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Speaker 2: My stepbrother copies everything I do, so I refuse to

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Speaker 2: graduate out of spite. I seventeen female, have parents that

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Speaker 2: on her with my mom's brother's girlfriend. For a while,

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Speaker 2: everything was fine, but after a few years of living

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Speaker 2: there with them, I started to notice that everything I

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Speaker 3: A little copycat, a little anything you can do, I

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Upstairs Way sixty three

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Speaker 2: twenty one on the ur Slashoky story Time celebritt it So.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was nice to be looked up to

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Speaker 2: until I realized he was trying to one up me

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Speaker 2: in everything. I noticed this when he would comment on

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Speaker 2: every little thing I did wrong and then loudly shout

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Speaker 3: He was.

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Speaker 2: At every party we had celebrating one of my achievements,

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Speaker 2: he would make it about himself and try to gain

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Speaker 2: the attention of anyone who asked me about what I

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Speaker 2: had achieved in intermediate I was fed up with it.

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Speaker 2: If I ever did something, I wouldn't inform him or

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Speaker 2: my stepmother. Keep it secret, can keep say safe. The

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Speaker 2: only person I would tell anything to was my dad,

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Speaker 2: as I was still his little girl, being the only

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Speaker 2: always looked for my perspective on things. This worked for

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Speaker 2: seventh grade, but because of a celebration party I had

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Speaker 2: with the program and all families were invited, my stepbrother

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Speaker 2: different things were already filled with other students and he

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Speaker 2: could only join me in one thing, which was softball.

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Speaker 2: He'd brag about how he was the best player and

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Speaker 2: would always try to overtake me, but I stood for

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Speaker 2: many games we nearly lost because he tried to make

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Speaker 2: he got kicked off the team for his poor sportsmanship

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Speaker 2: and being disrespectful to not only me, his captain, but

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Speaker 2: He'd often mock them for losing. When we got home

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Speaker 2: She glared at me, but I simply shrugged and walked

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Speaker 2: asked me what happened. When I finished explaining, he told

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Speaker 2: with early college. Damn go to early college. Jeez. My

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Speaker 2: who wanted to know about my achievements because she had

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Speaker 2: been studying abroad for years. My stepbrother went up to

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Speaker 2: me and said, not just you, I graduate in twenty seven,

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty seven to two. You're nothing special. How did

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 3: Honestly, as oh my god, biological brother, I feel like

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Speaker 3: this behavior is a little easier to explain as a

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Speaker 2: But that's not even it. He goes and after saying that,

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Speaker 2: just you, I graduate in twenty twenty seven to two,

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Speaker 2: My aunt is about to speak up, but I politely

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Speaker 2: We plan this huge party for you too, and you

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Speaker 3: Wow, that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard, like true

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Speaker 3: You're gonna graduate and overachieve.

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Speaker 2: I scoff at her and mention how I've been sharing

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Speaker 2: but can't help and feel but feel guilty about snapping

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Speaker 2: at her. And I had the jerk, And there is

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Speaker 2: an edit to finish this story off, but I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't think so. I think she she's massively overreacting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I think you should put your life on

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Speaker 3: hold for a year for these dumb idiots and clearly

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Speaker 2: Literally she does. And also I'm a little bit confused

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Speaker 2: because it seems like we've got too like two conflicting

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Speaker 2: so I don't Yeah, I don't wait yeah, because he was, look,

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Speaker 2: you're you're not special. I'm graduating in twenty twenty seve all.

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Speaker 3: The stepbrothers not graduating because he still doesn't know how

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but there isn't edit. My bad, guys. I fixed it,

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Speaker 2: and thank you guys for all the advice and honesty.

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Speaker 2: I might just stay with day. My mom is on

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it was dad.

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Speaker 2: My dad is supporting me with graduating early, so I'd

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Speaker 2: I'm out. For those of you questioning the timeframe, it

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Speaker 2: Just let's just say, in seventh grade, I didn't surround

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Speaker 2: school wasn't exactly in my best interest, considering most of

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Speaker 3: A profile, and we'll solve all of your problems, your problem,

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Speaker 2: Edit too. I'm just gonna be blunt here since people

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty seven when they'd be twenty and how made

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Speaker 2: up this is? Yes, okay, I'm supposed to graduate when

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Speaker 2: I turned twenty. I got held back in seventh grade

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Speaker 2: and had to repeat, why do you think I was

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Speaker 2: so excited to be offered a chance to graduate early.

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Speaker 2: Think what you like on whether this post is real

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Speaker 2: or not, But I was told I could share my

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Speaker 2: situation on here and be offered feedback. So that's what

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Speaker 2: I'm doing, y'all.

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Speaker 3: I'm done.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, this is supposed to be a community where you

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Speaker 2: get feedback on a situation where you're unsure if you

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Speaker 2: were in the right or wrong. I besides the amazing advice,

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Speaker 2: the rest I've gotten from y'all is this is all

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Speaker 2: be us. Probably use chat GBT for this. This is

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Speaker 2: most like you fake or the fact that me graduating

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Speaker 2: early isn't apparently an achievement because it's what most kids

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Speaker 2: an opportunity for me to make up for those stupid

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Speaker 2: why even comment. I would get it if I was

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Speaker 2: getting hate for being the jerk, But no, it's not

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Speaker 2: even anything relating to that. Plus, if some of you

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Speaker 2: being a sham, you'd know it's a venting account for me.

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Speaker 2: At my friends, we don't do well with sharing things

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Speaker 2: especially with such personal experiences, which is why come to Reddit.

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Speaker 3: Yes, damn, what if you want to? All right, these

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Speaker 2: Ers, they don't know how to talk to each other.

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Speaker 3: They can just yell into the abyss of the Internet

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Speaker 2: Everyone's saying, do it for Dan.

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Speaker 3: I'm really mad that I'm still on the outside of this. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Literally seven hours of doing it for Dan.

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Speaker 3: I would have done it for Dan for seven more hours.

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Speaker 2: And also I was gonna say, all the people saying

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Speaker 2: slap the bag, it's funny story. Uh, Keon actually taught

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Speaker 2: me how to slap the bag. Wow, Really, Kean teaches

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Speaker 3: Don't drink either.

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Speaker 2: I also don't drink either. And so when I but

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Speaker 2: I was really good at it. I slapped it very well,

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Speaker 3: Damn yeah, slapped it little yep. I've never slapped. I've

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Speaker 3: never slapped it, but I never slapped it. I just

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Speaker 3: assume what you do is you slap it.

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Speaker 2: You slap it.

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Speaker 3: And then you said the yeah, yeah, seems pretty straightfor

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Speaker 3: someone had to teach you that.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even know it was a thing you slept.

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Speaker 3: It's only one step.

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Speaker 2: No, there's two steps.

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Speaker 3: I well, the second step is implied.

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Speaker 2: We doesn't drink it without spilling it, which is harder

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Speaker 3: Really. My brother was sabotaging all of my friendships, so

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Speaker 3: I disowned him. When I was twelve years old, my

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Speaker 2: So she comes back and she's like, I know he

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Speaker 3: We finally got to a point where we realized he

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Speaker 3: He told her that him and my younger sister would

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Speaker 2: I just don't understand why they still a relationship with

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean because I guess he's related to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the guy who can make the decision. The

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Speaker 4: We just cleaned the house for turning this car around.

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Speaker 4: My brother and sisters still came over anyway. When my

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Speaker 4: because they blame this whole.

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Speaker 3: a great way to do that. Hey, little niece, you

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Speaker 3: know what, we don't like them, So you don't get

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Speaker 3: You know where you can hang out every weekday at

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Speaker 3: I mean, let's check in. My sister and I have

439
00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:18,640
Speaker 3: kind of resolved our issue. My brother, on the other hand,

440
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:21,679
Speaker 3: has not spoken to me since, and I'm tired of

441
00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 3: his attitude. I refuse to have a bad relationship with

442
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 3: my son's mother just because he doesn't like her, and

443
00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 3: the fact that he felt the need to take out

444
00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:34,199
Speaker 3: his anger on our kids was the final straw. I

445
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:36,600
Speaker 3: would never let my issues with him come between me

446
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:39,240
Speaker 3: and my niece. And my son was devastated that his

447
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:42,679
Speaker 3: uncle and cousin weren't at his birthday party. Am I

448
00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:45,720
Speaker 3: the jerk here? Absolutely? Not like we said the fact

449
00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:49,439
Speaker 3: that he's now like punishing the kids because he's just like,

450
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,000
Speaker 3: I don't like your ex wife that you're co parenting

451
00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:53,040
Speaker 3: with beautifully.

