedding,
Speaker 1: like just say I can't do this. I agree, I
Speaker 1: don't think she should be a part of it. At
Speaker 1: this point, I feel I feel sorry for because they
Speaker 1: sorry for the wife he's married. Niggas is dirty out here, man.
Speaker 1: And if they have her in the wedding, like let's
Speaker 1: say she's like something important like maide of honor, like
Speaker 1: a bridesman, like imagine they look at her as like
Speaker 1: a future godmother for like the child or something like yeah, man,
Speaker 1: my godmother and my stepmother, like right, right right. And
Speaker 1: the weirdest thing about it is like we're living in
Speaker 1: a time where a lot of us black men, you know,
Speaker 1: a lot of you already called it, but right now,
Speaker 1: like you know, ever since we had Kobe, we have Melo,
Speaker 1: we have it's a lot of niggs out here. This
Speaker 1: is getting caught slipping, making us look bad. But I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna hold you. I was I was dating. I
Speaker 1: was dating the Iranian chick, and the whole time we
Speaker 1: were daming, she was just skeptical, like thinking I was
Speaker 1: after the whole Kobe situation, she thought I was going
Speaker 1: to cheat on har someh. So she had like a
Speaker 1: very like insecure issue about you know, black men being cheated,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And I kind of hurt
Speaker 1: my heart, because you know, I ain't really the type
Speaker 1: to be doing all of that. You know, I don't
Speaker 1: believe you. I don't know why. It's kind of hard.
Speaker 1: It's kind of hard, but it's definitely the truth. I
Speaker 1: bet you if I lied, you definitely believe me. But Yeahsion,
Speaker 1: I hope you make a hard decision this morning. Well, y'all,
Speaker 1: guess who just came in studio? Finally people in here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: no's yourself. You're late. We're just now about to segue
Speaker 1: into the kink of the week. Dude, I'm so fucked up.
Speaker 1: She's so hungover. Guys, it's not even allow to you.
Speaker 1: I did a lot of drinking and other things, horrible
Speaker 1: decisions things I want to make you fun if I
Speaker 1: didn't throw up goddamn place. I've been watching you guys
Speaker 1: this morning like that was my homework. It was in
Speaker 1: between me leaning over to the trash can and then
Speaker 1: having your yeah, girl, okay, catch me up. So we
Speaker 1: just went through the you know what, I need to
Speaker 1: play this voice out. I'm so you know, I've been
Speaker 1: trying to really make this relationship. You see how she
Speaker 1: just coming and just this dick got this voice. I
Speaker 1: just can't wait for you to hear this, because this
Speaker 1: is how bullshit it is. Wait. Was in an open
Speaker 1: relationship and like, I haven't been doing as much as
Speaker 1: I should be on the other side with other man,
Speaker 1: I've been kind of nervous to do it and feeling guilty.
Speaker 1: So I came. My name was his wife Win last night,
Speaker 1: talked to him for twenty minutes. I swear to god,
Speaker 1: he calls me. My phone was on silent. This is
Speaker 1: the message he left me at five. He was thinking
Speaker 1: about you. Oh you get the name out. Damn. I'm
Speaker 1: like locked out of my friend department. Um, if I
Speaker 1: can crash on the couch like a hallway or something,
Speaker 1: that'd be great. And this is this is what yourway.
Speaker 1: No no no, no, no, because no time time out, time
Speaker 1: out time. He was keeping a reil. He was trying
Speaker 1: to let you know. No, no, no, he really was
Speaker 1: locked out. And he didn't want you to think what
Speaker 1: if he didn't meet me thirty minutes before? No no, no,
Speaker 1: but but but but he didn't want He didn't want
Speaker 1: you to think he was trying to get some math.
Speaker 1: That was him trying to get happy. Heard I was
Speaker 1: so that means he was like oh she's gonna say, yeah, listen,
Speaker 1: that's exactly why I don't give the pussy out. That's
Speaker 1: what it was. I'm too expensive, I'd like to eat
Speaker 1: too much steak, like I just I can't. And so
Speaker 1: I'm absolutely fine when not fucking it. It's gonna be
Speaker 1: when it was like he condor wanted to sleep in
Speaker 1: your heart, it's the hallway. Is that not fucking trash?
Speaker 1: Like I know, I think he knew, like you're not leaving,
Speaker 1: like you're not gonna let nobody stay in your hallway,
Speaker 1: like you're gonna feel kind come over here. And they
Speaker 1: had a car anyway, I changed his name of Connor bum.
Speaker 1: He just would have got blocked. That's what happened. Okay,
Speaker 1: Well I'm glad you're dating. Because so the next kink
Speaker 1: has to do with like a perfect I guess. So
Speaker 1: we're going to discuss this because I think it's a
Speaker 1: good topic. So this week is, you know, we don't
Speaker 1: never know how to say these ships. Anna's temophilia, Anna
Speaker 1: stage and no bitch alright, So Anna steam affilia is
Speaker 1: an attraction too smaller, too taller, or shorter partners. And
Speaker 1: I wanted to discuss this because height limits, so I
Speaker 1: normally won't talk to a guy like most of the
Speaker 1: things on my phone are like six we plus. My
Speaker 1: last one who I really liked was seven ft two
Speaker 1: and lawyer Bay is six seven is like something love,
Speaker 1: So this is what I'm gonna do. Bend down so
Speaker 1: this is also right, no shape, but I have like
Speaker 1: a Napoleon complex, and I feel like you're afraid that. Okay, no, bitch,
Speaker 1: I do have. No I feel way bigger, like I'm
Speaker 1: only five one, but my nigga, I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: six four, So I like not only that, like a bitch,
Speaker 1: not small. So when I'll be with these tall me
Speaker 1: because they be using words like maybe you're so tiny,
Speaker 1: you're so small, and I'd be like, what were do
Speaker 1: you you think to describe me? They'd be picking me
Speaker 1: up like it could pick you up to know they
Speaker 1: cannot can ones that are like juice in the most
Speaker 1: because they're so like what they like. But the limit
Speaker 1: might not be the same. You know, you know it
Speaker 1: might not feel this only you won't hit the ceiling
Speaker 1: if I sit like they're gonna die. No, I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm squishing them. I want to because you can
Speaker 1: wear your heels can be as tall as you, as
Speaker 1: tall as and hat having to adjust my heels. Some
Speaker 1: guy like you got you have just no not but
Speaker 1: like you know, I'm like up, but you don't got
Speaker 1: to do it. I think it's mass sexy to have
Speaker 1: a Well, let me ask you. You're a man, do
Speaker 1: you like women shorter than you were, taller than you were?
