WEBVTT - Ep. 436: Babies, Breakups & Big Secrets (Ft. SK & Mylin) 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:05.120 We have to adopt our own kids due to laws. 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:08.160 The baby that I carried I am on. She's also 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:11.120 on the birth certificate. But it doesn't mean our oldest. 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:14.240 His superpower is logical. He's all want to know and 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:18.480 I need to know with logic, parent, Kay, they just 0:00:18.600 --> 0:00:19.239 gonna make us pet. 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:22.360 Welcome to Decisions Decisions. 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:25.000 I don't think you should say decision decisions. It sounded 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:25.239 like you. 0:00:25.320 --> 0:00:28.920 Was talking to Kursten. You definitely say to welcome, welcome 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:29.920 to the new podcast. 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:34.680 You want to say together decisions Decisions. 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:39.760 Hey guys, welcome to another week another episode of this 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:44.000 Ision Dision. It's your girl, may ev A k A 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:49.440 peg the Stallion aka Peggan Marcle ak A what Peggy 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:51.080 Bundy aka Dad Beach. 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:55.520 Okay, hey y'all, I'm weasy and we are in another foursme. 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:56.920 We have two ladies in the building. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:01:01.680 They're not podcasters, but I will say these are two 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:04.360 people that people keep sending me. I don't know if 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:07.319 they're just like, don't you know, everybody want to put 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:09.040 me up with somebody? We'll just be doing that and 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:10.240 it's probably because your braids. 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:14.120 Let's telling them to you to go. 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:18.640 Oh no, girls will send me like other like lesbian couple. 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:20.479 I know there's one I followed now and you beating 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:24.080 all her likes and I'm like some girl that does 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:26.679 this little thing where she dresses. 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:33.520 Kind of mag she does that sweat ship. What's her name? 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:41.080 Bring on of me? What? What? What's her name? Fine? 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:48.160 Say it? I think it's me and Weezy do not 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:51.559 have the same type. Okay, that's type, but this bitch 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:54.800 is I'll look, that's what she looks. You know what's crazy? 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:58.280 So she no, no, no, you know it's curzy for me. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.960 First off, she looks like a different bitch, which is crazy. 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.240 She does not look like the same girl the one 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:06.960 the first time I saw it. 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:07.919 The first time I saw. 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:10.560 It, she came up on my feet and I was like, wait, 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:11.440 that's the same tattoo. 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:13.280 Wait this is because I thought it was a couple. 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.120 I thought, wait, this is the same bitch. 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:20.080 For me, she looks way more better or to me, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:23.640 I'm more attracted to her masculine than them, which is 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:28.119 crazy because I normally only fuck femme girls because mask 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:30.600 bitches once they found out I find out, like I'm bisexual, 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:32.720 like mask bitches don't like bisexuals. 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:34.800 It's it's it's it's a fucking fact. 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:35.440 Do not. 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:39.120 No, no, no, no, they I don't think they like it. 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:41.959 I married Wait, you're bisexual. 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:44.560 Ten years ago when we got married. 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:51.000 Guess I'm sorry, y'all, hi, and what I threw used 0:02:51.040 --> 0:02:52.080 them because I didn't even hear you. 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:55.040 We have s KM Island in the building and there 0:02:55.080 --> 0:03:00.320 we go, Stokes Kennedy, Stokes Kennedy. So they are multi 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.639 hyphen it creatives, content creators, and they've been sharing their 0:03:03.680 --> 0:03:06.480 love story online, which is really why I know them 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:08.640 and many of you probably follow that men and seeing 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.000 them and to be the biggest part of this story 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:12.639 which we have couples on all the time just to 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:15.080 talk about love, but it is the fact that you 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.800 are raising three sons and you both carried to your children, 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:21.800 which you just never tend to see. And so honestly, 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.080 whenever we have to like a good look a couple, 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:25.960 I'll be like, let's do that on horrible decisions. But 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:29.760 we need to get into sperm donation. We've been talking 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:32.720 about evaniy Kay Williams, We've been talking about your friend. 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:35.400 We're seeing so many women decide to have children on 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:39.040 their own So I think outside of queer couples, gay men, 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.720 gay women having babies through SuperM donation, the conversation is 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:44.119 really going to help everybody. 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:46.360 So that's what I want to dig into. But before 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:47.960 we then also some whole shit. 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:52.720 We'd love to talk some queer shit, how mad women 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:53.880 don't like bisexual. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:55.200 We're gonna get into all the fun. 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:55.560 Yeah. 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:59.360 Actually, of course we want to know how you met 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.480 and on it, No Lie. Something I was thinking about. 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:03.720 We were recording with Paul Pierce and Azzar before this, 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:05.720 and one of the questions came up and you said, 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:07.480 would either of y'all be in an open relationship? And 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.040 I literally looked over and was like, that's all my 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:11.160 my listen would ask. 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:17.719 Out the gate. You're just gonna ask them on that episode. 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:19.560 You have to be locked in. Everybody's gonna be so 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:22.480 happy to even consider it, right, you should start there, 0:04:22.480 --> 0:04:26.320 are we love? Make sure. 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:33.360 Before we start giving them all because maybe they haven't 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:34.640 had this conversation together. 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.920 I'm thinking about, is this people sending me though, I'm 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:43.640 just saying, oh, what's up in California? 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:46.640 And I'm saying over the like, no lie, over the years, 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:49.000 like really like it's come up. They cute, y'all should 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:51.720 have them, But literally to me, I'm like, I know 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:54.159 the d ms with other women are. 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:58.000 Like, I'll be honest, We've been on the internet as 0:04:58.000 --> 0:04:59.359 a couple for a really long. 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:03.919 Time, and and I think that too for women. 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:06.039 I don't know, because men operate a different way on 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:08.800 the internet, the way that they are entitled. But for 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:11.640 women to see a married couple and be like what 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:14.680 y'all doing, it's very rare, very rarely would a woman 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:17.239 just operate like that in our dms now in public, 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:20.200 don't get me wrong, Like we be out and like 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:22.440 people should walk up to you, or how you approach 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:23.600 other people, whatever way it works. 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.679 They send y'all like, how do how do you normally 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:27.520 y'all get hit on? 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:31.080 As a couple. Me and poups are very touchy. 0:05:31.279 --> 0:05:33.520 We have a lot of PDA in general, which I 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.960 think turns in general. So if you're in a space 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:38.200 where somebody is I'm assuming you and your boyfriend or 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:39.880 husband don't know your partner beyond each other in a 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:42.920 certain kind of way. That almost always like invites people 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:43.880 to be like, I want to know what the hell 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.680 is happening over there, I'll be telling people get it wrong. 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:50.960 Get it wrong, making out. 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:53.400 But I've had a thing about PDA though. 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:55.440 That is such a great I don't think anyone's ever 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:56.640 said it, but that's fucking it. 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:57.640 That's when I started. 0:05:57.400 --> 0:05:59.080 Looking at I don't like each other now. I don't 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:02.359 want to like you, you know, and you do. So 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:04.480 we've been like, hey, it's. 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:06.120 Probably only two because y'all are attractive, Like, no one 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:08.560 wants to see ugly people make out in public, like 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:09.560 I don't think. 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:11.520 I don't you know what I mean, I don't think. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:15.159 I don't think unattractive couples get the energy where people 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:16.360 now want to see the makeout. 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:18.520 You see them people, please. 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:21.080 I was about to say the underlying idea of like 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:23.000 people who are open a lot of times on the internet, 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:25.560 the underlying like joke is that they're attractive. 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:25.919 Like people who are in. 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.200 Exactly right, they say you're ugly, can't get a man, 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:32.120 y'all dating like that, you're open because y'all are bad looking, 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:32.640 And I don't. 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:34.240 Think that's true. I don't think that's true. 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:36.479 So for those that haven't seen your page, got to 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:38.520 hear the love story. I'd love to know the age 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:42.320 you met and really like, was it truly you haul 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:43.840 second date where lesbians do? 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:47.240 How much time did it take? I mean it was quick, 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:48.160 but it wasn't that quick. 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:51.479 No, it wasn't our moment of meeting and stuff like that. 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:56.280 We didn't get together for three years. Yeah, okay, I heard, Yeah, wait, 0:06:57.320 --> 0:07:00.920 do you have a different story, because you're like, You're like, yeah. 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:01.680 That's a hour for me. 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:03.920 If by the time we did start to get together, 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:06.440 we started dating and like, you know, her stuff was 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:08.600 immediately at my place. You know, immediately you it's the 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:10.920 different direction. But we didn't know each other. 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:13.080 We did try to date, we did try to like 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:14.840 get for It took a little bit longer. 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:16.960 Yeah, we had some separation. I came to La, she 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.720 was still in Sacramento. I got a girlfriend, she had 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:20.840 a girlfriend. We split that decided, you know, like and 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:24.120 got back together. Whole thing before we finally decided to like, Okay, 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:25.360 we're gonna actually try to be together. 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:27.520 For people going through a breakup, I have a few 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:30.760 friends in my life and men and women that'll be like, 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:34.640 we'll probably get back together. Did you know, did you 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.200 always feel like it was someone to run to when 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:38.040 the breakup happened? 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:43.600 Did you be like, y'all, this is hilarious. 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:46.120 They don't y'all know what y'all might have to go 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:49.480 to the YouTube the way you are looking the way. 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.080 First off, she's shaking her head. 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:58.480 No, you shake your head, y, y'all, this is hilarious. 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:01.640 That's hilarious. Don't have to watch it, Oh my god. 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:05.320 But no, like I had her blocked, like her best 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:06.960 friend was still doing my hair and stuff like that. 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:08.760 But I'd be like, don't talk to me about her. 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:11.160 Don't be like we're separate, Like why. 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:11.800 Do women do this? 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:14.440 Do you know there's a woman? Why the do they 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:16.840 like I have a nigga? Tell me stop blocking? You 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:20.400 just go unblocked me? And clearly what made you unblock her? 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.440 Because we did unblock her? 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:27.080 Clearly you did. Oh yes, I called you un blocked 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:28.200 her to say happy birthday. 