452
00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 2: Like, come on, he's always been the jerk. He never

453
00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:56,760
Speaker 2: grew out of being a jerk.

454
00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's always been the jerk.

455
00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:03,400
Speaker 2: My sister tried to reconcile after mistreating me my whole life.

456
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:07,280
Speaker 2: I told her she's not my family anymore. Get out

457
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 2: of here.

458
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 3: We don't got you.

459
00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:12,719
Speaker 2: I seventeen female, used to be really good friends with

460
00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 2: my sister nineteen female when we were kids. We would

461
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 2: sleep in each other's beds when one of us had

462
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 2: a nightmare. We would do how to draw tutorials together,

463
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:24,800
Speaker 2: and she was my best friend for a long time.

464
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: That was until we switched schools. By the way, this

465
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Speaker 2: comes from medical Read seventy seven on the r slash

466
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Speaker 2: Okay storytime subured at So she was in the fifth

467
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:38,159
Speaker 2: grade and I was in third grade when we switched

468
00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:41,399
Speaker 2: from a private to public school district, the one that

469
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 2: my dad worked at. Our little brother, now fourteen, was

470
00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 2: just starting school and our parents couldn't afford sending three

471
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 2: kids to a private school. So me and my sister

472
00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:53,399
Speaker 2: switched over and my brother went to a private school

473
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:56,639
Speaker 2: for kindergarten and first grade before going to public school

474
00:22:56,680 --> 00:23:00,160
Speaker 2: with us. When my sister got into middle school, well,

475
00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 2: she started getting really mean, which I didn't understand. She

476
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 2: was so mean to me and we didn't hang out

477
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,919
Speaker 2: much anymore. When I came out as bisexual in seventh grade,

478
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 2: she told me that I was disgusting. Oh, despite our

479
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,400
Speaker 2: parents supporting me and our brother. But what really made

480
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,919
Speaker 2: me start to hate her was when we were in

481
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 2: high school. My freshman year, I joined the marching band,

482
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,679
Speaker 2: and my sister was a junior and all of her

483
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 2: friends were sporty people. She would constantly bully me at

484
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 2: home and at school for being gay and having nerds

485
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 2: for friends and not being as smart as her. Every

486
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 2: time I tried to get her to stop, she would

487
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,199
Speaker 2: berate me more, and nothing would stop her except for

488
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,920
Speaker 2: me physically leaving the room or my brother hitting her,

489
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 2: which always got both of them in trouble.

490
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,360
Speaker 3: Well, I mean, if she played sports, why you could

491
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:50,959
Speaker 3: have just given her a good tackle. Just deck understand

492
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 3: you were up for the football team, trying helping you.

493
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 2: Come on, It's pretty awful. My sophomore year when I

494
00:23:56,720 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 2: turned sixteen and should have got my license. But I'm autistic,

495
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 2: so driving is a lot more stressful in general to me.

496
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 2: She would drive me to school, and almost every morning

497
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:10,640
Speaker 2: she and I would fight. One day, I left none

498
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 2: of my notebooks in her car, so I went to

499
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 2: go grab it. While looking for it, I found a

500
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:18,480
Speaker 2: bunch of stuff that she shouldn't have had. It freaked

501
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 2: me out because I've always been super against all of

502
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,919
Speaker 2: the stuff I found in her car, and so were

503
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:26,200
Speaker 2: my parents. No substance did.

504
00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 3: No substance. Don't tell me that you're you narked on

505
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:30,040
Speaker 3: your sister.

506
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 2: I told my mom as soon as she got home.

507
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:36,480
Speaker 3: It sounds like your sister might not like you.

508
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,680
Speaker 2: You're an Are you a nark?

509
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 3: You might not even understand you were being a nark

510
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 3: since you've you said that, you've got the little neuro

511
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 3: spiciness going on there.

512
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 2: Maybe a little bit of a little bit of a nark.

513
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:51,439
Speaker 3: You breached the trust. She sucks, but she does sucks.

514
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 2: She sucks, but you're also a little bit of a nark.

515
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, But honestly, maybe if she's been ruthlessly believed, maybe

516
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 3: she deserves and hates that you your bisexual.

517
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:03,240
Speaker 2: You know what. Yeah, actually used to be narcked on.

518
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 3: In a rare instance, the nark is getting a pass you.

519
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes you just gotta you just gotta give them

520
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:11,120
Speaker 2: a taste of her own medicine.

521
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 3: But most of the time, just mind your own business.

522
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agreed. However, she was eighteen and she believed

523
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,200
Speaker 2: she could do anything she wanted. After this, she routinely

524
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 2: snuck out of the house, snuck people into the house,

525
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 2: and did illegal stuff. One day, she even was brought

526
00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 2: home by the cops for a DUI whoa. That was

527
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 2: when my parents snapped. My mom threatened to kick her

528
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 2: out of the house if she didn't stop what she

529
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 2: was doing, and she was mad because she had been

530
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 2: doing it for so long. Why were they suddenly mad.

531
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 2: She's like, I've been doing it for ages and they're like,

532
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:45,560
Speaker 2: we didn't know that, and she was like, oh well,

533
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 2: it's like.

534
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 3: Why do you guys care now, I've been I've been

535
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 3: doing this. I was sixteen.

536
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 2: Come on. While they were arguing, I was hiding in

537
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:57,360
Speaker 2: the basement with my brother, playing loud music and shooting

538
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 2: each other with nerf guns so that we wouldn't he

539
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 2: wouldn't hear them screaming at each other upstairs. Jakes. My

540
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 2: sister ended up running away for a week, but came

541
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 2: back home when her boyfriend almost got them into a

542
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 2: crash one night. She apologized, swearing that she would do better.

543
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 2: Would she though, Well, she didn't, of course not. When

544
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 2: she went to college, she never came home despite being

545
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 2: only thirty minutes away. I got a boyfriend who was

546
00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 2: at the house all the time, and my sister never

547
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 2: met him, And honestly, I didn't want her to. He

548
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 2: already knew who she was from her horrible reputation at school,

549
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:36,239
Speaker 2: But he loved me and my brother and parents, and

550
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 2: that's all I cared about. At college, she got in

551
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 2: trouble a lot for doing illegal stuff, and her reputation

552
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 2: from school followed her there. Yikes, she only ysked. She

553
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 2: only went thirty minutes away. Yeah, this sister is not

554
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 2: great to escape it. She moved to Florida with our

555
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:57,040
Speaker 2: aunt and without telling us. We found out when we

556
00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:58,760
Speaker 2: tried to visit her, and she told us that she

557
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 2: couldn't see us as she was in Orlando. Classic She's like, sorry, guys.

558
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 3: Moved, I'm in Orlando. Sorry, I'm doing Orlando stuff. You

559
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:09,399
Speaker 3: wouldn't understand it.

560
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 2: I met, I met Disney, Orlando. We were shocked that

561
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,679
Speaker 2: she managed to do that without us finding out. But

562
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 2: I didn't mind that she was far away. The farther

563
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 2: she was from us, the farther her reputation gets from

564
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:21,920
Speaker 2: me and my brother.

565
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:25,360
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's where you're wrong, though. That reputation

566
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,120
Speaker 3: is going to be kicking to you. Yeah, forever. Everyone's

567
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 3: gonna be like, oh, you're so and So's sister, and

568
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 3: then look, go, how's she doing.

569
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, she she in jail.

570
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 3: He'll be like, I'm not even tapped into at all

571
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 3: because she's kind of the problem.

572
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,199
Speaker 2: She ended up telling her dad where she was staying,

573
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 2: and in June we all went down there to see

574
00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 2: her and also go to Disney since she lived so

575
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 2: close to it. Our mother was the one who planned this,

576
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:54,080
Speaker 2: despite my sister saying she needed more time. While we

577
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 2: were down there, the aunt's daughter told us that my

578
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 2: sister had a boyfriend when my sister wasn't with us.

579
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,919
Speaker 2: The aunts daughter told us that sister cheated on her

580
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 2: boyfriend multiple times.

