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Speaker 1: Am I wrong for not wanting my cousin as a bridesmaid?

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Speaker 2: Riley? Which cousin would you not want to as your maid man?

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Speaker 2: As your what do they call it groomson?

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Speaker 3: Forget?

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Speaker 4: Probably but like out of all you want me to

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Speaker 4: pick one cousin that's not going to be my groomsman?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm joking, don't pick that all right?

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Speaker 5: What about which one of your cousin is not going

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Speaker 5: to be your bridesmaid or?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Actually and name them.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't say I'm like super super close with all

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Speaker 1: of the that's my the closest, you know, female cousin

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Speaker 1: that I'm you know, close with, Yeah. Yeah, But I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't say I'm close enough to my other cousins for

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Speaker 1: them to be bridesmaids out of like all of my friends.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think like my groomsmen are probably going to

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Speaker 4: be like my three brothers, and yeah, if my significant

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Speaker 4: another has any brothers, and if she does it, then

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Speaker 4: I'll just add some friends.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if my cousins would be my bridesmaids

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Speaker 1: or not all of them.

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Speaker 2: For sure. I have a lot of cousins.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, hope he's not the a whole Yeah no, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Choice Evidence nineteen eighty three says, Hi, everyone, first time

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Speaker 1: next year, yay, and I started discussing plans with my

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Speaker 1: aunt Mom's sister will be expecting me to make my

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Speaker 1: cousin female thirteen a bridesmaid. That's weird expecting No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I do not want that. I'll keep it brief, but essentially,

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Speaker 1: she's the most spoiled, annoying, and entitled person I've ever known,

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Speaker 1: an angel as a parent, I would expect that, and

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Speaker 1: with everything. Now I should mention my aunt is a

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Speaker 1: I cannot tolerate her kid. There's no question about it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not making her a bridesmaid. I've already picked them out.

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Speaker 1: My mom said my aunt will be heartbroken. She's a

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Speaker 1: very sensitive person, but she backs my decision. I'm sure

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Speaker 1: I'm a horrible person for not allowing this, but would

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Speaker 1: I be wrong? Also, I want advice from anyone who

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Speaker 1: reads this. How do I go about telling my aunt

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Speaker 1: this decision with as minimal damage possible. I don't want

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Speaker 1: because I'm ofset someone Thanks and advance edit. Thank you

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Speaker 1: all for the comments. I've read all your sessions and

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Speaker 1: I think I've decided what I'm going to do. I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to make an announcement about it. It does

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Speaker 1: I'll go with all the bridesmaids need to be over

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Speaker 1: eighteen years old. If Aunt says it's unfair, I will

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Speaker 1: bring up the fact that she wouldn't be able to

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Speaker 1: participate in most things. Oh, it's hard to argue when

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Speaker 1: time is the enemy. Right, and there is an update?

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Speaker 1: But what are we order our thoughts on this?

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Speaker 5: Do not have her in the wedding?

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 5: I mean, if she's like the youngest family member and

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Speaker 5: you're looking for a flower girl, sure, like deal with it.

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Speaker 2: But like, but bride'smaid I think is too personal.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't know her like that, and I think

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Speaker 4: her mom just wants her to like dress up and

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Speaker 4: feel like, yeah, have that moment.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like this is kind of selfish to.

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Speaker 2: Be like, oh, the cousins should be and the bridesmaids.

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Speaker 1: I think bridesmaids are about, you know, the closest people

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Speaker 1: and I don't think.

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Speaker 2: That it seems like, op, he's close with them.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. I was at my uncle's wedding.

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Speaker 2: Uh huh, you were in it?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh nice.

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Speaker 5: He was like ten years older than me. That was fun.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never been a bridesmaid, so really, I've been

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Speaker 5: But actually I was in my cousin's wedding as a groomsman.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that's cool. I am excited to be a bridesmaid.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's Funait. How many weddings have you been to?

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Speaker 2: A lot? I don't have a number, Like I truly

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Speaker 5: Okay, good because like John and Sam said they haven't been.

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Speaker 4: To a lot.

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Speaker 2: No, that's not true.

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Speaker 5: Sam's been to a lot, but John hasn't.

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Speaker 2: Like I've talked to a lot.

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Speaker 1: Of people who've been, Like, I've never been to a wedding.

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Speaker 1: I go to crazy like one to three weddings a year.

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Speaker 5: Same.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, everyone's getting married and everyone's always having babies

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Sam, who's going to be your groom?

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Speaker 2: Your man of what are they call?

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Speaker 5: What's the man?

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Speaker 2: Best man? I keep getting best man?

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Speaker 5: Okay, oh boy Tate.

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Speaker 1: My brother made of honor is my friend Isabella Ah.

