1 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:09,640 Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome, It's Sunday. 2 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:13,239 Speaker 2: Here's the Sunday sampler from the Nashville Podcast Network. We're 3 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:16,320 Speaker 2: gonna start with Take This Personally. It's from Morgan number two. 4 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 2: She talked with a friendship coach. Never heard of this before. 5 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 2: Danielle Bear Jackson is her name, and she shares her 6 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 2: expertise on how to make friends as an adult and 7 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 2: how it's hard to maintain friendships when life gets super busy. 8 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 1: So we'll hear this. 9 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 2: We have four things coming up with Amy Brown, Sore 10 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:34,519 Speaker 2: Losers movie, Mike the Bobby Cast, all of that on 11 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 2: the way. Hopefully, if you hear something you like, you 12 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 2: go and subscribe to the podcast. But here's a clip 13 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:43,919 Speaker 2: of this week's episode of Take This Personally with Morgan Hulsman. 14 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:01,279 Speaker 3: Personality, Let's get duels Man. 15 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 4: Danielle Bayer Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator 16 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 4: who speaks nationally on the subject of friendship as a 17 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 4: wellness imperative. Her business, friend Forward is dedicated to teaching 18 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 4: women how to create and maintain better female friendships. Danielle, 19 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 4: how are you doing today? 20 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 5: I'm doing okay. I'm really glad that you brought me 21 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 5: on to lend my voice to this conversation because it's 22 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 5: so important. 23 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 4: Say you have a client who is nearly starting from 24 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:34,960 Speaker 4: scratch with female friendships, what would the beginning process look 25 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 4: like for them to start finding some really solid friendships. 26 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 5: Oh that's a great question, and I'm so glad you 27 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 5: asked it, because, as you can imagine, hands down, that 28 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,320 Speaker 5: is the number one question. It's always how do I 29 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:46,919 Speaker 5: make friends? But it typically comes with some kind of qualifier. 30 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 5: So how do I make friends? As a woman with 31 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 5: social anxiety? How do I make friends? As a woman 32 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 5: in a new city? How do I make friends? So 33 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:54,760 Speaker 5: I hope it shows us that we'll always be making 34 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 5: new friends. And so the first step is more of 35 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 5: a mindset, and it's to shake off any shame you 36 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 5: have about having to start from scratch, that it's not 37 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 5: something you should have figured out by now. You're not behind. 38 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 5: There's not something wrong with you if you look around 39 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 5: and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't have people. 40 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 5: In fact, research tells us that on average, we replace 41 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,239 Speaker 5: about half of our friends every seven years. And so 42 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 5: you might be in a season where you're like, oh gosh, 43 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 5: I'm in a pruning season. And I have space to 44 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 5: invite new connections. So the first step is to shake 45 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 5: off the shame. The second thing I'd tell you is 46 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 5: to look at the people who are already in your life, 47 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 5: because research also tells us that a lot of the 48 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 5: friends we have are also serving in some kind of 49 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 5: other role. So they might also be your cousin, They 50 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 5: might also be your hairstylists, they might also be your coworker. 51 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 5: So if that's the case, look around at who already 52 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 5: exists and you've dismissed them for whatever reason as a 53 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 5: potential friend. And what would happen if you looked at 54 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 5: them in like a new way? Is the first thing. 55 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 5: Then I like to say, become a regular somewhere because 56 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 5: that familiarity makes it more comfortable for us to start 57 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 5: a friendship. And so especially those of us who are 58 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 5: working from home. A lot of us are in the 59 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:58,959 Speaker 5: house all day. We don't get out and about maybe 60 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 5: you can commit to like working from a coffee shop 61 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 5: every Friday at the same time, or walking your dog 62 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 5: at like the same time, you know, every day. I'll 63 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 5: pause here because I know some women are like, we 64 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:09,519 Speaker 5: can't have routines. We have to be careful and I 65 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 5: heard as a safety precaution, and that's true. So you know, 66 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 5: adapt this is to fit your lifestyle. How can you 67 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 5: become a regular somewhere? How can you breathe familiarity with 68 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 5: the people who work there and the other people who 69 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,920 Speaker 5: come there every Friday morning to work out of their 70 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 5: house too, So bringing that familiarity. And then the last 71 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 5: tip I'll give, because I can do this all day, 72 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 5: is to make your desire known and so use social 73 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 5: media to say, oh yeah, moving to Austin and looking 74 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 5: to see if anybody has any recommendations, or text a 75 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 5: friend or an acquaintance who's a super extrovert and just 76 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 5: say hey, I'm just trying to get more plugged in. 77 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 5: I thought of you because you're always out and about 78 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 5: and doing some cool stuff. Is there anything around town 79 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 5: we're checking out? Because they're either going to give you 80 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 5: recommendations or they're going to invite you to be there. 81 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 5: Plus one, they might say, oh my god, yes we 82 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 5: do happy hour every Tuesday. You have to come. But 83 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 5: no one's going to be able to meet your need 84 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 5: for new connections if you're too embarrassed to let people 85 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 5: know that you want new connections. 86 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 4: I feel like, that first step is so important because 87 00:04:00,880 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 4: if you just live in that shame, you're never going 88 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 4: to do any of the other steps. You're just going 89 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 4: to sit there and say, I'm too embarrassed to try this, 90 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 4: so I'm just going to be alone forever, exactly. And 91 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 4: there's finding friends, and there's also finding friends who lift 92 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 4: you up, add to your life, empower you. They're what 93 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 4: I like to call my deep connections versus my surface 94 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,719 Speaker 4: level friends. How do we ensure that we can find 95 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:25,920 Speaker 4: and cultivate those kind of friendships that are empowering more 96 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 4: than they are surface level. 97 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 5: Oh I'm so glad you asked that, because sometimes the 98 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 5: conversation does become about like finding new people, which is 99 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:33,760 Speaker 5: so great and you need to have that skill. But 100 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 5: then sometimes I'm like, well, how are you going deep 101 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 5: with the friends you already have? How can you make 102 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 5: that more meaningful? Right, because some of us feel a 103 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 5: sense of loneliness because all our friendships are superficial in 104 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 5: terms of creating more depth. The first thing I would 105 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 5: say is look at how vulnerable you're being. And I 106 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 5: know vulnerability is like a hot topic, but I do 107 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:54,159 Speaker 5: want to correct one misconception. I think people think vulnerability 108 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 5: means let me tell you about my biggest trauma. Let 109 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 5: me tell you about this big thing and self disclose. 