581
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 3: Yoicks, Wow, she doesn't sound like the type of person

582
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 3: who would do that.

583
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is so unlike her.

584
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, she's basically like a little church.

585
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 2: Girl and he had no idea and if he did,

586
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 2: he didn't care.

587
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 3: Thanks.

588
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,360
Speaker 2: She lied to him about how we treated her when

589
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 2: she lived with us and believed that her bad behavior

590
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 2: was her living a childhood that she was prohibited from living,

591
00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 2: which just simply was not true. Our mom confirmed this

592
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 2: story with my sister, which upset her. That aunt's daughter

593
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:35,439
Speaker 2: told them she and aunt kicked us out of the house.

594
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 3: Oh.

595
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 2: The daughter and the aunt were like, that's like. Oh.

596
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 2: P's parents were trying to tell the aunt and the

597
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 2: daughter like, that's not true. We didn't treat her poorly,

598
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 2: And the aunt and the daughter were like, you're a liar.

599
00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 2: We've heard all of the stuff from your daughterly.

600
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 3: What kind of people you are? From our Dui daughter.

601
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 2: She and aunt kicked us out of the house, and

602
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 2: my mom couldn't understand what she did wrong. A few

603
00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 2: weeks ago, she told us that she was coming home

604
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 2: for a few days with her boyfriends so that we

605
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 2: could meet him and he could meet us because she

606
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 2: wanted him to love her family like she loved us.

607
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 2: I laughed and said that she doesn't love us She

608
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 2: was confused and said she missed us a lot, especially me,

609
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 2: and was excited to meet my boyfriend. I told her

610
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 2: that though she may miss us, we don't miss her,

611
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 2: at least me and my brother don't. I told her

612
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 2: that when she comes home, my brother and I will

613
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 2: be staying at her grandparents' house to help them out

614
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 2: for the weekend, and that her boyfriend should be under

615
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 2: the impression that she has no siblings, because as far

616
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 2: as I'm concerned, I don't have a sister. Damn. She

617
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 2: was deeply offended and called me a slur, saying that

618
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 2: I was ruining her life. She released which is up quick.

619
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 2: She's like, I love you, I missed you, and he's like,

620
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 2: you're not my family, and.

621
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 3: She's like, I hate you.

622
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 2: I told her I couldn't ruin something that she already destroyed.

623
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 2: My brother thanked me for standing up to her because

624
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 2: he did truly miss her, as I shield shielded him

625
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 2: for most of the stuff she did, but he was

626
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 2: also old enough to understand the severity of what was

627
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 2: going on. My dad didn't really care, saying that if

628
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 2: we didn't want to see her, then he couldn't stop us.

629
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 2: My mom and boyfriend are super mad at me, saying

630
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 2: that I'm not even giving her chance to be a

631
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 2: better person, but we'll give you a chance to join

632
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 2: us live on YouTube every weekday at three PMPST just

633
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 2: tap our profile. Personally, I believe that she's had plenty

634
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 2: of chances to be a better person and she's wasted

635
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 2: every single one. But my mom and boyfriend are super

636
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 2: mad at me, and I do miss the person my

637
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 2: sister used to be. Am I the bad apple. Should

638
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 2: I just give her the chance to prove she's trying

639
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 2: to be better? But that is the end of that story.

640
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 2: Man oh man, Yeah, I think that you just have

641
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 2: to sometimes you have to let some of your family

642
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 2: members go in they're off.

643
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 3: Phone, or you could go back in time. Try to

644
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 3: be cooler, try to be cool, and then maybe your

645
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 3: sister would think that you're cool.

646
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 2: Maybe'll work it out.

647
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. You're fine.

648
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 2: It's not you, op, it's your sister.

649
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 3: It's your sister.

650
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 2: But that was the end of that episode.

651
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 3: O sister, when you know what Heleanna Baines has a

652
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 3: great point. They're still just teenagers.

653
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: They're still just teenagers seventeen. I think the sisters. Yeah.

654
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 2: I think there's a chance that in a couple of years,

655
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 2: you know, that'll she'll change up, she'll be better. But

656
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 2: right now, if she's slurn, she's slurn at you.

657
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:31,800
Speaker 3: Yeah. If she's throwing slurs your way, hyper casual style,

658
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 3: dodge them. Not worth the time, uh.

659
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:39,479
Speaker 2: Stella Davis says, instead of narking, I once just removed

660
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 2: the air caps from my sister's hookups tires.

661
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 3: I don't think does that actually make the dark? Yeah,

662
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 3: but I appreciate it the thought. It's the thought that

663
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 3: count you were close.

664
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. Stella Davis says the sister ruined her family's relationship

665
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 2: with the aunt and cousin exactly, and slyly Toe says

666
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 2: getting it to UI and not getting rested did her

667
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 2: no favors. So cops, some cops need to.

668
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Speaker 3: Stop doing that. Hey's John Og host were gonna get

669
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 3: back to the stories, but a quick Freemanute break of

670
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 3: ads from our sponsors. My sister in law is trying

671
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 3: to steal our baby's name, so I gave her a

672
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 3: fake name. Oo duplicitousous. So I thirty three female, had

673
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 3: been married to my husband Kevin thirty five male, for

674
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 3: five years. We have a three year old daughter, and

675
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 3: I'm currently pregnant with twins steal and female.

676
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 2: What are you name?

677
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 3: My brother in law, Terrence thirty eight male, has been

678
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 3: married to his wife, Jess thirty nine female for seven years.

679
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:45,240
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user throw a Name

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Speaker 3: Ninja Yes got it Yes on the r slash Okay

681
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 3: story time stuff Reddit. Jess and I are total opposites.

682
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 3: Jess is an extrovert. She's kind of loud, boisterous, and

683
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 3: some would even say abrasive.

684
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 2: So far because some would say that, not me.

685
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 3: Oh, he's got a great vocabulary first of all, so

686
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 3: may say a boisterous, a voluminous vocabulary. I am an introvert.

687
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 3: I am not quiet or shy, but I am reserved.

688
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 3: I'm also very observant and a voracious reader, a voracious vocabulistic.

689
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 3: The first time I met Jess, I told Kevin that

690
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 3: we would be like Oil and Water.

691
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 2: A great episode of Our Cane.

692
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 3: You have the episode titles memorized.

693
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 2: I just watched.

694
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 3: That's a real stand, folks, That is a real fan.

695
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know, you know me.

696
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 3: We have never been overtly hostile towards each other, but

697
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 3: also I have never gone out of our way to bond. Unfortunately,

698
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:50,959
Speaker 3: Terrence and Jess had fertility issues for several years before

699
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 3: finally having their son a couple of weeks ago. Prior

700
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:58,280
Speaker 3: to this, Jess was very odd towards us when I

701
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 3: was pregnant with our daughter. The best way to describe

702
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:04,239
Speaker 3: it is hot and cold. One minute, she pretended like

703
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 3: she didn't care while we were talking about it at

704
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,399
Speaker 3: the family gatherings. The next she was volunteering to throw

705
00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 3: the baby shower, at which I gave a firm no

706
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 3: to don't let her. We both assumed the behavior was

707
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,839
Speaker 3: because of their fertility issues and didn't think too much

708
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 3: of it. But the strangest thing she did we was

709
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,720
Speaker 3: almost demand to know what we were naming our daughter

710
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 3: before we announced it. Seal She's trying to yoink that

711
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 3: baby name. She thief, thief, thief in the shadow, stealing

712
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 3: the name of my progeny.

713
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 2: I'd let it.

714
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:44,919
Speaker 3: She asked us constantly after our gender reveal and got

715
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 3: visibly annoyed when we just laughed her off and said

716
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 3: it was a secret. We couldn't understand why the heck

717
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 3: she cared so much, as she was not expecting at

718
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 3: this time. Regardless, we didn't share the name with anyone.

719
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 2: She's literally rumpel. Still she's like, I need the name

720
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 2: of your first born child.

721
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 3: Sign it.

722
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 2: Sign it.

723
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 3: When our daughter was born and her name was finally announced,

724
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,359
Speaker 3: Jess was kind of obsessed with it. I don't know

725
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 3: how to explain it. She just kept going on and

726
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 3: on about how beautiful and unique it was. To this day,

727
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 3: she comments about how different it is the name would be.

