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Speaker 1: thanks today, Thank you for having me back. Man, dude,

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Speaker 1: I was thinking about it. You're such a busy guy.

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Speaker 1: I listened to the Graingersmith podcast like a good way

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Speaker 1: say his name and I'm just trying to avoid that.

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Speaker 1: Did she break up with you and tell you we

425
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Speaker 1: need to break up? My parents just don't like you,

426
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:57,679
Speaker 1: because if I'm this guy, I'm like, well that just

427
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Speaker 1: is it just them or is it all of you

428
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: that don't like me? Yeah, it's tough to We see

429
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:07,959
Speaker 1: this a lot, man. We see this kind of question

430
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 1: with it's it's always guys. It's never girls that email this.

431
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 1: It's guys saying her parents don't approve, but but we

432
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 1: don't care. We're moving forward anyway. I'm kind of shocked

433
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 1: at how many times we see that. And as a parent,

434
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:29,320
Speaker 1: I'm closer you are too. I'm closer to the parents'

435
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Speaker 1: age on these situations because I have a ten year

436
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 1: old and you have a eight, So we're closer to

437
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 1: the parents age really than we are to the date ease.

438
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: So it's hard for me to think to put myself

439
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 1: in this scenario in London and I'm like, man, this guy.

440
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,639
Speaker 1: You cannot date this guy and guys will stay it

441
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:55,439
Speaker 1: on record. I would say that, Yeah, I would say that.

442
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: I'd be the kind of dad that says now now

443
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,679
Speaker 1: being Bernie, would both hope to raise our kids, to

444
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: instill them with enough to equip them to attract the

445
00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: right person anyway. Yeah, but it's still possible that they

446
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 1: would go off the deep end, and I would say, uh,

447
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: and dating that guy, yeah, I mean imagine, So what

448
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: what's a scenario. He's twenty five, you're sixteen. Boom, there's

449
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 1: enough right there. Yeah, you're not dating this guy. Yeah,

450
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 1: for sure. He's a convicted felon with a child molestation. Okay, Boom.

451
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: I could go down the list. So let's say that

452
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Speaker 1: did happen, not one of those scenarios, but let's say

453
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Speaker 1: it did happen where London's dating this guy and you're

454
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Speaker 1: like no, for whatever reason, You're like no, what could

455
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 1: he do to change your mind? That's why I say

456
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 1: he's to this guy to unknown here he's got to

457
00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 1: take me out. He's got to come up and he

458
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:59,399
Speaker 1: has to set something up, like, hey, I want to

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00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 1: have coffee with you house Monday. Yeah. Now I would

460
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 1: probably say I'm busy, yeah, but hang in there, be patient. Okay,

461
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 1: how about it next month? And if I see a

462
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Speaker 1: guy that it's three months, he's been asking me for

463
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 1: coffee for three months, I'm gonna go fine, Fine, you

464
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 1: got ten minutes, You got ten minutes. Yeah, that's where

465
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Speaker 1: the question about where Let's just say this is you

466
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Speaker 1: in London, where London would be in it, because if

467
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Speaker 1: London's coming to you saying dad, mom, like I broke

468
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 1: up with him, I know y'all don't like him, and

469
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Speaker 1: said I'm just gonna move on this guy. Hey, buddy,

470
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Speaker 1: we don't need to have coffee. She's moved on. But

471
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Speaker 1: let's say that she is into him and like is

472
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Speaker 1: trying to be respectful and y'all they broke up because whatever,

473
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: that's the only way I would if she was like, dad, please, yeah, please,

474
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Speaker 1: you need to see this guy for who he is. Yeah,

475
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Speaker 1: And in that, the only thing that's gonna change my

476
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Speaker 1: mind as a father of a daughter is like you

477
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 1: said over time recognizing that man, this guy puts himself,

478
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: puts or puts my daughter above himself all the time.

479
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 1: And I can just see how he serves her, how

480
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: he's gentle with her, how he's patient with her. And

481
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Speaker 1: then you know, over time you start to see those things,

482
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Speaker 1: and you start to see that and she has a

483
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Speaker 1: lot of joy in him. And maybe it was the

484
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: parents didn't like him, you know, for a reason that

485
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: was very surface, and there was like a course, something

486
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 1: off the bat that was like I don't think so.

