WEBVTT - Am I overthinking this? 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:04.720 I think that this country, this culture, this age, this 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:07.680 generation me included all of us. I think we have 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:12.960 a problem with being content. I see different cultures that 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:17.640 don't have this problem, and different generations. Our grandparents didn't 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:32.320 seem to have this problem. Bernie Calco back on the podcast. Yes, 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:34.920 thanks today, Thank you for having me back. Man, dude, 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:37.240 I was thinking about it. You're such a busy guy. 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:42.320 You have all of these companies, you run construction businesses 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:47.440 and design businesses, and then you live, depending on traffic, 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:51.040 at least forty five minutes away from here. I work 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:53.520 forty five minutes from here, so our office forty five minutes. 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:56.560 I live another twenty minutes away from that the other 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:00.920 way from here. So what so, So two questions. One first, 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:04.320 we'll start with gratefulness. Thank you for coming this far 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:07.360 for this podcast. I know the listeners love it when 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:11.280 you're here. And and then what do you do on 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:13.800 the trip? I mean you have to you come so often, 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:18.559 you must have some kind of routine. Well, let me say, 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:22.679 appreciate you having me. It's it's a privilege for me, 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:27.000 and it's just fun, like it's good to catch up 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:31.200 with you and to you know, chop up some of 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:35.040 these questions and you know, let the the rest of 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:36.839 the internet kind of hear what we have to say. 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:40.040 Is there a specific routine you do in the way 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:42.480 or do you just I actually usually come in with 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:44.760 like a drink, you don't have it today? Yeah, No, 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:48.720 I listened to the Graingersmith podcast like a good way 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:51.720 to like just start, So the one that that you 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:54.040 and chat did last week. I listened to that one 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:58.880 on the way up today. But I don't know if 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:03.840 there's a specific fig routine I do. Like you said, 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:09.959 we don't prepare for this in a typical way of like, yeah, hey, 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:13.959 here's this, here's the plan. But I think we both 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:16.760 and I would say Chad and Parker and Ahbur are 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:21.080 like we prepare for this every morning, right, Like we 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:24.440 we just have time of just stillness and to listen 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:30.480 and to reflect and to pray. Hey God, whatever question 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:33.120 is thrown at us, like give us the words, give 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:36.239 us the tools that will be benefits a podcast or not. Right, 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:40.400 So yeah, that kind of like prepares us for this 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.400 in some way. So I do a little bit of 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:44.680 that if I haven't caught up on some you know, 0:02:44.760 --> 0:02:49.240 podcasts or listen to music but yeah, it's about it. Man, 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:50.959 you usually have a drink with you? What is it, 0:02:51.040 --> 0:02:55.240 like sonic or something? What is a drink you usually have? Oh, 0:02:55.280 --> 0:02:58.280 it's a Chick fil A, but it's ice water. I 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:00.440 go to Chick fil A and get a large ice 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:02.200 water cup and I carry it around all the time. 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:04.720 It's at my office. I forgot it. So why do 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:06.440 you go to Chick fil A to get ice water? 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:14.959 I don't know. It's better. Okay, the ice is awesome. No, 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:19.160 sonic ice is awesome. I'll give him that. But I 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.079 don't know. When you have kids and you live near 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:23.560 Chick fil A, it's like you just go to Chick 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:25.800 fil A. That's kind of what you do. And I 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.040 just get a large Chick fil A ice water. It 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:31.720 makes sense, well, regardless of how you get here and 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:34.040 why you come here. I just want everyone to know 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:36.040 that Bernie travels a long way and he's a very 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:38.000 busy guy, so it means a lot that he comes 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:41.200 all the way from South Austin way up to North 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:45.040 Austin and everything in between to do this. This podcast 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:50.119 is basically me and Bernie sitting around with you as 0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:53.880 if we're around a campfire and we're gonna answer your questions. 