110 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:01,920 Speaker 5: The best way I've heardlnerbility to find is you are 111 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 5: willing to take a risk of rejection. And so I'm 112 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 5: going to tell you something. Oh, I know, I might 113 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 5: look weak, I might look weird, I might look I'm 114 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 5: gonna do it anyway, because research shows that we tend 115 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 5: to like people who are vulnerable with us. It kind 116 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 5: of humanizes them, It's kind of endearing, and so open 117 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 5: up a little bit appropriately, especially in the beginning, to 118 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 5: go a little bit deeper. Also, try to take your 119 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 5: relationships off auto pilot. Sometimes with the same friends, we 120 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 5: do the same things, we do the same happy hour 121 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 5: at the same place. It's okay, the same way. In 122 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 5: a romantic relationship where it feels kind of dry, you're like, 123 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 5: we need to jazz this up. Same thing. Maybe you're 124 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 5: on default with your friends. Can you infuse new life 125 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:38,919 Speaker 5: by operating on a different social backdrop or trying something 126 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,039 Speaker 5: totally out of the box together, because those shared experiences 127 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:44,919 Speaker 5: genuinely do really connect you. And then the final thing 128 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 5: I'll say, and this is going to sound so from 129 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 5: left Field, ask your friends for help. 130 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 2: We love talking about the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. 131 00:05:57,720 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 2: And I think I'm still a voting member after this 132 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,480 Speaker 2: second that we did where I probably revealed too much 133 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 2: about the voting process. 134 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: Thank god, I don't know. 135 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 2: I don't I didn't get a second voting slip for 136 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 2: the year. But I also didn't get told I'm not 137 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 2: so I don't know. Oh, but I was never told 138 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 2: I was kicked out. Do you normally get your voting 139 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 2: slip by now? 140 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 6: I don't know. 141 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 1: I've only ever had it once. 142 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 6: Everyone it was, But. 143 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 2: They now are doing the Rock and Roll Hall of 144 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 2: Fame Voice your choice, And I don't think if you 145 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 2: win it you get in, but I think it factors in, 146 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 2: like it's part of. 147 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: Like a percentage of the overall. 148 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 6: And anyone can vote. This is just anyone in the world. 149 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, because you. 150 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 2: Can do it by visiting the Rock and Roll Hall 151 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 2: of Fame. I'm just going to read some of these here, 152 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 2: so the raw. Okay, here's what the deal is the 153 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 2: Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. If you vote on 154 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 2: that website when they do that, that is a percentage 155 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:58,040 Speaker 2: this that you do. There is just them kind of 156 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 2: wanting to know. But I think it could also like 157 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 2: secretly affect the people that are making the decisions. So 158 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 2: there is one online pull the matters. 159 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:06,040 Speaker 6: But here you go. 160 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: I'll read you a person, and you just tell me 161 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: if you think they should be in the rock and 162 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: Wall got it, And it's like do they deserve to 163 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: be in there now? 164 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 7: Right? 165 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 2: Like, because well, you can only get in if it's 166 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 2: like twenty five years past your first album. Okay, and 167 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 2: these all these people meet that required it, maybe twenty 168 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 2: I should know this as a voting member, you should. 169 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:28,440 Speaker 1: I only look at the people they give me and go, 170 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 1: do they deserve it? Mike? 171 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 2: Will you let us know when you figure that out 172 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 2: it's either twenty after their first album or twenty five. 173 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 8: But okay, here we go. The Cranberries, Yes, no, I 174 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 8: don't think that I have a body big enough. I 175 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 8: answer it way too quickly. I mean because they got 176 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:47,880 Speaker 8: they got jams and they were a staple. They got 177 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 8: like three bops, like Dreams, they got like Zombie, hold on, 178 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 8: hold on, hold on Linger that's it. 179 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:57,160 Speaker 1: Shoot, those are the only three bangers they got. 180 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 6: Do you have to let it? Lingers a bit. 181 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 1: Some by interesting dreams. 182 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 6: My love. 183 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: Every way got it? That's dreams, Mike. We cranberried up. 184 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: See what they're fourth? There's one more. 185 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 2: But even if it's four, I don't think that's enough 186 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 2: to get in the Rock and Hall. 187 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: And it is twenty five years by the way. Okay, okay, 188 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 1: I mean that works. But yeah, you're right. 189 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 8: I may have answered that one way too quick because 190 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 8: I do like the Cranberries. But you're you're talking like 191 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 8: maybe two albums that I remember. 192 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:41,079 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there. But to be fair, if you 193 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: have an album that. 194 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 2: Is transcendent, for example, Oasis, like I think Oasis should 195 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:48,920 Speaker 2: be in the Rock and Hall of Fame, and they 196 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 2: really only have one massive album, their second album. 197 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,800 Speaker 1: Okay, the fourth list that is Oh to my Family. 198 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 6: My father. 199 00:08:57,080 --> 00:09:00,599 Speaker 1: You're making that up, my mother? Are you making I 200 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:04,079 Speaker 1: swear that's how it goes. I'm swhere that's how that 201 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: song goes. 202 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 6: Are you making that? 203 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:06,880 Speaker 7: Nope? 204 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:09,679 Speaker 8: You think just because I said I heard family, Yeah, 205 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 8: I went right to father them. 206 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 1: That's what she says. 207 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:15,079 Speaker 2: That's a jam number one, Linger too, Zombie number three, 208 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 2: Oh to my Family, it has. 209 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: Oh I know this song, dude, dude, you remember. 210 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 9: My father. 211 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 4: I do. 212 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 8: I'm telling you man, okay, but you know what, now 213 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 8: that you say that Oasis with one good album, I'm 214 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 8: want to put Cranberries in. 215 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 2: This is Sunday, I remember this one. I don't think 216 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 2: they can't because the lead sing or die. But I 217 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:44,959 Speaker 2: don't think if the Cranbers were united right now that 218 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 2: there would be like a oh my god, everybody guess 219 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 2: what they're back together. You're right, I do like Cranberries, 220 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 2: but rock and Hall of Fame I don't think so. Okay, 221 00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 2: but it's not saying you're wrong, yeah, nor is it 222 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:57,680 Speaker 2: saying that I'm right. 