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:37.040 She was on my mind heavy and by can't, I 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:38.640 was like, where I look at. 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:41.000 What? 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:43.760 She was on my mind heavy? 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.560 And it was two years later and I was like, 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:50.400 I'm gonna just do it. When something's really heavy on 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:51.560 my heart, I'm just like just going. 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:59.720 And she was in town, so I know that birthday toxic. 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:03.200 You're so toxic. I'm not gonna lie to me. 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:06.839 To me, Sheve jobs should actually, well I know you didn't, 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:13.480 but Steve should in in heaven send down a thought 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:19.080 to women with iPhones, not give them the ability to 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:23.360 block anybody because they don't stand on business like you 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:28.160 unblocked this. You unblocked her to motherfucker say happy birthday, 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:30.760 as I'm in your city, Happy birthday. 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:33.920 She never had another birthday without me again. 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:45.880 Now, from the second time around, how do you act 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:49.520 or what do you change in the the second evolution 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:53.040 of a relationship, because do you address the old issues? 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:56.240 Do you start over new? Oh? Yeah, you do? You 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:57.040 address them? 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:59.920 And ours were glaring like ours are big, like I'm 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:01.560 We were supposed to just be separate for a little 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:02.880 bit of time, and then we ended up talking to 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:05.000 other people, right, So I think once that happened, she 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:05.920 was like, we're not doing this. 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:06.320 Call it. 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.600 We already got three hundred and forty miles between us. 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:10.720 You down there, I'm up here, like we can just 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.000 call it, and she blocked me. Right, So a lot 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.400 of time passed, like you said, two years. By the 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:17.240 time she hit me back up, I was probably in 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:19.720 the worst part of that relationship. You know, it was over. 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:22.079 That relationship was already over. It was almost kism the 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.800 way that she kind of was like plug, the way 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:31.480 that she but the way she called at that time. 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:33.240 I mean literally, I think that my girlfriend at the 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:34.680 time was cheating on me at that day. 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:36.160 At her birthday party. 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:39.880 Wait, your girlfriend was cheating on you at your birthday party? 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:40.320 Called her. 0:10:40.320 --> 0:10:42.160 She stepped away to go into the room to answer 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:44.240 my call, and I found out she didn't say no, 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:44.959 I didn't a call. 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:45.960 Yeah, I hadn't stepped away. 0:10:45.960 --> 0:10:48.960 I was in bed at my birthday party, like everybody 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:49.960 was in my living room. 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:52.800 The girl included this is how, this is how low. 0:10:52.840 --> 0:10:54.400 I hadn't have been to have that bitch actually in 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:56.520 my shit right, So like this girl was they they't 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:58.960 have whoever else she was dealing with in my house 0:10:59.120 --> 0:10:59.920 for my birthday. 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:01.840 Everybody was and I had wait and you didn't know 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:02.319 about it. 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:05.240 I knew enough to not be stupid, but I played stupid, 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:08.040 you know, like I knew and probably could have done better, 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:08.400 But I was. 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.680 Like it was another girl or a guy girl. Damn. 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.080 Every time I get mad at niggas, I'll be like 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:12.480 I'm going back. 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:14.680 No, just ain't either. Let's be very clear. 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:17.800 Wait, so she brought the girl that she was cheating 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:19.640 on you with to your house for your birthday? 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:22.560 House acting is up? She came say happy birthday. She 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:27.880 brought you these things. Now why I can't believe that? 0:11:28.000 --> 0:11:32.600 Why did you beat her? But you're also shot woo her? 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:37.160 Mostly mostly it's like it was my birthday. I'm really there. 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:39.280 It was a lot of reason for me to be like, actually, 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.320 you just want to go get in bed? I was. 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:46.080 I was sad. Did you whoop her ass? The next day? Like? 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:51.520 There there was no ass? Well? Absolutely, there was an absolutely. 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:56.520 How did you want my girlfriend for the other person? 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:56.599 No? 0:11:56.960 --> 0:11:59.200 Never, my only only the girl I was dating? Good? 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:08.240 Yeah, I did never get even though you. 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:06.480 You should have whooped the other girl ass too, because 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:10.200 she came to your house waiting and your motherfucking faith No, no, no, 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:13.240 you gotta whoop both bitches. Ask Wait a second, you're 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:16.319 not thinking that the girl who knows that she is 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:17.120 in a rationship. 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:18.800 I'm just saying, if I have to pick. 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:21.680 A bitch, yeah, if I have to like for me, 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:26.439 for me, Like, let's even turn this into a heterosexual 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:28.079 scenario where yes. 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:29.400 Wait, and you were brought into a sonar. 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:32.280 No, no, no, I'm saying, let's create a heterosexual scenario 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:35.120 because where yes, normally you should be upset at your partner, 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:37.040 you should never be mad at the other person. 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:41.800 To me, if if my partner even. 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:44.000 Brings a woman to the house, mind you, we got 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:45.280 pictures all over the house. 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:49.439 She knows that this is our home. If a bitch. 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:52.600 Walks into my house and sleeps with my man, knowing 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:54.600 that we are together, because she see me plastered all 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:57.079 over the motherfucking place, she could not ask whooped too, 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.840 just because she stepped foot in the motherfucking door, because bitch, 0:12:59.840 --> 0:13:03.360 you came to my house like it's the principle where normally, yes, 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:04.920 I believe you should be mad at your partner and 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:06.319 not the other party. 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.800 That I think the thing is. 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:12.440 I think I realized that the gaslighting and the like 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:15.320 lying of manipulation that I was receiving, I would be 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.760 foolish to think anybody else was not also receiving. That 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:20.439 you have to be a dumb bitch to believe somebody 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.040 and then still follow them into the house. But so 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:25.000 was that like I was being dumb as fuck too. 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:27.280 So it's like I'm convinced that she was just a 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:29.560 fucking liar. She was a liar. How are you telling 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.120 that bitch some other ship? Because how comfortable could you 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:35.080 be that? Like, that's what I'm saying, Like you didn't 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:37.760 know me. You you you could have walked into any 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:40.240 You take it as you had to have assumed that 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:40.760 you were saying. 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.760 So you took it as she could partner anything. 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:46.160 I don't know, Okay, So you took it as your 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:49.880 partner was clearly gaslighting and a liar to you that 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:51.920 she was doing it to her, and that girl had 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:52.600 no clue. 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:55.559 No said, hi brought your flowers. She was a dumbast. 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:59.600 I don't know what I'm saying. She was an idiots? 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:01.200 Was it an you go? I walked my ass. 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:05.240 I was like, give me that bottle, now hold one 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:05.640 in love? 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:06.840 Will we beat her? 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:11.120 As was talking, I don't talk. I got I started 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:12.920 talking to a bit. No, no, no, I was all, 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:15.439 you got me up. Tell me when you when you 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:17.760 being a bitch ass talking. That's a real parental ass 0:14:17.760 --> 0:14:18.880 with Remember your parents used to. 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.760 Hit you with every with every spacon, don't make me 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:24.680 that's how you was in there right, one word after 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:26.800 the other. No, it wasn't like that. It was more 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.360 like I was finally trying to leave. She was not 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:32.040 letting me like. It was more of that. It's like 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:34.160 you hadn't done all this fucking damage in my life, bitch, 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:35.480 I'm ready to get the funk out of here, And 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:37.960 she was like blocking the doorways and holding my ship 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:38.320 back and. 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:40.360 Yanking on me. I need you to be here. 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:43.840 So it's not as long as you broke up with 0:14:43.880 --> 0:14:45.640 her first break. 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:48.280 Up and now out of it. You were at her home. 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:50.880 We drove down from Sacramento, me and her best friend 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:52.360 to get her in the middle of the night or 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:52.880 early morning. 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:58.760 I forget when it was wait that we jumped around, 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:00.000 he jumping. 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.640 Around, But yeah, that girl had serious mental Yeah she 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.200 was just fucking It was very clear she had been 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.360 living her life for a really long time, manipulating people 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:09.440 doing whatever, having them operate in a certain kind of way, 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:11.080 and expected the same from me. And I think that 0:15:11.160 --> 0:15:13.160 was even like a different type of vision she had 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:15.040 ever really fucked with. So I think she expected me 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:16.880 to just be a dumb media too and like carry 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:19.120 on in this way, paying this rent and doing this 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:20.320 ship and being that person. 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:22.640 Wait and you was paying the bill and she was 0:15:22.680 --> 0:15:25.120 like ten years my senior. And this is when she 0:15:25.160 --> 0:15:27.720 was twenty three. Yeah, she was like almost forty. Yeah, 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:29.880 a real bit like so, yeahll talk about niggation. She 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:33.440 like they they learn it from their daddy. This fucking 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:35.520 that she trickled that. 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:40.080 Maybe I need to close my relationship. Let's get into 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:42.240 a little tea time time. 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.480 Who won the last fight? I always want to fight. 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:48.360 I'm the best talker, she talks down. 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:53.840 I'm the very what are generally disagreements because to me, 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:57.840 whenever my friends are in ten years plus, the disagreements 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:00.840 are very like we're annoyed with each other. Do you 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:03.440 find that you've been having the same arguments for ten years? 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:10.680 Our arguments are never fights, and they are disagreements. That's yeah, 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:14.080 very mature. It's very very emotional, emotionally mature. 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:16.440 For sure. You can stand with that. We don't like 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.640 cuss at each other or like yeah. 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:21.640 Saying like domestic like you're in a like we've never 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:23.480 I've never put my well, we've never fought like that. 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:25.280 And I think like the standard a lot. 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:29.760 Of yes, especially well especially queer relationships, right like the 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:32.960 ideas that like you're equal so if you act too 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.120 much crazy and it's like no. 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:38.840 We had like literally before a family trip and she 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:40.960 told me to shut the fuck up and that. 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:43.600 You was mad, and she's still isn't that what you 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:45.520 just shared on Patreon? 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:48.160 Said shut the fuck up? And you were like, excuse me? 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:52.760 I was excuse me. He's never told me to shut 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:54.680 the fuck up. He's a pretty like even Keel dude. 