WEBVTT - Ask Banya: Sleep Smell

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<v Speaker 1>Ready, ready, Ready, there we go scrubbing in with Tilly

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<v Speaker 1>and Tanya d An iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing intis we are another day another?

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<v Speaker 2>Ask Bonya?

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<v Speaker 1>That's right? I like Teka. I don't like Bonya. Actually

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<v Speaker 1>Techa's so I don't know, harsh Yeah, I agree.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>No, there's a rapper named Little Teka who had a

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<v Speaker 3>song on.

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<v Speaker 1>Thee so we can't. We can't take that right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no we can. How do we compete with Little Teka?

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<v Speaker 1>No? No, no, it's Bonya. Yeah, ask Bonya.

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<v Speaker 2>Ask Bonya. So what inspired this episode was or some

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<v Speaker 2>of this episode was that Hannah Gee from whose Colton

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<v Speaker 2>season of The Bachelor answered someone's question on TikTok about

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<v Speaker 2>what were the flights and travel days like when you're

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<v Speaker 2>on the Bachelor. And it has been a long time

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<v Speaker 2>since that time of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy, how long has it been.

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<v Speaker 2>I filmed the first season I did in twenty fourteen,

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<v Speaker 2>so ten years this September will be ten years.

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<v Speaker 1>That's crazy. A decade, a decade, so crazy.

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<v Speaker 4>And look at you, so much has happened, so much

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<v Speaker 4>has happened, so much has changed, and yet so much

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<v Speaker 4>has remained.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so much.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah through the hour class Yeah yeah, yeah, are

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<v Speaker 1>the days of our lives.

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<v Speaker 2>So when we were on the Bachelor, it was Christmas season.

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<v Speaker 2>Was really funny because I went on The Bachelor thinking

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<v Speaker 2>it was going to really fulfill my wonderlust desire to

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<v Speaker 2>travel and explore the world, because I was thinking, worst

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<v Speaker 2>case scenario, if I'm not into him, I'll go on

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<v Speaker 2>some cool helicopter rides and see new places. Not even

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<v Speaker 2>realizing that when you're filming something, you're not really leaving

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<v Speaker 2>and going off to explore. You're kind of at their mercy,

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<v Speaker 2>not kind.

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<v Speaker 1>Of your mercy, like you stuck in a hotel room.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're not going anywhere unless you're with the produce,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, with everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so lame. They should give you, guys, like free time.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes if there was a day in between the travel day,

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<v Speaker 2>you would have time off. But you you had you

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<v Speaker 2>were still with the producers and the cast. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>it was very and you'd have your phone, so you

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<v Speaker 2>were very attached to them because you couldn't really go

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<v Speaker 2>anywhere else.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyways, the funny part about that is that I

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<v Speaker 2>thought I was going to explore the world, and we

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<v Speaker 2>stayed in the Midwest the whole time, so, right, I

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<v Speaker 2>did explore places that, yeah, the heartland of the USA.

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<v Speaker 2>I did explore places that I would never go to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. So that was kind of cool in the sense,

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<v Speaker 2>and I have good memories from it. But we ended

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<v Speaker 2>up going to Bali, And I don't think when I

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<v Speaker 2>think about flying on Chris's season, I don't have a

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<v Speaker 2>memory of this. But on Ben's season, I remember we

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<v Speaker 2>took a flight to the Bahamas, and so it was

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<v Speaker 2>a small plane and they only have so many flights

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<v Speaker 2>out to the islands, you know, and Ben was in

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<v Speaker 2>first class and we were all in the same flight.

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<v Speaker 2>So Ben's in first class with his producer and handler

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<v Speaker 2>and then all of his girlfriends that he's dating at

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<v Speaker 2>the same time had to walk by him back to

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<v Speaker 2>our economy.

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<v Speaker 1>So awkward. That is. So they also should have just

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<v Speaker 1>like had him come in the plane last. Right, He's

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<v Speaker 1>not just sitting there watching everybody pass.

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<v Speaker 2>We were like, hey, Ben, and you can tell he

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<v Speaker 2>was embarrassed, Like, God, this is so awkward. But the

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<v Speaker 2>airports are really fun because we it was when they

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<v Speaker 2>first had vending machines for makeup stuff. Do you remember,

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<v Speaker 2>like the Bourbank Airport has it and some other airport benefit.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, benefit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you would have thought that we had just stepped

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<v Speaker 2>into Mall of America. Like we went crazy. The duty

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<v Speaker 2>free stores, we went crazy and because it was all

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<v Speaker 2>we could do to shop, So my god, the airports

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<v Speaker 2>were just a thrill.

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<v Speaker 1>How long were you gone all in like when you

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<v Speaker 1>left the house till when you came home? Like, what

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<v Speaker 1>did they tell you prepare for this many days of

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<v Speaker 1>like underwear and stuff?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Well, I mean the time max was eight weeks,

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<v Speaker 2>so you had to pack.

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<v Speaker 1>For eight weeks because eight times seven.

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<v Speaker 2>Eight times seven is fifty six.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you have is that right?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have to bring?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have to bring fifty six pairs of underwear? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a washing machine, so you guys just do your laundry.

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<v Speaker 2>In the house. You do, and then once you go.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, they have handlers and stuff. So if you

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<v Speaker 2>need if you need a makeup or if you ran

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<v Speaker 2>out of something that you need.

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<v Speaker 1>To go buy you underwear like Victoria's Secret.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, are you like staining your underwear?

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<v Speaker 1>Why can't you wash it in the sink in a

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<v Speaker 1>hotel room.

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<v Speaker 2>No, like we they would you know, hotels have like

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<v Speaker 2>laundry service or they could ticket to fluff and fold

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<v Speaker 2>or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh so you just hear my producer man.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you just give them a bag and be like,

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<v Speaker 2>here's my clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why that feels so like personal.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you really have to depend on these people.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have your phone, and then the traveling to

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<v Speaker 2>different places without having anything to listen to on your phone,

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<v Speaker 2>or so much talking. Yeah, there was a lot of talking,

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<v Speaker 2>but we all had been talking so much that we

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<v Speaker 2>just wanted to space out and we couldn't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I remember going to Bali. Taylor Swift's nineteen eighty

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<v Speaker 2>nine had just come out, and I didn't have my phone.

