Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome, It's Sunday.
Speaker 2: Here's the Sunday sampler from the Nashville Podcast Network. We're
Speaker 2: gonna start with Take This Personally. It's from Morgan number two.
Speaker 2: She talked with a friendship coach. Never heard of this before.
Speaker 2: Danielle Bear Jackson is her name, and she shares her
Speaker 2: expertise on how to make friends as an adult and
Speaker 2: how it's hard to maintain friendships when life gets super busy.
Speaker 1: So we'll hear this.
Speaker 2: We have four things coming up with Amy Brown, Sore
Speaker 2: Losers movie, Mike the Bobby Cast, all of that on
Speaker 2: the way. Hopefully, if you hear something you like, you
Speaker 2: go and subscribe to the podcast. But here's a clip
Speaker 2: of this week's episode of Take This Personally with Morgan Hulsman.
Speaker 3: Personality, Let's get duels Man.
Speaker 4: Danielle Bayer Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator
Speaker 4: who speaks nationally on the subject of friendship as a
Speaker 4: wellness imperative. Her business, friend Forward is dedicated to teaching
Speaker 4: women how to create and maintain better female friendships. Danielle,
Speaker 4: how are you doing today?
Speaker 5: I'm doing okay. I'm really glad that you brought me
Speaker 5: on to lend my voice to this conversation because it's
Speaker 5: so important.
Speaker 4: Say you have a client who is nearly starting from
Speaker 4: scratch with female friendships, what would the beginning process look
Speaker 4: like for them to start finding some really solid friendships.
Speaker 5: Oh that's a great question, and I'm so glad you
Speaker 5: asked it, because, as you can imagine, hands down, that
Speaker 5: is the number one question. It's always how do I
Speaker 5: make friends? But it typically comes with some kind of qualifier.
Speaker 5: So how do I make friends? As a woman with
Speaker 5: social anxiety? How do I make friends? As a woman
Speaker 5: in a new city? How do I make friends? So
Speaker 5: I hope it shows us that we'll always be making
Speaker 5: new friends. And so the first step is more of
Speaker 5: a mindset, and it's to shake off any shame you
Speaker 5: have about having to start from scratch, that it's not
Speaker 5: something you should have figured out by now. You're not behind.
Speaker 5: There's not something wrong with you if you look around
Speaker 5: and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't have people.
Speaker 5: In fact, research tells us that on average, we replace
Speaker 5: about half of our friends every seven years. And so
Speaker 5: you might be in a season where you're like, oh gosh,
Speaker 5: I'm in a pruning season. And I have space to
Speaker 5: invite new connections. So the first step is to shake
Speaker 5: off the shame. The second thing I'd tell you is
Speaker 5: to look at the people who are already in your life,
Speaker 5: because research also tells us that a lot of the
Speaker 5: friends we have are also serving in some kind of
Speaker 5: other role. So they might also be your cousin, They
Speaker 5: might also be your hairstylists, they might also be your coworker.
Speaker 5: So if that's the case, look around at who already
Speaker 5: exists and you've dismissed them for whatever reason as a
Speaker 5: potential friend. And what would happen if you looked at
Speaker 5: them in like a new way? Is the first thing.
Speaker 5: Then I like to say, become a regular somewhere because
Speaker 5: that familiarity makes it more comfortable for us to start
Speaker 5: a friendship. And so especially those of us who are
Speaker 5: working from home. A lot of us are in the
Speaker 5: house all day. We don't get out and about maybe
Speaker 5: you can commit to like working from a coffee shop
Speaker 5: every Friday at the same time, or walking your dog
Speaker 5: at like the same time, you know, every day. I'll
Speaker 5: pause here because I know some women are like, we
Speaker 5: can't have routines. We have to be careful and I
Speaker 5: heard as a safety precaution, and that's true. So you know,
Speaker 5: adapt this is to fit your lifestyle. How can you
Speaker 5: become a regular somewhere? How can you breathe familiarity with
Speaker 5: the people who work there and the other people who
Speaker 5: come there every Friday morning to work out of their
Speaker 5: house too, So bringing that familiarity. And then the last
Speaker 5: tip I'll give, because I can do this all day,
Speaker 5: is to make your desire known and so use social
Speaker 5: media to say, oh yeah, moving to Austin and looking
Speaker 5: to see if anybody has any recommendations, or text a
Speaker 5: friend or an acquaintance who's a super extrovert and just
Speaker 5: say hey, I'm just trying to get more plugged in.
Speaker 5: I thought of you because you're always out and about
Speaker 5: and doing some cool stuff. Is there anything around town
Speaker 5: we're checking out? Because they're either going to give you
Speaker 5: recommendations or they're going to invite you to be there.
Speaker 5: Plus one, they might say, oh my god, yes we
Speaker 5: do happy hour every Tuesday. You have to come. But
Speaker 5: no one's going to be able to meet your need
Speaker 5: for new connections if you're too embarrassed to let people
Speaker 5: know that you want new connections.
Speaker 4: I feel like, that first step is so important because
Speaker 4: if you just live in that shame, you're never going
Speaker 4: to do any of the other steps. You're just going
Speaker 4: to sit there and say, I'm too embarrassed to try this,
Speaker 4: so I'm just going to be alone forever, exactly. And
Speaker 4: there's finding friends, and there's also finding friends who lift
Speaker 4: you up, add to your life, empower you. They're what
Speaker 4: I like to call my deep connections versus my surface
Speaker 4: level friends. How do we ensure that we can find
Speaker 4: and cultivate those kind of friendships that are empowering more
Speaker 4: than they are surface level.
