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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. You never know it

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Speaker 1: could be yours. About that, it could be yours. Buckle

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Speaker 1: here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you enough you subject

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Speaker 1: They both want me, okay. Just Stephen Shirley. I'm a

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Speaker 1: forty four year old divorced woman and I recently got

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Speaker 1: divorced because my husband caught me cheating on him. I

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Speaker 1: have been having an affair with my boss for a

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Speaker 1: few years and it was all going good until my

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Speaker 1: to work for him. He got I rate and acted

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Speaker 1: out while we were in the office, so everyone figured

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Speaker 1: out what was going on. His niece works in our office,

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Speaker 1: so she started the rumor, which led to my husband

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Speaker 1: finding out so then I was forced to confess because

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Speaker 1: I don't like lying to my husband. He doesn't deserve

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Speaker 1: a wife like me, so I wanted to divorce him

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Speaker 1: with a clean heart and mind. When my husband left me,

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Speaker 1: he threatened both my boss and the other guy I

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Speaker 1: was messing with. I apologized to everyone and considered going

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Speaker 1: to live with my parents for a while out of state.

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Speaker 1: I took a leave of absence from work, and just

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Speaker 1: as I was getting my mail forward it to my

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Speaker 1: wanted to talk. I went to his new apartment and

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Speaker 1: we talked, cried, hugged, and had wild, passionate sex. I

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Speaker 1: knew he could never resist me in that way, so

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Speaker 1: I laid it on him. Days after that encounter, he

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Speaker 1: called me all day and night, wanting more. He finally

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Speaker 1: told me that he consider us getting back together if

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Speaker 1: I promised I'd never cheat on him again. I can't

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Speaker 1: promise him that. A few days after having sex with

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Speaker 1: my ex husband, I also had makeup sex with my boss,

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Speaker 1: and he wants to leave his wife and see if

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Speaker 1: we can work things out and possibly move in together.

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Speaker 1: I'm so torn because my boss is a much better

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Speaker 1: lover and he's wealthy. My husband will always have my heart,

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Speaker 1: but I don't think I want him. What do I

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Speaker 1: do in this situation? What? Huh? I mean? I definitely

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Speaker 1: think you need help. You need some help. But what

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Speaker 1: you're essentially asking us is who should you cheat on

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Speaker 1: if you get back together with these guys? Which one?

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Speaker 1: Should you get back together with your husband and cheat

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Speaker 1: on him again? Or should wed? We stay stay with

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Speaker 1: your boss who's considering leaving his wife for you, and

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Speaker 1: continue to cheat on him. The funny thing is not cheating,

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Speaker 1: you know, not cheating, being faithful. That doesn't seem to

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Speaker 1: be an option for you. The idea of being faithful

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Speaker 1: to one man, your husband in this case is it's

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Speaker 1: such a foreign concept to you. And why is that?

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Speaker 1: I mean, what's wrong with you? It seems like you're

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Speaker 1: okay with what you're doing. You have no remorse. You

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Speaker 1: said in your letter when your husband asked you back

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Speaker 1: if you would stop cheating, that you couldn't promise him

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Speaker 1: that most people know that cheating on their spouse is

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Speaker 1: wrong in God's eyes. And I threw that in because

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Speaker 1: you don't seem to know or care. I mean, we

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Speaker 1: just can't assume that people have morals and believe in

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Speaker 1: God and won't do these things. I'm sure it's flattering

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Speaker 1: from your perspective to have two men after you and

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Speaker 1: all of that, But you were married, and you shouldn't

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Speaker 1: have acted on that. You shouldn't have cheated on your

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Speaker 1: your husband. You know that now your actions are about

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Speaker 1: to break up yet another marriage, your boss marriage. You're

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Speaker 1: you're just leaving a trail of destruction everywhere you go,

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Speaker 1: breaking up marriages. All of this. My suggestion to you

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Speaker 1: is to stay divorced and stay single. Let your husband,

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Speaker 1: your your your boyfriend, and your boss, you know, let

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Speaker 1: them live without you because you're just no good. You'll

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Speaker 1: never get this right. You said it yourself. You'll never

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Speaker 1: be able to do the right thing. Steve Wow. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: in the new year twenty two, as promised, what I

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Speaker 1: of times this year, and it's time to call another

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Speaker 1: do I do in this situation? Well, I was gonna

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Speaker 1: start there with the advice of stop acting horrish. That's

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Speaker 1: let me show you some things that shocks regular people.

