WEBVTT - SUNDAY SAMPLER - The Nashville Podcast Network (9-22-24) 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:09.640 Hey guys, welcome, It's Sunday. 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:13.239 Here's the Sunday sampler from the Nashville Podcast Network. We're 0:00:13.240 --> 0:00:16.320 gonna start with Take This Personally. It's from Morgan number two. 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:19.680 She talked with a friendship coach. Never heard of this before. 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:23.040 Danielle Bear Jackson is her name, and she shares her 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:25.119 expertise on how to make friends as an adult and 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:27.760 how it's hard to maintain friendships when life gets super busy. 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:29.120 So we'll hear this. 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:31.400 We have four things coming up with Amy Brown, Sore 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:34.519 Losers movie, Mike the Bobby Cast, all of that on 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:36.920 the way. Hopefully, if you hear something you like, you 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:39.400 go and subscribe to the podcast. But here's a clip 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:43.919 of this week's episode of Take This Personally with Morgan Hulsman. 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:01.279 Personality, Let's get duels Man. 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:08.000 Danielle Bayer Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:11.360 who speaks nationally on the subject of friendship as a 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:15.520 wellness imperative. Her business, friend Forward is dedicated to teaching 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:20.120 women how to create and maintain better female friendships. Danielle, 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:21.200 how are you doing today? 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:23.440 I'm doing okay. I'm really glad that you brought me 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:26.080 on to lend my voice to this conversation because it's 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:26.720 so important. 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:30.440 Say you have a client who is nearly starting from 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:34.960 scratch with female friendships, what would the beginning process look 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:38.000 like for them to start finding some really solid friendships. 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:39.880 Oh that's a great question, and I'm so glad you 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:42.120 asked it, because, as you can imagine, hands down, that 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.320 is the number one question. It's always how do I 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:46.919 make friends? But it typically comes with some kind of qualifier. 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:48.640 So how do I make friends? As a woman with 0:01:48.720 --> 0:01:50.720 social anxiety? How do I make friends? As a woman 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:52.360 in a new city? How do I make friends? So 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:54.760 I hope it shows us that we'll always be making 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:56.880 new friends. And so the first step is more of 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.640 a mindset, and it's to shake off any shame you 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:02.320 have about having to start from scratch, that it's not 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:05.240 something you should have figured out by now. You're not behind. 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:07.680 There's not something wrong with you if you look around 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:09.440 and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't have people. 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:12.240 In fact, research tells us that on average, we replace 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:15.239 about half of our friends every seven years. And so 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:17.760 you might be in a season where you're like, oh gosh, 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:20.440 I'm in a pruning season. And I have space to 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:22.720 invite new connections. So the first step is to shake 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:24.760 off the shame. The second thing I'd tell you is 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.200 to look at the people who are already in your life, 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:29.079 because research also tells us that a lot of the 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:31.320 friends we have are also serving in some kind of 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:33.880 other role. So they might also be your cousin, They 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:37.160 might also be your hairstylists, they might also be your coworker. 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.360 So if that's the case, look around at who already 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:42.040 exists and you've dismissed them for whatever reason as a 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:44.680 potential friend. And what would happen if you looked at 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:47.120 them in like a new way? Is the first thing. 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:50.320 Then I like to say, become a regular somewhere because 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:53.360 that familiarity makes it more comfortable for us to start 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:55.600 a friendship. And so especially those of us who are 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.040 working from home. A lot of us are in the 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.959 house all day. We don't get out and about maybe 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:01.120 you can commit to like working from a coffee shop 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.520 every Friday at the same time, or walking your dog 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:05.919 at like the same time, you know, every day. I'll 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:07.600 pause here because I know some women are like, we 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.519 can't have routines. We have to be careful and I 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:11.880 heard as a safety precaution, and that's true. So you know, 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:13.760 adapt this is to fit your lifestyle. How can you 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:16.280 become a regular somewhere? How can you breathe familiarity with 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:18.120 the people who work there and the other people who 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:20.920 come there every Friday morning to work out of their 0:03:21.000 --> 0:03:23.359 house too, So bringing that familiarity. And then the last 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:25.120 tip I'll give, because I can do this all day, 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:28.160 is to make your desire known and so use social 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:31.320 media to say, oh yeah, moving to Austin and looking 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:33.880 to see if anybody has any recommendations, or text a 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.920 friend or an acquaintance who's a super extrovert and just 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.360 say hey, I'm just trying to get more plugged in. 