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Speaker 1: First Day to follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com. Damon is on the

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Speaker 1: phone today for our first Day follow up and he's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by a woman named Elena. So in a

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Speaker 1: few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll tell

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Speaker 1: us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a

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Speaker 1: second date. But first, Damon, how long has it been

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Speaker 1: since you heard from Elena?

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Speaker 2: It's been three or four days now.

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Speaker 3: I mean, she isn't a crazy amount of time, but

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Speaker 3: you know, it just feels weird, like, you know, we

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Speaker 3: had a great time connected like so I don't know,

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Speaker 3: I mean, I could be being crazy, you know.

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Speaker 1: Three days Okay, well we'll find out where you tell

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Speaker 1: us a little bit about the date.

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Speaker 4: So we went to this place called and they make

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Speaker 4: like these really cool mixed drinks like us.

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Speaker 5: I couldn't even honestly, I couldn't really choose between the two.

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Speaker 5: There was this one that was called the Smoked Gentleman

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Speaker 5: Bourbons in like a tiny dome glass and smoke comes

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Speaker 5: up and stuff.

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Speaker 1: Drink you're talking about that's cool?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, this was my best idea for the day

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Speaker 4: to be honest, it is like something a little different.

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Speaker 2: Than yeah something it's experience, right. Yeah, there's another one

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Speaker 2: called Lavender Lover. It's like a purple drink.

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Speaker 1: That comes looking like a flower. So I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't.

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Speaker 5: Decide, so I just got bole of them, okay, and

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Speaker 5: then Lavender Lover and the other drink as well.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we make fun of it.

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Speaker 4: But anyway, we uh, honestly, it was like smooth, like quick,

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Speaker 4: like exciting conversation for what was euly hours you know. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: like it's like it's really confusing for me at the moment,

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Speaker 4: to be honest, you know, it's just like touching my

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Speaker 4: arm and like laughing, like a little bit more than

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Speaker 2: And yeah, I felt like she was really into meate.

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Speaker 1: So then what happened?

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Speaker 2: She invited me home?

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Speaker 1: Whoa her place? Yeah, you know she will come over,

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Speaker 5: Know, but she was like, okay, do you want to come,

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Speaker 1: Like okay, and did you do it?

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Speaker 2: We did stuff for sure?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I was just mean did you go over there?

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Speaker 1: As another question? Anyway, So we got there and so

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Speaker 1: stuff happened. Uh uh did go over there? And stuff

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Speaker 2: Stuff did happen. My assumption was, you know, not incorrect.

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Speaker 2: The reason I think that she's ghosting me is I.

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Speaker 4: Might have taken like a weird photo while she was

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Speaker 4: in the bathroom before I left me and her dad.

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Speaker 1: Wait, you kind of faded on that one. Gosh, say

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Speaker 5: I sent her a photo of me in her bed

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Speaker 5: while she's in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Next morning, her dad know her, and of him in

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Speaker 1: her bed.

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Speaker 2: I heard her dad.

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Speaker 1: I was like, whoa send her a picture of you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so when did you send that photo while she

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Speaker 4: It was like the next morning she was in the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm luck yet, Okay? And did she seem weird

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Speaker 2: I wasn't doing anything all that weird.

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Speaker 1: No, you did not say that confidently. Did you say

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Speaker 1: anything with the picture? You just sent a picture of

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Speaker 2: I did say something. I said, like, you know, some

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Speaker 2: of the time, it's till next time we can emerge.

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Speaker 1: You okay, all right, Well, we'll see what we can

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Speaker 1: figure it out for you. We'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 1: and then call her and see if she'll tell us

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Speaker 1: why she's ghosting you and maybe get you a second date. Okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you, all right, we'll get your first day follow

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Speaker 1: up next. Right in the middle of your first day

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Speaker 1: follow up, if you're just joining us, that Damon is

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Speaker 1: on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Elena. So

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Speaker 1: second date. But before we do that, Damon, why don't

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Speaker 1: you break down your day again for us real quick.

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Speaker 2: So we went to this cool like bar lounge thing.

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Speaker 5: We had these like dope drinks that were you know,

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Speaker 2: And you know, we're vibing. She was touching me, she

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Speaker 2: was laughing harder at my jokes, und deserved, you know,

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Speaker 1: To for being intimate, and and now she hasn't and

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, well too, yeah and.

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Speaker 2: Left to get it, and now she hasn't responded for.

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Speaker 1: Over for this because you sent her a weird picture

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Speaker 2: Ye and there was a caption there on the photo.

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Speaker 2: I think that this is all we need to say,

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Speaker 2: right why not? We're people missing it. I said something

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Speaker 1: Confidence right now is sounding like that could be a

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Speaker 1: problem here too, But that's all right, we'll figure it out. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right? Are you ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Hello, I may I speak

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Speaker 1: to Elena? Please?

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Speaker 2: Hi? Yeah, I'm Elena.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Elena, how are you. This is a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jebel Show. Hi, Elena, I'm Nina. Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm Victoria and my name is Jebel. What's up?

