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Speaker 1: Ready, ready, Ready, there we go scrubbing in with Tilly

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Speaker 1: and Tanya d An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing intis we are another day another?

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Speaker 2: Ask Bonya?

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Speaker 1: That's right? I like Teka. I don't like Bonya. Actually

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Speaker 1: Techa's so I don't know, harsh Yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, there's a rapper named Little Teka who had a

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Speaker 3: song on.

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Speaker 1: Thee so we can't. We can't take that right now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no we can. How do we compete with Little Teka?

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Speaker 1: No? No, no, it's Bonya. Yeah, ask Bonya.

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Speaker 2: Ask Bonya. So what inspired this episode was or some

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Speaker 2: of this episode was that Hannah Gee from whose Colton

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Speaker 2: season of The Bachelor answered someone's question on TikTok about

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Speaker 2: what were the flights and travel days like when you're

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Speaker 2: on the Bachelor. And it has been a long time

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Speaker 2: since that time of my life.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy, how long has it been.

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Speaker 2: I filmed the first season I did in twenty fourteen,

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Speaker 2: so ten years this September will be ten years.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. A decade, a decade, so crazy.

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Speaker 4: And look at you, so much has happened, so much

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Speaker 4: has happened, so much has changed, and yet so much

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Speaker 4: has remained.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so much.

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Speaker 1: So yeah through the hour class Yeah yeah, yeah, are

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Speaker 1: the days of our lives.

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Speaker 2: So when we were on the Bachelor, it was Christmas season.

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Speaker 2: Was really funny because I went on The Bachelor thinking

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Speaker 2: it was going to really fulfill my wonderlust desire to

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Speaker 2: travel and explore the world, because I was thinking, worst

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Speaker 2: case scenario, if I'm not into him, I'll go on

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Speaker 2: some cool helicopter rides and see new places. Not even

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Speaker 2: realizing that when you're filming something, you're not really leaving

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Speaker 2: and going off to explore. You're kind of at their mercy,

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Speaker 2: not kind.

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Speaker 1: Of your mercy, like you stuck in a hotel room.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not going anywhere unless you're with the produce,

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Speaker 2: you know, with everybody.

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Speaker 1: That's so lame. They should give you, guys, like free time.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes if there was a day in between the travel day,

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Speaker 2: you would have time off. But you you had you

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Speaker 2: were still with the producers and the cast. You know,

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Speaker 2: it was very and you'd have your phone, so you

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Speaker 2: were very attached to them because you couldn't really go

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Speaker 2: anywhere else.

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Speaker 1: Oh god.

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Speaker 2: So anyways, the funny part about that is that I

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Speaker 2: thought I was going to explore the world, and we

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Speaker 2: stayed in the Midwest the whole time, so, right, I

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Speaker 2: did explore places that, yeah, the heartland of the USA.

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Speaker 2: I did explore places that I would never go to,

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Speaker 2: you know. So that was kind of cool in the sense,

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Speaker 2: and I have good memories from it. But we ended

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Speaker 2: up going to Bali, And I don't think when I

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Speaker 2: think about flying on Chris's season, I don't have a

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Speaker 2: memory of this. But on Ben's season, I remember we

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Speaker 2: took a flight to the Bahamas, and so it was

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Speaker 2: a small plane and they only have so many flights

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Speaker 2: out to the islands, you know, and Ben was in

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Speaker 2: So Ben's in first class with his producer and handler

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Speaker 2: and then all of his girlfriends that he's dating at

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Speaker 2: the same time had to walk by him back to

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Speaker 1: So awkward. That is. So they also should have just

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Speaker 2: We were like, hey, Ben, and you can tell he

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Speaker 2: airports are really fun because we it was when they

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Speaker 2: first had vending machines for makeup stuff. Do you remember,

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Speaker 2: like the Bourbank Airport has it and some other airport benefit.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, benefit.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you would have thought that we had just stepped

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Speaker 2: into Mall of America. Like we went crazy. The duty

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Speaker 1: How long were you gone all in like when you

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Speaker 2: Oh? Well, I mean the time max was eight weeks,

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Speaker 2: so you had to pack.