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:56.600 If you're new to this podcast, you email Grangersmith podcast 0:03:56.640 --> 0:03:59.440 at gmail dot com. Will answer anything you have, could 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:02.160 be about any subject. We're gonna dive into it right now. 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:05.920 Can I add one more person to the campfire? Yeah, 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:11.000 because we've said before that it's you and me and 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:15.360 this person. Yeah right, yeah. But like I said, I 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:17.960 try to stay off the comments on YouTube whenever I'm 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:23.680 on here, Just Here Go and sanity. Yeah, but I 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:27.880 was reading and there's I think that the listeners are 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:31.080 the fourth person. O good because in the comments section 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:33.720 there's a lot of like really good stuff that they say. 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:37.760 So we're inviting you into the campfire. I loved reading 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:40.279 some of the comments from the podcast last week about 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:43.400 what they thought about this subject or that. So yeah, 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:47.080 that's fourth person. So our uh based on the listener. 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:51.120 But I think the last I checked, the largest audience 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:56.040 of this podcast is listening on the Apple podcast app. Okay, 0:04:56.960 --> 0:05:03.400 and that's about five times what's listening on YouTube. The Yeah, 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:08.480 the Spotify is pretty high as well, So so shout 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:10.800 out to Spotify, Shout shout out to Apple Podcasts, Shout 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:13.640 out to our YouTube listeners. I don't. I know there's more. 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.799 I can't think of other ways that people are listening. 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:19.159 But but I guess I'm saying that because not everyone 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:23.960 could keep comment, but YouTube can. That's I didn't know interesting, right, 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.880 I didn't know that there were that many people on 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:30.440 the other platforms listening. Yeah. Wow, So we're gonna start 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:34.480 with an easy one. Okay. It says advice on learning guitar, Bernie. 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:36.200 I feel like we we get this a lot, and 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:39.800 I'll just keep answering it because as as it comes in, 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:42.000 I think it's important. It says, Hey, Grander, my name 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.760 is Ashton, I'm fifteen years old. I'm wondering what advice 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:47.000 would you get for someone who wants to learn guitar? 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:52.160 Thank you God bless Ashton Peck Class of twenty twenty four. 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:58.400 So how did you learn guitar? This was back in 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:02.560 the day for the internet. I went to Sears and 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:06.200 I got their catalog. Okay, like sounds like this is 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:11.960 coming out of nineteen fifty what I'm actually one hundred 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:17.720 and thirty two years old. I went to Sears, went 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:22.599 to the catalog, and I went and paid the money, 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:25.240 and then I waited like six to eight weeks for 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:27.760 that little guitar to come in, and in the magazine 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:32.200 it looks like this, like awesome guitar, right yeah, And 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.320 it comes in and it's like this big. It's like 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:38.880 a ty I have no idea. No, I don't have it. 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:46.280 Oh no, no, sold I started. I really wanted to play, 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:48.400 and my mom basically said, well, if you really want 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:51.039 to play, you'll learn on that one, and then once 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:54.320 you show me like that you're into this thing, then 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:57.560 we'll get you like another one. And so I had 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:01.760 to play that little thing and it was terrible, and 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:04.200 so I don't I didn't have a teacher. I didn't 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.440 I would like ask a buddy, like, hey, I would 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.520 get some chord charts and just start with putting my 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:15.160 hands on the chords and strumming, practicing strum patterns. But 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:18.760 that's how I got my first guitar the world. That's 0:07:18.760 --> 0:07:21.600 I'm guessing you have a story. I'm guessing you have 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:25.320 a very different story. Well, I mean I didn't go 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:28.640 to series and wait six weeks. I mean that sounded 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:33.200 like Grandpa's story, but it happened. But my story isn't 0:07:33.320 --> 0:07:35.360 that different. I just didn't go by it. It was 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:39.480 when I knew I wanted to play because I saw 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:42.080 other friends in junior high that were playing, and they 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:47.040 always the girls loved those guys that always. I was like, man, 