223 00:09:57,760 --> 00:09:59,319 Speaker 8: I did answer it very quickly, but I'm going to 224 00:09:59,400 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 8: stand behind it. 225 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,079 Speaker 2: Smith's I don't get the smith Why are the Smiths 226 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:06,840 Speaker 2: so popular in Mexico, in southern Texas and Mexico. 227 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's very Latino, extreme huge in California. I don't 228 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: know why. I just always loved him and I don't 229 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: know why. I guess because of Mexican. 230 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 6: Who are the Smiths like? 231 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 7: Give me a morrisey? 232 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:16,319 Speaker 1: Oh yeah? 233 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 2: Why is Morsey so loved by Hispanics, Mexicans and Latinos? 234 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 1: I think it's his voice, just that suit because he's 235 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: not he has kind of like that old school vibe 236 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 1: to him. But he's not Mexican. No, he's white. 237 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 9: He's like white. 238 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: And yeah, I never knew, and I was never like 239 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:30,840 Speaker 1: a I'm not a hater. I was never a fan, 240 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:33,839 Speaker 1: but I remember my friends being like, yeah, Mexicans love him, 241 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 1: Like really, I say this as a Mexican big in 242 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: like the Trolo community. Well I'm not crazy for saying that, right. 243 00:10:40,080 --> 00:11:09,359 Speaker 6: Oh yeah, wow, cast up little food for yourself. 244 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 7: Life. 245 00:11:11,040 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 6: Oh it's pretty bad. It's pretty beautiful. 246 00:11:13,679 --> 00:11:15,200 Speaker 9: Thing beautiful that for. 247 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 6: A little more said he you're kicking with full with 248 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 6: Amy Brown. 249 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 10: All right, So I'm going to talk about hate following. 250 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 10: This could be a hobby that you are participating in 251 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 10: and you don't even realize it. Now, after I tell 252 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 10: you about hate following, I'm going to share with you 253 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 10: a hobby that can make you happier, because hate following 254 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 10: definitely does not. But I did see the happy hobby 255 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:47,439 Speaker 10: situation multiple times this week. I saw articles when I 256 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 10: was on social media when I was searching news prep 257 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 10: for the Bobby Bone Show, and I was like, oh, 258 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:54,679 Speaker 10: this could be worth noting because this type of hobby 259 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 10: might be something we could all do, and maybe it's 260 00:11:57,760 --> 00:11:59,719 Speaker 10: just the nudge you need to finally do it. I 261 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 10: will give you a hint. Therapy Cat has already started 262 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 10: something like this, and who knew she was onto something? 263 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:07,679 Speaker 11: So hate following is a thing. 264 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 10: Again. We may not know that we're doing it, but 265 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:13,000 Speaker 10: it's a social media habit that we fall into. If 266 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 10: you follow people with perfect photos or someone who posts 267 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 10: offensive political things that you don't agree with, you might 268 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:24,719 Speaker 10: be hate following. A behavioral psychologist named Denise Dudley was 269 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:28,199 Speaker 10: talking about how you don't know you're doing this destructive behavior, 270 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:31,599 Speaker 10: but when you hate follow, you're secretly hoping for a 271 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:35,559 Speaker 10: politically incorrect slip up or a bad hair day to 272 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:39,199 Speaker 10: make yourself feel a little bit better about your own life. 273 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 10: And sometimes we hate follow people who seem to have 274 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 10: it all just to remind ourselves why we. 275 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 12: Don't like them. 276 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 10: And the problem with that is hate following creates stress, anxiety, 277 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 10: low self esteem, or even depression. So experts suggest to 278 00:12:55,080 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 10: unfollow the people who fit the category and move on. 279 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:01,079 Speaker 10: I will say that I went through my feed and 280 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:03,680 Speaker 10: I couldn't say one hundred percent I was hate following, 281 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:07,839 Speaker 10: But when I used some of this article to assess like, 282 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 10: do I really like this person? Do I align with 283 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:12,839 Speaker 10: this person? How do I feel after I watch this person? 284 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 10: And then I thought, oh, sometimes when maybe they mess 285 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 10: up or it seems like their life isn't as perfect 286 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:21,200 Speaker 10: as I thought, do I feel a little bit better 287 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:24,400 Speaker 10: about my own life when I see that happen? And 288 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 10: I was able to answer yes to that. So being 289 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:31,559 Speaker 10: honest here, I unfollowed someone that fit that category, So 290 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:34,199 Speaker 10: make sure you're not hate following. I didn't realize I 291 00:13:34,320 --> 00:13:36,440 Speaker 10: was doing it, and experts say a lot of people 292 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:38,839 Speaker 10: are doing it, and yeah, we don't even realize it. 293 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:43,760 Speaker 10: Now on to more positive hobby news. Taking up arts 294 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:46,800 Speaker 10: and crafts could be a game changer in your happiness. 295 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:50,199 Speaker 10: So if you want to lower cortisol levels and have 296 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:54,360 Speaker 10: overall better well being, simply take up an arts and 297 00:13:54,440 --> 00:13:55,320 Speaker 10: crafts hobby. 298 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 4: Yeah. 299 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 10: See therapy cat. She's been onto this with her painting. 300 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:00,840 Speaker 10: Like if you go over to her house at her 301 00:14:00,920 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 10: kitchen table, she just has this whole arts and crafts 302 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 10: bin in the corner now and then on the table 303 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 10: she'll just have a blank canvas and some paint so 304 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 10: she can bust it out at any time. But it 305 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:13,920 Speaker 10: doesn't have to even be as complicated as paint and 306 00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 10: a canvas and all the things like you can just 307 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 10: draw if you want to. Doctor Helen Keyes, a cognitive psychologist, 308 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:24,280 Speaker 10: just released a new study talking about this, and she 309 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 10: said that engaging with arts and crafts is accessible and affordable, 310 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 10: and options such as knitting and drawing require very little 311 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:37,640 Speaker 10: tools and can be so engaging and creatively fulfilling. And 312 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 10: people in the study reported more happiness, better life satisfaction, 313 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 10: and sense of lives being worthwhile if they were participating 314 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:50,360 Speaker 10: in an arts and craft project. So, guys, this is 315 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:52,920 Speaker 10: really simple. I think we can all do this. And 316 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:54,680 Speaker 10: you know, I was talking about that event I went 317 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 10: to last night for music teachers and hearing all the 318 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 10: stories and seeing all the kids play their in instruments. 319 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:02,880 Speaker 10: I got a little annoyed at my mom that she 320 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:05,240 Speaker 10: let me quit piano when I was a kid. And 321 00:15:05,360 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 10: I was encouraged though that even at forty three, I 322 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 10: could start taking piano lessons make that a hobby. It's 323 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 10: not going to be guitar for me. I took lessons 324 00:15:13,840 --> 00:15:17,240 Speaker 10: several years ago and my fingers hurt so bad, Like 325 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 10: I just don't know that that's gonna be a thing 326 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:22,560 Speaker 10: for me. But piano I think I could get into. 327 00:15:22,840 --> 00:15:25,680 Speaker 10: And I looked up some of the benefits of playing piano. 