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Speaker 1: First Date is follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com. Martina is on the

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Speaker 1: phone today for a first date follow up, and she's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas. So in a

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Speaker 1: few minutes we'll call him and see if he'll tell

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Speaker 1: us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Martina, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 1: heard from Lucas?

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Speaker 2: Nine days?

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Speaker 3: It's been nine days, Okay, okay, not too bad. How

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Speaker 3: many times have you reached bed? This is a long time, Victoria. Yah,

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Speaker 3: that day is a long time when you like had

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Speaker 3: some chemistry with that person.

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Speaker 1: So I'm trying to make yourself well, nine days, I

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Speaker 1: think it's a long time. It is, and I'm really

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Speaker 1: sorry that you're experiencing that. Why don't you tell us

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Speaker 1: about this guy? How is the date? Why do you

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Speaker 1: want to get a hold of him so bad?

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Speaker 2: Well, it was a great date. We went out to dinner,

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Speaker 2: which was just amazing. It was this little Asian fusion spot.

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Speaker 2: It was his idea.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 4: I just thought it was really intant, Like it's not

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Speaker 4: your basic Paca Tuesday type of thing, you know, what

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Speaker 4: I mean, like it was he remembered.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so he's listening to you. It wasn't basic. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: so what else?

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Speaker 2: Well, he like he really thought about it. He brought

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Speaker 2: a deck of those question cards, you know those cards

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Speaker 2: I gets to get to know someone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh that's cute. One of those my friend married handy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was cute questions.

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Speaker 4: It was like like when was the last time you're embarrassed?

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Speaker 2: And when are you most at peace? And it wasn't

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Speaker 2: like we didn't geet like crazy deep.

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Speaker 4: It just felt like something was building, Like I was

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Speaker 4: really I was just really excited to see where it

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Speaker 2: Well, it's an end there. It actually kept going.

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Speaker 1: Oh good, yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He wanted me to.

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Speaker 4: Go back to his place to try this tequila that

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Speaker 4: his uncle made that you can't get anywhere.

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Speaker 2: It was just special.

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Speaker 4: Like we had the tequila, which was great, We had

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Speaker 4: some line, we had it more, and then I ubered home.

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Speaker 1: Okay, can you think of any reason that you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I can maybe one thing. I was

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Speaker 4: a little bit anxious in the car because I didn't

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Speaker 4: decide to tell him something personal. I guess I will

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Speaker 4: tell you okay, I'm a virgin.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 4: I just felt like I needed to tell him because

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Speaker 4: we'd kissed a few times and I felt like, you know,

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Speaker 4: there's chemistry, and I thought, okay, things could go further,

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Speaker 4: and I don't want to get there.

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Speaker 2: And have it be a whole thing. I just wanted

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Speaker 2: him to know that, you know.

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Speaker 1: How did he respond to that. He thanked me.

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Speaker 4: He was quiet for a minute, and then he thanked

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Speaker 4: me and he said he appreciated me being honest. And

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Speaker 4: then I felt so relieved, obviously, and then it was

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Speaker 1: Again, Like okay, but do you think maybe that's the

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Speaker 1: reason why though, because maybe I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Kind of That's what's throwing me off, is like he

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Speaker 4: He was like into me, you know, and I thought

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Speaker 4: we were vibing, and now I'm here like overthinking.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Like some people aren't ready to take on that responsibility.

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Speaker 3: So it could be that maybe he does like you.

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Speaker 3: It just maybe he's processing I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well let's figure it out. We'll play a song,

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Speaker 1: come back and then call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 1: tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get you

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Speaker 1: a second date. If you still want one. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much. Get your first day follow up

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Speaker 1: right after this if you're just joining us for today's

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Speaker 1: first Day follow up. Martina is on the phone and

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Speaker 1: we're about to call Lucas. He's been Ghostinger for nine

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Speaker 1: days and she doesn't know why, and we'll see if

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Speaker 1: he'll tell us why he's Ghostinger and maybe get her

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Speaker 1: a second date if she still wants one. But before

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Speaker 1: we do that, Martina, why don't you tell us about

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Speaker 1: your situation again real quick?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Well, we had a wonderful date. It was so great.

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Speaker 4: We just connected and it didn't end after dinner. The

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Speaker 4: only thing that I'm thinking maybe scare him a little

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Speaker 4: bit was that I did tell him that I've never

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Speaker 4: slept with anyone before. And I don't know if that

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Speaker 4: was the thing that freaked him out. It didn't seem

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Speaker 4: like it, which is why I'm so confused. Like we

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Speaker 4: kept hanging out. We had a great time.

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Speaker 2: After that, so I don't I don't really know why.

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Speaker 1: Okay, are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, speak to Lucas please.

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Speaker 1: Ye Hey, Lucas, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jebel Show. Yeah, Hi, Lucas, I'm Nina. Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm Victoria and I'm Jubil.

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Speaker 3: How are you, Hia Victoria double Hi?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Hi, how are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm okay, this is weird.

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Speaker 1: I know you got a minute for us to talk

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Speaker 1: to you about something?

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Speaker 2: Okay, So we do.