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:41.240 I thought of you because you're always out and about 0:03:41.280 --> 0:03:43.160 and doing some cool stuff. Is there anything around town 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.080 we're checking out? Because they're either going to give you 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:47.720 recommendations or they're going to invite you to be there. 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:50.000 Plus one, they might say, oh my god, yes we 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.120 do happy hour every Tuesday. You have to come. But 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:53.920 no one's going to be able to meet your need 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:56.840 for new connections if you're too embarrassed to let people 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:58.200 know that you want new connections. 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:00.840 I feel like, that first step is so important because 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.320 if you just live in that shame, you're never going 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:04.880 to do any of the other steps. You're just going 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:07.160 to sit there and say, I'm too embarrassed to try this, 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:09.720 so I'm just going to be alone forever, exactly. And 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:13.200 there's finding friends, and there's also finding friends who lift 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:15.880 you up, add to your life, empower you. They're what 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:19.440 I like to call my deep connections versus my surface 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:22.719 level friends. How do we ensure that we can find 0:04:22.920 --> 0:04:25.920 and cultivate those kind of friendships that are empowering more 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:27.039 than they are surface level. 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:29.000 Oh I'm so glad you asked that, because sometimes the 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:31.800 conversation does become about like finding new people, which is 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:33.760 so great and you need to have that skill. But 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:35.760 then sometimes I'm like, well, how are you going deep 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:38.240 with the friends you already have? How can you make 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:40.120 that more meaningful? Right, because some of us feel a 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:43.400 sense of loneliness because all our friendships are superficial in 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:45.600 terms of creating more depth. The first thing I would 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:48.680 say is look at how vulnerable you're being. And I 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:50.600 know vulnerability is like a hot topic, but I do 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:54.159 want to correct one misconception. I think people think vulnerability 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:56.440 means let me tell you about my biggest trauma. Let 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.760 me tell you about this big thing and self disclose. 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:01.920 The best way I've heardlnerbility to find is you are 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:04.760 willing to take a risk of rejection. And so I'm 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:06.400 going to tell you something. Oh, I know, I might 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.960 look weak, I might look weird, I might look I'm 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:11.200 gonna do it anyway, because research shows that we tend 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.880 to like people who are vulnerable with us. It kind 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:16.720 of humanizes them, It's kind of endearing, and so open 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.440 up a little bit appropriately, especially in the beginning, to 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:21.960 go a little bit deeper. Also, try to take your 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.680 relationships off auto pilot. Sometimes with the same friends, we 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:26.680 do the same things, we do the same happy hour 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:28.560 at the same place. It's okay, the same way. In 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:30.880 a romantic relationship where it feels kind of dry, you're like, 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:33.080 we need to jazz this up. Same thing. Maybe you're 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:35.880 on default with your friends. Can you infuse new life 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:38.919 by operating on a different social backdrop or trying something 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:42.039 totally out of the box together, because those shared experiences 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:44.919 genuinely do really connect you. And then the final thing 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:46.680 I'll say, and this is going to sound so from 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:48.680 left Field, ask your friends for help. 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:57.440 We love talking about the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. 0:05:57.720 --> 0:05:59.760 And I think I'm still a voting member after this 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.480 second that we did where I probably revealed too much 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:03.440 about the voting process. 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:04.520 Thank god, I don't know. 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:07.760 I don't I didn't get a second voting slip for 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:09.400 the year. But I also didn't get told I'm not 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.800 so I don't know. Oh, but I was never told 0:06:11.839 --> 0:06:13.800 I was kicked out. Do you normally get your voting 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:14.440 slip by now? 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:15.080 I don't know. 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:15.880 I've only ever had it once. 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:17.880 Everyone it was, But. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:21.800 They now are doing the Rock and Roll Hall of 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:28.200 Fame Voice your choice, And I don't think if you 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:32.760 win it you get in, but I think it factors in, 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:34.200 like it's part of. 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:38.120 Like a percentage of the overall. 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.880 And anyone can vote. This is just anyone in the world. 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:43.400 Yeah, okay, because you. 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:44.719 Can do it by visiting the Rock and Roll Hall 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:46.000 of Fame. I'm just going to read some of these here, 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:50.240 so the raw. Okay, here's what the deal is the 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:52.200 Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. If you vote on 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:55.080 that website when they do that, that is a percentage 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:58.040 this that you do. There is just them kind of 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:01.000 wanting to know. But I think it could also like 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:04.320 secretly affect the people that are making the decisions. So 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:05.600 there is one online pull the matters. 