328 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:30,680 Speaker 10: Stress management came up, creativity in the brain, improve coordination, 329 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 10: self esteem, improves concentration, enhanced memory, math improvement. I mean, 330 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 10: the list goes on, improved mental health, neuroplasticity, focus, goal setting, 331 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 10: cultural enrichment. 332 00:15:44,120 --> 00:15:45,480 Speaker 11: Why would my mom take me out of that? 333 00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 10: So now at forty three, because I have a keyboard 334 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:49,680 Speaker 10: at my house, I don't have a piano, but I 335 00:15:49,760 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 10: do think I could start taking some piano lessons and. 336 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 11: Add that to my hobby belt. 337 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:58,320 Speaker 10: But if you have ADHD like me, you know that 338 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 10: we like to start a lot of hobbies and not 339 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:04,120 Speaker 10: necessarily complete them. But I'm working on that maybe this 340 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 10: could be something that I follow through with and I do. 341 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 10: And so I'm going to get my arts and crafts 342 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 10: little section at my house set up, and I'm gonna 343 00:16:11,080 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 10: get my little keyboard set up. And these are to 344 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 10: be some hobbies that are going to add to my life. 345 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:17,680 Speaker 10: And I still want to add my garden to my 346 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 10: backyard too, which I've gardened before and I loved that 347 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 10: so much that I can't wait to bring it back. 348 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 1: We're gonna do it live. 349 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:33,040 Speaker 9: We are the one, two, three Sore Losers. What up, everybody? 350 00:16:33,120 --> 00:16:35,200 Speaker 9: I am lunchbox. I know the most about sports, so 351 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:38,760 Speaker 9: I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions, because 352 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 9: I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all. 353 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:43,680 Speaker 13: It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male. 354 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 13: I live on the north side of Nashville with Bayser, 355 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 13: my wife. 356 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:47,160 Speaker 6: We do have a farm. 357 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 13: It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot 358 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 13: of crops. Hopefully soon corn pumpkins, rye. I believe maybe 359 00:16:55,880 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 13: a little fescue to be determined. 360 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 9: Over to you, coach, And here's a clip from this 361 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:08,240 Speaker 9: week's episode of The Sore Losers. My dad has a 362 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:11,640 Speaker 9: tendency to get lost, and so we do the pod 363 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:13,919 Speaker 9: on Wednesday and he's like, man, I need a cigarette. 364 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:16,160 Speaker 9: But he's like, I left the cigarettes at the house. 365 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:18,359 Speaker 9: I was like, well, I got to record some commercials. 366 00:17:18,720 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 9: You want to just hang out? Why record commercials and 367 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 9: then we can go get your cigarettes. He's like, no, 368 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:25,920 Speaker 9: where's the gas station around here. I'm gonna just walk 369 00:17:25,920 --> 00:17:29,000 Speaker 9: and get cigarettes. He said, all right, you're gonna walk 370 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 9: out the back alley right, hit that street, take a right, 371 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:34,879 Speaker 9: and you walk go down to the end of the 372 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:36,680 Speaker 9: block inside on your left hand side on the corner. 373 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,920 Speaker 13: I don't know about the take a right from the alley. 374 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:41,960 Speaker 13: You'd actually want to take a left. No, no, no, 375 00:17:42,359 --> 00:17:44,480 Speaker 13: if you walk straight out here, straight out of here, 376 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:46,840 Speaker 13: straight out the back door, straight out the back door, 377 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 13: and are we in the alley or I'm making a 378 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:50,000 Speaker 13: right on the album. 379 00:17:49,720 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 9: Now walk through the alley till the next street, Like, 380 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 9: buy the parking garage in the street, and you would 381 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 9: take it. You take it right, walk down gas station 382 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:01,120 Speaker 9: on the corner, no problem, Send him on his way, 383 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:03,720 Speaker 9: Send him with my wallet because he doesn't have his 384 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 9: wallet with him. And I get done with the commercials 385 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 9: and he's not back yet, and I'm like, you know what, 386 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,320 Speaker 9: I'll just drive down the road and I'll see him walking. 387 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:16,040 Speaker 13: He's playing dice with a couple of hoboes. 388 00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:19,360 Speaker 7: There was a nice looking lady that wanted to talk. 389 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 9: I was like, Okay, he'll just be walking back, you know, 390 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:26,560 Speaker 9: smoking a cigarette. And I drive from here to that 391 00:18:27,080 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 9: little convenience store no toolbox, oh no, And I'm like, 392 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:35,159 Speaker 9: oh god, where could he be at this point? Did 393 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:37,399 Speaker 9: you think he died? I didn't think he died. I 394 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:39,680 Speaker 9: just thought this dude is way lost. He could be. 395 00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 9: You know, I'm worried he's near the Cumberland. I don't know, 396 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:47,240 Speaker 9: too soon, too soon, And so I call him. I said, 397 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 9: where are you? He goes, I don't know. I'm at 398 00:18:50,880 --> 00:18:51,840 Speaker 9: some shell station. 399 00:18:53,160 --> 00:18:54,360 Speaker 13: Ah, I know where he went. 400 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 9: And I'm like, shell station, How did you get all 401 00:18:57,560 --> 00:19:00,680 Speaker 9: the way over there? That's like a mile from the 402 00:19:00,760 --> 00:19:02,000 Speaker 9: STATIONE blew. 403 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 13: Through the closest gas station and Jeff dog golling and 404 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:07,199 Speaker 13: found like three blocks. 405 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:09,480 Speaker 9: Oh you know, he went like a mile. I'm a 406 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:11,119 Speaker 9: long sixty five. 407 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 7: He goes. He goes, I'm at sad to get my 408 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 7: steps in. 409 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:19,399 Speaker 9: He goes, I'm at seventeenks had to get your steps. 410 00:19:19,720 --> 00:19:20,960 Speaker 9: Did you check them on your watch? 411 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 7: I checked him on my wife. 412 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:24,359 Speaker 9: He goes, I'm at seventeenth and something. I was like, 413 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:26,680 Speaker 9: I know where you're at. He goes, oh shit, I 414 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 9: just walked out of the store with a drink. I 415 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:30,280 Speaker 9: gotta go back in armed raw. 416 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 7: I was trying to find the street sign and he 417 00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 7: was in. 418 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:36,240 Speaker 9: The middle of drinking his drink while he's getting cigarettes. 419 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:39,879 Speaker 9: So then I I'm like, I'll be there, and he goes, 420 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 9: I'm gonna get charged for shoplifting. I'm gonna go back 421 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 9: in the store. I said, I'll be right there. 422 00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:46,200 Speaker 7: I thought I was ray there. I was getting all nervous. Ah, 423 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 7: you weren't parked though, You're good. 424 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:50,520 Speaker 9: So I pull in the parking lot and he's just 425 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 9: standing there with his arms folded. And he gets in 426 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 9: the car and I said, fold it in front of 427 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,480 Speaker 9: him or behind him? In front of him? I said, 428 00:19:58,520 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 9: you get your cigarettes. He goes no, and I said, well, 429 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:05,919 Speaker 9: where's your drink? He goes, I gave it back to him. 430 00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 1: I was like, what do you mean. 431 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:12,439 Speaker 9: He goes, well, I tried to buy cigarettes and they 432 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:16,560 Speaker 9: asked me for my ID. What a disaster, he goes, 433 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:17,920 Speaker 9: and I didn't have my I D. So I said 434 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:19,560 Speaker 9: I don't have my idea. He goes, I can't sell 435 00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 9: you the cigarettes, and. 436 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 7: I said, I got my son's and he goes, no, 437 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:24,199 Speaker 7: you gotta have yours. 