728
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:25,760
Speaker 3: We chose as a pretty common Welsh name, which wouldn't

729
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 3: it be all that different except for the fact that

730
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 3: we are African American. Loul I've always gravitated towards names

731
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 3: from different regions and fell in love with the name

732
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 3: years ago and never shared it with anyone prior to

733
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,919
Speaker 3: Prior to Kevin. Fast forward to both of us being

734
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:46,800
Speaker 3: pregnant at the same time. Jess's odd behavior continued towards me,

735
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 3: but this time it was more blatant snarky comments under

736
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 3: the guise of jokes about how big I was going

737
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 3: to get with two babies and that my body was

738
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 3: never going to snap back like it did after our daughter.

739
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,240
Speaker 2: YO was making those little snarky comments.

740
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 3: It's like, I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding, Joe. It's

741
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,319
Speaker 3: just a joke. But like, for real, your body is

742
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 3: never gonna get back, so enjoy it while lasts, because

743
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 3: it's not gonna last for.

744
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:14,279
Speaker 2: Much longer and your husband's gonna leave you.

745
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 3: It's just Joe, Yeah, just a joke, just to jump,

746
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:23,240
Speaker 3: just kidding, it's funny. She even accused us of getting

747
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 3: pregnant on purpose after she announced her own pregnancy, even

748
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 3: though the whole family knew we were actively trying, and

749
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 3: at the time of her announcement, I was already a

750
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:34,279
Speaker 3: few weeks along and didn't even know.

751
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 2: Again, Okay, I've talked about this on other stories, but

752
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:39,440
Speaker 2: the the letting everyone know that you're actively trying for

753
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 2: a baby a little weird to me.

754
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 3: One thing about me, introvert or not. I'm no pushover

755
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 3: and will stand up for myself. But I chose to

756
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 3: ignore Jess because I knew that would get to her

757
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:54,240
Speaker 3: more than confronting her Wood since she seems to thrive

758
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 3: off of drama. Chess was obviously much further along than

759
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 3: we are. However, we did have our gender reveal prior

760
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 3: to Jess giving birth, and right on cue the baby name.

761
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 3: Interrogations started again because they decided not to find out

762
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 3: the gender of their baby in advance. Jess kept hounding

763
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 3: us for both of the names we had already picked out,

764
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 3: but again we declined to answer.

765
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: Don't tell her, don't tell her.

766
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 3: After days of this, I got annoyed and asked Kevin

767
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:26,560
Speaker 3: if he thought the reason for her insistence was so

768
00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 3: she could use the name first, since she was due first.

769
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 3: He kind of chuckled until he realized I was serious

770
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 3: and said he didn't think so, but that anything was possible.

771
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 3: So I said, let's test it.

772
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 2: Let's put this little theory to the test.

773
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:47,840
Speaker 3: Let's become MythBusters. Here they what's their starting thing for that?

774
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 3: I can't even remember.

775
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 2: I watched so much much MythBusters.

776
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it was one of the best shows ever.

777
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 2: Well, we didn't have cable, so we just had like

778
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 2: tons and tons of DVDs of MythBusters.

779
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh wow on DVD MythBuster Champion over here. Yeah,

780
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 3: I said, let's test it. We were due to host

781
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 3: my father in law's birthday at our house a couple

782
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 3: of weeks later, and I decided to leave something in

783
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 3: the unfinished nursery with a girl and boy name on

784
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:18,320
Speaker 3: it and see if Jess went snooping' who she's set

785
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 3: and try a little true Because Kevin thought it was silly,

786
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:24,360
Speaker 3: he said he would give me twenty bucks if she

787
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 3: did it.

788
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 2: That's so funny.

789
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,359
Speaker 3: So now they got a side bed on it.

790
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:29,839
Speaker 2: Okay, if she does it, you good twenty bucks. Yes

791
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 2: she doesn't.

792
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:37,320
Speaker 3: We're trying for a baby. Yeah, So I went onto

793
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 3: some site where you can order some custom name wall

794
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:45,880
Speaker 3: decals and put in the names Aria Rose and Sebastian

795
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:50,320
Speaker 3: A Lee. Okay, I mean kind of strong. I guess

796
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:54,240
Speaker 3: those are names that we like but aren't remotely close

797
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,759
Speaker 3: to what we chose. This would also be our last pregnancy,

798
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 3: so even if Jess did use them, you wouldn't care.

799
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,760
Speaker 3: I didn't complete the order. I got to the final

800
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 3: page and then printed it out and hit it in

801
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 3: a dresser drawer in the nursers parts, so now hidden,

802
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,400
Speaker 3: so she'd have to go stooping for you. Yeah, the

803
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 3: party goes off. It's going off.

804
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 2: The party was.

805
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 3: Off, but because we were busy hosting, we never noticed

806
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:25,359
Speaker 3: if Jess disappeared for any extended period of time. When

807
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 3: I went into the nursery, the next morning, nothing was

808
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 3: out of place and the order sheet was still in

809
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 3: the exact location, so we both just went welp wound

810
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 3: forgot about it. I did, however, notice that Jess never

811
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 3: asked us about the names again. So then Jess gives birth.

812
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,399
Speaker 3: We went to the hospital to give our congratulations. When

813
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 3: we go in and see the baby, I ask what

814
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 3: his name was, and man, I cannot properly explain the

815
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 3: crap eating grin that came over Jess's face as she

816
00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 3: says Sebastian. Ali. I mean, she was really proud of herself,

817
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 3: and honestly, it's the most vindictive I have ever seen her.

818
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 3: Look her problems that I've known her. Yeah, it's like,

819
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:17,280
Speaker 3: what is this obsession with Like, I'm study, I've got

820
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 3: your child, so it's mine now and you can never

821
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:23,320
Speaker 3: have it again.

822
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 2: Crazy lady is crazy.

823
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 3: But instead of reacting how she was expecting, Oh I

824
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 3: can't wait for this, I put on a performance like

825
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 3: I had just graduated from Julia. Oh my goodness, that

826
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 3: is such a great name. He's so cute and look

827
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 3: at his widdle face. Oh I just love him so much.

828
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:48,600
Speaker 3: Welcome to the world, Sebastian. Auntie is going to spoil

829
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 3: you rotten. I mean, I am laying it on thick

830
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 3: without an ounce of bother. The range of emotions on

831
00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 3: Jess's face went from shock to confusion to rage in

832
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 3: a span of maybe seventeen seconds. Meanwhile, my husband is

833
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:07,600
Speaker 3: holding in the laugh of the century. Yes. We later

834
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:10,840
Speaker 3: say our goodbyes and he gives me the twenty dollars

835
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 3: and the elevator while almost crying laughing. Yes. All I

836
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 3: could say was like, I thought.

837
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 2: Like gay bo and wool you so I love to

838
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:23,760
Speaker 2: see it. I love I love when this happens.

839
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:24,760
Speaker 3: Here's a thought.

840
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 2: What's the thought?

841
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,759
Speaker 3: You can join us live on YouTube every weekday at

842
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 3: three pm.

843
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 2: All you gotta do is tap our profile, chap it.

844
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 3: You don't even have to think about it.

845
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:34,919
Speaker 2: Is like this.

846
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 3: This was two weeks ago. We have not seen them

847
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:41,360
Speaker 3: since because we wanted to give them time to settle

848
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 3: in with the new baby. I have heard from my

849
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 3: mother in law that just doesn't seem as thrilled about

850
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:50,239
Speaker 3: motherhood as she thought she would be, considering how long

851
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 3: it took them to conceive, but said it might just

852
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 3: be baby blues. Obviously. I think she's just disappointed that

853
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 3: her petty move didn't have the desired effect on us.

854
00:41:59,320 --> 00:41:59,760
Speaker 2: Probably.

855
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 3: I did share this with my sister, and while she

856
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: laughed initially, she did say it was kind of an

857
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 3: a whole move.

858
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 2: How on you? How is that an a whole move?

859
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 3: So? Am I the a whole? In?

860
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 2: What way? Is that an a whole move?

861
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 3: You know what? Op, I wasn't gonna say this. You're

862
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:20,359
Speaker 3: disgusting for doing this to your sister in law, Like

863
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 3: what what is that?

864
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:24,839
Speaker 2: You try to steal your name and you did let

865
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 2: her you, Like.

