1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,280 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, We got it for you. Here. 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:06,920 Speaker 1: It is Rowberry Lenna. All right, thank your nephew. Subject 3 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:11,399 Speaker 1: my husband's behavior is bugging me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I 4 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: have a problem that's bugging me. My husband has always 5 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:18,279 Speaker 1: been attracted to big butts and a smile, and his 6 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:22,560 Speaker 1: girls before me were very ratchet. Recently, he's been telling 7 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:25,319 Speaker 1: me that he is taking odd jobs across town for 8 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: extra money. He's been a carpenter by trade. He is 9 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:31,800 Speaker 1: a carpenter by trade and a handyman on the side. 10 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 1: I haven't seen any of the extra money, so I 11 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: got suspicious. I know he likes the company of other women, 12 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: but I thought that was in his past. Well one evening, 13 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: when I was lying in bed, I noticed a few 14 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: black spots on his pillow and along the top of 15 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:53,480 Speaker 1: our bed. I suspected further and realized. I inspected further 16 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: and realized they were bedbugs. I checked my body and 17 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: I noticed a few marks on my arm up by 18 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: my shoulders, and I went to the doctor and found 19 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 1: out that they were definitely bedbugs, but it wasn't a 20 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: bad case. I called my husband and asked him to 21 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 1: come straight home after work because I figured he brought 22 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: the bugs home. He came home and I noticed he 23 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: had the same pattern of red spots on his neck, 24 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: his shoulders, and down both arms. I told him that 25 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:26,479 Speaker 1: they were bedbugs, and I accused him of bringing them 26 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:29,679 Speaker 1: into the house. He told me they may have come 27 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,639 Speaker 1: from one of the houses where he did some plumbing work. 28 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: I didn't believe him, so the next night I followed him. 29 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: He drove straight to the ghetto, parked his truck, and 30 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: went inside an apartment without knocking. I knew then that 31 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: he was spending time with a nasty female and he 32 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: must have brought her bed bedbugs home with him. I 33 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: texted him and told him I was onto him, and 34 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: he didn't respond. Now he's ignoring me because I've asked 35 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: him to leave his clothes outside when he comes home. 36 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: He swears he's just doing a little extra work to 37 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: make ends meet. I'm tempted to keep snooping because I 38 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: think he's lying. What should I do? This is really 39 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: bugging me and I need answers. Please help. Well, I mean, 40 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: you know, if you're tempted to keep snooping, you know 41 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: what happens when you snoop. You find stuff. If you 42 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: think he's lying, If that's what your intuition is telling you, 43 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: you know you're probably gonna find something. But you know what, 44 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: I just I don't like what you've done here though. 45 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: I think you've made a sweeping generalization about the ghetto. 46 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:40,840 Speaker 1: I think it's stereotyping at its worse. You're saying, you know, 47 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: just because your husband went to the ghetto to do 48 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: some work, supposedly he brought home bedbugs and all in 49 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:49,360 Speaker 1: that about the nasty female. I just don't think you 50 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: should say that. I mean, really, come on with this one. 51 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: Who knows he probably is cheating, you know, since you 52 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: say he's doing my jobs. He went to this woman's house, 53 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: he went in without knocking, so there's some familiarity there. 54 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,920 Speaker 1: You haven't seen any money with these so called odd jobs, 55 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: so something is going on. It's definitely caused for a concern, 56 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: I'd say. But what really is a problem for me 57 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:19,399 Speaker 1: and all of this are these darned bad bugs. I mean, 58 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: it's making me it's just reading this letter. You you've 59 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: got to get rid of them, to do something to 60 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 1: get rid of them. And if you keep snooping and 61 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: find out that your husband's been cheating. Uh, you probably 62 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 1: need to get rid of him too, Steve. Well, you know, 63 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: it's a kind of crazy one on. I really don't 64 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: want to respond to this letter. Custom I really don't care, right, 65 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: you know, I got a problem that bug in me. 66 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: That's how she opened the letter. And then at the 67 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: end of the letter, this is really buging me and 68 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:59,839 Speaker 1: I need answer. Is you writing jokes? That's of course 69 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: sound to me like you wrote this letter trying to 70 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 1: be uh uh, you know clever. Now you're open up 71 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: your letter telling me how your husband being attracted to 72 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:13,480 Speaker 1: big butts and smiles and all these girls before me 73 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:19,039 Speaker 1: was very ratchet. Yeah, okay, I'm assumed that you have 74 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: a small butt now, and I'm I'm gonna assume that 75 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: you bullshy. So you're a little booty woman, that's bullshy. 