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<v Speaker 2>So one of the producers, he his girlfriend Sammy, got

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<v Speaker 2>me for my birthday as the Taylor Swift CD. And

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<v Speaker 2>I went to Target during my hometowns because I had

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<v Speaker 2>time off during that, and I bought a CD player

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<v Speaker 2>and I listened to nineteen eighty nine on repeat for

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<v Speaker 2>the entirety of going to Bali. So whatever that was.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I have an airport question, okay, And I know

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<v Speaker 6>I should write in describing it Todaharty dot com.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm gonna circumvent.

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<v Speaker 2>That, like this is VIP questionnaire.

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<v Speaker 6>I heard from another former Bachelor person that when you

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<v Speaker 6>walk through especially the international airports, you're in a big

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<v Speaker 6>group and everyone's gonna everyone sees that. It's always like

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<v Speaker 6>stunding people walking in a big group, and you can't

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<v Speaker 6>just be like.

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<v Speaker 3>We're filming The Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, so what would you say if, like, was there

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<v Speaker 6>a rule of like if people ask you what's going on?

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<v Speaker 5>Who are you?

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<v Speaker 2>We said we were on I think we had to

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<v Speaker 2>say we were on like a just a group trip,

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<v Speaker 2>like a girls trip or something. I don't think we.

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<v Speaker 6>Because I think Ben was saying that they it was

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<v Speaker 6>like a girl's soccer team or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like it was a sports team something like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Where we were, we were just a traveling team of

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<v Speaker 2>some sort like yellow jackets. Yeah, yes, but no one

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<v Speaker 2>knew thank you who you know? At that point we

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<v Speaker 2>were on TV, so no one knew us our faces.

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<v Speaker 6>Because I think now even if you're non TV, if

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<v Speaker 6>you see like one man in the metro like sending women,

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<v Speaker 6>it's like, oh, it's the Bachelor's here, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, and that time is so different because social

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<v Speaker 2>media wasn't so And.

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<v Speaker 1>Do they also tell you this is how many cocktail

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<v Speaker 1>ceremonies that you should bring, like dress wise.

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<v Speaker 2>Like they literally send you a list of what you

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<v Speaker 2>need to bring cocktail dresses, winter close, summer close, spabay suits,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like pack for eight weeks. Pack is if

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to be there.

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<v Speaker 1>For a how many suitcases did you have?

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<v Speaker 2>You're only allowed to bring two, two big suitcases and

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<v Speaker 2>I think I had to carry on, but like you're

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<v Speaker 2>having to you know, wash stuck and be responsible for

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<v Speaker 2>your stuff still. So and then when you get to hotels,

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<v Speaker 2>you're still having to share rooms, so you have to

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<v Speaker 2>think of space in terms of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Get to pick who you shared your room with or

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<v Speaker 1>did they just sign okay, it's nice.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was with Kaitlin Bristow during Chris's season that

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<v Speaker 2>it was with Jojo Ben season, and naturally that's who

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<v Speaker 2>you become closest to because you kind of like, once

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<v Speaker 2>you take your mic off and you go to sleep,

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<v Speaker 2>that's kind of your only time to kind of talk

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<v Speaker 2>about that. And it's weird because you're dating the same guy,

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<v Speaker 2>so you're like I don't want to talk too much

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<v Speaker 2>about this, but how did your day go? But I

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<v Speaker 2>don't tell me too much like Jojo and you know Jojo,

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<v Speaker 2>so like when she would come back and from a

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<v Speaker 2>date and be like so excited, I was like, oh, like,

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<v Speaker 2>as your friend, I want to know, but damn, that

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<v Speaker 2>is not looking like a positive thing from my experience. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so yeah, that was It was really interesting. And then

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<v Speaker 2>on Benzi's and I stuck my old phone on so

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<v Speaker 2>I had music to listen to on the flight. So

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<v Speaker 2>Jojo and I would like share an earphone on the flights.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she emailed her dad one time for my phone.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, rebels.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I texted Caitlin Bristow. I message her on

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram and I was like, I don't think Bens's into

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<v Speaker 2>me as the other girls, and she goes no, like

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<v Speaker 2>the producers are probably telling him to not act interested,

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<v Speaker 2>so that like you're.

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<v Speaker 1>Not catch go on.

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<v Speaker 2>But she was with the outside just once.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And then I listened to music and that was it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, that was a little bts, little bts.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, sorry, I tried to get my mic

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<v Speaker 1>and then I I had to pivot Yeah, it happened fast.

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<v Speaker 1>It happened really fast.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, and then other people were asking about hair, nail

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<v Speaker 2>and tanning appointments while you were on the show. We

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<v Speaker 2>all did our own nails. So if you got your

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<v Speaker 2>nails done before the show, once you're if you got

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<v Speaker 2>jels or something, once they were grown out, you would

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<v Speaker 2>either just have to like the pick them off, because

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<v Speaker 2>the smarter thing to do would be to go with

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<v Speaker 2>your nails painted and then bring nail polish because there's

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<v Speaker 2>so much downtime. I did my I got so good

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<v Speaker 2>at doing my nails because we would have nothing else

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<v Speaker 2>to do. We would just be sitting in the hotel

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<v Speaker 2>or the house, and if you weren't doing an interview

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<v Speaker 2>or girl chat where they have you like talking to

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<v Speaker 2>other girls, like let's paint her nails. Have TV. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like they've loosened up a lot, I see. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like there's tiktoks and stuff of the girls that

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<v Speaker 2>from this season, and maybe it's just on producer's phones,

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<v Speaker 2>Like maybe the producers are a little more privy to

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<v Speaker 2>like trends and they're thinking ahead of like let's film

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<v Speaker 2>this and then when it airs you can post it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, because I like on Love Island that they all

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<v Speaker 1>have phones that they can like take pictures and videos

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<v Speaker 1>on Like I'm like, that's cute.

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<v Speaker 2>But I loved not having my phone. And then I

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<v Speaker 2>got it back and I found out my great grandma

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<v Speaker 2>had passed away. Like it was so it was it

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<v Speaker 2>was a really weird word it was weird. I had

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<v Speaker 2>just gotten dumped and then I was so excited to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to my family and then they told me my

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<v Speaker 2>great grandma passed away, But the producers didn't want My

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<v Speaker 2>mom called them because she had their number in case

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<v Speaker 2>of emergency, and they were like, well, there's two more

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<v Speaker 2>days left, you know, it's almost the end. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>want us to tell her? And my mom was kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like, I mean if I guess, not, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, right. So it was a strange strange I'm crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's literally like you put into a vortex.

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<v Speaker 2>You really are. That's why when people are like, how

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<v Speaker 2>do you fall in love within this timeframe? It's like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>what else do you have to do before? What else

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<v Speaker 2>do you have to do? But like talk about this

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<v Speaker 2>guy that they had styled and with a nice colonneal

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<v Speaker 2>on that I.