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.440 So I was greaming like crazy because he was like, 0:16:57.520 --> 0:16:59.040 I feel like you want to yes, man, and I 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:02.760 was like, oh some of the So he goes into 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:05.399 the bathroom and basically I was like, what are you doing? 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:07.440 What are you doing in my cabinet? I'm just trying 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:09.280 to rune your pills to make you calm. 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:16.239 Down, I said, I said, that's funny. I was like, 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:20.119 that's that's as bad as talking about somebody mama. 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:23.520 I was like, he did you should something? I heard 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:27.159 that on the zoom. I said, he's taking care of you. 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:28.840 That you're not You're not right. 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:33.880 He's very that's the worst you screaming and someone too calm. 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:35.159 I'm like, are you playing with me? 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:37.399 He's like I'm I'm actually not I don't know what 0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:41.640 it looks like, it feel fun. You really need the baby, 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:45.919 but I'll find them for you. That hang a lot, 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:48.200 that ship maybe last because. 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:53.360 I would have got kicked out. I might have said 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.280 just be like, let's I'm gonna go. Roll one, I'm 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:59.920 gonna go. So I started like you know what I see. 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:03.760 I think back and I'd be like, see, I don't 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:06.560 like confrontations. So the problem with like my last relationship, 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:09.000 if we didn't agree with anything, I would be done. 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:10.840 And he felt like I was treating it like a 0:18:10.840 --> 0:18:13.520 podcast topic, like this is a podcast. You can't just 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:14.439 go to the next topic. 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:15.480 Yeah, I can't. 0:18:15.640 --> 0:18:18.960 Like we're going in circles. We're not getting in a solution. 0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:23.680 Wait if I'm not in the move to go back. 0:18:23.640 --> 0:18:25.919 And forth, like I got a table talking to like, 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:26.560 oh I'm a table. 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:29.760 We're not getting here with this. Let's move on, let's 0:18:29.840 --> 0:18:32.080 move on. He would literally be like this ain't a 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:34.919 fucking pack, But I can't move on? What are we 0:18:34.960 --> 0:18:37.000 moving on to? Watching movies? You just pissed off? No, 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.639 let's let's no okay, what you want to eat? Cookie? 0:18:40.680 --> 0:18:40.879 Not me? 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:50.280 But that's why something separate people like you you wait 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:53.359 out of here, and you better than none. 0:18:59.280 --> 0:19:03.200 Because you guys been together so long you cohabitate. What 0:19:03.480 --> 0:19:06.159 is the if you are in an argument or upset 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:09.560 with each other? Do you guys not like sleeping different 0:19:09.840 --> 0:19:12.720 places that night? Like how do y'all find Look. 0:19:14.800 --> 0:19:16.120 It's been my favorite thing to say for the last 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:17.760 ten years. I didn't get married to sleep. I don't 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:18.760 ever sleep sept. 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:22.000 You never, even when y'all are in not so graad 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:24.520 of a space, you would risk sleeping well at night 0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:27.840 to sleep next to somebody you mad at Like I 0:19:27.880 --> 0:19:31.440 can't physically sip. I couldn't imagine if I'm upset with somebody, 0:19:31.640 --> 0:19:33.119 then I got to now sleep in the same But 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:34.760 don't you think to start thinking. 0:19:34.720 --> 0:19:37.359 I need to know where and I know. 0:19:39.359 --> 0:19:41.600 We're just like I need my peace. We can come 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:44.240 back to it and stuff like that. For us, that 0:19:44.400 --> 0:19:45.479 just doesn't okay. 0:19:45.680 --> 0:19:50.560 Look, she said, you're not going to sleep sleeping that you. 0:19:52.240 --> 0:19:55.800 Place, Like yeah, because then I kind of come back 0:19:55.840 --> 0:19:57.960 it's like, all right, this actually now it reminds me 0:19:58.640 --> 0:19:59.160 we're okay. 0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:00.200 Yeah, why I'm okay. 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:02.320 But I did have an argument before a bed where 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:04.399 I was like, I need space and he's about to 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:05.120 go to sleep on the couch. 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:06.080 I said, what are you doing? He said, you just 0:20:06.080 --> 0:20:08.880 told me you need space. I need space emotionally. You're 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:14.919 here emotionally, don't get out to me here? Then I 0:20:14.960 --> 0:20:18.159 need space. Oh you know I need you. 0:20:18.160 --> 0:20:20.120 Gotta go so I can talk about you with my friend, 0:20:20.520 --> 0:20:22.520 like I'm gonna be probably talking about you. 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:26.920 But that's not I can't do that. Yeah, I don't. 0:20:27.000 --> 0:20:28.399 I don't know. I've been needing my space. 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:36.080 So okay, one, have y'all decided your hall passed together? 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:37.960 Oh? What celebrity is that? 0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:39.760 You want them to fuck other people so bad? Are 0:20:39.760 --> 0:20:42.040 hall passed together? Who we woulde like? 0:20:42.080 --> 0:20:42.919 Who we bringing in this? 0:20:43.040 --> 0:20:44.960 I feel like y'all have got to watch the movie, 0:20:45.000 --> 0:20:46.560 watch the music video or something on Instagram. 0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:49.520 They don't necessarily like the same type of women. Oh, 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:50.840 I mean you know. 0:20:50.800 --> 0:20:53.200 Who I'm after? For him? Who? Currently? 0:20:53.240 --> 0:20:54.600 He has been my favorite for the last few years. 0:20:54.600 --> 0:20:56.240 She about to forget? Who are you about to say 0:20:56.240 --> 0:20:59.440 you're into? Is it a f that's a big question? 0:21:00.000 --> 0:21:00.560 Here's met here? 0:21:00.560 --> 0:21:06.200 Okay, she can't lay for us together? 0:21:06.760 --> 0:21:10.880 Oh no, no, no, my boo? Who I just she's 0:21:10.920 --> 0:21:18.040 so about Norton and I think that white. 0:21:21.920 --> 0:21:22.080 Though. 0:21:23.400 --> 0:21:26.960 The first girl that I slept with, it really was like, no, no, no, 0:21:27.920 --> 0:21:29.919 the first girl that I slept with was really not 0:21:30.240 --> 0:21:31.800 down with skin bitches. 0:21:32.640 --> 0:21:34.919 She got me that. I said, I really thought they 0:21:35.000 --> 0:21:36.760 was gonna be pink, and I know she was. 0:21:37.000 --> 0:21:42.760 I know she was from Key Valley. Fine let her. 0:21:43.119 --> 0:21:46.240 She looked like, it's like. 0:21:48.920 --> 0:21:52.200 She's beautiful, a little bit who is yours. 0:21:52.480 --> 0:21:56.240 I'm obsessed with. I'm obsessed with. Okay, keep my baby 0:21:56.280 --> 0:21:59.600 is obsessed. Let me tell you we're gonna have on podcast. 0:21:59.680 --> 0:21:59.879 She was. 0:22:00.560 --> 0:22:04.320 So we were talking yesterday literally and she was like, man, Kiki, 0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:08.800 I was like, really because Keikey to me is the 0:22:08.800 --> 0:22:11.040 girl that it's like, you know, kicking me, teasing her 0:22:11.040 --> 0:22:13.880 little ship, you wan when she came on here girls, 0:22:14.080 --> 0:22:16.560 but also doesn't always like we've never seen her with 0:22:16.560 --> 0:22:19.600 a girl. Really like but I find that a lot 0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:22.600 of lesbians talk about Kiki, and it just surprised me 0:22:22.640 --> 0:22:25.199 because you would assume it would be somebody that is like, oh, 0:22:25.200 --> 0:22:27.040 I know, I'm gonna get that pussy, but Kiki. 0:22:26.880 --> 0:22:32.760 Also, yeah, so you gonna get that bitch. 0:22:35.080 --> 0:22:37.640 I mean women, Utah could be I think I think 0:22:37.640 --> 0:22:40.879 they're I mean to me, now, I think everyone is accessible, 0:22:41.960 --> 0:22:46.040 Like it's like everyone's like them DMS, you'd be surprised 0:22:46.040 --> 0:22:49.160 and responds back like, I think everyone's kind of accessible. 0:22:49.200 --> 0:22:50.800 I mean now when it. 0:22:50.720 --> 0:22:54.280 Comes to discussing together, because we are in a world 0:22:54.320 --> 0:22:56.040 of nominogamy and all of that shape, and you know 0:22:56.080 --> 0:22:56.919 lesbians are jealous? 0:22:56.920 --> 0:22:59.399 Is it true? Who knows? I'm crazy? Y'all? 0:22:59.520 --> 0:23:02.280 Would y'all tryed? Have you tried it? What's been that 0:23:02.359 --> 0:23:03.320 part of your relationship? 0:23:03.400 --> 0:23:04.040 Like, talk about it? 0:23:04.880 --> 0:23:06.879 We should have talked about. I tried to explain to 0:23:06.880 --> 0:23:08.640 her what kind of you'll be talking about all this show. 0:23:08.680 --> 0:23:10.480 She didn't know. I said, it's gonna get it to 0:23:10.520 --> 0:23:11.320 where Oh my god. 0:23:11.320 --> 0:23:12.720 And then y'all walk me when we talk about that, 0:23:14.280 --> 0:23:16.480 like you like, she's like I told you. 0:23:16.600 --> 0:23:23.360 I said, I said it's gonna be you know what's crazy. 0:23:23.520 --> 0:23:28.560 So, now that the book tour is on hiatus, we 0:23:28.640 --> 0:23:30.359 decided we're just gonna get back to some more of 0:23:30.400 --> 0:23:35.399 the runs. You know, we're a rebrand, but keep it 0:23:35.400 --> 0:23:39.560 towards the middle of the episode. It so, yeah, So 0:23:39.720 --> 0:23:41.920 what has that looked like? Has it been a discussion. 0:23:42.000 --> 0:23:43.560 I'm gonna let you talk first, so I don't say 0:23:43.600 --> 0:23:46.439 the wrong thing because that means you wanted to suggest it. 0:23:46.600 --> 0:23:49.480 No, No, I just you can't be sure what is 0:23:49.520 --> 0:23:52.360 allowed to talk about, Like genuinely, it's the only talking 0:23:52.359 --> 0:23:54.600 about what we've talked about. We're talking about, but you know, 0:23:54.760 --> 0:23:55.560 I don't I don't want to. 0:23:55.560 --> 0:23:57.280 Y'all grow up in each other online and y'all want 0:23:57.280 --> 0:24:01.040 to like y'all can't talk you were talking about we 0:24:01.200 --> 0:24:03.680 Is it a hard No, there's an easy question. Well 0:24:03.840 --> 0:24:06.159 the question. Give me the question time open relationships, no 0:24:06.240 --> 0:24:07.600 monogamy and discussing that. 0:24:07.440 --> 0:24:09.640 That's a hard question to have, a hard note to get. 0:24:10.960 --> 0:24:13.000 I think that, yeah, go ahead. I would say that 0:24:13.000 --> 0:24:14.640 A and M is not a hard note, but that 0:24:14.720 --> 0:24:18.080 it is not. We've been together twelve years, married ten 0:24:18.600 --> 0:24:21.560 and we have we're not who we were when we 0:24:21.600 --> 0:24:26.040 got married, you know, so in those changes happening and us, 0:24:26.240 --> 0:24:29.600 you know, finding ourselves. Like if you look back back before, 0:24:29.920 --> 0:24:32.439 this ain't Oh I walked down the aisle too, you know, 0:24:32.960 --> 0:24:33.879 like it's totally different. 0:24:33.920 --> 0:24:34.960 I don't know how far back y'all went. 0:24:35.440 --> 0:24:41.720 So I'm so, you know, a couple therapies great for everybody, 0:24:41.840 --> 0:24:44.920 especially long you know, long term commitments and stuff like that, 0:24:45.080 --> 0:24:47.399 and conversations happened. 0:24:47.720 --> 0:24:50.360 You know that. I love that you are therapy. 0:24:50.760 --> 0:24:53.000 I feel like couples will never admit that they do 0:24:53.040 --> 0:24:55.359 that because they believe that it's almost a window into 0:24:55.359 --> 0:24:56.800 thinking something's not okay. 0:24:57.040 --> 0:24:58.159 Not even therapy. 0:24:58.200 --> 0:25:01.879 I just love that you were able to acknowledge and 0:25:02.920 --> 0:25:06.080 be so so aware that if I'm with somebody for 0:25:06.160 --> 0:25:08.440 a decade, you're not going to be the same person. 0:25:08.440 --> 0:25:10.400 And I don't think a lot of people, a lot 0:25:10.400 --> 0:25:14.119 of people hetero, queer, whatever, when they when they get married, 0:25:15.119 --> 0:25:16.600 A lot of times you think you're gonna be with 0:25:16.600 --> 0:25:19.600 the same person forever, and you'd like to be because 0:25:19.640 --> 0:25:22.359 that's the person you chose to marry. But the reality is, 0:25:22.680 --> 0:25:26.879 through experience, through life, through traveling, through job changes, a 0:25:27.000 --> 0:25:29.399 person is inevitably going to change. 0:25:29.520 --> 0:25:31.760 I'm not the same person I was ten years ago. 0:25:31.800 --> 0:25:33.959 So to know that you've been together for twelve So 0:25:34.480 --> 0:25:38.159 when did who started changing first? And what was the 0:25:38.240 --> 0:25:42.119 kind of conversation around this ain't the person I'm married, 0:25:42.160 --> 0:25:45.719 but let's talk about it, because I see that you're changing, 0:25:45.920 --> 0:25:47.720 and I want to be able to evolve with you. 0:25:48.880 --> 0:25:50.080 I love the evil. 0:25:53.000 --> 0:25:57.199 The transition career wise, Yeah, as gonna say, you had 0:25:57.200 --> 0:26:01.800 a lot of them. Yeah, okay, personally, physically, emotionally, spirit 0:26:01.840 --> 0:26:04.879 like everything. Twenty twenty three was the year wow that 0:26:05.440 --> 0:26:08.440 SK have that, And with her having it, then I'm 0:26:08.480 --> 0:26:12.399 experiencing that as well, and so you know we're just 0:26:12.640 --> 0:26:14.080 literally like, yeah. 0:26:13.920 --> 0:26:17.080 We're still into Yeah, where did that conversation look like 0:26:17.119 --> 0:26:20.120 in twenty twenty three? Like there's a financial shift, there's 0:26:20.160 --> 0:26:23.960 a physical shift, there's an emotional shift, possibly because you're 0:26:24.000 --> 0:26:26.240 now you're dating a new person essentially. 0:26:26.040 --> 0:26:28.480 Was so much so that she doesn't go by her 0:26:28.520 --> 0:26:30.800 birth name anymore. So I remember when she first told 0:26:30.800 --> 0:26:32.800 me that she wanted to be called by SK we 0:26:33.440 --> 0:26:35.119 she had just met like her best friends. So we 0:26:35.119 --> 0:26:37.760 were like in this like friend with the wives group 0:26:37.840 --> 0:26:40.840 chat and stuff, and I had said something like it 0:26:40.880 --> 0:26:43.160 was my first time using it, and I was like, well, 0:26:43.280 --> 0:26:45.280 we'll check with SK or SK will let us know 0:26:45.320 --> 0:26:47.680 it's something. And then she texted me on the side 0:26:47.720 --> 0:26:49.840 like I can't believe you called me that, Like it 0:26:49.960 --> 0:26:53.159 just like it was just that, Yeah, the beginning of that. 0:26:53.359 --> 0:26:54.400 So that's cool. 0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:56.879 Yeah, all lot of the things that you know, how 0:26:56.920 --> 0:26:59.440 you said you don't remember the things that made you 0:26:59.480 --> 0:27:03.200 feel like I did something for this person that I love. Yeah, 0:27:03.400 --> 0:27:05.119 I just said this person because once you told me 0:27:05.119 --> 0:27:08.240 the name change, I'm like, I never asked. 0:27:06.800 --> 0:27:15.720 For we didn't appreciated. I would have corrected you. Okay, okay, okay, no, no, 0:27:16.160 --> 0:27:21.360 I can imagine. Imagine now, can I just say what? Yeah? 0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:23.240 Yeah, it got checked. 0:27:23.280 --> 0:27:25.200 And then I was like, it was the name and 0:27:25.320 --> 0:27:27.679 the pink shirt. Everybody got mad that I said that, 0:27:27.760 --> 0:27:30.119 and it was yeah, it was it was no, this 0:27:30.320 --> 0:27:33.880 was another guest. And then they went they went off and. 0:27:35.440 --> 0:27:38.280 Saying it right now because they they went off on 0:27:38.440 --> 0:27:41.240 me after the fact because I was it was difficult 0:27:41.240 --> 0:27:44.560 for me, like to say the and this was this 0:27:44.720 --> 0:27:47.160 was maybe this was pre pre pandemic. 0:27:47.600 --> 0:27:48.320 So this was. 0:27:48.240 --> 0:27:55.879 Like they always learning with people that are non binary 0:27:56.320 --> 0:27:57.400 when they have it with you. 0:27:57.880 --> 0:27:59.520 Now that I have non binary people in my life, 0:27:59.520 --> 0:28:01.679 I'm like, damn, I should just be so simple because 0:28:02.040 --> 0:28:02.600 they know. 0:28:02.800 --> 0:28:07.560 Especially our show, yeah, like bitch, respectfully they there, but 0:28:07.760 --> 0:28:10.400 you know good and damn well, we are on your team. 0:28:10.440 --> 0:28:12.240 So if there is a moment where. 0:28:12.040 --> 0:28:13.800 Like even that I felt like I couldn't even call 0:28:13.880 --> 0:28:18.399 a bitch because bitch bitch is really like feminine, right, 0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:20.080 Like you don't be just saying. 