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Speaker 1: And then obviously all my other friends are going to

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Speaker 1: of my my man, not my man of honor, but

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Speaker 1: Anyway, there's an update. My aunt has now been finally

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Speaker 1: My mom was going to tell her that I haven't

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Speaker 2: But there were other concerns. Eg.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't like.

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Speaker 1: Being around people she doesn't know, which would be half

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Speaker 5: But like that's an assumption. We don't even know that.

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Speaker 5: She could just be spoiled, And.

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Speaker 1: Like, ah, I don't love that she called cousins spoiled,

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Speaker 2: Any damage done.

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Speaker 1: There may be another update depending on how next week goes.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for reading if you get to this point at it,

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Speaker 1: Thank you for all the comments. I got a lot

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Speaker 1: more attention than I ever expected. Reading all your comments

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Speaker 1: clarity of the sheer stupidity of my issue. I've decided

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Speaker 1: I won't be bringing flowers and I won't be apologizing.

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Speaker 1: I will still go over next weekend, but I'll explain

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Speaker 2: But do you have any thoughts?

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Speaker 5: I do have thoughts.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that Opie should apologize and like bring

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Speaker 1: from your description, it sounds like cousin is autistic. In

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Speaker 2: And there is another update. Hi everyone.

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Speaker 1: It went a lot better than expected, and my aunt

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Speaker 2: We're still on good terms.

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Speaker 1: I even said I would completely understand if she hated me,

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Speaker 1: but she just laughed, saying that would never happen. That

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Speaker 1: Thank you again from everyone.

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Speaker 6: That's so good.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad. Yeah, yeah, I'm glad that they aunt was

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and she just seems like a very nice person,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And of course, you know, it can be hard

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you can't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you have to like do the research on it,

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Speaker 1: Have to be ready for anything you do figure out. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, good on Op for clearing it out and not like.

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Speaker 2: I think OP could have given flowers.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 2: Think it was like you're admitting defeat.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives.

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Speaker 6: Time for OKOP Relab today. Fed up by trusting the

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Speaker 6: pullout method and now my retirement is fucked.

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Speaker 3: Like they literally tell you not to do the pull

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Speaker 3: remember fourth grade, they're like, yo, wow, they start early.

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Speaker 6: Dang it was earlier than me. Yeah, a little more progressive,

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Speaker 3: Are banging, you know, on the daily. Yeah, or at least.

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Speaker 3: And I had a pretty bad grade. So like fourth grade,

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Speaker 6: Wow yeah, wow, Okay.

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Speaker 3: This is that Catholic school, the dirtiest of the schools.

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Speaker 6: Californias are built different.

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Speaker 3: I know, I know it's that Hollywood influence. But even

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Speaker 3: hey that you know, many people just don't listen.

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Speaker 6: I'm I'm, I'm. My mind is still blown about the

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Speaker 4: And all that.

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Speaker 3: My mind was blown when I learned about it in

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Speaker 3: fourth grade. Oh man, which other things were blown?

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Speaker 6: But God, God save our chillas.

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Speaker 3: I uh, you know, Late Bloomer.

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Speaker 6: Same. All right, all right, let's let's let's see. Let's

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Speaker 6: see what this predicament this person is in. I forty seven, male,

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Speaker 6: you're going to be a grandpapy. I was done. I

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Speaker 3: Yo, you do that? That that Tim Ferris retired financial

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Speaker 3: independence but here's the thing. What's the thing?

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Speaker 6: Then?

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Speaker 3: Oh, now I met her by you gotta meet her

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Speaker 6: Know what that means her ejaculation. It was about six

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Speaker 6: months ago and our small city was hosting a massive

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Speaker 3: She about to help this man donate some blood. Dois wiener?

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Speaker 6: Twenty nine? She about to add forty to that sixty nine?

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Speaker 6: And then we started talking, oh with our mouths oh

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Speaker 3: We hit it off, yeah they did. Yeah, hit it

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Speaker 6: I could have just taken it as an ego boost

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Speaker 6: I didn't though. I asked for them digits big man.

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Speaker 3: Number, they get your grave, bro.

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Speaker 6: That was six months ago, and a few days ago

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Speaker 3: No and told me, an, wait, so they haven't been

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Speaker 6: It seems that they have had no communication.

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Speaker 3: No, it can Ncado.

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Speaker 6: And then she said she is pregnant with his baby.

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Speaker 6: Like no, like, heads up, like you I'm pregnant with

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Speaker 6: It's either it's either immediately or eighteen years. I'm going

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Speaker 6: to hell. Don't worry, guys. Now, I don't know what

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Speaker 6: You know what I mean. It's uh, you know, you'll

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Speaker 3: Yeah, my dad's fifty seven and I'm twenty five. My

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Speaker 6: I know. Actually he got on keto and he's got

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Speaker 6: He's way more fit than me.