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<v Speaker 1>Were fall in love with like the egg carton in

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<v Speaker 1>my fridge.

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<v Speaker 2>Given so much for you to have gone on the Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 2>I think if you hadn't met Robbie, I would have

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<v Speaker 2>really gunned hard for that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know that. I early when Rob and I were

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<v Speaker 1>early days before he and I were boyfriend girlfriend, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like really considering it, and I almost wish that

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<v Speaker 1>I would have done it because he wasn't committing to me. Remember,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, I'm not ready to be boyfriend girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, then I'm going to go on

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<v Speaker 1>the Bachelor, Dude, I wish I When.

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<v Speaker 2>When did he not want to be boyfriend and girlfriend?

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<v Speaker 1>So we became boyfriend girlfriend early February of twenty twenty. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we met in November of twenty nineteen.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh and you got on the other day. That's what

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<v Speaker 2>it did.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and that like I think it was maybe like

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<v Speaker 1>two or three weeks of time. I really wish I

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<v Speaker 1>would have gone on the Bacheler, But it's a short window.

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<v Speaker 7>There's an alternate universe right now where you're missus Clayton Eckert.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that the season, I don't know, it's just a couple.

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<v Speaker 5>Of years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you'll be dancing together TikTok dancing together.

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<v Speaker 1>That's pretty crazy that he was the Bachelor, because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think he and I are a match.

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<v Speaker 5>What about Matt James or Zach shallacross?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I think they just got worse and worse. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I lecked out.

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<v Speaker 2>I think everything worked at house supposed to be. You

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<v Speaker 2>could be planning meals and family meetings with one of

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<v Speaker 2>those guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Could you imagine? No?

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<v Speaker 2>I really couldn't. No. And then there was one more.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone asked during hometowns, where do you sleep at your

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<v Speaker 2>childhood home with your family during my hometown I I

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<v Speaker 2>think after you film your hometown, they like you spend

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<v Speaker 2>time with your family for like thirty minutes. I need

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<v Speaker 2>to confirm this. In it like it's short. You get

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<v Speaker 2>to like say hey and recap, but then it's like

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<v Speaker 2>they're taking me back to the bubble. But mine was

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<v Speaker 2>on my birthday and so Chris I went to say

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<v Speaker 2>bye to him and he was like, actually have a

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<v Speaker 2>surprise for you, and he took me to the fair

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<v Speaker 2>was in town during that time in my hometown, which

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<v Speaker 2>is very dangerous. I don't know, you just don't. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not what it used to be.

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<v Speaker 5>There's a gross.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, mister sunshine dumper.

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<v Speaker 7>I've never been called mister sunshine number before. I see

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<v Speaker 7>your point, though, you're saying on Monday, I had a

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<v Speaker 7>different You're gonna take a lot for me to come around.

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<v Speaker 2>On fairs, They're definitely not known as being hygienic, but

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<v Speaker 2>they are fun.

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<v Speaker 1>It's food and freedom and child community community.

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<v Speaker 2>Know the area where I'm from, isn't its like wholesome

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<v Speaker 2>like that? It seems tan, Yeah, look it up, let

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<v Speaker 2>me know what you think. So anyways, they the fair

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<v Speaker 2>had shut down, but they opened it up for us

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<v Speaker 2>to go and we wrote the Ferris Wheel. So it

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<v Speaker 2>was like a very romantic thing. But I was kind

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<v Speaker 2>of sad because I wanted to hang out with my family,

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<v Speaker 2>like I had missed them so much. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is really sweet and I want to Okay, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know my family.

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<v Speaker 1>Red flag like, you are not in love with this dude.

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<v Speaker 2>I had spent a total of ten hours with him. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I was not in love with them.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying I would have my spidy senses would

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<v Speaker 1>be like, I'm not that into you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, looking back, yeah, I can see that. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>can see what you're saying, yeah, is this.

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<v Speaker 6>The state fair of Louisiana. Yeah, oh wow, Louisiana. Feed

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<v Speaker 6>your soul.

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<v Speaker 2>The food was crazy, but that's pretty typically.

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<v Speaker 5>Like I met my.

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<v Speaker 7>Wife at a state fairs, so I don't want, you know,

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<v Speaker 7>but still I get super I know you do.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, super emotional.

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<v Speaker 3>I love that.

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<v Speaker 6>I love them with so much of my Heart's not

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<v Speaker 6>to love They're so special.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, it's like.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like the best of humanity in four squares at mine.

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<v Speaker 2>You could get shot at any point. So that's what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean when I say they're not safe. Oh but

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<v Speaker 2>I see what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 4>The games, rock firearms, beer beer testing rides that have

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<v Speaker 4>been set up seventeen times in seventeen cities in the

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<v Speaker 4>last seventeen days.

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<v Speaker 2>That is a little freaky. But you got to risk

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<v Speaker 2>it to get the biscuit sometimes and then would be

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<v Speaker 2>a fried biscuit outside.

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<v Speaker 1>We were at a fair.

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<v Speaker 2>We were at a fair.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was over the It was, yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>was over last summer. It was right before Rob and

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<v Speaker 1>I got engaged, and we were doing bumper cars at

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<v Speaker 1>this fair and this woman was like in line to

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<v Speaker 1>go to the bumper cars and she's like Robbie out

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<v Speaker 1>of gar and I was like, and uh, it turns

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<v Speaker 1>out that this was like the first girl he ever

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<v Speaker 1>kissed in his life, like his very first kiss. And

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<v Speaker 1>she was in line. So I met her and then

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<v Speaker 1>I met her wife and then a.

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<v Speaker 5>Little more comfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you so happy about this? Yeah? I understand.

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<v Speaker 1>And then it was cute. We took a picture and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, your first kiss and your last. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was pretty cute too.

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<v Speaker 2>Well. Fairs are special for a lot of people, and

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<v Speaker 2>Mark he met his wife. He says, I did.

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<v Speaker 7>I met my wife with the Wisconsin's Day Fair, so I'll

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<v Speaker 7>back down. That's fine, But I just genuinely speaking, I've

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<v Speaker 7>been to a lot of like county fairs, and they're disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you like a corn dog?

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<v Speaker 5>Not really?

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<v Speaker 7>Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow?

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, you know, I it's father fine, but no, no,

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<v Speaker 7>I don't seek out corn dog.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd rather like a hamburger or like a beady at taco.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and carnies.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have this to become a fair thing.