866
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 3: Honestly, you've been trapped you and trapped your sister in

867
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 3: law into having like, yeah, how could you do this?

868
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 3: Baby name? Which is your Sebastian jail for life? Yeah?

869
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:36,400
Speaker 3: Which is honestly, Sebastian's a great.

870
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 2: Name, Lil Sebastian.

871
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 3: Oh, shout out, little Sebastian, rest in peace for every

872
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 3: in my heart.

873
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 2: That is a good name. My cousin finally revealed her

874
00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:50,279
Speaker 2: true colors, and I said, I told you so to my.

875
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 3: Family sometimes I told you so. She sold Delicious week from.

876
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 2: The Sweet Justice Little backstory. First, I forty female, am

877
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 2: my cousin forty female. Didn't grow up together, but every

878
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 2: time I would visit my family from out of state.

879
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 2: Family would treat us like twins because we were so

880
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 2: close in age. We had the same perm same clothes,

881
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 2: bought by family, and treated like sisters. By the way,

882
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 2: this comes from Fair Highlight one four seventeen on the

883
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 2: r Slashoky story time separate it.

884
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:19,759
Speaker 3: So.

885
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 2: As we got older, I will call my cousin D.

886
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:25,799
Speaker 2: D started to compete with me every time I would

887
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 2: come for a visit. Mind you, her friends gravitated towards

888
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:30,919
Speaker 2: me when I came over because I was the girl

889
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 2: from out of town, but I would never hang out

890
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 2: with her friends without her. D didn't like that her

891
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 2: friends seemed to want to hang out with me, and

892
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 2: even told me as much. It's like, I don't like

893
00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 2: that you guys get along.

894
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, we were. You guys shouldn't be close. We don't

895
00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 3: like it.

896
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:47,320
Speaker 2: She would make contest between the two of us, between

897
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:49,799
Speaker 2: her mom, my aunt, and her friends, such as who

898
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 2: drew the best, who painted the best, who was faster,

899
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 2: who was prettier. In our teens, we weren't as close,

900
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 2: but I still came over to stay with her. When

901
00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:00,360
Speaker 2: I was up north for a visit. I was eighteen

902
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 2: and going through past related trauma which she knew about.

903
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 2: I ended up losing my virginity to her boyfriend's brother

904
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 2: that summer Dan, Oh my god, about a week after

905
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 2: she took me to a party down the shore at

906
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,879
Speaker 2: her friend's house. This sounds like the summer I turned

907
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 2: pretty The first thing I was greeted with as I

908
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 2: walked in the door was, Hey, you'r D's cousin who

909
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 2: lost her virginity to Joe.

910
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 3: Yes, that is a movie plot way, somebody, somebody wrote

911
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 3: this right, There's no way someone would actually have the

912
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:30,320
Speaker 3: nerve to say.

913
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 2: That that's crazy.

914
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 3: Actually, no, you know what, that's not nerve. That's just

915
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 3: like stupid, just just child teenage antics.

916
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 2: Ceage antics. I found out that dad told all of

917
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 2: her friends about it, d mon d, and even told

918
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 2: several of my family members out of family function. To

919
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:48,479
Speaker 2: say I was mortified was an understatement. Anyway. Fast forward

920
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 2: a few years I had forgiven her. She came over

921
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 2: to my house and we were talking about a disagreement

922
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:55,880
Speaker 2: my mother and I had. She agreed with me and

923
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 2: even went and told me that what had happened was wrong.

924
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 2: A few weeks later, I I found out that She

925
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 2: went to my mother and told her I said all

926
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:05,240
Speaker 2: of those nasty things about her and that she didn't

927
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:07,480
Speaker 2: agree with me, that I was in the wrong. She

928
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 2: was to be my bridesmaid for my wedding. A few

929
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 2: months down the line, when I found out, she twisted

930
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 2: words and told my mother that I had said some hurtful,

931
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 2: nasty comments that she actually said. I called her in

932
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 2: a fit of anger and disinvited her to the wedding.

933
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 2: She played my message to the whole family at a

934
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 2: family function while I was at work. I know, stupid

935
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:26,839
Speaker 2: for me leaving a message.

936
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 3: No, I mean no, they'll put that on you.

937
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 2: No, that's on her.

938
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:31,720
Speaker 3: She's just being a trash.

939
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:32,440
Speaker 2: She's twisty.

940
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 3: She's twisty, twisty snake.

941
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:38,400
Speaker 2: What slice the cake was the fact that she called

942
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 2: my eldest male cousin, who was supposed to walk me

943
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 2: down the aisle no because my father wasn't in the picture,

944
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,320
Speaker 2: and told him that he was no longer invited as well.

945
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,280
Speaker 2: She told me him that she was disinvited, and apparently

946
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 2: he stated, well, then good, because if you weren't invited,

947
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 2: I wouldn't want to go paraphrasing, of course, because I

948
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:57,399
Speaker 2: had heard it from other people. I called a week

949
00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 2: before the wedding to make sure that my cousin had

950
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,759
Speaker 2: his tucks ready to go oh, and was informed by

951
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:04,240
Speaker 2: his mother that he did not get his tucks because

952
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:06,400
Speaker 2: he was told he was no longer in the wedding.

953
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 2: So she basically the cousin lied and said, oh, you're

954
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 2: not in the wedding, and he didn't think to check

955
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 2: with op.

956
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean he kind of want to get that

957
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 3: one from the horse's mouth.

958
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 2: Right, maybe maybe double checks say like, hey, what happened.

959
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 3: I guess I'm just not going there.

960
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,440
Speaker 2: I'm not going I was so hurt and angry. I

961
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:24,720
Speaker 2: wanted to reach out to him and tell him, no, please,

962
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 2: I want you to still walk me down the aisle. Unfortunately,

963
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 2: during that call, I was also told that he had

964
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 2: injured himself to where he ended up in the hospital.

965
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Oh so I ended up walking myself

966
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:38,359
Speaker 2: down the aisle. Oh this is so sad, I wrote

967
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 2: d off at this point. This was the third time

968
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:43,719
Speaker 2: she had stabbed me in the back. I kept forgiving her,

969
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 2: but I didn't learn my lesson. I always knew there

970
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:48,360
Speaker 2: was something off with her. She was also very jealous

971
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 2: of her younger sister that has autism, so much to

972
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 2: the point that she would put screwdrivers in her wall.

973
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 2: Oh my god, what she had lied and manipulated and

974
00:46:57,120 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 2: done some immoral things, not just to me but others. Yes,

975
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 2: so I cut contact with her, but I kept a

976
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:03,919
Speaker 2: close relationship with her mother.

977
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:08,000
Speaker 3: Now to present, Wait, but did you say screwdrivers in

978
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:08,439
Speaker 3: her wall?

979
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:09,480
Speaker 2: Drivers in her wall?

980
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 3: What does that mean? I've never heard that. Is that

981
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 3: an expression or did she really put screwdrivers in her wall?

982
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 2: I don't know, but she's crazy. Yeah, I cut this

983
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 2: lady off. Okay, Now to a present, Her mother has

984
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:23,799
Speaker 2: been asking for years for me to reconcile with her daughter,

985
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 2: at least for her. My aunt's health was not good,

986
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 2: and I figured for her I would reconcile but keep

987
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 2: my distance. I had talked to D twice before her

988
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 2: mother got extremely sick right after Christmas twenty twenty three.

989
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 2: I talked to my aunt while she was sick and

990
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,360
Speaker 2: kept open communication with her while she was trying to

991
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:42,960
Speaker 2: get better. She had told me how upset she was

992
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 2: that D had come up north for two weeks for

993
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 2: the Christmas break, but only came and visited her once

994
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:50,640
Speaker 2: and for only four hours. The rest of the time

995
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 2: she spent with her husband and his family. D and

996
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 2: her husband and his family unfortunately had contracted COVID and

997
00:47:57,080 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 2: passed it to my aunt unknowingly. And so why aunt

998
00:48:01,800 --> 00:48:04,320
Speaker 2: ended up in the hospital. Oh my god, she already

999
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 2: had a compromised immune system and couldn't fight through. She

1000
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:11,640
Speaker 2: passed away two weeks after. Oh, no, before she got

1001
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,040
Speaker 2: sick enough to end in the hospital. She told two

1002
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,399
Speaker 2: separate people that she was fearful that D only came

1003
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 2: to see her to get the gifts and really only

1004
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 2: wanted her money and wouldn't care if she passed away.

