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Speaker 1: We have to adopt our own kids due to laws.

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Speaker 1: His superpower is logical. He's all want to know and

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you should say decision decisions. It sounded

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Speaker 3: like you.

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Speaker 4: Was talking to Kursten. You definitely say to welcome, welcome

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Speaker 4: to the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: You want to say together decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 4: Hey guys, welcome to another week another episode of this

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Speaker 4: Ision Dision. It's your girl, may ev A k A

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Speaker 4: peg the Stallion aka Peggan Marcle ak A what Peggy

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Speaker 4: Bundy aka Dad Beach.

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Speaker 2: Okay, hey y'all, I'm weasy and we are in another foursme.

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Speaker 3: We have two ladies in the building.

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Speaker 2: They're not podcasters, but I will say these are two

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Speaker 2: people that people keep sending me. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: they're just like, don't you know, everybody want to put

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Speaker 2: me up with somebody? We'll just be doing that and

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Speaker 2: it's probably because your braids.

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Speaker 5: Let's telling them to you to go.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, girls will send me like other like lesbian couple.

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Speaker 4: I know there's one I followed now and you beating

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Speaker 4: all her likes and I'm like some girl that does

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Speaker 4: this little thing where she dresses.

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Speaker 3: Kind of mag she does that sweat ship. What's her name?

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Speaker 3: Bring on of me? What? What? What's her name? Fine?

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Speaker 3: Say it? I think it's me and Weezy do not

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Speaker 3: have the same type. Okay, that's type, but this bitch

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Speaker 3: is I'll look, that's what she looks. You know what's crazy?

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Speaker 5: So she no, no, no, you know it's curzy for me.

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Speaker 4: First off, she looks like a different bitch, which is crazy.

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Speaker 4: She does not look like the same girl the one

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Speaker 3: The first time I saw.

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Speaker 4: It, she came up on my feet and I was like, wait,

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Speaker 4: that's the same tattoo.

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Speaker 3: Wait this is because I thought it was a couple.

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Speaker 3: I thought, wait, this is the same bitch.

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Speaker 4: For me, she looks way more better or to me,

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Speaker 4: I'm more attracted to her masculine than them, which is

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Speaker 4: crazy because I normally only fuck femme girls because mask

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Speaker 4: bitches once they found out I find out, like I'm bisexual,

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Speaker 4: like mask bitches don't like bisexuals.

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Speaker 5: It's it's it's it's a fucking fact.

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Speaker 3: Do not.

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, they I don't think they like it.

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Speaker 4: I married Wait, you're bisexual.

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Speaker 3: Ten years ago when we got married.

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Speaker 4: Guess I'm sorry, y'all, hi, and what I threw used

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Speaker 2: We have s KM Island in the building and there

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Speaker 2: we go, Stokes Kennedy, Stokes Kennedy. So they are multi

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Speaker 2: hyphen it creatives, content creators, and they've been sharing their

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Speaker 2: love story online, which is really why I know them

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Speaker 2: and many of you probably follow that men and seeing

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Speaker 2: them and to be the biggest part of this story

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Speaker 2: which we have couples on all the time just to

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Speaker 2: talk about love, but it is the fact that you

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Speaker 2: are raising three sons and you both carried to your children,

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Speaker 2: which you just never tend to see. And so honestly,

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Speaker 2: whenever we have to like a good look a couple,

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Speaker 2: I'll be like, let's do that on horrible decisions. But

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Speaker 2: we need to get into sperm donation. We've been talking

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Speaker 2: about evaniy Kay Williams, We've been talking about your friend.

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Speaker 2: We're seeing so many women decide to have children on

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Speaker 2: their own So I think outside of queer couples, gay men,

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Speaker 3: So that's what I want to dig into. But before

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Speaker 3: we then also some whole shit.

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Speaker 4: We'd love to talk some queer shit, how mad women

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Speaker 3: We're gonna get into all the fun.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Actually, of course we want to know how you met

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Speaker 2: and on it, No Lie. Something I was thinking about.

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Speaker 2: We were recording with Paul Pierce and Azzar before this,

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Speaker 3: Out the gate. You're just gonna ask them on that episode.

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Speaker 3: You have to be locked in. Everybody's gonna be so

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Speaker 4: Before we start giving them all because maybe they haven't

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking about, is this people sending me though, I'm

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Speaker 3: just saying, oh, what's up in California?

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Speaker 2: And I'm saying over the like, no lie, over the years,

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Speaker 1: Like, I'll be honest, We've been on the internet as

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Speaker 1: I don't know, because men operate a different way on

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Speaker 1: just operate like that in our dms now in public,

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Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, Like we be out and like

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Speaker 4: They send y'all like, how do how do you normally

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Speaker 3: As a couple. Me and poups are very touchy.

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Speaker 1: We have a lot of PDA in general, which I

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Speaker 5: Get it wrong, making out.

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Speaker 4: But I've had a thing about PDA though.

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Speaker 2: That is such a great I don't think anyone's ever

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Speaker 3: That's when I started.

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Speaker 1: Looking at I don't like each other now. I don't

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Speaker 4: Probably only two because y'all are attractive, Like, no one

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Speaker 3: I don't you know what I mean, I don't think.

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Speaker 4: I don't think unattractive couples get the energy where people

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Speaker 3: You see them people, please.

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Speaker 1: I was about to say the underlying idea of like

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Speaker 3: Like people who are in.

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Speaker 1: Exactly right, they say you're ugly, can't get a man,

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Speaker 1: y'all dating like that, you're open because y'all are bad looking,

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Speaker 3: Think that's true. I don't think that's true.

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Speaker 2: So for those that haven't seen your page, got to

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Speaker 2: hear the love story. I'd love to know the age

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Speaker 2: you met and really like, was it truly you haul

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Speaker 2: second date where lesbians do?

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Speaker 3: How much time did it take? I mean it was quick,

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Speaker 1: No, it wasn't our moment of meeting and stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: We didn't get together for three years. Yeah, okay, I heard, Yeah, wait,

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Speaker 3: That's a hour for me.

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Speaker 1: If by the time we did start to get together,

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Speaker 4: We did try to date, we did try to like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we had some separation. I came to La, she

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Speaker 2: For people going through a breakup, I have a few

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Speaker 2: we'll probably get back together. Did you know, did you

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Speaker 2: always feel like it was someone to run to when

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Speaker 3: Did you be like, y'all, this is hilarious.

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Speaker 4: They don't y'all know what y'all might have to go

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Speaker 5: First off, she's shaking her head.

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Speaker 4: No, you shake your head, y, y'all, this is hilarious.

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Speaker 3: That's hilarious. Don't have to watch it, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: But no, like I had her blocked, like her best

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Speaker 1: But I'd be like, don't talk to me about her.

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Speaker 1: Don't be like we're separate, Like why.

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Speaker 3: Do women do this?

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Speaker 4: Do you know there's a woman? Why the do they

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Speaker 4: like I have a nigga? Tell me stop blocking? You

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Speaker 4: Because we did unblock her?

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Speaker 3: Clearly you did. Oh yes, I called you un blocked

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Speaker 3: her to say happy birthday.

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Speaker 1: She was on my mind heavy and by can't, I

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 3: She was on my mind heavy?

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Speaker 1: And it was two years later and I was like,

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Speaker 3: And she was in town, so I know that birthday toxic.

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Speaker 5: You're so toxic. I'm not gonna lie to me.

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Speaker 4: To me, Sheve jobs should actually, well I know you didn't,

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Speaker 4: to women with iPhones, not give them the ability to

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Speaker 3: She never had another birthday without me again.

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Speaker 2: Now, from the second time around, how do you act

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Speaker 2: or what do you change in the the second evolution

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Speaker 2: of a relationship, because do you address the old issues?

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Speaker 3: Do you start over new? Oh? Yeah, you do? You

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Speaker 3: address them?

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Speaker 1: And ours were glaring like ours are big, like I'm

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Speaker 1: We were supposed to just be separate for a little

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Speaker 3: Call it.

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Speaker 1: We already got three hundred and forty miles between us.

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Speaker 1: You down there, I'm up here, like we can just

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Speaker 1: That relationship was already over. It was almost kism the

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Speaker 4: Wait, so she brought the girl that she was cheating

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Speaker 3: Mostly mostly it's like it was my birthday. I'm really there.

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Speaker 4: How did you want my girlfriend for the other person?

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Speaker 5: To me, if if my partner even.

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Speaker 3: She knows that this is our home. If a bitch.

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Speaker 4: Walks into my house and sleeps with my man, knowing

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Speaker 1: I think I realized that the gaslighting and the like

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Speaker 5: So you took it as she could partner anything.

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Speaker 3: No said, hi brought your flowers. She was a dumbast.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what I'm saying. She was an idiots?

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Speaker 3: Was it an you go? I walked my ass.

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Speaker 1: I was like, give me that bottle, now hold one

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Speaker 3: Will we beat her?

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Speaker 2: As was talking, I don't talk. I got I started

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Speaker 1: Hit you with every with every spacon, don't make me

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Speaker 1: the other. No, it wasn't like that. It was more

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Speaker 1: I'm ready to get the funk out of here, And

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Speaker 3: Yanking on me. I need you to be here.

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Speaker 5: So it's not as long as you broke up with

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Speaker 3: Up and now out of it. You were at her home.

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Speaker 1: We drove down from Sacramento, me and her best friend

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Speaker 3: I forget when it was wait that we jumped around,

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Speaker 1: Around, But yeah, that girl had serious mental Yeah she

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Speaker 3: Wait and you was paying the bill and she was

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Speaker 2: Maybe I need to close my relationship. Let's get into

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Speaker 3: Who won the last fight? I always want to fight.

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Speaker 2: I'm the very what are generally disagreements because to me,

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Speaker 3: For sure. You can stand with that. We don't like

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Speaker 1: We had like literally before a family trip and she

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Speaker 5: You was mad, and she's still isn't that what you

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Speaker 3: Said shut the fuck up? And you were like, excuse me?

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Speaker 2: I was excuse me. He's never told me to shut

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Speaker 2: So I was greaming like crazy because he was like,

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Speaker 3: What are you doing in my cabinet? I'm just trying

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Speaker 3: I was like, he did you should something? I heard

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Speaker 2: He's very that's the worst you screaming and someone too calm.

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Speaker 2: He's like I'm I'm actually not I don't know what

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Speaker 3: I would have got kicked out. I might have said

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Speaker 1: I think back and I'd be like, see, I don't

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Speaker 4: And he felt like I was treating it like a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't.

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Speaker 4: Like we're going in circles. We're not getting in a solution.

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Speaker 3: We're not getting here with this. Let's move on, let's

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Speaker 3: moving on to? Watching movies? You just pissed off? No,

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Speaker 3: let's let's no okay, what you want to eat? Cookie?

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Speaker 1: Not me?

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Speaker 3: But that's why something separate people like you you wait

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Speaker 4: Because you guys been together so long you cohabitate. What

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Speaker 4: You never, even when y'all are in not so graad

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Speaker 4: to sleep next to somebody you mad at Like I

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Speaker 4: don't you think to start thinking.

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Speaker 3: I need to know where and I know.

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Speaker 1: We're just like I need my peace. We can come

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Speaker 4: Look, she said, you're not going to sleep sleeping that you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, why I'm okay.

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Speaker 3: need space. Oh you know I need you.

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00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:20,120
Speaker 4: Gotta go so I can talk about you with my friend,

442
00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:22,520
Speaker 4: like I'm gonna be probably talking about you.

443
00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:26,920
Speaker 3: But that's not I can't do that. Yeah, I don't.

444
00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:28,399
Speaker 3: I don't know. I've been needing my space.

445
00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 2: So okay, one, have y'all decided your hall passed together?

446
00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:37,960
Speaker 3: Oh? What celebrity is that?

447
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:39,760
Speaker 4: You want them to fuck other people so bad? Are

448
00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:42,040
Speaker 4: hall passed together? Who we woulde like?

449
00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:42,919
Speaker 3: Who we bringing in this?

450
00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:44,960
Speaker 2: I feel like y'all have got to watch the movie,

451
00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:46,560
Speaker 2: watch the music video or something on Instagram.

452
00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:49,520
Speaker 1: They don't necessarily like the same type of women. Oh,

453
00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:50,840
Speaker 1: I mean you know.

454
00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,200
Speaker 3: Who I'm after? For him? Who? Currently?

455
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 1: He has been my favorite for the last few years.

456
00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: She about to forget? Who are you about to say

457
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,440
Speaker 1: you're into? Is it a f that's a big question?

458
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:00,560
Speaker 1: Here's met here?

459
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:06,200
Speaker 4: Okay, she can't lay for us together?

460
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:10,880
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, my boo? Who I just she's

461
00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 3: so about Norton and I think that white.

462
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:22,080
Speaker 6: Though.

463
00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:26,960
Speaker 2: The first girl that I slept with, it really was like, no, no, no,

464
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:29,919
Speaker 2: the first girl that I slept with was really not

465
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 2: down with skin bitches.

466
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,919
Speaker 3: She got me that. I said, I really thought they

467
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 3: was gonna be pink, and I know she was.

468
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 5: I know she was from Key Valley. Fine let her.

469
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,240
Speaker 3: She looked like, it's like.

470
00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 5: She's beautiful, a little bit who is yours.

471
00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:56,240
Speaker 3: I'm obsessed with. I'm obsessed with. Okay, keep my baby

472
00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 3: is obsessed. Let me tell you we're gonna have on podcast.

473
00:21:59,680 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 3: She was.

474
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 2: So we were talking yesterday literally and she was like, man, Kiki,

475
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:08,800
Speaker 2: I was like, really because Keikey to me is the

476
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:11,040
Speaker 2: girl that it's like, you know, kicking me, teasing her

477
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,880
Speaker 2: little ship, you wan when she came on here girls,

478
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,560
Speaker 2: but also doesn't always like we've never seen her with

479
00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 2: a girl. Really like but I find that a lot

480
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 2: of lesbians talk about Kiki, and it just surprised me

481
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 2: because you would assume it would be somebody that is like, oh,

482
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 2: I know, I'm gonna get that pussy, but Kiki.

483
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 3: Also, yeah, so you gonna get that bitch.

484
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,640
Speaker 4: I mean women, Utah could be I think I think

485
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:40,879
Speaker 4: they're I mean to me, now, I think everyone is accessible,

486
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:46,040
Speaker 4: Like it's like everyone's like them DMS, you'd be surprised

487
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,160
Speaker 4: and responds back like, I think everyone's kind of accessible.

488
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 3: I mean now when it.

489
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:54,280
Speaker 2: Comes to discussing together, because we are in a world

490
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,040
Speaker 2: of nominogamy and all of that shape, and you know

491
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:56,919
Speaker 2: lesbians are jealous?

492
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,399
Speaker 3: Is it true? Who knows? I'm crazy? Y'all?

493
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 2: Would y'all tryed? Have you tried it? What's been that

494
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 2: part of your relationship?

495
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 3: Like, talk about it?

496
00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:06,879
Speaker 1: We should have talked about. I tried to explain to

497
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:08,640
Speaker 1: her what kind of you'll be talking about all this show.

498
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 3: She didn't know. I said, it's gonna get it to

499
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:11,320
Speaker 3: where Oh my god.

500
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 2: And then y'all walk me when we talk about that,

501
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 2: like you like, she's like I told you.

502
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:23,360
Speaker 3: I said, I said it's gonna be you know what's crazy.

503
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 4: So, now that the book tour is on hiatus, we

504
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,359
Speaker 4: decided we're just gonna get back to some more of

505
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 4: the runs. You know, we're a rebrand, but keep it

506
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 4: towards the middle of the episode. It so, yeah, So

507
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:41,920
Speaker 4: what has that looked like? Has it been a discussion.

508
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 3: I'm gonna let you talk first, so I don't say

509
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 3: the wrong thing because that means you wanted to suggest it.

510
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 1: No, No, I just you can't be sure what is

511
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,360
Speaker 1: allowed to talk about, Like genuinely, it's the only talking

512
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: about what we've talked about. We're talking about, but you know,

513
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: I don't I don't want to.