487
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 1: I mean, I can you know, my in laws are

488
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 1: absolutely the best and they accepted me no matter what.

489
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Speaker 1: But I was a broke, starving musician with long dreadlocks,

490
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Speaker 1: just kind of floating around the world like there was

491
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Speaker 1: no reason for them to say like, oh, yeah, you know,

492
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 1: you can date our daughter. But they did, Thank goodness.

493
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 1: But if it was something like that that was very surface,

494
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 1: and then over time he has a chance to kind

495
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 1: of break through that, I think he could win him

496
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Speaker 1: over totally. I got high hopes for you, mister unknown.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna kick this next question off to you. I'm

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Speaker 1: I feel like Chad punted the Bible question last week,

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Speaker 1: as I was, that was one you threw the hit. No,

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Speaker 1: love it. Okay, that'd be so fun. Okay, I'm in

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Speaker 1: remember what I said? Oh, here's one that says for

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Speaker 1: Bernie and Granger. Okay, I gotta do that one. Yep

595
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Speaker 1: Let me set the scene. We're in a field with

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Speaker 1: So me and my wife and one and our one

599
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Speaker 1: and a half year old went to my mother's for

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Speaker 1: The whole time, my grandmother kept commenting on how big

602
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Speaker 1: my wife's stomach, not in a good way was more like,

603
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:24,280
Speaker 1: I can't believe it's that big. My mother kept also

604
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Speaker 1: undermining us in front of the rest of the family

605
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Speaker 1: and giving our kid chips and sweet tea when we

606
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,360
Speaker 1: needed to eat. He needed to eat actual real food

607
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:37,479
Speaker 1: and drink water because he's been running outside so much.

608
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 1: How could we be tactful to my family because I

609
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 1: could be harsh, but they are also family. But at

610
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:46,239
Speaker 1: the same time, they do not respect us in front

611
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Speaker 1: of the rest of our family. They undermine us as parents.

612
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 1: The kid is also so young and he's still learning,

613
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Speaker 1: and he doesn't need to be threatened to be whooped

614
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Speaker 1: when he does something wrong. There's a lot to unpack

615
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:04,799
Speaker 1: her by anonymous, So let me let me threatening to

616
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Speaker 1: whoop him too. I guess they're giving him the chips

617
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 1: on the okay, let's say so. Okay, So his wife's pregnant, yep,

618
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Speaker 1: number two, number two, and my grandmother kept commenting on

619
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620
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 1: more like it, I can't believe it's that big. My

621
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,280
Speaker 1: mother kept also undermining us. So his mother and grandmother

622
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 1: teaming up on daughter in law and grandkid. Okay, and

623
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 1: for some reason the title is for Bernie and Granger,

624
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:45,240
Speaker 1: like they just knew that you would be the one. Well,

625
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:50,959
Speaker 1: I'm always going to defer to grace and patience with them.

626
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 1: But also Leslie and I were talking about this the

627
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 1: other day just and this is kind of a culture

628
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Speaker 1: thing that we've moved to. But also, you know, Lez

629
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:07,720
Speaker 1: and I just kind of discussing amongst ourselves like why

630
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Speaker 1: are we and people in general these days so easily offended. Well,

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Speaker 1: first of all, it's the grandparents. They're gonna give chips

632
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Speaker 1: and cookies and whatever. Don't be offended. That's what they do.

633
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Speaker 1: And when they your kids have kids, you're gonna do that.

634
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Speaker 1: So I take that off the plate, right, that's a

635
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:33,280
Speaker 1: grandparent being a grandparent. Let them do their thing. As

636
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 1: far as the grandmother making comments about the belly, one,

637
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 1: just don't be offended. Just laugh I mean we have

638
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: to have like the confidence and the security to look

639
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: at our own you know, bellies and whatever it is

640
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 1: and just be like, yeah, you're right man, Yeah I

641
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: can laugh with myself. Grandmother's carried a few babies in

642
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: her day. Yeah, yeah, I think we're easily offended. I

643
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 1: think I would maybe spend some time thinking about that,

644
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:04,359
Speaker 1: why these relationships are, why these things offended you so much,

645
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 1: and then also go back to grace and patience, like, man,

646
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:13,120
Speaker 1: they love you. They're just humans. We're all just humans

647
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 1: trying to be humans with other humans. And it's just tough. Man.