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:50.000 those guys, the girls loved those guys. And so I 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.080 was fourteen when it just I was like, I have 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:55.200 to learn, because I thought, if I'm fourteen and I 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:57.360 learned now, and I and give me about three or 0:07:57.400 --> 0:08:00.480 four years, I'll be junior senior in high schooling around 0:08:00.480 --> 0:08:03.280 some campfire playing guitar, and like everyone would be looking 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:05.360 at me. That's what I was thinking as a fourteen, 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:07.480 that nobody looked at me when I was fourteen, So 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:10.760 I thought that would be awesome. So there was one 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:12.640 in my in the closet of my house that my 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:15.840 grandmother had given up on. So it's like this old guitar. 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.560 It's actually in the room next door, but it was 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:21.840 in the case and it had a little book in 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:24.680 there that said where to put your fingers. So I 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:27.480 just opened the book was under the guitar. It was 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:31.280 like all predestined for me or something that's like that. 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:38.000 But for asking, that's not really answering your question, because 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.840 you're not going to just go to seers or open 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:45.240 up your closet and get grandma's guitar. Is his question. 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:47.600 How do you get the guitar? I think it's or 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:50.400 how do you start? Like he says, what's your advice 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.079 to someone who wants to learn? So first you got 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:55.120 to get one, got to get one, and they're everywhere now, 0:08:55.240 --> 0:09:02.440 I mean pawnshops, they're everywhere. I wouldn't spend for you, 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:05.840 for brand new. This is what I would do right now. 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:10.800 I wouldn't spend anything over a buck fifty. I wouldn't 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.760 go over one hundred and fifty bucks. You could easily 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:15.520 go to Guitar Center and they're going to talk you 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:17.679 into the three one hundred and seventy five dollars to 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:21.120 four hundred dollar guitar. For sure. I would get a 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:24.440 cheap guitar and then take it to a mom and 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:30.520 pop guitar shop and say, hey, listen Ashton, tell them 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:34.000 lower the action and add some nylon strings. Yeah, that's 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:35.720 what I was gonna say. Nil on strings will definitely 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:37.960 help when your first get started. Yeah, getting the thing 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:40.520 set up right, Yeah, from a mom and pop shop 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:44.520 bead and they might look at you like what, but 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:46.720 just say no. I learned it on the Grander Smith podcast. 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:50.720 Put nylon strings on air. It's good for your fingers. 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:53.679 You're not gonna wear out your fingers. So and then 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:56.760 after that I would go to YouTube. Actually, Lincoln and 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.280 London have been learning instruments or trying to, and I've 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.400 been sending them to you to just say watch this, 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:04.720 so yeah, we don't have that. Find some of your 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:07.840 favorite songs and go to like, uh, man, what's the 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:11.320 app guitar, Ultimate Guitar or something like that, and you 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:15.400 can find Like that was when I kind of something 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.440 kind of shifted for me. Whenever I could play Tears 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:22.079 in Heaven, right, I could, I could hear these songs 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.959 and then I started like, Okay, I mean it's you 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:26.720 got to squint a little bit, you know, but it's 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:30.480 it's there. Yeah, that's a great point because you need 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:33.400 that motivation of fulfilling an idea in your head of 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:36.600 playing a song you love instead of Man, I've been 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:38.880 through six lessons and always doing is telling me the 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:45.120 frets and the string numbers and notes, and so you 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.120 could you don't want to hurt your fingers and you 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:50.240 don't want to get caught up in this mumbo jumbo 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:56.080 music jargon that get bored. So, yeah, he's fifteen. He's fifteen. Yeah, 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:59.880 that's a good age. Good move, dude, Yeah, you'll appreciate it. 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:04.560 Greater job, bro, Let's go on to one. It's called 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:09.280 life advice. Okay, says Hattie Granger and guest host. That 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:12.360 was kind of rude. Yeah. My name is Eric. I 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:15.720 live in the great state of Washington, Eastern Washington. That is, 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:18.720 I'm married. I'm a married man of six years the September. 