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Speaker 1: Second date updated.

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Speaker 2: There's two types of people that you're gonna meet in

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Speaker 2: the dating world. The neurotic uptight over planners like Brook

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Speaker 2: who have to schedule out every minute of the entire

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Speaker 2: evening months in advance, or they won't even have a

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Speaker 2: good time.

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Speaker 1: Is that true?

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Speaker 3: I can't show up on time for anything, let alone

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Speaker 3: like over planet.

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Speaker 4: Do you not know me?

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Speaker 2: Brook was literally yelling at me to put it in

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Speaker 2: your schedule. Chap, put it in your schedule, and you're

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Speaker 2: gonna forget.

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Speaker 4: You because we have to travel for work and you're

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Speaker 4: not gonna show up.

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Speaker 2: Okay, neurotic and then there's the chill suave go with

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Speaker 2: the flow types like me. I knew that they can

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Speaker 2: make a good time happen with anyone in any bathroom

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Speaker 2: at any truck stop at any time.

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Speaker 1: That's my promise, has to be a truck stop.

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Speaker 2: And one of our listeners says he's also to go

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Speaker 2: with the flow type, but he's worried it may have

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Speaker 2: been his undoing on his date. His name is Russell,

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Speaker 2: but we're gonna call him Russ and he's not going

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Speaker 2: to fight us because he's chill with it.

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Speaker 1: What's up, Russ?

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Speaker 5: Nothing much yes, I am gonna go with the flow, dude,

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Speaker 5: that's for sure.

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Speaker 3: Guy, Ross is just like water what.

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Speaker 1: I got it? Okay, Ben to every need.

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Speaker 4: Container.

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Speaker 1: We have to turn this into like a physics lest

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Speaker 1: is the opposite of him. Yeah, let's let's let me

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Speaker 1: lead this conversation the chill type.

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Speaker 2: So, Russ, why don't you tell us about how you

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Speaker 2: how you met this person that you went out with.

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Speaker 1: What's her name by the way, her.

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Speaker 5: Name is Whitney, okay, and how did you meet her? Well,

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Speaker 5: we met at this place. I probably shouldn't say the name,

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Speaker 5: but it's one of those drinking and darts places.

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Speaker 1: A bar.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I know that's what I was thinking.

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Speaker 5: I mean, it's one of those newer places that electronically

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Speaker 5: keep score of the darts as you go, like you

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Speaker 5: know that place pop Golf. Yeah, yeah, it's like that,

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Speaker 5: but for dark.

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Speaker 4: So again, it's just taking like old bar games and

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Speaker 4: charging better, charging people more for able access.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I met Whitney there.

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Speaker 5: I was there with coworkers and she was part of

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Speaker 5: the group next to us.

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Speaker 1: You just met her in the wild.

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Speaker 5: In the wild, how.

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Speaker 4: Did you approach her? Like, how did you guys strike

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Speaker 4: up a conversation.

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Speaker 5: I'm super totally naturally, Like, there's these tables between our

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Speaker 5: groups and we were sharing them to set drinks on

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Speaker 5: and she set hers down and I was just like

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Speaker 5: said to her, how's it going?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 5: That's it?

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Speaker 4: Good pickup line?

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Speaker 1: Nice?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And she just leaned in and said, I'm just

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Speaker 5: going really good. And she whispered to me, she said,

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Speaker 5: because I'm cheating.

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Speaker 4: How do you cheat at an electronic games?

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Speaker 2: You're talking about darts, not about like relationships, right, funny,

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Speaker 2: that's awesome.

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Speaker 3: Were you able to get a date out of that

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Speaker 3: meeting or is this your one hangout?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I asked her as it was coming to a close,

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Speaker 5: I was like, hey, do you want to have Can

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Speaker 5: I get your phone ever? We want to hang out

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Speaker 5: sometime And she said.

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's awesome. So you spun that into a date

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Speaker 2: a few days later?

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Speaker 1: Is that what happened?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? The next week?

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Speaker 4: Okay, what'd you guys do?

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Speaker 5: I didn't have a plan. I just said I'll come

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Speaker 5: pick you up if you're comfortable with that, and we

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Speaker 5: can just drive into the city and figure out something

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Speaker 1: Or there's a lot of truck stops outside of the city.