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Speaker 2: Hi? What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Much? Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? A couple of times actually.

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Speaker 1: Okay, sweet, Well, and we do a segment on the

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Speaker 1: show it's called the first Date follow Up. That's where

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Speaker 1: if you go out on a date with somebody and

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Speaker 1: you end up ghosting them, they can email us to

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Speaker 1: get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting.

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Speaker 1: And we got an email about you from somebody. That's

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, all right, Yeah, what's going on in the idea?

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Speaker 1: Who would email us.

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Speaker 2: I have a guess I did go on a date

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Speaker 2: a few days ago.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, And are you still talking to him or

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Speaker 1: have you stopped talking to them?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: I did ghost Okay, chances are it's probably Damon that's

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Speaker 1: who emailed us about why you're ghosting Damon, he's really curious.

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Speaker 2: Well, he like he didn't pass the test, like a

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Speaker 1: What is the gentleman test?

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Speaker 6: Well, so, like, first off, so we went to this

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Speaker 2: And then I invited him over to my place after

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Speaker 2: definitely didn't. What did he do is zero too. He

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, Okay, so that was all a test, like

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Speaker 1: you didn't want him, you wanted to come over to

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Speaker 2: Right, he's supposed to have like self control and like

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Speaker 2: he can show me like he respects me and whatever,

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Speaker 2: And instead he was like, oh, passo, collected zero respect points.

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Speaker 2: I wait what you literally told me to kiss you?

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Speaker 1: Hey, Elena, that's Damon. He's actually on the line. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and he's been listening wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow. I should have guessed that.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Hi Damon, hi o, Hi wow?

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Speaker 3: What is like?

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Speaker 2: This is a really out of left field here? Well,

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Speaker 2: like you are supposed to coump the brakes, like he

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Speaker 5: A beautiful, funny chick that invited me back to our

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Speaker 2: We had great chemistry on the date. Like I'm supposed

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Speaker 2: to not do anything about that exactly, Like that's the assignment.

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Speaker 2: I say, kiss me, and you'd be a gentleman.

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Speaker 1: So that's the test, Elena, is to just keep putting

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, yes, he's got to like show he has some

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Speaker 2: pass if I don't know there's a test, Well, that's

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Speaker 2: the thing, Like the right guy would have known. I'm

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Speaker 2: not just looking for a hook up, Like I am serious,

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Speaker 2: who's supposed to know that one? Like when you're the

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Speaker 2: one initiating the contract, I don't get it. But like

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking long term here, Like there's plenty of time

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Speaker 2: we can show some restraint and that wasn't you obviously, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: my bad.

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Speaker 5: I'm just I'm acting crazy, like you told me to

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Speaker 2: I should have been stop you, I guess, well, like

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Speaker 2: that's ittty incredible. Chemistry is super easy and we had that,

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Speaker 2: but self control is not easy, like life is hard. Damon,

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Speaker 2: are you projecting right now? Are you talking about self control?

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Speaker 2: When you were the one that told me to kiss you, Well,

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Speaker 2: like you let me go like all the way, like right,

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Speaker 2: like we started with the kiss and you didn't stop

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Speaker 2: me there, and you didn't stop me all the wait

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Speaker 2: until the ends of the test when we were in

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Speaker 2: bad I mean, I'm definitely not gonna stop you after

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Speaker 1: Wait, just real quick, Alena, take me to the spot

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Speaker 1: where you know that he's about to fail the test

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Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, like we did have great chemistry. He's

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Speaker 2: not wrong about that. And like Damian, obviously you know,

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Speaker 2: like I'm attracted to you. You're very attractive, So like

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Speaker 2: I wasn't gonna.

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Speaker 1: Say no, but you want to do what you didn't

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Speaker 2: I mean, of course, like, isn't that life. I know that,

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Speaker 2: like I wanted to. We had fun in the moment,

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Speaker 2: it was great, but now I know that he's not

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Speaker 2: the one for me because if he was the one.

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Speaker 1: For me, would you would have stopped himself? So this

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Speaker 1: was a win win for you.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry everyone, if I might like am I is

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Speaker 5: this like a like a coordinated prank show thing.

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Speaker 2: This is just obviously like why you're still single? Like

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Speaker 2: you would have figured this out if you really liked me.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, man, I'm like, really, I'm not any closer to

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Speaker 5: understanding Gunnis.

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Speaker 1: Well, Elena, would you like another date with Damon? We'll

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Speaker 1: pay for it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we can go on a second date.

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Speaker 1: You do want a second date, you do want to

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Speaker 1: go out with me again, but you don't want to

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Speaker 1: date me.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, we can. We can go out again,

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Speaker 2: Like we can hook up one more time, Like it

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Speaker 2: was great. You didn't pass the tizer though, Like it

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Speaker 2: can't go beyond that. Okay, Yeah, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, you're okay. I think that's a successful.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: First they involved and congratulates Zamon. You get at least

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Speaker 1: one more time to do stuff, all right, thank Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Juble's first date follow up