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Speaker 2: She's or she's going to be in the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, or she that is going to be.

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Speaker 2: A marriage is going to happen if you don't stop this.

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Speaker 1: But fake names to protect identity. Is my twenty seven

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Speaker 1: on into dating, Ben introduced me to his coworker slash

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Speaker 1: storytime cellbredd It. So she seemed quite fine, quite chatty,

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Speaker 1: and really friendly with Ben. Maybe too friendly, but overall

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Speaker 1: she was fine. Ben and I start going around the

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Speaker 2: That's so embarrassing.

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Speaker 1: That's a coworker.

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Speaker 2: Melissa a cowork But he's going, hey, this is to OPI.

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Speaker 2: This is my girlfriend op Melissa, and he's like, that's

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Speaker 1: Referring to me. I hear this, and at first I'm like,

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Speaker 1: did that just happen? But it happened again. I'd have

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Speaker 1: to correct him and say, oh, I'm sorry, Actually my

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Speaker 1: name is Megan.

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Speaker 2: That's so embarrassing.

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Speaker 1: I mean, hey, they both start.

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Speaker 2: With m M. How much is he talking to Melissa.

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Speaker 1: Let's put a pull up divorce weird, right, because he

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Speaker 2: That is weird.

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Speaker 1: I would usually brush this off as a fluke, but

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Speaker 1: this happened six or seven different times throughout our first

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Speaker 2: Sam. It's called manifestation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's really trying to manifest Melissa.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she'll be my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Every once in a while, your Melissa can turn into

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Speaker 1: It's like a Pokemon. Who's the evolution though? Is it

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Speaker 2: That's the question.

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Speaker 1: That's the question. So uh. One time, being at a

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Speaker 1: try really hard not to do that. I have no

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Speaker 1: clue why do that? Damn, He keeps calling his own

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Speaker 2: The thing is the not correcting himself is weird because

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Speaker 2: I feel like our mom will go She'll like be

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Speaker 2: but she'll go through the mad.

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Speaker 2: But here he's just stopping at Melissa.

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Speaker 1: I mean, does Megan look like a Melissa? Maybe? I

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Speaker 1: don't know, Maybe you don't look like a Megan. Have

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Speaker 1: you ever thought about that? Storm Kitten says, my name

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Speaker 2: It's about you.

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Speaker 1: It's about you anyway. Since then, he's never gotten my

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Speaker 2: Okay, he correct the behavior.

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Speaker 1: We met up for dinner with Melissa and her fiance.

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Speaker 1: This is just something I seldomly tell people because I

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Speaker 2: Personally, I am very like when friends tell me things,

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Speaker 2: I probably wouldn't be spreading that around.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But on the other end, if I were Megan, no, wait, Melissa.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I can't believe he just did that.

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Speaker 2: If I were Melissa and I was told all this information,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, remember when your brother was going through that super

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Speaker 2: I probably would just keep that to myself. I'd be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: So obviously discloses private info to her. She's super nosy

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Speaker 1: cheated on the fian like it's illegals. Yeah, you're about

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Speaker 2: Is being committed for life?

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Speaker 1: In an institution, you can't get out, you can't escape. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't know a chat? Is that man that marriage.

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Speaker 1: Or let please don't make that happen again. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: We go to another housewarming party they invite us to.

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Speaker 2: It's suspicious unless she knew no one else at the party.

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Speaker 2: But if Megan, yeah, if Megan and.

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Speaker 1: Uh Sophia, Sophia is like proving Megan Melissa, that's kind

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Speaker 2: Megan and Megan's boyfriend, we're the only people that Melissa

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Speaker 1: People come on, yeah, Megan, Melissa, maybe Megan Melissa.

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Speaker 1: And who's to say, who's to say?

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Speaker 1: So she's always right there asking Ben other questions and

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Speaker 2: She's crying, I need to go to the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: It's very hot in here now, listen. I am the

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Speaker 1: So basically, O P whose name is Megan has a Beyonce,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, even though yeah true, and she's crying. It sounds

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Speaker 1: Just like for me oh yes, specifically for Kia.

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Speaker 1: I feel bad about Ben having to distance himself from her,

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Speaker 1: She asks him if he'd help her get a job there.

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Speaker 1: Well, they agreed to not pursue a friendship with.

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Speaker 1: But he's like, yeah, but I'll get her a job.