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Speaker 1: For eight weeks because eight times seven.

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Speaker 2: Eight times seven is fifty six.

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Speaker 1: So do you have is that right?

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Speaker 2: Do you have to bring?

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Speaker 1: Do you have to bring fifty six pairs of underwear? Well,

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Speaker 1: there's a washing machine, so you guys just do your laundry.

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Speaker 2: In the house. You do, and then once you go.

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Speaker 2: I mean, they have handlers and stuff. So if you

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Speaker 1: To go buy you underwear like Victoria's Secret.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, are you like staining your underwear?

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Speaker 1: Why can't you wash it in the sink in a

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Speaker 2: No, like we they would you know, hotels have like

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Speaker 1: Oh so you just hear my producer man.

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Speaker 2: Now you just give them a bag and be like,

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Speaker 2: here's my clothes.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why that feels so like personal.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you really have to depend on these people.

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Speaker 2: You don't have your phone, and then the traveling to

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Speaker 2: or so much talking. Yeah, there was a lot of talking,

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Speaker 2: but we all had been talking so much that we

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Speaker 2: So I remember going to Bali. Taylor Swift's nineteen eighty

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Speaker 2: nine had just come out, and I didn't have my phone.

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Speaker 2: So one of the producers, he his girlfriend Sammy, got

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Speaker 2: me for my birthday as the Taylor Swift CD. And

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Speaker 2: I went to Target during my hometowns because I had

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I have an airport question, okay, And I know

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Speaker 6: I should write in describing it Todaharty dot com.

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Speaker 3: But I'm gonna circumvent.

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Speaker 2: That, like this is VIP questionnaire.

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Speaker 6: I heard from another former Bachelor person that when you

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Speaker 3: We're filming The Bachelor.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so what would you say if, like, was there

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Speaker 6: a rule of like if people ask you what's going on?

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Speaker 5: Who are you?

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Speaker 2: We said we were on I think we had to

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Speaker 6: Because I think Ben was saying that they it was

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like it was a sports team something like that.

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Speaker 2: Where we were, we were just a traveling team of

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Speaker 2: some sort like yellow jackets. Yeah, yes, but no one

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Speaker 6: Because I think now even if you're non TV, if

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Speaker 2: But yeah, and that time is so different because social

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Speaker 2: Like they literally send you a list of what you

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Speaker 1: For a how many suitcases did you have?

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Speaker 2: You're only allowed to bring two, two big suitcases and

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Speaker 2: I think I had to carry on, but like you're

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Speaker 2: So I was with Kaitlin Bristow during Chris's season that

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Speaker 2: I think she emailed her dad one time for my phone.

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Speaker 2: But she was with the outside just once.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And then I listened to music and that was it. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, that was a little bts, little bts.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, sorry, I tried to get my mic

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Speaker 1: and then I I had to pivot Yeah, it happened fast.

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Speaker 2: like trends and they're thinking ahead of like let's film

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Speaker 1: Oh, because I like on Love Island that they all

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Speaker 2: Given so much for you to have gone on the Bachelor.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, mister sunshine dumper.

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Speaker 2: On fairs, They're definitely not known as being hygienic, but

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Speaker 1: It's food and freedom and child community community.

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Speaker 2: Know the area where I'm from, isn't its like wholesome

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Speaker 1: Red flag like, you are not in love with this dude.

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Speaker 2: I had spent a total of ten hours with him. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: The state fair of Louisiana. Yeah, oh wow, Louisiana. Feed

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Speaker 2: The food was crazy, but that's pretty typically.

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Speaker 6: I love them with so much of my Heart's not

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Speaker 1: We were at a fair.

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Speaker 2: We were at a fair.