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<v Speaker 6>But the Santa Cruz County Fair from my hometown has

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<v Speaker 6>a jingle and it's my favorite thing. There's no better

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<v Speaker 6>way to have more fun in one day the Santa

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<v Speaker 6>Cruz County Fair.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it, to say, Easton, And I know that

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<v Speaker 2>this is going to come across as a backhanded compliment.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't mean it to be that way. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that you could be a really good singer if you

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<v Speaker 2>like took less like. I think you have the tone

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<v Speaker 2>for it and the strength.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you very much, figuring that that truly does me wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>But saying that he seeks with just freedom and there's

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<v Speaker 2>no like structure to it. I hear the potential.

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<v Speaker 5>And I respect that.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 7>He doesn't like hold back because he might not be

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<v Speaker 7>a great singer. He doesn't care about that.

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<v Speaker 5>He's going to sing.

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<v Speaker 2>Singer.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, well, you're very kind of saying thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, fill your diet first all.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the only one that's going to keep it real

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<v Speaker 1>here and I have no future, no no, But I

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<v Speaker 1>like the way you sing. It's unabashed, it's confident, and

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<v Speaker 1>I enjoy wa. I just don't think you have like

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<v Speaker 1>a grande vibes.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't say that, but I was saying more like you.

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<v Speaker 2>I could see you like playing in guitar and wear

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<v Speaker 2>a cowboy boots guitar, just any other good voice.

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<v Speaker 6>If you If you guys want to see me play guitar,

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<v Speaker 6>it's musical music, go to YouTube watch nachos but Easton

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<v Speaker 6>Allen I recorded a whole album in ten and with

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<v Speaker 6>the help of auto tune, and it's a great sounding voice.

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<v Speaker 2>Love and I just covered you.

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<v Speaker 7>That would be a fun segment on the show, but

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<v Speaker 7>it's not legal. Would be for to sing karaoke on

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<v Speaker 7>this show. I think that would be a fun thing,

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<v Speaker 7>but we can't do it because you can't have music

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<v Speaker 7>on the show.

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<v Speaker 5>But I think it would be.

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<v Speaker 2>Fun royalty free music.

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<v Speaker 5>We can't sing along, plain that we can't.

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<v Speaker 7>I think it'd be really funking a karaoke contest some

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<v Speaker 7>week on the show.

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<v Speaker 2>But Love is Blind, I mean, yeah, the Love is

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<v Speaker 2>Blind songs that are just royalty free and we're just

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<v Speaker 2>just it's like Love is Hard Corner.

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<v Speaker 1>I know they don't need to talk to the Love

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<v Speaker 1>Island producers because the Love Island producers know what's up

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<v Speaker 1>with you.

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<v Speaker 2>If they get license music, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever, then get a license and they're.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, no, we're just gonna use it. Okay, We're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>take a break and we will be right back. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>we are back. I think we have a couple of emails,

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<v Speaker 2>so you do well.

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<v Speaker 5>That's the whole point of this episode, I believe.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so take it away.

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<v Speaker 7>All right, I'd be happy to Uh. This is from Laura.

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<v Speaker 7>First off, I want to say the podcast is such

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<v Speaker 7>a great start to my week. I wanted to know

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<v Speaker 7>how you handle jealousy or insecurity in your relationships with

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<v Speaker 7>with Tanya. It helps if his acts is dating another woman,

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<v Speaker 7>but in general, I've been dating my boyfriend for two years.

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<v Speaker 7>He recently started work I'm get a sports agency and

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<v Speaker 7>travels a lot. While he has never given me any

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<v Speaker 7>reason to be insecure, I am losing my mind when

0:20:06.480 --> 0:20:08.960
<v Speaker 7>he's away. We're in constant contact, but I know the

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<v Speaker 7>sports world can be filled with groupies, and I'm scared

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<v Speaker 7>he will one day give into temptation. This is my person,

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<v Speaker 7>so when he tips, any of you can give to

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<v Speaker 7>keep me sane, please bring them on. I hope your

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<v Speaker 7>podcast stays on for another fifty years.

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<v Speaker 5>That is very sweet.

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<v Speaker 7>That's a fun we wishing you do that someday. What

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<v Speaker 7>this show will be like in the year twenty seventy four,

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, I'd.

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<v Speaker 1>Like to be doing this show for the next fifty years,

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<v Speaker 1>but Becca, I feel like this is probably better for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I I think I've expressed on the

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<v Speaker 2>podcast how challenging I've had, like really challenging moments when

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<v Speaker 2>Haley's gone, especially on tour because it's for an extended

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<v Speaker 2>amount of time. I don't know what helps, Like, I

0:20:56.680 --> 0:21:00.359
<v Speaker 2>really don't know what I mean. Therapy couples say has

0:21:00.359 --> 0:21:03.040
<v Speaker 2>helped us a lot, But I also think that the

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<v Speaker 2>thing that really helped is when I started explaining to

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<v Speaker 2>her what makes me feel insecure and what would make

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<v Speaker 2>me feel more secure, that realistic things that she can

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<v Speaker 2>do because obviously she can't fly back and be with

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<v Speaker 2>me to comfort me, But what are things she can

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<v Speaker 2>do while she's a way that make me feel safe?

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<v Speaker 2>And I think the first step is expressing those concerns

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<v Speaker 2>and not in a way. I think it's important to

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<v Speaker 2>let your partner know that you trust him, it's just

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<v Speaker 2>your own insecurities, because I realized a lot of I

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<v Speaker 2>kept when I was in therapy. I kept thinking about

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<v Speaker 2>why am I feeling insecured? Is it that I don't

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<v Speaker 2>trust her? Because if I don't trust her. What is

0:21:37.680 --> 0:21:39.119
<v Speaker 2>she doing that makes me out trust her? And I

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't think of anything. It wasn't It wasn't that I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't trust her. It was that I felt insecure about

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<v Speaker 2>her being gone and her spending time and having experiences

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<v Speaker 2>with other people, which was really hard for me to

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<v Speaker 2>realize because getting jealous or insecure about your partner having

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<v Speaker 2>fun experiences that you're not involved in and acknowledge that

0:22:00.600 --> 0:22:04.240
<v Speaker 2>that made you feel bad, it is like a vulnerable

0:22:04.280 --> 0:22:08.600
<v Speaker 2>thing to face because I'm like, I want you to

0:22:08.640 --> 0:22:12.399
<v Speaker 2>have experiences and I don't care that they're with other people,