514
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 3: Y'all grow up in each other online and y'all want

515
00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 3: to like y'all can't talk you were talking about we

516
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,680
Speaker 3: Is it a hard No, there's an easy question. Well

517
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,159
Speaker 3: the question. Give me the question time open relationships, no

518
00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 3: monogamy and discussing that.

519
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:09,640
Speaker 1: That's a hard question to have, a hard note to get.

520
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 1: I think that, yeah, go ahead. I would say that

521
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:14,640
Speaker 1: A and M is not a hard note, but that

522
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 1: it is not. We've been together twelve years, married ten

523
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 1: and we have we're not who we were when we

524
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 1: got married, you know, so in those changes happening and us,

525
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 1: you know, finding ourselves. Like if you look back back before,

526
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,439
Speaker 1: this ain't Oh I walked down the aisle too, you know,

527
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:33,879
Speaker 1: like it's totally different.

528
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 3: I don't know how far back y'all went.

529
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:41,720
Speaker 1: So I'm so, you know, a couple therapies great for everybody,

530
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 1: especially long you know, long term commitments and stuff like that,

531
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,399
Speaker 1: and conversations happened.

532
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,360
Speaker 3: You know that. I love that you are therapy.

533
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 2: I feel like couples will never admit that they do

534
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 2: that because they believe that it's almost a window into

535
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 2: thinking something's not okay.

536
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:58,159
Speaker 3: Not even therapy.

537
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 4: I just love that you were able to acknowledge and

538
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: be so so aware that if I'm with somebody for

539
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,440
Speaker 4: a decade, you're not going to be the same person.

540
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:10,400
Speaker 4: And I don't think a lot of people, a lot

541
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:14,119
Speaker 4: of people hetero, queer, whatever, when they when they get married,

542
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 4: A lot of times you think you're gonna be with

543
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,600
Speaker 4: the same person forever, and you'd like to be because

544
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 4: that's the person you chose to marry. But the reality is,

545
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 4: through experience, through life, through traveling, through job changes, a

546
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 4: person is inevitably going to change.

547
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 3: I'm not the same person I was ten years ago.

548
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,959
Speaker 4: So to know that you've been together for twelve So

549
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:38,159
Speaker 4: when did who started changing first? And what was the

550
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 4: kind of conversation around this ain't the person I'm married,

551
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,719
Speaker 4: but let's talk about it, because I see that you're changing,

552
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 4: and I want to be able to evolve with you.

553
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 3: I love the evil.

554
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:57,199
Speaker 1: The transition career wise, Yeah, as gonna say, you had

555
00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 1: a lot of them. Yeah, okay, personally, physically, emotionally, spirit

556
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 1: like everything. Twenty twenty three was the year wow that

557
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 1: SK have that, And with her having it, then I'm

558
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 1: experiencing that as well, and so you know we're just

559
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: literally like, yeah.

560
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 4: We're still into Yeah, where did that conversation look like

561
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 4: in twenty twenty three? Like there's a financial shift, there's

562
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 4: a physical shift, there's an emotional shift, possibly because you're

563
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 4: now you're dating a new person essentially.

564
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:28,480
Speaker 1: Was so much so that she doesn't go by her

565
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 1: birth name anymore. So I remember when she first told

566
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 1: me that she wanted to be called by SK we

567
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 1: she had just met like her best friends. So we

568
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 1: were like in this like friend with the wives group

569
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 1: chat and stuff, and I had said something like it

570
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,160
Speaker 1: was my first time using it, and I was like, well,

571
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 1: we'll check with SK or SK will let us know

572
00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 1: it's something. And then she texted me on the side

573
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 1: like I can't believe you called me that, Like it

574
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 1: just like it was just that, Yeah, the beginning of that.

575
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 3: So that's cool.

576
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, all lot of the things that you know, how

577
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 2: you said you don't remember the things that made you

578
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 2: feel like I did something for this person that I love. Yeah,

579
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,119
Speaker 2: I just said this person because once you told me

580
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 2: the name change, I'm like, I never asked.

581
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 3: For we didn't appreciated. I would have corrected you. Okay, okay, okay, no, no,

582
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:21,360
Speaker 3: I can imagine. Imagine now, can I just say what? Yeah?

583
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, it got checked.

584
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 3: And then I was like, it was the name and

585
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 3: the pink shirt. Everybody got mad that I said that,

586
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 3: and it was yeah, it was it was no, this

587
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:33,880
Speaker 3: was another guest. And then they went they went off and.

588
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 4: Saying it right now because they they went off on

589
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 4: me after the fact because I was it was difficult

590
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 4: for me, like to say the and this was this

591
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 4: was maybe this was pre pre pandemic.

592
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 3: So this was.

593
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 4: Like they always learning with people that are non binary

594
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 4: when they have it with you.

595
00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 3: Now that I have non binary people in my life,

596
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,679
Speaker 3: I'm like, damn, I should just be so simple because

597
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 3: they know.

598
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 2: Especially our show, yeah, like bitch, respectfully they there, but

599
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,400
Speaker 2: you know good and damn well, we are on your team.

600
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 2: So if there is a moment where.

601
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 4: Like even that I felt like I couldn't even call

602
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 4: a bitch because bitch bitch is really like feminine, right,

603
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 4: Like you don't be just saying.

604
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: But it is. It's about person. It's personally like if

605
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:25,960
Speaker 3: they do like them, they you could call him bitchy

606
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 3: because they throw you down girl girl, I said girl

607
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 3: to me, okay, And if I talk to ship with

608
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:34,919
Speaker 3: a man, I'd.

609
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 4: Be like, whoa, you know, I'll be catching myself doing

610
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 4: that with my straight home. Like when we get to

611
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 4: where we're gossip, I'll be like, girl, she's not a girl.

612
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 3: He's not a girl, but we do it ship. It's

613
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 3: just exactly we're just communicating in such a way. What

614
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 3: is Alex? Are you want to Mike?

615
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 4: Do you realize, like as a man, when you caint

616
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 4: a god something like, what you're doing is condfeminine.

617
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 3: Have you ever been like I've.

618
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 2: Called Alex just because the tea it's so hot. Maybe

619
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 2: maybe he's not even really feeling I remember the call

620
00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 2: you might not remember. I was like, baal take this,

621
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 2: I feel like come for two minutes and it's like,

622
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 2: so you're not even thinking you're being called a vis.

623
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 4: As a man, do you feel feminine? Like no, I

624
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 4: don't call him in girl like because we first you

625
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 4: ain't gonna feel femine unless you feel fit like we

626
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,160
Speaker 4: do gonna make you feel fine, But do you ever

627
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 4: I'm not making never offended because anything like yeah, because

628
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 4: I'm comfortable you want.

629
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 3: The game.

630
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 4: I also love him, By the way.

631
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 3: As soon as Alex said and then I saw.

632
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 4: The nails, I was like, oh yeah, never mind.

633
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 3: Hold on.

634
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 2: Do you remember the very famous gay that saw you

635
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 2: in Delta one and came up to me? So I'll

636
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 2: say YAO was literally we all know him and we

637
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 2: all love him.

638
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, he call me. I don't even know you

639
00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 3: have my.

640
00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 2: Number, bitch, he said, but you Ben's supposed to put

641
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 2: me on I know he looked like that in person.

642
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 2: He supposed to put me on home and I'm just like, damn,

643
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 2: I've been trying to podcast, but like he'll be there.

644
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 3: He actually straight. Trying to who's straight? Straight? And he's like, no,

645
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 3: he's not. But the.

646
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 4: Love that for you I was you didn't want to know.

647
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 3: But he was like then spoke like he was a

648
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 3: vibe and I was like he's just yay wow friendly.

649
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 2: So then we go to every Day People, we get

650
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 2: a table, so I invite dude over with us.

651
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 3: He starts getting a drink. Alex is pouring Hi drinks

652
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 3: and he literally was like, girl, I'm not about to

653
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 3: play this game many you can't pour drink. He was like,

654
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:47,880
Speaker 3: what's up, bro, you want to kill it.

655
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 2: I'm not doing this, never setting back to the table.

656
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:55,239
Speaker 3: That's appropriate. He knew that's appropriate. Man, Let me get

657
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:58,920
Speaker 3: the funk out of here. I like that. I'm swelling up.

658
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I do the same thing when girls

659
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 4: be trying to be flirty. I literally say, girl, I

660
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 4: eat pussy. If you don't stop like doing so, Like,

661
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 4: let's not do this. Like if someone's even overly flirting

662
00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 4: with me, that's not that's not into women. You need

663
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 4: to respect, Like stop doing to respect me respect because

664
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 4: you the mixed signals makes me uncomfortable. So if this

665
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 4: man was getting mixed signals from Alex, I get it.

666
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 4: I just need to remove my Alex.

667
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 3: Okay, well, want to play signals.

668
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 5: Were you were friendly and your nails are painted?

669
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 3: He was confused. Okay, So we got a news.

670
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 2: Segment that we were trying out with y'all.

671
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 1: Okay, and basically like flower tree kind of gay, That's

672
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: what I'm thinking.

673
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 3: Party and Brosa is gay? I mean, were they not

674
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 3: a couple for the first ten years?

675
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 4: Wait, they were, they were together, but a man of

676
00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 4: sounds they but a man.

677
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 3: It was a trio at first, started trio.

678
00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 4: But they remember when a man that had a step

679
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 4: in because the want a man that stepped in. Yeah,

680
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 4: it wasn't and then it was a threesome. Like no,

681
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,479
Speaker 4: because the other one wasn't showing up.

682
00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 3: They split. Do you know how I know this?

683
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 4: Once you get a close friend and lesbie and lesbian

684
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 4: not bisexual, and you know all the other lesbians in

685
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 4: the community, they'd be like, I'll be like, it's like

686
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 4: gay man.

687
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 3: You know, when they start telling you who.

688
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 4: Gay Booma, I will say that that is how to

689
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 4: google it.

690
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 3: But this is a legend, y'all have no.

691
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 2: Facts, y'all fantasy.

692
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 3: Now on the Hooe tree poetry.

693
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 2: I've basically taken these song lyrics and I'm going to

694
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 2: read them like they are a poem. We're going to

695
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 2: see who guesses the song.

696
00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 3: It's all heard y'all playing me. Why you don't know music?

697
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 3: I don't know music, my wife, you know, just like

698
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 3: you know the song I don't know have the song

699
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 3: that you absolutely you know the song? Wait, why did

700
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:55,960
Speaker 3: you make it easy?

701
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 2: And I think that you have to hum this song

702
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 2: or say it in the way, so maybe it is easy.

703
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 3: I don't know.

704
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 2: I'm so sitting here flossing, keeping your steelo just once,

705
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 2: if I have the chance, things I would do to you, You.

706
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 3: And your body.

707
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:16,719
Speaker 2: Every single portion sends chills up and down your spine.

708
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 2: Juice is flowing down your thigh if you're horny.

709
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 1: Let's do it right, genuine tony.

710
00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 4: But it took me.

711
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 3: By the way, Let's be very clear, everyone that knows me,

712
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 3: I make up lyrics.

713
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 4: I do not know lyrics. I say, bro, now, if

714
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 4: I said here, now, it's different, said that that is not.

715
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 3: First.

716
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 5: What is sitting here flossing? Even me flossing his teeth?

717
00:33:56,280 --> 00:34:00,360
Speaker 1: No, I don't know what is floss you that one

718
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: like yeah, wait, like looking like he was whipping. But

719
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 1: you know it meant like I'm sitting here looking yeah,

720
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 1: you're afric Americans cool.

721
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 3: Now flossing is bitch. I ain't never in my life

722
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 3: said we wait, But Mandy, that makes me ask how

723
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 3: old are you? I was about to say, I'm thirty four?

724
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:22,839
Speaker 3: Really okay, you're not too far. Yeah, that's crazy, but

725
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 3: you've heard it.

726
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 5: No one in my whole life has been like I'm flossing.

727
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 3: Well, no, not the teeth. Well we don't talk, Oh

728
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 3: my god. Okay, And there's just why because you don't drug?

729
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,840
Speaker 3: Is that what it is? Is this a drug dealer term.

730
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 4: In the song By the way, y'all asking for a

731
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 4: refund at the genuine concerts because he's not singing enough

732
00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:47,839
Speaker 4: or singing it how.

733
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:51,799
Speaker 3: You wanted to. That's crazy. It's crazy because I would

734
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 3: just be there to see the need to.

735
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 4: I like, I'm not sure I ain't gonna lie the

736
00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 4: way he beat Gy right, Geny Baby, I.

737
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 3: Just want to hear.

738
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 2: But we got to understand that when you go to

739
00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 2: see people that are older. So Mandy and I we

740
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 2: had to announce something at Essence, and we were watching

741
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:09,319
Speaker 2: ron Eisley before we were on.

742
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 3: Stage, and then Nigga had to sit and then we

743
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 3: had to take the sire off. He took the hat off. Bro.

744
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 3: You just how to enjoy them.

745
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 4: Not only that, let's let's be very clear the subtle

746
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 4: flex though about us at Essence, where we were on

747
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 4: the call sheet after baby Face and before Maxwell and

748
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 4: it was like, oh, do you.

749
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 3: Know what I said?

750
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,280
Speaker 2: The whole weekend, we're introducing Maxwell.

751
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:33,359
Speaker 3: We weren't. We weren't, but well, you know, I said,

752
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 3: we had to open for Maxwell.

753
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 4: But also we were after baby Face, and I'm just like,

754
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 4: oh my god, we made it. It was like we're

755
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 4: between these two minis. Also shows our age because I'm

756
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 4: sure all the gen Z people.

757
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 3: Were like, yeah, you right, Okay.

758
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 4: Oh, by the way, I just shared a story very embarrassing.

759
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 4: I was being introduced. I kind of like a gen Z.

760
00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 4: I really think I'm kind of young at heart. So

761
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 4: I also a weekend, I'm literally being introduced to Raphael

762
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:04,919
Speaker 4: dec and we're having a conversation and in the middle

763
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 4: I see Drew Ski and I say, sorry, I gotta go,

764
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 4: and drew Ski I said, the only person I want

765
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 4: to see all weekend and we'll take a picture with

766
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 4: is Drew Sky. Was just on my flight coming back

767
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 4: from Essence, and I was like, I already did. I

768
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 4: got my picture of Juicy. I left talking to Rafael.

769
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 3: To be a Millennio because I am city girl.

770
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 2: But also I just saw Malenny Gravitz and I started

771
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 2: chearing up.

772
00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 3: I belonged to you, but then I'll cheer up if

773
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:33,360
Speaker 3: I got the second dick, but not.

774
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 2: And to know he's looks like for ten years, I

775
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:40,320
Speaker 2: want to drink bitches.

776
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 3: That look I do look good, but to me, like

777
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 3: you just gotta look up when his pants split and

778
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 3: then it like takes it away. I don't care. Okay.

779
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,720
Speaker 2: So we've been getting into like the history of sex

780
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 2: and different types of things on decisions, decisions, but briefly

781
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 2: because I really want to talk to y'all because the

782
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 2: personal experience is more interesting. Do y'all know how sperm

783
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 2: donation started?

784
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 3: No?

785
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 2: No, this means the crazation started with animals first, and

786
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 2: when they realized animals were working, the first successful one.

787
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 3: What is working mean? I'm so sorry, like that sorry

788
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 3: that animal's pregnant.

789
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, So all then, although we tend to think

790
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:32,479
Speaker 2: of artificial insemination as modern, it started in seventeen seventy nine.

791
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 2: There was an Italian priest and a psychologist who performed

792
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 2: a live experiment where basically he was trying to understand

793
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 2: how plants grew, and he saw that the embryo was

794
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:46,360
Speaker 2: a part of a male seed nurtured in the soil

795
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:49,400
Speaker 2: of a female. Like that's there's still like male and female.

796
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:50,440
Speaker 2: I guess in plants.

797
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 3: Oh it is, so I learned that in school.