76 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: He liked the big butt girls, that's ratchet. All his 77 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: girl's been up till he got you. Now, he had 78 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,239 Speaker 1: then told you he had started taking our jobs across 79 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:43,880 Speaker 1: town for extra money because he's a carpet and a handyman. 80 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: But you ain't seeing none of the extra money, so 81 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 1: I got suspicious. Then you're saying the letter that you 82 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: know he likes the company of other women. Why are 83 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: y'all married. You're married to a man who you said 84 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:02,599 Speaker 1: likes big butts and ra at it you. I'm assuming 85 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,119 Speaker 1: the way you wrote this letter have a small butt 86 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:10,839 Speaker 1: and it's bushie. Then you said, you know he likes 87 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:16,039 Speaker 1: the company of other women, meaning other than you, So 88 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: you're never surprised throughout this letter. It's what throws me off, 89 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 1: you know, But you thought it was in his past. 90 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,039 Speaker 1: Then you was laying in a bed and noticed some 91 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: black spots on his pillow and along the top our bed. 92 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: I ain't I have never seen a bad bug, but 93 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:37,159 Speaker 1: I didn't know they were black spots. I thought that 94 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:40,039 Speaker 1: you made leeching ticks. I don't know what you got 95 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 1: in your bed, but they bad bugs. And you checked 96 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 1: your body and you notice these marks and everything. You 97 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 1: went to the doctor. He said, they definitely bad bugs. 98 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: But it wasn't a bad case. What is a what 99 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: is a good case of Yeah, how don't you have it? 100 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:01,720 Speaker 1: Ain't a bad case. What's a good case of animals 101 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:06,920 Speaker 1: in your baby? Yeah? Because that was just on your 102 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: neck and shoulders, that's all right. Now, they were down 103 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:12,920 Speaker 1: that by your booty, which you can't take no bood 104 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 1: bikes on your booty, according to your letter, cause you 105 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 1: have such a small one little body, little booty. Yeah yeah, yeah, 106 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: this late and got a husband and like big busts 107 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 1: and ratchet women. All his women before you was big 108 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: booty and ratchet. Now all of a sudden he got you. 109 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: I'm assuming, do the letter, you got a small booty 110 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: and your budget. Well, then you told us that you 111 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 1: know that your husband, being a carpeter, was trying to 112 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 1: make extra money, but he has a thing for other women. 113 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: He likes the company of other women. But you thought 114 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: that was in this path. Well, you know there's some 115 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: black spots on this pillar on top of the bed. 116 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 1: You realize that they was bid bulls. Yeah yeah, yeah, 117 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: And then you check your body and notice you had 118 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: some marks on your arms and shoulders. Then you go 119 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 1: to some doctor and found out there was bid bucks. 120 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 1: But it wasn't a bad case. She's so calm, I 121 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: she's calmed through this whole letter. It wasn't a bad case. 122 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: Like I said before, what's a good case a bid bucks? Yeah, 123 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: because you know that you just had them on your 124 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 1: neck and shoulders. So you're assuming that this is a 125 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 1: bad case. You say it wasn't a bad case, So 126 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: let's move on. He came home, and you know, you 127 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: figured that he bought the bid bucks home. He came 128 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: home and you noticed that he had the same pattern 129 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:43,280 Speaker 1: of red spots on his neck, his shoulders and down 130 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: both his arms. I told him they was bad bucks. 