Speaker 1: Kidding data that she makes happy? You know we're gonna forget.
Speaker 1: I'm more about I'm really more about vibes, and I
Speaker 1: don't know about the height or nothing. It's more about
Speaker 1: the vibration because she's down there, so she's gonna get
Speaker 1: quicker to his dick, Like I see that. That's what
Speaker 1: I do know. I ain't even had to get on
Speaker 1: the knee, right. I remember that dick second story. He
Speaker 1: told my mom that. I remember she looked at she like, hey, Dad,
Speaker 1: where is it your mom here doing? Do you have
Speaker 1: a hy perfect You definitely have my high perfect minds
Speaker 1: a little more emotional than that, But I don't want
Speaker 1: to get deep because I feel like we're having fun.
Speaker 1: Do you want me to go so emotional? Guys, I'm
Speaker 1: just okay, I'm a emo ho, but I'm telling you what.
Speaker 1: I was in, um, like an emotionally abusive relationship, and
Speaker 1: I feel like it's because he was short. And his
Speaker 1: mother told me that she thinks that he used to
Speaker 1: talk to me like that because he had to feel
Speaker 1: like the bigger man. Um. I mean that was actually
Speaker 1: I feel like that does. I mean, I was in
Speaker 1: and it almost pissed me off. I was in tears
Speaker 1: in front of his mom and she's like, you know what,
Speaker 1: it's because because he's short, baby, damn, that's yeah. And
Speaker 1: she said that she really believed that in her heart
Speaker 1: because they got to make up a hight like yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean even when they're now in public, it's like, nigga, okay,
Speaker 1: we got it. I don't know. I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: he would tell me about the shoes I needed to
Speaker 1: wear a ship like that. He was very like all
Speaker 1: about image. And so now I think it's mass sexy
Speaker 1: if you have a bigger, tall woman, Daniel, I'm okay,
Speaker 1: that's normal. Yeah, but updated women go a little thicker
Speaker 1: and some because you're not that short if you're you're
Speaker 1: dating and check, but they be updated, like two taller
Speaker 1: women and they were older too as well. So it
Speaker 1: was just I just like the fact that you know,
Speaker 1: I'm a little dude going do you like to be
Speaker 1: submissive to submissive? Go ahead? Well, I'm serious and nobody
Speaker 1: who from my button? Don't trying. I don't mean like
Speaker 1: you're sitting there with like a lesha on, but I mean, like,
Speaker 1: do you like when women take control? No? No, that
Speaker 1: that should get annoyed? You know. I feel like every
Speaker 1: time like sometimes they because these particular women I'm talking about,
Speaker 1: because they were older and taller, you know, they always
Speaker 1: wanted to, like, you know, take the lead and tell
Speaker 1: me what to do. I'm like, listen, I know you're
Speaker 1: older than be a girl, but ship, you went with it.
Speaker 1: That coconut water good. I'm so sorry, dude, I really apologize.
Speaker 1: And these are expensive to I want to hear and
Speaker 1: grab mandies coconut and just finished like they're so used
Speaker 1: to in this neighborhood where at where all the warehouses
Speaker 1: and parties are ship like people throwing up. These dudes
Speaker 1: are just watching me at that tattoo shop and I'm
Speaker 1: like like hacking bits and like you right, So do
Speaker 1: you want to segue into the horrible decision? Did you
Speaker 1: guys do homail? Yep? Kind of what happened? Dude? What
Speaker 1: is the horrible decision? I thought we would talk about this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's it feels like just a body today. Do you
Speaker 1: know what? Though we never have like four people on
Speaker 1: the mic, it's just something we really don't prefer to do.
Speaker 1: So I just feel really okay because you guys are
Speaker 1: already doing this. We don't have to anybody like you
Speaker 1: do panels like whatever. I'm chilling right. So I guess
Speaker 1: what we wanted to talk about today for the horrible
Speaker 1: decision had to do with infidelity. Um, so I want
Speaker 1: to know have either of you cheated or been cheated on?
Speaker 1: And if so, did you choose to stay with your partner?
Speaker 1: And then we'll segue into the open relationship, etcetera, etcetera.
Speaker 1: But that's the question to both of you. I've cheated before.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I got cheated on same guy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we did it to each other with each other right now.
Speaker 1: But it's not him. It's not him, it's not him.
Speaker 1: That's my daddy. He doesn't do daddy. Now wait, wait
Speaker 1: this boyfriend, No, this is not the boyfriend I'm talking about. Wait,
Speaker 1: but you thought have one, you know? Yeah, that's my
Speaker 1: boyfriend a previous relationship where I cheated and was cheated
Speaker 1: on because listen, I was like, because we're still fucking yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I'm still sucking him. But that's my boyfriend. You cheated
Speaker 1: on him? No? I never cheated on him and cheated
Speaker 1: with him. No, okay, you your last boyfriend. Yeah, let's
Speaker 1: get back to the last boyfriend. So you both cheated
Speaker 1: on each other? Was it revenge cheating? Did you do
Speaker 1: it and get caught? Like? How did that happen? I?
Speaker 1: Whenever I did, I didn't get caught. Women, No, I
Speaker 1: told I would tell him like my conscience will kill me,
Speaker 1: so I would tell him, but he would always get called.
Speaker 1: And how did he get called? Facebook? Because I stopped
Speaker 1: your Facebook and I stopped your hold a social media
Speaker 1: So I find a little ship like she like too
Speaker 1: many pictures see Mattern's bits right right, you should play
Speaker 1: like you should be like officers and lawyers. Dude, I
Speaker 1: want to be an FBI agent for Halloween, but Loki,
Speaker 1: it's like honestly my everyday living. So yeah, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be a nun because that's my day. Screen shots when
Speaker 1: the nikkel tells me, like he'd be like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm over here in babe blah blah click, okay, so
Speaker 1: Saturday and not listen. In an open relationship, the bare
Speaker 1: minimum you can do is be honest. So I need
Speaker 1: to catch if you're gonna lie, because then I know
Speaker 1: you really aren't ship. You feel me? So what made
Speaker 1: you cheat on him? Like? Was it that you knew
Speaker 1: he cheated on you? Or were you seeking something else?