798
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,879
Speaker 2: He figured, if this can happen, two people don't need

799
00:37:55,920 --> 00:38:00,760
Speaker 2: to be having physical contact. So he successfully inciminated frogs, fish,

800
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 2: and dogs. Then after that happened eleven years after his experiment,

801
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 2: in the US, a doctor inciminated the wife of a

802
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 2: husband who was a Quaker wife and the husband was

803
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: fifteen years her senior, so he couldn't get her pregnant,

804
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,280
Speaker 2: but they couldn't figure out if it was the wife,

805
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:23,720
Speaker 2: so unbeknownst to them, the first firm donation was non consensual. Jesus,

806
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 2: he got the wife pregnant with the linen draper, like

807
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 2: putting linen inside of her and like squeezing it out,

808
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 2: I guess, and basically use someone else's seamen.

809
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: Oh, someone else's semen to see if it would work.

810
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 3: This is probably the.

811
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 1: First time they did some shit like that on white folks,

812
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: though I feel a little better about.

813
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 5: No, white folks definitely did that shit.

814
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:46,439
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, on a white folks, not on black

815
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 1: Like when people do non consent.

816
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 3: Oh, you're talking about like the experiments and stuff like that,

817
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 3: and it's like helpful to know.

818
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 2: That when it became evident that the woman conceived, the

819
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 2: husband was pleased. It was never told her she got pregnant.

820
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 2: And then his letter went on to say years later.

821
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 4: What he did discussing and that, which is weird to

822
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,800
Speaker 4: me because I thought that once sperm hits like the air,

823
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:12,360
Speaker 4: it dies.

824
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 3: Oh, I think it needs time. How much time? Like

825
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 3: I thought like once it like.

826
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 2: I think that's a river we heard, But I know

827
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 2: what you're talking about because they do say that, Yeah,

828
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 2: you're talking about.

829
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,880
Speaker 4: It like like basically like if a nigga not on

830
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:24,879
Speaker 4: your butt, I don't heard.

831
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:26,399
Speaker 3: If a nigga not on.

832
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 5: Your butt, he can't just wipe up that, like if.

833
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 3: You want to, like you know, his white.

834
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 2: Half figure and become like they say women going in

835
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 2: the trash can to get come out of a content

836
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 2: won't work.

837
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 3: It won't work, that's what they say. It's not true.

838
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 3: So it doesn't die instantly. It takes a couple of minutes,

839
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 3: a couple of minutes.

840
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 4: So that means if a nigga not on my butt,

841
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 4: I could take it off my butt, put it in

842
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 4: my pussy and get pregnant yes, I watched a video

843
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 4: where this, oh, we tell him the wrong things, like

844
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 4: it was a movie maybe, and I don't know, it

845
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 4: was a white baby a movie instead of like a

846
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 4: proper story, Like it wasn't like a journalism.

847
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 3: It was like a movie. It wasn't the journey, but

848
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:02,800
Speaker 3: it was off, okay, off something factual.

849
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 1: But the whole story was that she had jacked out

850
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 1: her boyfriend, like they had laid by each other and

851
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,320
Speaker 1: did something, and she was pregnant and he was convinced,

852
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 1: like she thought she was married at that point because

853
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: she was like I didn't ever touch it, like I

854
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 1: never was near it quick enough and like somebody had

855
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 1: been enough math to be like it got on her,

856
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:19,839
Speaker 1: near her, and it was alive and.

857
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 3: It started swimming to get up. No, I'm not coming on. Wait, girl,

858
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 3: on your.

859
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 5: Couchie is fucking there pull out?

860
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 4: That is the pull out? Who said, girl, you know

861
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,479
Speaker 4: on your couchie. Of course your coachi is still wet.

862
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 4: The swimmers go swim in the pond, swimming pull out

863
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 4: that crazy pull out a cum on your couchie, you

864
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:44,279
Speaker 4: could still on it, like you know, yeah, but if.

865
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:46,439
Speaker 5: It's wet, it's like a pond, so they have something

866
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:46,920
Speaker 5: to swimming.

867
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 3: I don't claim to be a sex education crazy Okay,

868
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 3: so that's that. God, sperm donation has been to me

869
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 3: crazy around Do.

870
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 2: You remember how much ship they were talking about ebide

871
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 2: k Williams really showed me like, oh, you can't make

872
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 2: a choice being alone. You can't be a choice be

873
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 2: with somebody like.

874
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:09,839
Speaker 3: You can or you can't.

875
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:11,879
Speaker 5: You can't people, well, people just gon have something to say.

876
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 2: The way they talked about her for being in her

877
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 2: forties and using a sperm don or the best read

878
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:21,360
Speaker 2: of all time. All you know is jo sperm donor pizza,

879
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 2: so check that. So it's like that was Kendra. I

880
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 2: actually like even though that was the best thing of

881
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,279
Speaker 2: all time, I do it was, But she was talking

882
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 2: about Apollo, So it's like, I want to talk about the.

883
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 3: Ny you just called her air and.

884
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,800
Speaker 2: Basically like I think the whole thing of that really

885
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,319
Speaker 2: shows you it should be like women want to keep

886
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 2: it a secret because everybody's gonna be like you can

887
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 2: meet somebody whatever.

888
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 3: Whatever.

889
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:54,480
Speaker 2: Now in the case of YouTube, I'm so curious how

890
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 2: you got to the point where you said adoption sperm

891
00:41:57,960 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 2: donation should be someone we know should be somebody that

892
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 2: we how did this all?

893
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 3: Did you go to a bank? Did you a friend

894
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:08,360
Speaker 3: or finances? Was that ship for his money? Okay?

895
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 1: Okay, that's the easiest place to start. So that's why

896
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 1: it was no ida for our I v for I've

897
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: also been for a long time, so it ain't no insurance.

898
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 1: But you did and you have three kids, so did

899
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:21,000
Speaker 1: one of you carry? Did both of you carry? So

900
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 1: at the top when I met my lynch, she had

901
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 1: a son okay, had a son okay, and then I

902
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 1: had two after I.

903
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 3: Had one, and then we had to I carried first, okay, And.

904
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 4: Did he have to fuck? Like where did the sperm

905
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 4: come from? If you was talking about money?

906
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 1: Okay, let's let's less less clear.

907
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 3: This was a stretch right off. No, not like that,

908
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:47,279
Speaker 3: not like that. That's her nineteen seventy nine. We were

909
00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:50,799
Speaker 3: talking about Okay, you don't need but an how did

910
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 3: you apologize bag that you need? What did you say?

911
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 4: You know?

912
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 3: Some viewers are we don't know how to know the

913
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 3: filter that you filtered to save it.

914
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 4: Through like the literal I just know we all thought

915
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:08,320
Speaker 4: about non monogamy, but if it's done for science and

916
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 4: done for a purpose.

917
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:11,359
Speaker 3: Maybe it's not considered cheating, you know what I mean,

918
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 3: Like I like, I don't like, I don't know.

919
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 2: I know what though, I would feel like if this

920
00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 2: was my wife and I knew they had to do

921
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 2: that to get pregnant, it would then make me feel

922
00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 2: like it wasn't ours, Like I wouldn't feel like there

923
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 2: was this connection because you just got to do this

924
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 2: thing and bring life with somebody else, Like I would

925
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 2: want to be a part of this if.

926
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 3: They had it. But I'm not talking because you.

927
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 2: I mean when I was.

928
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 1: Watching The l Words when I was younger, that episode

929
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: that everybody when Tina and and what's the name went

930
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 1: to the club found that boy she was faking like

931
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:46,399
Speaker 1: a three step and he realized when he kept trying

932
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 1: to put a condom on and they kept being like no,

933
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 1: I was like, y'all try to get on the episode.

934
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:54,399
Speaker 2: It wasn't like that they were like using turkey base

935
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 2: or whatever making about her like So to me, that

936
00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 2: is how I would want to do it.

937
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:00,800
Speaker 1: So it was really interesting that you say that because

938
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:03,360
Speaker 1: in that episode where they do choose to have a threesome,

939
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 1: they are doing it together. It is already very much

940
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: locked into what there. It's not even about him at all.

941
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 3: They just want his firm. Yeah, it was still very

942
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,760
Speaker 3: m Yeah, but if I'm not there, I'm gonna feel.

943
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 4: Like, so, how did how did both of your how

944
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 4: were your experiences different with the assemination?

945
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,080
Speaker 3: Like, can we know y'all's story?

946
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: We have a yes, we have a known donor. Okay,

947
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: when we found a known donor, we made it and

948
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 1: he's very open. He was very honest with us. He's like,

949
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: whatever you guys want to do, we put in a contract.

950
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 3: We we figured it out.

951
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 1: He's a closer person than that, so we were able

952
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 1: to just have a conversation. He's like, do you already

953
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 1: be involved? Do you not want me to be involved?

954
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,839
Speaker 1: Do you want me to be private? Do you want

955
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:46,360
Speaker 1: me to be public? Do you want like he was

956
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 1: very fa check it off and when involved in the

957
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 1: child's life, okay, no sex over here.

958
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 4: So that was so you were the contract was specifically

959
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 4: around using his firm to create life, and then the

960
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 4: conversation agreement donor agreement and the conversations around that was

961
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 4: how present he can.

962
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 3: Be if you wanted to be what you wanted as

963
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:15,360
Speaker 3: well with all was back right, yeah, okay, So.

964
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 2: Were you learning those answers with him when you guys

965
00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 2: spoke for the first time. Did you already discuss like

966
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 2: what you wanted before talking to him a little bit?

967
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 3: Okay?

968
00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 1: Absolutely, because we had tried for years before, yeah, two

969
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 1: years before finally reaching out to him. And as you

970
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 1: just jumped straight to did y'all fuck? So did a

971
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 1: couple of other men that we had friends. They were

972
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 1: like and like, had only said yes because he thought

973
00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 1: he was about to fuck me up, shut up, don't

974
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: talk no more no. And I was just like beg

975
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 1: to know that that's how you wanted it to be.

976
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: And then the other friend told me, like, you know,

977
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 1: I love you, but a child needs a father in

978
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:53,479
Speaker 1: his life.

979
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 3: So the whole time you've been homophobic, bitch, get out

980
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 3: of here.

981
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 5: So you have all these well yeah, because even that

982
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 5: the process.

983
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 4: You don't want to prograte with someone because then they

984
00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:04,840
Speaker 4: don't they don't respect this union.

985
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly exactly. So I was all like, wow, we

986
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: got to see really, yeah, just.

987
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 3: To s k because of these experiences you had, did

988
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 3: you give up at any point? No, it was always

989
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 3: for her. He just assumed it was me and I

990
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:21,759
Speaker 3: was just like it was always always. Now, let's talk

991
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 3: about break that down a little bit.

992
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 2: Pregnant, You get the because we could see we we

993
00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 2: know what we're seeing in this dynamic. We're seeing someone

994
00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 2: more mask presenting when choosing to carry Did you feel

995
00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 2: those stairs.

996
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 3: Twenty twenty three?

997
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: She was not mask presenting. I were a baby when

998
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 1: I had this baby, I had nails on. Okay, So

999
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 1: it's just saying like when we met I we're very

1000
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 1: much different.

1001
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 3: How old? How old are the children now? Five and three?

1002
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,719
Speaker 4: Is there a conversation because of course you go to

1003
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 4: schools and there's these.

1004
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 3: Whole dynamics about mommy, daddy, you know what I mean?

1005
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:05,919
Speaker 4: Is there a conversation at all about who the father

1006
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:07,840
Speaker 4: is or is he able to be introduced?

1007
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:11,280
Speaker 2: What was the what was was this with your children?

1008
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 2: I think she's with your children? Yeah, basically I think

1009
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 2: the questions around about is really like where do your

1010
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:17,799
Speaker 2: children think they've come from?

1011
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:21,800
Speaker 5: Because yeah, that's taught in schools and I'm sure you

1012
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 5: know what I mean.

1013
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 1: Yes, our kids haven't necessarily gotten to an age like

1014
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 1: they came from my stomach.

1015
00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 3: That's they can photos.

1016
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 1: Our five year old who is on the spectrum. It's

1017
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:36,239
Speaker 1: very logical, it's very He's like my skin, mattress, Mama's skin.

1018
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 1: I was in her belly. Was the all match skins?

1019
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: You were in her belly?

1020
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:45,800
Speaker 3: Now, okay, Mama and mommy. Yeah, I have another like

1021
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 3: lesbian couple of it.

1022
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 2: I know that I can seeing right now, and I'm

1023
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 2: like drunk with one of mom who's going to be mama.

1024
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:53,320
Speaker 3: She's like the people waiting now, so I don't do

1025
00:47:55,560 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 3: said it's mama and mommy. Yeah, but I think it's

1026
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 3: daddy and dadda.

1027
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 4: Have you had the conversation when they get older around

1028
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 4: I mean clearly again and sex that they're going to

1029
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 4: learn that the sperm has to swim.

1030
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:13,440
Speaker 1: Oh, and that's the thing. Lennox is our oldest is

1031
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:17,480
Speaker 1: like she said, all the spectrum. His superpower is fucking logical.

1032
00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, you read everything. So he'll get back.

1033
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 1: He's already questioned, I can't give you a okay when

1034
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 1: you get older, he'll be like, what year?

1035
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:26,919
Speaker 3: When? When should I ask him? Gain? He don't play

1036
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 3: that shit. He's I want to know, and I need

1037
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 3: to know with logic, and if it doesn't make sense,

1038
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:30,880
Speaker 3: he'll ask a.

1039
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 4: Fallow Now there's a conversation often around adopted children, right,

1040
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:36,800
Speaker 4: just wanting to meet biological parents.

1041
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 3: And you both talk about adopting. Who did you adopt?

1042
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:43,400
Speaker 1: It says no, okay, no, but oh, we have to

1043
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 1: adopt our own kids due to laws and stuff like that.

1044
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 1: What Yeah, the baby that I carried, I am she's

1045
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:54,400
Speaker 1: also on the pir certificate. But he doesn't mean enough, right,

1046
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 1: there's not enough laws that protect things.

1047
00:48:57,360 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 2: Hold on, wait wait wait, you're both on the per

1048
00:48:59,000 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 2: certificate and there's not enough.

1049
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:05,320
Speaker 3: That's not enough. That's not Yeah, that don't acknowledge that.

1050
00:49:05,800 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 1: That don't Yeah, they could just if we went somewhere else,

1051
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 1: they could be like to, that doesn't count.

1052
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 3: So who adopts whose?

1053
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: I have linux who she carried and she has adopt matics?

1054
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:16,279
Speaker 1: Who get the fuck out of here?

1055
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 3: So parents.

1056
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:20,960
Speaker 2: Pet?

1057
00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 3: Okay? So then did the guy have to give up

1058
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 3: his rights?

1059
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 4: Like?

1060
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:31,320
Speaker 3: Did he have to be involved in the donor agreement?

1061
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 3: We kind of already have.

1062
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 1: That of the paperwork because I did start the process

1063
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 1: two years when we got pregnant with Maddox, and so

1064
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:40,839
Speaker 1: I started, it got kicked back to me. So that's

1065
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 1: why I'm like, I still need to do it because

1066
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:44,920
Speaker 1: they would like run me through everything. It was horrible,

1067
00:49:45,320 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 1: but we had to go get it what's it called notarized?

1068
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 1: And so we agreed on this donor agreement. I put

1069
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 1: like five different ones that I pulled online and just

1070
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 1: like cut yeah, and then you know, we agreed on

1071
00:49:56,800 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 1: our things and then he signed. We got it notarized,

1072
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 1: and then that had to be sick in with all

1073
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 1: of the second parent adoption paperwork because they, of course

1074
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:05,239
Speaker 1: all the paperwork says who's the father of the child?

1075
00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:09,920
Speaker 2: You know that I will say this though, something I

1076
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:13,239
Speaker 2: think about being just helpful, Like you remember when like

1077
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 2: super super liberals, which I thought I was, until people

1078
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 2: were like, oh, the child doesn't have a sex when born,

1079
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:23,240
Speaker 2: and like also, uh, there's a show called Polly Family

1080
00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:27,480
Speaker 2: where they are in a quad and the woman didn't

1081
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 2: know who was carrying her baby.

1082
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:31,239
Speaker 3: I don't know. The woman didn't know who her father.

1083
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 2: She has her husband and her boyfriend, they're all a couple.