Speaker 5: Oh I'm so glad you asked that, because sometimes the
Speaker 5: conversation does become about like finding new people, which is
Speaker 5: so great and you need to have that skill. But
Speaker 5: then sometimes I'm like, well, how are you going deep
Speaker 5: with the friends you already have? How can you make
Speaker 5: that more meaningful? Right, because some of us feel a
Speaker 5: sense of loneliness because all our friendships are superficial in
Speaker 5: terms of creating more depth. The first thing I would
Speaker 5: say is look at how vulnerable you're being. And I
Speaker 5: know vulnerability is like a hot topic, but I do
Speaker 5: want to correct one misconception. I think people think vulnerability
Speaker 5: means let me tell you about my biggest trauma. Let
Speaker 5: me tell you about this big thing and self disclose.
Speaker 5: The best way I've heardlnerbility to find is you are
Speaker 5: willing to take a risk of rejection. And so I'm
Speaker 5: going to tell you something. Oh, I know, I might
Speaker 5: look weak, I might look weird, I might look I'm
Speaker 5: gonna do it anyway, because research shows that we tend
Speaker 5: to like people who are vulnerable with us. It kind
Speaker 5: of humanizes them, It's kind of endearing, and so open
Speaker 5: up a little bit appropriately, especially in the beginning, to
Speaker 5: go a little bit deeper. Also, try to take your
Speaker 5: relationships off auto pilot. Sometimes with the same friends, we
Speaker 5: do the same things, we do the same happy hour
Speaker 5: at the same place. It's okay, the same way. In
Speaker 5: a romantic relationship where it feels kind of dry, you're like,
Speaker 5: we need to jazz this up. Same thing. Maybe you're
Speaker 5: on default with your friends. Can you infuse new life
Speaker 5: by operating on a different social backdrop or trying something
Speaker 5: totally out of the box together, because those shared experiences
Speaker 5: genuinely do really connect you. And then the final thing
Speaker 5: I'll say, and this is going to sound so from
Speaker 5: left Field, ask your friends for help.
Speaker 2: We love talking about the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.
Speaker 2: And I think I'm still a voting member after this
Speaker 2: second that we did where I probably revealed too much
Speaker 2: about the voting process.
Speaker 1: Thank god, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't I didn't get a second voting slip for
Speaker 2: the year. But I also didn't get told I'm not
Speaker 2: so I don't know. Oh, but I was never told
Speaker 2: I was kicked out. Do you normally get your voting
Speaker 2: slip by now?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I've only ever had it once.
Speaker 6: Everyone it was, But.
Speaker 2: They now are doing the Rock and Roll Hall of
Speaker 2: Fame Voice your choice, And I don't think if you
Speaker 2: win it you get in, but I think it factors in,
Speaker 2: like it's part of.
Speaker 1: Like a percentage of the overall.
Speaker 6: And anyone can vote. This is just anyone in the world.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, because you.
Speaker 2: Can do it by visiting the Rock and Roll Hall
Speaker 2: of Fame. I'm just going to read some of these here,
Speaker 2: so the raw. Okay, here's what the deal is the
Speaker 2: Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. If you vote on
Speaker 2: that website when they do that, that is a percentage
Speaker 2: this that you do. There is just them kind of
Speaker 2: wanting to know. But I think it could also like
Speaker 2: secretly affect the people that are making the decisions. So
Speaker 2: there is one online pull the matters.
Speaker 6: But here you go.
Speaker 1: I'll read you a person, and you just tell me
Speaker 1: if you think they should be in the rock and
Speaker 1: Wall got it, And it's like do they deserve to
Speaker 1: be in there now?
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 2: Like, because well, you can only get in if it's
Speaker 2: like twenty five years past your first album. Okay, and
Speaker 2: these all these people meet that required it, maybe twenty
Speaker 2: I should know this as a voting member, you should.
Speaker 1: I only look at the people they give me and go,
Speaker 1: do they deserve it? Mike?
Speaker 2: Will you let us know when you figure that out
Speaker 2: it's either twenty after their first album or twenty five.
Speaker 8: But okay, here we go. The Cranberries, Yes, no, I
Speaker 8: don't think that I have a body big enough. I
Speaker 8: answer it way too quickly. I mean because they got
Speaker 8: they got jams and they were a staple. They got
Speaker 8: like three bops, like Dreams, they got like Zombie, hold on,
Speaker 8: hold on, hold on Linger that's it.
Speaker 1: Shoot, those are the only three bangers they got.
Speaker 6: Do you have to let it? Lingers a bit.
Speaker 1: Some by interesting dreams.
Speaker 6: My love.
Speaker 1: Every way got it? That's dreams, Mike. We cranberried up.
Speaker 1: See what they're fourth? There's one more.
Speaker 2: But even if it's four, I don't think that's enough
Speaker 2: to get in the Rock and Hall.
Speaker 1: And it is twenty five years by the way. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I mean that works. But yeah, you're right.
Speaker 8: I may have answered that one way too quick because
Speaker 8: I do like the Cranberries. But you're you're talking like
Speaker 8: maybe two albums that I remember.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there. But to be fair, if you
Speaker 1: have an album that.
Speaker 2: Is transcendent, for example, Oasis, like I think Oasis should
Speaker 2: be in the Rock and Hall of Fame, and they
Speaker 2: really only have one massive album, their second album.
Speaker 1: Okay, the fourth list that is Oh to my Family.
Speaker 6: My father.
Speaker 1: You're making that up, my mother? Are you making I
Speaker 1: swear that's how it goes. I'm swhere that's how that
Speaker 1: song goes.
Speaker 6: Are you making that?
Speaker 7: Nope?
Speaker 8: You think just because I said I heard family, Yeah,
Speaker 8: I went right to father them.
Speaker 1: That's what she says.
Speaker 2: That's a jam number one, Linger too, Zombie number three,
Speaker 2: Oh to my Family, it has.
Speaker 1: Oh I know this song, dude, dude, you remember.
Speaker 9: My father.
Speaker 4: I do.
Speaker 8: I'm telling you man, okay, but you know what, now
Speaker 8: that you say that Oasis with one good album, I'm
Speaker 8: want to put Cranberries in.