438 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,440 Speaker 9: And he goes, if my son's forty three, you think 439 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,440 Speaker 9: I'm older than eighteen. And the guy goes, can't sell 440 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 9: without your ID. And then he goes, you want to 441 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:36,240 Speaker 9: buy that drink. My dad goes, no, you can keep it. 442 00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 9: He'd already drink half of it. What a company man, 443 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 9: he had drinking half the coke. And he was so 444 00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 9: pissed off that he just left the coke there and said. 445 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,440 Speaker 7: No, you can keep it. Ridiculous. Yeah, that's I said, 446 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:49,440 Speaker 7: can I buy a gun? 447 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:54,480 Speaker 9: And they said sure here, and so I said, do 448 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 9: you want me to go in and get your cigarettes? 449 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:57,400 Speaker 9: He goes, not at this place. I'll just go when 450 00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:00,320 Speaker 9: we get home. I'm all right, Well that was fun. 451 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 13: Ah there, I'll take some Virginia slims. 452 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:06,359 Speaker 9: So no, it's Marlboro lights. Soft pack. No, no, no 453 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:09,160 Speaker 9: hard pack. I don't know if they do soft pack. 454 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:11,800 Speaker 9: But yes, that was my dad's adventure. He ended up. 455 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:14,080 Speaker 9: Instead of going one block to a gas station, he 456 00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:15,720 Speaker 9: walked one over a mile away. 457 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:18,159 Speaker 7: Yeah. I still don't believe there's a gas station there. 458 00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 7: It didn't look like one to me. 459 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 13: I heard the directions in the hallway, and he just 460 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 13: didn't give him as emphatically as he should have. 461 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:25,359 Speaker 9: You know, he was right past it. 462 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:30,320 Speaker 13: It's right next to us. It's him, though anybody could miss. 463 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:31,840 Speaker 13: It doesn't look like a gas station. It looks like 464 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,040 Speaker 13: a house without a gas that would be it. 465 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 7: I'm sitting there looking for seven to eleven shell whatever. 466 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,800 Speaker 9: He was looking for gas pumps. There are no gas 467 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:40,680 Speaker 9: pumps at this place. 468 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:42,440 Speaker 7: Well then, how's it called a gas station? 469 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 13: But you'll know when you get in there, because the 470 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 13: guy's always got horse racing on and he's betting it. 471 00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 7: Woh oh. 472 00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:49,480 Speaker 9: He's got that newspaper rolled up and he is looking 473 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 9: at the Oh, we're going to start. 474 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,600 Speaker 7: He told me it's a convenience store, and he told 475 00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:55,680 Speaker 7: me a gas station, So I mean, what are you 476 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 7: going to look for gas pumps out front? 477 00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 9: But then I'm shocked he was able to find the 478 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 9: shell because he had walk through the hotel like parking 479 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 9: lot all the way across two blocks. See the a loft, 480 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,639 Speaker 9: look up to your right. Huh, there's a shell. Then 481 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 9: he has to cross Broadway. I mean, how many streets 482 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,159 Speaker 9: did you curs? That's what I'm saying, is all to 483 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,440 Speaker 9: get turned down for the cigarettes because the guy was 484 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:18,679 Speaker 9: a jack. And then that's the problem. That's the problem. 485 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,040 Speaker 9: What is the big deal? Like he obviously is older 486 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:23,200 Speaker 9: than eighteen years old. 487 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:26,520 Speaker 7: Some people think I look young enough. I'm eighteen. 488 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:31,040 Speaker 9: Okay, it's obvious you're eighteen years old. It is obvious 489 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 9: when you walk in there that you are eighteen years old. 490 00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:36,159 Speaker 9: Why do we waste the time of Oh, I need 491 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:39,159 Speaker 9: to see your ID. I can't sell you cigarettes. It 492 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:40,960 Speaker 9: is so stupid. 493 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 7: Agreed? 494 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 13: Well, I took the alcohol and tobacco class. And actually 495 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,719 Speaker 13: the loop around with that is maybe the camera has 496 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,320 Speaker 13: to see with the ID. But if you say how 497 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 13: old are you? Or are you eighteen? And they you 498 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:57,560 Speaker 13: can't lie if you're a sting operation. So that's all 499 00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 13: you have to say. So dude, when I was at 500 00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:02,240 Speaker 13: Texas State, hey man, uh yeah, cool, you're good to go. 501 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:05,000 Speaker 13: That's how I saved every time ten seconds. I never 502 00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:06,600 Speaker 13: scanned an ID in two years. 503 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,480 Speaker 9: When I was in Dublin. Guess how many times they 504 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,400 Speaker 9: asked for your ID? Zero. 505 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:14,760 Speaker 7: Well, I don't think there's a age for drinking or 506 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 7: anything there. I think you can drink as long as you. 507 00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:19,680 Speaker 9: I don't think a twelve year old can drink. 508 00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 7: Well, I think if you're with your parents, I think 509 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:22,200 Speaker 7: it's okay. 510 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:24,600 Speaker 13: I don't I have no idea, I don't know. I 511 00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:27,520 Speaker 13: just I'm just saying the whole time. The whole time 512 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,440 Speaker 13: here in Dublin. You didn't ask the one question that 513 00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:34,080 Speaker 13: was mind boggling us all, how old do you have 514 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:35,679 Speaker 13: to be to drink? When there's a kid that's eight 515 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:36,800 Speaker 13: years old drinking. 516 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:36,879 Speaker 1: Next to you? 517 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:38,840 Speaker 9: I didn't see an eight year old drinking next to me, 518 00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 9: and I said. 519 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,159 Speaker 13: You'd rather hear about the man you rivalry. How the 520 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:45,280 Speaker 13: guy turned to Dublin. My dad slapped me and said. 521 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:48,480 Speaker 9: You're never rooting for them, they're the bad guy. 522 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,480 Speaker 13: I'd have been like, shot the fuck up? Answer my question? 523 00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:53,080 Speaker 13: How old do you have to be to drink here? 524 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 7: Thanks? 525 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 1: Instead, you went on. 526 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 13: A whole diatribe about why the guy rooted for somebody 527 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 13: else because his dad slapped him with his belt. As 528 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:04,439 Speaker 13: a kid, who gives a hell buddy? Where's the hot chicks? 529 00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 13: And how old do you have to be to drink? 530 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,919 Speaker 13: I get what I want when people start talking gibber 531 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,440 Speaker 13: jabbern and I get my information. I don't give it. 532 00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,640 Speaker 7: But you were twelve and you got hit with a belt. Awesome, cool, 533 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 7: go maze gibber jabbering. 534 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 9: Now do you think man, you's gonna win today? That's 535 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,720 Speaker 9: all I care? What are the bud guys? 536 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,360 Speaker 7: That's how we left England. 