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Speaker 1: I think it was over the It was, yeah, it

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Speaker 2: Are you so happy about this? Yeah? I understand.

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Speaker 2: Well. Fairs are special for a lot of people, and

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Speaker 2: Do you like a corn dog?

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Speaker 5: Not really?

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Speaker 7: Wow?

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Speaker 1: I'd rather like a hamburger or like a beady at taco.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and carnies.

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Speaker 6: But the Santa Cruz County Fair from my hometown has

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Speaker 2: I love it, to say, Easton, And I know that

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Speaker 3: Thank you very much, figuring that that truly does me wrong.

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Speaker 2: But saying that he seeks with just freedom and there's

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Speaker 5: He's going to sing.

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Speaker 3: Yes, well, you're very kind of saying thank you.

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Speaker 2: You know, fill your diet first all.

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Speaker 1: I'm the only one that's going to keep it real

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Speaker 2: I didn't say that, but I was saying more like you.

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Speaker 6: If you If you guys want to see me play guitar,

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Speaker 2: Love and I just covered you.

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Speaker 7: That would be a fun segment on the show, but

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Speaker 7: it's not legal. Would be for to sing karaoke on

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Speaker 7: but we can't do it because you can't have music

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Speaker 5: But I think it would be.

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Speaker 2: Fun royalty free music.

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Speaker 5: We can't sing along, plain that we can't.

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Speaker 7: I think it'd be really funking a karaoke contest some

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Speaker 2: But Love is Blind, I mean, yeah, the Love is

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Speaker 1: I know they don't need to talk to the Love

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Speaker 2: If they get license music, I think.

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Speaker 2: Like, no, we're just gonna use it. Okay, We're gonna

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Speaker 2: we are back. I think we have a couple of emails,

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Speaker 2: so you do well.

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Speaker 5: That's the whole point of this episode, I believe.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so take it away.

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Speaker 7: All right, I'd be happy to Uh. This is from Laura.

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Speaker 7: First off, I want to say the podcast is such

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Speaker 7: a great start to my week. I wanted to know

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Speaker 7: with Tanya. It helps if his acts is dating another woman,

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Speaker 7: but in general, I've been dating my boyfriend for two years.

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Speaker 7: He recently started work I'm get a sports agency and

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Speaker 7: he will one day give into temptation. This is my person,

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Speaker 7: so when he tips, any of you can give to

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Speaker 7: keep me sane, please bring them on. I hope your

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Speaker 7: podcast stays on for another fifty years.

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Speaker 5: That is very sweet.

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Speaker 7: That's a fun we wishing you do that someday. What

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Speaker 7: I mean, I'd.

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Speaker 1: Like to be doing this show for the next fifty years,

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Speaker 1: but Becca, I feel like this is probably better for you.

447
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I I think I've expressed on the

448
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Speaker 2: podcast how challenging I've had, like really challenging moments when

449
00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:50,920
Speaker 2: Haley's gone, especially on tour because it's for an extended

450
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Speaker 2: amount of time. I don't know what helps, Like, I

451
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Speaker 2: really don't know what I mean. Therapy couples say has

452
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 2: helped us a lot, But I also think that the

453
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Speaker 2: thing that really helped is when I started explaining to

454
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,720
Speaker 2: her what makes me feel insecure and what would make

455
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Speaker 2: me feel more secure, that realistic things that she can

456
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Speaker 2: do because obviously she can't fly back and be with

457
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Speaker 2: me to comfort me, But what are things she can

458
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Speaker 2: do while she's a way that make me feel safe?