Speaker 2: This is Sunday, I remember this one. I don't think
Speaker 2: they can't because the lead sing or die. But I
Speaker 2: don't think if the Cranbers were united right now that
Speaker 2: there would be like a oh my god, everybody guess
Speaker 2: what they're back together. You're right, I do like Cranberries,
Speaker 2: but rock and Hall of Fame I don't think so. Okay,
Speaker 2: but it's not saying you're wrong, yeah, nor is it
Speaker 2: saying that I'm right.
Speaker 8: I did answer it very quickly, but I'm going to
Speaker 8: stand behind it.
Speaker 2: Smith's I don't get the smith Why are the Smiths
Speaker 2: so popular in Mexico, in southern Texas and Mexico.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's very Latino, extreme huge in California. I don't
Speaker 1: know why. I just always loved him and I don't
Speaker 1: know why. I guess because of Mexican.
Speaker 6: Who are the Smiths like?
Speaker 7: Give me a morrisey?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah?
Speaker 2: Why is Morsey so loved by Hispanics, Mexicans and Latinos?
Speaker 1: I think it's his voice, just that suit because he's
Speaker 1: not he has kind of like that old school vibe
Speaker 1: to him. But he's not Mexican. No, he's white.
Speaker 9: He's like white.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I never knew, and I was never like
Speaker 1: a I'm not a hater. I was never a fan,
Speaker 1: but I remember my friends being like, yeah, Mexicans love him,
Speaker 1: Like really, I say this as a Mexican big in
Speaker 1: like the Trolo community. Well I'm not crazy for saying that, right.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, wow, cast up little food for yourself.
Speaker 7: Life.
Speaker 6: Oh it's pretty bad. It's pretty beautiful.
Speaker 9: Thing beautiful that for.
Speaker 6: A little more said he you're kicking with full with
Speaker 6: Amy Brown.
Speaker 10: All right, So I'm going to talk about hate following.
Speaker 10: This could be a hobby that you are participating in
Speaker 10: and you don't even realize it. Now, after I tell
Speaker 10: you about hate following, I'm going to share with you
Speaker 10: a hobby that can make you happier, because hate following
Speaker 10: definitely does not. But I did see the happy hobby
Speaker 10: situation multiple times this week. I saw articles when I
Speaker 10: was on social media when I was searching news prep
Speaker 10: for the Bobby Bone Show, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 10: this could be worth noting because this type of hobby
Speaker 10: might be something we could all do, and maybe it's
Speaker 10: just the nudge you need to finally do it. I
Speaker 10: will give you a hint. Therapy Cat has already started
Speaker 10: something like this, and who knew she was onto something?
Speaker 11: So hate following is a thing.
Speaker 10: Again. We may not know that we're doing it, but
Speaker 10: it's a social media habit that we fall into. If
Speaker 10: you follow people with perfect photos or someone who posts
Speaker 10: offensive political things that you don't agree with, you might
Speaker 10: be hate following. A behavioral psychologist named Denise Dudley was
Speaker 10: talking about how you don't know you're doing this destructive behavior,
Speaker 10: but when you hate follow, you're secretly hoping for a
Speaker 10: politically incorrect slip up or a bad hair day to
Speaker 10: make yourself feel a little bit better about your own life.
Speaker 10: And sometimes we hate follow people who seem to have
Speaker 10: it all just to remind ourselves why we.
Speaker 12: Don't like them.
Speaker 10: And the problem with that is hate following creates stress, anxiety,
Speaker 10: low self esteem, or even depression. So experts suggest to
Speaker 10: unfollow the people who fit the category and move on.
Speaker 10: I will say that I went through my feed and
Speaker 10: I couldn't say one hundred percent I was hate following,
Speaker 10: But when I used some of this article to assess like,
Speaker 10: do I really like this person? Do I align with
Speaker 10: this person? How do I feel after I watch this person?
Speaker 10: And then I thought, oh, sometimes when maybe they mess
Speaker 10: up or it seems like their life isn't as perfect
Speaker 10: as I thought, do I feel a little bit better
Speaker 10: about my own life when I see that happen? And
Speaker 10: I was able to answer yes to that. So being
Speaker 10: honest here, I unfollowed someone that fit that category, So
Speaker 10: make sure you're not hate following. I didn't realize I
Speaker 10: was doing it, and experts say a lot of people
Speaker 10: are doing it, and yeah, we don't even realize it.
Speaker 10: Now on to more positive hobby news. Taking up arts
Speaker 10: and crafts could be a game changer in your happiness.
Speaker 10: So if you want to lower cortisol levels and have
Speaker 10: overall better well being, simply take up an arts and
Speaker 10: crafts hobby.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 10: See therapy cat. She's been onto this with her painting.
Speaker 10: Like if you go over to her house at her
Speaker 10: kitchen table, she just has this whole arts and crafts
Speaker 10: bin in the corner now and then on the table
Speaker 10: she'll just have a blank canvas and some paint so
Speaker 10: she can bust it out at any time. But it
Speaker 10: doesn't have to even be as complicated as paint and
Speaker 10: a canvas and all the things like you can just
Speaker 10: draw if you want to. Doctor Helen Keyes, a cognitive psychologist,
Speaker 10: just released a new study talking about this, and she
Speaker 10: said that engaging with arts and crafts is accessible and affordable,
Speaker 10: and options such as knitting and drawing require very little
Speaker 10: tools and can be so engaging and creatively fulfilling. And
Speaker 10: people in the study reported more happiness, better life satisfaction,
Speaker 10: and sense of lives being worthwhile if they were participating
Speaker 10: in an arts and craft project. So, guys, this is
Speaker 10: really simple. I think we can all do this. And
Speaker 10: you know, I was talking about that event I went
Speaker 10: to last night for music teachers and hearing all the
Speaker 10: stories and seeing all the kids play their in instruments.