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Speaker 3: Damn, that's for sure. My dad, my dad is hell

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Speaker 3: I've shown you this picture of my dad.

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Speaker 3: So this one the one that I wish I could find.

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Speaker 3: He's like, this is like from back in the day

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Speaker 3: you know what I made it? I mean I think

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I can't have that out in this straight.

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Speaker 3: It's just because my like it's two thirst trappy this

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's this one.

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Speaker 3: This is no one be able to see it, but

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Speaker 6: Massive definition, huge, massive definition huge, and everyone listening can't

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Speaker 3: So I know, dude, you're you're really missing out.

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Speaker 6: one day. We'll do a full auditory description. Yeah, his

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Speaker 6: oiled pegs bursting beneath the white fluffy towel, baby oil slowly, God,

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Speaker 6: please don't miss listen to this. Don't let our first

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Speaker 6: conversation will be so terrible. All right, Okay, guys, that's

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Speaker 6: your treat for the.

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Speaker 3: That's what is that? That end of story?

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Speaker 6: No? Oh wow, Now she's happy, Like this isn't going

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Speaker 6: to completely ruin my plans for the second half of

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Speaker 6: my life?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean does she even have kids? Like this

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Speaker 3: is like a this is like a thirty or a

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Speaker 3: twenty nine year old blessing. Right, she's like biological body clock. Bam.

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Speaker 6: Well, she's like she's at that, she's I think she's

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Speaker 6: right before. I feel like thirty yeah, that's true, right,

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Speaker 6: I feel like thirties. I feel like when I hear

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Speaker 6: people talking about more like in the thirties that but

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Speaker 6: you're getting there. You're getting there at twenty.

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Speaker 3: It's like, oh, I want to have a kid before, yeah,

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Speaker 3: you got less eggs. Most most most of the girls

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Speaker 3: I know say like, oh I want to have a

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Speaker 3: kid before thirty four.

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Speaker 6: Thirty yeah, or by thirty yeah yeah. Now. She was

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Speaker 6: never on birth control and was always open with me

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Speaker 6: about that. However, condoms fell by the wayside pretty quickly.

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Speaker 3: As they do, as they do.

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Speaker 6: I kept meaning to make an appointment for a vasectomy,

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Speaker 6: but figured pulling out would be just fine. My ex

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Speaker 6: wife and I had done it for almost a full hot,

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Speaker 6: steamy decade, damn, and never had much of a scare.

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Speaker 3: That's a whole lot.

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Speaker 6: My man had a false sense of assurance. Yo, decades strong.

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Speaker 6: It's almost a pull out king until game. But yo, yo,

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Speaker 6: all right, I just gotta like credit where credit is due.

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Speaker 6: But that's probably.

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Speaker 3: There, but pull out games strong they had kids, so

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Speaker 3: like they intentionally had kids. Yeah, but pull out game

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Speaker 3: for a whole decade. Pretty nuts that.

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Speaker 6: I did it. I did it, Sam, guys.

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Speaker 3: I love it. See I live for the puns, Live

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Speaker 3: for the puns, Live for the puns.

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Speaker 6: This was dumb as hell idiocracy of epic fucking proportions.

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Speaker 6: Learn from my mistakes, because I sure as hell didn't

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Speaker 6: learn from the cautionary sex said classes the pull out

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Speaker 6: method is bullshit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bunk baby, there we have it. Woo is it bullshit?

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Speaker 3: I think what I learned from that story is you

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Speaker 3: could do it for ten years. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you

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Speaker 3: could do it for ten years and then like but

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Speaker 3: then to never do it again. There's a ten year

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Speaker 3: expiration day on the phone. Thank you Op for explaining

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Speaker 3: the ten year so we got time. So everyone listening.

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Speaker 6: Uh, you know, if you have a penis, have unprotected

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Speaker 6: sex with a ten years I said four ten years.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Or if you know someone with a penis and

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Speaker 3: are having sex with them, tell them, tell them, tell

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Speaker 3: them about the expiration date. I think it's really important. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: tell a friend, tell a friend, spread the word. We're

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Speaker 3: here for true news. Guys, we should we should teach

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Speaker 3: sex class. We really should. I think I think this

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Speaker 3: is our our god given profession, Like this is what

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Speaker 3: we should do.

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Speaker 6: Samuel Donner in a room full of nine year old

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Speaker 6: fourth graders.

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Speaker 3: Just why why you gotta say it like that?

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Speaker 7: You brought into I'm sorry that was I don't know

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Speaker 7: what else to tell you. I was also in fourth grade.

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Speaker 7: It's not weird because I was talking temporily when I

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Speaker 7: was in fourth grade.

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Speaker 6: Oh man, all were ending this episode. I've canceled, Sam

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Speaker 6: mhm