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<v Speaker 2>and yet it makes me feel sad and left behind

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<v Speaker 2>or something. So once I was able to figure that

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<v Speaker 2>out and really and then Haley's thing was that she

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<v Speaker 2>loves to recap, so like she wanted to tell me

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<v Speaker 2>about her days, but I was hearing about things that

0:22:27.440 --> 0:22:29.960
<v Speaker 2>made me feel sad, so I would be like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know if I want to hear about this,

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<v Speaker 2>but then she felt like I didn't care. So it

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<v Speaker 2>was kind of finding that balance and being able to

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<v Speaker 2>support your partner and doing what they love and knowing

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<v Speaker 2>that you trust them, but also working on yourself while

0:22:43.320 --> 0:22:46.199
<v Speaker 2>they're gone because I think the biggest thing was filling

0:22:46.240 --> 0:22:48.159
<v Speaker 2>time with friends. And there were times where I just

0:22:48.160 --> 0:22:50.400
<v Speaker 2>didn't want to be around anybody, But the only thing

0:22:50.440 --> 0:22:52.600
<v Speaker 2>that made me feel better was being around people or

0:22:52.640 --> 0:22:56.679
<v Speaker 2>doing something that kept my brain away from wondering what

0:22:56.720 --> 0:22:59.400
<v Speaker 2>Haley was doing. Like she's on stage, I'm like, why

0:22:59.760 --> 0:23:03.119
<v Speaker 2>she's performing right now? Why am I wondering what she's doing?

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<v Speaker 2>And so I think it's just finding that safety. But

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<v Speaker 2>I also think couple therapy has helped a lot because

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<v Speaker 2>it was kind of us figuring out where we were

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<v Speaker 2>meeting in that because I'd be like, I don't feel

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<v Speaker 2>safe and she's like, well you every time I try

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<v Speaker 2>to talk to you don't want to hear about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, because I don't feel safe. So it's just

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, it's just finding that communication.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's a big part of it, is like

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<v Speaker 1>being able to be open and honest about about how

0:23:30.359 --> 0:23:33.760
<v Speaker 1>you're feeling and why you're feeling that way, and expressing

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<v Speaker 1>that you do trust your partner, but it still makes

0:23:36.440 --> 0:23:38.400
<v Speaker 1>you feel a certain type of way. So sometimes it's

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<v Speaker 1>like I remember my therapist always said things that like

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<v Speaker 1>really would blow my mind, but she was like, two

0:23:44.160 --> 0:23:46.399
<v Speaker 1>things can be true at the same time. So you

0:23:46.440 --> 0:23:49.240
<v Speaker 1>know how like Casey Musgraves haves the song happy and Sad,

0:23:49.640 --> 0:23:51.719
<v Speaker 1>It's like somebody can be happy and sad at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time with like different stuff that's going on in

0:23:53.960 --> 0:23:55.560
<v Speaker 1>their life, you know what I mean, Like two things

0:23:55.560 --> 0:23:58.600
<v Speaker 1>like that can exist. So I feel like you can

0:23:58.800 --> 0:24:02.000
<v Speaker 1>feel jealous and insecure and he can also be doing

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely nothing wrong and be like the most absolutely loyal

0:24:05.680 --> 0:24:08.000
<v Speaker 1>partner ever and both things can be true at the

0:24:08.000 --> 0:24:09.800
<v Speaker 1>same time. And so I think it's just being able

0:24:09.880 --> 0:24:12.840
<v Speaker 1>to express to him that you're feeling a certain type

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<v Speaker 1>of way and then like allowing him to just hear

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<v Speaker 1>it and just and do with that what he feels

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<v Speaker 1>is right, you know. Like I remember, it's really interesting

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<v Speaker 1>when you start dating a guy that has two kids,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'll never forget Teddy told me this and it

0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:29.960
<v Speaker 1>really stuck with me. She was like, you know, when

0:24:29.960 --> 0:24:33.040
<v Speaker 1>you're newly dating a guy and you're not spending all

0:24:33.040 --> 0:24:35.440
<v Speaker 1>your time with that person, they go on golf trips

0:24:35.480 --> 0:24:37.680
<v Speaker 1>with their dudes and they do this stuff with their dudes.

0:24:37.760 --> 0:24:40.239
<v Speaker 1>Like Robbie never did that. It was he was with

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<v Speaker 1>me or he was with his kids. Like I never

0:24:42.160 --> 0:24:44.440
<v Speaker 1>had to like question what he was doing or where

0:24:44.480 --> 0:24:46.000
<v Speaker 1>he was or you know what I mean. Like I

0:24:46.040 --> 0:24:47.800
<v Speaker 1>always I knew if he wasn't with me, he was

0:24:47.800 --> 0:24:50.000
<v Speaker 1>with the kids. And it was kind of how our

0:24:50.000 --> 0:24:53.840
<v Speaker 1>relationship has always been, like it's me and the kids,

0:24:53.920 --> 0:24:55.600
<v Speaker 1>and that's kind of what he fills his life with.

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<v Speaker 1>And I remember the first time he told me he

0:24:57.320 --> 0:25:00.359
<v Speaker 1>was getting coffee with this like girlfriend of his from

0:25:00.560 --> 0:25:03.480
<v Speaker 1>high school. I got insecure about it, Like I got

0:25:03.480 --> 0:25:05.320
<v Speaker 1>really weird about it. And in my mind, I'm like,

0:25:05.400 --> 0:25:08.280
<v Speaker 1>I trust him completely. He's never given me one like

0:25:08.320 --> 0:25:11.440
<v Speaker 1>I trust him with everything in me. I trust this

0:25:11.680 --> 0:25:13.320
<v Speaker 1>even though I don't really know the woman. I was like,

0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:15.520
<v Speaker 1>I do trust the one, Like there's nothing in here

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:18.320
<v Speaker 1>that I should be insecure or upset about, and yet

0:25:18.359 --> 0:25:20.480
<v Speaker 1>I was. And so I just like said it. I

0:25:20.520 --> 0:25:22.040
<v Speaker 1>was like, I just it makes it feel turned away

0:25:22.080 --> 0:25:24.280
<v Speaker 1>because I never have had to experience that with you before,

0:25:24.359 --> 0:25:26.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, like I've just never had this, so it's

0:25:26.160 --> 0:25:30.159
<v Speaker 1>like weird. So he just heard me out and then

0:25:30.440 --> 0:25:31.800
<v Speaker 1>you know it was what it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I also think it's you going thinking to yourself, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>in this situation that we're in What are things, realistic

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<v Speaker 2>things that he can do to make me feel safe

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<v Speaker 2>in this? And it like for me, it was like

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<v Speaker 2>she texts me throughout the day when when she's doing

0:25:48.640 --> 0:25:51.199
<v Speaker 2>something and it's like, hey, just checking in, or you know,

0:25:51.240 --> 0:25:53.679
<v Speaker 2>whenever she has a moment and has the capacity like

0:25:53.760 --> 0:25:56.120
<v Speaker 2>face timing, like we at least talk on the phone

0:25:56.160 --> 0:25:58.040
<v Speaker 2>or FaceTime at least once a day, but most of

0:25:58.080 --> 0:25:59.400
<v Speaker 2>the time it was two times a day.