0:28:20.760 --> 0:28:23.800 But it is. It's about person. It's personally like if 0:28:23.800 --> 0:28:25.960 they do like them, they you could call him bitchy 0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:30.840 because they throw you down girl girl, I said girl 0:28:30.880 --> 0:28:34.320 to me, okay, And if I talk to ship with 0:28:34.359 --> 0:28:34.919 a man, I'd. 0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:40.440 Be like, whoa, you know, I'll be catching myself doing 0:28:40.440 --> 0:28:42.680 that with my straight home. Like when we get to 0:28:42.680 --> 0:28:46.480 where we're gossip, I'll be like, girl, she's not a girl. 0:28:46.560 --> 0:28:49.080 He's not a girl, but we do it ship. It's 0:28:49.120 --> 0:28:51.240 just exactly we're just communicating in such a way. What 0:28:51.360 --> 0:28:52.560 is Alex? Are you want to Mike? 0:28:52.840 --> 0:28:55.440 Do you realize, like as a man, when you caint 0:28:55.440 --> 0:28:57.440 a god something like, what you're doing is condfeminine. 0:28:57.440 --> 0:28:58.480 Have you ever been like I've. 0:28:58.320 --> 0:29:01.040 Called Alex just because the tea it's so hot. Maybe 0:29:01.840 --> 0:29:05.400 maybe he's not even really feeling I remember the call 0:29:05.640 --> 0:29:07.600 you might not remember. I was like, baal take this, 0:29:08.000 --> 0:29:09.600 I feel like come for two minutes and it's like, 0:29:09.640 --> 0:29:11.760 so you're not even thinking you're being called a vis. 0:29:11.760 --> 0:29:13.560 As a man, do you feel feminine? Like no, I 0:29:13.560 --> 0:29:18.480 don't call him in girl like because we first you 0:29:18.480 --> 0:29:20.880 ain't gonna feel femine unless you feel fit like we 0:29:20.920 --> 0:29:23.160 do gonna make you feel fine, But do you ever 0:29:23.400 --> 0:29:28.040 I'm not making never offended because anything like yeah, because 0:29:28.040 --> 0:29:29.160 I'm comfortable you want. 0:29:32.440 --> 0:29:32.800 The game. 0:29:32.960 --> 0:29:37.240 I also love him, By the way. 0:29:37.280 --> 0:29:39.960 As soon as Alex said and then I saw. 0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:42.480 The nails, I was like, oh yeah, never mind. 0:29:44.200 --> 0:29:44.640 Hold on. 0:29:45.640 --> 0:29:48.280 Do you remember the very famous gay that saw you 0:29:48.320 --> 0:29:51.320 in Delta one and came up to me? So I'll 0:29:51.320 --> 0:29:53.120 say YAO was literally we all know him and we 0:29:53.160 --> 0:29:53.680 all love him. 0:29:53.720 --> 0:29:57.040 Okay, okay, he call me. I don't even know you 0:29:57.080 --> 0:29:57.360 have my. 0:29:57.360 --> 0:30:01.760 Number, bitch, he said, but you Ben's supposed to put 0:30:01.800 --> 0:30:03.480 me on I know he looked like that in person. 0:30:04.400 --> 0:30:07.520 He supposed to put me on home and I'm just like, damn, 0:30:07.520 --> 0:30:10.160 I've been trying to podcast, but like he'll be there. 0:30:11.400 --> 0:30:17.720 He actually straight. Trying to who's straight? Straight? And he's like, no, 0:30:17.800 --> 0:30:18.680 he's not. But the. 0:30:20.560 --> 0:30:24.080 Love that for you I was you didn't want to know. 0:30:24.160 --> 0:30:26.480 But he was like then spoke like he was a 0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:32.200 vibe and I was like he's just yay wow friendly. 0:30:32.280 --> 0:30:34.040 So then we go to every Day People, we get 0:30:34.040 --> 0:30:36.120 a table, so I invite dude over with us. 0:30:37.000 --> 0:30:39.240 He starts getting a drink. Alex is pouring Hi drinks 0:30:39.240 --> 0:30:41.000 and he literally was like, girl, I'm not about to 0:30:41.080 --> 0:30:46.400 play this game many you can't pour drink. He was like, 0:30:46.440 --> 0:30:47.880 what's up, bro, you want to kill it. 0:30:48.400 --> 0:30:50.240 I'm not doing this, never setting back to the table. 0:30:51.720 --> 0:30:55.239 That's appropriate. He knew that's appropriate. Man, Let me get 0:30:55.240 --> 0:30:58.920 the funk out of here. I like that. I'm swelling up. 0:30:59.640 --> 0:31:01.680 Yeah, I mean I do the same thing when girls 0:31:01.680 --> 0:31:03.640 be trying to be flirty. I literally say, girl, I 0:31:03.680 --> 0:31:07.520 eat pussy. If you don't stop like doing so, Like, 0:31:07.840 --> 0:31:11.680 let's not do this. Like if someone's even overly flirting 0:31:11.720 --> 0:31:15.040 with me, that's not that's not into women. You need 0:31:15.080 --> 0:31:19.480 to respect, Like stop doing to respect me respect because 0:31:19.960 --> 0:31:22.640 you the mixed signals makes me uncomfortable. So if this 0:31:22.680 --> 0:31:24.560 man was getting mixed signals from Alex, I get it. 0:31:24.600 --> 0:31:26.040 I just need to remove my Alex. 0:31:27.280 --> 0:31:32.360 Okay, well, want to play signals. 0:31:31.880 --> 0:31:34.520 Were you were friendly and your nails are painted? 0:31:34.800 --> 0:31:38.800 He was confused. Okay, So we got a news. 0:31:38.600 --> 0:31:42.760 Segment that we were trying out with y'all. 0:31:43.280 --> 0:31:46.400 Okay, and basically like flower tree kind of gay, That's 0:31:46.440 --> 0:31:46.920 what I'm thinking. 0:31:47.680 --> 0:31:53.560 Party and Brosa is gay? I mean, were they not 0:31:53.640 --> 0:31:54.880 a couple for the first ten years? 0:31:54.880 --> 0:31:56.720 Wait, they were, they were together, but a man of 0:31:56.760 --> 0:31:58.880 sounds they but a man. 0:31:59.600 --> 0:32:01.440 It was a trio at first, started trio. 0:32:01.600 --> 0:32:03.000 But they remember when a man that had a step 0:32:03.000 --> 0:32:04.560 in because the want a man that stepped in. Yeah, 0:32:04.680 --> 0:32:07.000 it wasn't and then it was a threesome. Like no, 0:32:07.080 --> 0:32:08.479 because the other one wasn't showing up. 0:32:09.120 --> 0:32:10.880 They split. Do you know how I know this? 0:32:11.720 --> 0:32:14.040 Once you get a close friend and lesbie and lesbian 0:32:14.160 --> 0:32:16.720 not bisexual, and you know all the other lesbians in 0:32:16.760 --> 0:32:21.080 the community, they'd be like, I'll be like, it's like 0:32:21.120 --> 0:32:21.440 gay man. 0:32:21.480 --> 0:32:22.520 You know, when they start telling you who. 0:32:22.440 --> 0:32:25.840 Gay Booma, I will say that that is how to 0:32:25.880 --> 0:32:26.280 google it. 0:32:26.320 --> 0:32:29.720 But this is a legend, y'all have no. 0:32:29.760 --> 0:32:31.920 Facts, y'all fantasy. 0:32:32.040 --> 0:32:34.480 Now on the Hooe tree poetry. 0:32:34.680 --> 0:32:37.560 I've basically taken these song lyrics and I'm going to 0:32:37.600 --> 0:32:40.400 read them like they are a poem. We're going to 0:32:40.440 --> 0:32:41.520 see who guesses the song. 0:32:41.720 --> 0:32:46.120 It's all heard y'all playing me. Why you don't know music? 0:32:46.120 --> 0:32:49.080 I don't know music, my wife, you know, just like 0:32:49.920 --> 0:32:52.000 you know the song I don't know have the song 0:32:52.080 --> 0:32:54.840 that you absolutely you know the song? Wait, why did 0:32:54.840 --> 0:32:55.960 you make it easy? 0:32:56.160 --> 0:32:58.800 And I think that you have to hum this song 0:32:58.880 --> 0:33:01.160 or say it in the way, so maybe it is easy. 0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:01.560 I don't know. 0:33:02.040 --> 0:33:07.320 I'm so sitting here flossing, keeping your steelo just once, 0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:11.960 if I have the chance, things I would do to you, You. 0:33:11.800 --> 0:33:12.520 And your body. 0:33:13.240 --> 0:33:16.719 Every single portion sends chills up and down your spine. 0:33:17.800 --> 0:33:21.680 Juice is flowing down your thigh if you're horny. 0:33:22.640 --> 0:33:32.080 Let's do it right, genuine tony. 0:33:30.040 --> 0:33:33.280 But it took me. 0:33:34.440 --> 0:33:37.840 By the way, Let's be very clear, everyone that knows me, 0:33:38.160 --> 0:33:39.360 I make up lyrics. 0:33:39.760 --> 0:33:42.840 I do not know lyrics. I say, bro, now, if 0:33:42.840 --> 0:33:48.560 I said here, now, it's different, said that that is not. 0:33:50.600 --> 0:33:50.800 First. 0:33:52.960 --> 0:33:56.160 What is sitting here flossing? Even me flossing his teeth? 0:33:56.280 --> 0:34:00.360 No, I don't know what is floss you that one 0:34:00.440 --> 0:34:06.680 like yeah, wait, like looking like he was whipping. But 0:34:06.440 --> 0:34:09.200 you know it meant like I'm sitting here looking yeah, 0:34:09.640 --> 0:34:11.040 you're afric Americans cool. 0:34:11.640 --> 0:34:14.000 Now flossing is bitch. I ain't never in my life 0:34:14.040 --> 0:34:17.120 said we wait, But Mandy, that makes me ask how 0:34:17.120 --> 0:34:19.000 old are you? I was about to say, I'm thirty four? 0:34:19.400 --> 0:34:22.839 Really okay, you're not too far. Yeah, that's crazy, but 0:34:22.920 --> 0:34:24.360 you've heard it. 0:34:24.600 --> 0:34:27.520 No one in my whole life has been like I'm flossing. 0:34:27.960 --> 0:34:30.279 Well, no, not the teeth. Well we don't talk, Oh 0:34:30.280 --> 0:34:33.120 my god. Okay, And there's just why because you don't drug? 0:34:33.920 --> 0:34:36.840 Is that what it is? Is this a drug dealer term. 0:34:41.120 --> 0:34:43.960 In the song By the way, y'all asking for a 0:34:44.000 --> 0:34:47.000 refund at the genuine concerts because he's not singing enough 0:34:47.040 --> 0:34:47.839 or singing it how. 0:34:47.760 --> 0:34:51.799 You wanted to. That's crazy. It's crazy because I would 0:34:51.800 --> 0:34:52.840 just be there to see the need to. 0:34:53.760 --> 0:34:57.400 I like, I'm not sure I ain't gonna lie the 0:34:57.400 --> 0:35:00.200 way he beat Gy right, Geny Baby, I. 0:35:00.160 --> 0:35:00.560 Just want to hear. 0:35:01.000 --> 0:35:02.560 But we got to understand that when you go to 0:35:02.600 --> 0:35:04.719 see people that are older. So Mandy and I we 0:35:04.800 --> 0:35:08.160 had to announce something at Essence, and we were watching 0:35:08.200 --> 0:35:09.319 ron Eisley before we were on. 0:35:09.400 --> 0:35:12.200 Stage, and then Nigga had to sit and then we 0:35:12.520 --> 0:35:14.799 had to take the sire off. He took the hat off. Bro. 0:35:15.000 --> 0:35:15.960 You just how to enjoy them. 0:35:16.280 --> 0:35:19.160 Not only that, let's let's be very clear the subtle 0:35:19.239 --> 0:35:22.880 flex though about us at Essence, where we were on 0:35:22.920 --> 0:35:26.239 the call sheet after baby Face and before Maxwell and 0:35:26.239 --> 0:35:28.200 it was like, oh, do you. 0:35:28.080 --> 0:35:28.600 Know what I said? 0:35:28.600 --> 0:35:30.280 The whole weekend, we're introducing Maxwell. 0:35:30.360 --> 0:35:33.359 We weren't. We weren't, but well, you know, I said, 0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:34.480 we had to open for Maxwell. 0:35:34.520 --> 0:35:37.400 But also we were after baby Face, and I'm just like, 0:35:37.800 --> 0:35:40.640 oh my god, we made it. It was like we're 0:35:40.680 --> 0:35:43.600 between these two minis. Also shows our age because I'm 0:35:43.600 --> 0:35:45.120 sure all the gen Z people. 0:35:44.840 --> 0:35:49.680 Were like, yeah, you right, Okay. 0:35:50.160 --> 0:35:52.480 Oh, by the way, I just shared a story very embarrassing. 0:35:52.840 --> 0:35:55.640 I was being introduced. I kind of like a gen Z. 0:35:55.760 --> 0:35:57.799 I really think I'm kind of young at heart. So 0:35:58.080 --> 0:36:01.880 I also a weekend, I'm literally being introduced to Raphael 0:36:02.000 --> 0:36:04.919 dec and we're having a conversation and in the middle 0:36:04.960 --> 0:36:07.239 I see Drew Ski and I say, sorry, I gotta go, 0:36:09.320 --> 0:36:12.080 and drew Ski I said, the only person I want 0:36:12.120 --> 0:36:13.600 to see all weekend and we'll take a picture with 0:36:13.719 --> 0:36:16.040 is Drew Sky. Was just on my flight coming back 0:36:16.040 --> 0:36:18.000 from Essence, and I was like, I already did. I 0:36:18.000 --> 0:36:20.600 got my picture of Juicy. I left talking to Rafael. 0:36:22.560 --> 0:36:25.600 To be a Millennio because I am city girl. 0:36:25.600 --> 0:36:27.960 But also I just saw Malenny Gravitz and I started 0:36:28.000 --> 0:36:28.480 chearing up. 0:36:29.440 --> 0:36:32.239 I belonged to you, but then I'll cheer up if 0:36:32.280 --> 0:36:33.360 I got the second dick, but not. 0:36:35.880 --> 0:36:39.279 And to know he's looks like for ten years, I 0:36:39.360 --> 0:36:40.320 want to drink bitches. 0:36:40.040 --> 0:36:43.239 That look I do look good, but to me, like 0:36:43.320 --> 0:36:45.640 you just gotta look up when his pants split and 0:36:45.640 --> 0:36:55.000 then it like takes it away. I don't care. Okay. 0:36:55.280 --> 0:36:58.720 So we've been getting into like the history of sex 0:36:58.760 --> 0:37:02.040 and different types of things on decisions, decisions, but briefly 0:37:02.080 --> 0:37:03.560 because I really want to talk to y'all because the 0:37:03.680 --> 0:37:06.440 personal experience is more interesting. Do y'all know how sperm 0:37:06.520 --> 0:37:07.600 donation started? 0:37:07.840 --> 0:37:08.040 No? 0:37:10.280 --> 0:37:14.600 No, this means the crazation started with animals first, and 0:37:14.640 --> 0:37:18.480 when they realized animals were working, the first successful one. 0:37:18.600 --> 0:37:20.840 What is working mean? I'm so sorry, like that sorry 0:37:20.960 --> 0:37:23.680 that animal's pregnant. 0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:27.960 Okay, okay, So all then, although we tend to think 0:37:28.000 --> 0:37:32.479 of artificial insemination as modern, it started in seventeen seventy nine. 0:37:32.760 --> 0:37:36.880 There was an Italian priest and a psychologist who performed 0:37:36.880 --> 0:37:40.600 a live experiment where basically he was trying to understand 0:37:40.640 --> 0:37:43.400 how plants grew, and he saw that the embryo was 0:37:43.440 --> 0:37:46.360 a part of a male seed nurtured in the soil 0:37:46.440 --> 0:37:49.400 of a female. Like that's there's still like male and female. 0:37:49.440 --> 0:37:50.440 I guess in plants. 0:37:50.480 --> 0:37:52.920 Oh it is, so I learned that in school. 0:37:52.960 --> 0:37:55.879 He figured, if this can happen, two people don't need 0:37:55.920 --> 0:38:00.760 to be having physical contact. So he successfully inciminated frogs, fish, 0:38:00.840 --> 0:38:05.719 and dogs. Then after that happened eleven years after his experiment, 0:38:06.600 --> 0:38:10.799 in the US, a doctor inciminated the wife of a 0:38:10.880 --> 0:38:13.880 husband who was a Quaker wife and the husband was 0:38:13.880 --> 0:38:16.640 fifteen years her senior, so he couldn't get her pregnant, 0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:18.280 but they couldn't figure out if it was the wife, 0:38:19.040 --> 0:38:23.720 so unbeknownst to them, the first firm donation was non consensual. Jesus, 0:38:23.960 --> 0:38:27.680 he got the wife pregnant with the linen draper, like 0:38:27.760 --> 0:38:30.080 putting linen inside of her and like squeezing it out, 0:38:30.120 --> 0:38:33.120 I guess, and basically use someone else's seamen. 0:38:33.400 --> 0:38:36.560 Oh, someone else's semen to see if it would work. 0:38:37.520 --> 0:38:38.160 This is probably the. 0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:39.920 First time they did some shit like that on white folks, 0:38:39.920 --> 0:38:41.160 though I feel a little better about. 0:38:41.480 --> 0:38:43.080 No, white folks definitely did that shit. 0:38:43.360 --> 0:38:46.439 No, no, no, no, on a white folks, not on black 0:38:46.520 --> 0:38:47.920 Like when people do non consent. 0:38:48.040 --> 0:38:51.759 Oh, you're talking about like the experiments and stuff like that, 0:38:51.800 --> 0:38:53.120 and it's like helpful to know. 0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:57.640 That when it became evident that the woman conceived, the 0:38:57.800 --> 0:39:01.200 husband was pleased. It was never told her she got pregnant. 0:39:01.800 --> 0:39:05.239 And then his letter went on to say years later. 0:39:05.280 --> 0:39:08.160 What he did discussing and that, which is weird to 0:39:08.200 --> 0:39:11.800 me because I thought that once sperm hits like the air, 0:39:11.880 --> 0:39:12.360 it dies. 0:39:13.480 --> 0:39:15.960 Oh, I think it needs time. How much time? Like 0:39:16.000 --> 0:39:17.279 I thought like once it like. 0:39:17.600 --> 0:39:18.920 I think that's a river we heard, But I know 0:39:18.920 --> 0:39:20.640 what you're talking about because they do say that, Yeah, 0:39:20.719 --> 0:39:21.520 you're talking about. 0:39:21.320 --> 0:39:23.880 It like like basically like if a nigga not on 0:39:23.920 --> 0:39:24.879 your butt, I don't heard. 0:39:25.560 --> 0:39:26.399 If a nigga not on. 0:39:26.360 --> 0:39:29.239 Your butt, he can't just wipe up that, like if. 0:39:29.160 --> 0:39:31.480 You want to, like you know, his white. 0:39:31.320 --> 0:39:34.960 Half figure and become like they say women going in 0:39:35.239 --> 0:39:37.120 the trash can to get come out of a content 0:39:37.280 --> 0:39:37.680 won't work. 0:39:37.719 --> 0:39:40.120 It won't work, that's what they say. It's not true. 0:39:40.280 --> 0:39:42.600 So it doesn't die instantly. It takes a couple of minutes, 0:39:43.239 --> 0:39:43.960 a couple of minutes. 0:39:43.960 --> 0:39:45.319 So that means if a nigga not on my butt, 0:39:45.360 --> 0:39:46.480 I could take it off my butt, put it in 0:39:46.520 --> 0:39:48.600 my pussy and get pregnant yes, I watched a video 0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:52.279 where this, oh, we tell him the wrong things, like 0:39:52.360 --> 0:39:54.279 it was a movie maybe, and I don't know, it 0:39:54.320 --> 0:39:56.160 was a white baby a movie instead of like a 0:39:56.440 --> 0:39:58.320 proper story, Like it wasn't like a journalism. 0:39:58.400 --> 0:40:00.560 It was like a movie. It wasn't the journey, but 0:40:00.600 --> 0:40:02.800 it was off, okay, off something factual. 0:40:03.000 --> 0:40:04.719 But the whole story was that she had jacked out 0:40:04.719 --> 0:40:06.759 her boyfriend, like they had laid by each other and 0:40:07.080 --> 0:40:09.320 did something, and she was pregnant and he was convinced, 0:40:09.360 --> 0:40:11.560 like she thought she was married at that point because 0:40:11.600 --> 0:40:13.319 she was like I didn't ever touch it, like I 0:40:13.400 --> 0:40:16.279 never was near it quick enough and like somebody had 0:40:16.280 --> 0:40:17.960 been enough math to be like it got on her, 0:40:18.120 --> 0:40:19.839 near her, and it was alive and. 0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:26.040 It started swimming to get up. No, I'm not coming on. Wait, girl, 0:40:26.239 --> 0:40:26.719 on your. 0:40:26.680 --> 0:40:29.200 Couchie is fucking there pull out? 0:40:29.600 --> 0:40:32.400 That is the pull out? Who said, girl, you know 0:40:32.680 --> 0:40:35.479 on your couchie. Of course your coachi is still wet. 0:40:35.520 --> 0:40:38.719 The swimmers go swim in the pond, swimming pull out 0:40:38.160 --> 0:40:42.200 that crazy pull out a cum on your couchie, you 0:40:42.239 --> 0:40:44.279 could still on it, like you know, yeah, but if. 0:40:44.360 --> 0:40:46.439 It's wet, it's like a pond, so they have something 0:40:46.440 --> 0:40:46.920 to swimming. 