537 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 9: Shut up, who wins the game tonight? I need some skag? 538 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:35,320 Speaker 7: Yes, that's what I was looking for. They didn't ask 539 00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:36,639 Speaker 7: for an ID for that, but. 540 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,720 Speaker 9: It said, hey, do you need an ID for skag? 541 00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 1: Hey it's Mike d And This week a Movie Mike's 542 00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:02,359 Speaker 1: Movie Podcast, I gave my top ten examples of the 543 00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,200 Speaker 1: best work in voice acting when it comes to animation. 544 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: I think voice acting is far underappreciated. When on a 545 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:11,720 Speaker 1: giant ran about why it should be included in the 546 00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:15,359 Speaker 1: oscars and included some of my favorite moments in movie history. 547 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,280 Speaker 1: I'll share a few with you now, but be sure 548 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,520 Speaker 1: to check out this full episode. Here's just a little 549 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 1: bit of Movie Mike's Movie Podcast. At number four, I 550 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:30,160 Speaker 1: have Tom Hanks voicing Woody in the Toy Story franchise one, two, three, 551 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:33,080 Speaker 1: and four and soon to be five, six, seven, eight, nine, 552 00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:36,359 Speaker 1: and ten. And Tom Hanks is one of those people who, 553 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:40,280 Speaker 1: unlike George Clooney, I do watch him in movies and thinks, man, 554 00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:43,159 Speaker 1: he has just a great voice. Because not only does 555 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 1: he have great facial expressions and mannerisms and just a 556 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,879 Speaker 1: great presence on the screen, he has a voice with 557 00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:55,360 Speaker 1: a lot of range. Particularly when Tom Hanks gets excited 558 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:59,200 Speaker 1: is my favorite thing, and not often do we get it. 559 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,720 Speaker 1: But when he gets angry is also really great. But 560 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 1: he usually doesn't really play characters that get angry a 561 00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 1: whole lot. He is primarily the good guy in movies. 562 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 1: Whenever he is a villain, it's like, oh, weird Tom 563 00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: Hanks as a villain. But I think this particular moment 564 00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,480 Speaker 1: in Toy Story one where he is fighting with Buzz 565 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:22,159 Speaker 1: Lightyear and shows how much control he has with his 566 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:26,680 Speaker 1: voice to really make you feel that emotion. Here's the 567 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:27,600 Speaker 1: scene I'm talking about. 568 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 6: What what are you talking about? You are toy? 569 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 9: You weren't the real buzz like you're You're an accent 570 00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:37,880 Speaker 9: fig yard. 571 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 7: You are a child plaything. 572 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:45,360 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Well, good written Sillney, because you hear him 573 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:48,879 Speaker 1: getting mad, but it also has a comedic tone to it. 574 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:50,720 Speaker 9: I love what he gets really frustrated. 575 00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:55,040 Speaker 1: That is just voice acting at its finest, and the 576 00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,680 Speaker 1: range she has with what you Loan to make you laugh, 577 00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:00,399 Speaker 1: to make you feel something there that he has a 578 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:03,200 Speaker 1: little bit more of a tone of anger, but then 579 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:06,240 Speaker 1: also to make you feel that sadness. The ending of 580 00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 1: Toy Story three, so long partner. 581 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 7: Ah, that is so good. 582 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,639 Speaker 1: I can't believe that they almost made Woody a ventriloquist 583 00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,159 Speaker 1: doll in Toy Story. That was the original design of 584 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 1: the character. Then they thought, oh, this looks a little 585 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 1: bit too freaky, and they decided to change Woody and 586 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,560 Speaker 1: make them a cowboy instead, because, Ah, kids would probably 587 00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,400 Speaker 1: be more inclined to want to play with a cowboy 588 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:32,520 Speaker 1: than a creepy ventriloquist doll. I think if you would 589 00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:35,240 Speaker 1: have been the ventriloquist, it would have reminded me of 590 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:38,600 Speaker 1: Slappy from Goosebumps, and I would have been terrified. Every 591 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,000 Speaker 1: kid in the nineties would have been terrified, and Toy 592 00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 1: Story probably would have tanked. So I'm glad they switched 593 00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 1: Woody to be a cowboy at number three. I have 594 00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:51,040 Speaker 1: Eddie Murphy voicing Donkey in the Shrek films, which they 595 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 1: are coming out with a new Shrek movie, not for 596 00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,399 Speaker 1: a couple of years. I think it's supposed to come 597 00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: out July first, twenty twenty six. I kind of forgot 598 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,920 Speaker 1: about Shrek four, one, two, and three were so big. 599 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:05,359 Speaker 1: Four came a little bit later, so I feel like 600 00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,159 Speaker 1: my excitement was a little bit watered down to the 601 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 1: fact that Shrek four did exist. But even more so 602 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 1: than Mike Myers's performance as Shrek, I think the true 603 00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,800 Speaker 1: standout star is Eddie Murphy. Along the same lines of 604 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:22,760 Speaker 1: Tom Hanks. Eddie also has such great control over his voice. 605 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,800 Speaker 1: But the reason I rank him just a little bit 606 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: higher is because I think Eddie Murphy on his own 607 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:31,560 Speaker 1: is just funnier. He has the stand up experience, he 608 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,800 Speaker 1: has all the characters he played on SNL, and I 609 00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 1: think he was born to do comedy. And I wouldn't 610 00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,680 Speaker 1: have thought that his best work would come in the 611 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:45,080 Speaker 1: world of animation. But he is just so dynamic as Donkey. 612 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,040 Speaker 1: This is still hands down my favorite performance of his 613 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 1: out of any of the movies. 614 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,080 Speaker 6: Night Only. 615 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:54,120 Speaker 7: It's Gonna be fun. 616 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 1: We can see him late swapping manless stars and in 617 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:58,520 Speaker 1: the morning, I'm making waffles. 618 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,280 Speaker 9: We do I sleep outside? 619 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:05,200 Speaker 6: Oh? 620 00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,040 Speaker 1: Well, I guess that's cool. 621 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 7: I mean I don't know you and you don't know me, 622 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 7: so I guess outside is best. You know, here I go. 623 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,160 Speaker 1: That clip right there encompasses everything, the comedy, the sadness, 624 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 1: the range of Adie Murphy. Steven Spielberg actually bought the 625 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 1: rights to the book that Shrek is based on, even 626 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:25,960 Speaker 1: though Shrek is just a big parody of all the 627 00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,360 Speaker 1: Disney fairy tales and that's kind of what these movies 628 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 1: served as in the two thousands, But he originally wanted 629 00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:35,000 Speaker 1: to make a little bit more of a traditional animated film, 630 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:37,400 Speaker 1: and he wanted Bill Murray to be the voice of 631 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,960 Speaker 1: Shrek and Steve Martin to be the voice of Donkey. 