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Speaker 2: And you know what, Ben says no, because he's going

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Speaker 1: I feel like she knows what she's doing. It does

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Speaker 1: She's like, I'm going to send this letter and then

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Speaker 1: But she's doing it successfully. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: She never gets up and matter if she's got a fiance. Oh,

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Speaker 1: No matter the obstacle or person. She's a go getter.

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Speaker 1: He's a go getter. Go get lost, Melissa. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: I don't understand why he'd be deceitful, and I don't

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Speaker 2: I don't think I think he's It's really up in

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Speaker 1: So am I the a hole for not wanting to

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Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, yeah, exactly. Yeah. So it seems like I'm

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Speaker 1: Breathe me to the horizons? Is how often does she

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Speaker 1: I think delay wedding our RP. Carolina says, divorce he

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Speaker 1: Well, prevorce. I've heard a prevorce. Honestly, if someone lies

442
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Speaker 1: to me about yes, I think I would prevorce. I would.

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Speaker 2: I think I would have a conversation with them. And

444
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 2: if they're just not even registering that this is an issue,

445
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:42,159
Speaker 2: I'd be like, you know what, We're gonna call off

446
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Speaker 2: the wedding because there's you're not even addressing the issue here,

447
00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 2: because the lying is just the it is too far.

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Speaker 1: I agree.

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00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 4: What's stopping him from even even if they do have

450
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Speaker 4: the wedding? And what are these rings.

451
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Speaker 2: Cost him?

452
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Speaker 1: Yeah?

453
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Speaker 4: Halloween costume?

454
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, say wait wait, can you give us a

455
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Speaker 1: little show?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

457
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Speaker 3: So someone got it right the eighties rocker vibem Like,

458
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Speaker 3: you're getting really close.

459
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Speaker 4: So if you guys understand what this is.

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Speaker 2: You gotta they gotta understand.

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Speaker 3: I'm Eddie from the New A season what I didn't

462
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Speaker 3: see it?

463
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Speaker 2: He's only in the last episode of season he's.

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Speaker 3: Not in the last episode, he's not spoil whoa spoiler?

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Speaker 1: Uh, but that's where that story ends. I think, Uh,

466
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Speaker 1: I think, I think I'm in prevors territory.

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Speaker 2: So if he is in therapy, I think I'm I

468
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Speaker 2: think I'm I think I'm in prevorce.

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Speaker 1: You're in prevorce.

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Speaker 3: I think I'm in prevorce too. But like I said before,

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Speaker 3: we cut to the costume here, I think what's stopping

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Speaker 3: him from even saying, you know, switching the names at

473
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Speaker 3: the wedding? Yeah, even if like she's not there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, I feel like I don't think we have

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Speaker 1: enough proof that he's not going to do that.

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Speaker 2: I don't trust him.

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Speaker 1: He's favoring, he's favoring, he's favoring Melissa, and every in,

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Speaker 1: every again, every turn.

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Speaker 2: I think it's a conversation. If he still doesn't get it,

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Speaker 2: it's like, you know what this isn't marking? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, agreed, But that's where the story ends. But not

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Speaker 4: Who's who's reading?

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Speaker 2: It's me? It's it's me, yah hi hi, I'm the reader.

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Speaker 2: It's me.

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Speaker 4: Nice. Whenever you're ready.

531
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Speaker 2: Okay, my boyfriend's flirty co worker ignores my existence I

532
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Speaker 2: demanded he set boundaries. My female twenty five boyfriend male

533
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:04,679
Speaker 2: twenty five works in the creative industry. What kind of

534
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 2: creative industry? He works very closely with a girl called Charlie,

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00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 2: female twenty eight, because their jobs are interlinked. They go

536
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 2: on overnight work trips twice a month, travel to another

537
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Speaker 2: country together twice a year, et cetera. Oh, by the way,

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Speaker 2: so bad, not good.

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Speaker 1: Oh they're not necessarily so bad, but the past off

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Speaker 1: the title. It's a tough situation.

541
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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Choice Evidence nineteen eighty

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Speaker 2: three on the ar slashoky story to him, severed it.

543
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Speaker 2: So they get along really well, too well, maybe too well.

544
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 2: I trust my boyfriend entirely. I know where his heart is.

545
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 2: He keeps things completely platonic and talks about me constantly.