Speaker 1: I think I knew that he was going to cheat,
Speaker 1: so I was like, I'll do it first. What I
Speaker 1: just knew that he wasn't ship, Like, I was like,
Speaker 1: I'll do it first, but you're not. You did it
Speaker 1: to save your heart right, so I had it. I
Speaker 1: was like I featured to it. So he was like,
Speaker 1: see that's an actual kind of cheating, Like that's smart,
Speaker 1: that's smart smart He's like to cheat to save their heartbreak?
Speaker 1: Why why would you even wasn't shipped? I just I
Speaker 1: couldn't help that I had feelings for him? Did it
Speaker 1: wasn't hard to cheat? Like? Did you have to really
Speaker 1: like go out by something? Like I'm saying because cheating
Speaker 1: normally is like accidental, but like you have to put
Speaker 1: effort into it to do it, Like when you're a woman.
Speaker 1: You go out in the nigga fine and want to
Speaker 1: fight y'all fucking it's not Yeah, I didn't like the
Speaker 1: cheating you did. Are you didn't like you? Like I
Speaker 1: didn't have sex with somebody else. I just like, messed
Speaker 1: with somebody else? What's messed? I guess right? High school
Speaker 1: relationship when white guys tell me the word like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know we just hooked up. What do that mean?
Speaker 1: You messed? Like? No, not like that, but like we did,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you what mess means.
Speaker 1: All right, So they made out and he probably put
Speaker 1: his fingers somewhere it was supposed to be inappropriate. That
Speaker 1: don't count to me. That don't count fingering, But that's
Speaker 1: still cheating. Like your man do that? You don't know?
Speaker 1: You're not gonna be like, that's not The girl gives
Speaker 1: him my hands automatically think that why think? Are you crazy?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna sit here and be like, was she in
Speaker 1: high school? What then? Are you doing getting a hand job? Ahead? No?
Speaker 1: No finger and hand job? Yeah? So this is a
Speaker 1: boyfriend in high school? Yeah, okay, high school ship. This
Speaker 1: doesn't count. What are we talking about that I'm turning
Speaker 1: to Okay, yeah, yeah, it doesn't count. Say you're talking
Speaker 1: about finger popping and chips. Why you're saying we messed
Speaker 1: around because like growing as man is sitting there kissing
Speaker 1: her finger and that I do that because giving guys
Speaker 1: like anything, you what I have, just like make up
Speaker 1: and be like I'm not giving you ship like not
Speaker 1: not it would be like that. Sometimes it depends in
Speaker 1: like the situation and the time and how tired you
Speaker 1: My situation, I was tired, so I was like, just
Speaker 1: give you some roll over? Up because of the cheating
Speaker 1: or did you guys break up for another reason? Um,
Speaker 1: I grew, I just blew out of the relationship just
Speaker 1: like I want something. So right now you're in a
Speaker 1: relationship where you don't feel like you have to cheat.
Speaker 1: Everything secure? Yeah that together, Um they have no reunions, no,
Speaker 1: no anniversaries going on. How long you have been together?
Speaker 1: A week on his fingers? Is that eight months? Yeah?
Speaker 1: That's it to cheat on each other. Yet, so before
Speaker 1: before we actually got into relationship, we were just friends
Speaker 1: for nine months and we didn't do like anything. You
Speaker 1: never want to him, No, you didn't want to him.
Speaker 1: He's good looking. It was hard, but he didn't. I
Speaker 1: don't know. We just didn't like it just never happened.
Speaker 1: I was never He's light skinned with a beard, and
Speaker 1: you trust him now? How yeah? I trust him. He
Speaker 1: doesn't look like the truck's worthy type. He he has
Speaker 1: dimpal so you're probably crazy crazy mean, I get it. Okay,
Speaker 1: So actually, real quick, this is not this is I'm weazy,
Speaker 1: she literally has. So can we get the video someone?
Speaker 1: I want to play the audio from this video because
Speaker 1: now that we're talking about her boyfriend, I want to discuss. Sorry,
Speaker 1: this is not about cheating, but it could be about cheating,
Speaker 1: because I feel like this is a good reason for
Speaker 1: someone to cheat with your motherfucking mindset. So we're gonna
Speaker 1: play this motherfucking video real quick, and I want you
Speaker 1: to listen because you ain't hurt a bit because you
Speaker 1: ain't do your research. She said she watched it this morning. Okay,
Speaker 1: well I'm going to play it. So the infidelity conversation
Speaker 1: so different, So litt listen. I'm gonna play it for
Speaker 1: you guys. Nothing nothing I said there and I got
Speaker 1: what I want. Wait, do you cook if you want?
Speaker 1: That's all? He is pissed. Bro, this is great. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying this. You're like, oh, it's my my magical
Speaker 1: pussy like your pussy. You know, everyone pussy is. Pussy
Speaker 1: is special, irish rare. Every other chick is walking around
Speaker 1: with Did you already play this listening? No, I haven't
Speaker 1: come here for a second. I'm serious, come here. I'm
Speaker 1: just motioning your boyfriend to come here. How long did
Speaker 1: you do that? Um that that video was like July
Speaker 1: we recorded them. Okay, so you guys are together. Yes,
Speaker 1: when you watched it, how do you feel nothing? Get
Speaker 1: nothing about it? It didn't make you feel like ship
Speaker 1: when you watched it, because I'm not here to do
Speaker 1: anything for me? What if he said that about you?
Speaker 1: I want to care? What do you didn't care that?
Speaker 1: He pretty much said I do nothing for my female
Speaker 1: I got this, did she need money? And I got
Speaker 1: she need? Well that wasn't hold. So that's that's the part.
Speaker 1: That's the video that's going right roll on Twitter. Right,
Speaker 1: that's the only thing. But if you watched the whole
Speaker 1: entire show, I actually like I talk about like other
Speaker 1: things that I do do for him. But it's just
Speaker 1: like I didn't like being asked the question of like housewife,
Speaker 1: Like they asked me, like do I cook for him?
Speaker 1: Why do I have to cook for him? Why don't
Speaker 1: Why don't I ever get asked does my boyfriend cooked
Speaker 1: for me? Do you live together? So wait, like raven together?