0:07:05.640 --> 0:07:06.040 But here you go. 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:08.080 I'll read you a person, and you just tell me 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:09.000 if you think they should be in the rock and 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:12.400 Wall got it, And it's like do they deserve to 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:13.080 be in there now? 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:14.560 Right? 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:16.760 Like, because well, you can only get in if it's 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:20.920 like twenty five years past your first album. Okay, and 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:23.640 these all these people meet that required it, maybe twenty 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:26.280 I should know this as a voting member, you should. 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:28.440 I only look at the people they give me and go, 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:30.360 do they deserve it? Mike? 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:31.720 Will you let us know when you figure that out 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:35.760 it's either twenty after their first album or twenty five. 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:41.640 But okay, here we go. The Cranberries, Yes, no, I 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:43.560 don't think that I have a body big enough. I 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:45.680 answer it way too quickly. I mean because they got 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:47.880 they got jams and they were a staple. They got 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:52.560 like three bops, like Dreams, they got like Zombie, hold on, 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:54.920 hold on, hold on Linger that's it. 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.160 Shoot, those are the only three bangers they got. 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:00.320 Do you have to let it? Lingers a bit. 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:05.800 Some by interesting dreams. 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:10.520 My love. 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:20.440 Every way got it? That's dreams, Mike. We cranberried up. 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:22.160 See what they're fourth? There's one more. 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:25.520 But even if it's four, I don't think that's enough 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:26.320 to get in the Rock and Hall. 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:28.360 And it is twenty five years by the way. Okay, okay, 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:30.320 I mean that works. But yeah, you're right. 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:32.400 I may have answered that one way too quick because 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:35.240 I do like the Cranberries. But you're you're talking like 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:36.760 maybe two albums that I remember. 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:41.079 Yeah, I think there. But to be fair, if you 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:41.840 have an album that. 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:47.680 Is transcendent, for example, Oasis, like I think Oasis should 0:08:47.679 --> 0:08:48.920 be in the Rock and Hall of Fame, and they 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:52.240 really only have one massive album, their second album. 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:55.800 Okay, the fourth list that is Oh to my Family. 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:56.600 My father. 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:00.599 You're making that up, my mother? Are you making I 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:04.079 swear that's how it goes. I'm swhere that's how that 0:09:04.240 --> 0:09:04.760 song goes. 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:06.280 Are you making that? 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:06.880 Nope? 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:09.679 You think just because I said I heard family, Yeah, 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:10.960 I went right to father them. 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:12.520 That's what she says. 0:09:12.920 --> 0:09:15.079 That's a jam number one, Linger too, Zombie number three, 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:18.120 Oh to my Family, it has. 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:25.040 Oh I know this song, dude, dude, you remember. 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:25.840 My father. 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:28.240 I do. 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.080 I'm telling you man, okay, but you know what, now 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:34.160 that you say that Oasis with one good album, I'm 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:35.120 want to put Cranberries in. 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:41.400 This is Sunday, I remember this one. I don't think 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:43.000 they can't because the lead sing or die. But I 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:44.959 don't think if the Cranbers were united right now that 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:48.400 there would be like a oh my god, everybody guess 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:50.760 what they're back together. You're right, I do like Cranberries, 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:53.520 but rock and Hall of Fame I don't think so. Okay, 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:57.040 but it's not saying you're wrong, yeah, nor is it 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:57.680 saying that I'm right. 0:09:57.760 --> 0:09:59.319 I did answer it very quickly, but I'm going to 0:09:59.400 --> 0:09:59.880 stand behind it. 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:03.079 Smith's I don't get the smith Why are the Smiths 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:06.840 so popular in Mexico, in southern Texas and Mexico. 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:10.480 Yeah, it's very Latino, extreme huge in California. I don't 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:12.280 know why. I just always loved him and I don't 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:13.760 know why. I guess because of Mexican. 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:14.280 Who are the Smiths like? 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:15.160 Give me a morrisey? 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:16.319 Oh yeah? 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:19.120 Why is Morsey so loved by Hispanics, Mexicans and Latinos? 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.280 I think it's his voice, just that suit because he's 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:23.480 not he has kind of like that old school vibe 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:26.000 to him. But he's not Mexican. No, he's white. 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:26.680 He's like white. 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.920 And yeah, I never knew, and I was never like 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:30.840 a I'm not a hater. I was never a fan, 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:33.839 but I remember my friends being like, yeah, Mexicans love him, 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:36.400 Like really, I say this as a Mexican big in 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:40.000 like the Trolo community. Well I'm not crazy for saying that, right. 