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Speaker 1: Which also.

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Speaker 4: Can guide you to that.

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Speaker 1: But you know, the city is one way to do it.

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Speaker 1: Where'd you go?

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Speaker 5: Well, so we drove in and I wasn't hungry, and

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Speaker 5: then I asked her if she wanted to get something

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Speaker 2: Oh, never trust that you didn't You should have still

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Speaker 2: bought her food.

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Speaker 1: Bro, I've learned that mistake.

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Speaker 4: So what did you guys? Did you go get a

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Speaker 4: drink somewhere?

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Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, let's go get a drink. And

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Speaker 5: she's really not actually a big drinker. And it was

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Speaker 5: a week night and I was like, all right, so

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Speaker 5: no drinking, no food. I don't want to go sit

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Speaker 5: in a movie theater, you know. So we just drove around.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, wait, you you did what?

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Speaker 5: We drove around? That's it.

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Speaker 4: That was the day, just driving for how long?

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Speaker 5: About an hour and less than an hour and a half.

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Speaker 4: What was on like a pretty road? Is this stop

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Speaker 4: like traffic?

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Speaker 1: Does that make a difference to you slightly?

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Speaker 5: I mean it was night and there were stop lights.

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Speaker 5: There was not some scenic drive in the country. No,

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Speaker 5: it was driving around in the city.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So now do you regret not having a plan.

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Speaker 5: Yes, honestly, she would admit it.

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Speaker 1: Well, how did that night end? Like? Was it just

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Speaker 1: driving the whole time?

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Speaker 5: Yes, that's about it. But it wasn't as awkward as

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Speaker 5: it sounds like. That's the thing. We're talking about our family,

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Speaker 5: talking about our lives or work, and you know, she

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Speaker 5: was laughing. I was laughing, So it wasn't like as

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Speaker 5: painful as it sounds.

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Speaker 3: But I also I also wonder if it wasn't painful

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Speaker 3: for you because you had something else to do, like drive,

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Speaker 3: she's just sitting there.

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Speaker 2: If it suggests something at that point, maybe we ended

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Speaker 1: How did you guys leave it?

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Speaker 5: I dropped her off and we said we would do

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Speaker 5: it again. Do that again, no, I said, I joked

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Speaker 5: and I said, you know, next time, we'll have a destination.

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Speaker 5: And she was into it, you know. I said, let's

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Speaker 5: get to dinner, let's be hungry. Maybe a weekend.

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Speaker 1: And since then, how many times have you driven by

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Speaker 1: her house quietly? Okay, I'm just kidding. How long has.

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Speaker 5: It been since since that night? It's been just over a.

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Speaker 4: Week, okay, and you've heard nothing or little bit?

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Speaker 5: Well, I only text her twice. She responded to the

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Speaker 5: first text and not to the second one. I'm not

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Speaker 5: going to keep bugging her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you can.

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Speaker 4: We're gonna You're gonna let us bugger.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna come back and we're going to try

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Speaker 2: and play it cool and suave, but we're going to

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Speaker 2: take a page out of Brooks dating life and have

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Speaker 2: a little bit of a plan and ask her questions.

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Speaker 2: Like we won't yell at her and demand that she

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Speaker 2: put it in the calendar, but.

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Speaker 4: More effective, well, gently.

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Speaker 2: Approach her and try and get you a second date

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Speaker 2: update right after this.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, second date update.

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Speaker 2: You know what, I'm proud of our listener, Russell, because

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Speaker 2: he listens to his dates and gives them exactly what

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Speaker 2: they want. Whitney said she wasn't hungry, no food, She

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Speaker 1: She said she didn't.

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Speaker 1: And her wish is his command. They're just gonna.

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Speaker 2: Drive around the city and talk and talk until they

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Speaker 2: bore themselves to tears.

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Speaker 1: Your wish is his command.

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Speaker 4: Until she said, Okay, I think it's time to drive me.

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Speaker 1: Home, right home, exactly what he did.

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Speaker 2: So why isn't our man getting a call back today?

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Speaker 2: I just hope she doesn't complain that he didn't set

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Speaker 2: anything up and plan out a date, because if he does,

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Speaker 1: Brook if that happens, Would that turn you on too much?