1005
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 2: It was laughed off by both parties, who were told

1006
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 2: this at different times. When my aunt went into the hospital,

1007
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,840
Speaker 2: it was a roller coaster. She would get better than worse,

1008
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 2: better than worse. D came up right away. What shocked

1009
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 2: most of the family is that she stated to the doctors, nurses,

1010
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 2: and family that she would only give her six days

1011
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 2: to get better or she would pull the plug.

1012
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 3: Yo.

1013
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,680
Speaker 2: Wow, just really heartless.

1014
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 3: Into the sun with you, Into the sun, Into the sun.

1015
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 2: After a few days of family trying to convince her

1016
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:52,799
Speaker 2: to give my aunt a fighting chance. She decided to

1017
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 2: hold off for a few days. She's so greedy. I

1018
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:55,879
Speaker 2: think she just wants the money.

1019
00:48:55,960 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so disgusting. Discuss despicable.

1020
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 2: When my aunt came to and to clear she wanted

1021
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 2: declared she wanted to fight and live. Do you have

1022
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 2: the hospital do test to try and determine that she

1023
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 2: was not in her right mind. Oh, the lady light

1024
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 2: comes back. She's like, I want to live and he's like,

1025
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 2: I don't. You don't know what you're saying.

1026
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 3: This lady's crazy. She's wanted to die ever since I

1027
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 3: knew her.

1028
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 2: I'll tell you something about her.

1029
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 3: You know what she told me privately that she would

1030
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:21,839
Speaker 3: it would be her.

1031
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:24,439
Speaker 2: She she came to me in a dream.

1032
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1033
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 2: The assessment showed that she was of sound mind. She

1034
00:49:27,680 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 2: fought for a little bit longer, but when it was

1035
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 2: clear she would not survive without a breathing true tube,

1036
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 2: she stated that she didn't want a DNR and to

1037
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 2: let her go peacefully. My aunt passed away a little

1038
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:41,600
Speaker 2: while later. D stayed in town for another few days

1039
00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 2: with her husband to handle some affairs of my aunt's.

1040
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 2: She even had a dumpster delivered the day after her

1041
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:50,320
Speaker 2: mother passed away and threw out all of her mother's furniture,

1042
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 2: which was mostly brand new. Wow, why wouldn't you even

1043
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:56,880
Speaker 2: like sell them? Take them to goodwill? Come on, this

1044
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:58,919
Speaker 2: person just hate hates her mom.

1045
00:49:59,040 --> 00:49:59,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, they she just hates.

1046
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 2: She only kept a few things. She didn't give all

1047
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 2: the immediate family members time to come over. She just

1048
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 2: tossed stuff. She claimed that her and her husband had

1049
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 2: COVID again, How how many months after was that, because

1050
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:13,400
Speaker 2: if it was under three months, that is not true,

1051
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 2: and they couldn't do the celebration of life party for

1052
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 2: her mom like her mom wanted. My aunt wanted all

1053
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:20,839
Speaker 2: of her friend's family and loved ones, anyone that loved

1054
00:50:20,880 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 2: her to join in celebrating her life, not mourning her loss.

1055
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:26,040
Speaker 2: When the number of people on the list got too

1056
00:50:26,120 --> 00:50:27,920
Speaker 2: high for d and when people that she didn't like

1057
00:50:27,960 --> 00:50:30,839
Speaker 2: would be there, she used her excuse of having COVID

1058
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 2: to cancel the memorial celebration. Mind you, she and her

1059
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 2: husband and his family all had COVID a little over

1060
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 2: a month prior. She was a liar.

1061
00:50:38,719 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 3: Dirty lives dirty.

1062
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:42,040
Speaker 2: It's a three period, you little liar.

1063
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:46,280
Speaker 3: I hate this so much, so much, She's evil.

1064
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 2: As months went on, my mother kept on d about

1065
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:51,719
Speaker 2: the celebration of life. We all needed closure and to

1066
00:50:51,760 --> 00:50:54,880
Speaker 2: complete her last wishes. De finally answered her and stated

1067
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:56,759
Speaker 2: that she was going to do a small ceremony on

1068
00:50:56,800 --> 00:51:00,280
Speaker 2: the beach several states away and only for immediate family.

1069
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 2: Before you ask, No, money was not the issue. She

1070
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:05,920
Speaker 2: had inherited over two hundred k from her mother's estate.

1071
00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 2: Her excuse was that she didn't want people there that

1072
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 2: didn't call her personally to share their condolences, and those

1073
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 2: that she personally doesn't like or feels like they were

1074
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:15,319
Speaker 2: not close close with her mom.

1075
00:51:15,360 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 3: Oh shut up. You literally were trying to get your

1076
00:51:18,400 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 3: doctors to be like, my mom's crazy, just let her die.

1077
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:25,600
Speaker 3: Are you serious? M I've want to oh so much.

1078
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 2: My mother and her got into a verbal altercation because

1079
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 2: my mom was extremely close to my aunt. She felt

1080
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:33,359
Speaker 2: her daughter was not doing her mother justice, and maybe

1081
00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:37,920
Speaker 2: my aunt was right about her daughter. Finally, yeah, finally, jeez,

1082
00:51:37,960 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 2: I don't take forever. Maybe it has been nine months

1083
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:42,960
Speaker 2: since my aunt passed away, and yet there's still been

1084
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,800
Speaker 2: no celebration of life. My mother and I can't afford

1085
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:48,080
Speaker 2: to throw a send off like my aunt wanted since

1086
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 2: the altercation with my mother, Dia spent the money she

1087
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:53,280
Speaker 2: inherited on having a house built for her and her husband.

1088
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 2: By the way, you can spend your time with us

1089
00:51:57,160 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 2: alive every Weekdad, three pm PST. Just to have her profile.

1090
00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:03,160
Speaker 2: My mother is no longer invited to anything. D says

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Speaker 2: she may or may not have for her mother due

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00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:07,800
Speaker 2: to a few choice words she called my mother. I

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00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:10,720
Speaker 2: am also not invited because I didn't call her personally

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Speaker 2: with my condolences. I have to admit that probably was

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00:52:14,160 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 2: the right thing to do, but I just couldn't make

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00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:18,439
Speaker 2: myself do it. I was also grieving and in shock

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00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 2: when all this went down. I turned to my family

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00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 2: and said, I told you so. As four years I

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00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 2: tried to explain how manipulative and selfish my cousin really was.

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00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:30,560
Speaker 2: Am I the aol for saying I told you so?

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00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 3: No? Actually, yeah, everything that everything bad that d ever

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00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 3: did has been undone by those Yeah, those are four

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00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:41,320
Speaker 3: simple words I told you so.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she d sucks cut her off.

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Speaker 1: Hey it's Sam. We're gonna get back to the stories.

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Speaker 1: But here's three minutes bads from our sponsors.

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Speaker 3: My dad missed my son's birthday for his girlfriend, so

1108
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:58,040
Speaker 3: I threatened to uninvite him from everything. If you don't

1109
00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:01,760
Speaker 3: support my son, you're out. You're done. My son turned

1110
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:03,280
Speaker 3: one this past weekend.

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00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 2: Congrats.

1112
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:06,479
Speaker 3: On Sunday, my husband and I threw a birthday party

1113
00:53:06,520 --> 00:53:08,759
Speaker 3: for him at a local kids venue. We confirmed the

1114
00:53:08,800 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 3: date with both the venue and our guests a few

1115
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,839
Speaker 3: months ago. One of those guests was my father. Back

1116
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:15,800
Speaker 3: when I informed him of the date, he told me

1117
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 3: he'd come, as as you do when you are told

1118
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 3: of things.

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00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:22,240
Speaker 2: You're supposed to count to the events that you promised

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00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 2: that you're supposed to come to.

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Speaker 3: And by the way, this story comes from a user

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00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 3: he ft t twenty one forty three on the r

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00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 3: slash Okay storytime subreddit. A few days before the party,

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00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:35,759
Speaker 3: he asked if there was any way for me to

1125
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:39,320
Speaker 3: reschedule it. I said no, as we already confirmed everything

1126
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 3: with the venue. My father then told me he'd be

1127
00:53:42,080 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 3: late to this party because there was an event at

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00:53:45,160 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 3: his girlfriend's church on the same day and she wanted

1129
00:53:48,239 --> 00:53:51,840
Speaker 3: him to attend. I should say that my immediate family,

1130
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 3: including my father, is technically Catholic, but none of us practice.

