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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships dating, you must have read it already. Junior,

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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. All right, Papa,

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Speaker 1: I ain't hurt yet. I'm ready here. Let's buckle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tyke, let's go Strawberry letter, all right? Subject

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Speaker 1: not during Black History Month, okay. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: a thirty one year old Republican Black man and I

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Speaker 1: can't find a woman to call my own. I have

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Speaker 1: dated all kinds of women, but I can't get a

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Speaker 1: the first time, I've had sex with black women and

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Speaker 1: they told me that I am disturbed and need help.

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Speaker 1: I've had sex with white and Mexican women and they

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Speaker 1: said they're very uncomfortable during sex. They all complain and

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Speaker 1: say I'm a sicko because I enjoy being treated like

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Speaker 1: a slave in bed. I like to be hit, spit on,

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Speaker 1: and call the inWORD and other foul names. The more

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Speaker 1: insulting it is, the better. It's impossible for me to

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Speaker 1: finish the sexual encounter once I tell them what I

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Speaker 1: want them to do. I am not ashamed of how

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Speaker 1: kinky I am, so it shouldn't be a big deal

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Speaker 1: for the women. There are far worse things I could

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Speaker 1: be into, and I'm a one woman man that works

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Speaker 1: hard and has strong values. I just want a woman

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Speaker 1: that can match me in the bedroom. I'm writing you

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Speaker 1: for advice because last week I offended a woman that

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Speaker 1: I really voted with and I could see myself having

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Speaker 1: a future with her. I tried to have normal sex

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Speaker 1: with her, but it was too boring, so midway through it,

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Speaker 1: I told her what I needed her to do to

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Speaker 1: help me in the move, keep me in the move.

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Speaker 1: She started screaming at me and told me I was

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Speaker 1: being disrespectful because it's Black History Month. She left my

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Speaker 1: house half dressed, and since then she hasn't answered any

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Speaker 1: of my texas or called. She has got to be

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Speaker 1: in There's got to be an open minded woman somewhere

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Speaker 1: out there. Should I give up something I enjoy or

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Speaker 1: hold out for the right woman. I need your honest advice,

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Speaker 1: you sicko. Okay, the lady was right. Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: come on now, slavery is over. This is not fun

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Speaker 1: to anyone. This is not sexy to anyone to do

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Speaker 1: in the bedroom. No one is going to sign up

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Speaker 1: for this. That's why they keep running away and never

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Speaker 1: answer your calls. I mean, no matter what race or

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Speaker 1: creed or color you are, and you say you've been

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Speaker 1: with all of them, they all feel the same way.

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Speaker 1: Either they're not gonna like it, they think you're a sicko,

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Speaker 1: or or they're going to be very uncomfortable. And this

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Speaker 1: is supposed to be a sexy, sensual, fun time in

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Speaker 1: the bedroom. Yeah. Again, nothing sexy about slavery calling you

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Speaker 1: the INN word? What what with you? You like to

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Speaker 1: you like to be hit, spit on and call the

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Speaker 1: N word? And I mean no, no, any respectable woman

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Speaker 1: uh is not going to go there with you. I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna tell you that. I mean, you know, pick

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Speaker 1: something else, slavery. It's not gonna do it for you.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, You're I just say, you know, you gotta

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Speaker 1: stop this, Okay, I don't know if you'll ever find

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Speaker 1: I just don't. This is over. It's a very painful

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Speaker 1: time in our history. And again this is Black History Month.

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Speaker 1: That one was right, you're disturbed. Something's wrong with you,

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Speaker 1: Steve Well Gods, let's just start what this letter need?

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Speaker 1: Just start? Okay. I'm a thirty one year old Republican

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Speaker 1: black man. That's the part of your damn problem right here. See,

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Speaker 1: right now, we all to a bad start as we

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Speaker 1: speak in this letter. That for you got whatever you

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Speaker 1: got coming in this letter, you bought it on yourself.