Speaker 1: Almost like probably another year, you will write, someone's least
Speaker 1: gonna be up man name. Let's let us rent. So
Speaker 1: this sounds like they're splitting rent for sure. I just
Speaker 1: I'm really curious, Like, so what do you like are
Speaker 1: you with you both working unto five? Like we don't
Speaker 1: have a job, okay, so like you both work for
Speaker 1: the hours a week, so that's a lot of time.
Speaker 1: Are you ever gonna feel like if the house is
Speaker 1: dirty that you gotta blame her for that. We're gonna
Speaker 1: both be working. It depends on who has the time
Speaker 1: during the day to actually come home if we ever
Speaker 1: get to that point where were living together, who actually
Speaker 1: had the time of day to um do the shorts first? Right,
Speaker 1: It's like I work from I work from seven to six,
Speaker 1: two jobs and I go to school from That's a lot.
Speaker 1: So you are you in school and work too? I
Speaker 1: just graduated, so you do a lot more out of
Speaker 1: the house. So like, are you gonna feel like you
Speaker 1: have more responsible now. The thing is, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: lie right now. It makes sense. All he got time
Speaker 1: for the diamond bussy. That's all she got. Like and
Speaker 1: at that time you get home as good Old Sam
Speaker 1: would be good as health time guys, Honey, turkey and cheese, sandwich,
Speaker 1: some chips on us soft. It's good. Yeah. But when
Speaker 1: we started our relationship, I've always said that, and I
Speaker 1: always tell guys that, like, I'm not I'm not about
Speaker 1: to be your housewife. I'm not to be in the
Speaker 1: house like cooking for you while you'll here cheating like
Speaker 1: I see my wait, my mom was scorn brol. My
Speaker 1: mom was the thank you boyfriend, we're gonna we're gonna
Speaker 1: try to get your girlfriend. No, no, Look, so my
Speaker 1: mom was with my stepfather for years. My mom done
Speaker 1: had the house nice and clean for him every single
Speaker 1: day to come home from work. What ch your background?
Speaker 1: By the way, you I'm Dominican. So she had the
Speaker 1: house nice and clean. Friend where he came home, he
Speaker 1: didn't have to deal with the kids because they were
Speaker 1: already in bed. Homework was done, the house was nice
Speaker 1: and clean, his food was nice and cooked. He didn't
Speaker 1: have to do ship, but come home she didn't work
Speaker 1: or nothing. So I guess it was just like that, like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you're bringing the money, I'll do I'll do the housewife stuff.
Speaker 1: She did all of that, raised all his kids and
Speaker 1: still got cheated on. So I just don't Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: you didn't. We I mean, you have a new man,
Speaker 1: new relationship. We gotta stop harvoring them old feelings, right,
Speaker 1: And so he's at work and in school, so like
Speaker 1: really holding it down because eventually, like we want you
Speaker 1: to not work. Though, do you feel like, whether it's
Speaker 1: because maybe you're not married or something like that, that
Speaker 1: you shouldn't have to hold those household duties down. I mean,
Speaker 1: especially when you're a man is going to be that busy.
Speaker 1: Let's say you do live together, but we're both that
Speaker 1: busy and like I really just graduated college, like what
Speaker 1: he or something like, we're both that busy. I just
Speaker 1: feel like, unfortunately, and I'll sit here and say this
Speaker 1: because I feel like so many guys right now got
Speaker 1: bitch as tendencies, and it's because so many females aren't
Speaker 1: embracing the roles of women anymore either, and they out
Speaker 1: here I can like niggas and to me, I feel
Speaker 1: like as a woman yet and as a woman, there's
Speaker 1: certain things that we should do and our man should
Speaker 1: want us for. And I kind of wanted to ask
Speaker 1: you this, but you're not on the mic anymore. But
Speaker 1: I wanted to know, like, besides pussy, what else are
Speaker 1: you offering that? What else can you bring as a female?
Speaker 1: What else? I mean besides the pussy? Do you do
Speaker 1: you want to say? I mean, I would like to know.
Speaker 1: Does I mean? I get it? It's a magical pussy,
Speaker 1: because let's be real, like, right, you're cute like bear tats?
Speaker 1: Why her? You know you? I'm sure you have a
Speaker 1: bunch of girls. So what made you want to wipe her?
Speaker 1: Because we're single? No, but really, especially when after you
Speaker 1: hear you say all right, honestly, she was honest from
Speaker 1: the drum, from the minute that we started talking. She
Speaker 1: told me from the drump that she will not cooking me.
Speaker 1: This girl then told me she was never gonna love me,
Speaker 1: she would never have sex with me, she would never
Speaker 1: be with me because of the already, because of the
Speaker 1: background I had. So but this is what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: it's more It's more like when she had that conversation,
Speaker 1: I didn't get upset abody because she does cook well.
Speaker 1: People were making a seem like she was like, I
Speaker 1: have to obligate her to make me a me She's
Speaker 1: not obligated to make me a meal my mother. My
Speaker 1: mother raised me to never depend on the female. So
Speaker 1: I work harder than I make the money that could
Speaker 1: buy my own food if I want to make something,
Speaker 1: and I know how to cook, so I can cook
Speaker 1: for her as well. It's equality. We can do things
Speaker 1: for each other. Okay, it's most people like she from
Speaker 1: the jump, from the minute we got together, she was
Speaker 1: honestly like, I'm not gonna cook. I don't cook. I
Speaker 1: don't know how to. I'm like holding something back that
Speaker 1: I don't know. Don't don't cute, They're very cute. No, No,
Speaker 1: But the thing is, I think I hate I hate
Speaker 1: being asked what do I have to bring to the table?
Speaker 1: Let feel like a man is never I absolutely agree
Speaker 1: with you, especially as a self proclaimed feminist, but I
Speaker 1: also know that with longevity, right, Like, I've just seen
Speaker 1: relationships over and over time after time. Think about when
Speaker 1: you have a guy that wants to cheat on their girlfriend.
Speaker 1: What's the first thing they say, she doesn't do this.