0:10:40.080 --> 0:11:09.359 Oh yeah, wow, cast up little food for yourself. 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:10.720 Life. 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.480 Oh it's pretty bad. It's pretty beautiful. 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:15.200 Thing beautiful that for. 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:24.160 A little more said he you're kicking with full with 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:24.920 Amy Brown. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:27.040 All right, So I'm going to talk about hate following. 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:31.280 This could be a hobby that you are participating in 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:34.520 and you don't even realize it. Now, after I tell 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:36.480 you about hate following, I'm going to share with you 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.200 a hobby that can make you happier, because hate following 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:43.000 definitely does not. But I did see the happy hobby 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:47.439 situation multiple times this week. I saw articles when I 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.000 was on social media when I was searching news prep 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:51.960 for the Bobby Bone Show, and I was like, oh, 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:54.679 this could be worth noting because this type of hobby 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:57.600 might be something we could all do, and maybe it's 0:11:57.760 --> 0:11:59.719 just the nudge you need to finally do it. I 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:02.520 will give you a hint. Therapy Cat has already started 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:05.640 something like this, and who knew she was onto something? 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:07.679 So hate following is a thing. 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:09.920 Again. We may not know that we're doing it, but 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:13.000 it's a social media habit that we fall into. If 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:16.760 you follow people with perfect photos or someone who posts 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:20.840 offensive political things that you don't agree with, you might 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:24.719 be hate following. A behavioral psychologist named Denise Dudley was 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:28.199 talking about how you don't know you're doing this destructive behavior, 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:31.599 but when you hate follow, you're secretly hoping for a 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:35.559 politically incorrect slip up or a bad hair day to 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:39.199 make yourself feel a little bit better about your own life. 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:41.920 And sometimes we hate follow people who seem to have 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:44.640 it all just to remind ourselves why we. 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:45.520 Don't like them. 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:50.000 And the problem with that is hate following creates stress, anxiety, 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:54.760 low self esteem, or even depression. So experts suggest to 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:58.679 unfollow the people who fit the category and move on. 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:01.079 I will say that I went through my feed and 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:03.680 I couldn't say one hundred percent I was hate following, 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:07.839 But when I used some of this article to assess like, 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:10.240 do I really like this person? Do I align with 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.839 this person? How do I feel after I watch this person? 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:16.400 And then I thought, oh, sometimes when maybe they mess 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:18.840 up or it seems like their life isn't as perfect 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.200 as I thought, do I feel a little bit better 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.400 about my own life when I see that happen? And 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:27.480 I was able to answer yes to that. So being 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:31.559 honest here, I unfollowed someone that fit that category, So 0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:34.199 make sure you're not hate following. I didn't realize I 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:36.440 was doing it, and experts say a lot of people 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:38.839 are doing it, and yeah, we don't even realize it. 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:43.760 Now on to more positive hobby news. Taking up arts 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:46.800 and crafts could be a game changer in your happiness. 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:50.199 So if you want to lower cortisol levels and have 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:54.360 overall better well being, simply take up an arts and 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:55.320 crafts hobby. 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:55.920 Yeah. 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:58.840 See therapy cat. She's been onto this with her painting. 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:00.840 Like if you go over to her house at her 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.120 kitchen table, she just has this whole arts and crafts 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:05.480 bin in the corner now and then on the table 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:08.360 she'll just have a blank canvas and some paint so 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:10.800 she can bust it out at any time. But it 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.920 doesn't have to even be as complicated as paint and 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:16.480 a canvas and all the things like you can just 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:21.560 draw if you want to. Doctor Helen Keyes, a cognitive psychologist, 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:24.280 just released a new study talking about this, and she 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:28.920 said that engaging with arts and crafts is accessible and affordable, 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:33.080 and options such as knitting and drawing require very little 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:37.640 tools and can be so engaging and creatively fulfilling. And 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:41.480 people in the study reported more happiness, better life satisfaction, 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:46.960 and sense of lives being worthwhile if they were participating 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:50.360 in an arts and craft project. So, guys, this is 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.920 really simple. I think we can all do this. And 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:54.680 you know, I was talking about that event I went 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:57.120 to last night for music teachers and hearing all the 0:14:57.200 --> 0:15:00.480 stories and seeing all the kids play their in instruments. 