1084
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 2: And so one of the questions raised was like, but

1085
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 2: what about hereditary shit, what about like blood type? Like

1086
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:42,320
Speaker 2: don't you want to look this up? She's like no,

1087
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:44,799
Speaker 2: it's going to really cause a rift in our relationship,

1088
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 2: and I was like, I hold you as someone that

1089
00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:49,200
Speaker 2: doesn't think y'all.

1090
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 5: Because we're talking about health.

1091
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:57,279
Speaker 2: My husband is basically like, if it's her boyfriend's baby

1092
00:50:57,360 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 2: and not mine, am I gonna have a hard time.

1093
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have a hard times in this kid. So

1094
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 2: they have two children that they don't know the father of.

1095
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:05,880
Speaker 2: And that was one of the first times where I

1096
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,439
Speaker 2: was like, am I becoming Harry pobably again?

1097
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:09,759
Speaker 3: Because Nigga is too far.

1098
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:16,160
Speaker 2: You gotta say, at some point my ego is less

1099
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 2: important than my kid's health. Sure, And it really started

1100
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 2: to get strange for me to watch it because where

1101
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:23,360
Speaker 2: I started to watch the show because I loved it,

1102
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:25,399
Speaker 2: I was like, that's gonna be me. I was like, dog,

1103
00:51:25,520 --> 00:51:27,960
Speaker 2: y'all too far, Like this is crazy, this is crazy.

1104
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,959
Speaker 2: So the dude got the kids blood tested. The blood

1105
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,200
Speaker 2: type was oh, and then one of the fathers reached out.

1106
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:34,400
Speaker 2: He's like, but now we know whose baby it is,

1107
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 2: and God's so upset, Like.

1108
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, ignorance is bliss some people, most.

1109
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:45,759
Speaker 3: Straight men in that situation would want to know them.

1110
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 3: Niggas would love to be right. So a lot of

1111
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 3: people have a heart.

1112
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 2: So she was they basically they swapped nights, think of

1113
00:51:52,520 --> 00:51:55,359
Speaker 2: sister wives, but with a couple, so each person swapped nights.

1114
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 5: So she didn't know have you And I'm not sure

1115
00:51:58,080 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 5: what was in the agreement, but I'm curious.

1116
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:03,320
Speaker 4: What if when your sons get older they want to

1117
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:07,279
Speaker 4: meet their father, is that they can't their donor, their donor?

1118
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 3: They're done? I'm sorry their donor? Is that that's part

1119
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 3: of it? That's possible, Okay, I would love to know.

1120
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 2: Just using that language, my friends that are pregnant right

1121
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 2: now say father instead of donor.

1122
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 3: Do you believe that's a personal ship.

1123
00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 5: My friends with baby daddies call them donors, right.

1124
00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:31,640
Speaker 4: Like they called it like I referred to I think

1125
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 4: my dad in my in the book as like the

1126
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 4: woman I'd a lot of that's the nigga my mama

1127
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 4: chose to have a baby with.

1128
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:41,879
Speaker 3: Like it's I've removed the word father.

1129
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 4: A lot of my friends, especially who are single parents,

1130
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 4: they refer to it ain't baby daddy. They call them

1131
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 4: donors because like and and again, there's so many different

1132
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 4: arrangements that could happen. But to me, that's how disconnected

1133
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 4: they are to how that person is showing up in

1134
00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:57,960
Speaker 4: the life for their child.

1135
00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 3: How has it been when he's around. Fine, I mean,

1136
00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:04,360
Speaker 3: we love them, That's what I'm saying. It's not it's

1137
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 3: a friend. It's as you know. Yeah, I'm a strange person.

1138
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:09,879
Speaker 1: I think in the case of like your friends having

1139
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:12,200
Speaker 1: somebody that their kids can call father, we have friends

1140
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 1: too who have children and they also let.

1141
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 3: Their children or they all refer to the donor. It's

1142
00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 3: an agreement. I love that I may see that guy

1143
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:25,279
Speaker 3: once a month, so it's still an arrangement that works

1144
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 3: for them. It's not about it. It is you are

1145
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 3: this father figure and we're going to use that. We

1146
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:32,440
Speaker 3: don't necessarily need to do that before we started that.

1147
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 2: This was so interesting because a few years ago, Vannie

1148
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 2: and I have talked about this a lot, and one

1149
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 2: of the things that Vinnie and I talked about were like,

1150
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:43,000
Speaker 2: he's like, I really feel like you're gonna get emotional

1151
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 2: and like not like I want, Vinnie, but like you're

1152
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 2: a family girl. You want like, will our friendship go

1153
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,879
Speaker 2: away because we did this thing? He doesn't He don't

1154
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:54,280
Speaker 2: want to have a baby, yes.

1155
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:57,399
Speaker 3: Because you know, I'm like, you're the child of your father,

1156
00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:00,640
Speaker 3: I mean, the father of your child. Are we friends anymore?

1157
00:54:00,760 --> 00:54:02,560
Speaker 2: Will you start to look at me differently to the

1158
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:03,920
Speaker 2: expectations of me changed?

1159
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:07,439
Speaker 3: We're talking about before this relationship you with a friend

1160
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:07,919
Speaker 3: co parent.

1161
00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, so we've discussed it and we're really really close. Yes,

1162
00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 2: ten years we've been friends. And he was like, I

1163
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 2: don't know, girl, I just feel like you're going to

1164
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 2: start changing.

1165
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:18,880
Speaker 3: Because he just wanted to donate and not be in

1166
00:54:18,920 --> 00:54:19,440
Speaker 3: the child's life.

1167
00:54:19,440 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 1: Do I think that you would want your child to

1168
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:23,239
Speaker 1: have a father in that in that capacity? Do you

1169
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 1: feel like I want to have a partner.

1170
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 2: You can't even answer your question now, And that's how

1171
00:54:27,000 --> 00:54:29,359
Speaker 2: I think I think he felt it, and he's probably like, damn,

1172
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:30,439
Speaker 2: you probably want me around.

1173
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:32,359
Speaker 3: You probably want this kid. He said, you could take

1174
00:54:32,400 --> 00:54:37,360
Speaker 3: this sperm baby agreement. It's like you are not the virus.

1175
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 3: I want to ask the mary. We don't acquire any

1176
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:43,880
Speaker 3: Can I ask then ignorant question? Nervous?

1177
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:47,840
Speaker 2: I do you already asked today? I was Actually my

1178
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 2: next question was really like, so how did you get pregnant?

1179
00:54:51,160 --> 00:54:53,400
Speaker 4: Oh, well, no, that ain't I'm going a little more

1180
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 4: ignorant with a syringe baby.

1181
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 3: Together at home or it was he wouldn't like, we're

1182
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 3: on the way, I'm oculating.

1183
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:02,520
Speaker 1: He'd be like, all right, I'm putting in this cup

1184
00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: and I would go for a run and then we

1185
00:55:04,120 --> 00:55:05,960
Speaker 1: go insidement. We'd go into the permanent and be a

1186
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 1: little Ramikin sitting on the on the dresser, you.

1187
00:55:09,239 --> 00:55:15,840
Speaker 3: Know everyone, you know everyone's and then put something. Okay.

1188
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:18,359
Speaker 1: Even though once we did go to the fertility clinic,

1189
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 1: what the doctor said that it wasn't really she said,

1190
00:55:20,120 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 1: do you know how many women get pregnant and don't

1191
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:22,320
Speaker 1: have an orgasm?

1192
00:55:24,600 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 3: Would never have baby? Yeah? You know right, yes you do.

1193
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:35,960
Speaker 3: Not okay, but yes, I know we're ready just a

1194
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:40,239
Speaker 3: little bit, just a little bits. Okay.

1195
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 4: Maybe my mom went a little ignorant to but I

1196
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:43,960
Speaker 4: feel like someone else's mind went to to maybe our

1197
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 4: male listeners.

1198
00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:49,320
Speaker 3: You have listeners. You have every sign accommodate them male listeners.

1199
00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:52,240
Speaker 3: I know not I'm trying to accommodate the male listeners.

1200
00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:57,240
Speaker 4: But there is a narrative that boys need a father figure,

1201
00:55:57,400 --> 00:55:58,919
Speaker 4: boys need to be raised by men.

1202
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 3: Boys. You know, I know this.

1203
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:04,959
Speaker 1: I know it's only laughable because like how many boys

1204
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:06,480
Speaker 1: are raised by women across.

1205
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:13,439
Speaker 3: The moms that there all dallis who raised mom raised you. Yeah,

1206
00:56:13,640 --> 00:56:16,480
Speaker 3: and they that ship they need.

1207
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 1: To This is because I didn't have it, and I

1208
00:56:18,040 --> 00:56:19,920
Speaker 1: would have been better if I had it. No, maybe

1209
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 1: all possibly a possible, But did you not make it?

1210
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:26,640
Speaker 1: Like you you're still a fully established person, you still

1211
00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:28,880
Speaker 1: are well rounded. Had your mother but maybe had some

1212
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 1: ability to put you like, have male figures in your

1213
00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:32,040
Speaker 1: life that maybe.

1214
00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:36,839
Speaker 3: You still would have been full. Three of y'all. Yeah,

1215
00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 3: what's a lot of many two parent households?

1216
00:56:38,800 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 2: How many of y'all in the room there we gosars?

1217
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:43,879
Speaker 3: You still go with your dad?

1218
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 1: You really impactful in your life. And that's two out

1219
00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 1: of three, two out of three talking to you. Eventually

1220
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 1: she got married, she got okay, oh okay, but both single,

1221
00:57:00,080 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 1: you got the world there you She's like, I did

1222
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:03,799
Speaker 1: both and now you got with you your mom.

1223
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:07,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you have both in the house. Amazing.

1224
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:08,800
Speaker 3: How old divorced?

1225
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:13,000
Speaker 4: Oh that's pretty Did you feel like that there were

1226
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:14,960
Speaker 4: only because too, Like we've seen.

1227
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 3: A lot of celebrities.

1228
00:57:17,240 --> 00:57:19,439
Speaker 4: I think Nelly just said it like that he doesn't

1229
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 4: even feel like he needs to be around the baby

1230
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:23,440
Speaker 4: until a certain age to teach a man.

1231
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:24,600
Speaker 3: But yeah.

1232
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 1: Literally, he said that when that baby needs to be talking, like,

1233
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 1: he doesn't need to engage while it's crying, feeding, changing,

1234
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:36,800
Speaker 1: none of that. That's and women give men like that pussy.

1235
00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:42,880
Speaker 2: It's crazy, like, oh, I got a babysit the kids

1236
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 2: to night, and he's like, I remember he got off

1237
00:57:44,200 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 2: the phone.

1238
00:57:44,760 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 3: He's actually made me like, babysit your own.

1239
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 2: It was early on in our relationship. He was like,

1240
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 2: is this nigga talk about he had a babysitting all

1241
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:51,000
Speaker 2: the sun?

1242
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:53,440
Speaker 3: Sound stupid?

1243
00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: That's the standard a lot of times, Like, let's be real,

1244
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 1: we hear those kinds of conversations all the time, men

1245
00:57:58,400 --> 00:57:59,440
Speaker 1: babysitting their children.

1246
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:01,720
Speaker 3: Are you talking about? I don't know.

1247
00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 1: I answer, she got two brothers. I got two brothers.

1248
00:58:04,840 --> 00:58:07,360
Speaker 1: They have a godfather, and they're like they got a grandfather.

1249
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 1: Her son got a daddy and I carry the older Yeah,

1250
00:58:12,560 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 1: and they got there. So as a seventeen year old,

1251
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:19,480
Speaker 1: when you have these con well that's an adult.

1252
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:22,280
Speaker 5: That's no, no, no, you don't even look like you

1253
00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:24,040
Speaker 5: would have no seventeen year old By.

1254
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:27,120
Speaker 2: God damn hours, How were the conversations like with him

1255
00:58:27,120 --> 00:58:27,920
Speaker 2: since he was older?

1256
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 3: When you and sk decided to, you know, get pregnant.

1257
00:58:31,920 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 3: Did you feel like you're m because maybe excited to

1258
00:58:37,280 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 3: have he was ailing. I think the one thing I

1259
00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:40,720
Speaker 3: remember him, I took him to lunch when he was

1260
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 3: how old he is? You're right, you told him. I

1261
00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 3: took him out and I was like, yeah, I took

1262
00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 3: him to a place he was eating buffet, you know

1263
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:50,840
Speaker 3: your mom.

1264
00:58:51,400 --> 00:58:54,840
Speaker 1: Like I was like, I got a baby my stomach

1265
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:57,720
Speaker 1: and he just was like what And then he was

1266
00:58:57,800 --> 00:59:00,040
Speaker 1: like shocked a little bit. And then he said, I

1267
00:59:00,080 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 1: had to cry and I and my little cancer can yeah.

1268
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:06,800
Speaker 1: And then and then he was like, you know, like

1269
00:59:06,880 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 1: an only child, immediately selfish, how old girl, I can't

1270
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 1: play with these kids?

1271
00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:19,200
Speaker 3: And I count, wow, that's so beautiful. Yeah.

1272
00:59:19,440 --> 00:59:22,440
Speaker 1: And then the conversation of like telling him that I

1273
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:24,480
Speaker 1: had a girlfriend, right, because he did have both his

1274
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:26,120
Speaker 1: parents and then we surarated when he was young, like

1275
00:59:26,200 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 1: too was when he was five in kindergarten was when

1276
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:30,680
Speaker 1: I had the conversation and told him like, well, me

1277
00:59:30,720 --> 00:59:32,360
Speaker 1: has a girlfriend. So there was like that whole thing

1278
00:59:32,760 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 1: too that I really had to navigate like on my

1279
00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 1: own with her, but like both of our families were

1280
00:59:37,520 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 1: against it.

1281
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:39,960
Speaker 3: You know and stuff like that. And even at the time,

1282
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 3: like both of your families were against you telling your

1283
00:59:41,920 --> 00:59:47,600
Speaker 3: son or his father family, and my family were against

1284
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 3: me being with a woman. Oh wow right, it was

1285
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:54,040
Speaker 3: like if you have like a little girlfriend or whatever.

1286
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 1: But they were still trying to make me marry him,

1287
00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:58,520
Speaker 1: like they were still trying to like is not keeper

1288
00:59:58,640 --> 00:59:59,160
Speaker 1: on a stop?

1289
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:01,480
Speaker 3: What? Yeah?

1290
01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:08,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, because the audacity the audacity religious religious Christian families.

1291
01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 1: I had him at in a Christian school at the time,

1292
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 1: so that was really hard to navigate.

1293
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:14,720
Speaker 3: Isn't it interesting how older parents.

1294
01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:18,280
Speaker 2: So my mom has always been accepting my sexuality, which

1295
01:00:18,280 --> 01:00:20,600
Speaker 2: I talked about the book, which was amazing. But there

1296
01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:21,920
Speaker 2: were so many things she said when I had a

1297
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,000
Speaker 2: girlfriend that she didn't even realize were male centered.

1298
01:00:25,000 --> 01:00:29,919
Speaker 3: Did care? Loved her down so on date to get

1299
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 3: this baby right?

1300
01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 1: Like they don't even they can't say my mother the

1301
01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:36,160
Speaker 1: same way. Well, I just was having such a hard

1302
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:37,959
Speaker 1: time with you being gay because I always wanted grand

1303
01:00:38,040 --> 01:00:40,200
Speaker 1: kids like you.

1304
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:43,480
Speaker 3: Was like you really separate, Like once you're with a woman,

1305
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 3: they like want ice clinking, you know, you need the

1306
01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:50,800
Speaker 3: cocktails downstairs.

1307
01:00:51,600 --> 01:00:55,440
Speaker 2: So I mean, you know, because she's always working so

1308
01:00:55,520 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 2: I feel like, wouldn't it be great if we could

1309
01:00:58,440 --> 01:00:59,640
Speaker 2: just because we were in different cities.

1310
01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:01,640
Speaker 3: You guys are in the same city, and we just

1311
01:01:02,000 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 3: who are we thinking about a partner? My mom just really,

1312
01:01:08,320 --> 01:01:11,360
Speaker 3: my mom really believed and she told her in her

1313
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:13,480
Speaker 3: own way in that moment that was supportive, yeah, because

1314
01:01:13,520 --> 01:01:21,800
Speaker 3: she gonna be yeah, I want oh yeah, the baby here.