Speaker 10: I got a little annoyed at my mom that she
Speaker 10: let me quit piano when I was a kid. And
Speaker 10: I was encouraged though that even at forty three, I
Speaker 10: could start taking piano lessons make that a hobby. It's
Speaker 10: not going to be guitar for me. I took lessons
Speaker 10: several years ago and my fingers hurt so bad, Like
Speaker 10: I just don't know that that's gonna be a thing
Speaker 10: for me. But piano I think I could get into.
Speaker 10: And I looked up some of the benefits of playing piano.
Speaker 10: Stress management came up, creativity in the brain, improve coordination,
Speaker 10: self esteem, improves concentration, enhanced memory, math improvement. I mean,
Speaker 10: the list goes on, improved mental health, neuroplasticity, focus, goal setting,
Speaker 10: cultural enrichment.
Speaker 11: Why would my mom take me out of that?
Speaker 10: So now at forty three, because I have a keyboard
Speaker 10: at my house, I don't have a piano, but I
Speaker 10: do think I could start taking some piano lessons and.
Speaker 11: Add that to my hobby belt.
Speaker 10: But if you have ADHD like me, you know that
Speaker 10: we like to start a lot of hobbies and not
Speaker 10: necessarily complete them. But I'm working on that maybe this
Speaker 10: could be something that I follow through with and I do.
Speaker 10: And so I'm going to get my arts and crafts
Speaker 10: little section at my house set up, and I'm gonna
Speaker 10: get my little keyboard set up. And these are to
Speaker 10: be some hobbies that are going to add to my life.
Speaker 10: And I still want to add my garden to my
Speaker 10: backyard too, which I've gardened before and I loved that
Speaker 10: so much that I can't wait to bring it back.
Speaker 1: We're gonna do it live.
Speaker 9: We are the one, two, three Sore Losers. What up, everybody?
Speaker 9: I am lunchbox. I know the most about sports, so
Speaker 9: I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions, because
Speaker 9: I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all.
Speaker 13: It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male.
Speaker 13: I live on the north side of Nashville with Bayser,
Speaker 13: my wife.
Speaker 6: We do have a farm.
Speaker 13: It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot
Speaker 13: of crops. Hopefully soon corn pumpkins, rye. I believe maybe
Speaker 13: a little fescue to be determined.
Speaker 9: Over to you, coach, And here's a clip from this
Speaker 9: week's episode of The Sore Losers. My dad has a
Speaker 9: tendency to get lost, and so we do the pod
Speaker 9: on Wednesday and he's like, man, I need a cigarette.
Speaker 9: But he's like, I left the cigarettes at the house.
Speaker 9: I was like, well, I got to record some commercials.
Speaker 9: You want to just hang out? Why record commercials and
Speaker 9: then we can go get your cigarettes. He's like, no,
Speaker 9: where's the gas station around here. I'm gonna just walk
Speaker 9: and get cigarettes. He said, all right, you're gonna walk
Speaker 9: out the back alley right, hit that street, take a right,
Speaker 9: and you walk go down to the end of the
Speaker 9: block inside on your left hand side on the corner.
Speaker 13: I don't know about the take a right from the alley.
Speaker 13: You'd actually want to take a left. No, no, no,
Speaker 13: if you walk straight out here, straight out of here,
Speaker 13: straight out the back door, straight out the back door,
Speaker 13: and are we in the alley or I'm making a
Speaker 13: right on the album.
Speaker 9: Now walk through the alley till the next street, Like,
Speaker 9: buy the parking garage in the street, and you would
Speaker 9: take it. You take it right, walk down gas station
Speaker 9: on the corner, no problem, Send him on his way,
Speaker 9: Send him with my wallet because he doesn't have his
Speaker 9: wallet with him. And I get done with the commercials
Speaker 9: and he's not back yet, and I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 9: I'll just drive down the road and I'll see him walking.
Speaker 13: He's playing dice with a couple of hoboes.
Speaker 7: There was a nice looking lady that wanted to talk.
Speaker 9: I was like, Okay, he'll just be walking back, you know,
Speaker 9: smoking a cigarette. And I drive from here to that
Speaker 9: little convenience store no toolbox, oh no, And I'm like,
Speaker 9: oh god, where could he be at this point? Did
Speaker 9: you think he died? I didn't think he died. I
Speaker 9: just thought this dude is way lost. He could be.
Speaker 9: You know, I'm worried he's near the Cumberland. I don't know,
Speaker 9: too soon, too soon, And so I call him. I said,
Speaker 9: where are you? He goes, I don't know. I'm at
Speaker 9: some shell station.
Speaker 13: Ah, I know where he went.
Speaker 9: And I'm like, shell station, How did you get all
Speaker 9: the way over there? That's like a mile from the
Speaker 9: STATIONE blew.
Speaker 13: Through the closest gas station and Jeff dog golling and
Speaker 13: found like three blocks.
Speaker 9: Oh you know, he went like a mile. I'm a
Speaker 9: long sixty five.
Speaker 7: He goes. He goes, I'm at sad to get my
Speaker 7: steps in.
Speaker 9: He goes, I'm at seventeenks had to get your steps.
Speaker 9: Did you check them on your watch?
Speaker 7: I checked him on my wife.
Speaker 9: He goes, I'm at seventeenth and something. I was like,
Speaker 9: I know where you're at. He goes, oh shit, I
Speaker 9: just walked out of the store with a drink. I
Speaker 9: gotta go back in armed raw.
Speaker 7: I was trying to find the street sign and he
Speaker 7: was in.
Speaker 9: The middle of drinking his drink while he's getting cigarettes.
Speaker 9: So then I I'm like, I'll be there, and he goes,
Speaker 9: I'm gonna get charged for shoplifting. I'm gonna go back
Speaker 9: in the store. I said, I'll be right there.