0:25:59.800 --> 0:26:04.960
<v Speaker 1>And like putting your picture on her hydroflask, you know,

0:26:05.800 --> 0:26:09.120
<v Speaker 1>means yeah, totally totally fine to ask for.

0:26:09.320 --> 0:26:11.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it couldn't. It's like you you can't be

0:26:12.119 --> 0:26:15.720
<v Speaker 2>controlling because that you want to. It's healthy to be

0:26:15.760 --> 0:26:17.600
<v Speaker 2>able to trust your partner with him going and doing

0:26:17.680 --> 0:26:21.440
<v Speaker 2>something like this and you working on yourself and finding

0:26:21.440 --> 0:26:23.040
<v Speaker 2>out where the insecurity stem from.

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<v Speaker 7>Yes, I think that's a big part of this is

0:26:24.640 --> 0:26:27.680
<v Speaker 7>self esteem also, like you know, everything you're feeling is legitimate,

0:26:27.720 --> 0:26:30.000
<v Speaker 7>but also why do you feel like you're not enough

0:26:30.000 --> 0:26:32.199
<v Speaker 7>for him? Why do you feel like he's bound astray?

0:26:32.240 --> 0:26:35.080
<v Speaker 7>Why do you feel like right that he's the only

0:26:35.160 --> 0:26:37.080
<v Speaker 7>one you can get, you know, like if he if

0:26:37.080 --> 0:26:39.359
<v Speaker 7>he does stray, then he is not your person. You

0:26:39.400 --> 0:26:41.480
<v Speaker 7>say he's your person, but if he's stray, he's not,

0:26:41.920 --> 0:26:43.920
<v Speaker 7>and you can do as well or better than him.

0:26:44.000 --> 0:26:46.280
<v Speaker 1>So and yeah, but we feel this need to control

0:26:47.000 --> 0:26:49.160
<v Speaker 1>like it's interesting. It is so psychological.

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<v Speaker 7>There you go, Good luck, Laura, thanks for listening to

0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:57.560
<v Speaker 7>our podcast. Uh April and Jan clarification on sleep smell.

0:26:57.720 --> 0:27:00.159
<v Speaker 7>April says, I don't know what that is. I have

0:27:00.200 --> 0:27:02.240
<v Speaker 7>to shower at night because of our schedules, and now

0:27:02.280 --> 0:27:04.320
<v Speaker 7>I'm worried that I smell at work. Can you explain

0:27:04.400 --> 0:27:07.840
<v Speaker 7>sleep smell? Jill said, I remember Becca metching that she

0:27:07.920 --> 0:27:10.040
<v Speaker 7>showers before bed to wash off the day. But does

0:27:10.080 --> 0:27:12.119
<v Speaker 7>she shower in the morning to get rid of sleep smell?

0:27:12.520 --> 0:27:14.200
<v Speaker 7>Does she wash your hair every day? Or is hair

0:27:14.280 --> 0:27:17.119
<v Speaker 7>exempt from sleep smell? Some clarification please.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so you don't know sleep smell, you probably have

0:27:21.920 --> 0:27:25.399
<v Speaker 1>sleep smell. So I hate to break it to you,

0:27:25.520 --> 0:27:29.639
<v Speaker 1>April and Jill, but you might have it. So I

0:27:30.280 --> 0:27:31.000
<v Speaker 1>look into that.

0:27:31.359 --> 0:27:34.800
<v Speaker 2>I will never get into my bed without showering. That

0:27:34.960 --> 0:27:38.960
<v Speaker 2>is a mandatory. And then morning shower if I'm going somewhere,

0:27:39.600 --> 0:27:41.600
<v Speaker 2>like if I'm like like for instance, when I come

0:27:41.640 --> 0:27:44.640
<v Speaker 2>to the podcast, I shower if I work out or something,

0:27:44.640 --> 0:27:45.879
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to shower before I work out, but

0:27:45.880 --> 0:27:48.640
<v Speaker 2>I'll shower after I work out. Just depends on my day,

0:27:48.680 --> 0:27:49.040
<v Speaker 2>I guess.

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<v Speaker 1>So I shower every morning and every night. However, I

0:27:52.760 --> 0:27:55.920
<v Speaker 1>still believe that my two showers a day are still

0:27:56.000 --> 0:28:01.000
<v Speaker 1>shorter than your typical one shower a day because I

0:28:01.160 --> 0:28:02.399
<v Speaker 1>just I do the bits.

0:28:03.080 --> 0:28:05.520
<v Speaker 2>You don't wash your feet, yeah, correct.

0:28:05.160 --> 0:28:08.919
<v Speaker 1>I do a quick come in there, armpits, you know,

0:28:09.200 --> 0:28:14.640
<v Speaker 1>private parts, face, and I'm out to get the sleep off,

0:28:14.720 --> 0:28:16.240
<v Speaker 1>to get the sleep off. So in the morning, I

0:28:16.280 --> 0:28:17.760
<v Speaker 1>have to get the sleep off, which is why I

0:28:17.800 --> 0:28:19.240
<v Speaker 1>shower in the morning, and then at night. I do

0:28:19.320 --> 0:28:22.040
<v Speaker 1>not get into my bed without showering. But I sweat

0:28:22.040 --> 0:28:23.919
<v Speaker 1>when I sleep, so I have to shower. I have

0:28:23.960 --> 0:28:24.359
<v Speaker 1>to shower.

0:28:24.440 --> 0:28:26.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't sweat when I sleep, but I don't wash

0:28:26.920 --> 0:28:27.280
<v Speaker 2>my hair.

0:28:27.200 --> 0:28:28.359
<v Speaker 1>Every day, neither do I.

0:28:28.800 --> 0:28:31.240
<v Speaker 2>But the sleep smell with the hair, I just will.