131 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: And then you accused him of bringing them into the house. Well, 132 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:53,480 Speaker 1: you don't know how they got there, but since you 133 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: accused him, he told you could be from one of 134 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 1: the houses he was working for he did some plumbing work. 135 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: Because I don't know about you, but most plumbing ain't 136 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: by the bed. You know, hard to find bad bugs 137 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: under the sink. I don't know. I don't know. Maybe 138 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 1: they can be they can be in furniture home. I 139 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: didn't believe him, so the next night I followed him. 140 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 1: He drove straight to the ghetto, parked his truck, and 141 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: went inside an apartment without knocking. Ghetto. I knew then 142 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:34,960 Speaker 1: that he was spending time with a nasty female and 143 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:38,959 Speaker 1: he must have bought her bed bugs home with him. 144 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:41,079 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out who this woman is that 145 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: watches him. Man go in a dog without knocking and 146 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:50,560 Speaker 1: don't go in behind him. I'm assuming something else. I'm 147 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:52,959 Speaker 1: assuming that, first of all, you have a little but 148 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:57,560 Speaker 1: I'm assuming that you are bushy, and I'm assuming that 149 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: you scared you. Is this a black woman writing this letter? Ghetto? 150 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 1: You follow your man to the ghetto. Watch him go 151 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 1: in the house. He don't even knock on the door, 152 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 1: and you're sitting in the truck. What you're doing? You 153 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: know the hell that would break loose in that house? Boy? 154 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 1: I said so. Anyway, I knew then he was spending 155 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 1: time with a nasty female and he must have bought 156 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 1: her bed bugs home with him. So now here's what 157 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:34,680 Speaker 1: she did. I text him and told him I was 158 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:42,120 Speaker 1: on to him, and he didn't respond. Girl, did didn't 159 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: you just say he'd be doing plumbing work? Now? Hearing 160 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:53,319 Speaker 1: that plumbing? How is he gonna text you? Why he plumbing? Piping? 161 00:09:54,200 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: Hearing that piping all up under your sink? Fix seeing 162 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:04,920 Speaker 1: what's wrong? He piping and plumbing? He ain't got time 163 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: to text you back. I'm starting to think this is 164 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:11,319 Speaker 1: not a black woman in this letter. Right now. I 165 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: text him, told him I was on to him, and 166 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 1: he didn't respond. Now he ignored me because I didn't 167 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: ask him to leave his clothes outside when he come home. Wait, women, 168 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 1: hold you watch the man. Wait wait, wait, you watch 169 00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 1: your man go into the house of what you say 170 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 1: is another woman, without without knocking, without knocking, go in 171 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 1: the house. You text him, he don't text you back. 172 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: When he come home. You tell him to leave his 173 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: clothes outside. Leave your clothes outside. You right, They're gonna 174 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 1: have so many bullet holes in him. My wife is 175 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:55,839 Speaker 1: shooting the bed bugs off for me. He swears he 176 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: just doing a little extra work to make ends meet. 177 00:10:58,840 --> 00:11:01,719 Speaker 1: I'm tempted to keep snooping. Oh yeah, that's what you 178 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 1: need to do. Find out some mote. See if that's 179 00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: the only house he going over to the ghetto to 180 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:12,040 Speaker 1: get it? Because I think he's lying. What should I do? 181 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 1: This is really bugging me and I need answer. Lady, 182 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:19,959 Speaker 1: you didn't followed him. He drove you to somebody's house, 183 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:24,720 Speaker 1: went in without knocking. Nah, this could be an old customer. 184 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,199 Speaker 1: Maybe somebody left the dope and told him do the 185 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 1: piping while they was at work. What you want to 186 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 1: find to see? You don't want to believe, no, but see, 187 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:35,680 Speaker 1: your problem is, don't nothing upset you? You got bad bugs. 188 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: That wasn't bad. He liked other women. I thought that 189 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 1: was in the past. He like a ratchet women with 190 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: big behinds. I got a small booty, and I'm bullshit. 191 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: She did not say that. That's what she might as 192 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: well say. You drove to the ghetto, you stay in 193 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 1: the suburb, you down, you all down in ghetto and 194 00:11:57,160 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 1: get your ass whoop. All right, some more people's houses, yeah. Listen. 195 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey 196 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:13,560 Speaker 1: FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry 197 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: Letter podcast on demand. You're listening to the Steve Harvey 198 00:12:17,600 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: Morning Show.