Speaker 7: I thought I was ray there. I was getting all nervous. Ah,
Speaker 7: you weren't parked though, You're good.
Speaker 9: So I pull in the parking lot and he's just
Speaker 9: standing there with his arms folded. And he gets in
Speaker 9: the car and I said, fold it in front of
Speaker 9: him or behind him? In front of him? I said,
Speaker 9: you get your cigarettes. He goes no, and I said, well,
Speaker 9: where's your drink? He goes, I gave it back to him.
Speaker 1: I was like, what do you mean.
Speaker 9: He goes, well, I tried to buy cigarettes and they
Speaker 9: asked me for my ID. What a disaster, he goes,
Speaker 9: and I didn't have my I D. So I said
Speaker 9: I don't have my idea. He goes, I can't sell
Speaker 9: you the cigarettes, and.
Speaker 7: I said, I got my son's and he goes, no,
Speaker 7: you gotta have yours.
Speaker 9: And he goes, if my son's forty three, you think
Speaker 9: I'm older than eighteen. And the guy goes, can't sell
Speaker 9: without your ID. And then he goes, you want to
Speaker 9: buy that drink. My dad goes, no, you can keep it.
Speaker 9: He'd already drink half of it. What a company man,
Speaker 9: he had drinking half the coke. And he was so
Speaker 9: pissed off that he just left the coke there and said.
Speaker 7: No, you can keep it. Ridiculous. Yeah, that's I said,
Speaker 7: can I buy a gun?
Speaker 9: And they said sure here, and so I said, do
Speaker 9: you want me to go in and get your cigarettes?
Speaker 9: He goes, not at this place. I'll just go when
Speaker 9: we get home. I'm all right, Well that was fun.
Speaker 13: Ah there, I'll take some Virginia slims.
Speaker 9: So no, it's Marlboro lights. Soft pack. No, no, no
Speaker 9: hard pack. I don't know if they do soft pack.
Speaker 9: But yes, that was my dad's adventure. He ended up.
Speaker 9: Instead of going one block to a gas station, he
Speaker 9: walked one over a mile away.
Speaker 7: Yeah. I still don't believe there's a gas station there.
Speaker 7: It didn't look like one to me.
Speaker 13: I heard the directions in the hallway, and he just
Speaker 13: didn't give him as emphatically as he should have.
Speaker 9: You know, he was right past it.
Speaker 13: It's right next to us. It's him, though anybody could miss.
Speaker 13: It doesn't look like a gas station. It looks like
Speaker 13: a house without a gas that would be it.
Speaker 7: I'm sitting there looking for seven to eleven shell whatever.
Speaker 9: He was looking for gas pumps. There are no gas
Speaker 9: pumps at this place.
Speaker 7: Well then, how's it called a gas station?
Speaker 13: But you'll know when you get in there, because the
Speaker 13: guy's always got horse racing on and he's betting it.
Speaker 7: Woh oh.
Speaker 9: He's got that newspaper rolled up and he is looking
Speaker 9: at the Oh, we're going to start.
Speaker 7: He told me it's a convenience store, and he told
Speaker 7: me a gas station, So I mean, what are you
Speaker 7: going to look for gas pumps out front?
Speaker 9: But then I'm shocked he was able to find the
Speaker 9: shell because he had walk through the hotel like parking
Speaker 9: lot all the way across two blocks. See the a loft,
Speaker 9: look up to your right. Huh, there's a shell. Then
Speaker 9: he has to cross Broadway. I mean, how many streets
Speaker 9: did you curs? That's what I'm saying, is all to
Speaker 9: get turned down for the cigarettes because the guy was
Speaker 9: a jack. And then that's the problem. That's the problem.
Speaker 9: What is the big deal? Like he obviously is older
Speaker 9: than eighteen years old.
Speaker 7: Some people think I look young enough. I'm eighteen.
Speaker 9: Okay, it's obvious you're eighteen years old. It is obvious
Speaker 9: when you walk in there that you are eighteen years old.
Speaker 9: Why do we waste the time of Oh, I need
Speaker 9: to see your ID. I can't sell you cigarettes. It
Speaker 9: is so stupid.
Speaker 7: Agreed?
Speaker 13: Well, I took the alcohol and tobacco class. And actually
Speaker 13: the loop around with that is maybe the camera has
Speaker 13: to see with the ID. But if you say how
Speaker 13: old are you? Or are you eighteen? And they you
Speaker 13: can't lie if you're a sting operation. So that's all
Speaker 13: you have to say. So dude, when I was at
Speaker 13: Texas State, hey man, uh yeah, cool, you're good to go.
Speaker 13: That's how I saved every time ten seconds. I never
Speaker 13: scanned an ID in two years.
Speaker 9: When I was in Dublin. Guess how many times they
Speaker 9: asked for your ID? Zero.
Speaker 7: Well, I don't think there's a age for drinking or
Speaker 7: anything there. I think you can drink as long as you.
Speaker 9: I don't think a twelve year old can drink.
Speaker 7: Well, I think if you're with your parents, I think
Speaker 7: it's okay.
Speaker 13: I don't I have no idea, I don't know. I
Speaker 13: just I'm just saying the whole time. The whole time
Speaker 13: here in Dublin. You didn't ask the one question that
Speaker 13: was mind boggling us all, how old do you have
Speaker 13: to be to drink? When there's a kid that's eight
Speaker 13: years old drinking.
Speaker 1: Next to you?
Speaker 9: I didn't see an eight year old drinking next to me,
Speaker 9: and I said.
Speaker 13: You'd rather hear about the man you rivalry. How the
Speaker 13: guy turned to Dublin. My dad slapped me and said.
Speaker 9: You're never rooting for them, they're the bad guy.
Speaker 13: I'd have been like, shot the fuck up? Answer my question?
Speaker 13: How old do you have to be to drink here?
Speaker 7: Thanks?