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:25.080 I have three beautiful boys, Sawyer, Timber Wesley. That's great names. 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:27.480 I said. I'll try to make this as short as possible, 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:29.800 but I really need some advice. For seven years now, 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:32.480 I've worked at the same job and have slowly progressed 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:35.320 my way up in the company. I'm at the point 0:11:35.360 --> 0:11:38.080 where I've almost reached my climax within this company, and 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:41.360 I'm not happy and I don't want to settle. I 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:45.080 have other job operas and opportunities that I could take, 0:11:45.160 --> 0:11:47.600 but it just scares me starting all over and having 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:53.280 to feed for feed. Four months during the pandemic, I 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:55.600 was very fortunate to not be furloughed, which made me 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:57.640 feel grateful working here, but I don't want to be 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:02.560 content and continued to be unhappy at the same time. 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:05.880 Change is very scary for me. I have high hopes 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:09.040 and I hope that you have the right advice for me. 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:12.240 Love everything you're doing with your podcast. God bless you 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.360 and your family. Ye ye, ps, we'll see you in 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:22.920 August at the Waterford Fair. Awesome. Eric H. So we've 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:27.080 seen this before. This is this is a family man, 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:33.280 three kids, three boys, married for six years, in a job, 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.680 wondering if there's something else out there, wondering if there's 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:41.920 if the grass is greener, if there's if he's if there's, 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:45.400 if he's capable of more, feeling like he's capable of more? 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:48.840 What is there out there? What do you say this, dude? 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:51.720 We've been here, We've been there. Yeah, And I think 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:59.160 sometimes I think we can get we can dissect these 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:03.760 questions like down to the you know, very very minutia 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:08.079 of it. When really I think there's two things. If 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:12.440 if the guy's a believer, I think the process and 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:16.360 the outcome may be very different, and maybe even the 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:21.840 advice of the advice would be different. But the way 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:26.800 that I tend to think to approach things is you 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:30.439 may call me wrong, but you'll never call me indecisive. 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:35.560 So I tend to take this stance of I'm going 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:38.000 to pray about this. I'm going to spend some time 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:41.000 in the stillness and think, like, God, what direction do 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:43.040 you want me to go? I'm going to make a decision. 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:47.319 And when you got kids in a family, there's definitely 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:48.880 like input from your wife and you have to be 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:51.800 on the same page. But man, when people just kind 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.960 of linger in this like oh should we I want 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:58.800 to do? But I'm not happy here. Life's too short, dude, 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:01.520 make a decision and move on on. Yeah, And whether 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:04.880 that's like in your career, Hey, I made a decision. Man, 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:09.240 I'm here and I'm gonna like be here going all 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:12.520 in on this or I don't know what's next, but 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:15.280 I know that God's got me. I'm gonna make the 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:17.960 decision and we're going to go and it's an adventure. 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.240 It'll either way. It will be fun. You might call 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:22.800 me wrong, but you'll never call me indecisive. Yeah. I 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:24.920 love that. I don't think you can quote me on that. 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:27.560 I think I said that. You probably read it in 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.000 a book, but it's still is. I haven't heard it 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:34.400 before and it sounds awesome and it's great. It's great 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:36.720 motivation for Eric to say, hey, man, what kind of 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.920 man are you you? You got that's not afraid to 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:44.160 be wrong, that's more afraid to be indecisive than it 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:49.240 is to be wrong. And then on the flip side 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:52.040 of this whole thing, Eric, I think that's great advice 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:54.720 from Burns. From on the flip side of this whole thing, 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:59.560 I think that this country, this culture, this this age 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:03.000 that's just generation me included all of us. I think 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:09.760 we have a problem with being content. And I see 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:15.800 different cultures that don't have this problem, and different generations 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:20.520 our grandparents didn't seem to have this problem. Where do 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:25.480 you think the problem started or comes continues to perpetuate from. 