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Speaker 2: Charlie's really attractive and gets a lot of male attention.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, Historically, the only incident that gave me a

548
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Speaker 2: red flag was her inviting my boyfriend one on one

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Speaker 2: to a spa on one of their work trips, which

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Speaker 2: he declined. This weekend, he invited me on a work

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Speaker 2: bar crawl and all was well. I said hi to Charlie,

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Speaker 2: spoke to his other workmates. Charlie didn't really make any

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Speaker 2: effort with me. I initiated once in the second bar,

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Speaker 2: and that was our only conversation. However, she spent the

555
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,239
Speaker 2: night constantly going up to my boyfriend and pulling him

556
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Speaker 2: over for private chats in front of me.

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Speaker 1: Private chats?

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00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 2: What kind of private chats? She mostly ignored my existence,

559
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 2: didn't say anything when we spoke, like X talks about

560
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Speaker 2: you all the time, you two are so cute, et cetera,

561
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Speaker 2: which I would do if I were meeting my work

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Speaker 2: best friend's fiance to make her comfortable. She acted like

563
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Speaker 2: she didn't even know we were together, stuck to him, and

564
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Speaker 2: basically ignored me the whole night. Not cool in bart?

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Speaker 1: What going.

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Speaker 2: In Bar three, Charlie pulled me aside to take photos

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Speaker 2: of her and my boyfriend together.

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Speaker 1: He's like, okay, can you please just take some photos?

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Speaker 1: I think we look better together.

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Speaker 2: And Charlie's like hey and nope. He's like, oh, she's

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Speaker 2: gonna talk to me. Can you just take a photo?

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00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: Yeah? Also, could you get us some drinks?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Do you know just going into just going away?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Maybe can you go home?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I think you looked tired, broke, really tired. I don't

577
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Speaker 1: know if you should be out right now.

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Speaker 2: She took photos with nobody else and posted only him

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Speaker 2: on her Instagram story, Allegedly God my boyfriend said that

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Speaker 2: she really enjoys male attention. There were two guys she

581
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Speaker 2: was flirting with, one of which was my boyfriend's best friend.

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Speaker 2: Later on, even he and my own friend who came

583
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Speaker 2: along independently noticed how frequently Charlie kept approaching my boyfriend

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Speaker 2: and thought it was weird considering this is the first

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Speaker 2: time I'm meeting her. I kind of feel disrespected and uncomfortable.

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Speaker 2: They chat to each other a lot on social media

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Speaker 2: since they're friends. I feel like since all the guys

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Speaker 2: give her attention, she seems to seek it most from

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend, as he's the only one who doesn't flirt her.

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00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 2: No lanes have been crossed, and they have to see

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00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 2: each other every day, so it's not really reached a

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Speaker 2: level where they should address it. I don't want to

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Speaker 2: ruin his friendship and make it awkward. I just don't

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Speaker 2: know how to feel or what to do. I don't

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Speaker 2: know if she's thick or intentionally trying to step on

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Speaker 2: my toes. She's thick. I've spoken to my boyfriend about

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Speaker 2: this all. He agrees it's weird, and I told him

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Speaker 2: to just keep an eye on her, but nothing further

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Speaker 2: than that. It's good that he recognizes that there's something off.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's as putting the boundaries us.

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Speaker 2: It's like, I'm not going to the spa. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm not flirting with her, which is you know, hopefully

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Speaker 2: a given.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean, what do you think he should do anything extra?

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Speaker 1: It sounds like he's not doing anything bad. It sounds

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Speaker 1: like she's she's, yeah, the one trying to weasel her

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Speaker 1: way in, but so there's no weaseling. Do you do

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Speaker 1: you think you should preemptive measures? Do you like try

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Speaker 1: to distance yourself, not talk to her as much? Yeah?

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00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 2: Or maybe like, hey, like this makes me a little uncomfortable.

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00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like maybe there's a certain point you

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Speaker 1: kind of like step back and I don't know if

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Speaker 1: you we Yeah, we got that.

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Speaker 2: Kind of relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Part of me feels like if one of my work

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Speaker 2: friends disrespected my boyfriend, I wouldn't stay so chummy with them.

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Speaker 2: And there is an update, But do you have any

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Speaker 2: other thoughts?

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Speaker 1: Hmm? Do I have thoughts on this. I think I

622
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Speaker 1: want to hear the update. Yeah, But I think in

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Speaker 1: terms of like, is there any action aggressive action OP

624
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: should take against a boyfriend. I don't think so yet.