632 00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 1: I think that would have been fine, but it would 633 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 1: have had a much different just overall feeling, and no 634 00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 1: way that Steve Martin would have done as good a 635 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 1: job as Donkey. And the other casting change that they 636 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:56,680 Speaker 1: had was Chris Farley was actually originally going to be Shrek, 637 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,120 Speaker 1: and there's test footage with him. Even the character of 638 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,240 Speaker 1: Shrek is modeled to look like Chris Farley. If you 639 00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,000 Speaker 1: look at them side by side, which the design did 640 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 1: change from the first iteration, it kind of resembles what 641 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 1: Chris Farley look like. And I think it was a 642 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:16,480 Speaker 1: role that Chris Farley was really interested in doing because 643 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,840 Speaker 1: he was seen for the majority of his career as 644 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,360 Speaker 1: being the big dumb, fat guy, and as a former 645 00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:25,440 Speaker 1: big dumb, fat guy, I know what kind of an 646 00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:28,600 Speaker 1: impact that can have on you, where you have been 647 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:31,680 Speaker 1: celebrated for all the wacky things you do, falling down, 648 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:35,840 Speaker 1: getting hurt, saying ridiculous things. Sometimes you just want somebody 649 00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:39,120 Speaker 1: to take you seriously. And I think Shrek was going 650 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 1: to be that for him. And if you listen to 651 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:45,680 Speaker 1: this clip of him and Eddie Murphy doing some early 652 00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:49,280 Speaker 1: lines with some very rough animations, you can really hear 653 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:50,160 Speaker 1: that in his voice. 654 00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:53,120 Speaker 7: Oh this is one of those onion things. 655 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:56,440 Speaker 1: No, this is one of those drop it and leave 656 00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:57,960 Speaker 1: me alone things. 657 00:30:58,560 --> 00:30:59,920 Speaker 7: Well, why don't you want to talk about him? 658 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:01,520 Speaker 1: Why do you want to talk about it? 659 00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:02,920 Speaker 7: Why you answer the question with a question? 660 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:04,080 Speaker 6: Why are you asking questions? 661 00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:04,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to answer. 662 00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:05,480 Speaker 7: Why are you blocking? 663 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:06,160 Speaker 10: I'm not blocking? 664 00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:07,960 Speaker 7: Then why do you have problems expressing your wonts? 665 00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:08,800 Speaker 6: I don't. 666 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:10,800 Speaker 9: I want you to shut up? 667 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 6: See no problem. 668 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:13,800 Speaker 9: You're just displacing your anger. 669 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 1: Believe me, it's properly placed. You're really mad. 670 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:16,600 Speaker 7: Whoever did this to you? 671 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:18,200 Speaker 6: No one did anything to me? 672 00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:19,680 Speaker 9: Yes, yes, someone hurts you so bad. 673 00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:20,880 Speaker 7: Someone hurts you many years ago. 674 00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:24,480 Speaker 1: Beat my parents out of this right through. And I 675 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,479 Speaker 1: would have paid to see that movie more so than 676 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 1: I would have paid to see Mike Myers version, even 677 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,680 Speaker 1: though that is the version we know and love, but 678 00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,000 Speaker 1: he has like this weird iron accent that I think 679 00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 1: is still an interesting choice on Shrek. So that's why 680 00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,320 Speaker 1: I didn't include Mike Myers on this list. I included 681 00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:43,240 Speaker 1: Eddie Murphy. But if you would have had the version 682 00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 1: with Chris Farley and Eddie Murphy, I think Chris Farley 683 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:49,320 Speaker 1: would be on this list just from that performance alone, 684 00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 1: and again that is very raw, but you hear that 685 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:56,680 Speaker 1: real acting ability in his voice and also him getting 686 00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 1: angry there is like classic Chris Farley. I think that 687 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,760 Speaker 1: would have been a but on the list at number 688 00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:05,320 Speaker 1: three is Eddie Murphy as Donkey in Trick. 689 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:22,400 Speaker 6: Cary. She's a queen and talking and she's getting really 690 00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:26,240 Speaker 6: not afraid to fas so just let it flow. No 691 00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:32,600 Speaker 6: one can do it quiet car Line. It sound like Caroline. 692 00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,520 Speaker 3: She is a magical little girl and like we we 693 00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 3: call her the Fomo baby because she just really wanted 694 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 3: to be here, her girl. 695 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,560 Speaker 14: But it's crazy a thought, how fear and faith are 696 00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,120 Speaker 14: just such a close line after you know, like it's 697 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:49,840 Speaker 14: like on that they walk the same line exactly like I. 698 00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:53,080 Speaker 12: Felt like God took me to literally the edge of 699 00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:55,280 Speaker 12: my tolerance. 700 00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,600 Speaker 14: Like you said, I'm gonna broak in all your like 701 00:32:57,640 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 14: I'm gonna push you as far as you can with 702 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 14: your fear, the worst, like the. 703 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:05,800 Speaker 12: Worst version of me, like the most broken version of 704 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 12: these where I got taken to and then the redemption 705 00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 12: ever since then is just incredible, like joy, love like tenfold. 706 00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:22,280 Speaker 12: It trumps the fear, brokenness, pain. Yeah, it makes me 707 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:24,760 Speaker 12: like want to do that again. I would even go 708 00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:25,800 Speaker 12: on bed rest again for you. 709 00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:26,560 Speaker 6: Would I would? 710 00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:26,920 Speaker 9: Yeah? 711 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:27,400 Speaker 1: I would? 712 00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:34,360 Speaker 14: Do you feel like going to that dark place so 713 00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:36,400 Speaker 14: opened you up to a place of love that you 714 00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:37,800 Speaker 14: couldn't have experienced otherwise. 715 00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:41,600 Speaker 12: Yes, it opened me up to connections with people. I 716 00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:45,160 Speaker 12: finally learned how to like lean on people because Maddie 717 00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:49,920 Speaker 12: knows I'm a very guarded, reserved person. It's hard to 718 00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:51,440 Speaker 12: pull the layers out of it. 719 00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:53,200 Speaker 11: I'm like an onion. 720 00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,720 Speaker 3: I'm telling you, every five years I get like I 721 00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:03,000 Speaker 3: go in the Tay friendship bomb where she's like, yeah, 722 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:04,440 Speaker 3: so I got to tell you about this thing, and 723 00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:06,760 Speaker 3: I'm like what, And it's just like I should know 724 00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:08,960 Speaker 3: everything by like this truth bomb. 725 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:12,880 Speaker 14: But no, it's it's like the best though, because our personalities. 726 00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:15,560 Speaker 14: It's we are you an open book and you're a 727 00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:16,040 Speaker 14: shot book. 728 00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:17,839 Speaker 11: Yes, absolutely, it's. 729 00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:20,560 Speaker 3: Perfect, like and she kind of has taught me how 730 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,200 Speaker 3: to like, hey, we don't. 731 00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,680 Speaker 11: Have to share, you know, and that's key. I'm the 732 00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:25,160 Speaker 11: same as you. 733 00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:29,360 Speaker 3: Overshrry over shary is actually a little milky boot. 734 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 14: And I don't know if that's lying, but over sharing 735 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,040 Speaker 14: it leaks your energy out. 736 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:35,160 Speaker 2: You know. 737 00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,840 Speaker 12: And I'm I'm a minimal energy kind of gal, so 738 00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:40,920 Speaker 12: I can only give when when I can. 739 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,319 Speaker 11: But I think that clo being so close came from. 740 00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:47,560 Speaker 12: I think it's just my nature. Like I'm again just 741 00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:50,040 Speaker 12: like a minimal I'm not low energy because I. 742 00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:55,319 Speaker 11: I've got high vibes. Vibes minimal energy. Okay, get your 743 00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:56,440 Speaker 11: energy rested. 744 00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:59,520 Speaker 9: And I have this phrase that we use. 745 00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,240 Speaker 12: Like it's called coins, and it's like how many coins 746 00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:03,040 Speaker 12: do you have today? 