459
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Speaker 2: And I think the first step is expressing those concerns

460
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Speaker 2: and not in a way. I think it's important to

461
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Speaker 2: let your partner know that you trust him, it's just

462
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Speaker 2: your own insecurities, because I realized a lot of I

463
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Speaker 2: kept when I was in therapy. I kept thinking about

464
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Speaker 2: why am I feeling insecured? Is it that I don't

465
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Speaker 2: trust her? Because if I don't trust her. What is

466
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Speaker 2: she doing that makes me out trust her? And I

467
00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:42,080
Speaker 2: couldn't think of anything. It wasn't It wasn't that I

468
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Speaker 2: didn't trust her. It was that I felt insecure about

469
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Speaker 2: her being gone and her spending time and having experiences

470
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Speaker 2: with other people, which was really hard for me to

471
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Speaker 2: realize because getting jealous or insecure about your partner having

472
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Speaker 2: fun experiences that you're not involved in and acknowledge that

473
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 2: that made you feel bad, it is like a vulnerable

474
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Speaker 2: thing to face because I'm like, I want you to

475
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Speaker 2: have experiences and I don't care that they're with other people,

476
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Speaker 2: and yet it makes me feel sad and left behind

477
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Speaker 2: or something. So once I was able to figure that

478
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Speaker 2: out and really and then Haley's thing was that she

479
00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 2: loves to recap, so like she wanted to tell me

480
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Speaker 2: about her days, but I was hearing about things that

481
00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 2: made me feel sad, so I would be like, I

482
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Speaker 2: don't even know if I want to hear about this,

483
00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:33,919
Speaker 2: but then she felt like I didn't care. So it

484
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Speaker 2: was kind of finding that balance and being able to

485
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Speaker 2: support your partner and doing what they love and knowing

486
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Speaker 2: that you trust them, but also working on yourself while

487
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Speaker 2: they're gone because I think the biggest thing was filling

488
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Speaker 2: time with friends. And there were times where I just

489
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:50,400
Speaker 2: didn't want to be around anybody, But the only thing

490
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Speaker 2: that made me feel better was being around people or

491
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Speaker 2: doing something that kept my brain away from wondering what

492
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Speaker 2: Haley was doing. Like she's on stage, I'm like, why

493
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 2: she's performing right now? Why am I wondering what she's doing?

494
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Speaker 2: And so I think it's just finding that safety. But

495
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Speaker 2: I also think couple therapy has helped a lot because

496
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Speaker 2: it was kind of us figuring out where we were

497
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 2: meeting in that because I'd be like, I don't feel

498
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Speaker 2: safe and she's like, well you every time I try

499
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Speaker 2: to talk to you don't want to hear about it.

500
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Speaker 2: I'm like, because I don't feel safe. So it's just

501
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Speaker 2: I don't know, it's just finding that communication.

502
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Speaker 1: I think that's a big part of it, is like

503
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Speaker 1: being able to be open and honest about about how

504
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Speaker 1: you're feeling and why you're feeling that way, and expressing

505
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Speaker 1: that you do trust your partner, but it still makes

506
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Speaker 1: you feel a certain type of way. So sometimes it's

507
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Speaker 1: like I remember my therapist always said things that like

508
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 1: really would blow my mind, but she was like, two

509
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Speaker 1: things can be true at the same time. So you

510
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,240
Speaker 1: know how like Casey Musgraves haves the song happy and Sad,

511
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Speaker 1: It's like somebody can be happy and sad at the

512
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Speaker 1: same time with like different stuff that's going on in

513
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Speaker 1: their life, you know what I mean, Like two things

514
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Speaker 1: like that can exist. So I feel like you can

515
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Speaker 1: feel jealous and insecure and he can also be doing

516
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 1: absolutely nothing wrong and be like the most absolutely loyal

517
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: partner ever and both things can be true at the

518
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Speaker 1: same time. And so I think it's just being able

519
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 1: to express to him that you're feeling a certain type

520
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,920
Speaker 1: of way and then like allowing him to just hear

521
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 1: it and just and do with that what he feels

522
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Speaker 1: is right, you know. Like I remember, it's really interesting

523
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Speaker 1: when you start dating a guy that has two kids,

524
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Speaker 1: because I'll never forget Teddy told me this and it

525
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Speaker 1: really stuck with me. She was like, you know, when

526
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Speaker 1: you're newly dating a guy and you're not spending all

527
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Speaker 1: your time with that person, they go on golf trips

528
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,680
Speaker 1: with their dudes and they do this stuff with their dudes.