0:40:49.400 --> 0:40:54.040 I don't claim to be a sex education crazy Okay, 0:40:54.920 --> 0:40:59.800 so that's that. God, sperm donation has been to me 0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:00.680 crazy around Do. 0:41:00.680 --> 0:41:02.560 You remember how much ship they were talking about ebide 0:41:02.640 --> 0:41:05.279 k Williams really showed me like, oh, you can't make 0:41:05.320 --> 0:41:07.360 a choice being alone. You can't be a choice be 0:41:07.560 --> 0:41:08.520 with somebody like. 0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:09.839 You can or you can't. 0:41:09.920 --> 0:41:11.879 You can't people, well, people just gon have something to say. 0:41:11.960 --> 0:41:14.200 The way they talked about her for being in her 0:41:14.239 --> 0:41:17.480 forties and using a sperm don or the best read 0:41:17.480 --> 0:41:21.360 of all time. All you know is jo sperm donor pizza, 0:41:23.200 --> 0:41:27.680 so check that. So it's like that was Kendra. I 0:41:27.760 --> 0:41:29.360 actually like even though that was the best thing of 0:41:29.400 --> 0:41:32.279 all time, I do it was, But she was talking 0:41:32.440 --> 0:41:34.239 about Apollo, So it's like, I want to talk about the. 0:41:34.960 --> 0:41:40.400 Ny you just called her air and. 0:41:42.200 --> 0:41:44.800 Basically like I think the whole thing of that really 0:41:44.840 --> 0:41:47.319 shows you it should be like women want to keep 0:41:47.320 --> 0:41:49.279 it a secret because everybody's gonna be like you can 0:41:49.360 --> 0:41:50.200 meet somebody whatever. 0:41:50.239 --> 0:41:50.560 Whatever. 0:41:51.080 --> 0:41:54.480 Now in the case of YouTube, I'm so curious how 0:41:54.520 --> 0:41:57.960 you got to the point where you said adoption sperm 0:41:57.960 --> 0:42:00.160 donation should be someone we know should be somebody that 0:42:00.200 --> 0:42:01.680 we how did this all? 0:42:01.840 --> 0:42:03.920 Did you go to a bank? Did you a friend 0:42:04.239 --> 0:42:08.360 or finances? Was that ship for his money? Okay? 0:42:08.640 --> 0:42:10.520 Okay, that's the easiest place to start. So that's why 0:42:10.560 --> 0:42:12.920 it was no ida for our I v for I've 0:42:12.920 --> 0:42:15.600 also been for a long time, so it ain't no insurance. 0:42:15.880 --> 0:42:18.319 But you did and you have three kids, so did 0:42:18.320 --> 0:42:21.000 one of you carry? Did both of you carry? So 0:42:21.040 --> 0:42:22.759 at the top when I met my lynch, she had 0:42:22.760 --> 0:42:25.000 a son okay, had a son okay, and then I 0:42:25.040 --> 0:42:25.799 had two after I. 0:42:26.040 --> 0:42:29.640 Had one, and then we had to I carried first, okay, And. 0:42:31.160 --> 0:42:33.600 Did he have to fuck? Like where did the sperm 0:42:33.640 --> 0:42:35.200 come from? If you was talking about money? 0:42:35.600 --> 0:42:38.960 Okay, let's let's less less clear. 0:42:39.920 --> 0:42:44.680 This was a stretch right off. No, not like that, 0:42:44.760 --> 0:42:47.279 not like that. That's her nineteen seventy nine. We were 0:42:47.320 --> 0:42:50.799 talking about Okay, you don't need but an how did 0:42:50.840 --> 0:42:54.600 you apologize bag that you need? What did you say? 0:42:57.360 --> 0:42:57.560 You know? 0:42:58.680 --> 0:43:02.080 Some viewers are we don't know how to know the 0:43:02.160 --> 0:43:03.880 filter that you filtered to save it. 0:43:03.920 --> 0:43:05.920 Through like the literal I just know we all thought 0:43:05.920 --> 0:43:08.320 about non monogamy, but if it's done for science and 0:43:08.400 --> 0:43:09.200 done for a purpose. 0:43:09.239 --> 0:43:11.359 Maybe it's not considered cheating, you know what I mean, 0:43:11.440 --> 0:43:15.200 Like I like, I don't like, I don't know. 0:43:16.200 --> 0:43:18.640 I know what though, I would feel like if this 0:43:18.920 --> 0:43:20.680 was my wife and I knew they had to do 0:43:20.800 --> 0:43:22.560 that to get pregnant, it would then make me feel 0:43:22.560 --> 0:43:25.520 like it wasn't ours, Like I wouldn't feel like there 0:43:25.600 --> 0:43:27.279 was this connection because you just got to do this 0:43:27.400 --> 0:43:29.319 thing and bring life with somebody else, Like I would 0:43:29.360 --> 0:43:30.319 want to be a part of this if. 0:43:30.239 --> 0:43:34.600 They had it. But I'm not talking because you. 0:43:34.760 --> 0:43:35.759 I mean when I was. 0:43:35.760 --> 0:43:38.200 Watching The l Words when I was younger, that episode 0:43:38.239 --> 0:43:40.080 that everybody when Tina and and what's the name went 0:43:40.120 --> 0:43:44.440 to the club found that boy she was faking like 0:43:44.520 --> 0:43:46.399 a three step and he realized when he kept trying 0:43:46.400 --> 0:43:48.200 to put a condom on and they kept being like no, 0:43:48.800 --> 0:43:52.040 I was like, y'all try to get on the episode. 0:43:52.040 --> 0:43:54.399 It wasn't like that they were like using turkey base 0:43:54.480 --> 0:43:56.880 or whatever making about her like So to me, that 0:43:57.080 --> 0:43:58.000 is how I would want to do it. 0:43:58.840 --> 0:44:00.800 So it was really interesting that you say that because 0:44:00.880 --> 0:44:03.360 in that episode where they do choose to have a threesome, 0:44:03.640 --> 0:44:06.160 they are doing it together. It is already very much 0:44:06.440 --> 0:44:08.600 locked into what there. It's not even about him at all. 0:44:10.080 --> 0:44:12.480 They just want his firm. Yeah, it was still very 0:44:12.719 --> 0:44:15.760 m Yeah, but if I'm not there, I'm gonna feel. 0:44:15.560 --> 0:44:18.239 Like, so, how did how did both of your how 0:44:18.360 --> 0:44:22.239 were your experiences different with the assemination? 0:44:22.480 --> 0:44:24.080 Like, can we know y'all's story? 0:44:24.320 --> 0:44:26.680 We have a yes, we have a known donor. Okay, 0:44:26.840 --> 0:44:29.560 when we found a known donor, we made it and 0:44:29.680 --> 0:44:31.880 he's very open. He was very honest with us. He's like, 0:44:31.960 --> 0:44:33.960 whatever you guys want to do, we put in a contract. 0:44:34.040 --> 0:44:35.040 We we figured it out. 0:44:35.080 --> 0:44:38.359 He's a closer person than that, so we were able 0:44:38.400 --> 0:44:40.440 to just have a conversation. He's like, do you already 0:44:40.480 --> 0:44:41.880 be involved? Do you not want me to be involved? 0:44:41.880 --> 0:44:44.839 Do you want me to be private? Do you want 0:44:44.880 --> 0:44:46.360 me to be public? Do you want like he was 0:44:46.560 --> 0:44:49.719 very fa check it off and when involved in the 0:44:49.840 --> 0:44:54.279 child's life, okay, no sex over here. 0:44:55.000 --> 0:44:58.319 So that was so you were the contract was specifically 0:44:58.440 --> 0:45:02.080 around using his firm to create life, and then the 0:45:02.160 --> 0:45:07.640 conversation agreement donor agreement and the conversations around that was 0:45:07.960 --> 0:45:09.560 how present he can. 0:45:09.520 --> 0:45:11.400 Be if you wanted to be what you wanted as 0:45:11.440 --> 0:45:15.360 well with all was back right, yeah, okay, So. 0:45:15.360 --> 0:45:17.600 Were you learning those answers with him when you guys 0:45:17.640 --> 0:45:19.719 spoke for the first time. Did you already discuss like 0:45:19.880 --> 0:45:22.239 what you wanted before talking to him a little bit? 0:45:22.400 --> 0:45:22.680 Okay? 0:45:22.719 --> 0:45:27.680 Absolutely, because we had tried for years before, yeah, two 0:45:27.760 --> 0:45:30.560 years before finally reaching out to him. And as you 0:45:30.760 --> 0:45:33.239 just jumped straight to did y'all fuck? So did a 0:45:33.280 --> 0:45:36.120 couple of other men that we had friends. They were 0:45:36.239 --> 0:45:38.200 like and like, had only said yes because he thought 0:45:38.239 --> 0:45:42.960 he was about to fuck me up, shut up, don't 0:45:43.000 --> 0:45:46.160 talk no more no. And I was just like beg 0:45:46.400 --> 0:45:48.840 to know that that's how you wanted it to be. 0:45:48.960 --> 0:45:51.160 And then the other friend told me, like, you know, 0:45:51.239 --> 0:45:53.040 I love you, but a child needs a father in 0:45:53.120 --> 0:45:53.479 his life. 0:45:53.600 --> 0:45:55.520 So the whole time you've been homophobic, bitch, get out 0:45:55.520 --> 0:45:55.759 of here. 0:45:55.920 --> 0:45:59.520 So you have all these well yeah, because even that 0:46:00.200 --> 0:46:00.680 the process. 0:46:00.719 --> 0:46:03.200 You don't want to prograte with someone because then they 0:46:03.239 --> 0:46:04.840 don't they don't respect this union. 0:46:05.120 --> 0:46:08.239 Yeah, exactly exactly. So I was all like, wow, we 0:46:08.360 --> 0:46:11.000 got to see really, yeah, just. 0:46:11.200 --> 0:46:13.799 To s k because of these experiences you had, did 0:46:13.800 --> 0:46:15.920 you give up at any point? No, it was always 0:46:16.080 --> 0:46:18.400 for her. He just assumed it was me and I 0:46:18.560 --> 0:46:21.759 was just like it was always always. Now, let's talk 0:46:21.800 --> 0:46:23.120 about break that down a little bit. 0:46:26.360 --> 0:46:29.600 Pregnant, You get the because we could see we we 0:46:29.760 --> 0:46:32.560 know what we're seeing in this dynamic. We're seeing someone 0:46:32.600 --> 0:46:37.040 more mask presenting when choosing to carry Did you feel 0:46:37.080 --> 0:46:38.080 those stairs. 0:46:37.920 --> 0:46:38.640 Twenty twenty three? 0:46:39.320 --> 0:46:41.600 She was not mask presenting. I were a baby when 0:46:41.600 --> 0:46:45.800 I had this baby, I had nails on. Okay, So 0:46:45.880 --> 0:46:49.799 it's just saying like when we met I we're very 0:46:49.880 --> 0:46:50.440 much different. 0:46:50.560 --> 0:46:53.000 How old? How old are the children now? Five and three? 0:46:54.000 --> 0:46:56.719 Is there a conversation because of course you go to 0:46:56.840 --> 0:46:58.840 schools and there's these. 0:46:59.160 --> 0:47:02.279 Whole dynamics about mommy, daddy, you know what I mean? 0:47:02.760 --> 0:47:05.919 Is there a conversation at all about who the father 0:47:06.120 --> 0:47:07.840 is or is he able to be introduced? 0:47:07.880 --> 0:47:11.280 What was the what was was this with your children? 0:47:11.320 --> 0:47:13.640 I think she's with your children? Yeah, basically I think 0:47:13.680 --> 0:47:16.600 the questions around about is really like where do your 0:47:16.680 --> 0:47:17.799 children think they've come from? 0:47:18.800 --> 0:47:21.800 Because yeah, that's taught in schools and I'm sure you 0:47:21.840 --> 0:47:22.160 know what I mean. 0:47:22.239 --> 0:47:24.920 Yes, our kids haven't necessarily gotten to an age like 0:47:25.280 --> 0:47:26.600 they came from my stomach. 0:47:27.040 --> 0:47:29.200 That's they can photos. 0:47:29.400 --> 0:47:31.799 Our five year old who is on the spectrum. It's 0:47:31.960 --> 0:47:36.239 very logical, it's very He's like my skin, mattress, Mama's skin. 0:47:36.440 --> 0:47:40.160 I was in her belly. Was the all match skins? 0:47:40.239 --> 0:47:41.120 You were in her belly? 0:47:41.560 --> 0:47:45.800 Now, okay, Mama and mommy. Yeah, I have another like 0:47:45.960 --> 0:47:46.640 lesbian couple of it. 0:47:46.800 --> 0:47:48.239 I know that I can seeing right now, and I'm 0:47:48.280 --> 0:47:51.200 like drunk with one of mom who's going to be mama. 0:47:51.560 --> 0:47:53.320 She's like the people waiting now, so I don't do 0:47:55.560 --> 0:48:00.640 said it's mama and mommy. Yeah, but I think it's 0:48:01.160 --> 0:48:01.839 daddy and dadda. 0:48:02.400 --> 0:48:06.200 Have you had the conversation when they get older around 0:48:06.280 --> 0:48:08.320 I mean clearly again and sex that they're going to 0:48:08.400 --> 0:48:10.080 learn that the sperm has to swim. 0:48:10.239 --> 0:48:13.440 Oh, and that's the thing. Lennox is our oldest is 0:48:13.800 --> 0:48:17.480 like she said, all the spectrum. His superpower is fucking logical. 0:48:17.840 --> 0:48:20.680 Yeah, you read everything. So he'll get back. 0:48:20.800 --> 0:48:23.160 He's already questioned, I can't give you a okay when 0:48:23.200 --> 0:48:24.719 you get older, he'll be like, what year? 0:48:25.239 --> 0:48:26.919 When? When should I ask him? Gain? He don't play 0:48:26.920 --> 0:48:28.520 that shit. He's I want to know, and I need 0:48:28.600 --> 0:48:30.440 to know with logic, and if it doesn't make sense, 0:48:30.440 --> 0:48:30.880 he'll ask a. 0:48:30.880 --> 0:48:34.239 Fallow Now there's a conversation often around adopted children, right, 0:48:34.640 --> 0:48:36.800 just wanting to meet biological parents. 0:48:36.719 --> 0:48:39.920 And you both talk about adopting. Who did you adopt? 0:48:39.960 --> 0:48:43.400 It says no, okay, no, but oh, we have to 0:48:43.600 --> 0:48:47.200 adopt our own kids due to laws and stuff like that. 0:48:47.880 --> 0:48:51.960 What Yeah, the baby that I carried, I am she's 0:48:52.000 --> 0:48:54.400 also on the pir certificate. But he doesn't mean enough, right, 0:48:54.480 --> 0:48:57.120 there's not enough laws that protect things. 0:48:57.360 --> 0:48:58.960 Hold on, wait wait wait, you're both on the per 0:48:59.000 --> 0:48:59.960 certificate and there's not enough. 0:49:00.440 --> 0:49:05.320 That's not enough. That's not Yeah, that don't acknowledge that. 0:49:05.800 --> 0:49:08.080 That don't Yeah, they could just if we went somewhere else, 0:49:08.120 --> 0:49:09.520 they could be like to, that doesn't count. 0:49:09.560 --> 0:49:10.960 So who adopts whose? 0:49:11.120 --> 0:49:14.680 I have linux who she carried and she has adopt matics? 0:49:14.719 --> 0:49:16.279 Who get the fuck out of here? 0:49:17.239 --> 0:49:19.560 So parents. 0:49:20.800 --> 0:49:20.960 Pet? 0:49:22.840 --> 0:49:27.680 Okay? So then did the guy have to give up 0:49:27.840 --> 0:49:28.440 his rights? 0:49:28.560 --> 0:49:28.600 Like? 0:49:29.160 --> 0:49:31.320 Did he have to be involved in the donor agreement? 0:49:31.320 --> 0:49:32.040 We kind of already have. 0:49:32.080 --> 0:49:35.080 That of the paperwork because I did start the process 0:49:35.480 --> 0:49:39.000 two years when we got pregnant with Maddox, and so 0:49:39.280 --> 0:49:40.839 I started, it got kicked back to me. So that's 0:49:40.840 --> 0:49:42.480 why I'm like, I still need to do it because 0:49:42.600 --> 0:49:44.920 they would like run me through everything. It was horrible, 0:49:45.320 --> 0:49:48.360 but we had to go get it what's it called notarized? 0:49:48.719 --> 0:49:50.640 And so we agreed on this donor agreement. I put 0:49:50.680 --> 0:49:52.520 like five different ones that I pulled online and just 0:49:52.560 --> 0:49:56.719 like cut yeah, and then you know, we agreed on 0:49:56.800 --> 0:49:58.960 our things and then he signed. We got it notarized, 0:49:59.000 --> 0:50:00.600 and then that had to be sick in with all 0:50:00.640 --> 0:50:03.080 of the second parent adoption paperwork because they, of course 0:50:03.080 --> 0:50:05.239 all the paperwork says who's the father of the child? 0:50:05.600 --> 0:50:09.920 You know that I will say this though, something I 0:50:10.000 --> 0:50:13.239 think about being just helpful, Like you remember when like 0:50:13.320 --> 0:50:16.560 super super liberals, which I thought I was, until people 0:50:16.600 --> 0:50:19.640 were like, oh, the child doesn't have a sex when born, 0:50:19.760 --> 0:50:23.240 and like also, uh, there's a show called Polly Family 0:50:23.840 --> 0:50:27.480 where they are in a quad and the woman didn't 0:50:27.480 --> 0:50:28.800 know who was carrying her baby. 0:50:28.880 --> 0:50:31.239 I don't know. The woman didn't know who her father. 0:50:31.640 --> 0:50:33.759 She has her husband and her boyfriend, they're all a couple. 0:50:34.280 --> 0:50:37.360 And so one of the questions raised was like, but 0:50:37.480 --> 0:50:40.200 what about hereditary shit, what about like blood type? Like 0:50:40.920 --> 0:50:42.320 don't you want to look this up? She's like no, 0:50:42.400 --> 0:50:44.799 it's going to really cause a rift in our relationship, 0:50:45.560 --> 0:50:48.239 and I was like, I hold you as someone that 0:50:48.320 --> 0:50:49.200 doesn't think y'all. 0:50:51.080 --> 0:50:52.560 Because we're talking about health. 0:50:53.760 --> 0:50:57.279 My husband is basically like, if it's her boyfriend's baby 0:50:57.360 --> 0:50:59.000 and not mine, am I gonna have a hard time. 0:50:59.040 --> 0:51:00.880 I'm gonna have a hard times in this kid. So 0:51:01.000 --> 0:51:03.080 they have two children that they don't know the father of. 0:51:03.800 --> 0:51:05.880 And that was one of the first times where I 0:51:06.000 --> 0:51:08.439 was like, am I becoming Harry pobably again? 0:51:08.680 --> 0:51:09.759 Because Nigga is too far. 0:51:10.480 --> 0:51:16.160 You gotta say, at some point my ego is less 0:51:16.200 --> 0:51:20.120 important than my kid's health. Sure, And it really started 0:51:20.120 --> 0:51:21.759 to get strange for me to watch it because where 0:51:21.800 --> 0:51:23.360 I started to watch the show because I loved it, 0:51:23.400 --> 0:51:25.399 I was like, that's gonna be me. I was like, dog, 0:51:25.520 --> 0:51:27.960 y'all too far, Like this is crazy, this is crazy. 0:51:28.239 --> 0:51:30.959 So the dude got the kids blood tested. The blood 0:51:31.000 --> 0:51:33.200 type was oh, and then one of the fathers reached out. 0:51:33.200 --> 0:51:34.400 He's like, but now we know whose baby it is, 0:51:34.880 --> 0:51:37.040 and God's so upset, Like. 0:51:38.080 --> 0:51:42.360 Yeah, ignorance is bliss some people, most. 0:51:42.280 --> 0:51:45.759 Straight men in that situation would want to know them. 0:51:45.840 --> 0:51:48.960 Niggas would love to be right. So a lot of 0:51:48.960 --> 0:51:49.600 people have a heart. 0:51:49.600 --> 0:51:52.440 So she was they basically they swapped nights, think of 0:51:52.520 --> 0:51:55.359 sister wives, but with a couple, so each person swapped nights. 0:51:55.400 --> 0:51:58.040 So she didn't know have you And I'm not sure 0:51:58.080 --> 0:51:59.640 what was in the agreement, but I'm curious. 0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:03.320 What if when your sons get older they want to 0:52:03.440 --> 0:52:07.279 meet their father, is that they can't their donor, their donor? 0:52:07.320 --> 0:52:11.080 They're done? I'm sorry their donor? Is that that's part 0:52:11.120 --> 0:52:13.480 of it? That's possible, Okay, I would love to know. 0:52:13.840 --> 0:52:17.640 Just using that language, my friends that are pregnant right 0:52:17.680 --> 0:52:19.440 now say father instead of donor. 0:52:19.760 --> 0:52:22.879 Do you believe that's a personal ship. 0:52:23.480 --> 0:52:27.400 My friends with baby daddies call them donors, right. 0:52:27.560 --> 0:52:31.640 Like they called it like I referred to I think 0:52:31.760 --> 0:52:34.920 my dad in my in the book as like the 0:52:35.960 --> 0:52:38.120 woman I'd a lot of that's the nigga my mama 0:52:38.200 --> 0:52:39.040 chose to have a baby with. 0:52:39.280 --> 0:52:41.879 Like it's I've removed the word father. 0:52:41.920 --> 0:52:44.080 A lot of my friends, especially who are single parents, 0:52:44.520 --> 0:52:48.120 they refer to it ain't baby daddy. They call them 0:52:48.160 --> 0:52:51.680 donors because like and and again, there's so many different 0:52:51.760 --> 0:52:54.759 arrangements that could happen. But to me, that's how disconnected 0:52:54.760 --> 0:52:57.040 they are to how that person is showing up in 0:52:57.120 --> 0:52:57.960 the life for their child. 