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Speaker 1: He was, I can't find a woman to call my own.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna go back to that in a minute. Can't

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Speaker 1: very important information because you can't get nobody to stay

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Speaker 1: Now I'm thinking this guy I must be all right

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Speaker 1: because he didn't has sexual to everybody black women. They

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Speaker 1: told me that you disturbed and I need him. I

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Speaker 1: that very uncomfortable doing sex So what it means is

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Speaker 1: because he's able to get a plethora of women. Right now,

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Speaker 1: everybody complaining because I'm a sicko, because I enjoyed being

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Speaker 1: to you? So now he describes it. Yeah, I want

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Speaker 1: you to spit on me. Oh, I want you to

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Speaker 1: beat me, and I want you to call me to

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Speaker 1: end word. I wish you would. It's crazy you won't

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Speaker 1: that you won't a woman to spit on you back.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, Wow, I'm having trouble with this. So when

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Speaker 1: we come back, I'm gonna tell you the real problem

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Speaker 1: you're going to hear during Black History Month. All right, listen,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna have part two of Steve's response coming up

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Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the hour, subject of today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter, not during Black History Month. Okay, we've back

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Speaker 1: Happy Valentine's Day. All right, we get Steve, we have

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Speaker 1: to recap today's strawberry letter is crazy and got to

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Speaker 1: recap this this stupid letter. It's crazy and ignorant as

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Speaker 1: this letter is tell thirty one year old Republican black

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Speaker 1: man can't frying a woman to all his own now.

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Speaker 1: He say that after the first time they have sex,

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Speaker 1: they don't want to get back with him because they

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Speaker 1: tell him he's sick, he's disturbed, and he needs help,

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Speaker 1: and he didn't have sexual White women, Mexican women, black women.

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Speaker 1: They all get uncomfortable doing sex. Why are they uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: because this fool won't to be bick to spit on

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Speaker 1: and call the ndword. Boy, I hadn't heard it all.

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Speaker 1: And the more insulting it is, the bet it is.

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Speaker 1: It's impossible for me to finish the sexual encounter once

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Speaker 1: I tell him what I want them to do. I'm

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Speaker 1: not ashamed of how kink I am, so it shouldn't

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Speaker 1: be a big deal for the women. Let's stop right here. See,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you what you having dog In case

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Speaker 1: you ain't wondered about this, This ain't kinky. Have you

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Speaker 1: ever thought that most women don't want to have sex

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Speaker 1: with a slave? See, and you opened the letter with

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Speaker 1: a hit, I can't find a woman to call my own. Oh,

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Speaker 1: you wants to own somebody. See that's your damn problem

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Speaker 1: right now. Women ain't enter that. Ever, you're not gonna

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Speaker 1: own them, and they want to own you, but not

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Speaker 1: as a slave. Nobody signing that you didn't scared the

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Speaker 1: little white girl you and that getting it then just

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Speaker 1: spit on me, call me in word, Come on it

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Speaker 1: louder sad like you me whip me when that strapped

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Speaker 1: across my back? Take cabsman, now, I want you, I

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Speaker 1: want it from you. Come on, white whip smian like

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Speaker 1: I went that. You You know I ain't got no

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Speaker 1: business with no white woman. Whooped me, spit on my back,

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Speaker 1: make them cutch bird? What spit on my back? When

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Speaker 1: you make the cutch bird? Not like that? Man, I'm

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Speaker 1: goals in here. Whi you waiting? Wise? We having sex?

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Speaker 1: Let me go in here and make you a plea.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever heard of anything like this? Nothing? Here's

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Speaker 1: the problem. Here's the problem. What woman meets a man

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Speaker 1: and go how you doing? Uh? No, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to date you YouTube rich. I'm looking for somebody, very

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Speaker 1: very poe. So you working huh and they pay you?

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Speaker 1: You accept money for working. I'm looking for something else.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me. It's just not the way women are now.

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Speaker 1: What's really uncomfortable is if you come into bed as

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Speaker 1: a sleeve. What is you got this chain around your nickles?

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Speaker 1: If you don't take them down, burn up draws. Also,

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Speaker 1: we can lay up him trousers. It's cutting me. What

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Speaker 1: is you saying him's fault? It's just and it's black.

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Speaker 1: It's just things you gotta do. So let me ask

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Speaker 1: how to Okay, Shirley, it's the best way we can

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Speaker 1: do it. Just ask me any kind of questions you wanted.

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Speaker 1: That's kind kind of sexy, not sexual, But just ask

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Speaker 1: up to what I'm out. Oh, you smell really good.

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Speaker 1: What kind of cologne are you wearing? I smell good?

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Speaker 1: Oh girl, I got to go in here and starts

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Speaker 1: thinking I can't be smelling good what we've been to do? Wow,

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Speaker 1: I'm getting kind of thirsty with all this activity. Um,

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Speaker 1: We don't get water to Ennemony eight o'clock would massive

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Speaker 1: really getting a little hungry. Oh, I ain't no problem,

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Speaker 1: got plenty of chittes. Oh god, all right, we gotta

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Speaker 1: again in life. Go where we can't go nowhere. This

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Speaker 1: is where we live. Dolls is locked. Take them chains

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