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Speaker 2: Because I could dial back my natural heroic qualities.

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Speaker 1: If that's going to be a problem.

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Speaker 3: I see, I didn't know what you're ferring me to

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Speaker 3: be turned on by my heroism?

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Speaker 1: That oozes out of my.

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Speaker 4: I feel safe, okay.

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Speaker 1: Russell, do you feel safe?

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Speaker 5: I feel safe?

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, Russell.

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Speaker 3: I mean I think we know what we're gonna hear here,

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Speaker 3: but I think it's going to.

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Speaker 4: Be easy to get you another chick.

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Speaker 1: What are we going to hear here?

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Speaker 4: That she was bored? It was a boring date?

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Speaker 1: Why do you always bring them down right before we do?

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Speaker 1: Why do you always do that?

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Speaker 2: I think she's gonna I think it's going to be

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Speaker 2: a scheduling conflict and she wasn't bored at all, or

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Speaker 2: she's married and you were just a side piece. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm the one bringing the mine between there.

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Speaker 1: There, we'll find it. Okay, let's hope there's somewhere.

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Speaker 5: In between there.

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Speaker 4: The part is actually kind of good news.

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Speaker 3: It's not your fault that because they didn't kiss.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, did you guys kiss?

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Speaker 5: No, we didn't because.

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Speaker 2: She didn't ask for a kiss. If she had asked

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Speaker 2: for one, though, he would have planted one on her.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's still cheating, like my husband drive for an

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Speaker 2: Michael, if you're listening, turn the car round. Now, we

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Speaker 2: gotta get back to business.

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Speaker 6: Here.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna call Whitney. Let's dial her number and see

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Speaker 2: if she picks up. Here we go, Hello, Hi, We're

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Speaker 2: looking to speak to Whitney.

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Speaker 6: Speaking Hello, Hi. Who's this?

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Speaker 1: We like the sound of your voice. We're a radio show.

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Speaker 2: What we're a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey

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Speaker 2: in the Morning.

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Speaker 6: Are you serious?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Not all the time, but right now, okay, we're wack.

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Speaker 2: We do try and do some fun stuff like Alexis

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Speaker 2: tell him about it.

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Speaker 4: We call people good good.

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Speaker 1: Good question. Because we do.

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Speaker 2: This segment is called a second date Update, and that's

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Speaker 2: where we try and help listeners get another date after

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Speaker 2: they went out with someone one time and want to

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Speaker 2: see him again.

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Speaker 6: Oh okay, that makes sense.

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Speaker 2: So one of our listeners has asked us to reach

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Speaker 2: out to you specifically.

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Speaker 1: His name is Russell. Oh you remember Russell. You guys

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Speaker 1: like drove around the city for a while.

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Speaker 4: He asked you out after you guys met at that

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we did. I was out with my sister, my

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Speaker 2: Know, well that's great, but we want to talk about

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Speaker 4: Because, yeah, but we do know your sister is probably great.

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Speaker 1: She's awesome.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the whole family, I'm sure. But what did you

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Speaker 6: He was okay, okay, okay looking Oh oh.

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Speaker 1: Just call him ugly.

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Speaker 3: It's better than okay, Okay, hold on, though, Like he

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Speaker 6: And sometimes that's positive. Sometimes that can be.

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Speaker 3: Negative, okay, And it can't change the way you're attracted

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Speaker 1: So what did you learn that changed your mind about him?

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Speaker 6: He lives with his parents.

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Speaker 3: Oh well that was okaytable he's co dependent on his parents.

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Speaker 4: Who wait, wait, wait, wait, go hold on. I think

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Speaker 3: I mean, there's so many different reasons why you would

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Speaker 2: We thought it may have been something that he like

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Speaker 6: It sounds like no, no, no, he didn't do anything wrong.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know we've heard that as a deal

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Speaker 2: I can understand why you wouldn't want to bring that

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Speaker 1: With his parents.

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Speaker 6: It's a deal breaker.

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Speaker 4: How come? Like, why is it for you?

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Speaker 6: Because he needs to have his own money, he needs

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Speaker 3: Okay, you're like an independent woman who's out on your own,

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Speaker 2: I do wonder what Russell would have to say about that, because.