0:52:58.080 --> 0:53:02.520 How has it been when he's around. Fine, I mean, 0:53:02.960 --> 0:53:04.360 we love them, That's what I'm saying. It's not it's 0:53:04.360 --> 0:53:07.080 a friend. It's as you know. Yeah, I'm a strange person. 0:53:07.360 --> 0:53:09.879 I think in the case of like your friends having 0:53:09.920 --> 0:53:12.200 somebody that their kids can call father, we have friends 0:53:12.280 --> 0:53:16.000 too who have children and they also let. 0:53:15.960 --> 0:53:19.880 Their children or they all refer to the donor. It's 0:53:19.920 --> 0:53:22.920 an agreement. I love that I may see that guy 0:53:23.000 --> 0:53:25.279 once a month, so it's still an arrangement that works 0:53:25.320 --> 0:53:27.080 for them. It's not about it. It is you are 0:53:27.160 --> 0:53:28.560 this father figure and we're going to use that. We 0:53:28.600 --> 0:53:32.440 don't necessarily need to do that before we started that. 0:53:32.640 --> 0:53:34.759 This was so interesting because a few years ago, Vannie 0:53:34.760 --> 0:53:36.799 and I have talked about this a lot, and one 0:53:36.840 --> 0:53:38.960 of the things that Vinnie and I talked about were like, 0:53:39.640 --> 0:53:43.000 he's like, I really feel like you're gonna get emotional 0:53:43.520 --> 0:53:46.640 and like not like I want, Vinnie, but like you're 0:53:46.640 --> 0:53:49.640 a family girl. You want like, will our friendship go 0:53:49.719 --> 0:53:52.879 away because we did this thing? He doesn't He don't 0:53:52.880 --> 0:53:54.280 want to have a baby, yes. 0:53:54.239 --> 0:53:57.399 Because you know, I'm like, you're the child of your father, 0:53:57.800 --> 0:54:00.640 I mean, the father of your child. Are we friends anymore? 0:54:00.760 --> 0:54:02.560 Will you start to look at me differently to the 0:54:02.640 --> 0:54:03.920 expectations of me changed? 0:54:04.280 --> 0:54:07.439 We're talking about before this relationship you with a friend 0:54:07.520 --> 0:54:07.919 co parent. 0:54:08.040 --> 0:54:11.040 Yes, yes, so we've discussed it and we're really really close. Yes, 0:54:11.080 --> 0:54:12.640 ten years we've been friends. And he was like, I 0:54:12.680 --> 0:54:14.400 don't know, girl, I just feel like you're going to 0:54:14.480 --> 0:54:15.480 start changing. 0:54:16.160 --> 0:54:18.880 Because he just wanted to donate and not be in 0:54:18.920 --> 0:54:19.440 the child's life. 0:54:19.440 --> 0:54:20.640 Do I think that you would want your child to 0:54:20.719 --> 0:54:23.239 have a father in that in that capacity? Do you 0:54:23.280 --> 0:54:24.680 feel like I want to have a partner. 0:54:25.000 --> 0:54:26.759 You can't even answer your question now, And that's how 0:54:27.000 --> 0:54:29.359 I think I think he felt it, and he's probably like, damn, 0:54:29.400 --> 0:54:30.439 you probably want me around. 0:54:30.440 --> 0:54:32.359 You probably want this kid. He said, you could take 0:54:32.400 --> 0:54:37.360 this sperm baby agreement. It's like you are not the virus. 0:54:37.400 --> 0:54:40.160 I want to ask the mary. We don't acquire any 0:54:40.920 --> 0:54:43.880 Can I ask then ignorant question? Nervous? 0:54:44.480 --> 0:54:47.840 I do you already asked today? I was Actually my 0:54:47.920 --> 0:54:50.400 next question was really like, so how did you get pregnant? 0:54:51.160 --> 0:54:53.400 Oh, well, no, that ain't I'm going a little more 0:54:53.440 --> 0:54:55.239 ignorant with a syringe baby. 0:54:55.280 --> 0:54:59.960 Together at home or it was he wouldn't like, we're 0:55:00.040 --> 0:55:01.000 on the way, I'm oculating. 0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:02.520 He'd be like, all right, I'm putting in this cup 0:55:02.560 --> 0:55:04.040 and I would go for a run and then we 0:55:04.120 --> 0:55:05.960 go insidement. We'd go into the permanent and be a 0:55:06.000 --> 0:55:09.200 little Ramikin sitting on the on the dresser, you. 0:55:09.239 --> 0:55:15.840 Know everyone, you know everyone's and then put something. Okay. 0:55:16.320 --> 0:55:18.359 Even though once we did go to the fertility clinic, 0:55:18.400 --> 0:55:20.120 what the doctor said that it wasn't really she said, 0:55:20.120 --> 0:55:21.719 do you know how many women get pregnant and don't 0:55:21.719 --> 0:55:22.320 have an orgasm? 0:55:24.600 --> 0:55:30.640 Would never have baby? Yeah? You know right, yes you do. 0:55:30.719 --> 0:55:35.960 Not okay, but yes, I know we're ready just a 0:55:35.960 --> 0:55:40.239 little bit, just a little bits. Okay. 0:55:40.320 --> 0:55:41.920 Maybe my mom went a little ignorant to but I 0:55:41.960 --> 0:55:43.960 feel like someone else's mind went to to maybe our 0:55:44.000 --> 0:55:44.680 male listeners. 0:55:45.160 --> 0:55:49.320 You have listeners. You have every sign accommodate them male listeners. 0:55:49.480 --> 0:55:52.240 I know not I'm trying to accommodate the male listeners. 0:55:52.600 --> 0:55:57.240 But there is a narrative that boys need a father figure, 0:55:57.400 --> 0:55:58.919 boys need to be raised by men. 0:55:59.400 --> 0:56:01.120 Boys. You know, I know this. 0:56:02.160 --> 0:56:04.959 I know it's only laughable because like how many boys 0:56:05.000 --> 0:56:06.480 are raised by women across. 0:56:06.320 --> 0:56:13.439 The moms that there all dallis who raised mom raised you. Yeah, 0:56:13.640 --> 0:56:16.480 and they that ship they need. 0:56:16.480 --> 0:56:18.000 To This is because I didn't have it, and I 0:56:18.040 --> 0:56:19.920 would have been better if I had it. No, maybe 0:56:20.320 --> 0:56:23.640 all possibly a possible, But did you not make it? 0:56:23.800 --> 0:56:26.640 Like you you're still a fully established person, you still 0:56:26.680 --> 0:56:28.880 are well rounded. Had your mother but maybe had some 0:56:29.000 --> 0:56:31.040 ability to put you like, have male figures in your 0:56:31.080 --> 0:56:32.040 life that maybe. 0:56:32.040 --> 0:56:36.839 You still would have been full. Three of y'all. Yeah, 0:56:37.000 --> 0:56:38.800 what's a lot of many two parent households? 0:56:38.800 --> 0:56:42.440 How many of y'all in the room there we gosars? 0:56:43.040 --> 0:56:43.879 You still go with your dad? 0:56:44.200 --> 0:56:49.040 You really impactful in your life. And that's two out 0:56:49.040 --> 0:56:54.680 of three, two out of three talking to you. Eventually 0:56:54.760 --> 0:56:59.279 she got married, she got okay, oh okay, but both single, 0:57:00.080 --> 0:57:02.000 you got the world there you She's like, I did 0:57:02.040 --> 0:57:03.799 both and now you got with you your mom. 0:57:04.440 --> 0:57:07.120 Yeah, and then you have both in the house. Amazing. 0:57:07.200 --> 0:57:08.800 How old divorced? 0:57:10.600 --> 0:57:13.000 Oh that's pretty Did you feel like that there were 0:57:13.120 --> 0:57:14.960 only because too, Like we've seen. 0:57:16.360 --> 0:57:17.200 A lot of celebrities. 0:57:17.240 --> 0:57:19.439 I think Nelly just said it like that he doesn't 0:57:19.480 --> 0:57:21.800 even feel like he needs to be around the baby 0:57:21.880 --> 0:57:23.440 until a certain age to teach a man. 0:57:23.560 --> 0:57:24.600 But yeah. 0:57:24.680 --> 0:57:27.040 Literally, he said that when that baby needs to be talking, like, 0:57:27.280 --> 0:57:30.320 he doesn't need to engage while it's crying, feeding, changing, 0:57:30.400 --> 0:57:36.800 none of that. That's and women give men like that pussy. 0:57:36.840 --> 0:57:42.880 It's crazy, like, oh, I got a babysit the kids 0:57:42.880 --> 0:57:44.200 to night, and he's like, I remember he got off 0:57:44.200 --> 0:57:44.560 the phone. 0:57:44.760 --> 0:57:46.320 He's actually made me like, babysit your own. 0:57:46.360 --> 0:57:48.200 It was early on in our relationship. He was like, 0:57:49.200 --> 0:57:50.760 is this nigga talk about he had a babysitting all 0:57:50.760 --> 0:57:51.000 the sun? 0:57:52.280 --> 0:57:53.440 Sound stupid? 0:57:53.520 --> 0:57:55.760 That's the standard a lot of times, Like, let's be real, 0:57:55.840 --> 0:57:58.320 we hear those kinds of conversations all the time, men 0:57:58.400 --> 0:57:59.440 babysitting their children. 0:58:00.680 --> 0:58:01.720 Are you talking about? I don't know. 0:58:01.800 --> 0:58:04.800 I answer, she got two brothers. I got two brothers. 0:58:04.840 --> 0:58:07.360 They have a godfather, and they're like they got a grandfather. 0:58:07.920 --> 0:58:10.960 Her son got a daddy and I carry the older Yeah, 0:58:12.560 --> 0:58:17.480 and they got there. So as a seventeen year old, 0:58:17.520 --> 0:58:19.480 when you have these con well that's an adult. 0:58:19.560 --> 0:58:22.280 That's no, no, no, you don't even look like you 0:58:22.320 --> 0:58:24.040 would have no seventeen year old By. 0:58:23.960 --> 0:58:27.120 God damn hours, How were the conversations like with him 0:58:27.120 --> 0:58:27.920 since he was older? 0:58:28.080 --> 0:58:31.400 When you and sk decided to, you know, get pregnant. 0:58:31.920 --> 0:58:37.200 Did you feel like you're m because maybe excited to 0:58:37.280 --> 0:58:39.040 have he was ailing. I think the one thing I 0:58:39.120 --> 0:58:40.720 remember him, I took him to lunch when he was 0:58:40.840 --> 0:58:42.640 how old he is? You're right, you told him. I 0:58:42.840 --> 0:58:45.200 took him out and I was like, yeah, I took 0:58:45.240 --> 0:58:46.960 him to a place he was eating buffet, you know 0:58:50.520 --> 0:58:50.840 your mom. 0:58:51.400 --> 0:58:54.840 Like I was like, I got a baby my stomach 0:58:54.960 --> 0:58:57.720 and he just was like what And then he was 0:58:57.800 --> 0:59:00.040 like shocked a little bit. And then he said, I 0:59:00.080 --> 0:59:03.720 had to cry and I and my little cancer can yeah. 0:59:04.120 --> 0:59:06.800 And then and then he was like, you know, like 0:59:06.880 --> 0:59:10.800 an only child, immediately selfish, how old girl, I can't 0:59:10.800 --> 0:59:11.600 play with these kids? 0:59:14.520 --> 0:59:19.200 And I count, wow, that's so beautiful. Yeah. 0:59:19.440 --> 0:59:22.440 And then the conversation of like telling him that I 0:59:22.520 --> 0:59:24.480 had a girlfriend, right, because he did have both his 0:59:24.560 --> 0:59:26.120 parents and then we surarated when he was young, like 0:59:26.200 --> 0:59:29.280 too was when he was five in kindergarten was when 0:59:29.280 --> 0:59:30.680 I had the conversation and told him like, well, me 0:59:30.720 --> 0:59:32.360 has a girlfriend. So there was like that whole thing 0:59:32.760 --> 0:59:35.040 too that I really had to navigate like on my 0:59:35.160 --> 0:59:37.480 own with her, but like both of our families were 0:59:37.520 --> 0:59:37.960 against it. 0:59:38.280 --> 0:59:39.960 You know and stuff like that. And even at the time, 0:59:40.000 --> 0:59:41.880 like both of your families were against you telling your 0:59:41.920 --> 0:59:47.600 son or his father family, and my family were against 0:59:47.840 --> 0:59:51.360 me being with a woman. Oh wow right, it was 0:59:51.400 --> 0:59:54.040 like if you have like a little girlfriend or whatever. 0:59:54.200 --> 0:59:55.640 But they were still trying to make me marry him, 0:59:55.920 --> 0:59:58.520 like they were still trying to like is not keeper 0:59:58.640 --> 0:59:59.160 on a stop? 1:00:00.400 --> 1:00:01.480 What? Yeah? 1:00:02.160 --> 1:00:08.800 Yeah, because the audacity the audacity religious religious Christian families. 1:00:08.880 --> 1:00:10.760 I had him at in a Christian school at the time, 1:00:10.880 --> 1:00:12.520 so that was really hard to navigate. 1:00:12.640 --> 1:00:14.720 Isn't it interesting how older parents. 1:00:14.800 --> 1:00:18.280 So my mom has always been accepting my sexuality, which 1:00:18.280 --> 1:00:20.600 I talked about the book, which was amazing. But there 1:00:20.640 --> 1:00:21.920 were so many things she said when I had a 1:00:21.960 --> 1:00:24.000 girlfriend that she didn't even realize were male centered. 1:00:25.000 --> 1:00:29.919 Did care? Loved her down so on date to get 1:00:30.000 --> 1:00:31.160 this baby right? 1:00:31.520 --> 1:00:33.800 Like they don't even they can't say my mother the 1:00:33.880 --> 1:00:36.160 same way. Well, I just was having such a hard 1:00:36.200 --> 1:00:37.959 time with you being gay because I always wanted grand 1:00:38.040 --> 1:00:40.200 kids like you. 1:00:41.240 --> 1:00:43.480 Was like you really separate, Like once you're with a woman, 1:00:43.560 --> 1:00:49.760 they like want ice clinking, you know, you need the 1:00:49.800 --> 1:00:50.800 cocktails downstairs. 1:00:51.600 --> 1:00:55.440 So I mean, you know, because she's always working so 1:00:55.520 --> 1:00:58.400 I feel like, wouldn't it be great if we could 1:00:58.440 --> 1:00:59.640 just because we were in different cities. 1:01:00.000 --> 1:01:01.640 You guys are in the same city, and we just 1:01:02.000 --> 1:01:07.600 who are we thinking about a partner? My mom just really, 1:01:08.320 --> 1:01:11.360 my mom really believed and she told her in her 1:01:11.360 --> 1:01:13.480 own way in that moment that was supportive, yeah, because 1:01:13.520 --> 1:01:21.800 she gonna be yeah, I want oh yeah, the baby here. 1:01:22.440 --> 1:01:24.600 And so when we. 1:01:24.720 --> 1:01:26.800 Started having sex with a dude together and being in 1:01:26.880 --> 1:01:29.720 the throle, my mom was like, oh great, this is 1:01:30.000 --> 1:01:32.360 this is the alignment. Yeah, and then she literally said 1:01:32.360 --> 1:01:34.160 to me, this takes a lot of weight off you. 1:01:35.440 --> 1:01:37.920 I mean, I'm not I'm not gonna lie. You were 1:01:37.960 --> 1:01:40.600 gonna have to pay for that guy. I'm surprised. 1:01:40.680 --> 1:01:44.080 My mom literally is a grandma by my lesbian sister, 1:01:45.080 --> 1:01:49.560 and so so so my my my sister currently co parents, 1:01:50.200 --> 1:01:51.560 uh or not. 1:01:51.920 --> 1:01:56.560 She's she's gay, lesbian, okay, and they raised this baby. 1:01:56.800 --> 1:02:01.320 And it's funny because her, her partner's parents family has 1:02:01.400 --> 1:02:03.960 the issues that they're together. But also I think on 1:02:04.040 --> 1:02:07.680 another level, her her partner's white, and so I think 1:02:07.720 --> 1:02:11.480 her family also has a problem the same thing. So 1:02:12.000 --> 1:02:21.760 it's crazy. It's crazy how how sometimes like yeah, she's 1:02:22.800 --> 1:02:25.040 but the family. It's interesting because I feel like she 1:02:25.720 --> 1:02:27.480 they have more of a problem with the fact that 1:02:27.960 --> 1:02:29.920 my sister and the baby are black and the. 1:02:29.960 --> 1:02:30.280 Fact that. 1:02:32.440 --> 1:02:35.600 Yeah, like and it's crazy because me and my other 1:02:35.720 --> 1:02:39.120 sister we be taking dick and we don't want like 1:02:40.040 --> 1:02:41.280 we be like that might. 1:02:41.200 --> 1:02:45.360 Be your only one, you might be grandma only daughter, 1:02:45.400 --> 1:02:45.800 and we're. 1:02:45.680 --> 1:02:47.280 Like, what are the odds what? 1:02:48.360 --> 1:02:50.760 Me and my white friend played this game recently, so 1:02:51.520 --> 1:02:54.480 we've had a conversation like, hey, gay kid, what are 1:02:54.520 --> 1:02:54.920 we gonna do? 1:02:55.360 --> 1:02:56.600 How are we to raise it? How are we going 1:02:56.640 --> 1:02:57.840 to do this? How are we going to make sure 1:02:57.880 --> 1:03:01.720 we're great parents? He was like, what they like white women? 1:03:02.200 --> 1:03:06.040 What the Yeah, it's like you can do a lot 1:03:06.160 --> 1:03:12.640 to support your children and being yay, but the harm 1:03:12.720 --> 1:03:15.880 you bring yourself letting that motherfucker bring white. 1:03:15.720 --> 1:03:21.440 Wife, don't don't I have a home? I have a 1:03:21.480 --> 1:03:23.520 home right down then literally now. 1:03:25.240 --> 1:03:28.600 Literally to a white woman, and the fear of like, okay, 1:03:28.640 --> 1:03:30.600 well they know I'm dating girl. She's now public with 1:03:30.720 --> 1:03:34.720 this white woman, and she's like, that's the that's the problem. 1:03:34.800 --> 1:03:38.400 That's like, ay, I remember having a homeboy, and this 1:03:38.600 --> 1:03:42.040 is another thing. Even in queerness and stuff. It was 1:03:42.160 --> 1:03:45.440 like there was a part where he started dating trans 1:03:45.520 --> 1:03:49.000 women and he was like he already knew. He was like, 1:03:49.240 --> 1:03:51.240 they won't even let me bring a white woman home. 1:03:51.360 --> 1:03:53.840 I already know this is good, Like the way that 1:03:54.120 --> 1:03:55.040 there's literally. 1:03:54.960 --> 1:03:57.320 There's the interracial part of things and the. 1:03:57.360 --> 1:04:03.880 Queerness level of remember where you know, So my friend Brandon, 1:04:03.920 --> 1:04:06.400 we've had him on the show be Rich. Brandon told 1:04:06.440 --> 1:04:09.200 me at alex we were drunk at Soho house and 1:04:09.440 --> 1:04:11.240 there was a really attractive guy that walk by and 1:04:11.280 --> 1:04:13.880 he goes, bitch, I don't know what made you think. 1:04:14.600 --> 1:04:18.720 He's in his forties, said never, I have never, And 1:04:18.840 --> 1:04:22.800 I was like, white person, I've never been with a 1:04:22.800 --> 1:04:24.280 white person in my life. 1:04:24.400 --> 1:04:27.960 I would be so like not. 1:04:28.080 --> 1:04:30.640 Even a shame, but like the fact that someone you 1:04:30.720 --> 1:04:32.160 better think I'm gay before you think I f a 1:04:32.200 --> 1:04:34.560 white man, Like like, yeah. 1:04:34.440 --> 1:04:36.840 I've never been with a white person either. It's so weird. 1:04:37.040 --> 1:04:39.320 Well I'm lying. This guy did make me like eat 1:04:39.360 --> 1:04:42.280 this white girl's pussy. But it was fun. So made 1:04:42.600 --> 1:04:43.840 that made me. She was fun. 1:04:43.920 --> 1:04:47.560 I wanted a threesomes. She was a fun white no no, no, 1:04:47.720 --> 1:04:51.920 like yes, I think dirty blonde. 1:04:52.320 --> 1:05:03.320 Oh no, she wasn't even I I think I think this. 1:05:03.640 --> 1:05:07.880 I think this white girl was from Boston so white. No, 1:05:08.400 --> 1:05:09.040 let me tell y'all. 1:05:09.040 --> 1:05:11.120 I'll be feeling so bad for my mom because her kids, 1:05:11.440 --> 1:05:14.560 her daughter ended up queer, and then her son got 1:05:14.600 --> 1:05:15.200 with a white woman. 1:05:15.560 --> 1:05:17.480 And I'm just so grateful, Anna, I love you. She 1:05:17.560 --> 1:05:24.760 British and French culture she got. She's not American white, 1:05:24.800 --> 1:05:31.040 that's all that. I just aritage of white America. You 1:05:31.200 --> 1:05:32.040 know what's funny about this. 1:05:32.120 --> 1:05:35.080 My ex was British and I used to have to 1:05:35.120 --> 1:05:37.400 say my ex was British, and I have to be like, 1:05:37.440 --> 1:05:38.000 but he's black. 1:05:38.240 --> 1:05:42.640 You like, like, but he's he's black by Rachel Black, 1:05:48.800 --> 1:05:50.360 so like I would all like us. 1:05:50.400 --> 1:05:52.320 Now, as we're rapping this episode, before we get to 1:05:52.400 --> 1:05:53.200 last few questions to. 1:05:53.200 --> 1:05:56.240 Go around and say something nice about a white person, 1:05:56.840 --> 1:05:57.919 Have you ever woman? 