1 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hi, y'all. Emily Abadi here coming to you live from 2 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: the Age Studio. My voice is back. I am back. 3 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: Hurdle is continuing on as usual. You are listening to 4 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 1: five Minute Friday. I am happy to report that I 5 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,559 Speaker 1: went on a jog this morning. It was a nice, steady, 6 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 1: slow jog, but the main takeaway is that my body 7 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: still works. We are in prime recovery mode. I'm not 8 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 1: going to be picking up the pace anytime soon, but 9 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: I'm just feeling on cloud nine after a really great 10 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: week and just the outpouring of love that came my way. 11 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: I'm feeling super, super grateful for all of it. I 12 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: mentioned a lot of lessons that I learned during the 13 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: marathon or reiterated during the marathon in this week's Hurdle 14 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: Moment the New York City Marathon recap. But there's been 15 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:14,199 Speaker 1: something else that's been on my mind that I didn't 16 00:01:14,240 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 1: talk about specifically in that episode, and that is the 17 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 1: idea of boundaries. 18 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:21,199 Speaker 2: Now. 19 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful to be a part of this thriving community, 20 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: especially during marathon week here in New York City. There 21 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: are a zillion different events you can go to a 22 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 1: bunch of different exciting things happening, and of course, as 23 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 1: someone who likes to consider herself a figure maybe in 24 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,960 Speaker 1: this community, I wanted to do as much as possible. 25 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 1: But and there's a caveat here, I knew I had 26 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: to do it responsibly and exercise my boundaries about what 27 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: made sense for me. Having dealt with injury recently, I 28 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:00,080 Speaker 1: knew the last thing that I wanted to do this 29 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: week was over exercise or be on my feet too much. 30 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 1: I also knew that I had some really big, exciting 31 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 1: interviews to get done that I needed to prioritize up 32 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: there with getting ready for the marathon on Sunday. So 33 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: what did this mean for me? It meant charting out 34 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 1: my run schedule in advance to make sure that I 35 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: could get in the efforts that I needed to get in, 36 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 1: but without over extending myself or saying yes to like 37 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: too mini shakeout runs or anything like that. It also 38 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: meant saying a lot of no and exercising my no 39 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: and knowing when I needed to pull back. So say, 40 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: if I received I don't know ten fifteen invites for 41 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: last week, I probably only said yes to about three 42 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: or four, and I did so in a way that 43 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: worked for me. I even I went to an event 44 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,919 Speaker 1: on Friday night. I believe that was thrown by Whoop. 45 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: It was a panel discussion and it was so interesting, 46 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: But the event started at six The discussion actually started 47 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: closer to six point forty, I would say, and my 48 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: heart out And I knew this going into it was 49 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: at seven pm. So come seven pm, when there was 50 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: like a natural break in the conversation, I silently excused 51 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 1: myself and walked out of Motive on Mott Street and 52 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: went home, and I had some pizza and I went 53 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 1: to bed. And in years past, my god, I would 54 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 1: not have been able really to say no, or I 55 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 1: would have had a lot of guilt about exercising my boundaries. 56 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 1: I didn't even think twice about it this time. I mean, 57 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 1: of course, like I want to show up for everyone, 58 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 1: but I recognized what it was that I needed last week, 59 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: and I also made a point to let people know 60 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 1: that I wanted to show up if I couldn't make it. 61 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: I think that's really important. I am of the mindset 62 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 1: that you want to be where your feet are, and 63 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 1: that's already difficult enough when you have big things going 64 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: on right like for me last week, a marathon, a 65 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: few really big interview moments, a big week for work. 66 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: I wanted to commit to things that made me feel 67 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: confident that I could be there and be fully present. 68 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:21,679 Speaker 1: I like to think often that I am a woman 69 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: that can do it all, but the reality is is 70 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: that I would rather be a person who can do 71 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:32,799 Speaker 1: a couple things really really well instead of absolutely everything 72 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 1: poorly or not as good as perhaps I know that 73 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: I can. And I encourage you this week to think 74 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 1: a little bit about that. Think about what it is 75 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 1: that you have your hands in, and if because you 76 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:46,039 Speaker 1: have your hands in too many buckets at the same time, 77 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 1: you are maybe not better for it. I get it, 78 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: like we want to show up for people. We want 79 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: to be the best versions of ourselves always. We want 80 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,120 Speaker 1: to be able to give everything one hundred and ten percent. 