Speaker 1: But if we go by that, that's bullshit because I
Speaker 1: can give him. I can give a guy the world,
Speaker 1: But I've said that about man when I've cheated. He's
Speaker 1: not making me feel wanted. He's not doing these things
Speaker 1: or whatever, he's not taking me out on date. You
Speaker 1: can do all of that and they will still cheat,
Speaker 1: Like they're still gonna cheat that. But I don't they like,
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm like in my I don't start
Speaker 1: the relationship thinking if I cook this Nike is still
Speaker 1: might go out a bit. No, No, I just don't.
Speaker 1: That's just it's not like I don't like to do
Speaker 1: it for a man. I just I don't like to cook,
Speaker 1: Like even before I got to relationship with him. My
Speaker 1: thing is I want to be so rich I can
Speaker 1: hire a chef one day, like that's never paid. My
Speaker 1: mentality like come home, Like I don't know, is there
Speaker 1: anything you enjoy about like taking care of whether it
Speaker 1: be laundry or like something like that you like doing
Speaker 1: for him or do you really have this like mentality
Speaker 1: like I'm not doing ship you're grown as man. Some
Speaker 1: women do, which is what it seems like you are.
Speaker 1: But is there anything you do? For example, I stay
Speaker 1: to do there's a lot of money, so when he
Speaker 1: I know he takes care of ship, and I'd like
Speaker 1: to clean his house. I do. Sometimes he'll come back
Speaker 1: and I liked him to know his house was clean. Whatever.
Speaker 1: That's something that I like to do. It makes me
Speaker 1: feel good. It's not because I feel like I have to.
Speaker 1: He doesn't ask me. I like to make the bed,
Speaker 1: like to fold his clothes if they were in the corner,
Speaker 1: or whatever, clean things up like. I like him knowing
Speaker 1: that I can do that. Now I've done things like
Speaker 1: that for him. But there is there any things that
Speaker 1: you enjoy doing? Or do you feel bitter about it?
Speaker 1: Because he sounds now it sounds it sounds like you
Speaker 1: don't like doing these things. I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just enjoy him like I enjoy being with my man.
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like we stop putting pressure on relationship.
Speaker 1: I want to know this because we do have another
Speaker 1: guy in the building. Would you date a female with that?
Speaker 1: And why? Because I'm not playing that. How do you
Speaker 1: I'm twenty nine years I'm huh different. Now I feel
Speaker 1: like we gotta play ball. Man, relationship is all about
Speaker 1: playing ball, and the house gotta get clean somehow somewhere.
Speaker 1: If we're going if we're gonna hire somebody to do
Speaker 1: that because we're both busy, then we're playing ball. That's
Speaker 1: that's the agreement we're gonna But I gotta make sure
Speaker 1: that my girl knows how to handle these things so
Speaker 1: that way that could be passing on to my daughter
Speaker 1: or you know what I'm saying. She can't clean the house,
Speaker 1: She's gotta be able to. I've cleaned his house, like
Speaker 1: there's been times like babe, I'm gonna go play basketball.
Speaker 1: I'm just chilling his house. And I have cleaned his
Speaker 1: home before. And there's been times where I'm home and
Speaker 1: he's in my house and I wake up and he
Speaker 1: has breakfast ready for me. I just don't people are
Speaker 1: making it seem like I had, like these are things
Speaker 1: that I have to do, Like I just don't think
Speaker 1: I have. Do you think there's anything for you in
Speaker 1: your relationship? When're looking for women, they do have to do?
Speaker 1: Not have to excuse me. I don't take that word back,
Speaker 1: like the pressure like right right, do you need? I
Speaker 1: just feel like apart from their emotional things because listen, man,
Speaker 1: it's like it's a million and ones like on that tape,
Speaker 1: there's just like a billion pussy's on the planet, all right,
Speaker 1: So so so being there's a lot and the fact
Speaker 1: that women mature and get old a lot faster. My
Speaker 1: whole thing is, you don't want a younger female coming
Speaker 1: in the game with a little bit of like you know,
Speaker 1: juice and knows how to do these extra things. And
Speaker 1: then you know what I'm saying, costract the nigger, and
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, he and he looks at
Speaker 1: it like, oh ship, my girl, don't do that, My girl,
Speaker 1: don't do that. So it's easier for I'm to speaking
Speaker 1: that I choose to do those things. And those the
Speaker 1: reason I know my nigga needs to wake up and
Speaker 1: comment like a little hole on my Instagram just like
Speaker 1: the other ones. Well you need to be thirsty for
Speaker 1: not only that, I wanted to bring a question to
Speaker 1: you because I'm thinking of myself while y'all are answering this,
Speaker 1: what do you expect from him? Before you answer that,
Speaker 1: I'll give you where this question comes from. To me,
Speaker 1: my man, I want to be I feel like a
Speaker 1: man's job is to provide. So I'm not spilling bills. Sorry, bro,
Speaker 1: that's not me. We've discussied, we've we've had this discussion.
Speaker 1: So as a man and his job to be as
Speaker 1: a provider, I didn't grow up with that. I grew
Speaker 1: up in a single parent household as well, which is
Speaker 1: why since then every nigga fun has been rich because
Speaker 1: I'm not dealing with no broadcast nigga. And so I
Speaker 1: feel like, as a man, who I'm expecting to provide,
Speaker 1: to pay the bills, to take care of the house.
Speaker 1: Guess that's why I clean the house. Right. As a female,
Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, I'm gonna suck you. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do all this. You're not gonna make me suck you.
Speaker 1: Fuck you clean the house, wash the dishes, do all
Speaker 1: this and then expect me to split the rent. So
Speaker 1: to me, as you've got magical because but so to me,
Speaker 1: I feel like if I'm expecting that from him, like listen,
Speaker 1: I feel like, you need to be the provider and
Speaker 1: you need to take care of the household. The least
Speaker 1: I can do, not feeling an obligation, but the least
Speaker 1: I can do is make the house clean, make sure
Speaker 1: that the dishes washed the laungest. I am so proud
Speaker 1: of your daughter right now, let me tell you, because
Speaker 1: you really ain't ship, I am really mind saying that
Speaker 1: you don't talk like this privately with me. Well, you
Speaker 1: don't talk privately no more. I've never heard you say that.