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Speaker 1: A segment on our show it's called the First Date

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Speaker 1: follow Up. That's where if you go out on a

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Speaker 1: date with somebody and you end up ghosting them, that

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Speaker 1: person can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 1: and ask why you're ghosting them. And we got an

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Speaker 1: email about you from somebody?

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Speaker 2: Is it Martina?

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Speaker 1: Oh you knew that quick, Yes it is. It's Martina.

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Speaker 1: She said it's been nine days since her date and

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Speaker 1: she thought that you guys had a really great time,

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Speaker 1: and she's confused. Would you mind telling us why you're

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Speaker 1: ghosting her?

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Speaker 2: I mean, well, I mean yeah, I could.

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Speaker 5: I mean what it comes down to is she ruined

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Speaker 5: something really important to me.

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Speaker 6: What she's stilled a full glass of wine on a

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Speaker 6: signed autographed photo of fifty cent that I have and

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Speaker 6: it's really personal to me.

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Speaker 1: She just destroyed it.

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Speaker 6: I was in college and you know, here's a big

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Speaker 6: deal at the time, but I used to have assigned okay,

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Speaker 6: and it actually you don't even understand.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't just a sign photo of fifty. It was

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Speaker 5: me and him and the photo together and then he

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Speaker 5: signed it. Yeah, it was really important to me. My

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Speaker 5: uncle had it framed and everything, and I just took

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Speaker 5: where we were talking about knowing celebrities and stuff. And

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Speaker 5: I showed her this picture and I sat it down

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Speaker 5: and then she just spilled her wine glass all over it,

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Speaker 3: She wasn't like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I

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Speaker 2: So that's kind of what it was.

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Speaker 6: She was like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, but

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Speaker 6: I'm not sure you can get another one, right, and

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Speaker 1: Oh, like what am I supposed to do?

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Speaker 5: Like he doesn't perform anymore, I can't like just get

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Speaker 1: Should always just do show up at his house and

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Speaker 1: ask him tell the story. Yeah, that's okay, not gonna work.

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Speaker 1: So that's the reason that your ghostinger is because she

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Speaker 1: spilled wine on your fifty cent photo and then she

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Speaker 1: didn't even apologize. Oh okay, i'd be frust Thank you

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Speaker 1: for telling us. Appreciate that, Lucas and Lucas. Now I'll

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Speaker 1: let you know that Martina is actually on the phone

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Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that makes sense. Wait, seriously, that's why over a

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Speaker 2: stupid photo. Stupid?

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Speaker 5: No, baby girl, No, this is this is not stupid.

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Speaker 2: This is my signed photo of fifty You turned it

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Speaker 2: into a Merlow motor murder scene like you see? Does

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Speaker 2: the problem that? Sorry? I did say sorry, Well, it's

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Speaker 2: not going to bring fifty back? Is it? Actually what

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Speaker 2: you said was an I quote. I'm sure your uncle

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Speaker 2: can get you another one. Uh I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: guess not. Uh No, I don't know what it more.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you got through a couple of semesters in college.

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Speaker 6: I mean, like, who doesn't like fifty cent?

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Speaker 3: Are you?

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Speaker 2: Are you beating for real right now?

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Speaker 1: I like, I mean I think need to like fifty

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Speaker 1: cent too. I mean I've really watched the show work

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Speaker 1: at the radio, right, Yes, yes you do.

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Speaker 6: Everybody dies, It's.

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Speaker 4: Gonna be okay, Okay, Well, I'm sure we can get

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Speaker 4: to another one and he isn't dead, you know, like

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Speaker 4: it's possible to just get.

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Speaker 2: To another one. I can get one on eBay, like

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Speaker 2: I don't. I don't know why. That's the reason you.

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Speaker 1: Can get a future of me with city on edit.

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Speaker 2: Okay, what if I get a ticket? I can get

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Speaker 2: a fifty cent ticket. We'll go to the show Man.

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Speaker 2: You know what, I don't even want to deal with this.

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Speaker 6: You know, you're just like you're just a virgin who

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Speaker 6: doesn't know how to apologize.

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Speaker 2: And I really I don't want to deal with this.

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Speaker 2: So it is because I knew it. I knew it,

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Speaker 2: and don't ask like you're okay with something when you're not.

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Speaker 2: We actually could have talked about this. I would have

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Speaker 2: wanted to talk.

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Speaker 1: To we're here, Well, Lucas, would you like to go

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Speaker 1: on another day with Martine? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 2: No, Martina, you don't get to go to the candy shop.

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Speaker 4: Martin, I'm sorry, I don't even know what that means.

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Speaker 2: But okay, oh my god, you don't even know candy shop?

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Speaker 1: Over you?

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Speaker 2: Where are you from?

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Speaker 1: Locas? Thank you for telling us why you're a ghostinger.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate that, and I hope someday you get a

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Speaker 1: new fifty cent photo.

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Speaker 2: Can you like hook up another photo or something.

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Speaker 1: I have a friend now him, but you know, we'll see.

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Speaker 2: I'll take you out. Anna. I mean if you're heard

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Speaker 2: that people have some time.

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying I think we're good. Yeah. And Martina,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry you you know, didn't get another date.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I am so glad I didn't lose my

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Speaker 4: virginity to you.

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Speaker 1: Juble's first date follow up