Speaker 1: Instead, you went on.
Speaker 13: A whole diatribe about why the guy rooted for somebody
Speaker 13: else because his dad slapped him with his belt. As
Speaker 13: a kid, who gives a hell buddy? Where's the hot chicks?
Speaker 13: And how old do you have to be to drink?
Speaker 13: I get what I want when people start talking gibber
Speaker 13: jabbern and I get my information. I don't give it.
Speaker 7: But you were twelve and you got hit with a belt. Awesome, cool,
Speaker 7: go maze gibber jabbering.
Speaker 9: Now do you think man, you's gonna win today? That's
Speaker 9: all I care? What are the bud guys?
Speaker 7: That's how we left England.
Speaker 9: Shut up, who wins the game tonight? I need some skag?
Speaker 7: Yes, that's what I was looking for. They didn't ask
Speaker 7: for an ID for that, but.
Speaker 9: It said, hey, do you need an ID for skag?
Speaker 1: Hey it's Mike d And This week a Movie Mike's
Speaker 1: Movie Podcast, I gave my top ten examples of the
Speaker 1: best work in voice acting when it comes to animation.
Speaker 1: I think voice acting is far underappreciated. When on a
Speaker 1: giant ran about why it should be included in the
Speaker 1: oscars and included some of my favorite moments in movie history.
Speaker 1: I'll share a few with you now, but be sure
Speaker 1: to check out this full episode. Here's just a little
Speaker 1: bit of Movie Mike's Movie Podcast. At number four, I
Speaker 1: have Tom Hanks voicing Woody in the Toy Story franchise one, two, three,
Speaker 1: and four and soon to be five, six, seven, eight, nine,
Speaker 1: and ten. And Tom Hanks is one of those people who,
Speaker 1: unlike George Clooney, I do watch him in movies and thinks, man,
Speaker 1: he has just a great voice. Because not only does
Speaker 1: he have great facial expressions and mannerisms and just a
Speaker 1: great presence on the screen, he has a voice with
Speaker 1: a lot of range. Particularly when Tom Hanks gets excited
Speaker 1: is my favorite thing, and not often do we get it.
Speaker 1: But when he gets angry is also really great. But
Speaker 1: he usually doesn't really play characters that get angry a
Speaker 1: whole lot. He is primarily the good guy in movies.
Speaker 1: Whenever he is a villain, it's like, oh, weird Tom
Speaker 1: Hanks as a villain. But I think this particular moment
Speaker 1: in Toy Story one where he is fighting with Buzz
Speaker 1: Lightyear and shows how much control he has with his
Speaker 1: voice to really make you feel that emotion. Here's the
Speaker 1: scene I'm talking about.
Speaker 6: What what are you talking about? You are toy?
Speaker 9: You weren't the real buzz like you're You're an accent
Speaker 9: fig yard.
Speaker 7: You are a child plaything.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Well, good written Sillney, because you hear him
Speaker 1: getting mad, but it also has a comedic tone to it.
Speaker 9: I love what he gets really frustrated.
Speaker 1: That is just voice acting at its finest, and the
Speaker 1: range she has with what you Loan to make you laugh,
Speaker 1: to make you feel something there that he has a
Speaker 1: little bit more of a tone of anger, but then
Speaker 1: also to make you feel that sadness. The ending of
Speaker 1: Toy Story three, so long partner.
Speaker 7: Ah, that is so good.
Speaker 1: I can't believe that they almost made Woody a ventriloquist
Speaker 1: doll in Toy Story. That was the original design of
Speaker 1: the character. Then they thought, oh, this looks a little
Speaker 1: bit too freaky, and they decided to change Woody and
Speaker 1: make them a cowboy instead, because, Ah, kids would probably
Speaker 1: be more inclined to want to play with a cowboy
Speaker 1: than a creepy ventriloquist doll. I think if you would
Speaker 1: have been the ventriloquist, it would have reminded me of
Speaker 1: Slappy from Goosebumps, and I would have been terrified. Every
Speaker 1: kid in the nineties would have been terrified, and Toy
Speaker 1: Story probably would have tanked. So I'm glad they switched
Speaker 1: Woody to be a cowboy at number three. I have
Speaker 1: Eddie Murphy voicing Donkey in the Shrek films, which they
Speaker 1: are coming out with a new Shrek movie, not for
Speaker 1: a couple of years. I think it's supposed to come
Speaker 1: out July first, twenty twenty six. I kind of forgot
Speaker 1: about Shrek four, one, two, and three were so big.
Speaker 1: Four came a little bit later, so I feel like
Speaker 1: my excitement was a little bit watered down to the
Speaker 1: fact that Shrek four did exist. But even more so
Speaker 1: than Mike Myers's performance as Shrek, I think the true
Speaker 1: standout star is Eddie Murphy. Along the same lines of
Speaker 1: Tom Hanks. Eddie also has such great control over his voice.
Speaker 1: But the reason I rank him just a little bit
Speaker 1: higher is because I think Eddie Murphy on his own
Speaker 1: is just funnier. He has the stand up experience, he
Speaker 1: has all the characters he played on SNL, and I
Speaker 1: think he was born to do comedy. And I wouldn't
Speaker 1: have thought that his best work would come in the
Speaker 1: world of animation. But he is just so dynamic as Donkey.
Speaker 1: This is still hands down my favorite performance of his
Speaker 1: out of any of the movies.
Speaker 6: Night Only.
Speaker 7: It's Gonna be fun.
Speaker 1: We can see him late swapping manless stars and in
Speaker 1: the morning, I'm making waffles.
Speaker 9: We do I sleep outside?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 1: Well, I guess that's cool.
Speaker 7: I mean I don't know you and you don't know me,
Speaker 7: so I guess outside is best. You know, here I go.