1131
00:53:56,080 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 3: It is typical typical Catholics. Yes, technical, not a typical Catholic,

1132
00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 3: but a technical Catholic Christmas Catholic. However, my father's girlfriend

1133
00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:11,400
Speaker 3: is very religious, like Jesus as her phone wallpaper religious.

1134
00:54:11,640 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 3: That is the next level of I wonder if Jesus

1135
00:54:14,239 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 3: would like that, how would he feel about himself as

1136
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 3: a wallpaper. Since they started dating a little over a

1137
00:54:21,840 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 3: year ago, my father has been attending church with her

1138
00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 3: on a semi regular basis. He has explicitly told me

1139
00:54:28,480 --> 00:54:31,760
Speaker 3: he doesn't like it, but does it to make her happy.

1140
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:34,440
Speaker 3: I don't think you're supposed to like going to church

1141
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 3: as a Catholic. I don't know if that's part of

1142
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:37,319
Speaker 3: the rules or not, but I.

1143
00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 2: Think you're supposed to not like it. Yeah, it's like

1144
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:39,920
Speaker 2: a sacrifice.

1145
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's part of the thing. Any Catholics in the chat,

1146
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 3: please let us know if you're supposed to like going

1147
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:44,439
Speaker 3: to church.

1148
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 2: I did like parts of church, to be clear.

1149
00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:49,320
Speaker 3: I'm just I'm just joking around, justo, and you know

1150
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:51,480
Speaker 3: what I can say, joke it. Hey, I'm just joking.

1151
00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:53,759
Speaker 2: I went through I went through eighteen years of that.

1152
00:54:54,000 --> 00:54:56,719
Speaker 3: So we got the proof and the pudding right over here.

1153
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 3: I told my father. I was fine with him being

1154
00:54:59,239 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 3: late as long as he I did come to the party.

1155
00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 3: At some point, he said he would show up as

1156
00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:05,480
Speaker 3: soon as the church event was done. A few hours

1157
00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:07,759
Speaker 3: before the party ended, my father texted me that the

1158
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:10,040
Speaker 3: event was still going and that he thought it would

1159
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:12,719
Speaker 3: be in poor taste for him to leave early, so

1160
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 3: he probably wouldn't be able to come. I didn't hear

1161
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:20,480
Speaker 3: from him again that day. Loser, L L who does that? L?

1162
00:55:20,800 --> 00:55:21,320
Speaker 2: Who does that?

1163
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 3: On Monday, my father called me to explain that the

1164
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:28,879
Speaker 3: event went on for longer than he expected. He didn't apologize,

1165
00:55:29,200 --> 00:55:31,239
Speaker 3: but he did ask if I was angry at him,

1166
00:55:31,400 --> 00:55:33,239
Speaker 3: and I said yes, to.

1167
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:36,000
Speaker 2: Not even like say or to text her during the

1168
00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:38,160
Speaker 2: event at the very least, which still would have been

1169
00:55:38,160 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 2: really messed up to like not come to the thing

1170
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:41,839
Speaker 2: that you said you would come to, but to also

1171
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:43,840
Speaker 2: not even like let her know that you're not coming.

1172
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:46,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, And what is like you had all the time

1173
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 3: in the world to like let also your girlfriend know, like, Hey,

1174
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:50,480
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to leave this early. It's I'm not

1175
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 3: just trying to leave to leave early. I have to

1176
00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:54,719
Speaker 3: leave early because I have responsibilities as a member of

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00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:56,600
Speaker 3: a family. I need to be present.

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00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:57,319
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

1179
00:55:57,640 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 3: He said he had no way of knowing the event

1180
00:55:59,560 --> 00:56:01,600
Speaker 3: would like as as long as it did. But that's

1181
00:56:01,760 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 3: not what I'm upset about. I told him. He still

1182
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:07,440
Speaker 3: chose to prioritize an event he didn't even want to

1183
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:12,080
Speaker 3: attend over his grandson's first birthday party, made several other

1184
00:56:12,200 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 3: choices that led him to completely miss the latter, and

1185
00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 3: didn't inform me about any of that until the very

1186
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:20,880
Speaker 3: last minute. All of those decisions were his, so the

1187
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 3: fact that he ultimately didn't come to the party was

1188
00:56:23,400 --> 00:56:26,279
Speaker 3: his fault. My father is still refusing to apologize and

1189
00:56:26,400 --> 00:56:29,280
Speaker 3: insists I have no right to be angry over something

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00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:35,000
Speaker 3: he had quote no control over what I'm I'm so the.

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00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 2: Fun thing about Catholicism is that like the whole basis.

1192
00:56:37,920 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 3: Of it is that you have free will. Yeah right,

1193
00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:41,200
Speaker 3: isn't that the whole.

1194
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:41,640
Speaker 2: Basis of it.

1195
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:44,919
Speaker 3: God gave you free will so that you could stand up, leave,

1196
00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 3: leave the church event early, and go to grand birthdays

1197
00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 3: birthday over what you need to be there for the pictures,

1198
00:56:53,960 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 3: Let's begs. The grandson is not remembering his first birthday,

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00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:00,920
Speaker 3: but he will have the pictures and say my grandfather

1200
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 3: was there when I was one, because I guess he

1201
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:06,920
Speaker 3: likes me or something cool. I'm starting to feel odd

1202
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:09,759
Speaker 3: about this. My husband is on my side, but my

1203
00:57:09,960 --> 00:57:13,960
Speaker 3: sister told me I'm being dramatic. M Am, I the

1204
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:16,880
Speaker 3: a hole, and we do have some comments and responses

1205
00:57:16,960 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 3: from OP and an update, so I mean, let's just

1206
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 3: get right into the comment. Just get right into it,

1207
00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:26,919
Speaker 3: all right, tough combination. Thirty seven says, not the a hole.

1208
00:57:27,160 --> 00:57:30,720
Speaker 3: He made his choice. Asked if you if you were upset,

1209
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 3: was told yes, to which he said, well, actually, I

1210
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 3: was expecting you to placate my feelings about missing the

1211
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:40,280
Speaker 3: party and prioritizing my girlfriend, who is also an adult,

1212
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:43,600
Speaker 3: over my grandson. Don't you seriously do not need to

1213
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:46,680
Speaker 3: soothe his feelings, Say to him clearly once more, I'm

1214
00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 3: upset you chose to miss the party. Why you missed

1215
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:51,520
Speaker 3: it is besides the point. It's not like you were

1216
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 3: in the er with a ruptured spleen after a massive

1217
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 3: car wreck. You were with your girlfriend, period, period. He

1218
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:01,520
Speaker 3: doesn't get a free pay on your feelings just because

1219
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 3: he values his own comfort over yours. Shout out to

1220
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 3: all the people who have had ruptured spleens. Have you

1221
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:10,400
Speaker 3: I have not, but the spleen is the funniest organ

1222
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 3: just from the name of it. Okay, so Op's response

1223
00:58:13,600 --> 00:58:16,280
Speaker 3: to that first comment during that first phone call, it

1224
00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:18,960
Speaker 3: did kind of feel like he thought he was a victim,

1225
00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 3: as if missing his grandson's birthday party was something that

1226
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:25,320
Speaker 3: had happened to him, not something his own decisions had

1227
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 3: led to. Yeah, all right, we got an eighteen day update. Hello, guys.

1228
00:58:30,200 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 3: I intended to update sooner, but I've been busy these days.

1229
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:36,160
Speaker 3: I think my main takeaway from your comments was that

1230
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 3: it's not my job to placate my father's feelings. He

1231
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:42,160
Speaker 3: made several conscious decisions that led him to miss the

1232
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:44,680
Speaker 3: birthday party. He had the right to make those choices,

1233
00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:48,880
Speaker 3: but the consequences were indeed his fault. After deliberating for

1234
00:58:48,960 --> 00:58:51,919
Speaker 3: a while, I called my father to discuss the subject again.