Speaker 1: Me and crystill talk about it. We we debate this
Speaker 1: so much. I've almost heard you talk more like her. No,
Speaker 1: I'm serious. I've heard you say like, he's gonna do this,
Speaker 1: this this for me. I've never heard you say, well,
Speaker 1: that's why I ain't having sex, because I'm in the
Speaker 1: right where I'm not dealing with the boys because they
Speaker 1: look good no more. I'm looking for a man, and
Speaker 1: this is as what I'm looking for in a man.
Speaker 1: It's him to be a provider. And because he's a provider,
Speaker 1: I know that I can clean house. I know that,
Speaker 1: and I know that I should do that because I
Speaker 1: want to guy to provide. Which is why I'm asking you,
Speaker 1: what do you want from him? What are you expecting
Speaker 1: from him as a man? I just want him to
Speaker 1: always be honest with me. This is what you want
Speaker 1: to But I've never I've never said you're just enjoying it.
Speaker 1: I've never I've never been there, even before being with
Speaker 1: I've never been the kind of girl where I want
Speaker 1: I don't want a guy to want to take care
Speaker 1: of me and then like possibly have that ship thrown
Speaker 1: in my face like I'm okay, Like I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have enough money to to provide for myself,
Speaker 1: like financially, be okay. I don't want a guy to
Speaker 1: ever throw that in my face, like I did this
Speaker 1: for you, like I don't. I don't know, Well, it's
Speaker 1: not necessarily for you. If you lived together, you did
Speaker 1: this for us. It's for us, this for us or
Speaker 1: whatever you're like holding on the fort. I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: honest with you. I mean, like in eight months, and
Speaker 1: I trust me, I'm not doing this in a shitty way.
Speaker 1: But I know at twenty two, I don't know if
Speaker 1: I thought about things like that because I just enjoyed
Speaker 1: being in love now. And you know it's true. The
Speaker 1: cynicism like that I give off is because I don't
Speaker 1: have time to waste anymore. We're feeling like I can't,
Speaker 1: so I'm looking for different. I can't fall in love
Speaker 1: like this anymore and not know about these things. Oh
Speaker 1: and and even when getting into a relationship, it's like,
Speaker 1: do I see myself man and this man that's five
Speaker 1: years later? Like it's crazy how like it changes. I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's because maybe just like this dude, right,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I make too much now, if
Speaker 1: I got too many bills going on. I don't know
Speaker 1: what it is in my life that like I can't
Speaker 1: just feel like all I need is honesty or not
Speaker 1: only that I talked about seven and all my friends
Speaker 1: are like, why didn't you make him your boyfriend? Dada
Speaker 1: da da? And to me, I'm now, I literally graduated
Speaker 1: in December and I'm going into accounting of finance. And
Speaker 1: when I see tattoos on your neck, I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, can I take him to my Christmas party
Speaker 1: for my company? How will they? How will my um
Speaker 1: co workers look at me? And stuff like that. But
Speaker 1: you can't think about stuff like that. But but as
Speaker 1: a grown ass woman, I do care. As a grown
Speaker 1: ass woman, I do care about what my husband looks like.
Speaker 1: Do I want someone who's sagging his pants because he's
Speaker 1: going to be a representation of me, I mean pants
Speaker 1: and he makes you happy? So what you want a
Speaker 1: man to be judgment because you're not perfect, even none
Speaker 1: of y'all both for you. We got somebody that I
Speaker 1: want to say something. We got someone else in the studio.
Speaker 1: Y'all go ahead and drop with you. She wanted to
Speaker 1: say something real bad up because I understand what is
Speaker 1: coming from, Like you have to understand. It's nice to
Speaker 1: be able to be a woman and be able to
Speaker 1: cook for your man, clean free man, and do all
Speaker 1: the necessary responsibilities. I didn't grow up in a single
Speaker 1: parent household. I grew up with both my parents, my
Speaker 1: mom and my dad, and I've seen my mom literally
Speaker 1: be Melyssa where she told my father there was a
Speaker 1: point in time where my mother was in school full
Speaker 1: time and my father was doing all the women duties
Speaker 1: in the household, and they were maddening in love with
Speaker 1: each other. Still, my father has never cheated on my mother,
Speaker 1: not one moment in their relationship. And I feel like
Speaker 1: one thing that we get misconstrued, especially in our generation,
Speaker 1: is we have to uphold a certain image before we
Speaker 1: can obtain a certain type of love, and we keep
Speaker 1: forgetting that it's not only the characteristics that you have,
Speaker 1: but a lot of emotions also. How are you guys. Emotionally,
Speaker 1: it's nice to have a man that presents himself properly.
Speaker 1: It's nice to have a man that's rich. It's nice
Speaker 1: to have a man that has that proper nice to
Speaker 1: fiver works in the bank or as a lawyer. But
Speaker 1: then after that, what else is? You know what? I
Speaker 1: don't want to cut you off, but you just made
Speaker 1: me think of something. Why we're talking like this and
Speaker 1: why you are expecting something different? When you just asked
Speaker 1: what does she expect to him? She said one thing
Speaker 1: that was honestly, we are expecting way more things, and
Speaker 1: that's why we're willing to give more. So you aren't
Speaker 1: going to give all this ship because you ain't ask
Speaker 1: him for much, you know what I mean? So like
Speaker 1: that is just the difference and what we're looking for
Speaker 1: you want to have. You got to jump out his
Speaker 1: seat real quickly, finished, and then he got something you
Speaker 1: don't know what? You know what I'm saying. I'm sitting here,
Speaker 1: you and I are working for huge fucking companies, man,
Speaker 1: and like I can't do that either. I just can't.
Speaker 1: It's not right for my lifestyle right now or whatever.
Speaker 1: I can't. So I completely understand why I need a
Speaker 1: man to have these things. I don't need you to
Speaker 1: be a lawyer. I'm dating an entrepreneur, but I need
Speaker 1: you to be able to carry yourself out. I had
Speaker 1: to text on the other day by one, right, I mean,
Speaker 1: but no, but like what she's saying, she dude, she's
Speaker 1: talking about as a rapper, and like righteous you can
Speaker 1: I know, but you know, I mean, we're looking for
Speaker 1: something different. That's what we're offering as much as we
Speaker 1: are willing to. But but but then again, you guys
Speaker 1: did not decide who you got fall in love with, right,
Speaker 1: because it's emotional. It's an emotional attraction thing, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So you know, you're saying that you're
Speaker 1: not going rock with a dude because he got tattoos
Speaker 1: on his neck and sagging his pants him in the bedroom.