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:02.880 I got a little annoyed at my mom that she 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.240 let me quit piano when I was a kid. And 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:08.600 I was encouraged though that even at forty three, I 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:11.480 could start taking piano lessons make that a hobby. It's 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:13.520 not going to be guitar for me. I took lessons 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:17.240 several years ago and my fingers hurt so bad, Like 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.280 I just don't know that that's gonna be a thing 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:22.560 for me. But piano I think I could get into. 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.680 And I looked up some of the benefits of playing piano. 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:30.680 Stress management came up, creativity in the brain, improve coordination, 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:37.080 self esteem, improves concentration, enhanced memory, math improvement. I mean, 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:42.120 the list goes on, improved mental health, neuroplasticity, focus, goal setting, 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:43.680 cultural enrichment. 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:45.480 Why would my mom take me out of that? 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.120 So now at forty three, because I have a keyboard 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:49.680 at my house, I don't have a piano, but I 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:53.640 do think I could start taking some piano lessons and. 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:55.480 Add that to my hobby belt. 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:58.320 But if you have ADHD like me, you know that 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:00.480 we like to start a lot of hobbies and not 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:04.120 necessarily complete them. But I'm working on that maybe this 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:06.440 could be something that I follow through with and I do. 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:08.760 And so I'm going to get my arts and crafts 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:11.080 little section at my house set up, and I'm gonna 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:13.400 get my little keyboard set up. And these are to 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:15.440 be some hobbies that are going to add to my life. 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:17.680 And I still want to add my garden to my 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:20.320 backyard too, which I've gardened before and I loved that 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:23.320 so much that I can't wait to bring it back. 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:25.680 We're gonna do it live. 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:33.040 We are the one, two, three Sore Losers. What up, everybody? 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.200 I am lunchbox. I know the most about sports, so 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:38.760 I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions, because 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:41.320 I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all. 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:43.680 It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male. 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:45.960 I live on the north side of Nashville with Bayser, 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:46.360 my wife. 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:47.160 We do have a farm. 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:50.640 It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:55.880 of crops. Hopefully soon corn pumpkins, rye. I believe maybe 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:59.120 a little fescue to be determined. 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:03.120 Over to you, coach, And here's a clip from this 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:08.240 week's episode of The Sore Losers. My dad has a 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:11.640 tendency to get lost, and so we do the pod 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:13.919 on Wednesday and he's like, man, I need a cigarette. 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:16.160 But he's like, I left the cigarettes at the house. 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:18.359 I was like, well, I got to record some commercials. 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:20.879 You want to just hang out? Why record commercials and 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:23.080 then we can go get your cigarettes. He's like, no, 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:25.920 where's the gas station around here. I'm gonna just walk 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:29.000 and get cigarettes. He said, all right, you're gonna walk 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:33.080 out the back alley right, hit that street, take a right, 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:34.879 and you walk go down to the end of the 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:36.680 block inside on your left hand side on the corner. 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:39.920 I don't know about the take a right from the alley. 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:41.960 You'd actually want to take a left. No, no, no, 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:44.480 if you walk straight out here, straight out of here, 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:46.840 straight out the back door, straight out the back door, 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:48.960 and are we in the alley or I'm making a 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:50.000 right on the album. 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:51.480 Now walk through the alley till the next street, Like, 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.800 buy the parking garage in the street, and you would 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:58.000 take it. You take it right, walk down gas station 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.120 on the corner, no problem, Send him on his way, 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:03.720 Send him with my wallet because he doesn't have his 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:07.960 wallet with him. And I get done with the commercials 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:10.600 and he's not back yet, and I'm like, you know what, 0:18:10.800 --> 0:18:13.320 I'll just drive down the road and I'll see him walking. 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:16.040 He's playing dice with a couple of hoboes. 0:18:17.200 --> 0:18:19.360 There was a nice looking lady that wanted to talk. 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:22.840 I was like, Okay, he'll just be walking back, you know, 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:26.560 smoking a cigarette. And I drive from here to that 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:31.800 little convenience store no toolbox, oh no, And I'm like, 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:35.159 oh god, where could he be at this point? Did 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:37.399 you think he died? I didn't think he died. I 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:39.680 just thought this dude is way lost. He could be. 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:43.320 You know, I'm worried he's near the Cumberland. I don't know, 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:47.240 too soon, too soon, And so I call him. I said, 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:50.800 where are you? He goes, I don't know. I'm at 0:18:50.880 --> 0:18:51.840 some shell station. 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:54.360 Ah, I know where he went. 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.560 And I'm like, shell station, How did you get all 0:18:57.560 --> 0:19:00.680