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Speaker 1: I need to let you know, Whitney. He is on

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Speaker 3: He is.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's another thing we do, right, But Russell is there.

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Speaker 5: I think, Yes, I am on the line, and I'm

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Speaker 1: Wait what, Oh, yes, I do live with you parent?

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Speaker 2: You do?

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Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I do.

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Speaker 4: Hold on, you mean what do you mean you live

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Speaker 6: I mean I live with my mom and my dad.

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Speaker 6: One of us needs to have our own planes.

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Speaker 4: I honestly kind of get her on that. It'd be

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Speaker 4: Judge somebody else for.

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Speaker 1: It, hypocritical.

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Speaker 6: I can and I do.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So what we're learning here is the reason that

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Speaker 1: That's a deal breaker.

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Speaker 4: For you, exactly why, Okay, how are we going to

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Speaker 6: How are we going to hang out?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 6: Where am I gonna cook dinner for?

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Speaker 1: I'm at?

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Speaker 2: It's kind of sexy if you think about it, If

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Speaker 3: I could see how that would really set in for you.

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Speaker 3: After you spend just an hour in his car together.

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Speaker 6: Exactly, you're going to spend a lot more.

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Speaker 4: Hours and cars together.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I would have gone back with him his house, but

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Speaker 2: Okay, Oh Russell, you're staying awfully quiet during this to.

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Speaker 5: Her, I think this is completely ridiculous, Like we should

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Speaker 5: We're trying to get out of it. Things are crazy

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 5: It's like, I just don't know why you put that

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I put it on you because you're the man and

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Speaker 6: you need to get this done.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, this nineteen fifty.

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Speaker 1: I mean, well, we're coming heading back a lot of

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Speaker 3: So if we get out of that conversation. I mean

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Speaker 3: maybe Russell, you just have a better like you have

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Speaker 3: maybe that would change your mind.

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Speaker 1: It's a good idea. We can move forward from this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, how would you guys hang out if you

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Speaker 6: Really good question.

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Speaker 1: That is a good question.

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Speaker 2: I mean, as the man, how would you step up

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Speaker 5: I mean we could go on dates, get to know

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Speaker 4: Get into a real solution. Two point zero.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I get the house to yourself one time, or

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Speaker 2: if they are home, tie up bandana around the doorknob

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Speaker 4: That's probably a thing in Jeffrey's house is a sad part.

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Speaker 1: We've got a lot of colorful.

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Speaker 4: I feel like his mom uses it more than he does.

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to that room. What's happening in there?

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Speaker 2: It seems like you guys have this thing in common.

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Speaker 2: People die to find things that they have in common

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Speaker 2: with people in.

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Speaker 1: The dating world.

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Speaker 3: If you can leave an hour hanging out in the

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Speaker 4: You may be miss it out.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to throw that away.

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Speaker 2: That's why we'd love to offer to send you guys

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Speaker 2: out on another date, to somewhere outside of both of

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Speaker 2: you're up for giving him another chance, Whitney, nothing has.

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Speaker 6: Changed since the start of this conversation. If he gets

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Speaker 2: Sorry, Russell, it looks like we're not going to be

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Speaker 4: Parents ruined it again, jef.

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Speaker 6: Hey, if you have any cute friends that have their

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Jose's got his own place, Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 1: What a disappointment, man.

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Speaker 2: I think she's really not seeing the benefits of this situation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember hooking up at my parents' place when

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Speaker 2: You don't think it's going to be just as exciting

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Speaker 4: It's not.

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Speaker 2: No, No, I mean the parents don't hear as well.

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Speaker 1: They can't run up the stairs as fast. You're able

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Speaker 4: Blo's your curfew. It's probably two hours later than not

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Speaker 4: to mention.

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Speaker 2: Free PB and jays as many as you can eat.

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Speaker 2: After you're done fooling around, you have to fuel up.

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Speaker 1: Plus parents always have a stock fridge. I'm always I.

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Speaker 3: Was actually like telling her not to be so judgy,

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Speaker 3: but after that, yeah, down.

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Speaker 1: I actually might move back in with my parents after this.

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Speaker 1: I want to make sure.

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Speaker 2: To follow Brook and Jeffrey and all of our social

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