529
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Speaker 1: Like Robbie never did that. It was he was with

530
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Speaker 1: me or he was with his kids. Like I never

531
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Speaker 1: had to like question what he was doing or where

532
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Speaker 1: he was or you know what I mean. Like I

533
00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 1: always I knew if he wasn't with me, he was

534
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Speaker 1: with the kids. And it was kind of how our

535
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 1: relationship has always been, like it's me and the kids,

536
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Speaker 1: and that's kind of what he fills his life with.

537
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Speaker 1: And I remember the first time he told me he

538
00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 1: was getting coffee with this like girlfriend of his from

539
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 1: high school. I got insecure about it, Like I got

540
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 1: really weird about it. And in my mind, I'm like,

541
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Speaker 1: I trust him completely. He's never given me one like

542
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 1: I trust him with everything in me. I trust this

543
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: even though I don't really know the woman. I was like,

544
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 1: I do trust the one, Like there's nothing in here

545
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 1: that I should be insecure or upset about, and yet

546
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Speaker 1: I was. And so I just like said it. I

547
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: was like, I just it makes it feel turned away

548
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,280
Speaker 1: because I never have had to experience that with you before,

549
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Speaker 1: you know, like I've just never had this, so it's

550
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:30,159
Speaker 1: like weird. So he just heard me out and then

551
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 1: you know it was what it was.

552
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I also think it's you going thinking to yourself, Okay,

553
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 2: in this situation that we're in What are things, realistic

554
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 2: things that he can do to make me feel safe

555
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 2: in this? And it like for me, it was like

556
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Speaker 2: she texts me throughout the day when when she's doing

557
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:51,199
Speaker 2: something and it's like, hey, just checking in, or you know,

558
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Speaker 2: whenever she has a moment and has the capacity like

559
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,120
Speaker 2: face timing, like we at least talk on the phone

560
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 2: or FaceTime at least once a day, but most of

561
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Speaker 2: the time it was two times a day.

562
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Speaker 1: And like putting your picture on her hydroflask, you know,

563
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:09,120
Speaker 1: means yeah, totally totally fine to ask for.

564
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it couldn't. It's like you you can't be

565
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 2: controlling because that you want to. It's healthy to be

566
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 2: able to trust your partner with him going and doing

567
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 2: something like this and you working on yourself and finding

568
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 2: out where the insecurity stem from.

569
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Speaker 7: Yes, I think that's a big part of this is

570
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,680
Speaker 7: self esteem also, like you know, everything you're feeling is legitimate,

571
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 7: but also why do you feel like you're not enough

572
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 7: for him? Why do you feel like he's bound astray?

573
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 7: Why do you feel like right that he's the only

574
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Speaker 7: one you can get, you know, like if he if

575
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 7: he does stray, then he is not your person. You

576
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 7: say he's your person, but if he's stray, he's not,

577
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 7: and you can do as well or better than him.

578
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: So and yeah, but we feel this need to control

579
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 1: like it's interesting. It is so psychological.

580
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Speaker 7: There you go, Good luck, Laura, thanks for listening to

581
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 7: our podcast. Uh April and Jan clarification on sleep smell.

582
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Speaker 7: April says, I don't know what that is. I have

583
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 7: to shower at night because of our schedules, and now

584
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Speaker 7: I'm worried that I smell at work. Can you explain

585
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 7: sleep smell? Jill said, I remember Becca metching that she

586
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 7: showers before bed to wash off the day. But does

587
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,119
Speaker 7: she shower in the morning to get rid of sleep smell?

588
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 7: Does she wash your hair every day? Or is hair

589
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 7: exempt from sleep smell? Some clarification please.