747 00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,800 Speaker 5: And it's like your energy. 748 00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,799 Speaker 12: So you look up with five coins and then interactions 749 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:13,200 Speaker 12: take one coin, and then a bad traffic stop takes 750 00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,680 Speaker 12: another coin and all that stuff, and I probably wake 751 00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:17,799 Speaker 12: up every day with like three coins, so. 752 00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:18,680 Speaker 11: You're tired every day. 753 00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:21,040 Speaker 12: I'm like I relate to you on that yeah, always tired, 754 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:22,799 Speaker 12: You're just like vibeing, Like are you. 755 00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:24,200 Speaker 11: Just always kind of observing people? 756 00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,560 Speaker 14: Yes, oh yeah, and like kind of like taking it 757 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 14: all in, yeah, and like assessing the situation. It takes 758 00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:32,560 Speaker 14: a lot of energy to constantly be assessing the situation too. 759 00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,400 Speaker 14: And I love as you're feeling the energy out. Like 760 00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:36,320 Speaker 14: I can walk into a room and immediately I'm like, 761 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,839 Speaker 14: I feel the vibes. I'm like, I know exactly where 762 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:41,880 Speaker 14: someone is on the frequency level of like totally what 763 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:42,960 Speaker 14: we're going to be dealing with. 764 00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:44,680 Speaker 3: I can tell if I'm going to like someone, like 765 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:46,600 Speaker 3: by the minute I lock eyes with them, I'm just 766 00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,160 Speaker 3: like and not in a bitchy way, but just like 767 00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,880 Speaker 3: if you're a match mm yeah, an energy mat Yeah. Like, 768 00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:57,120 Speaker 3: especially in this business, we we have found like there's 769 00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:58,239 Speaker 3: a lot of people with like a. 770 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:02,120 Speaker 11: Big lot of egos and just from everything in this pain. 771 00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:07,960 Speaker 14: And be around egoy people is exhausting and it's like 772 00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,239 Speaker 14: to be and that takes all your coins, all the 773 00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:11,279 Speaker 14: coins exactly. 774 00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:11,360 Speaker 1: You get it. 775 00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:14,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, And they're like there's times where T and I 776 00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:16,840 Speaker 3: just like go in our little corner and we just 777 00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:18,799 Speaker 3: like and then it's funny because like other people will 778 00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:21,000 Speaker 3: start coming to our corner and we're like, hey, this is. 779 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:22,759 Speaker 11: The safe corner. You may not come to a corner 780 00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:23,919 Speaker 11: you're going to bring your bad energy. 781 00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:24,880 Speaker 6: You got bad energy or. 782 00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:26,640 Speaker 11: An ego problem, you gotta go. 783 00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,600 Speaker 3: But if you don't, come on and we're just chilling. Yeah, 784 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,920 Speaker 3: But the the like big personalities and stuff in this business. 785 00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:36,120 Speaker 3: Sometimes like we will be the artist that will like 786 00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:39,799 Speaker 3: sit back and let the other like bigger personalities kind 787 00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,120 Speaker 3: of just like run the thing and we'll just kind 788 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,359 Speaker 3: of even though I'm extroverted, I ain't trying to put 789 00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:47,439 Speaker 3: that much energy into like commanding a room. 790 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:48,840 Speaker 12: I'm like, you know, we got to do that on 791 00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:49,360 Speaker 12: the stage. 792 00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,640 Speaker 11: I ain't got energy for that, just like regularly. 793 00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:56,000 Speaker 14: But learning or to distribute your energy. How to distribute 794 00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:58,000 Speaker 14: your energy is like a fine art that you have 795 00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,920 Speaker 14: to craft. It is a craft of her superpowers. 796 00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:02,360 Speaker 11: Is okay? Talk to me about that? 797 00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:05,760 Speaker 14: Because crafting that now you got kids, Now you got husbands, 798 00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,920 Speaker 14: Now you're you know, you've been running a successful business 799 00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:10,080 Speaker 14: now for like a decade. 800 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:12,320 Speaker 11: You know your women in this business. 801 00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,600 Speaker 14: You have a lot, You've got employees, you're putting on shows, 802 00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:19,480 Speaker 14: you have tour buses. There's so many people like who 803 00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,360 Speaker 14: are relying on y'all, So how do. 804 00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:23,000 Speaker 11: You craft it? 805 00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:26,400 Speaker 12: I mean, I think it just is like a daily 806 00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:30,160 Speaker 12: conscious effort. I think it was a really big struggle 807 00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 12: for me in the beginning of our career because I 808 00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:36,319 Speaker 12: knew that people wanted like more of me, like they 809 00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,320 Speaker 12: kind of expected this bigger personality out of me, and 810 00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:42,240 Speaker 12: for a while, I like faked it and I was like, wow, 811 00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:46,400 Speaker 12: like lovely, outgoing, talkative, and then that's what landed me 812 00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:50,200 Speaker 12: on antidepressants at eighteen. And really, yeah, I was on 813 00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,880 Speaker 12: antidepressants during radio tour, but because I'm like, damn it, 814 00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:55,440 Speaker 12: I should have done that too. 815 00:37:57,400 --> 00:38:03,120 Speaker 14: Survival tours no joke, no jokes, and especially when we're eighteen. 816 00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:06,680 Speaker 11: Especially back then, you know, there's yeah, we'll write a book, 817 00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:07,160 Speaker 11: don't worry. 818 00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:12,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I forgot about that. 819 00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 3: But I think that just like that experience really showed 820 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:19,040 Speaker 3: us like, Okay, all we have is each other in ourselves. Yeah, 821 00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:21,440 Speaker 3: no one is going to protect us at all, and 822 00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:25,160 Speaker 3: so we just like really, you know, I think it 823 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,200 Speaker 3: kind of turned into a blessing where we just like 824 00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:28,840 Speaker 3: really went inward and we're. 825 00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:31,759 Speaker 11: Like, Okay, we just have to like we talk to 826 00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:32,880 Speaker 11: each other through our eyes. 827 00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:36,439 Speaker 3: Like if we're doing an interview and someone has said 828 00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:38,600 Speaker 3: something that we don't like, whatever, we just look at 829 00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:40,719 Speaker 3: each other and she doesn't have to say a word, 830 00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:42,719 Speaker 3: and I just shut it down or she shuts it down. 831 00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:44,640 Speaker 11: It's like, now you have the confidence to shut it down. 832 00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,120 Speaker 14: Oh yeah, but how empowering that you'll have each other 833 00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,960 Speaker 14: just like it would be kind of terrifying to be 834 00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:51,840 Speaker 14: at it alone. 835 00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:53,439 Speaker 12: And I don't think I could do it the same. 836 00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:55,960 Speaker 12: I wouldn't want to do I have gotten ran over. 837 00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,440 Speaker 11: And I would have destroyed. 838 00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:01,520 Speaker 6: Should i'd be like. 839 00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:03,239 Speaker 4: That. 840 00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:04,520 Speaker 11: I was just rid in the corner cry. 841 00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:16,920 Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for listening to this week's Sunday Sampler. 842 00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,360 Speaker 2: If you heard anything you like or you want to 843 00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,520 Speaker 2: hear more, go check it out on the podcast feed 844 00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,040 Speaker 2: just search for the show. 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