0:28:31.119 --> 0:28:33.399
<v Speaker 1>It could get your hair could get sleep smell if

0:28:33.440 --> 0:28:34.520
<v Speaker 1>you let it go long enough.

0:28:35.119 --> 0:28:37.840
<v Speaker 2>Do you want to hear the really unfortunate news. It's

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:40.760
<v Speaker 2>it's not sleep smell when it's the hair. It's more

0:28:40.880 --> 0:28:48.080
<v Speaker 2>like what like dirty scalp which if you've been in

0:28:48.120 --> 0:28:51.080
<v Speaker 2>an uber, you know there's certain ubers where you smell

0:28:51.120 --> 0:28:56.200
<v Speaker 2>the dirty scalp smell. Okay, okay, I use dry shampoo,

0:28:56.480 --> 0:28:59.680
<v Speaker 2>and I literally will make hair. I'll be like, does

0:28:59.680 --> 0:29:02.400
<v Speaker 2>my hair smell? Because if she says yes, I'm washing it,

0:29:02.440 --> 0:29:04.480
<v Speaker 2>and she's always like, no, it sounds like it sounds

0:29:04.520 --> 0:29:07.960
<v Speaker 2>like come like perfume because of my try shampoo.

0:29:08.080 --> 0:29:10.080
<v Speaker 1>So I used to wash my hair every single day.

0:29:10.120 --> 0:29:12.760
<v Speaker 1>Also because I used to work out every single day,

0:29:12.760 --> 0:29:14.400
<v Speaker 1>and I get like sweaty and gross. Now that I'm

0:29:14.400 --> 0:29:17.480
<v Speaker 1>doing more pilates and less like sweaty exercises, I don't

0:29:17.600 --> 0:29:19.600
<v Speaker 1>wash it every day, and that is something that concerns me.

0:29:20.200 --> 0:29:21.920
<v Speaker 1>The smell, the smell, the scout smell.

0:29:22.800 --> 0:29:25.800
<v Speaker 2>You should ask Robby. You gotta have the trust with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you something. He didn't have a sense

0:29:27.720 --> 0:29:29.200
<v Speaker 1>of smell for many years.

0:29:29.600 --> 0:29:32.280
<v Speaker 2>I had advantage of it. Yeah, I use it for good.

0:29:32.440 --> 0:29:34.280
<v Speaker 1>Take a whoof in here? It does that smell like?

0:29:34.840 --> 0:29:39.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? So I don't know what to tell you. I

0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:42.680
<v Speaker 2>I just know that I do my best to avoid

0:29:42.760 --> 0:29:46.160
<v Speaker 2>smelling like sleep, and I try to. My goal every

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:47.800
<v Speaker 2>day is for someone to tell me I smell good.

0:29:48.040 --> 0:29:50.520
<v Speaker 1>But I also think too, if you're doing you're generally

0:29:51.280 --> 0:29:53.200
<v Speaker 1>hygienic person, do I smell?

0:29:53.400 --> 0:29:57.040
<v Speaker 5>I never noticed smell I never noticed or bad.

0:29:57.880 --> 0:29:59.840
<v Speaker 1>That's good because I don't really spray up on me, right,

0:30:00.160 --> 0:30:04.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't want the the endocrin disruptors. All right, I

0:30:04.560 --> 0:30:07.040
<v Speaker 1>try not to spray things on myself. But I don't

0:30:07.040 --> 0:30:09.200
<v Speaker 1>want to smell bad.

0:30:09.200 --> 0:30:11.160
<v Speaker 5>You smell neutral. You just don't smell.

0:30:11.400 --> 0:30:16.719
<v Speaker 1>Okay. If you're an overall hygienic person, I don't think

0:30:16.760 --> 0:30:18.360
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna get sleep smell because to me, I think

0:30:18.400 --> 0:30:22.000
<v Speaker 1>sleep smells somebody like doesn't wash their sheets often like

0:30:22.120 --> 0:30:23.640
<v Speaker 1>it's it's it's pretty.

0:30:24.920 --> 0:30:29.320
<v Speaker 2>I think smell stems from getting into your bed without

0:30:29.360 --> 0:30:31.480
<v Speaker 2>showering after being like doing stuff all, not.

0:30:31.680 --> 0:30:34.160
<v Speaker 1>Washing your sheets for like like weeks.

0:30:34.440 --> 0:30:37.920
<v Speaker 7>Yes, so shower before a bad clean sheets. You're probably

0:30:37.920 --> 0:30:39.360
<v Speaker 7>not gonna have to sleep smell the next morning.

0:30:39.840 --> 0:30:41.680
<v Speaker 1>Generally speaking, I think you're okay.

0:30:41.760 --> 0:30:43.280
<v Speaker 2>I think you're good. I think you're safe.

0:30:43.400 --> 0:30:44.800
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:30:44.800 --> 0:30:46.920
<v Speaker 7>I'd like to request one more break, please, okay, and

0:30:46.920 --> 0:30:48.760
<v Speaker 7>then we have a fun game from Mariette.

0:30:48.320 --> 0:30:48.840
<v Speaker 5>That you sent in.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Mary, we'll be right back after this break. All right,

0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:11.640
<v Speaker 2>we are back with a game, A game.

0:31:11.440 --> 0:31:13.680
<v Speaker 7>That a listener named Mariette sent in. She says, I've

0:31:13.720 --> 0:31:15.840
<v Speaker 7>really enjoyed the energy and laughter on the pod as

0:31:15.880 --> 0:31:18.000
<v Speaker 7>of late and wanted to contribute to it with a

0:31:18.040 --> 0:31:20.280
<v Speaker 7>fun game we recently played over the weekend. It's based

0:31:20.320 --> 0:31:21.960
<v Speaker 7>on you and your partners, and it's the who is

0:31:22.040 --> 0:31:24.880
<v Speaker 7>most likely to game. I've included questions below and what

0:31:24.920 --> 0:31:27.120
<v Speaker 7>generated the most laughter and chat in our game night.

0:31:27.200 --> 0:31:29.760
<v Speaker 7>So I'm thinking the way we do this, and I

0:31:29.760 --> 0:31:31.200
<v Speaker 7>don't know how the game is played, but I thought

0:31:31.200 --> 0:31:33.120
<v Speaker 7>it'd be fun if we read the who is more

0:31:33.200 --> 0:31:36.640
<v Speaker 7>likely to? Between Becca and Tanya and then Easton and

0:31:36.640 --> 0:31:39.080
<v Speaker 7>I guess who we think is more likely to and

0:31:39.120 --> 0:31:41.000
<v Speaker 7>then you guys can determine who's what the.