1315
01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 3: And so when we.

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01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:26,800
Speaker 2: Started having sex with a dude together and being in

1317
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:29,720
Speaker 2: the throle, my mom was like, oh great, this is

1318
01:01:30,000 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 2: this is the alignment. Yeah, and then she literally said

1319
01:01:32,360 --> 01:01:34,160
Speaker 2: to me, this takes a lot of weight off you.

1320
01:01:35,440 --> 01:01:37,920
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm not I'm not gonna lie. You were

1321
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:40,600
Speaker 3: gonna have to pay for that guy. I'm surprised.

1322
01:01:40,680 --> 01:01:44,080
Speaker 4: My mom literally is a grandma by my lesbian sister,

1323
01:01:45,080 --> 01:01:49,560
Speaker 4: and so so so my my my sister currently co parents,

1324
01:01:50,200 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 4: uh or not.

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01:01:51,920 --> 01:01:56,560
Speaker 5: She's she's gay, lesbian, okay, and they raised this baby.

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01:01:56,800 --> 01:02:01,320
Speaker 4: And it's funny because her, her partner's parents family has

1327
01:02:01,400 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 4: the issues that they're together. But also I think on

1328
01:02:04,040 --> 01:02:07,680
Speaker 4: another level, her her partner's white, and so I think

1329
01:02:07,720 --> 01:02:11,480
Speaker 4: her family also has a problem the same thing. So

1330
01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:21,760
Speaker 4: it's crazy. It's crazy how how sometimes like yeah, she's

1331
01:02:22,800 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 4: but the family. It's interesting because I feel like she

1332
01:02:25,720 --> 01:02:27,480
Speaker 4: they have more of a problem with the fact that

1333
01:02:27,960 --> 01:02:29,920
Speaker 4: my sister and the baby are black and the.

1334
01:02:29,960 --> 01:02:30,280
Speaker 3: Fact that.

1335
01:02:32,440 --> 01:02:35,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, like and it's crazy because me and my other

1336
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:39,120
Speaker 4: sister we be taking dick and we don't want like

1337
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:41,280
Speaker 4: we be like that might.

1338
01:02:41,200 --> 01:02:45,360
Speaker 5: Be your only one, you might be grandma only daughter,

1339
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:45,800
Speaker 5: and we're.

1340
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:47,280
Speaker 3: Like, what are the odds what?

1341
01:02:48,360 --> 01:02:50,760
Speaker 2: Me and my white friend played this game recently, so

1342
01:02:51,520 --> 01:02:54,480
Speaker 2: we've had a conversation like, hey, gay kid, what are

1343
01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:54,920
Speaker 2: we gonna do?

1344
01:02:55,360 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 3: How are we to raise it? How are we going

1345
01:02:56,640 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 3: to do this? How are we going to make sure

1346
01:02:57,880 --> 01:03:01,720
Speaker 3: we're great parents? He was like, what they like white women?

1347
01:03:02,200 --> 01:03:06,040
Speaker 1: What the Yeah, it's like you can do a lot

1348
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 1: to support your children and being yay, but the harm

1349
01:03:12,720 --> 01:03:15,880
Speaker 1: you bring yourself letting that motherfucker bring white.

1350
01:03:15,720 --> 01:03:21,440
Speaker 5: Wife, don't don't I have a home? I have a

1351
01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:23,520
Speaker 5: home right down then literally now.

1352
01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 4: Literally to a white woman, and the fear of like, okay,

1353
01:03:28,640 --> 01:03:30,600
Speaker 4: well they know I'm dating girl. She's now public with

1354
01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:34,720
Speaker 4: this white woman, and she's like, that's the that's the problem.

1355
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:38,400
Speaker 4: That's like, ay, I remember having a homeboy, and this

1356
01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:42,040
Speaker 4: is another thing. Even in queerness and stuff. It was

1357
01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:45,440
Speaker 4: like there was a part where he started dating trans

1358
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:49,000
Speaker 4: women and he was like he already knew. He was like,

1359
01:03:49,240 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 4: they won't even let me bring a white woman home.

1360
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:53,840
Speaker 4: I already know this is good, Like the way that

1361
01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:55,040
Speaker 4: there's literally.

1362
01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:57,320
Speaker 3: There's the interracial part of things and the.

1363
01:03:57,360 --> 01:04:03,880
Speaker 2: Queerness level of remember where you know, So my friend Brandon,

1364
01:04:03,920 --> 01:04:06,400
Speaker 2: we've had him on the show be Rich. Brandon told

1365
01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:09,200
Speaker 2: me at alex we were drunk at Soho house and

1366
01:04:09,440 --> 01:04:11,240
Speaker 2: there was a really attractive guy that walk by and

1367
01:04:11,280 --> 01:04:13,880
Speaker 2: he goes, bitch, I don't know what made you think.

1368
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:18,720
Speaker 4: He's in his forties, said never, I have never, And

1369
01:04:18,840 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 4: I was like, white person, I've never been with a

1370
01:04:22,800 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 4: white person in my life.

1371
01:04:24,400 --> 01:04:27,960
Speaker 3: I would be so like not.

1372
01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:30,640
Speaker 2: Even a shame, but like the fact that someone you

1373
01:04:30,720 --> 01:04:32,160
Speaker 2: better think I'm gay before you think I f a

1374
01:04:32,200 --> 01:04:34,560
Speaker 2: white man, Like like, yeah.

1375
01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 5: I've never been with a white person either. It's so weird.

1376
01:04:37,040 --> 01:04:39,320
Speaker 3: Well I'm lying. This guy did make me like eat

1377
01:04:39,360 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 3: this white girl's pussy. But it was fun. So made

1378
01:04:42,600 --> 01:04:43,840
Speaker 3: that made me. She was fun.

1379
01:04:43,920 --> 01:04:47,560
Speaker 4: I wanted a threesomes. She was a fun white no no, no,

1380
01:04:47,720 --> 01:04:51,920
Speaker 4: like yes, I think dirty blonde.

1381
01:04:52,320 --> 01:05:03,320
Speaker 3: Oh no, she wasn't even I I think I think this.

1382
01:05:03,640 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 3: I think this white girl was from Boston so white. No,

1383
01:05:08,400 --> 01:05:09,040
Speaker 3: let me tell y'all.

1384
01:05:09,040 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 1: I'll be feeling so bad for my mom because her kids,

1385
01:05:11,440 --> 01:05:14,560
Speaker 1: her daughter ended up queer, and then her son got

1386
01:05:14,600 --> 01:05:15,200
Speaker 1: with a white woman.

1387
01:05:15,560 --> 01:05:17,480
Speaker 3: And I'm just so grateful, Anna, I love you. She

1388
01:05:17,560 --> 01:05:24,760
Speaker 3: British and French culture she got. She's not American white,

1389
01:05:24,800 --> 01:05:31,040
Speaker 3: that's all that. I just aritage of white America. You

1390
01:05:31,200 --> 01:05:32,040
Speaker 3: know what's funny about this.

1391
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:35,080
Speaker 4: My ex was British and I used to have to

1392
01:05:35,120 --> 01:05:37,400
Speaker 4: say my ex was British, and I have to be like,

1393
01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 4: but he's black.

1394
01:05:38,240 --> 01:05:42,640
Speaker 3: You like, like, but he's he's black by Rachel Black,

1395
01:05:48,800 --> 01:05:50,360
Speaker 3: so like I would all like us.

1396
01:05:50,400 --> 01:05:52,320
Speaker 2: Now, as we're rapping this episode, before we get to

1397
01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:53,200
Speaker 2: last few questions to.

1398
01:05:53,200 --> 01:05:56,240
Speaker 5: Go around and say something nice about a white person,

1399
01:05:56,840 --> 01:05:57,919
Speaker 5: Have you ever woman?

1400
01:05:57,960 --> 01:06:01,160
Speaker 3: What we fun I'll start? Wait, let me talk about what?

1401
01:06:01,400 --> 01:06:07,280
Speaker 3: Why are Angelina je white woman? Would we fuel life?

1402
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:10,520
Speaker 3: What silott? John Hanson got it for me? I know

1403
01:06:10,640 --> 01:06:11,720
Speaker 3: what crazy super.

1404
01:06:11,520 --> 01:06:13,720
Speaker 1: Love the other day and I got But it's only

1405
01:06:13,840 --> 01:06:16,160
Speaker 1: because she's always on the top of ship and her

1406
01:06:16,200 --> 01:06:17,240
Speaker 1: body is actually.

1407
01:06:17,240 --> 01:06:19,360
Speaker 3: Team and I went nineties Angelina jo and I want

1408
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:20,160
Speaker 3: the nineties.

1409
01:06:19,880 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 1: Of this shit too, but honestly in its ripe age.

1410
01:06:22,800 --> 01:06:25,160
Speaker 1: You know, look at I'm giving you too much the

1411
01:06:25,200 --> 01:06:26,160
Speaker 1: old white woman already.

1412
01:06:26,200 --> 01:06:32,000
Speaker 3: First off, let me just okay, were rolling for this

1413
01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:41,960
Speaker 3: one to justify I'm trying to just make answer. She said,

1414
01:06:42,000 --> 01:06:44,360
Speaker 3: this is I just want to I had to answer

1415
01:06:44,400 --> 01:06:47,680
Speaker 3: on this. Why I would do Sandra Bullock is because

1416
01:06:47,720 --> 01:06:49,760
Speaker 3: she's a bad I feel your baby, I feel you.

1417
01:06:50,200 --> 01:06:53,400
Speaker 3: We just pay attention to her ready for that. It's

1418
01:06:53,400 --> 01:06:55,960
Speaker 3: a lot of years. Watch mister, watch your walk out.

1419
01:06:56,760 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 3: I'm with you on this one. Yeah, miss congeniality she is.

1420
01:07:01,480 --> 01:07:02,880
Speaker 3: It's like, I've never seen a white girl look like that.

1421
01:07:02,960 --> 01:07:03,640
Speaker 3: Oh so there's Jerry.

1422
01:07:03,680 --> 01:07:04,800
Speaker 2: There's a lot of naturalness.

1423
01:07:05,800 --> 01:07:08,120
Speaker 3: She doesn't look extra that cake. Let me make let

1424
01:07:08,200 --> 01:07:12,320
Speaker 3: me make you have been young before I say that.

1425
01:07:15,160 --> 01:07:23,600
Speaker 3: You know Arina carbon Yes, I was close. She's twenty six.

1426
01:07:23,680 --> 01:07:26,600
Speaker 3: I'll take it. Oh no, she to me, if you

1427
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:29,200
Speaker 3: make it white, I want white white. Look at that.

1428
01:07:29,480 --> 01:07:32,440
Speaker 3: She looks like a fucking Barbie doll. And she'd be Robbie.

1429
01:07:32,440 --> 01:07:35,959
Speaker 3: We're gonna talk about Margo Robbie too. But Sabrina Carboner. People,

1430
01:07:36,000 --> 01:07:39,640
Speaker 3: you don't like Sabrina carbon Murcat Robbie. No, she does

1431
01:07:39,760 --> 01:07:42,320
Speaker 3: look like a ball Margot Robbie.

1432
01:07:42,520 --> 01:07:45,240
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, Barbie's when she was pregnant too, she

1433
01:07:45,400 --> 01:07:47,040
Speaker 4: was looking good, Doctor Barbie.

1434
01:07:47,400 --> 01:07:49,880
Speaker 1: If I had the movie Barbie movie, the person who

1435
01:07:49,880 --> 01:07:54,040
Speaker 1: played by No, I was saying, Alex, who's yours?

1436
01:07:54,120 --> 01:07:57,280
Speaker 3: We know you got it already, you gotta she likes

1437
01:07:57,320 --> 01:08:02,160
Speaker 3: what I would go either Scarlet or who's the girl

1438
01:08:02,280 --> 01:08:06,960
Speaker 3: now with the big ass breath? Oh Sidney, yeah, wait

1439
01:08:07,040 --> 01:08:09,760
Speaker 3: no she it was hell, didn't she with the geens? Yeah?

1440
01:08:10,400 --> 01:08:14,840
Speaker 3: That was she? What she do my jeans? So she

1441
01:08:14,920 --> 01:08:17,840
Speaker 3: did this American a whole American ass. She was like

1442
01:08:18,520 --> 01:08:20,600
Speaker 3: some people's jeans are like transferred.

1443
01:08:20,680 --> 01:08:22,160
Speaker 4: They were trying to make it seem like it was jeans,

1444
01:08:22,200 --> 01:08:23,680
Speaker 4: but they were talking about g E N E yes,

1445
01:08:23,840 --> 01:08:27,000
Speaker 4: we know. And then she goess are passed down.

1446
01:08:28,080 --> 01:08:35,200
Speaker 3: It's like a break the American flag. Come up with wasxual?

1447
01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:38,920
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, it's talking about the standard, the standard.

1448
01:08:39,439 --> 01:08:43,679
Speaker 4: You're beauty, Cody. It's very Cody. You know what's crazy.

1449
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:47,240
Speaker 4: I think everyone has a lot problematic, but everyone has

1450
01:08:47,280 --> 01:08:49,679
Speaker 4: a price. I think there's people that would.

1451
01:08:49,520 --> 01:08:52,080
Speaker 2: Be problematic for the right dollar amount like for me,

1452
01:08:52,280 --> 01:08:54,040
Speaker 2: to me, I didn't think it was problematic, so we

1453
01:08:54,120 --> 01:08:55,360
Speaker 2: got to dig it. Like to me, it was because

1454
01:08:55,360 --> 01:08:57,280
Speaker 2: you're not about jeans, then you're in situating.

1455
01:08:57,840 --> 01:09:01,680
Speaker 1: She just levis just put out a Beyonce ad that

1456
01:09:01,680 --> 01:09:04,400
Speaker 1: says Beyonce has better genes, trying to like, oh, I.

1457
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:08,160
Speaker 3: Did see that. I didn't see that. I did see that. Les.

1458
01:09:09,400 --> 01:09:12,320
Speaker 4: I do think that there's a price those people, especially

1459
01:09:12,360 --> 01:09:15,120
Speaker 4: white women, women like they don't have morals because like

1460
01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:17,560
Speaker 4: to me, doesn't Gwyneth Paltrow.

1461
01:09:17,479 --> 01:09:21,559
Speaker 5: Doing an astronomer ad after her husband it was money that.

1462
01:09:21,600 --> 01:09:23,679
Speaker 4: Made her do and it's just like it was genius.

1463
01:09:23,920 --> 01:09:26,479
Speaker 4: She called her husband or her ex husband said this

1464
01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:27,080
Speaker 4: is for the both.

1465
01:09:27,439 --> 01:09:30,160
Speaker 3: I'm honest. Wait, you didn't see you don't need the world?

1466
01:09:30,240 --> 01:09:31,560
Speaker 3: So you know what the CEO.

1467
01:09:34,120 --> 01:09:37,680
Speaker 4: That's the ex husband of Gwyneth Paltrow, bitch And they

1468
01:09:37,760 --> 01:09:38,559
Speaker 4: didn't used him.

1469
01:09:38,600 --> 01:09:40,120
Speaker 3: They didn't use Gwyneth Paltrow.

1470
01:09:42,520 --> 01:09:44,160
Speaker 2: Hey, I know a lot of you are looking at

1471
01:09:44,200 --> 01:09:45,439
Speaker 2: the company, what is it about?

1472
01:09:45,479 --> 01:09:51,200
Speaker 3: And then like great, it was great, But I'm like, oh,

1473
01:09:51,240 --> 01:09:53,160
Speaker 3: I don't. I don't actually think that's for the money.

1474
01:09:53,560 --> 01:09:55,040
Speaker 3: You don't think it's for the money. I think she's

1475
01:09:55,080 --> 01:09:57,280
Speaker 3: definitely not. She said, Babe, I'm gonna do this thing.

1476
01:09:57,360 --> 01:09:59,800
Speaker 3: It's gonna go in Apple's joint. Saving that ship is

1477
01:09:59,880 --> 01:10:03,320
Speaker 3: just funny. And we're gonna name their children Apple.