Speaker 1: That clip right there encompasses everything, the comedy, the sadness,
Speaker 1: the range of Adie Murphy. Steven Spielberg actually bought the
Speaker 1: rights to the book that Shrek is based on, even
Speaker 1: though Shrek is just a big parody of all the
Speaker 1: Disney fairy tales and that's kind of what these movies
Speaker 1: served as in the two thousands, But he originally wanted
Speaker 1: to make a little bit more of a traditional animated film,
Speaker 1: and he wanted Bill Murray to be the voice of
Speaker 1: Shrek and Steve Martin to be the voice of Donkey.
Speaker 1: I think that would have been fine, but it would
Speaker 1: have had a much different just overall feeling, and no
Speaker 1: way that Steve Martin would have done as good a
Speaker 1: job as Donkey. And the other casting change that they
Speaker 1: had was Chris Farley was actually originally going to be Shrek,
Speaker 1: and there's test footage with him. Even the character of
Speaker 1: Shrek is modeled to look like Chris Farley. If you
Speaker 1: look at them side by side, which the design did
Speaker 1: change from the first iteration, it kind of resembles what
Speaker 1: Chris Farley look like. And I think it was a
Speaker 1: role that Chris Farley was really interested in doing because
Speaker 1: he was seen for the majority of his career as
Speaker 1: being the big dumb, fat guy, and as a former
Speaker 1: big dumb, fat guy, I know what kind of an
Speaker 1: impact that can have on you, where you have been
Speaker 1: celebrated for all the wacky things you do, falling down,
Speaker 1: getting hurt, saying ridiculous things. Sometimes you just want somebody
Speaker 1: to take you seriously. And I think Shrek was going
Speaker 1: to be that for him. And if you listen to
Speaker 1: this clip of him and Eddie Murphy doing some early
Speaker 1: lines with some very rough animations, you can really hear
Speaker 1: that in his voice.
Speaker 7: Oh this is one of those onion things.
Speaker 1: No, this is one of those drop it and leave
Speaker 1: me alone things.
Speaker 7: Well, why don't you want to talk about him?
Speaker 1: Why do you want to talk about it?
Speaker 7: Why you answer the question with a question?
Speaker 6: Why are you asking questions?
Speaker 1: I don't want to answer.
Speaker 7: Why are you blocking?
Speaker 10: I'm not blocking?
Speaker 7: Then why do you have problems expressing your wonts?
Speaker 6: I don't.
Speaker 9: I want you to shut up?
Speaker 6: See no problem.
Speaker 9: You're just displacing your anger.
Speaker 1: Believe me, it's properly placed. You're really mad.
Speaker 7: Whoever did this to you?
Speaker 6: No one did anything to me?
Speaker 9: Yes, yes, someone hurts you so bad.
Speaker 7: Someone hurts you many years ago.
Speaker 1: Beat my parents out of this right through. And I
Speaker 1: would have paid to see that movie more so than
Speaker 1: I would have paid to see Mike Myers version, even
Speaker 1: though that is the version we know and love, but
Speaker 1: he has like this weird iron accent that I think
Speaker 1: is still an interesting choice on Shrek. So that's why
Speaker 1: I didn't include Mike Myers on this list. I included
Speaker 1: Eddie Murphy. But if you would have had the version
Speaker 1: with Chris Farley and Eddie Murphy, I think Chris Farley
Speaker 1: would be on this list just from that performance alone,
Speaker 1: and again that is very raw, but you hear that
Speaker 1: real acting ability in his voice and also him getting
Speaker 1: angry there is like classic Chris Farley. I think that
Speaker 1: would have been a but on the list at number
Speaker 1: three is Eddie Murphy as Donkey in Trick.
Speaker 6: Cary. She's a queen and talking and she's getting really
Speaker 6: not afraid to fas so just let it flow. No
Speaker 6: one can do it quiet car Line. It sound like Caroline.
Speaker 3: She is a magical little girl and like we we
Speaker 3: call her the Fomo baby because she just really wanted
Speaker 3: to be here, her girl.
Speaker 14: But it's crazy a thought, how fear and faith are
Speaker 14: just such a close line after you know, like it's
Speaker 14: like on that they walk the same line exactly like I.
Speaker 12: Felt like God took me to literally the edge of
Speaker 12: my tolerance.
Speaker 14: Like you said, I'm gonna broak in all your like
Speaker 14: I'm gonna push you as far as you can with
Speaker 14: your fear, the worst, like the.
Speaker 12: Worst version of me, like the most broken version of
Speaker 12: these where I got taken to and then the redemption
Speaker 12: ever since then is just incredible, like joy, love like tenfold.
Speaker 12: It trumps the fear, brokenness, pain. Yeah, it makes me
Speaker 12: like want to do that again. I would even go
Speaker 12: on bed rest again for you.
Speaker 6: Would I would?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I would?
Speaker 14: Do you feel like going to that dark place so
Speaker 14: opened you up to a place of love that you
Speaker 14: couldn't have experienced otherwise.
Speaker 12: Yes, it opened me up to connections with people. I
Speaker 12: finally learned how to like lean on people because Maddie
Speaker 12: knows I'm a very guarded, reserved person. It's hard to
Speaker 12: pull the layers out of it.
Speaker 11: I'm like an onion.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, every five years I get like I
Speaker 3: go in the Tay friendship bomb where she's like, yeah,
Speaker 3: so I got to tell you about this thing, and
Speaker 3: I'm like what, And it's just like I should know
Speaker 3: everything by like this truth bomb.
Speaker 14: But no, it's it's like the best though, because our personalities.
Speaker 14: It's we are you an open book and you're a
Speaker 14: shot book.
Speaker 11: Yes, absolutely, it's.
Speaker 3: Perfect, like and she kind of has taught me how
Speaker 3: to like, hey, we don't.
Speaker 11: Have to share, you know, and that's key. I'm the
Speaker 11: same as you.
Speaker 3: Overshrry over shary is actually a little milky boot.