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Speaker 1: I'm afforded four year old divorce woman. I got divorced

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Speaker 1: because my husband caught me cheating on him. Okay, it happens,

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Speaker 1: but usually it's the other way around, but it happens,

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Speaker 1: so we're just a little bit shocked. I've been having

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Speaker 1: an affair with my boss. Okay, that happens to a

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Speaker 1: here we go. You're not having the problem when it

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Speaker 1: guy that used to work for him. Okay, now you

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Speaker 1: got your husband, you got your boss, and you got

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Speaker 1: the other guy that used to be an employee of

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Speaker 1: your boss and acted out while we were in the office,

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Speaker 1: so everybody figured out what was going on. His niece

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Speaker 1: worked out the office, and she started the rumor. No, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no, no no, you started the rumor. See all right, now

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Speaker 1: when I come back, it's just gonna be more to say.

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Speaker 1: All right, you heard him. Part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour, subject

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Speaker 1: they both want me. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening show, All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's crazy strawberry letter. Up your response. The

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Speaker 1: subject is they both want me, they both want me?

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Speaker 1: Forty four year old divorce woman. It's divorced recently because

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Speaker 1: her husband called her cheating on him, and who would

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Speaker 1: see cheating on him with her boss? And then for

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Speaker 1: work for him. Okay, that's three people. He got mad

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Speaker 1: didn't start the rumor. You started the rumor when you

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Speaker 1: slept with your boss. Who will find out later on

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Speaker 1: your husband finding out was you were sleeping with your boss. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so then I was forced to confess because I don't

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Speaker 1: like lying to my husband. What you got a problem

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Speaker 1: him sleeping with several other men. But you draw the

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Speaker 1: line when it come to line. I don't like lying

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Speaker 1: to my husband, but I'll tell you what. I passed

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Speaker 1: this prize package around like a cracker jackson, but I

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Speaker 1: will not lie to him. So you confess he doesn't

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Speaker 1: deserve a wife like me. Stop. But first of all,

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Speaker 1: let's stop calling yourself a wife. There's some other titles

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Speaker 1: white stuff. Okay. So I wanted to devote his enough

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Speaker 1: if you divorce him and clease everything up heart and mind?

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Speaker 1: You ain't mentioned the Lord in this at all. When

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Speaker 1: the letter takes a turn. I apologize to everyone. Well,

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Speaker 1: that had to be a bigger as meeting. I show

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Speaker 1: I'd have been in the room when this was going on.

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Speaker 1: laying it on me. All right, here we go anyway.

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Speaker 1: Days after the encounter, he called me all day and night,

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Speaker 1: on him. Again. I can't promise him that. What is

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Speaker 1: you crazy? Have you been reading the letter? Do you

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Speaker 1: know how many men is I'm with? Do you know

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Speaker 1: how much I passed out on a weekly basis? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I can't stop doing this. Come on, I have needs girl,

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Speaker 1: boy bye, promise you? He want me back, but he

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Speaker 1: out of me for? Again? I'm not can't be no wife.

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Speaker 1: What hard? But I don't think I want him? What

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Speaker 1: Let me ask you something? What are you doing? What

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Speaker 1: You're not nobody's wife. You can't be in no type

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Speaker 1: everybody knows what you are. So why aren't you just

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Speaker 1: no more? Thank you? All right, thank you? Still time

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