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Speaker 1: I feel like he's making most of the right moves

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00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: and he's hearing her out. I think if he was

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Speaker 1: to do the Angel move, it would be to talk

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Speaker 1: to her last yeah, and not be so in contact

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Speaker 1: unless for like work things, and to be cordial. But

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Speaker 1: I don't see anything massively flaggy as of right now.

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Speaker 2: Agreed, agreed, But there is an update.

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Speaker 1: Let's see the update. Let's see the red flags are

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Speaker 1: an update.

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Speaker 2: One month later and also this was nine days ago.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow.

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Speaker 2: So after the night out, I female twenty five spoke

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Speaker 2: with my boyfriend, male twenty five, and he understood every

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Speaker 2: concern that I raised W W boyfriend W boyfriend. I

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Speaker 2: also saw that Charlie messaged him six times after that

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Speaker 2: night out, six like all at once. Yeah, was it

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Speaker 2: back to bag? He always speaks about me at work affectionately.

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00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 2: During the night out, he held my hand throughout the

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00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 2: parts of the night where we transferred from bar to bar.

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00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 2: He affectionately held my face and said that he was

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Speaker 2: a gentleman for only me in front of Charlie, female

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Speaker 2: twenty eight, and he calls her bro and mate at work.

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Speaker 2: He's really he's really putting it like wait really quick.

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Speaker 1: I had a conversation yesterday with this with this this girl,

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Speaker 1: and she was saying that, like she we were talking

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Speaker 1: about we're talking about like sexism in the workplace. And

651
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:09,120
Speaker 1: she says like when her counterparts, her male counterparts, like

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Speaker 1: when investors go out, like the investor will be like, oh,

653
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:13,320
Speaker 1: like what's up, bro, and like give fist pumps and stuff,

654
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: and like she doesn't get that same camaraderie when she

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Speaker 1: goes into the same rooms. Do you think you would

656
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Speaker 1: rather same fist pumps and bros ro bumps.

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Speaker 2: Which I get here.

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Speaker 1: You do get a lot. I get a lot of pumps,

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Speaker 1: and I feel I feel like it should be a

660
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Speaker 1: universal I think BRO should be universal across gender and

661
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 1: and fist pumps.

662
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 2: I was actually having this conversation with my friend last

663
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,320
Speaker 2: night where we were like, we want to start calling

664
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 2: our guy friend's buddy buddy.

665
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, like, hey, buddy, I think BRO better, but Buddy

666
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 1: feels demeaning. I actually don't like Buddy.

667
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 4: I don't hate.

668
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: Anytime someone says buddy.

669
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm not your buddy.

670
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:53,879
Speaker 1: I'm not your buddy.

671
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:54,439
Speaker 4: I'm your bro.

672
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:55,479
Speaker 1: But what if your buddy?

673
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 2: What if? What if you are my buddy?

674
00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: I'm not your buddy.

675
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 4: I'm your buddy. Yeah, I'm your friend, your friend.

676
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:02,760
Speaker 2: That's so formal.

677
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 1: It give me a bub.

678
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:06,399
Speaker 4: Buddies, buddy seems like a kid.

679
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: Any buddy I just did. Hey buddy, I'm gonna call

680
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:11,720
Speaker 2: you everyone buddy.

681
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 1: Now, No, I don't call us.

682
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 2: I found out that Charlie sent him photos of her

683
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 2: skimpy out outfit choices prior to the night out.

684
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:23,839
Speaker 1: That's whack, that's it, key.

685
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 2: I read his messages, which we argued about, and I

686
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:31,719
Speaker 2: apologized for breaking his trust. But girl, don't read his messages.

687
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 2: He for sure should have told you that she sent those,

688
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 2: but he did also didn't respond. Yeah, he didn't respond.

689
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 2: I didn't respond, And it was like that like the

690
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 2: night before.

691
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 1: And I think, like, now, if we're looking at a holes,

692
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 1: I feel like.

693
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 2: Open it's a little bit of a hole for reading.

694
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:49,280
Speaker 1: Because you've broken the trust. You've broken the trust.

695
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 2: And he had replied to her platonically, top one is

696
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 2: better to end the conversation, but it was too passive

697
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 2: of a response to sexy photos. In my opinion, what

698
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 2: do you.