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:29.760 Let me say, I don't exactly know. I mean, we 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.720 could talk it through. But the Mexican culture, for example, 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:38.560 seems to be a culture that's very content and that 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:46.080 contentment equals happiness. And I don't see, Man, I'm trying 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:47.680 to figure out how to say this the right way. 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:49.520 But I could just I could just be blunt about it. 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:51.840 But the guys that have built this house, there are 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:54.720 different cultures of men that have built this house. I've 0:15:54.760 --> 0:16:01.480 seen in the Mexican culture just they're always uplifting, they're 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:06.280 always in good spirits. They're always content, whether it's raining 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:10.560 or hot or cold, and I don't see complaining. But 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:16.840 there's other cultures. The white culture the number one that 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:20.920 they complain that it's always something wrong with the weather 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:25.200 or the time of day, it's too early, or something 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:28.600 is too hard. And I'm thinking in my mind that 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:32.360 it's a cultural thing because they're probably thinking, and I 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:34.600 hope I'm not offending anybody. I think I can because 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.080 I am that culture, But in my mind, they're thinking, man, 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:39.920 I should be the boss of this One day, I'm 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:42.640 going to be the boss of this organization and I'll 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:46.440 be running my hours here. And you don't see that 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:50.200 as much in other cultures that are just content with 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:55.000 working and content with what they're doing, and that equals 0:16:55.480 --> 0:17:00.280 so much more happiness. Now, it's a great point have 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:02.200 to kind of argue though that at the same time, 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:06.640 a guy like Eric, you know, that's in a lot 0:17:06.640 --> 0:17:10.680 of ways men like that advanced the culture because they 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:14.000 were not content. So where do you draw the line 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:16.760 between well, we need to we need to advance the 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:18.919 family and in advance the culture, but we also just 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:21.920 need to be content. Yeah, So if we go to 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.960 the Bible, though, it's going to say Paul says, I've 0:17:25.119 --> 0:17:29.480 learned to be content in any circumstance. So I think 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.600 that's where it goes back to, like getting into the 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:36.720 stillness and you know, like in James where it says, 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:38.639 don't say I'm gonna go here or there for a 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.119 year and do business, but instead like, if God wants 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:44.440 me to do this, this is what I'm gonna do. Yeah. 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:49.000 Sometimes I think we can take you know, our own 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:54.399 stance on things and our own desire and our own will, 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:58.560 and then that's what drives us, like, well, I want 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:02.639 that big house, and this job isn't given me the 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:05.240 means to get that big house. And say, what if 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:06.800 God doesn't want you to have that big house? Are 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:10.560 you content with the medium sized house that's probably bigger 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:13.800 than ninety eight percent of the houses in the free world? 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:17.239 Like yeah, how long how long was your dad a 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:21.280 police officer? Thirty years? So it's it. Don't you think 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:24.000 it's kind of rare that someone's like just retired from 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:28.960 the department how long thirty years? Or where'd you where'd 0:18:28.960 --> 0:18:31.160 your dad work he worked at the factory? How long? 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:35.600 Thirty eight years? That's rare, is Yeah. Today you would 0:18:35.600 --> 0:18:37.280 ask somebody and they would say, well, I work here 0:18:37.359 --> 0:18:40.640 for five and here for work for Dell Computer from seven. 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:45.199 So here's Eric. Yeah, that's a very interesting concept. I 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:47.680 think you're you're kind of hitting into something that's more 0:18:47.840 --> 0:18:52.880 like I think there's layers to that, like what advancement 0:18:53.000 --> 0:18:56.680 have we had in our society? And maybe it's Western, yeah, 0:18:56.680 --> 0:19:02.840 but maybe it's just global connection technology. What what opened 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:07.760 up that all of a sudden completely raised the expectation 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:11.840 of what we deserve and lowered the contentment. There's guys 0:19:11.920 --> 0:19:14.640 right out here, right outside this wall that are working 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:17.360 on the mortar work. They're working on the brick laying. 