81 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: But if you are trying to give everything one hundred 82 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:03,960 Speaker 1: and ten percent and you're doing eight zillion things at once, 83 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: there's just no possible way that it can be done. 84 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:13,160 Speaker 1: So my prompt you this week, how can you be 85 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: better about establishing your boundaries and what is one area 86 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: of your life that you want to be better at 87 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 1: dedicating more of yourself too? Again, how can you be 88 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: better at exercising your boundaries? And what is one area 89 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 1: of your life that you can be better at giving 90 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: yourself to? And now a listener question. 91 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 2: Hi Emily, my name is Olivia. I'm a listener from Toronto, Canada. 92 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 2: Hi from north of the border. I wanted to ask you, 93 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,479 Speaker 2: was there ever a time in your career life or 94 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 2: your personal life where you just felt like you were 95 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:55,799 Speaker 2: behind other people, maybe friends or just other people. You see, 96 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:58,919 Speaker 2: I definitely feel that way right now. 97 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 3: Just because I'm almost I'm still in school, haven't started 98 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,840 Speaker 3: making a lot of money yet, so I just want 99 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 3: to know if you've ever felt this way, and if 100 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 3: you did, how did you get through it? 101 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:13,040 Speaker 1: Thanks so much, I Lovia. Thank you calling in from Toronto. 102 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:14,919 Speaker 1: I love to hear where you guys are calling in from. 103 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:18,839 Speaker 1: I have never been there. Fun fact your question, have 104 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 1: I ever felt behind? Yes? Yes. I feel as though 105 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 1: we all are going to feel this way at one 106 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:27,839 Speaker 1: point or another for the rest of our lives because 107 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 1: of the beauty slash maybe not so beautiful aspect of 108 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:34,839 Speaker 1: the comparison trap a la social media. 109 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:35,160 Speaker 3: Right. 110 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: I love that you're asking me this question and you're 111 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: twenty four years old. The good news is that you 112 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 1: are early on in your journey, my friend, but that 113 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: doesn't make this feeling any less valid for me. Feeling behind, 114 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: I would say, as a woman at thirty three who 115 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,360 Speaker 1: has yet to settle down or find that forever thing 116 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 1: or you know, have kids, et cetera, Society definitely makes 117 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: me feel like I'm kind of doing so being quote 118 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: unquote wrong. But I feel really confident about where I 119 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:06,720 Speaker 1: am in my life, and I try not to let 120 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: that social pressure change that. Right It's easy for us 121 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 1: to let society make us feel some kind of way 122 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:18,280 Speaker 1: about where we are, but the most important thing is 123 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: that you feel okay about where you are. I feel 124 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: very confident in my life right now. I feel super 125 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: excited about my career right now and where it's going 126 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 1: and the impact that I'm having. And I know that 127 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: some of the people who may be settled down in 128 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 1: their lives, they don't share that same enthusiasm and excitement 129 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 1: that I have for my day to day and that's okay. 130 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: I mean, we all have the opportunity to pave our 131 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 1: own way and make the life that we want, create 132 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: the life that we want, and right now, this is 133 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: the path that my life has gone down, and I 134 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: wouldn't change them for a damn thing. But again, that 135 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 1: doesn't mean that at times I don't feel like I'm 136 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 1: a little behind because of the pressures that are coming 137 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: my way externally. So for you feeling a little bit behind, 138 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: feeling a little like frustrated in that, again totally valid. 139 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:12,720 Speaker 1: What I would say is do your best to bring 140 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 1: that focus back inward and ask yourself, how are you doing? Really? 141 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 1: If you are happy with what's going on in your 142 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 1: life right now, you're working toward your goals, then that 143 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: should be the most important factor in how you feel 144 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: about yourself. And make sure to come back to this 145 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 1: idea that from the outside looking in, or like when 146 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:34,439 Speaker 1: we are comparing ourselves to others, it's easy to lose 147 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: sight of that exactly how we feel. But you are 148 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: in control of that, and you are on your own journey. 149 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 1: So take some pride in that. Take some time to 150 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: find some gratitude. Maybe start your days off with a 151 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:50,840 Speaker 1: line or two of the things that have happened in 152 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 1: the last twenty four hours that make you thankful for 153 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: what you have, and go from there. That's it for 154 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,120 Speaker 1: this week, guys, what a week. Thank you, Thank you 155 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 1: so much for being a part of this community and 156 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: for just inspiring me to. 157 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 2: Continue to be me. 158 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.