699
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 1: Mean like like he should have said like oh.

700
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 2: God, No, he should have been like, hey, this, you

701
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 2: know this is inappropriate?

702
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 1: I want more as.

703
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 2: I also remember that she tried to get my boyfriend

704
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 2: to carry her jacket that night and referred to him

705
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 2: as Petiepooh when she mentioned him, not his real name.

706
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: She's really trying to get it.

707
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 2: Is he did? For he sought counsel from a few

708
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 2: of his friends on the situation, showed them the photos

709
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 2: Charlie had sent, and the universal opinion was that Charlie

710
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 2: is a home wrecker. If you recall, my boyfriend's best friend,

711
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 2: who came along that night and was the one who

712
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 2: noticed how uncomfortable I was, tried to kiss Charlie, but

713
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 2: she played dumb as if she didn't hear him. The

714
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:48,919
Speaker 2: next day at work, however, the first thing she did

715
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 2: was go up to my boyfriend's desk and brag, your

716
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 2: friend tried to kiss me, laughing about it. She allegedly

717
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: had a history of fishing for compliments. Is she trying

718
00:36:59,080 --> 00:36:59,880
Speaker 2: to make up his boyfriend?

719
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: Elis wait did, but her wait, I missed that last bit.

720
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 1: Did her friend his friend try to kiss her?

721
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 2: Says If you recall, my boyfriend's best friend who came

722
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 2: along that night, was the one who noticed how uncomfortable

723
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 2: I was. Tried to kiss Charlie, but she played dumb

724
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 2: as if she didn't hear.

725
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 1: Him, So he tried to kiss her.

726
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:20,399
Speaker 2: So it sounds like he was like, yeah, you want

727
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:21,719
Speaker 2: to make out that she was like.

728
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 1: Bro, give a little fist bump.

729
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, dude.

730
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,359
Speaker 3: A lot of people in chat earlier were calling her

731
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 3: like a pick me girl. And the fact that it's like, oh,

732
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 3: she's fishing for compliments.

733
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:36,760
Speaker 2: Like yeah, sounds like that's probably the situation.

734
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:38,840
Speaker 4: Yeah.

735
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:41,920
Speaker 2: My boyfriend suggested he confront her directly about her behavior,

736
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 2: but I told him it might be better to try

737
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 2: setting boundaries more directly first in case she spread drama

738
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 2: around the office since she seemed unhinged, and if it

739
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 2: didn't work, then he should consider confronting her. This is

740
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 2: because their work is really interconnected and going in really

741
00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 2: hard might make his work situation even more uncomfortable than

742
00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:01,799
Speaker 2: it already is.

743
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 1: M my boy I love that, just really quick. I

744
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: love that op is actually thinking about what will be

745
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: best Yeah, and most convenient.

746
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,320
Speaker 2: For isn't just like he needs to stop talking?

747
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, because there is these you know, these political games

748
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 1: that get to play at work to make sure everyone's comfortable,

749
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 1: and like all these things are smoothed over. So I

750
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 1: think she's it's cool that she's recognizing uh her, her

751
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:28,720
Speaker 1: uh significant other is in a weird situation.

752
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 2: Yes, and and it seems like the significant other is

753
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,600
Speaker 2: also being pretty recearc Yeah, so you know it's working out.

754
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 1: I think question, Yes, I mean, this is not sexual harassment,

755
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: but it's like, is it do you think is it?

756
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:42,959
Speaker 1: Is it edging on like harassment of some sort?

757
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 2: I think I think if it's making the boyfriend, I

758
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 2: think I guess it depends.

759
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:48,560
Speaker 1: On Maybe that's too harsh, but like.

760
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 2: But I think the inappropriate depends on op's boyfriend's level

761
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 2: of comfort. Yeah, because if you're making someone uncomfortable with

762
00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 2: repeated advances, it is harassment.

763
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, someone said HR like I'm wondering, is this

764
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,280
Speaker 1: is Is it HR worthy? Yet?

765
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 2: I think if you are uncomfortable with how someone is

766
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 2: treating you, that is that's HR worthy.

767
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:10,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I would love to know from chat, what

768
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:11,719
Speaker 1: do you guys think mm hmm.

769
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 2: My boyfriend also also spoke with his workmate, who is

770
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 2: in a relationship. His workmate advised that Charlie has made

771
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 2: inappropriate comments to him as well in the past about

772
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 2: her spicy toys, to which he replied and not at work.