590
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:21,840
Speaker 1: Okay, so you don't know sleep smell, you probably have

591
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: sleep smell. So I hate to break it to you,

592
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 1: April and Jill, but you might have it. So I

593
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 1: look into that.

594
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 2: I will never get into my bed without showering. That

595
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 2: is a mandatory. And then morning shower if I'm going somewhere,

596
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 2: like if I'm like like for instance, when I come

597
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 2: to the podcast, I shower if I work out or something,

598
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:45,879
Speaker 2: I'm not going to shower before I work out, but

599
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 2: I'll shower after I work out. Just depends on my day,

600
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Speaker 2: I guess.

601
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,680
Speaker 1: So I shower every morning and every night. However, I

602
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 1: still believe that my two showers a day are still

603
00:27:56,000 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: shorter than your typical one shower a day because I

604
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 1: just I do the bits.

605
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 2: You don't wash your feet, yeah, correct.

606
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,919
Speaker 1: I do a quick come in there, armpits, you know,

607
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:14,640
Speaker 1: private parts, face, and I'm out to get the sleep off,

608
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 1: to get the sleep off. So in the morning, I

609
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 1: have to get the sleep off, which is why I

610
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: shower in the morning, and then at night. I do

611
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 1: not get into my bed without showering. But I sweat

612
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 1: when I sleep, so I have to shower. I have

613
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 1: to shower.

614
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 2: I don't sweat when I sleep, but I don't wash

615
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 2: my hair.

616
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 1: Every day, neither do I.

617
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 2: But the sleep smell with the hair, I just will.

618
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Speaker 1: It could get your hair could get sleep smell if

619
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Speaker 1: you let it go long enough.

620
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 2: Do you want to hear the really unfortunate news. It's

621
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 2: it's not sleep smell when it's the hair. It's more

622
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 2: like what like dirty scalp which if you've been in

623
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 2: an uber, you know there's certain ubers where you smell

624
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 2: the dirty scalp smell. Okay, okay, I use dry shampoo,

625
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 2: and I literally will make hair. I'll be like, does

626
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 2: my hair smell? Because if she says yes, I'm washing it,

627
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 2: and she's always like, no, it sounds like it sounds

628
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,960
Speaker 2: like come like perfume because of my try shampoo.

629
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: So I used to wash my hair every single day.

630
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: Also because I used to work out every single day,

631
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 1: and I get like sweaty and gross. Now that I'm

632
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 1: doing more pilates and less like sweaty exercises, I don't

633
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: wash it every day, and that is something that concerns me.

634
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 1: The smell, the smell, the scout smell.

635
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 2: You should ask Robby. You gotta have the trust with you.

636
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. He didn't have a sense

637
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 1: of smell for many years.

638
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 2: I had advantage of it. Yeah, I use it for good.

639
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: Take a whoof in here? It does that smell like?

640
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 2: Yeah? So I don't know what to tell you. I

641
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 2: I just know that I do my best to avoid

642
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 2: smelling like sleep, and I try to. My goal every

643
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 2: day is for someone to tell me I smell good.

644
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: But I also think too, if you're doing you're generally

645
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: hygienic person, do I smell?

646
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 5: I never noticed smell I never noticed or bad.

647
00:29:57,880 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: That's good because I don't really spray up on me, right,

648
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 1: I don't want the the endocrin disruptors. All right, I

649
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: try not to spray things on myself. But I don't

650
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 1: want to smell bad.

651
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 5: You smell neutral. You just don't smell.

652
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:16,719
Speaker 1: Okay. If you're an overall hygienic person, I don't think

653
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 1: you're gonna get sleep smell because to me, I think

654
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: sleep smells somebody like doesn't wash their sheets often like

655
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: it's it's it's pretty.

656
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 2: I think smell stems from getting into your bed without

657
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 2: showering after being like doing stuff all, not.

658
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: Washing your sheets for like like weeks.

659
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,920
Speaker 7: Yes, so shower before a bad clean sheets. You're probably

660
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 7: not gonna have to sleep smell the next morning.