Speaker 1: But are you going out of that? But what I
Speaker 1: mean that there's like women that okay, like so I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna knock you. I got some girls that i'd
Speaker 1: be like that. But but then again, you just you
Speaker 1: just don't know who eventually, like the motions are going
Speaker 1: to build up. No, yeah, that's what happened. Like I
Speaker 1: did not think I was gonna fall for him, and
Speaker 1: I was like, yeo, why is he so funking on everything?
Speaker 1: He's like and I take you on the I was like,
Speaker 1: leave me, I'm not going to take with you. And
Speaker 1: I kept rejecting him, rejected him, and I started to
Speaker 1: like I was like a fucking shout, I like him.
Speaker 1: And then I was like no, I gotta stay away
Speaker 1: from and I try. I was like, yeah, we can't
Speaker 1: talk like I actually like you, so you need to
Speaker 1: like stay away and I'm just like in love and
Speaker 1: I'm like funk, like you really tried until I gave in,
Speaker 1: and it like I didn't know what that magic trick
Speaker 1: was because I might need a tip of two men
Speaker 1: talk to you know what? The thing he had to
Speaker 1: wait nine months for this. Wait hold on nine moms
Speaker 1: he waited for and then we were talking for like
Speaker 1: less than a month, and it was like, I want
Speaker 1: to celebrate. Were just friends, look if it was a friendship.
Speaker 1: He didn't wait. No, no, so we started talking. We
Speaker 1: talked for nine months and then that's where we kind
Speaker 1: of build our friendship through there. So we were the
Speaker 1: first month it was like less than a month for something.
Speaker 1: He was like, um, I want to I've never been.
Speaker 1: I've never celebrated my birthday and I was like, like,
Speaker 1: I'm mad, big on that's my birthday, Like, oh year,
Speaker 1: my birthday is just one day a year like. So
Speaker 1: he was like, I want to go to Miami for more.
Speaker 1: I said, alright, cool, seems like can I take you?
Speaker 1: I said yeah. I was like, if you take me
Speaker 1: to Miami, just no, I'm not sucking you, like, don't
Speaker 1: take don't fly me out because you think I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get pussy, because that's that's not the kind of girl.
Speaker 1: I am not sucking you. So no, he look, listen, heels.
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have got on that flight. But he was like,
Speaker 1: I'm not expecting you to suck men like Miami. No,
Speaker 1: we did? Did you want? I wanted to and I did.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just it's something like in my
Speaker 1: corshes that doesn't even like I have to feel comfortable
Speaker 1: with you in order to do it. Okay, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: this was no. This was the first month, Like I'm
Speaker 1: not I get it because like for me, I feel
Speaker 1: the same way, like the whole flyout thing. It makes
Speaker 1: you feel like okay, now I gotta suck you like, no, right,
Speaker 1: so I won't get on a flight, but I'm not
Speaker 1: making someone someone whatever, like but the thing is like
Speaker 1: what kept like, I don't know what is it? I
Speaker 1: just I'm just I don't know. I feel like like
Speaker 1: it's it's it's I just don't think I should have
Speaker 1: to give my pussy out that fast, like I don't know,
Speaker 1: I feel like but it was no, not no, no,
Speaker 1: no no. This was the first month, the first month
Speaker 1: that we started talking, he offered to take me to Miami, okay,
Speaker 1: And then after that that's when like, hold, I need
Speaker 1: to know you were like sleeping in the bed together,
Speaker 1: like we were sleeping. We were sleeping. One day, we
Speaker 1: got real drunk and went wet least um. Then we
Speaker 1: headed over to the hotel room. We took some shots
Speaker 1: and I was like, yo, I'm going to sleep, and
Speaker 1: I went to sleep, and then I spelled asleep but
Speaker 1: like my thong, and he was just like, you're going
Speaker 1: to sleep in yourself childish because as someone who's not
Speaker 1: even giving a pussy, why are you sleeping in the
Speaker 1: bed with a dong? No, I was drunk as chopping
Speaker 1: kind to say this, and so this is the boy's
Speaker 1: ready to get it out. So coming from my like
Speaker 1: not my background, but like the type of guy I
Speaker 1: was proughd to this. I've never been rejected from a
Speaker 1: female ever. And it's gonna sound like I'm being extremely
Speaker 1: conceived about it, but I've never been believe, I've never
Speaker 1: I've never I've never had to wait for pussy before. Ever.
Speaker 1: The simple fact that she made me wait those nine
Speaker 1: months it had me thinking like, if she made me wait,
Speaker 1: that means she never suck the man before. That means
Speaker 1: something about how must be special? That was one I'm
Speaker 1: twenty four. Wait now, had you've had a one night
Speaker 1: stand before? Right? No? I never had a one night
Speaker 1: stand you see if that's a different but she she haven't,
Speaker 1: but I have before. And the fact that she didn't
Speaker 1: do it to me when we are in a different state,
Speaker 1: You're making all dudes wait like this, are you quick? No,
Speaker 1: I've never d like, I don't. I don't say like
Speaker 1: nine months, I just wait what I feel like, I'm
Speaker 1: comfortable enough to you, you've never felt comfortable in a week?
Speaker 1: Hell no, really other for thirty five minutes. It seems
Speaker 1: like much longer. You know. It's funny because like when
Speaker 1: I was listening to you talk like it's funny now
Speaker 1: how because you're like to blah blah blah and super open,
Speaker 1: but like no, no exactly. And that's what's crazy because
Speaker 1: my friends are watching and they're like, you're not even
Speaker 1: like this, and I'm like, well, if I if I
Speaker 1: came down to it, like I would strip if something
Speaker 1: happened in my life, I would. And then the girl
Speaker 1: asked me, what do you what do you do when
Speaker 1: your man is hungry? Like that ship irritated the so
Speaker 1: out of me, Like, don't fucking ask what I'll do
Speaker 1: if he's hungry. Asked me what the funk he does
Speaker 1: when I'm hungry like that that ship? That ship bothered me,
Speaker 1: Like why he got to be hungry? I don't get
Speaker 1: know what that would have pissed me off to. And
Speaker 1: then people are like I need making airplane right, And
Speaker 1: then people are like on Twitter like so it's not
Speaker 1: about like um cooking for him, it's about keeping him nurtured.