773
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 2: Charlie also treated his Workmad's girlfriend. Why did he just

774
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 2: say not at work?

775
00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, we could talk about the weak.

776
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:36,760
Speaker 2: But also that's crazy that she was doing that. Charlie

777
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 2: also treated his Workmatee's girlfriends similarly. During a different workouting

778
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 2: two weeks ago, Charlie came up to my boyfriend's desk

779
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 2: thrice I, insisting that they should match costumes for Halloween.

780
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 1: M M, what dude, that is like? That is a

781
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 1: boyfriend girlfriend thing.

782
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 2: It's a boyfriendriend's a boyfriendirlfriend best friends.

783
00:39:58,640 --> 00:39:59,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're best best friends.

784
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 2: She accidentally called it couple costumes. She did not accidentally,

785
00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 2: That was not an accident. That was not an accident,

786
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 2: and suggested characters that were a couple. He shot her

787
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 2: down on three separate occasions, saying that that would only

788
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 2: be okay if she were me. So from here on,

789
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 2: it's been a bit of a miserable situation for my

790
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 2: boyfriend where he has been purposely cold at work and

791
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 2: has stopped messaging her outside of work. He has been

792
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: telling her to go away when she approaches his desk,

793
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,439
Speaker 2: and even suggested she get a train on their next

794
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 2: work trip instead of riding in the same vehicle. So

795
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:41,400
Speaker 2: now he's like full on saying like boundaries all her boundaries,

796
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 2: which is good. It's made his work situation a bit

797
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 2: awful because he has a lovely, bubbly person. He is

798
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:51,800
Speaker 2: a lovely, bubbly person and cannot maintain a fake persona

799
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 2: of friendship without being miserable. So given the misery of

800
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:58,919
Speaker 2: it all, my boyfriend decided to finally confront Charlie during

801
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 2: their long journey back from a work trip yesterday. She

802
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 2: asked him why he's being so weird lately, and he

803
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 2: told her everything except the Halloween costume thing because he forgot.

804
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 2: She apparently cried throughout the journey and said that she

805
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 2: genuinely didn't mean for it to appear that way. She

806
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 2: said that she sent him the outfit pictures because she

807
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:22,320
Speaker 2: saw him as one of the girls, but she supposedly

808
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 2: sent those photos to my boyfriend and the guy she

809
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 2: has a crush on, I don't buy that. I don't

810
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:27,240
Speaker 2: buy that either.

811
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 3: Come on, listen as one of the girls in a

812
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 3: lot of chats.

813
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:34,359
Speaker 1: Now chats, are you one of the girls.

814
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 4: In Oh, I'm I'm main by he's one of the

815
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 4: Are you?

816
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 1: Are you inviting all of your chat girls to uh

817
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 1: the holling party? You better.

818
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,960
Speaker 2: M She gave her side of the story and mentioned

819
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 2: that since my boyfriend said that I was quite secure,

820
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:54,160
Speaker 2: she didn't think twice thought everything was okay and I

821
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 2: wouldn't be jealous, so she knew that She knew that

822
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: it would could make a verson. She wanted to make

823
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 2: op Jella's.

824
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 1: She's lying through her teeth. Yeah, Crocking Angel says Crocodile.

825
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna lie. She's a really good actor. Or

826
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 4: come on, I.

827
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 2: Didn't know that.

828
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: Crying on command.

829
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 2: She has had guy best friends in the past and

830
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 2: they have interacted him that way. She supposedly had a

831
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,359
Speaker 2: guy best friend that had a crush on her while

832
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 2: she was in a relationship, which her ex boyfriend didn't appreciate.

833
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 2: My boyfriend laid down his boundaries and said that while

834
00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 2: he could not attribute intent to her actions, it's still crossed.

835
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:37,240
Speaker 1: A line that is a great This guy's great. Also,

836
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: what a great line where it's like, hey, that might

837
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: be your intent, but I like, whatever the things that

838
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:47,879
Speaker 1: you did, that's what is wrong. You know, I really

839
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 1: glad the intent regardless of such a w response this

840
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 1: w boyfriend, right, Yeah, take notes, Take notes, ladies and fellows.

841
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 2: She said that she'll have to second guess her each

842
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 2: time she interacts with them, and he told her that

843
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 2: maybe she should bab She's like, now I'm gonna have

844
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:08,400
Speaker 2: to double like I'm gonna have to think about what

845
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 2: I say to you, and he's like.