1:05:57.960 --> 1:06:01.160 What we fun I'll start? Wait, let me talk about what? 1:06:01.400 --> 1:06:07.280 Why are Angelina je white woman? Would we fuel life? 1:06:07.880 --> 1:06:10.520 What silott? John Hanson got it for me? I know 1:06:10.640 --> 1:06:11.720 what crazy super. 1:06:11.520 --> 1:06:13.720 Love the other day and I got But it's only 1:06:13.840 --> 1:06:16.160 because she's always on the top of ship and her 1:06:16.200 --> 1:06:17.240 body is actually. 1:06:17.240 --> 1:06:19.360 Team and I went nineties Angelina jo and I want 1:06:19.400 --> 1:06:20.160 the nineties. 1:06:19.880 --> 1:06:22.120 Of this shit too, but honestly in its ripe age. 1:06:22.800 --> 1:06:25.160 You know, look at I'm giving you too much the 1:06:25.200 --> 1:06:26.160 old white woman already. 1:06:26.200 --> 1:06:32.000 First off, let me just okay, were rolling for this 1:06:32.120 --> 1:06:41.960 one to justify I'm trying to just make answer. She said, 1:06:42.000 --> 1:06:44.360 this is I just want to I had to answer 1:06:44.400 --> 1:06:47.680 on this. Why I would do Sandra Bullock is because 1:06:47.720 --> 1:06:49.760 she's a bad I feel your baby, I feel you. 1:06:50.200 --> 1:06:53.400 We just pay attention to her ready for that. It's 1:06:53.400 --> 1:06:55.960 a lot of years. Watch mister, watch your walk out. 1:06:56.760 --> 1:07:00.840 I'm with you on this one. Yeah, miss congeniality she is. 1:07:01.480 --> 1:07:02.880 It's like, I've never seen a white girl look like that. 1:07:02.960 --> 1:07:03.640 Oh so there's Jerry. 1:07:03.680 --> 1:07:04.800 There's a lot of naturalness. 1:07:05.800 --> 1:07:08.120 She doesn't look extra that cake. Let me make let 1:07:08.200 --> 1:07:12.320 me make you have been young before I say that. 1:07:15.160 --> 1:07:23.600 You know Arina carbon Yes, I was close. She's twenty six. 1:07:23.680 --> 1:07:26.600 I'll take it. Oh no, she to me, if you 1:07:26.720 --> 1:07:29.200 make it white, I want white white. Look at that. 1:07:29.480 --> 1:07:32.440 She looks like a fucking Barbie doll. And she'd be Robbie. 1:07:32.440 --> 1:07:35.959 We're gonna talk about Margo Robbie too. But Sabrina Carboner. People, 1:07:36.000 --> 1:07:39.640 you don't like Sabrina carbon Murcat Robbie. No, she does 1:07:39.760 --> 1:07:42.320 look like a ball Margot Robbie. 1:07:42.520 --> 1:07:45.240 Oh yeah, no, Barbie's when she was pregnant too, she 1:07:45.400 --> 1:07:47.040 was looking good, Doctor Barbie. 1:07:47.400 --> 1:07:49.880 If I had the movie Barbie movie, the person who 1:07:49.880 --> 1:07:54.040 played by No, I was saying, Alex, who's yours? 1:07:54.120 --> 1:07:57.280 We know you got it already, you gotta she likes 1:07:57.320 --> 1:08:02.160 what I would go either Scarlet or who's the girl 1:08:02.280 --> 1:08:06.960 now with the big ass breath? Oh Sidney, yeah, wait 1:08:07.040 --> 1:08:09.760 no she it was hell, didn't she with the geens? Yeah? 1:08:10.400 --> 1:08:14.840 That was she? What she do my jeans? So she 1:08:14.920 --> 1:08:17.840 did this American a whole American ass. She was like 1:08:18.520 --> 1:08:20.600 some people's jeans are like transferred. 1:08:20.680 --> 1:08:22.160 They were trying to make it seem like it was jeans, 1:08:22.200 --> 1:08:23.680 but they were talking about g E N E yes, 1:08:23.840 --> 1:08:27.000 we know. And then she goess are passed down. 1:08:28.080 --> 1:08:35.200 It's like a break the American flag. Come up with wasxual? 1:08:36.080 --> 1:08:38.920 No, no, no, no, it's talking about the standard, the standard. 1:08:39.439 --> 1:08:43.679 You're beauty, Cody. It's very Cody. You know what's crazy. 1:08:43.840 --> 1:08:47.240 I think everyone has a lot problematic, but everyone has 1:08:47.280 --> 1:08:49.679 a price. I think there's people that would. 1:08:49.520 --> 1:08:52.080 Be problematic for the right dollar amount like for me, 1:08:52.280 --> 1:08:54.040 to me, I didn't think it was problematic, so we 1:08:54.120 --> 1:08:55.360 got to dig it. Like to me, it was because 1:08:55.360 --> 1:08:57.280 you're not about jeans, then you're in situating. 1:08:57.840 --> 1:09:01.680 She just levis just put out a Beyonce ad that 1:09:01.680 --> 1:09:04.400 says Beyonce has better genes, trying to like, oh, I. 1:09:04.400 --> 1:09:08.160 Did see that. I didn't see that. I did see that. Les. 1:09:09.400 --> 1:09:12.320 I do think that there's a price those people, especially 1:09:12.360 --> 1:09:15.120 white women, women like they don't have morals because like 1:09:15.200 --> 1:09:17.560 to me, doesn't Gwyneth Paltrow. 1:09:17.479 --> 1:09:21.559 Doing an astronomer ad after her husband it was money that. 1:09:21.600 --> 1:09:23.679 Made her do and it's just like it was genius. 1:09:23.920 --> 1:09:26.479 She called her husband or her ex husband said this 1:09:26.600 --> 1:09:27.080 is for the both. 1:09:27.439 --> 1:09:30.160 I'm honest. Wait, you didn't see you don't need the world? 1:09:30.240 --> 1:09:31.560 So you know what the CEO. 1:09:34.120 --> 1:09:37.680 That's the ex husband of Gwyneth Paltrow, bitch And they 1:09:37.760 --> 1:09:38.559 didn't used him. 1:09:38.600 --> 1:09:40.120 They didn't use Gwyneth Paltrow. 1:09:42.520 --> 1:09:44.160 Hey, I know a lot of you are looking at 1:09:44.200 --> 1:09:45.439 the company, what is it about? 1:09:45.479 --> 1:09:51.200 And then like great, it was great, But I'm like, oh, 1:09:51.240 --> 1:09:53.160 I don't. I don't actually think that's for the money. 1:09:53.560 --> 1:09:55.040 You don't think it's for the money. I think she's 1:09:55.080 --> 1:09:57.280 definitely not. She said, Babe, I'm gonna do this thing. 1:09:57.360 --> 1:09:59.800 It's gonna go in Apple's joint. Saving that ship is 1:09:59.880 --> 1:10:03.320 just funny. And we're gonna name their children Apple. 1:10:03.479 --> 1:10:03.640 You know. 1:10:06.320 --> 1:10:08.640 Oh wait, that's for real. You know that. 1:10:14.400 --> 1:10:18.000 Podcast, but we talk about Tay's baby names, Alex look 1:10:18.040 --> 1:10:18.559 him up right now. 1:10:19.160 --> 1:10:21.840 I will tell you the latest baby is Aquahan. 1:10:22.439 --> 1:10:24.800 White people have the nerve to talk about black names, 1:10:25.160 --> 1:10:30.560 and they're naming their child Apple, Malibu Barbie. 1:10:30.640 --> 1:10:32.599 Like these are their children's names, like their real name? 1:10:33.960 --> 1:10:36.200 Who is this person's a podcast. 1:10:35.920 --> 1:10:43.040 Named Malibu Barbie, Malibou Barbie? What uhus? But I was 1:10:43.040 --> 1:10:50.000 like the name Barbie Aquaman, name Elvistas Aquaman is. 1:10:50.000 --> 1:10:53.000 That baby's first name Elvis Aquaman and Malibu Barbie. 1:10:53.680 --> 1:10:55.800 And malam Barbie is the name the whole thing. 1:10:55.880 --> 1:10:59.040 When you are rich and right, you can name your 1:10:59.080 --> 1:11:02.240 baby xcel r K well like Elon must did or 1:11:02.840 --> 1:11:07.680 you got. That's funny people, and also real ship. It 1:11:08.880 --> 1:11:10.719 makes me think, what whole type ship. 1:11:10.600 --> 1:11:13.600 Am I gonna do? Appropriate? No, no, no to me. 1:11:13.720 --> 1:11:16.080 White people's celebrities are only able to do that because 1:11:16.240 --> 1:11:19.479 they truly believe in nepotism, and so they don't feel 1:11:19.520 --> 1:11:20.479 like their children are. 1:11:20.439 --> 1:11:21.840 Ever gonna really have to work. 1:11:21.960 --> 1:11:23.559 They might have to be because I ain't gonna hold 1:11:23.560 --> 1:11:27.200 you I've had. I mean, clearly, I have to hire people. 1:11:27.439 --> 1:11:30.720 I got a resume, and the names that Aquaman. The 1:11:30.800 --> 1:11:32.719 way y'all be judging black names out here. 1:11:32.920 --> 1:11:36.479 Hr period, I'm not hiring someone named I'm not even. 1:11:36.320 --> 1:11:40.840 Calling because you serious, I'm gonna try to figure out 1:11:40.840 --> 1:11:41.799 why didn't give us a better. 1:11:41.720 --> 1:11:43.920 Name, because to me, I think people ain't a bad name. 1:11:43.960 --> 1:11:48.720 Actually, Malible's not bad, Barbie, if you go by your 1:11:48.760 --> 1:11:49.880 full name, I'm. 1:11:49.800 --> 1:11:51.439 Not Actually isn't that? 1:11:51.640 --> 1:11:54.519 But Aquaman is nuts aam is the same that baby's 1:11:54.520 --> 1:11:56.840 gonna go by Moses, and Moses is too old. 1:11:59.120 --> 1:12:01.680 But apparently she into like water, which I don't give a. 1:12:03.479 --> 1:12:03.639 More. 1:12:04.120 --> 1:12:05.680 Are you doing that to your child? To me, that 1:12:05.720 --> 1:12:07.240 should be a form of child abuse, you know how? 1:12:07.320 --> 1:12:10.000 No, Frianda loves traders. I saw this ship. She was 1:12:10.040 --> 1:12:11.799 telling me about it. She was like, she's so different. 1:12:14.360 --> 1:12:14.679 I see. 1:12:14.680 --> 1:12:16.280 I think that that's why I would judge you, like 1:12:16.479 --> 1:12:21.200 if your name is Aquaman, I'm I'm convinced that there's 1:12:21.280 --> 1:12:25.600 some turbulence in your childhood that you might come to 1:12:25.720 --> 1:12:27.160 me emotionally unstable. 1:12:27.240 --> 1:12:29.960 Well I don't have turbulence, that's why are you coming 1:12:29.960 --> 1:12:30.160 to me? 1:12:33.240 --> 1:12:37.120 But by the way, my name is Amanda, very simple, right, 1:12:37.520 --> 1:12:38.080 I grew up. 1:12:39.720 --> 1:12:44.439 I grew up getting team a man dump, So I 1:12:44.920 --> 1:12:46.080 only amagine. 1:12:46.760 --> 1:12:47.840 What do you think I got? Wait? 1:12:47.960 --> 1:12:53.560 An absolutely bro that is literally a mimennial. That is 1:12:53.680 --> 1:12:55.880 typical Amanda's baby. 1:12:59.200 --> 1:13:01.760 So dump ever, heary love when I get anything? A 1:13:01.840 --> 1:13:02.400 first on her? 1:13:03.520 --> 1:13:07.240 That was a whole y'all's almost baby names? Oh yeah, 1:13:07.400 --> 1:13:07.960 for your kids? 1:13:08.040 --> 1:13:09.120 What did you not go with? So? 1:13:09.200 --> 1:13:11.880 Wait, why did I just come across that list? But 1:13:12.280 --> 1:13:15.200 I was looking at Maddox's uh science, his birth chart 1:13:15.479 --> 1:13:17.360 and said list. 1:13:17.880 --> 1:13:20.000 Was harder too because we named him two days after 1:13:20.000 --> 1:13:25.400 three baby y'all days later. So I was I had 1:13:25.439 --> 1:13:28.040 a homework and I had been calling him. You look 1:13:28.080 --> 1:13:31.680 like you had a bone verse. Okay, look not too much. 1:13:32.040 --> 1:13:36.880 I think that's what she's gonna be. 1:13:37.160 --> 1:13:42.160 Wanted a water water Okay, you tap in. I want 1:13:42.160 --> 1:13:47.240 to help it. I want to be a duel. Look 1:13:47.280 --> 1:13:51.519 at wait, you can have a baby with yours. I 1:13:51.600 --> 1:13:52.280 got all four. 1:13:53.000 --> 1:13:55.680 The thing is like your mag there's a lot so 1:13:55.800 --> 1:13:57.920 it's like they say, here's some history. 1:13:58.000 --> 1:14:00.720 Ye, here's some history. Did you know, Oh the only 1:14:00.840 --> 1:14:03.599 reason we lay on our backs to have birth at 1:14:03.640 --> 1:14:04.720 the hospital. 1:14:04.960 --> 1:14:09.160 It is because for the no, no, something appeasing to 1:14:09.240 --> 1:14:09.679 the man. 1:14:10.280 --> 1:14:11.320 Not a specific man. 1:14:11.360 --> 1:14:13.040 I think it was like a king or like a 1:14:13.400 --> 1:14:15.840 somebody that was running something. He was a perf and 1:14:16.040 --> 1:14:19.080 enjoyed watching women have babies, and because they would normally 1:14:19.160 --> 1:14:21.519 do it that way or standing up, he made them 1:14:21.640 --> 1:14:22.160 lay down. 1:14:22.040 --> 1:14:22.800 So he could watch. 1:14:23.080 --> 1:14:27.000 Shut the fuck up, so he could watch strangers wives 1:14:27.080 --> 1:14:30.160 have babies at random. And then it became a natural protocol. 1:14:30.240 --> 1:14:33.519 Look at you bring in history because because I was like, what, 1:14:33.680 --> 1:14:36.120 I have my baby at the hospital. Thankfully they sat 1:14:36.200 --> 1:14:38.080 me up because they you know, there are some things 1:14:38.160 --> 1:14:39.560 like they'll lay you back or like they'll let you 1:14:39.600 --> 1:14:42.519 get a little bit more comfort. Whereas when the time 1:14:42.560 --> 1:14:44.200 it was for her to have her baby, she did 1:14:44.280 --> 1:14:48.240 everything so holistically her baby, our baby. But when the 1:14:48.280 --> 1:14:49.760 time for her to have a baby she was carrying, 1:14:49.800 --> 1:14:50.959 she did everything so holistically. 1:14:51.080 --> 1:14:51.760 She did it at home. 1:14:51.920 --> 1:14:55.080 She practiced hypno birthing so she could like control, like 1:14:55.520 --> 1:14:58.120 do all this stuff that I it's crazy because they 1:14:58.160 --> 1:14:58.559 take you put. 1:14:58.800 --> 1:15:01.519 I mean I didn't even learn until like maybe five 1:15:01.640 --> 1:15:03.599 or six years ago that you should take a ship 1:15:03.920 --> 1:15:05.200 with your feet elevated. 1:15:05.320 --> 1:15:07.839 Like yes, like take a healthy ship. 1:15:08.439 --> 1:15:12.320 And you breathe. You need to breathe. You don't stand 1:15:12.320 --> 1:15:14.240 on the toilet. How much easier do you ship? How much? 1:15:14.280 --> 1:15:16.240 I mean not that I'm comparing shipping to put it 1:15:16.320 --> 1:15:21.080 out a baby, but I thought you put you doing 1:15:21.120 --> 1:15:25.080 the hypno bathing, that's what they're comparing. They tell you 1:15:25.120 --> 1:15:27.080 to breath down like you're doing that, you know, like 1:15:27.400 --> 1:15:29.960 and that's why you're not supposed to Like you're never 1:15:30.000 --> 1:15:31.479 supposed to do that. You're not supposed to hold your 1:15:31.479 --> 1:15:34.200 breath sometimes having a baby or you don't need that. 1:15:34.680 --> 1:15:36.840 Breathe through and it'll come out. 1:15:37.800 --> 1:15:39.640 That's the only time this is and it we have 1:15:39.760 --> 1:15:43.280 learned so much. But to me, having a hard try 1:15:43.360 --> 1:15:46.479 it a birthday troll. Like when I be having to 1:15:46.520 --> 1:15:49.400 push out a really hard ship like a baby, I 1:15:49.400 --> 1:15:50.960 could never have a baby like this. 1:15:51.960 --> 1:15:54.080 You got to even go through that? 1:15:54.960 --> 1:15:58.320 That is Oh no, that's so because I have five 1:15:58.840 --> 1:16:00.360 that I have to do a C section. Gonna say, 1:16:00.400 --> 1:16:01.800 but you know, I want to be a homebirth girl. 1:16:02.560 --> 1:16:04.560 So what am I gonna do? Look, I was a 1:16:04.640 --> 1:16:07.640 homebirth girl with out a midwife. She ain't make it. No, 1:16:07.760 --> 1:16:10.720 it's not that advance. So you caught the baby? It 1:16:10.800 --> 1:16:15.080 was you caught the baby, delivered our baby. I just 1:16:15.160 --> 1:16:17.400 called who else was that? By the time, her mama 1:16:17.479 --> 1:16:20.519 was in the back crying. My wife wasn't even didn't 1:16:20.960 --> 1:16:23.320 I held a baby? She was there. She probably got 1:16:23.320 --> 1:16:26.040 there fifteen minutes later. Wait because of the traffic. What 1:16:26.200 --> 1:16:27.360 the fuck did the midwife show up? 1:16:27.439 --> 1:16:27.559 Lake? 1:16:27.680 --> 1:16:30.360 I think what happened was that she missed She didn't 1:16:30.520 --> 1:16:33.280 understand my lyns urgency because my line was so calmed. 1:16:33.320 --> 1:16:37.200 I was baby because of hypno birthing baby, but it's 1:16:37.240 --> 1:16:40.920 a second birth, and so she was just anticipating that 1:16:41.040 --> 1:16:45.120 it was going to take a while. And my doula 1:16:45.200 --> 1:16:47.920 that I had was also a first time doula, and 1:16:48.040 --> 1:16:50.360 then I had did hypno birth thing on the sign, 1:16:50.479 --> 1:16:53.040 So I literally it was my friend. 1:16:54.240 --> 1:16:56.479 You're gonna discod did she's a hypno birtha? And I'm 1:16:56.479 --> 1:16:58.040 assuming you ended up what you ended up? What she 1:16:58.120 --> 1:17:00.400 ended up going through a program or like A Yeah, 1:17:00.560 --> 1:17:02.320 I didn't have to pay for any If I would 1:17:02.360 --> 1:17:04.000 have called that program like this bitch. I didn't even 1:17:04.040 --> 1:17:06.320 make it all time for my baby. I would have 1:17:06.360 --> 1:17:12.400 called it been like she you know nothing, say yeah, 1:17:12.680 --> 1:17:15.920 just said yeah, and we can been connected until she birth. 1:17:16.240 --> 1:17:17.760 He say it on babies, be smarter when you look 1:17:17.800 --> 1:17:19.719 when you like, I've got a photo of him connected 1:17:19.800 --> 1:17:20.400 to the placenta. 1:17:20.479 --> 1:17:23.880 Still like the now, because you did all this, you're 1:17:23.920 --> 1:17:26.280 also you ate the placenta, didn't you? You put it 1:17:26.320 --> 1:17:27.240 into pills and stuff. 1:17:27.360 --> 1:17:29.800 I want to I did so. 1:17:29.840 --> 1:17:32.800 I was thinking about freezing it from smoothies and then pills. 1:17:32.880 --> 1:17:35.240 Oh, it's like, you're right, it's science, it's healthy. Yeah 1:17:35.320 --> 1:17:37.560 it is. Yeah you should Also, I don't want to 1:17:37.600 --> 1:17:39.360 be depressed. I'm so prone to be a little sad. 1:17:40.280 --> 1:17:45.840 But first off, yes it is. Yeah, helps the MOLTI 1:17:45.880 --> 1:17:48.040 depression everything. But girl, let me tell you something. 1:17:48.080 --> 1:17:49.720 Mandy gonna be so sick me on this podcast when 1:17:49.720 --> 1:17:54.280 I'm pregnant, because anybody we have I'll be like, are 1:17:54.320 --> 1:17:56.200 you trying to get pregnant in two years? 1:17:56.240 --> 1:17:56.479 Okay? 1:17:56.680 --> 1:17:58.640 Time, which is also why we be like damn, we 1:17:58.720 --> 1:18:00.880 need to go out now. But then every time we 1:18:00.920 --> 1:18:02.439 started having a really good time out, we'd be. 1:18:02.479 --> 1:18:05.880 Like three three more years. Bro we literally was out 1:18:05.920 --> 1:18:06.080 with you. 1:18:06.200 --> 1:18:07.640 We keep pushing it wild out. 1:18:07.760 --> 1:18:09.080 You say we're gonna make it to ten years and 1:18:09.080 --> 1:18:12.160 the bitches, we gonna send you all a real We're ending, but. 1:18:12.200 --> 1:18:16.000 Then we're like, huh, maybe we'll stay on Patreon. People 1:18:16.160 --> 1:18:16.840 do virtual me. 1:18:17.200 --> 1:18:20.320 I just really want to be able to if I've 1:18:20.360 --> 1:18:22.600 been doing a podcast about sex, health and wellness for 1:18:23.320 --> 1:18:26.600 half of my adult career, what the fuck am I 1:18:26.720 --> 1:18:28.679 doing getting pregnant and not sharing this with the people 1:18:28.720 --> 1:18:29.360 who have watched. 1:18:29.200 --> 1:18:29.759 Me on this journey. 1:18:29.840 --> 1:18:32.439 Likely to me, it's just like almost not like they're 1:18:32.520 --> 1:18:35.000 owed it, but I feel like I'm owed that connection 1:18:35.120 --> 1:18:35.680 with fans too. 1:18:36.520 --> 1:18:36.760 Bruh. 1:18:36.880 --> 1:18:39.479 Someone dies in my family. That sounds depressing, but like 1:18:39.600 --> 1:18:41.800 then me and someone else are gonna share grieving stuff 1:18:41.800 --> 1:18:43.519 and what do we do? Like there's always been a 1:18:43.600 --> 1:18:46.280 connecting like thing, and I'm sure you felt that too. 1:18:46.560 --> 1:18:49.360 When Mandy and I go on tour. The last tour 1:18:49.400 --> 1:18:52.080 we did, so many people are coming up to Mandy. 