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:21.520 If I was going to ask them what their their 0:19:21.560 --> 0:19:24.480 career dreams would be, they they would probably say, well, 0:19:24.480 --> 0:19:27.240 this is great, I'll just do I'm just going to 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:31.320 do this. I envy that in a way. So Eric, 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:33.240 I would ask you this to kind of try to 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:35.639 help sum this up for you to hopefully meet you 0:19:35.760 --> 0:19:38.239 meet your expectation of a good, good answer from us. 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:43.600 I would I would dig deep to why you're feeling 0:19:44.480 --> 0:19:48.600 like you need to move jobs? Is it? What kind 0:19:48.600 --> 0:19:53.159 of unrest are you having? Is it? Can you realize 0:19:53.760 --> 0:19:55.960 that this is a kind of unrest that no matter 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:57.879 what job you get into, you're still going to be 0:19:57.920 --> 0:20:01.520 not content, You're still going to be restless. Or is 0:20:01.560 --> 0:20:07.280 it legitimately I'm not I'm not giving my full ability 0:20:07.320 --> 0:20:10.960 to this job. Or I could do more somewhere else. 0:20:11.600 --> 0:20:14.960 I have more to offer the world somewhere else. But 0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:18.480 are you able to realize when you hit that threshold? 0:20:20.440 --> 0:20:22.800 I wonder if this is deeper than just his work, 0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:25.800 because I'm just thinking about people that I've known that 0:20:25.840 --> 0:20:28.679 it's like, or that I know that we both know 0:20:29.840 --> 0:20:32.720 they're just not really content. They're always going to find 0:20:32.760 --> 0:20:37.840 something that's like, oh I could do this, I could 0:20:37.880 --> 0:20:43.600 do that. It's like those options just like constantly are 0:20:44.200 --> 0:20:48.000 They're looking for something else, and it's like, well, to 0:20:48.040 --> 0:20:50.119 get specific on you too, Eric, you say, I have 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:54.440 other job offers and other opportunities that I could take, 0:20:54.480 --> 0:20:56.880 but it just scares me starting all over. Just throw 0:20:56.880 --> 0:21:00.280 that out the window, just take them to going to 0:21:00.320 --> 0:21:01.960 have to go back to what Bernie said at the beginning, 0:21:02.000 --> 0:21:04.159 that you only live once. But when you do this, 0:21:04.280 --> 0:21:06.120 when you do this process, you have to be very 0:21:06.520 --> 0:21:09.520 self aware that you need to know what the reasons 0:21:09.520 --> 0:21:12.200 you're doing. And if you're just just a not very 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:16.040 just not content in any kind of situation, that's a 0:21:16.080 --> 0:21:17.920 problem you need to fix other than a job. Did 0:21:17.920 --> 0:21:22.560 he say how long he had been at his current No, No, 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:28.000 he said, I've I've been here seven years. There is 0:21:28.040 --> 0:21:33.760 seven years. Seven years ain't that long, man? I know, 0:21:33.840 --> 0:21:36.280 in today's society maybe it's a long time, but it's 0:21:36.320 --> 0:21:39.240 not that long. It's long enough for you to know 0:21:40.440 --> 0:21:43.080 the culture of the company and the culture of and 0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:45.960 and the work that you're doing, and where your ceiling is. 0:21:46.040 --> 0:21:54.239 And so I don't know. I'm we'll have to, you know, 0:21:54.320 --> 0:21:56.320 get into this a little deeper another time. But I'm 0:21:56.359 --> 0:22:02.119 so interested by your thoughts on what you know that 0:22:02.200 --> 0:22:04.680 thought of Like, yeah, my dad was a police officer 0:22:04.720 --> 0:22:07.320 for thirty years, and this guy worked at this plant 0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:09.960 for thirty eight has never changed jobs as long as 0:22:10.000 --> 0:22:13.119 that was a lot. Where was it in our culture 0:22:13.119 --> 0:22:17.359 that we switched to like, oh, yeah, I've had five 0:22:17.480 --> 0:22:20.879 jobs in the last six years. Like what Yeah, So 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:23.640 I bet you everyone listened to this podcast that has 0:22:23.640 --> 0:22:26.800 a parent that was born in the fifties or older 0:22:27.640 --> 0:22:29.680 would say that they only had one job the whole 0:22:29.680 --> 0:22:34.600 time they knew them. I think that that's something in 0:22:34.640 --> 0:22:38.520 the psyche and something in the heart. I don't know 0:22:38.520 --> 0:22:41.320 where it came from, but something's like, we're just not 0:22:41.400 --> 0:22:47.000 a content people. Yeah, let's go to let's go to 0:22:47.000 --> 0:22:50.280 Aiden here and his question, we'll have time for one 0:22:50.359 --> 0:22:54.680 more for a break. It says, subject line, very important time, 0:22:54.720 --> 0:22:56.479 mister Granger. I'm a big fan, been listening to your 0:22:56.520 --> 0:22:57.919 music for a while, and I'd like to keep my 0:22:58.000 --> 0:23:02.640 name unknown. Did I say his name already? I don't 0:23:02.760 --> 0:23:07.359 think nobody wanted you. Every time that I hear you 0:23:07.400 --> 0:23:10.280 read a question and it says I want to be anonymous, 0:23:10.320 --> 0:23:15.760 I think back to that one. He said, Uh, my 0:23:15.840 --> 0:23:18.720 girlfriend and I recently broke up because her parents disapproved 0:23:18.720 --> 0:23:22.080 of us. How can I gain their trust? Also, she 0:23:22.160 --> 0:23:25.760 has depression and I want to try to cure it myself. 0:23:26.240 --> 0:23:30.200 I don't know if that's possible. Bertie's not laughing at you, buddy, 0:23:31.560 --> 0:23:34.280 I don't know if that's possible. She was using the 0:23:34.359 --> 0:23:37.520 stuff that makes people high, but that's not good. Do 0:23:37.560 --> 0:23:39.639 you know how I could try to stop her? Depression. 0:23:39.800 --> 0:23:46.640 Have a good day, yeeky mister anonymous here anonymous secure depression. 0:23:46.760 --> 0:23:53.680 You cannot cure her depression? No? No, First of all, 0:23:53.720 --> 0:23:57.119 like they're broken up, right, yeah, because her parents didn't 0:23:57.160 --> 0:24:02.000 like him. Yes, yeah, But there's this multi layered. This 0:24:02.200 --> 0:24:06.680 very short question was very multiple. What was the question? First? 0:24:07.000 --> 0:24:10.080 He says, how could I gain their trust? Her parents? 0:24:10.280 --> 0:24:13.040