661
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 1: Generally speaking, I think you're okay.

662
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 2: I think you're good. I think you're safe.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: I'd like to request one more break, please, okay, and

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Speaker 7: then we have a fun game from Mariette.

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Speaker 5: That you sent in.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Mary, we'll be right back after this break. All right,

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Speaker 2: we are back with a game, A game.

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Speaker 7: That a listener named Mariette sent in. She says, I've

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Speaker 7: really enjoyed the energy and laughter on the pod as

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Speaker 7: of late and wanted to contribute to it with a

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Speaker 7: fun game we recently played over the weekend. It's based

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Speaker 7: on you and your partners, and it's the who is

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Speaker 7: most likely to game. I've included questions below and what

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Speaker 7: generated the most laughter and chat in our game night.

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Speaker 7: So I'm thinking the way we do this, and I

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Speaker 7: don't know how the game is played, but I thought

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Speaker 7: it'd be fun if we read the who is more

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Speaker 7: likely to? Between Becca and Tanya and then Easton and

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Speaker 7: I guess who we think is more likely to and

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Speaker 7: then you guys can determine who's what the.

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Speaker 5: Correct answer is.

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Speaker 7: For example, Okay, number one, who was more likely to

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Speaker 7: smell their partner's clothing when folding them?

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Speaker 5: Easton Tanya?

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Speaker 7: Tanya, what do you guys think? Question about that? So

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Speaker 7: you have done that before? Yeah, just to kind of

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Speaker 7: get his musk.

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Speaker 1: Just to kind of just to see to see what

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Speaker 1: what it smells like.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, Okay, is.

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Speaker 2: This after a laundry or like you're putting thing that

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Speaker 2: went folding them, you wouldn't be folding dirty clothes.

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Speaker 1: I don't like smell his like gym clothes, but I have.

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Speaker 1: I just don't do it on a regular.

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Speaker 2: I didn't clean.

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Speaker 7: Okay, if he's if he is, he ever gone, he's

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Speaker 7: out of town and you smell something, he's warned, just

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Speaker 7: to kind of bring back the scent.

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Speaker 5: No, okay, just check it all right? Next one? Uh East?

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Speaker 7: Then what do you think, Becker Tanya? Who is most

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Speaker 7: likely to wake up and be in the mood for it?

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Speaker 3: I don't know if we should define what it is.

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Speaker 5: I guess we don't need to.

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Speaker 6: Tanya.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Tanya, I.

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Speaker 1: Feel like she's a morning girly.

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Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna say you. I think it could

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Speaker 2: be you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it is me for a morning tonight.

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Speaker 2: I like a healthy balance.

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Speaker 1: I'm too tired at night. Morning all the way.

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Speaker 5: Okay, good good?

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Speaker 7: Who Becca or Tanya would be the most likely to

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Speaker 7: be killed first if they were in a horror movie?

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Speaker 3: Becca killed first, killed first?

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Speaker 7: Let me think about that, killed first in a horror Yeah,

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Speaker 7: I think No, I think Tanya. I don't think if

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Speaker 7: Tanya is having a lot of like, you know, kind

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Speaker 7: of like that streets.

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Speaker 5: I need to know to kill her on the loose.

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Speaker 2: Why this is like a no brainer?

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Speaker 1: I thought it was you.

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Speaker 6: I feel like I don't know how much fight you

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Speaker 6: have in you, and I also think you're bet.

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Speaker 3: I don't doubt that.

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Speaker 6: But I also feel like you might be the first

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Speaker 6: one in a like a zombie horde or something. I

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Speaker 6: think you might be the first one to like just

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Speaker 6: resign to your fate, like.

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Speaker 2: Should give up in a zombie thing. See. Wow, this

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Speaker 2: is interesting because this is so not my character, like

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Speaker 2: how I think I'm viewed. I'm very athletic and fast.

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Speaker 2: So I'm voting Tanya, I.