1:18:52.280 --> 1:18:55.240 About weight loss and it was just like, weight loss 1:18:55.280 --> 1:18:57.479 and cancer are my two connections with the audience. 1:18:57.720 --> 1:19:00.519 And it's intense, like like maybe make me crying. 1:19:00.560 --> 1:19:03.520 Shit, I'll be like, but those are my two connections 1:19:03.840 --> 1:19:05.639 with a lot of the listening people. 1:19:05.920 --> 1:19:10.000 For mine, it's having older parents, I would say, oh, 1:19:10.080 --> 1:19:13.120 and probably also them being just like super emotional and 1:19:13.200 --> 1:19:17.200 wanted to manifest and being kind of gay your parents, 1:19:17.280 --> 1:19:17.920 Are you being gay? 1:19:18.120 --> 1:19:18.160 No? 1:19:18.240 --> 1:19:20.120 No, I say kind of gay, because I'd just be 1:19:20.200 --> 1:19:21.560 like I'm getting over now and then I'm doing that. 1:19:21.600 --> 1:19:24.800 And I think a lot of people like feel I've 1:19:24.880 --> 1:19:27.080 just noticed I get so many DMS from women that 1:19:27.160 --> 1:19:29.600 are very confused about their sexuality and feeling like I. 1:19:29.560 --> 1:19:30.240 Won't judge them. 1:19:30.560 --> 1:19:32.639 Yeah, that makes sense, And so I think being flighty 1:19:32.640 --> 1:19:34.960 about what you're feeling is something you feel like. 1:19:35.000 --> 1:19:36.720 You can't really it's flightiness. 1:19:36.960 --> 1:19:38.880 You feel like you can't come to someone who you 1:19:39.000 --> 1:19:41.280 may know this lesbian, because they're gonna judge you. So 1:19:41.360 --> 1:19:43.720 when someone's by and been living in their bidenness out 1:19:43.800 --> 1:19:46.080 loud for a while, it feels like a safer space. 1:19:46.120 --> 1:19:48.360 I don't I don't know why, yeah, but I mean yeah, 1:19:48.439 --> 1:19:51.160 so to me, the second I'm pregnant, all y'all hoes 1:19:51.479 --> 1:19:52.080 they be. 1:19:52.080 --> 1:19:55.519 Telling me what to do, what to eat shit, I'm 1:19:55.560 --> 1:19:57.679 gonna say space too. That's why I fuck my friends 1:19:57.760 --> 1:20:01.120 like we upsex together and and they know it's the 1:20:01.160 --> 1:20:01.639 same place. 1:20:01.720 --> 1:20:02.160 I'd like to know. 1:20:02.280 --> 1:20:03.960 I'd like to know what it's like after you your 1:20:03.960 --> 1:20:06.400 friends and you guys just go back to being It's 1:20:06.439 --> 1:20:10.240 so crazy. It like litt it maintain sex though, or 1:20:10.320 --> 1:20:11.840 is it like a one off thing that just happened 1:20:11.840 --> 1:20:13.719 to happen or do you guys discuss it in advanced 1:20:13.720 --> 1:20:14.160 like do you want. 1:20:14.040 --> 1:20:16.200 To come over? Gas man? You know what's crazy? And 1:20:16.280 --> 1:20:16.800 normally just. 1:20:19.040 --> 1:20:22.040 And then like after it happens once, maybe it happens again, 1:20:22.240 --> 1:20:23.960 or like then those becomes. 1:20:24.080 --> 1:20:26.160 In between, is what I'm Yeah, how is it okay? 1:20:26.200 --> 1:20:28.000 So for me if I have sex with someone now 1:20:28.040 --> 1:20:32.360 we can't watch a movie anymore without no, no, without 1:20:33.560 --> 1:20:35.880 I don't know the boundary now, so my own girls 1:20:35.880 --> 1:20:37.680 come over. We've be kicking it on the couch. Now 1:20:37.720 --> 1:20:40.000 that we have sex, How we sit on this couch? 1:20:40.000 --> 1:20:40.960 Are we supposed to be doing it? 1:20:41.160 --> 1:20:44.080 No, we're supposed to be touching. I actually have a 1:20:44.160 --> 1:20:45.439 weird in my. 1:20:45.680 --> 1:20:48.559 Own head, like yeah, your head, your head is different 1:20:48.600 --> 1:20:53.720 than my head, you know, like when do we do it? 1:20:53.840 --> 1:20:56.160 I mean to me, to me, it doesn't change anything, 1:20:56.760 --> 1:21:00.320 Like we're able to still have fun, go out, eat drink. 1:21:00.840 --> 1:21:03.559 It's it's all the same stand up, you put your 1:21:03.560 --> 1:21:07.000 clothes back on. I really want to in high school. 1:21:07.800 --> 1:21:12.360 In high school it was me I'm learning, But. 1:21:12.520 --> 1:21:14.840 Listening to you say this, I'm just like, Okay, that 1:21:14.960 --> 1:21:16.720 sounds like that's a make that Me and too my 1:21:16.760 --> 1:21:20.759 girlfriend's had and we would do the ship after. 1:21:20.640 --> 1:21:23.000 School, go like have some fun and then literally it 1:21:23.160 --> 1:21:27.920 never disturbed our friendship. It never never. 1:21:27.880 --> 1:21:30.880 Disturbed, Like we don't even but we don't even think 1:21:31.080 --> 1:21:34.200 like we don't it's even something to where like after 1:21:34.320 --> 1:21:36.200 we have sex, then it might be like, oh I 1:21:36.280 --> 1:21:37.439 might be able to get her to join me in 1:21:37.479 --> 1:21:39.720 a nigga, Like it just becomes like giry you want 1:21:39.720 --> 1:21:41.920 to go on a trip with, Like it just becomes fun. 1:21:42.000 --> 1:21:44.760 But I think a lot of my friends just view 1:21:44.880 --> 1:21:48.320 sex as like a night out, like there's not we 1:21:48.400 --> 1:21:52.200 don't like. To me, like so emotional ties like the 1:21:52.320 --> 1:21:53.839 exchange of it fun. 1:21:54.040 --> 1:21:56.639 But it's not like emotional ties having to like it's 1:21:56.680 --> 1:21:59.040 not all that for you. So sex to me is fun. 1:21:59.439 --> 1:22:02.679 Sex to me is like we went bowling the other datute, 1:22:02.960 --> 1:22:05.000 So such a different Literally. 1:22:04.800 --> 1:22:07.560 Like the way I view sex is like something that 1:22:08.120 --> 1:22:12.280 brings us into this like you know, this this emotional 1:22:12.360 --> 1:22:15.160 state that now our whole dynamics have changed. Like it's 1:22:15.240 --> 1:22:17.960 why I believe that even in and having sex, And 1:22:18.000 --> 1:22:20.200 I talked about this in my twenties, casual sex, like 1:22:20.640 --> 1:22:22.639 you could have sex with a man and not mean anything. 1:22:22.680 --> 1:22:26.479 So here's where I think there's like are these friends, 1:22:26.760 --> 1:22:28.439 like Crystal is your best friend? 1:22:28.560 --> 1:22:28.720 Right? 1:22:29.240 --> 1:22:31.000 But are these just friends that you just see one's 1:22:31.040 --> 1:22:35.840 in the blue, like can have a close connection or Crystal, 1:22:36.640 --> 1:22:39.800 you know, I never fucked Crystal, but she's not gay, 1:22:40.479 --> 1:22:43.240 like she don't like women. But all of my friends 1:22:43.280 --> 1:22:46.280 that like women, majority of them we've had sex. 1:22:46.439 --> 1:22:50.160 Damn, Like not uncomor like there's something interesting about being 1:22:50.280 --> 1:22:53.200 gay and single, right because in LA I think there's 1:22:53.240 --> 1:22:55.720 this underlying story like when you finally get in a relationship, 1:22:56.080 --> 1:22:58.840 your homies probably already like somebody like everybody. 1:22:58.880 --> 1:23:00.040 Like being. 1:23:01.680 --> 1:23:05.040 Yeah yeah, being single, being free, being open, and you 1:23:05.280 --> 1:23:06.559 sleeping with somebody that's not the weirdest. 1:23:06.600 --> 1:23:08.639 I mean, I think I think I didn't even realize 1:23:08.680 --> 1:23:11.240 it was like this thing until like my ex he 1:23:11.400 --> 1:23:13.560 said that if he meets a friend, he would like 1:23:13.600 --> 1:23:14.960 to know if we were intimate before now, And. 1:23:14.960 --> 1:23:17.200 I was like, bitch for what, Like I didn't understand 1:23:17.240 --> 1:23:19.080 that thing. But I think because like. 1:23:19.240 --> 1:23:21.519 Many of y'all, it would it would be, you know, 1:23:21.640 --> 1:23:23.160 it would feel like there would be in the room 1:23:23.200 --> 1:23:23.519 and not know. 1:23:23.640 --> 1:23:25.320 I feel like now I'm the foot, which is maybe 1:23:25.360 --> 1:23:27.240 that's what it was, but I'm but I also had. 1:23:27.160 --> 1:23:29.800 To do the explaining that, like they don't want to 1:23:29.840 --> 1:23:32.000 be with you, We're like they can still be over. 1:23:32.160 --> 1:23:34.360 They're not gonna get jealous of you, Like we don't 1:23:34.439 --> 1:23:35.439 have that dynamic. 1:23:36.000 --> 1:23:39.519 Interesting, Yeah, if I wasn't here, y'all could, and if 1:23:39.640 --> 1:23:41.880 y'all on a vacation, you also could maybe, And so. 1:23:41.960 --> 1:23:44.160 I told him that like there was there was one 1:23:44.240 --> 1:23:44.599 home girl. 1:23:44.680 --> 1:23:46.600 We were out and I texted him and I was like, 1:23:46.960 --> 1:23:49.920 I'm not I literally said, what's funny is I told 1:23:49.960 --> 1:23:51.519 him one night that I said, ooh, I want to 1:23:51.720 --> 1:23:55.439 a girl. I'm just in the And it's funny because 1:23:55.439 --> 1:23:58.479 I ended up sucking my friend and he was confused 1:23:58.479 --> 1:23:59.960 because he thought I was just gonna pick. 1:23:59.800 --> 1:24:01.680 Someone up from the club. I was like, I got 1:24:01.760 --> 1:24:03.400 a girl with me right now, why make it hard? 1:24:03.760 --> 1:24:07.360 Like you know what I mean, Like like and she's 1:24:07.400 --> 1:24:10.400 into girls, And we were vibing, and so we fucked 1:24:10.439 --> 1:24:10.800 that night. 1:24:11.040 --> 1:24:12.639 She made me squirret on my living room floor. 1:24:12.720 --> 1:24:16.559 It was great, and we haven't had sex again since then, 1:24:16.640 --> 1:24:17.920 but like we'll make out still. 1:24:18.040 --> 1:24:20.280 We like we like rub on each other, and. 1:24:20.400 --> 1:24:23.560 It's just are you making out in private spaces? We 1:24:23.680 --> 1:24:25.600 made out in the club, Okay, so seems to me 1:24:25.680 --> 1:24:27.600 that's different. Yeah, but it's like a night out you 1:24:27.680 --> 1:24:29.920 haven't and That's what I'm saying. But even the night 1:24:30.000 --> 1:24:31.679 out may lead to the bedroom. 1:24:32.040 --> 1:24:34.920 It's possible. And so for me, like, I don't know 1:24:34.920 --> 1:24:36.680 why I am just starting there. You guys aren't going 1:24:36.760 --> 1:24:38.760 You're not coming over for this intimate thing. 1:24:38.960 --> 1:24:40.479 No, Like there was a home girl that I ended 1:24:40.560 --> 1:24:43.679 up having sex with gay niggas well. Maybe it's maybe, 1:24:44.000 --> 1:24:45.120 Oh I say it all the time. 1:24:45.439 --> 1:24:49.320 We were just shout out to Matthew and I thought 1:24:49.360 --> 1:24:49.840 they was together. 1:24:50.000 --> 1:24:51.000 Matthew is one of. 1:24:51.040 --> 1:24:55.240 Our patrons, and he said that he really resonated with 1:24:55.880 --> 1:25:00.240 one of the chapters as a them presenting gay man. 1:25:00.320 --> 1:25:02.559 He had all this, and I was like, I didn't 1:25:02.640 --> 1:25:04.519 you know, when we talk about men being able to 1:25:04.560 --> 1:25:07.400 relate to certain chapters, I don't think I ever considered 1:25:07.640 --> 1:25:09.840 how a gay man would read our or see our 1:25:09.880 --> 1:25:10.559 stories and relate. 1:25:10.840 --> 1:25:12.040 And I said, you know what's crazy. 1:25:12.720 --> 1:25:14.720 I lived my life is a gay man, and I 1:25:14.880 --> 1:25:18.360 know I do. Like that's how I you know, it's 1:25:18.840 --> 1:25:20.040 literally just nails. 1:25:21.240 --> 1:25:26.320 Yeah, real, No, this is what you call y'all are 1:25:26.400 --> 1:25:32.360 very less y'all nails. Is that's crazy because I don't 1:25:32.400 --> 1:25:33.320 even use these hands for that. 1:25:33.640 --> 1:25:39.280 No, not even a little bit. Still okay, but not 1:25:39.520 --> 1:25:44.080 by are you guys? Toy ladies? No? No, I'm a sissy. 1:25:45.080 --> 1:25:45.679 That's my ship? 1:25:45.880 --> 1:25:46.080 Is it? 1:25:46.439 --> 1:25:49.000 That's my favorite? I don't I've never done it such 1:25:49.000 --> 1:25:54.880 a no. No girls on the hips, the thighs, baby, 1:25:57.560 --> 1:26:01.160 the wideness, the wrighter, wright or white. It's like coucie 1:26:01.160 --> 1:26:02.240 bumping is difficult. 1:26:02.640 --> 1:26:05.599 That is my favorite girl because like the last three 1:26:05.720 --> 1:26:08.240 soon we had with a lesbian so she literally said 1:26:08.320 --> 1:26:08.920 we were on the date. 1:26:09.000 --> 1:26:09.599 She was so funny. 1:26:09.640 --> 1:26:11.679 She was like, listen, like I funk about one nigger 1:26:11.680 --> 1:26:15.280 every five years, but this doesn't work for me. So 1:26:15.720 --> 1:26:17.760 when we she knew I was in a scissoring whether 1:26:17.800 --> 1:26:19.560 it be from the show where I said it and 1:26:19.680 --> 1:26:20.480 we finally. 1:26:20.240 --> 1:26:21.480 Started to fans. 1:26:22.000 --> 1:26:23.880 She was a fan, but how she know from the 1:26:23.920 --> 1:26:26.160 show Black and thirty. 1:26:25.920 --> 1:26:31.519 Four and like Leslie, she's on field. She if she 1:26:31.640 --> 1:26:37.320 knows she got she went like she's a fan. Bro. 1:26:37.720 --> 1:26:40.639 It was the third time we anyway, So my man 1:26:40.720 --> 1:26:43.599 started watching a scissor and he was like, Okay, I've 1:26:43.640 --> 1:26:44.800 watched you scissor other women. 1:26:45.040 --> 1:26:46.559 This was the first time where I was like, oh, 1:26:46.640 --> 1:26:48.879 I get it now. And he's like, is it because 1:26:49.080 --> 1:26:50.800 it's because some other girls don't be coming they be 1:26:50.800 --> 1:26:51.320 faking it for you? 1:26:51.640 --> 1:26:54.439 Yeah, And he's like, maybe like the girls that you're 1:26:54.479 --> 1:26:58.720 fucking that don't He's I didn't even He's like, y'all 1:26:58.760 --> 1:27:00.599 weren't even on each other's pussy any exactly. 1:27:00.600 --> 1:27:02.680 Feels like you was coming from the diactly right. 1:27:03.200 --> 1:27:05.200 It's just that's what I was gonna say, Like, people 1:27:05.280 --> 1:27:08.240 love scissoring, but when I think about bumping cunt, you 1:27:08.320 --> 1:27:08.920 can lay flat. 1:27:09.240 --> 1:27:10.600 I don't need to do all that white ship. I 1:27:10.680 --> 1:27:12.200 need this to touch this, right, we just got to. 1:27:12.439 --> 1:27:13.679 You just have to hit emotion. 1:27:14.200 --> 1:27:15.920 And that's probably what you were actually doing by the 1:27:16.040 --> 1:27:21.840 time because real thing like, ain't nobody yeah yeah, yeah, 1:27:22.200 --> 1:27:23.680 the jack says it on the titt right, That's what 1:27:23.720 --> 1:27:24.960 I'm saying, Baby, all I eat is friction. 1:27:25.120 --> 1:27:32.559 Baby. Yeah right, but I feel like like when girls 1:27:32.600 --> 1:27:34.879 they feel like it's weird. Oh no, I don't yeh. 1:27:34.880 --> 1:27:36.720 I'm just saying that I understand that with. 1:27:37.120 --> 1:27:38.920 I always understand whatever people are into. 1:27:39.080 --> 1:27:41.160 You know what I mean. Away, let's tell me where 1:27:41.160 --> 1:27:42.879 that they can find you and you yeah. 1:27:44.680 --> 1:27:50.519 Now, yeah, yeah, you horrible one day to get real. 1:27:52.320 --> 1:27:53.120 Behind the paywalls. 1:27:53.160 --> 1:27:55.840 Since if you own a business, right, oh wait, tell 1:27:55.920 --> 1:27:57.880 us about the businesses, kids, men and all the things doing. 1:27:57.960 --> 1:27:59.200 Oh my god, the whole run down. 1:28:00.840 --> 1:28:02.679 So you started off by saying that we don't do podcasts, 1:28:02.720 --> 1:28:04.960 but I do have a small podcast with my best friend. 1:28:04.960 --> 1:28:06.080 It's called Hella Good Company. 1:28:06.280 --> 1:28:07.920 Love It. We do a podcast. 1:28:08.000 --> 1:28:10.000 We also do event production all throughout LA for black 1:28:10.120 --> 1:28:14.280 queer women and it's trans inclusive. We are having our 1:28:14.320 --> 1:28:18.040 first event, which will have happened after this, our first 1:28:18.120 --> 1:28:21.840 international Pride event in Tuloom. We're very very excited. We 1:28:21.920 --> 1:28:22.439 cannot wait. 1:28:22.680 --> 1:28:24.880 And then we do a lot of scissoring there. I 1:28:25.120 --> 1:28:27.439 think that, you know, I think that there will be 1:28:28.960 --> 1:28:29.639 of the real kind. 1:28:31.200 --> 1:28:34.000 One hundred and fifty we bought, we got out like 1:28:34.439 --> 1:28:36.840 the first Doug Earal event. We literally sold off. 1:28:38.880 --> 1:28:41.559 For a first event. We're really really excited. You are 1:28:41.600 --> 1:28:43.840 going to have to hold each other and be. 1:28:43.960 --> 1:28:49.400 Like when it's all, they're gonna they're gonna be like 1:28:49.439 --> 1:28:54.040 you need a third Okay, that's exactly but yes, that's 1:28:54.080 --> 1:28:55.799 what we do. And I also run in an interior 1:28:55.800 --> 1:28:58.200 design firm. That's my bread and butter design. 1:28:58.479 --> 1:29:00.800 It is the design. Yeah, and I married an artist 1:29:00.920 --> 1:29:05.840 who my turn. Yeah. 1:29:06.040 --> 1:29:09.880 I was homeschooling for a while, but that should have stressed. Oh, 1:29:10.080 --> 1:29:11.799 I believe they're about to start school. 1:29:11.880 --> 1:29:15.240 It all gets get him out of here. I know 1:29:15.360 --> 1:29:17.760 it is. It's been a work in progress of getting there. 1:29:17.880 --> 1:29:22.439 But for a happy wife who's mentally stable, you know, 1:29:22.560 --> 1:29:24.880 that's what we're gonna do. So I've always worked with kids. 1:29:24.920 --> 1:29:25.479 I'm an artist. 1:29:26.000 --> 1:29:30.080 Right now I'm working with foster kids, teaching them art 1:29:30.400 --> 1:29:32.360 and art therapy type of stuff. 1:29:32.439 --> 1:29:33.320 So I love that. 1:29:33.760 --> 1:29:37.000 Wow that really I love meeting a wholesome couple. 1:29:38.439 --> 1:29:47.880 I was about to so long ago changed. 1:29:48.200 --> 1:29:50.360 Yeah, it's one of a bitches fight we got to 1:29:50.439 --> 1:29:52.200 be because I've been a lot. We could do a 1:29:52.400 --> 1:29:53.520 Patre episode. 1:29:53.200 --> 1:29:58.759 Episode tell me fighting and to Loon is getting jealous 1:29:58.920 --> 1:30:01.320 and I better not. This is a real this is 1:30:01.400 --> 1:30:09.439 a real mature group twenty year like. See, this is 1:30:09.520 --> 1:30:10.400 what I'm talking about. 1:30:12.080 --> 1:30:12.120 It. 1:30:14.200 --> 1:30:15.880 I was saying a nigga like thirty six got on 1:30:15.920 --> 1:30:17.400 a fight. I said, oh no, I can't do this 1:30:17.920 --> 1:30:21.479 too much. You know what I mean. 1:30:21.560 --> 1:30:24.120 We can't be if you want your thirties, you can't 1:30:24.120 --> 1:30:24.559 be fighting. 1:30:24.600 --> 1:30:28.360 Bruh. Just don't do well. Go and support them. 1:30:28.439 --> 1:30:30.439 All of their links are in this bio so you 1:30:30.520 --> 1:30:31.880 can go and check them out and check out the 1:30:31.920 --> 1:30:32.479 hell of good pod. 1:30:32.520 --> 1:30:34.000 You gotta have us on some time. 1:30:33.840 --> 1:30:37.519 Of course, and if you haven't yet, make sure you 1:30:37.840 --> 1:30:42.880 cop no Holes Barred getting a dual manifesto of sexual 1:30:42.920 --> 1:30:47.599 exploration and power available now wherever you get books. 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