0:31:40.960 --> 0:31:41.800
<v Speaker 5>Correct answer is.

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<v Speaker 7>For example, Okay, number one, who was more likely to

0:31:46.360 --> 0:31:49.320
<v Speaker 7>smell their partner's clothing when folding them?

0:31:49.640 --> 0:31:51.160
<v Speaker 5>Easton Tanya?

0:31:51.480 --> 0:31:58.120
<v Speaker 7>Tanya, what do you guys think? Question about that? So

0:31:58.200 --> 0:32:01.040
<v Speaker 7>you have done that before? Yeah, just to kind of

0:32:01.080 --> 0:32:02.000
<v Speaker 7>get his musk.

0:32:02.440 --> 0:32:05.840
<v Speaker 1>Just to kind of just to see to see what

0:32:05.840 --> 0:32:07.239
<v Speaker 1>what it smells like.

0:32:07.360 --> 0:32:09.080
<v Speaker 5>I don't know, Okay, is.

0:32:09.040 --> 0:32:11.480
<v Speaker 2>This after a laundry or like you're putting thing that

0:32:11.600 --> 0:32:13.880
<v Speaker 2>went folding them, you wouldn't be folding dirty clothes.

0:32:14.040 --> 0:32:16.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't like smell his like gym clothes, but I have.

0:32:18.160 --> 0:32:20.040
<v Speaker 1>I just don't do it on a regular.

0:32:21.600 --> 0:32:22.640
<v Speaker 2>I didn't clean.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, if he's if he is, he ever gone, he's

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<v Speaker 7>out of town and you smell something, he's warned, just

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<v Speaker 7>to kind of bring back the scent.

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<v Speaker 5>No, okay, just check it all right? Next one? Uh East?

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<v Speaker 7>Then what do you think, Becker Tanya? Who is most

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<v Speaker 7>likely to wake up and be in the mood for it?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if we should define what it is.

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<v Speaker 5>I guess we don't need to.

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<v Speaker 6>Tanya.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, Tanya, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel like she's a morning girly.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm gonna say you. I think it could

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<v Speaker 2>be you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it is me for a morning tonight.

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<v Speaker 2>I like a healthy balance.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm too tired at night. Morning all the way.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, good good?

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<v Speaker 7>Who Becca or Tanya would be the most likely to

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<v Speaker 7>be killed first if they were in a horror movie?

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<v Speaker 3>Becca killed first, killed first?

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<v Speaker 7>Let me think about that, killed first in a horror Yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>I think No, I think Tanya. I don't think if

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<v Speaker 7>Tanya is having a lot of like, you know, kind

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<v Speaker 7>of like that streets.

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<v Speaker 5>I need to know to kill her on the loose.

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<v Speaker 2>Why this is like a no brainer?

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was you.

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<v Speaker 6>I feel like I don't know how much fight you

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<v Speaker 6>have in you, and I also think you're bet.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't doubt that.

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<v Speaker 6>But I also feel like you might be the first

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<v Speaker 6>one in a like a zombie horde or something. I

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<v Speaker 6>think you might be the first one to like just

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<v Speaker 6>resign to your fate, like.

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<v Speaker 2>Should give up in a zombie thing. See. Wow, this

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<v Speaker 2>is interesting because this is so not my character, like

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<v Speaker 2>how I think I'm viewed. I'm very athletic and fast.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm voting Tanya, I.

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<v Speaker 7>Say, because I feel like Tanya is very trusting of people,

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<v Speaker 7>and if there's a if a horror movie with a

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<v Speaker 7>killer on the loose, she's more likely to.

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<v Speaker 2>Hug them in the house.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes she would, he would say, yeah, paranoid.

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<v Speaker 1>So I know, I think this is back all the way.

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<v Speaker 2>She scrubbers to weigh in.

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<v Speaker 5>On the what's your reasoning for?

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<v Speaker 1>Because who is most likely to be killed first if

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<v Speaker 1>they were in a horror movie?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>So I think that I can run faster than you.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay a video.

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<v Speaker 2>Video?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. I also think that I would know

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<v Speaker 1>all the exits of wherever I am. Like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think you go into a movie theater and look for

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<v Speaker 1>all the exits.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very paranoid about scary things.

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<v Speaker 1>I also think I would duck and cover. I'd find

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<v Speaker 1>like a small little hole to curl up in, and

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you would like try and fight them.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I would just run because I'm faster.

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<v Speaker 1>I just disagree.

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<v Speaker 7>We're gonna go down right here, or we could go, uh,

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<v Speaker 7>I know, the sidewalk over here.

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<v Speaker 3>In California or on the corner from California riverside because long.

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<v Speaker 5>To run barefoot today.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I need to go.

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<v Speaker 5>I got my But I think that would be a very.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Yeah, that's really.

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<v Speaker 5>Good, Crystal. You might need to come up for that one.

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<v Speaker 5>Who is the bigger baby when sick?

0:35:51.280 --> 0:35:51.840
<v Speaker 2>Definitely me?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going back and for sure, back up, I rule

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<v Speaker 1>the world when I'm sick.

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<v Speaker 7>Who is the most likely to fall asleep while being

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<v Speaker 7>intimate Easton? I don't know, I say Becca. Tanya's eyes

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<v Speaker 7>never close even in those situations. I feel like her

0:36:09.440 --> 0:36:10.640
<v Speaker 7>eyelids never touch each other.

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<v Speaker 2>She's tired. Yeah, so I think that a self admission.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that's true. I think if your eyes always wide open.

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<v Speaker 1>That is true when I'm awake, but if I'm asleep,

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<v Speaker 1>they're closed fair enough, So if I were sleeping, then

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<v Speaker 1>they would be.

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<v Speaker 5>That's sure. Who gives better directions? Becca, I could see.

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<v Speaker 2>That, sure, like getting somewhere.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I feel like Tanya would be making up a

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<v Speaker 6>lot of words in streets.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, I probably have a better sense of direction too.

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<v Speaker 7>That's the questions less reliant on their GPS.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, probably me?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, for sure.

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<v Speaker 7>Our last one here for Mariette and thank you Marriette.

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<v Speaker 7>Who would be the first to crack if you couldn't

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<v Speaker 7>talk or see each other for a month?

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<v Speaker 5>We know that one. I mean, that's that's pretty clearly.

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<v Speaker 5>Tan you Oh, I like a month? An hour?

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<v Speaker 2>Definitely want to go a month before you cried?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh well, that's the end of the Ask Vanya episode.

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