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Speaker 7: Say, because I feel like Tanya is very trusting of people,

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Speaker 7: and if there's a if a horror movie with a

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Speaker 7: killer on the loose, she's more likely to.

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Speaker 2: Hug them in the house.

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Speaker 5: Yes she would, he would say, yeah, paranoid.

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Speaker 1: So I know, I think this is back all the way.

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Speaker 2: She scrubbers to weigh in.

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Speaker 5: On the what's your reasoning for?

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Speaker 1: Because who is most likely to be killed first if

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Speaker 1: they were in a horror movie?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: So I think that I can run faster than you.

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Speaker 5: Okay a video.

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Speaker 2: Video?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. I also think that I would know

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Speaker 1: all the exits of wherever I am. Like, I don't

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Speaker 1: think you go into a movie theater and look for

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Speaker 1: all the exits.

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Speaker 2: I'm very paranoid about scary things.

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Speaker 1: I also think I would duck and cover. I'd find

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Speaker 1: like a small little hole to curl up in, and

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Speaker 1: I feel like you would like try and fight them.

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Speaker 2: No, I would just run because I'm faster.

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Speaker 1: I just disagree.

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Speaker 7: We're gonna go down right here, or we could go, uh,

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Speaker 7: I know, the sidewalk over here.

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Speaker 3: In California or on the corner from California riverside because long.

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Speaker 5: To run barefoot today.

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Speaker 2: Because I need to go.

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Speaker 5: I got my But I think that would be a very.

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Speaker 2: Good Yeah, that's really.

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Speaker 5: Good, Crystal. You might need to come up for that one.

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Speaker 5: Who is the bigger baby when sick?

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Speaker 2: Definitely me?

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Speaker 1: I'm going back and for sure, back up, I rule

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Speaker 1: the world when I'm sick.

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Speaker 7: Who is the most likely to fall asleep while being

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Speaker 7: intimate Easton? I don't know, I say Becca. Tanya's eyes

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Speaker 7: never close even in those situations. I feel like her

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Speaker 7: eyelids never touch each other.

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Speaker 2: She's tired. Yeah, so I think that a self admission.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's true. I think if your eyes always wide open.

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Speaker 1: That is true when I'm awake, but if I'm asleep,

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Speaker 1: they're closed fair enough, So if I were sleeping, then

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Speaker 1: they would be.

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Speaker 5: That's sure. Who gives better directions? Becca, I could see.

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Speaker 2: That, sure, like getting somewhere.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I feel like Tanya would be making up a

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Speaker 6: lot of words in streets.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, I probably have a better sense of direction too.

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Speaker 7: That's the questions less reliant on their GPS.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, probably me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, for sure.

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Speaker 7: Our last one here for Mariette and thank you Marriette.

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Speaker 7: Who would be the first to crack if you couldn't

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Speaker 7: talk or see each other for a month?

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Speaker 5: We know that one. I mean, that's that's pretty clearly.

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00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 5: Tan you Oh, I like a month? An hour?

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00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 2: Definitely want to go a month before you cried?

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00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's for sure.

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00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 2: Oh well, that's the end of the Ask Vanya episode.

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Speaker 2: Share it with your friends, please.

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Speaker 1: Download it on your parents.

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Speaker 2: Give us ratings, give us five stars. Please. We really

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Speaker 2: should have been better. We you know, throughout the years,

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Speaker 2: we should have really encouraged our listeners to do that,

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Speaker 2: but we've never really been consistent with.

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Speaker 7: I always that always wrote me the wrong way when

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Speaker 7: podcasts tell me to leave a five star review for them,

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Speaker 7: I don't do it.

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Speaker 1: If you could, yeah, just rate.

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Speaker 2: And off pudding. But if you have some time and

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Speaker 2: he liked her episode.

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Speaker 1: Yeah a nice review wouldn't harm.

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Speaker 2: I sure want it anyways. We love you so much

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Speaker 2: and we'll baby that