1478
01:10:03,479 --> 01:10:03,640
Speaker 4: You know.

1479
01:10:06,320 --> 01:10:08,640
Speaker 3: Oh wait, that's for real. You know that.

1480
01:10:14,400 --> 01:10:18,000
Speaker 2: Podcast, but we talk about Tay's baby names, Alex look

1481
01:10:18,040 --> 01:10:18,559
Speaker 2: him up right now.

1482
01:10:19,160 --> 01:10:21,840
Speaker 3: I will tell you the latest baby is Aquahan.

1483
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:24,800
Speaker 4: White people have the nerve to talk about black names,

1484
01:10:25,160 --> 01:10:30,560
Speaker 4: and they're naming their child Apple, Malibu Barbie.

1485
01:10:30,640 --> 01:10:32,599
Speaker 3: Like these are their children's names, like their real name?

1486
01:10:33,960 --> 01:10:36,200
Speaker 2: Who is this person's a podcast.

1487
01:10:35,920 --> 01:10:43,040
Speaker 3: Named Malibu Barbie, Malibou Barbie? What uhus? But I was

1488
01:10:43,040 --> 01:10:50,000
Speaker 3: like the name Barbie Aquaman, name Elvistas Aquaman is.

1489
01:10:50,000 --> 01:10:53,000
Speaker 2: That baby's first name Elvis Aquaman and Malibu Barbie.

1490
01:10:53,680 --> 01:10:55,800
Speaker 3: And malam Barbie is the name the whole thing.

1491
01:10:55,880 --> 01:10:59,040
Speaker 2: When you are rich and right, you can name your

1492
01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:02,240
Speaker 2: baby xcel r K well like Elon must did or

1493
01:11:02,840 --> 01:11:07,680
Speaker 2: you got. That's funny people, and also real ship. It

1494
01:11:08,880 --> 01:11:10,719
Speaker 2: makes me think, what whole type ship.

1495
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:13,600
Speaker 3: Am I gonna do? Appropriate? No, no, no to me.

1496
01:11:13,720 --> 01:11:16,080
Speaker 4: White people's celebrities are only able to do that because

1497
01:11:16,240 --> 01:11:19,479
Speaker 4: they truly believe in nepotism, and so they don't feel

1498
01:11:19,520 --> 01:11:20,479
Speaker 4: like their children are.

1499
01:11:20,439 --> 01:11:21,840
Speaker 3: Ever gonna really have to work.

1500
01:11:21,960 --> 01:11:23,559
Speaker 4: They might have to be because I ain't gonna hold

1501
01:11:23,560 --> 01:11:27,200
Speaker 4: you I've had. I mean, clearly, I have to hire people.

1502
01:11:27,439 --> 01:11:30,720
Speaker 4: I got a resume, and the names that Aquaman. The

1503
01:11:30,800 --> 01:11:32,719
Speaker 4: way y'all be judging black names out here.

1504
01:11:32,920 --> 01:11:36,479
Speaker 3: Hr period, I'm not hiring someone named I'm not even.

1505
01:11:36,320 --> 01:11:40,840
Speaker 4: Calling because you serious, I'm gonna try to figure out

1506
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:41,799
Speaker 4: why didn't give us a better.

1507
01:11:41,720 --> 01:11:43,920
Speaker 3: Name, because to me, I think people ain't a bad name.

1508
01:11:43,960 --> 01:11:48,720
Speaker 4: Actually, Malible's not bad, Barbie, if you go by your

1509
01:11:48,760 --> 01:11:49,880
Speaker 4: full name, I'm.

1510
01:11:49,800 --> 01:11:51,439
Speaker 3: Not Actually isn't that?

1511
01:11:51,640 --> 01:11:54,519
Speaker 4: But Aquaman is nuts aam is the same that baby's

1512
01:11:54,520 --> 01:11:56,840
Speaker 4: gonna go by Moses, and Moses is too old.

1513
01:11:59,120 --> 01:12:01,680
Speaker 2: But apparently she into like water, which I don't give a.

1514
01:12:03,479 --> 01:12:03,639
Speaker 3: More.

1515
01:12:04,120 --> 01:12:05,680
Speaker 5: Are you doing that to your child? To me, that

1516
01:12:05,720 --> 01:12:07,240
Speaker 5: should be a form of child abuse, you know how?

1517
01:12:07,320 --> 01:12:10,000
Speaker 3: No, Frianda loves traders. I saw this ship. She was

1518
01:12:10,040 --> 01:12:11,799
Speaker 3: telling me about it. She was like, she's so different.

1519
01:12:14,360 --> 01:12:14,679
Speaker 3: I see.

1520
01:12:14,680 --> 01:12:16,280
Speaker 4: I think that that's why I would judge you, like

1521
01:12:16,479 --> 01:12:21,200
Speaker 4: if your name is Aquaman, I'm I'm convinced that there's

1522
01:12:21,280 --> 01:12:25,600
Speaker 4: some turbulence in your childhood that you might come to

1523
01:12:25,720 --> 01:12:27,160
Speaker 4: me emotionally unstable.

1524
01:12:27,240 --> 01:12:29,960
Speaker 3: Well I don't have turbulence, that's why are you coming

1525
01:12:29,960 --> 01:12:30,160
Speaker 3: to me?

1526
01:12:33,240 --> 01:12:37,120
Speaker 5: But by the way, my name is Amanda, very simple, right,

1527
01:12:37,520 --> 01:12:38,080
Speaker 5: I grew up.

1528
01:12:39,720 --> 01:12:44,439
Speaker 4: I grew up getting team a man dump, So I

1529
01:12:44,920 --> 01:12:46,080
Speaker 4: only amagine.

1530
01:12:46,760 --> 01:12:47,840
Speaker 3: What do you think I got? Wait?

1531
01:12:47,960 --> 01:12:53,560
Speaker 1: An absolutely bro that is literally a mimennial. That is

1532
01:12:53,680 --> 01:12:55,880
Speaker 1: typical Amanda's baby.

1533
01:12:59,200 --> 01:13:01,760
Speaker 3: So dump ever, heary love when I get anything? A

1534
01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:02,400
Speaker 3: first on her?

1535
01:13:03,520 --> 01:13:07,240
Speaker 2: That was a whole y'all's almost baby names? Oh yeah,

1536
01:13:07,400 --> 01:13:07,960
Speaker 2: for your kids?

1537
01:13:08,040 --> 01:13:09,120
Speaker 3: What did you not go with? So?

1538
01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:11,880
Speaker 1: Wait, why did I just come across that list? But

1539
01:13:12,280 --> 01:13:15,200
Speaker 1: I was looking at Maddox's uh science, his birth chart

1540
01:13:15,479 --> 01:13:17,360
Speaker 1: and said list.

1541
01:13:17,880 --> 01:13:20,000
Speaker 3: Was harder too because we named him two days after

1542
01:13:20,000 --> 01:13:25,400
Speaker 3: three baby y'all days later. So I was I had

1543
01:13:25,439 --> 01:13:28,040
Speaker 3: a homework and I had been calling him. You look

1544
01:13:28,080 --> 01:13:31,680
Speaker 3: like you had a bone verse. Okay, look not too much.

1545
01:13:32,040 --> 01:13:36,880
Speaker 4: I think that's what she's gonna be.

1546
01:13:37,160 --> 01:13:42,160
Speaker 3: Wanted a water water Okay, you tap in. I want

1547
01:13:42,160 --> 01:13:47,240
Speaker 3: to help it. I want to be a duel. Look

1548
01:13:47,280 --> 01:13:51,519
Speaker 3: at wait, you can have a baby with yours. I

1549
01:13:51,600 --> 01:13:52,280
Speaker 3: got all four.

1550
01:13:53,000 --> 01:13:55,680
Speaker 2: The thing is like your mag there's a lot so

1551
01:13:55,800 --> 01:13:57,920
Speaker 2: it's like they say, here's some history.

1552
01:13:58,000 --> 01:14:00,720
Speaker 1: Ye, here's some history. Did you know, Oh the only

1553
01:14:00,840 --> 01:14:03,599
Speaker 1: reason we lay on our backs to have birth at

1554
01:14:03,640 --> 01:14:04,720
Speaker 1: the hospital.

1555
01:14:04,960 --> 01:14:09,160
Speaker 2: It is because for the no, no, something appeasing to

1556
01:14:09,240 --> 01:14:09,679
Speaker 2: the man.

1557
01:14:10,280 --> 01:14:11,320
Speaker 3: Not a specific man.

1558
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:13,040
Speaker 1: I think it was like a king or like a

1559
01:14:13,400 --> 01:14:15,840
Speaker 1: somebody that was running something. He was a perf and

1560
01:14:16,040 --> 01:14:19,080
Speaker 1: enjoyed watching women have babies, and because they would normally

1561
01:14:19,160 --> 01:14:21,519
Speaker 1: do it that way or standing up, he made them

1562
01:14:21,640 --> 01:14:22,160
Speaker 1: lay down.

1563
01:14:22,040 --> 01:14:22,800
Speaker 3: So he could watch.

1564
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:27,000
Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up, so he could watch strangers wives

1565
01:14:27,080 --> 01:14:30,160
Speaker 1: have babies at random. And then it became a natural protocol.

1566
01:14:30,240 --> 01:14:33,519
Speaker 1: Look at you bring in history because because I was like, what,

1567
01:14:33,680 --> 01:14:36,120
Speaker 1: I have my baby at the hospital. Thankfully they sat

1568
01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:38,080
Speaker 1: me up because they you know, there are some things

1569
01:14:38,160 --> 01:14:39,560
Speaker 1: like they'll lay you back or like they'll let you

1570
01:14:39,600 --> 01:14:42,519
Speaker 1: get a little bit more comfort. Whereas when the time

1571
01:14:42,560 --> 01:14:44,200
Speaker 1: it was for her to have her baby, she did

1572
01:14:44,280 --> 01:14:48,240
Speaker 1: everything so holistically her baby, our baby. But when the

1573
01:14:48,280 --> 01:14:49,760
Speaker 1: time for her to have a baby she was carrying,

1574
01:14:49,800 --> 01:14:50,959
Speaker 1: she did everything so holistically.

1575
01:14:51,080 --> 01:14:51,760
Speaker 3: She did it at home.

1576
01:14:51,920 --> 01:14:55,080
Speaker 1: She practiced hypno birthing so she could like control, like

1577
01:14:55,520 --> 01:14:58,120
Speaker 1: do all this stuff that I it's crazy because they

1578
01:14:58,160 --> 01:14:58,559
Speaker 1: take you put.

1579
01:14:58,800 --> 01:15:01,519
Speaker 4: I mean I didn't even learn until like maybe five

1580
01:15:01,640 --> 01:15:03,599
Speaker 4: or six years ago that you should take a ship

1581
01:15:03,920 --> 01:15:05,200
Speaker 4: with your feet elevated.

1582
01:15:05,320 --> 01:15:07,839
Speaker 5: Like yes, like take a healthy ship.

1583
01:15:08,439 --> 01:15:12,320
Speaker 3: And you breathe. You need to breathe. You don't stand

1584
01:15:12,320 --> 01:15:14,240
Speaker 3: on the toilet. How much easier do you ship? How much?

1585
01:15:14,280 --> 01:15:16,240
Speaker 1: I mean not that I'm comparing shipping to put it

1586
01:15:16,320 --> 01:15:21,080
Speaker 1: out a baby, but I thought you put you doing

1587
01:15:21,120 --> 01:15:25,080
Speaker 1: the hypno bathing, that's what they're comparing. They tell you

1588
01:15:25,120 --> 01:15:27,080
Speaker 1: to breath down like you're doing that, you know, like

1589
01:15:27,400 --> 01:15:29,960
Speaker 1: and that's why you're not supposed to Like you're never

1590
01:15:30,000 --> 01:15:31,479
Speaker 1: supposed to do that. You're not supposed to hold your

1591
01:15:31,479 --> 01:15:34,200
Speaker 1: breath sometimes having a baby or you don't need that.

1592
01:15:34,680 --> 01:15:36,840
Speaker 1: Breathe through and it'll come out.

1593
01:15:37,800 --> 01:15:39,640
Speaker 4: That's the only time this is and it we have

1594
01:15:39,760 --> 01:15:43,280
Speaker 4: learned so much. But to me, having a hard try

1595
01:15:43,360 --> 01:15:46,479
Speaker 4: it a birthday troll. Like when I be having to

1596
01:15:46,520 --> 01:15:49,400
Speaker 4: push out a really hard ship like a baby, I

1597
01:15:49,400 --> 01:15:50,960
Speaker 4: could never have a baby like this.

1598
01:15:51,960 --> 01:15:54,080
Speaker 3: You got to even go through that?

1599
01:15:54,960 --> 01:15:58,320
Speaker 2: That is Oh no, that's so because I have five

1600
01:15:58,840 --> 01:16:00,360
Speaker 2: that I have to do a C section. Gonna say,

1601
01:16:00,400 --> 01:16:01,800
Speaker 2: but you know, I want to be a homebirth girl.

1602
01:16:02,560 --> 01:16:04,560
Speaker 3: So what am I gonna do? Look, I was a

1603
01:16:04,640 --> 01:16:07,640
Speaker 3: homebirth girl with out a midwife. She ain't make it. No,

1604
01:16:07,760 --> 01:16:10,720
Speaker 3: it's not that advance. So you caught the baby? It

1605
01:16:10,800 --> 01:16:15,080
Speaker 3: was you caught the baby, delivered our baby. I just

1606
01:16:15,160 --> 01:16:17,400
Speaker 3: called who else was that? By the time, her mama

1607
01:16:17,479 --> 01:16:20,519
Speaker 3: was in the back crying. My wife wasn't even didn't

1608
01:16:20,960 --> 01:16:23,320
Speaker 3: I held a baby? She was there. She probably got

1609
01:16:23,320 --> 01:16:26,040
Speaker 3: there fifteen minutes later. Wait because of the traffic. What

1610
01:16:26,200 --> 01:16:27,360
Speaker 3: the fuck did the midwife show up?

1611
01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:27,559
Speaker 2: Lake?

1612
01:16:27,680 --> 01:16:30,360
Speaker 1: I think what happened was that she missed She didn't

1613
01:16:30,520 --> 01:16:33,280
Speaker 1: understand my lyns urgency because my line was so calmed.

1614
01:16:33,320 --> 01:16:37,200
Speaker 1: I was baby because of hypno birthing baby, but it's

1615
01:16:37,240 --> 01:16:40,920
Speaker 1: a second birth, and so she was just anticipating that

1616
01:16:41,040 --> 01:16:45,120
Speaker 1: it was going to take a while. And my doula

1617
01:16:45,200 --> 01:16:47,920
Speaker 1: that I had was also a first time doula, and

1618
01:16:48,040 --> 01:16:50,360
Speaker 1: then I had did hypno birth thing on the sign,

1619
01:16:50,479 --> 01:16:53,040
Speaker 1: So I literally it was my friend.

1620
01:16:54,240 --> 01:16:56,479
Speaker 3: You're gonna discod did she's a hypno birtha? And I'm

1621
01:16:56,479 --> 01:16:58,040
Speaker 3: assuming you ended up what you ended up? What she

1622
01:16:58,120 --> 01:17:00,400
Speaker 3: ended up going through a program or like A Yeah,

1623
01:17:00,560 --> 01:17:02,320
Speaker 3: I didn't have to pay for any If I would

1624
01:17:02,360 --> 01:17:04,000
Speaker 3: have called that program like this bitch. I didn't even

1625
01:17:04,040 --> 01:17:06,320
Speaker 3: make it all time for my baby. I would have

1626
01:17:06,360 --> 01:17:12,400
Speaker 3: called it been like she you know nothing, say yeah,

1627
01:17:12,680 --> 01:17:15,920
Speaker 3: just said yeah, and we can been connected until she birth.

1628
01:17:16,240 --> 01:17:17,760
Speaker 3: He say it on babies, be smarter when you look

1629
01:17:17,800 --> 01:17:19,719
Speaker 3: when you like, I've got a photo of him connected

1630
01:17:19,800 --> 01:17:20,400
Speaker 3: to the placenta.