Speaker 14: And I don't know if that's lying, but over sharing
Speaker 14: it leaks your energy out.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 12: And I'm I'm a minimal energy kind of gal, so
Speaker 12: I can only give when when I can.
Speaker 11: But I think that clo being so close came from.
Speaker 12: I think it's just my nature. Like I'm again just
Speaker 12: like a minimal I'm not low energy because I.
Speaker 11: I've got high vibes. Vibes minimal energy. Okay, get your
Speaker 11: energy rested.
Speaker 9: And I have this phrase that we use.
Speaker 12: Like it's called coins, and it's like how many coins
Speaker 12: do you have today?
Speaker 5: And it's like your energy.
Speaker 12: So you look up with five coins and then interactions
Speaker 12: take one coin, and then a bad traffic stop takes
Speaker 12: another coin and all that stuff, and I probably wake
Speaker 12: up every day with like three coins, so.
Speaker 11: You're tired every day.
Speaker 12: I'm like I relate to you on that yeah, always tired,
Speaker 12: You're just like vibeing, Like are you.
Speaker 11: Just always kind of observing people?
Speaker 14: Yes, oh yeah, and like kind of like taking it
Speaker 14: all in, yeah, and like assessing the situation. It takes
Speaker 14: a lot of energy to constantly be assessing the situation too.
Speaker 14: And I love as you're feeling the energy out. Like
Speaker 14: I can walk into a room and immediately I'm like,
Speaker 14: I feel the vibes. I'm like, I know exactly where
Speaker 14: someone is on the frequency level of like totally what
Speaker 14: we're going to be dealing with.
Speaker 3: I can tell if I'm going to like someone, like
Speaker 3: by the minute I lock eyes with them, I'm just
Speaker 3: like and not in a bitchy way, but just like
Speaker 3: if you're a match mm yeah, an energy mat Yeah. Like,
Speaker 3: especially in this business, we we have found like there's
Speaker 3: a lot of people with like a.
Speaker 11: Big lot of egos and just from everything in this pain.
Speaker 14: And be around egoy people is exhausting and it's like
Speaker 14: to be and that takes all your coins, all the
Speaker 14: coins exactly.
Speaker 1: You get it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And they're like there's times where T and I
Speaker 3: just like go in our little corner and we just
Speaker 3: like and then it's funny because like other people will
Speaker 3: start coming to our corner and we're like, hey, this is.
Speaker 11: The safe corner. You may not come to a corner
Speaker 11: you're going to bring your bad energy.
Speaker 6: You got bad energy or.
Speaker 11: An ego problem, you gotta go.
Speaker 3: But if you don't, come on and we're just chilling. Yeah,
Speaker 3: But the the like big personalities and stuff in this business.
Speaker 3: Sometimes like we will be the artist that will like
Speaker 3: sit back and let the other like bigger personalities kind
Speaker 3: of just like run the thing and we'll just kind
Speaker 3: of even though I'm extroverted, I ain't trying to put
Speaker 3: that much energy into like commanding a room.
Speaker 12: I'm like, you know, we got to do that on
Speaker 12: the stage.
Speaker 11: I ain't got energy for that, just like regularly.
Speaker 14: But learning or to distribute your energy. How to distribute
Speaker 14: your energy is like a fine art that you have
Speaker 14: to craft. It is a craft of her superpowers.
Speaker 11: Is okay? Talk to me about that?
Speaker 14: Because crafting that now you got kids, Now you got husbands,
Speaker 14: Now you're you know, you've been running a successful business
Speaker 14: now for like a decade.
Speaker 11: You know your women in this business.
Speaker 14: You have a lot, You've got employees, you're putting on shows,
Speaker 14: you have tour buses. There's so many people like who
Speaker 14: are relying on y'all, So how do.
Speaker 11: You craft it?
Speaker 12: I mean, I think it just is like a daily
Speaker 12: conscious effort. I think it was a really big struggle
Speaker 12: for me in the beginning of our career because I
Speaker 12: knew that people wanted like more of me, like they
Speaker 12: kind of expected this bigger personality out of me, and
Speaker 12: for a while, I like faked it and I was like, wow,
Speaker 12: like lovely, outgoing, talkative, and then that's what landed me
Speaker 12: on antidepressants at eighteen. And really, yeah, I was on
Speaker 12: antidepressants during radio tour, but because I'm like, damn it,
Speaker 12: I should have done that too.
Speaker 14: Survival tours no joke, no jokes, and especially when we're eighteen.
Speaker 11: Especially back then, you know, there's yeah, we'll write a book,
Speaker 11: don't worry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I forgot about that.
Speaker 3: But I think that just like that experience really showed
Speaker 3: us like, Okay, all we have is each other in ourselves. Yeah,
Speaker 3: no one is going to protect us at all, and
Speaker 3: so we just like really, you know, I think it
Speaker 3: kind of turned into a blessing where we just like
Speaker 3: really went inward and we're.
Speaker 11: Like, Okay, we just have to like we talk to
Speaker 11: each other through our eyes.
Speaker 3: Like if we're doing an interview and someone has said
Speaker 3: something that we don't like, whatever, we just look at
Speaker 3: each other and she doesn't have to say a word,
Speaker 3: and I just shut it down or she shuts it down.
Speaker 11: It's like, now you have the confidence to shut it down.
Speaker 14: Oh yeah, but how empowering that you'll have each other
Speaker 14: just like it would be kind of terrifying to be
Speaker 14: at it alone.
Speaker 12: And I don't think I could do it the same.
Speaker 12: I wouldn't want to do I have gotten ran over.
Speaker 11: And I would have destroyed.
Speaker 6: Should i'd be like.
Speaker 4: That.
Speaker 11: I was just rid in the corner cry.
Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for listening to this week's Sunday Sampler.
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Speaker 2: so there's always something to listen to. You guys, have
Speaker 2: a great week.