1235
00:58:52,120 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 3: I told him I don't expect him to apologize, and

1236
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:57,479
Speaker 3: I won't hold resentment towards him forever, but he can't

1237
00:58:57,480 --> 00:59:00,480
Speaker 3: expect me to pretend his actions didn't anger me or

1238
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:03,920
Speaker 3: that it wasn't his fault. We had a long discussion

1239
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:06,600
Speaker 3: about it. Throughout all of it, my father kept trying

1240
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 3: to play the victim. He'd talk about how he wanted

1241
00:59:08,880 --> 00:59:11,400
Speaker 3: to come to the party and was upset he'd missed it.

1242
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:14,480
Speaker 3: At one point, he said, you don't understand I didn't

1243
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:16,840
Speaker 3: want to go to the church. Then why did you

1244
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:20,920
Speaker 3: like this guy's acting like he's like she she dragged

1245
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 3: me to church. Yeah, I was actually thought I was

1246
00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:28,080
Speaker 3: going to I was actually playing the role of Jesus

1247
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:31,640
Speaker 3: in a very elaborate production at the church, and they

1248
00:59:31,920 --> 00:59:32,640
Speaker 3: needed it.

1249
00:59:32,880 --> 00:59:35,600
Speaker 2: Was stations of the Cross, and they made me carry

1250
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 2: the cross. I actually had to do that. So it

1251
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:40,560
Speaker 2: was as the altar server. We have to carry carry

1252
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 2: the cross stations. It's hard work on your arms.

1253
00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:43,360
Speaker 3: Hard.

1254
00:59:43,440 --> 00:59:44,320
Speaker 2: We can't put it down.

1255
00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:47,160
Speaker 3: Those Catholics, they know how to work hard. I'm sorry

1256
00:59:47,200 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 3: if the Catholics are getting upset out of these generalizations.

1257
00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:53,280
Speaker 3: I told him I don't care. What matters is that

1258
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:56,280
Speaker 3: he did. He went to the church. He did not

1259
00:59:56,400 --> 00:59:58,600
Speaker 3: go to the party. It was his decision to make.

1260
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:00,800
Speaker 3: He could have told his girlfriend he didn't want to go,

1261
01:00:00,960 --> 01:00:03,120
Speaker 3: but he didn't. He could have left the church early

1262
01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:06,320
Speaker 3: but he didn't. He could have prioritized his previous commitment

1263
01:00:06,440 --> 01:00:08,760
Speaker 3: and not attended the event in the first place, but

1264
01:00:09,200 --> 01:00:12,440
Speaker 3: he didn't. Everything he did that day was within his control.

1265
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:15,160
Speaker 3: I won't get into the specifics of the discussion itself,

1266
01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:17,800
Speaker 3: but I will say that it took a while. I

1267
01:00:17,920 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 3: explained that if he wants to prioritize his girlfriend over

1268
01:00:20,920 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 3: his grandchild, the least he can do is be upfront

1269
01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:26,760
Speaker 3: about it. That means either not making promises he can't

1270
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:31,560
Speaker 3: keep or acknowledging his responsibility when he makes regretful decisions. Yeah,

1271
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 3: at least own up to the fat that you made

1272
01:00:35,800 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 3: a mistake, like the fact that he's just like.

1273
01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 2: I just couldn't.

1274
01:00:39,800 --> 01:00:41,440
Speaker 3: You don't understand I couldn't.

1275
01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:43,439
Speaker 2: It's like, sorry, I wanted that again.

1276
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 3: Did they turn your legs off? Like did? Were you

1277
01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:49,000
Speaker 3: chained to the seat? Were you strapped in like a

1278
01:00:49,160 --> 01:00:54,200
Speaker 3: roller coaster? Come on? My father did end up apologizing

1279
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:59,320
Speaker 3: and more importantly, taking accountability. Finally, I forgave him, but

1280
01:00:59,480 --> 01:01:02,200
Speaker 3: I intend to be wary from now on. Looking back,

1281
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:04,200
Speaker 3: I don't feel like I was ever able to truly

1282
01:01:04,360 --> 01:01:07,240
Speaker 3: rely on my father. Back then, he would miss events

1283
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 3: because he had a complicated work schedule. But now that

1284
01:01:09,800 --> 01:01:13,000
Speaker 3: I know he's also capable of doing that, willingly. I

1285
01:01:13,080 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 3: don't want to enable it my father. Even if my

1286
01:01:15,960 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 3: father ever prioritizes anything, be it a girlfriend or an

1287
01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 3: event over a commitment he made to me and my son, again,

1288
01:01:24,160 --> 01:01:27,320
Speaker 3: I will stop inviting him sam goes for any children

1289
01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:30,120
Speaker 3: my husband and I have in the future. I've informed

1290
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:33,040
Speaker 3: my father of that and he agreed. And by the way,

1291
01:01:33,520 --> 01:01:36,200
Speaker 3: I agree that you can join us every weekday on

1292
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 3: YouTube Live at three pm PST. All you gotta do

1293
01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:44,080
Speaker 3: is tap our profile tap. So I think, you know,

1294
01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:47,400
Speaker 3: the hindsight now coming into play of being like, so

1295
01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:50,240
Speaker 3: he's pulling this card of like oh, I like literally

1296
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:53,040
Speaker 3: couldn't get out of this event, like and now is

1297
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:56,120
Speaker 3: making her go back through her own memories and being like,

1298
01:01:56,240 --> 01:01:59,600
Speaker 3: oh so we're all the times that my dad was like, oh,

1299
01:01:59,680 --> 01:02:02,520
Speaker 3: my work schedule is just so busy. Was he just

1300
01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:06,360
Speaker 3: choosing not to prioritize her, Yeah, because it would just

1301
01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:08,200
Speaker 3: be a little more difficult. I think. So.

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Speaker 2: I think he's just like not take He doesn't take accountability,

1303
01:02:11,480 --> 01:02:13,280
Speaker 2: and he puts it on like if he doesn't want

1304
01:02:13,320 --> 01:02:16,600
Speaker 2: to do something, then he just makes excuses. He doesn't

1305
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:16,920
Speaker 2: own up.

1306
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Speaker 3: He's a little excuse boy.

1307
01:02:18,200 --> 01:02:20,120
Speaker 2: He's a little excuse boy, and I don't want to

1308
01:02:20,120 --> 01:02:21,520
Speaker 2: see him around these parts again.

1309
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:25,840
Speaker 3: Not grown man behavior. Take accountability, do it or else

1310
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Speaker 3: or else? That's right. You don't want the worm queen

1311
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:32,560
Speaker 3: digging into your el I'm coming for your dirt. Yep,

1312
01:02:33,040 --> 01:02:34,880
Speaker 3: all you you wake up and all your dirt will

1313
01:02:34,920 --> 01:02:35,360
Speaker 3: be gone.

1314
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:36,840
Speaker 2: There's gonna be worms in your bed.

1315
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Speaker 3: To finish off this story, his girlfriend, from what I've heard,

1316
01:02:40,680 --> 01:02:43,120
Speaker 3: is peeved at me. But I could care less. This

1317
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Speaker 3: will be my only update. I don't think I have

1318
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Speaker 3: anything else to add, but feel free to ask me

1319
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Speaker 3: any questions you may have. Thank you for your feedback

1320
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Speaker 3: on my last post. And we do have like a

1321
01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:55,520
Speaker 3: couple of comments. Is there anyone's from op I think yeah,

1322
01:02:55,560 --> 01:02:58,480
Speaker 3: we have a response from Ope. From the sound of it,

1323
01:02:58,640 --> 01:03:01,440
Speaker 3: it's just the father is still being wishy washy. He

1324
01:03:01,600 --> 01:03:04,800
Speaker 3: said maybe maybe that he won't go to the church

1325
01:03:04,840 --> 01:03:08,320
Speaker 3: events anymore. That's what he told his girlfriend. She doesn't

1326
01:03:08,440 --> 01:03:10,760
Speaker 3: know if he was being legit about it and if

1327
01:03:10,760 --> 01:03:13,600
Speaker 3: he really did so, same old story from dad.

1328
01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:15,560
Speaker 2: You just have to see what he does going forward,

1329
01:03:15,600 --> 01:03:18,840
Speaker 2: because actions speak louder than words. Yeah, but that was

1330
01:03:18,920 --> 01:03:21,200
Speaker 2: the end of that story. End of this episode