Speaker 1: So I don't need to be healthy. I don't need to,
Speaker 1: but you're gonna no. But people are making it like,
Speaker 1: oh man, priority comes first before mine, and it's like, no,
Speaker 1: if I've cooked for us right, and I'm like, ya,
Speaker 1: I'm hungry. I'm gonna cook something. But it ain't like, oh,
Speaker 1: I see when they got on you, but from that
Speaker 1: reaction because I maybe maybe would have had the same
Speaker 1: But now hearing that you say, all you want from
Speaker 1: him is honesty, girl, I don't blame you said I
Speaker 1: really all you want is just the relationship you have.
Speaker 1: You're not thinking about anything else right now, so like
Speaker 1: there is nothing else to get, Like yeah, for what,
Speaker 1: that's a hope that, like long term, I think that
Speaker 1: financially will be fine. Like we're both in college and
Speaker 1: he's going to get his PhD because I'm playing that ship.
Speaker 1: So he's gonna get his PhD. And what are your degrees?
Speaker 1: I have a degree in psychology and women's studdies. Nice. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm going to school for exercise science and coodnesiology to
Speaker 1: become a fitness trainer. I'm trying to open up my
Speaker 1: own gym teacher working bot event now. So it's good.
Speaker 1: So I hope that finally, like finance, you're talking about
Speaker 1: him getting a PhD. I'm going I'm gonna get one too,
Speaker 1: Because I was going to say psychologies don't make sure
Speaker 1: you're not making no money. It's boy, we're going I
Speaker 1: have plan on going to That's one of those degrees
Speaker 1: that I try to steer people away from getting um. So,
Speaker 1: as long as you have like an end goal in
Speaker 1: what you want with that degree, I think that's that's
Speaker 1: definitely great, but it's definitely you need more interesting. To me,
Speaker 1: it's the most attractive field me too, Like I love you,
Speaker 1: don't get out. Yeah, but like when you love it,
Speaker 1: like they said, when you love it, you'll find a
Speaker 1: way to make love. Don't pay the bills. No, but
Speaker 1: I want to go. I want to go ready far
Speaker 1: with it. I'm still like trying to figure out exactly what.
Speaker 1: At first, I went into college with the mindset that
Speaker 1: I wanted to become a psychiatrist and be able to
Speaker 1: provide people medication. I realized I don't. I no longer
Speaker 1: have that passion, and I think that for me, I
Speaker 1: want to be able to do because I would love
Speaker 1: to dig into your script. No, yeah, me too. I
Speaker 1: want to be like take that ship. But like I
Speaker 1: just lost interest. So for me now, I feel like
Speaker 1: I want to provide reason. I want to provide psychological
Speaker 1: services to women who have been breaped. That's where my
Speaker 1: heart's right, that's like where I'm just like, so that's
Speaker 1: where i'm That's where I'm good for you, girl. I
Speaker 1: like that. I like that too. Sorry, No, I was
Speaker 1: gonna say, like she specifies her psychology into a specific format,
Speaker 1: maybe like for a specific sports team or something. It's
Speaker 1: still beyond a bachelor's you have to do masters and
Speaker 1: then you have to at least get a PhD in
Speaker 1: psychology any sort of like real money of course, and
Speaker 1: I hate to differentiate between real money and fake money,
Speaker 1: but there's a difference. And it's the thing, like there's
Speaker 1: a lot of people who major in psychology, so more
Speaker 1: people that major in it, the less money was right,
Speaker 1: The demand isn't the time because it's an oversaturated um
Speaker 1: you know, like talk space is super popular. Now you
Speaker 1: can make your own ship girl just a woman's hotline.
Speaker 1: And right now, ain't pays for the girl? Are you
Speaker 1: talking about? Pays for that? Hey to place? But let's right,
Speaker 1: but we gotta go ahead and this up. Guys. Thank
Speaker 1: you guys so much for coming on. Where can our
Speaker 1: listeners find you? Guys, We're not gonna put the boyfriend's
Speaker 1: Instagram out there because that's just all bad just out here,
Speaker 1: like I could be your boyfriend's girlfriend. So where can
Speaker 1: they find you, guys? Where can they find b K
Speaker 1: chat or YouTube b K chat? Um, there's a New
Speaker 1: York one and a London one. If YouTube b K
Speaker 1: chat and we'll see you get to watch the shows.
Speaker 1: It's just a debate show about you know, when male
Speaker 1: and female perspectives. And you can get to see different
Speaker 1: characters in New York, um, you know, discussing different you
Speaker 1: guys have an audience that watches it. Yeah, it's mainly
Speaker 1: right now, I think it's crazy. Man, they'be throwing the
Speaker 1: ship out of me now. I feel like right now
Speaker 1: that I think, correct me if I'm wrong. I think
Speaker 1: it's mainly like like an African audience, and I think
Speaker 1: that's why I'm We have a large African morning. And
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I saw you were the most
Speaker 1: vocal and then a girl name esterday. It was really
Speaker 1: driving me crazy. Well, I'm not gonna lie, I super.
Speaker 1: I was hoping we got to London house so over it, bro,
Speaker 1: and she was like, no, I got my body done.
Speaker 1: But you know I'm not gonna be a stripper. I
Speaker 1: mean but whatever, and then you had to come in
Speaker 1: there and be like, now he got upset because she
Speaker 1: was like, I got my body that He's like, how
Speaker 1: do you get your body done? And you don't twork?
Speaker 1: You're never gonna catch me working, girl, And you can
Speaker 1: get your body done to work. Guys, if you guys
Speaker 1: want to hear more of these type of debates in conversations,
Speaker 1: I know we have a ton on the show, but
Speaker 1: you guys can follow them on YouTube and be K
Speaker 1: chat and you want to let them know something else. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So it's b K chat World on Instagram and then
Speaker 1: b K Chat on YouTube. There's two different type of
Speaker 1: shows under that out right now. It's one for New
Speaker 1: York City, which are these guys, and then one for London,
Speaker 1: which is and I love them accents on about the
Speaker 1: show with the London, just the way they talk and
Speaker 1: they'll pronounces be like when I can talk to production
Speaker 1: because they need to be on at least the next one.
Speaker 1: So and you pushed ahead of you. But if that
Speaker 1: was crazy topic these bitches is hard. We know. Hey,
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