1631
01:17:20,479 --> 01:17:23,880
Speaker 4: Still like the now, because you did all this, you're

1632
01:17:23,920 --> 01:17:26,280
Speaker 4: also you ate the placenta, didn't you? You put it

1633
01:17:26,320 --> 01:17:27,240
Speaker 4: into pills and stuff.

1634
01:17:27,360 --> 01:17:29,800
Speaker 3: I want to I did so.

1635
01:17:29,840 --> 01:17:32,800
Speaker 2: I was thinking about freezing it from smoothies and then pills.

1636
01:17:32,880 --> 01:17:35,240
Speaker 3: Oh, it's like, you're right, it's science, it's healthy. Yeah

1637
01:17:35,320 --> 01:17:37,560
Speaker 3: it is. Yeah you should Also, I don't want to

1638
01:17:37,600 --> 01:17:39,360
Speaker 3: be depressed. I'm so prone to be a little sad.

1639
01:17:40,280 --> 01:17:45,840
Speaker 3: But first off, yes it is. Yeah, helps the MOLTI

1640
01:17:45,880 --> 01:17:48,040
Speaker 3: depression everything. But girl, let me tell you something.

1641
01:17:48,080 --> 01:17:49,720
Speaker 2: Mandy gonna be so sick me on this podcast when

1642
01:17:49,720 --> 01:17:54,280
Speaker 2: I'm pregnant, because anybody we have I'll be like, are

1643
01:17:54,320 --> 01:17:56,200
Speaker 2: you trying to get pregnant in two years?

1644
01:17:56,240 --> 01:17:56,479
Speaker 3: Okay?

1645
01:17:56,680 --> 01:17:58,640
Speaker 2: Time, which is also why we be like damn, we

1646
01:17:58,720 --> 01:18:00,880
Speaker 2: need to go out now. But then every time we

1647
01:18:00,920 --> 01:18:02,439
Speaker 2: started having a really good time out, we'd be.

1648
01:18:02,479 --> 01:18:05,880
Speaker 3: Like three three more years. Bro we literally was out

1649
01:18:05,920 --> 01:18:06,080
Speaker 3: with you.

1650
01:18:06,200 --> 01:18:07,640
Speaker 5: We keep pushing it wild out.

1651
01:18:07,760 --> 01:18:09,080
Speaker 4: You say we're gonna make it to ten years and

1652
01:18:09,080 --> 01:18:12,160
Speaker 4: the bitches, we gonna send you all a real We're ending, but.

1653
01:18:12,200 --> 01:18:16,000
Speaker 3: Then we're like, huh, maybe we'll stay on Patreon. People

1654
01:18:16,160 --> 01:18:16,840
Speaker 3: do virtual me.

1655
01:18:17,200 --> 01:18:20,320
Speaker 2: I just really want to be able to if I've

1656
01:18:20,360 --> 01:18:22,600
Speaker 2: been doing a podcast about sex, health and wellness for

1657
01:18:23,320 --> 01:18:26,600
Speaker 2: half of my adult career, what the fuck am I

1658
01:18:26,720 --> 01:18:28,679
Speaker 2: doing getting pregnant and not sharing this with the people

1659
01:18:28,720 --> 01:18:29,360
Speaker 2: who have watched.

1660
01:18:29,200 --> 01:18:29,759
Speaker 3: Me on this journey.

1661
01:18:29,840 --> 01:18:32,439
Speaker 2: Likely to me, it's just like almost not like they're

1662
01:18:32,520 --> 01:18:35,000
Speaker 2: owed it, but I feel like I'm owed that connection

1663
01:18:35,120 --> 01:18:35,680
Speaker 2: with fans too.

1664
01:18:36,520 --> 01:18:36,760
Speaker 3: Bruh.

1665
01:18:36,880 --> 01:18:39,479
Speaker 2: Someone dies in my family. That sounds depressing, but like

1666
01:18:39,600 --> 01:18:41,800
Speaker 2: then me and someone else are gonna share grieving stuff

1667
01:18:41,800 --> 01:18:43,519
Speaker 2: and what do we do? Like there's always been a

1668
01:18:43,600 --> 01:18:46,280
Speaker 2: connecting like thing, and I'm sure you felt that too.

1669
01:18:46,560 --> 01:18:49,360
Speaker 2: When Mandy and I go on tour. The last tour

1670
01:18:49,400 --> 01:18:52,080
Speaker 2: we did, so many people are coming up to Mandy.

1671
01:18:52,280 --> 01:18:55,240
Speaker 4: About weight loss and it was just like, weight loss

1672
01:18:55,280 --> 01:18:57,479
Speaker 4: and cancer are my two connections with the audience.

1673
01:18:57,720 --> 01:19:00,519
Speaker 3: And it's intense, like like maybe make me crying.

1674
01:19:00,560 --> 01:19:03,520
Speaker 4: Shit, I'll be like, but those are my two connections

1675
01:19:03,840 --> 01:19:05,639
Speaker 4: with a lot of the listening people.

1676
01:19:05,920 --> 01:19:10,000
Speaker 2: For mine, it's having older parents, I would say, oh,

1677
01:19:10,080 --> 01:19:13,120
Speaker 2: and probably also them being just like super emotional and

1678
01:19:13,200 --> 01:19:17,200
Speaker 2: wanted to manifest and being kind of gay your parents,

1679
01:19:17,280 --> 01:19:17,920
Speaker 2: Are you being gay?

1680
01:19:18,120 --> 01:19:18,160
Speaker 3: No?

1681
01:19:18,240 --> 01:19:20,120
Speaker 2: No, I say kind of gay, because I'd just be

1682
01:19:20,200 --> 01:19:21,560
Speaker 2: like I'm getting over now and then I'm doing that.

1683
01:19:21,600 --> 01:19:24,800
Speaker 2: And I think a lot of people like feel I've

1684
01:19:24,880 --> 01:19:27,080
Speaker 2: just noticed I get so many DMS from women that

1685
01:19:27,160 --> 01:19:29,600
Speaker 2: are very confused about their sexuality and feeling like I.

1686
01:19:29,560 --> 01:19:30,240
Speaker 3: Won't judge them.

1687
01:19:30,560 --> 01:19:32,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes sense, And so I think being flighty

1688
01:19:32,640 --> 01:19:34,960
Speaker 2: about what you're feeling is something you feel like.

1689
01:19:35,000 --> 01:19:36,720
Speaker 3: You can't really it's flightiness.

1690
01:19:36,960 --> 01:19:38,880
Speaker 2: You feel like you can't come to someone who you

1691
01:19:39,000 --> 01:19:41,280
Speaker 2: may know this lesbian, because they're gonna judge you. So

1692
01:19:41,360 --> 01:19:43,720
Speaker 2: when someone's by and been living in their bidenness out

1693
01:19:43,800 --> 01:19:46,080
Speaker 2: loud for a while, it feels like a safer space.

1694
01:19:46,120 --> 01:19:48,360
Speaker 2: I don't I don't know why, yeah, but I mean yeah,

1695
01:19:48,439 --> 01:19:51,160
Speaker 2: so to me, the second I'm pregnant, all y'all hoes

1696
01:19:51,479 --> 01:19:52,080
Speaker 2: they be.

1697
01:19:52,080 --> 01:19:55,519
Speaker 4: Telling me what to do, what to eat shit, I'm

1698
01:19:55,560 --> 01:19:57,679
Speaker 4: gonna say space too. That's why I fuck my friends

1699
01:19:57,760 --> 01:20:01,120
Speaker 4: like we upsex together and and they know it's the

1700
01:20:01,160 --> 01:20:01,639
Speaker 4: same place.

1701
01:20:01,720 --> 01:20:02,160
Speaker 3: I'd like to know.

1702
01:20:02,280 --> 01:20:03,960
Speaker 1: I'd like to know what it's like after you your

1703
01:20:03,960 --> 01:20:06,400
Speaker 1: friends and you guys just go back to being It's

1704
01:20:06,439 --> 01:20:10,240
Speaker 1: so crazy. It like litt it maintain sex though, or

1705
01:20:10,320 --> 01:20:11,840
Speaker 1: is it like a one off thing that just happened

1706
01:20:11,840 --> 01:20:13,719
Speaker 1: to happen or do you guys discuss it in advanced

1707
01:20:13,720 --> 01:20:14,160
Speaker 1: like do you want.

1708
01:20:14,040 --> 01:20:16,200
Speaker 3: To come over? Gas man? You know what's crazy? And

1709
01:20:16,280 --> 01:20:16,800
Speaker 3: normally just.

1710
01:20:19,040 --> 01:20:22,040
Speaker 4: And then like after it happens once, maybe it happens again,

1711
01:20:22,240 --> 01:20:23,960
Speaker 4: or like then those becomes.

1712
01:20:24,080 --> 01:20:26,160
Speaker 3: In between, is what I'm Yeah, how is it okay?

1713
01:20:26,200 --> 01:20:28,000
Speaker 2: So for me if I have sex with someone now

1714
01:20:28,040 --> 01:20:32,360
Speaker 2: we can't watch a movie anymore without no, no, without

1715
01:20:33,560 --> 01:20:35,880
Speaker 2: I don't know the boundary now, so my own girls

1716
01:20:35,880 --> 01:20:37,680
Speaker 2: come over. We've be kicking it on the couch. Now

1717
01:20:37,720 --> 01:20:40,000
Speaker 2: that we have sex, How we sit on this couch?

1718
01:20:40,000 --> 01:20:40,960
Speaker 2: Are we supposed to be doing it?

1719
01:20:41,160 --> 01:20:44,080
Speaker 3: No, we're supposed to be touching. I actually have a

1720
01:20:44,160 --> 01:20:45,439
Speaker 3: weird in my.

1721
01:20:45,680 --> 01:20:48,559
Speaker 4: Own head, like yeah, your head, your head is different

1722
01:20:48,600 --> 01:20:53,720
Speaker 4: than my head, you know, like when do we do it?

1723
01:20:53,840 --> 01:20:56,160
Speaker 4: I mean to me, to me, it doesn't change anything,

1724
01:20:56,760 --> 01:21:00,320
Speaker 4: Like we're able to still have fun, go out, eat drink.

1725
01:21:00,840 --> 01:21:03,559
Speaker 3: It's it's all the same stand up, you put your

1726
01:21:03,560 --> 01:21:07,000
Speaker 3: clothes back on. I really want to in high school.

1727
01:21:07,800 --> 01:21:12,360
Speaker 3: In high school it was me I'm learning, But.

1728
01:21:12,520 --> 01:21:14,840
Speaker 1: Listening to you say this, I'm just like, Okay, that

1729
01:21:14,960 --> 01:21:16,720
Speaker 1: sounds like that's a make that Me and too my

1730
01:21:16,760 --> 01:21:20,759
Speaker 1: girlfriend's had and we would do the ship after.

1731
01:21:20,640 --> 01:21:23,000
Speaker 3: School, go like have some fun and then literally it

1732
01:21:23,160 --> 01:21:27,920
Speaker 3: never disturbed our friendship. It never never.

1733
01:21:27,880 --> 01:21:30,880
Speaker 4: Disturbed, Like we don't even but we don't even think

1734
01:21:31,080 --> 01:21:34,200
Speaker 4: like we don't it's even something to where like after

1735
01:21:34,320 --> 01:21:36,200
Speaker 4: we have sex, then it might be like, oh I

1736
01:21:36,280 --> 01:21:37,439
Speaker 4: might be able to get her to join me in

1737
01:21:37,479 --> 01:21:39,720
Speaker 4: a nigga, Like it just becomes like giry you want

1738
01:21:39,720 --> 01:21:41,920
Speaker 4: to go on a trip with, Like it just becomes fun.

1739
01:21:42,000 --> 01:21:44,760
Speaker 4: But I think a lot of my friends just view

1740
01:21:44,880 --> 01:21:48,320
Speaker 4: sex as like a night out, like there's not we

1741
01:21:48,400 --> 01:21:52,200
Speaker 4: don't like. To me, like so emotional ties like the

1742
01:21:52,320 --> 01:21:53,839
Speaker 4: exchange of it fun.

1743
01:21:54,040 --> 01:21:56,639
Speaker 3: But it's not like emotional ties having to like it's

1744
01:21:56,680 --> 01:21:59,040
Speaker 3: not all that for you. So sex to me is fun.

1745
01:21:59,439 --> 01:22:02,679
Speaker 3: Sex to me is like we went bowling the other datute,

1746
01:22:02,960 --> 01:22:05,000
Speaker 3: So such a different Literally.

1747
01:22:04,800 --> 01:22:07,560
Speaker 4: Like the way I view sex is like something that

1748
01:22:08,120 --> 01:22:12,280
Speaker 4: brings us into this like you know, this this emotional

1749
01:22:12,360 --> 01:22:15,160
Speaker 4: state that now our whole dynamics have changed. Like it's

1750
01:22:15,240 --> 01:22:17,960
Speaker 4: why I believe that even in and having sex, And

1751
01:22:18,000 --> 01:22:20,200
Speaker 4: I talked about this in my twenties, casual sex, like

1752
01:22:20,640 --> 01:22:22,639
Speaker 4: you could have sex with a man and not mean anything.

1753
01:22:22,680 --> 01:22:26,479
Speaker 2: So here's where I think there's like are these friends,

1754
01:22:26,760 --> 01:22:28,439
Speaker 2: like Crystal is your best friend?

1755
01:22:28,560 --> 01:22:28,720
Speaker 3: Right?

1756
01:22:29,240 --> 01:22:31,000
Speaker 2: But are these just friends that you just see one's

1757
01:22:31,040 --> 01:22:35,840
Speaker 2: in the blue, like can have a close connection or Crystal,

1758
01:22:36,640 --> 01:22:39,800
Speaker 2: you know, I never fucked Crystal, but she's not gay,

1759
01:22:40,479 --> 01:22:43,240
Speaker 2: like she don't like women. But all of my friends

1760
01:22:43,280 --> 01:22:46,280
Speaker 2: that like women, majority of them we've had sex.

1761
01:22:46,439 --> 01:22:50,160
Speaker 1: Damn, Like not uncomor like there's something interesting about being

1762
01:22:50,280 --> 01:22:53,200
Speaker 1: gay and single, right because in LA I think there's

1763
01:22:53,240 --> 01:22:55,720
Speaker 1: this underlying story like when you finally get in a relationship,

1764
01:22:56,080 --> 01:22:58,840
Speaker 1: your homies probably already like somebody like everybody.

1765
01:22:58,880 --> 01:23:00,040
Speaker 3: Like being.

1766
01:23:01,680 --> 01:23:05,040
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, being single, being free, being open, and you

1767
01:23:05,280 --> 01:23:06,559
Speaker 1: sleeping with somebody that's not the weirdest.

1768
01:23:06,600 --> 01:23:08,639
Speaker 4: I mean, I think I think I didn't even realize

1769
01:23:08,680 --> 01:23:11,240
Speaker 4: it was like this thing until like my ex he

1770
01:23:11,400 --> 01:23:13,560
Speaker 4: said that if he meets a friend, he would like

1771
01:23:13,600 --> 01:23:14,960
Speaker 4: to know if we were intimate before now, And.

1772
01:23:14,960 --> 01:23:17,200
Speaker 3: I was like, bitch for what, Like I didn't understand

1773
01:23:17,240 --> 01:23:19,080
Speaker 3: that thing. But I think because like.

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01:23:19,240 --> 01:23:21,519
Speaker 5: Many of y'all, it would it would be, you know,

1775
01:23:21,640 --> 01:23:23,160
Speaker 5: it would feel like there would be in the room

1776
01:23:23,200 --> 01:23:23,519
Speaker 5: and not know.

1777
01:23:23,640 --> 01:23:25,320
Speaker 3: I feel like now I'm the foot, which is maybe

1778
01:23:25,360 --> 01:23:27,240
Speaker 3: that's what it was, but I'm but I also had.

1779
01:23:27,160 --> 01:23:29,800
Speaker 4: To do the explaining that, like they don't want to

1780
01:23:29,840 --> 01:23:32,000
Speaker 4: be with you, We're like they can still be over.

1781
01:23:32,160 --> 01:23:34,360
Speaker 4: They're not gonna get jealous of you, Like we don't

1782
01:23:34,439 --> 01:23:35,439
Speaker 4: have that dynamic.