648
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 1: That's so good man. All of that is great. I

649
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: can't beat any of that. If you're having trouble with

650
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: your your in laws, or if your parents are bothering

651
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 1: your spouse, grace and patience. They raised you. They got

652
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:42,040
Speaker 1: you to this point at some level. They got you here.

653
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: Listen to them. You don't have to take it to heart,

654
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: and you don't have to be offended by everything. This

655
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 1: world gets so offended, but this and that and this

656
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:57,399
Speaker 1: and that, don't be offended, especially if it's family. Now

657
00:39:57,520 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 1: you're asking me, how could I be actful to my family?

658
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:02,719
Speaker 1: Because I could be harsh, but they're also family. Yeah,

659
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 1: that's listen to yourself. Be tactful but not harsh. I

660
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:12,240
Speaker 1: think communication is key on it on so many levels

661
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 1: of life. Just sitting down, going, Grandma, can I can

662
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: I talk to you about something? I know that you

663
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: might not think it's a big deal, but when you

664
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Speaker 1: say her belly is big in a bad way, she's pregnant,

665
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 1: she has hormones. It's she's taking it to heart, she's

666
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,240
Speaker 1: making it's a little more sensitive than she's more sensitive

667
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 1: than she would be. So would you mind just not

668
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:37,760
Speaker 1: bringing that up so much Grandma? More than likely Grandma

669
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: is gonna understand. Yeah. And if she doesn't just make

670
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: fun of how old she is and she can't see

671
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: you know, it's like, okay, this is the dynamic of

672
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:50,399
Speaker 1: the religionship. Let's just okay. See if it goes both ways. Yeah,

673
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding, don't do that. I love it all right.

674
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Speaker 1: If you have a question for this podcast for me

675
00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: and Burns or anybody else, Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

676
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 1: I think we're gonna do an all star cast for

677
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 1: episode one d This is episode ninety three, so that'd

678
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:15,000
Speaker 1: be really fun. Kicking them back to you burns. Struggle

679
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 1: for Dad. I like that grief how to get over death?

680
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: I have a Q and A I have Montana Bus.

681
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 1: Let's do the Struggle for Dad, okay, okay, and then

682
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 1: let's do the Montana Bus after that. Okay. I know

683
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 1: some people out there here there title and they're like,

684
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 1: oh no, okay, Struggle for Dad. Said, Hey, Granger, my

685
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:43,439
Speaker 1: fiance and I love all the content that you put out.

686
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: You have a beautiful family and you are inspiring great

687
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 1: role models. Thank you, says We have three boys, nine

688
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: three and five months old. As a father, I want

689
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 1: nothing but the best for my boys, and I want

690
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: to be the best father I could be for them.

691
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 1: I struggle with being patient at times, and I don't

692
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 1: like being like that. Do you ever struggle with not

693
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:09,839
Speaker 1: being patient? Do you know what the Bible verses are,

694
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 1: stories that speak on this are thank you for being

695
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: such a great model for us dads. So this is

696
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:19,359
Speaker 1: this is Jeffrey. That email could have easily been from

697
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:26,280
Speaker 1: me though, yeah, it could have been for me too. Yeah, yeah, Jeffrey,

698
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 1: I feel your brother. How old are his kids again?

699
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,960
Speaker 1: They're nine three and five months? Okay, got a good

700
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: spread going. That's that's that ten years spreads almost what

701
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:42,799
Speaker 1: we got going on here at the house. Yeah, first

702
00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:47,439
Speaker 1: of all, you're you're right on cue Jeff, You're you've

703
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 1: got nine to three and five months. You're going to

704
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 1: lose your patients, and so is your wife. It's it's

705
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: a test. He's asking, do you know any Bible verses

706
00:42:56,760 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 1: or stories that speak on this. Well, a lot of

707
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:07,919
Speaker 1: Paul's letters talk about patience as being on the top

708
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 1: of the list of his virtues. It's like love, and

709
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 1: then patience is like almost right there. So it's something

710
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 1: just like love. You're not just going to go out

711
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,840
Speaker 1: of the gate and just love everyone. It's something you cultivate,

712
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 1: it's something it's a skill that you develop. Patience is now,

713
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: God is a god of patience. So you're asking about

714
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: Bible stories, well, repeatedly through the Old Testament, it's going

715
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:42,880
Speaker 1: to talk about how God is quick to forgive and