846
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:10,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.

847
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,600
Speaker 2: She said that he should have confronted her earlier, and

848
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 2: he agreed. He said that she can still be his mate,

849
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 2: but she needs to respect the boundaries he has set

850
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 2: because his relationship will always take priority.

851
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 1: Also, what a massive flip from the last story, Like

852
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 1: this is exactly how you navigate Yeah, and I think

853
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 1: this is like a textbook response to a situation that

854
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 1: a lot of people have been in. If you're in

855
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: a situation where there's someone who's making unwanted advances while

856
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: you in a relationship, especially if it's like a coworker,

857
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 1: like this is how you handle it.

858
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 2: You handle it.

859
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 1: This should be written in the books in history.

860
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 4: He's doing it in such a great manner too. Yeah,

861
00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 4: attacking her.

862
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 1: It's like, this is what happens, honestly, this ist guy.

863
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 1: I want to be his boyfriend.

864
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 2: Get over you, o, boyfriend?

865
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: Hey, would you break up with her? Go over with us?

866
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,719
Speaker 2: And that's where we are now. I feel like it's

867
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 2: great that he has set his hard boundaries. He says

868
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 2: she was genuinely really upset and didn't want to seem

869
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:20,400
Speaker 2: like she wasn't a girl's girl. You are my boyfriend.

870
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 2: Can go back to work without the attention of the

871
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 2: elephant in the room, savage. I said I probably shouldn't

872
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: attend their work Christmas party, and he agreed, saying it

873
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 2: will cause tension. But you know what would never cause tension?

874
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 2: You joining us live every weekday at three pm PST.

875
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 1: Just have a promile sexual at tension.

876
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 2: But there is a little bit left to this story.

877
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 2: But what's your what's your final thoughts?

878
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 1: Uh w, boyfriend? But I want to hear that the

879
00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 1: rest of it.

880
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 2: Okay, just generally about the whole situation of the friendship.

881
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 2: My gut feeling is that I still don't like her.

882
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 2: And part of me doesn't want their friendship to return

883
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:58,919
Speaker 2: back to the way it was before. But I can't

884
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,360
Speaker 2: figure out why or what I should say, if I

885
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 2: should say anything at all, since he's officially done everything

886
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 2: he can. I don't know what boundaries to consider moving

887
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 2: forward in terms of their friendship, or if I should

888
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 2: just let it go back to how it used to

889
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 2: be with the cautionary side the boundaries now in place.

890
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 2: I don't care if she apologizes I don't like her.

891
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:21,760
Speaker 2: Please let me know your thoughts. Thanks for all the help, guys.

892
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 2: I have read every last comment and appreciate the support.

893
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 1: Well, I think what's cool here is she's he's pre

894
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: emptying what I think Ope needs exactly. It's like this

895
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:35,959
Speaker 1: whole idea. You know, in a relationship, you don't want

896
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 1: to tell someone how to like love you and how

897
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 1: to like respect. You just want them to know. And yes,

898
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 1: there needs to be alignment every once in a while.

899
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 2: A mind reader.

900
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 1: No one's a mind reader, but ideally they are.

901
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:49,759
Speaker 2: But ideally you should be a mind reader.

902
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:55,320
Speaker 1: And I think what is amazing about Opie's boyfriend is

903
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,719
Speaker 1: like he's thinking about what Ope would want, what would

904
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 1: make her feel comfortable. Yes, and so he's pre empting

905
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 1: like her response by taking action.

906
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think that OP, I mean OPI says

907
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:09,799
Speaker 2: that she's still uncomfortable. I think it's just saying like, hey,

908
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 2: I feel like you've done a great job. I don't know,

909
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 2: I think op he could still bring up that she

910
00:46:16,840 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 2: doesn't like this girl, but as long as she's coming

911
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 2: from a place where she's like, I know that you've

912
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 2: done everything, like you've done really great and this is

913
00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 2: not a reflection on you or your actions at all.

914
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:29,880
Speaker 2: I just want to like make sure that she's not

915
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 2: making you uncomfortable, like we've done everything, you know.

916
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is this is great. I'm I'm I'm fully

917
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:38,759
Speaker 1: I'm fully here for this relationship. This is like, this

918
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 1: is excellent communication.