1783
01:23:36,000 --> 01:23:39,519
Speaker 1: Interesting, Yeah, if I wasn't here, y'all could, and if

1784
01:23:39,640 --> 01:23:41,880
Speaker 1: y'all on a vacation, you also could maybe, And so.

1785
01:23:41,960 --> 01:23:44,160
Speaker 3: I told him that like there was there was one

1786
01:23:44,240 --> 01:23:44,599
Speaker 3: home girl.

1787
01:23:44,680 --> 01:23:46,600
Speaker 4: We were out and I texted him and I was like,

1788
01:23:46,960 --> 01:23:49,920
Speaker 4: I'm not I literally said, what's funny is I told

1789
01:23:49,960 --> 01:23:51,519
Speaker 4: him one night that I said, ooh, I want to

1790
01:23:51,720 --> 01:23:55,439
Speaker 4: a girl. I'm just in the And it's funny because

1791
01:23:55,439 --> 01:23:58,479
Speaker 4: I ended up sucking my friend and he was confused

1792
01:23:58,479 --> 01:23:59,960
Speaker 4: because he thought I was just gonna pick.

1793
01:23:59,800 --> 01:24:01,680
Speaker 3: Someone up from the club. I was like, I got

1794
01:24:01,760 --> 01:24:03,400
Speaker 3: a girl with me right now, why make it hard?

1795
01:24:03,760 --> 01:24:07,360
Speaker 4: Like you know what I mean, Like like and she's

1796
01:24:07,400 --> 01:24:10,400
Speaker 4: into girls, And we were vibing, and so we fucked

1797
01:24:10,439 --> 01:24:10,800
Speaker 4: that night.

1798
01:24:11,040 --> 01:24:12,639
Speaker 3: She made me squirret on my living room floor.

1799
01:24:12,720 --> 01:24:16,559
Speaker 4: It was great, and we haven't had sex again since then,

1800
01:24:16,640 --> 01:24:17,920
Speaker 4: but like we'll make out still.

1801
01:24:18,040 --> 01:24:20,280
Speaker 3: We like we like rub on each other, and.

1802
01:24:20,400 --> 01:24:23,560
Speaker 2: It's just are you making out in private spaces? We

1803
01:24:23,680 --> 01:24:25,600
Speaker 2: made out in the club, Okay, so seems to me

1804
01:24:25,680 --> 01:24:27,600
Speaker 2: that's different. Yeah, but it's like a night out you

1805
01:24:27,680 --> 01:24:29,920
Speaker 2: haven't and That's what I'm saying. But even the night

1806
01:24:30,000 --> 01:24:31,679
Speaker 2: out may lead to the bedroom.

1807
01:24:32,040 --> 01:24:34,920
Speaker 1: It's possible. And so for me, like, I don't know

1808
01:24:34,920 --> 01:24:36,680
Speaker 1: why I am just starting there. You guys aren't going

1809
01:24:36,760 --> 01:24:38,760
Speaker 1: You're not coming over for this intimate thing.

1810
01:24:38,960 --> 01:24:40,479
Speaker 3: No, Like there was a home girl that I ended

1811
01:24:40,560 --> 01:24:43,679
Speaker 3: up having sex with gay niggas well. Maybe it's maybe,

1812
01:24:44,000 --> 01:24:45,120
Speaker 3: Oh I say it all the time.

1813
01:24:45,439 --> 01:24:49,320
Speaker 1: We were just shout out to Matthew and I thought

1814
01:24:49,360 --> 01:24:49,840
Speaker 1: they was together.

1815
01:24:50,000 --> 01:24:51,000
Speaker 3: Matthew is one of.

1816
01:24:51,040 --> 01:24:55,240
Speaker 4: Our patrons, and he said that he really resonated with

1817
01:24:55,880 --> 01:25:00,240
Speaker 4: one of the chapters as a them presenting gay man.

1818
01:25:00,320 --> 01:25:02,559
Speaker 4: He had all this, and I was like, I didn't

1819
01:25:02,640 --> 01:25:04,519
Speaker 4: you know, when we talk about men being able to

1820
01:25:04,560 --> 01:25:07,400
Speaker 4: relate to certain chapters, I don't think I ever considered

1821
01:25:07,640 --> 01:25:09,840
Speaker 4: how a gay man would read our or see our

1822
01:25:09,880 --> 01:25:10,559
Speaker 4: stories and relate.

1823
01:25:10,840 --> 01:25:12,040
Speaker 3: And I said, you know what's crazy.

1824
01:25:12,720 --> 01:25:14,720
Speaker 4: I lived my life is a gay man, and I

1825
01:25:14,880 --> 01:25:18,360
Speaker 4: know I do. Like that's how I you know, it's

1826
01:25:18,840 --> 01:25:20,040
Speaker 4: literally just nails.

1827
01:25:21,240 --> 01:25:26,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, real, No, this is what you call y'all are

1828
01:25:26,400 --> 01:25:32,360
Speaker 6: very less y'all nails. Is that's crazy because I don't

1829
01:25:32,400 --> 01:25:33,320
Speaker 6: even use these hands for that.

1830
01:25:33,640 --> 01:25:39,280
Speaker 3: No, not even a little bit. Still okay, but not

1831
01:25:39,520 --> 01:25:44,080
Speaker 3: by are you guys? Toy ladies? No? No, I'm a sissy.

1832
01:25:45,080 --> 01:25:45,679
Speaker 3: That's my ship?

1833
01:25:45,880 --> 01:25:46,080
Speaker 2: Is it?

1834
01:25:46,439 --> 01:25:49,000
Speaker 3: That's my favorite? I don't I've never done it such

1835
01:25:49,000 --> 01:25:54,880
Speaker 3: a no. No girls on the hips, the thighs, baby,

1836
01:25:57,560 --> 01:26:01,160
Speaker 3: the wideness, the wrighter, wright or white. It's like coucie

1837
01:26:01,160 --> 01:26:02,240
Speaker 3: bumping is difficult.

1838
01:26:02,640 --> 01:26:05,599
Speaker 2: That is my favorite girl because like the last three

1839
01:26:05,720 --> 01:26:08,240
Speaker 2: soon we had with a lesbian so she literally said

1840
01:26:08,320 --> 01:26:08,920
Speaker 2: we were on the date.

1841
01:26:09,000 --> 01:26:09,599
Speaker 3: She was so funny.

1842
01:26:09,640 --> 01:26:11,679
Speaker 2: She was like, listen, like I funk about one nigger

1843
01:26:11,680 --> 01:26:15,280
Speaker 2: every five years, but this doesn't work for me. So

1844
01:26:15,720 --> 01:26:17,760
Speaker 2: when we she knew I was in a scissoring whether

1845
01:26:17,800 --> 01:26:19,560
Speaker 2: it be from the show where I said it and

1846
01:26:19,680 --> 01:26:20,480
Speaker 2: we finally.

1847
01:26:20,240 --> 01:26:21,480
Speaker 3: Started to fans.

1848
01:26:22,000 --> 01:26:23,880
Speaker 5: She was a fan, but how she know from the

1849
01:26:23,920 --> 01:26:26,160
Speaker 5: show Black and thirty.

1850
01:26:25,920 --> 01:26:31,519
Speaker 3: Four and like Leslie, she's on field. She if she

1851
01:26:31,640 --> 01:26:37,320
Speaker 3: knows she got she went like she's a fan. Bro.

1852
01:26:37,720 --> 01:26:40,639
Speaker 2: It was the third time we anyway, So my man

1853
01:26:40,720 --> 01:26:43,599
Speaker 2: started watching a scissor and he was like, Okay, I've

1854
01:26:43,640 --> 01:26:44,800
Speaker 2: watched you scissor other women.

1855
01:26:45,040 --> 01:26:46,559
Speaker 3: This was the first time where I was like, oh,

1856
01:26:46,640 --> 01:26:48,879
Speaker 3: I get it now. And he's like, is it because

1857
01:26:49,080 --> 01:26:50,800
Speaker 3: it's because some other girls don't be coming they be

1858
01:26:50,800 --> 01:26:51,320
Speaker 3: faking it for you?

1859
01:26:51,640 --> 01:26:54,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, And he's like, maybe like the girls that you're

1860
01:26:54,479 --> 01:26:58,720
Speaker 2: fucking that don't He's I didn't even He's like, y'all

1861
01:26:58,760 --> 01:27:00,599
Speaker 2: weren't even on each other's pussy any exactly.

1862
01:27:00,600 --> 01:27:02,680
Speaker 3: Feels like you was coming from the diactly right.

1863
01:27:03,200 --> 01:27:05,200
Speaker 1: It's just that's what I was gonna say, Like, people

1864
01:27:05,280 --> 01:27:08,240
Speaker 1: love scissoring, but when I think about bumping cunt, you

1865
01:27:08,320 --> 01:27:08,920
Speaker 1: can lay flat.

1866
01:27:09,240 --> 01:27:10,600
Speaker 3: I don't need to do all that white ship. I

1867
01:27:10,680 --> 01:27:12,200
Speaker 3: need this to touch this, right, we just got to.

1868
01:27:12,439 --> 01:27:13,679
Speaker 3: You just have to hit emotion.

1869
01:27:14,200 --> 01:27:15,920
Speaker 4: And that's probably what you were actually doing by the

1870
01:27:16,040 --> 01:27:21,840
Speaker 4: time because real thing like, ain't nobody yeah yeah, yeah,

1871
01:27:22,200 --> 01:27:23,680
Speaker 4: the jack says it on the titt right, That's what

1872
01:27:23,720 --> 01:27:24,960
Speaker 4: I'm saying, Baby, all I eat is friction.

1873
01:27:25,120 --> 01:27:32,559
Speaker 3: Baby. Yeah right, but I feel like like when girls

1874
01:27:32,600 --> 01:27:34,879
Speaker 3: they feel like it's weird. Oh no, I don't yeh.

1875
01:27:34,880 --> 01:27:36,720
Speaker 3: I'm just saying that I understand that with.

1876
01:27:37,120 --> 01:27:38,920
Speaker 5: I always understand whatever people are into.

1877
01:27:39,080 --> 01:27:41,160
Speaker 3: You know what I mean. Away, let's tell me where

1878
01:27:41,160 --> 01:27:42,879
Speaker 3: that they can find you and you yeah.

1879
01:27:44,680 --> 01:27:50,519
Speaker 5: Now, yeah, yeah, you horrible one day to get real.

1880
01:27:52,320 --> 01:27:53,120
Speaker 3: Behind the paywalls.

1881
01:27:53,160 --> 01:27:55,840
Speaker 2: Since if you own a business, right, oh wait, tell

1882
01:27:55,920 --> 01:27:57,880
Speaker 2: us about the businesses, kids, men and all the things doing.

1883
01:27:57,960 --> 01:27:59,200
Speaker 3: Oh my god, the whole run down.

1884
01:28:00,840 --> 01:28:02,679
Speaker 1: So you started off by saying that we don't do podcasts,

1885
01:28:02,720 --> 01:28:04,960
Speaker 1: but I do have a small podcast with my best friend.

1886
01:28:04,960 --> 01:28:06,080
Speaker 1: It's called Hella Good Company.

1887
01:28:06,280 --> 01:28:07,920
Speaker 3: Love It. We do a podcast.

1888
01:28:08,000 --> 01:28:10,000
Speaker 1: We also do event production all throughout LA for black

1889
01:28:10,120 --> 01:28:14,280
Speaker 1: queer women and it's trans inclusive. We are having our

1890
01:28:14,320 --> 01:28:18,040
Speaker 1: first event, which will have happened after this, our first

1891
01:28:18,120 --> 01:28:21,840
Speaker 1: international Pride event in Tuloom. We're very very excited. We

1892
01:28:21,920 --> 01:28:22,439
Speaker 1: cannot wait.

1893
01:28:22,680 --> 01:28:24,880
Speaker 3: And then we do a lot of scissoring there. I

1894
01:28:25,120 --> 01:28:27,439
Speaker 3: think that, you know, I think that there will be

1895
01:28:28,960 --> 01:28:29,639
Speaker 3: of the real kind.

1896
01:28:31,200 --> 01:28:34,000
Speaker 1: One hundred and fifty we bought, we got out like

1897
01:28:34,439 --> 01:28:36,840
Speaker 1: the first Doug Earal event. We literally sold off.

1898
01:28:38,880 --> 01:28:41,559
Speaker 3: For a first event. We're really really excited. You are

1899
01:28:41,600 --> 01:28:43,840
Speaker 3: going to have to hold each other and be.

1900
01:28:43,960 --> 01:28:49,400
Speaker 1: Like when it's all, they're gonna they're gonna be like

1901
01:28:49,439 --> 01:28:54,040
Speaker 1: you need a third Okay, that's exactly but yes, that's

1902
01:28:54,080 --> 01:28:55,799
Speaker 1: what we do. And I also run in an interior

1903
01:28:55,800 --> 01:28:58,200
Speaker 1: design firm. That's my bread and butter design.

1904
01:28:58,479 --> 01:29:00,800
Speaker 3: It is the design. Yeah, and I married an artist

1905
01:29:00,920 --> 01:29:05,840
Speaker 3: who my turn. Yeah.

1906
01:29:06,040 --> 01:29:09,880
Speaker 1: I was homeschooling for a while, but that should have stressed. Oh,

1907
01:29:10,080 --> 01:29:11,799
Speaker 1: I believe they're about to start school.

1908
01:29:11,880 --> 01:29:15,240
Speaker 3: It all gets get him out of here. I know

1909
01:29:15,360 --> 01:29:17,760
Speaker 3: it is. It's been a work in progress of getting there.

1910
01:29:17,880 --> 01:29:22,439
Speaker 1: But for a happy wife who's mentally stable, you know,

1911
01:29:22,560 --> 01:29:24,880
Speaker 1: that's what we're gonna do. So I've always worked with kids.

1912
01:29:24,920 --> 01:29:25,479
Speaker 3: I'm an artist.

1913
01:29:26,000 --> 01:29:30,080
Speaker 1: Right now I'm working with foster kids, teaching them art

1914
01:29:30,400 --> 01:29:32,360
Speaker 1: and art therapy type of stuff.

1915
01:29:32,439 --> 01:29:33,320
Speaker 3: So I love that.

1916
01:29:33,760 --> 01:29:37,000
Speaker 2: Wow that really I love meeting a wholesome couple.

1917
01:29:38,439 --> 01:29:47,880
Speaker 3: I was about to so long ago changed.

1918
01:29:48,200 --> 01:29:50,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's one of a bitches fight we got to

1919
01:29:50,439 --> 01:29:52,200
Speaker 2: be because I've been a lot. We could do a

1920
01:29:52,400 --> 01:29:53,520
Speaker 2: Patre episode.

1921
01:29:53,200 --> 01:29:58,759
Speaker 3: Episode tell me fighting and to Loon is getting jealous

1922
01:29:58,920 --> 01:30:01,320
Speaker 3: and I better not. This is a real this is

1923
01:30:01,400 --> 01:30:09,439
Speaker 3: a real mature group twenty year like. See, this is

1924
01:30:09,520 --> 01:30:10,400
Speaker 3: what I'm talking about.

1925
01:30:12,080 --> 01:30:12,120
Speaker 2: It.

1926
01:30:14,200 --> 01:30:15,880
Speaker 3: I was saying a nigga like thirty six got on

1927
01:30:15,920 --> 01:30:17,400
Speaker 3: a fight. I said, oh no, I can't do this

1928
01:30:17,920 --> 01:30:21,479
Speaker 3: too much. You know what I mean.

1929
01:30:21,560 --> 01:30:24,120
Speaker 5: We can't be if you want your thirties, you can't

1930
01:30:24,120 --> 01:30:24,559
Speaker 5: be fighting.

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01:30:24,600 --> 01:30:28,360
Speaker 3: Bruh. Just don't do well. Go and support them.

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Speaker 2: All of their links are in this bio so you

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01:30:30,520 --> 01:30:31,880
Speaker 2: can go and check them out and check out the

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01:30:31,920 --> 01:30:32,479
Speaker 2: hell of good pod.

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Speaker 3: You gotta have us on some time.

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