716
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 1: slow to anger, and these unbelievable patience. And it's also

717
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 1: known through a lot of these Bible stories that he

718
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 1: is teaching us patients, or teaching the characters and the

719
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 1: Bible patience, which then we in turn learn from through

720
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Speaker 1: all kinds of scenario that he throws at us. And

721
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Speaker 1: I think God desires us to be patient so much

722
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Speaker 1: so that a lot of things we have to go

723
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Speaker 1: through in life or cultivating that patience. So if what's

724
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 1: something burns that you you consciously, I know I have

725
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:21,479
Speaker 1: a lot of examples that I could consciously say, Man,

726
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:26,440
Speaker 1: that was a season of patience for me. That was

727
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,800
Speaker 1: we kick and scream when we have to deal with patients,

728
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 1: We kick and scream, and then we yeah, and then

729
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 1: we finally stopped flailing and just succumb to it. Twenty

730
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 1: twenty was a great example for all of us when

731
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:43,399
Speaker 1: we built this house and lived in the RV. It's

732
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:48,839
Speaker 1: a it's a big yeah. Yeah, Jeff, you're you're right

733
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Speaker 1: on man. Yeah, You're not alone in the street, so

734
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 1: you know, so know that. And I would suggest go

735
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Speaker 1: dig into the Bible and find the stories because hearing

736
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 1: them from us is one thing, But when you actually

737
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: go and start to read and like read the story

738
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:09,319
Speaker 1: and read the context and find them on your own,

739
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 1: and like spend that time alone and let God kind

740
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 1: of speak to you on fatherhood and and your relationship

741
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:22,799
Speaker 1: to him and how you can reflect that then to

742
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 1: your kids. I think that's when the dependency on him

743
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:38,400
Speaker 1: increases and the outflow towards your kids starts to change.

744
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 1: You know, I'm the vineyar the branches. You know, you

745
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: can do nothing apart from me. If we think about that,

746
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: he who abides me will bear fruit like man, the

747
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 1: fruits of the spirit is what he's talking about showing

748
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 1: to his kids. Well, we have to abide in him,

749
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: and so I mean that's that's the first thing that

750
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: I think and I both would suggest, and that we

751
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 1: try our absolute best is just try to be in

752
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:08,480
Speaker 1: the word and like abide in him and like what

753
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 1: does that phrase even mean? Maybe go just like research

754
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:14,840
Speaker 1: that and think about that. Guys, I read the Bible

755
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 1: every single morning. I know Burns does too. So it's

756
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:22,400
Speaker 1: something that we just do. It's a practice that we

757
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 1: start and through that you learn things like patience and

758
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 1: love and forgiveness. You learn those things through just reading it,

759
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:32,720
Speaker 1: not looking at a devotional with pinpointing a specific area

760
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:36,840
Speaker 1: of trouble. Yeah, I think this goes back to his

761
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: spouse to or fiance to a little bit, which is

762
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:46,719
Speaker 1: why does he have a fiance and three kids? Maybe

763
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 1: it's a different, different girl. It doesn't say that, but regardless,

764
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 1: I would kick it back to her sometimes and just say, hey, babe,

765
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,399
Speaker 1: I'm dealing with a lot of stuff at work right now,

766
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 1: I'm trying to knock this out before five o'clock. Can

767
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: you take the boys? And at five o'clock I'm all in,

768
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 1: But I have to concentrate on this zoom call or whatever.

769
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 1: You know that could be these moments that's getting your patients,

770
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:18,919
Speaker 1: you know, exposed, is when you're you're trying to knock

771
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:21,360
Speaker 1: out something for work and you're on you need fifteen

772
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: more minutes of the zoom call. If you'll just then

773
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 1: I'll go throw the ball with you. You're going to

774
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 1: be a better dad if you could delegate that to

775
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 1: your spouse and then but then at five you better

776
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: be locked on with the boys. Yeah, no, absolutely that

777
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 1: that communication I think is key, especially when you're parenting

778
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: like together and as a unit like. I think communication

779
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: is key. I think boundaries and boundaries and understanding your limits.

780
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 1: So we tend to get a lot more pressure and

781
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: a lot more stressed and a lot more impatient when

782
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 1: we have pushed our back boundaries. Right, We've pushed our limits,

783
00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 1: and so now I'm trying to do this, and but

784
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 1: my son is asking to do this instead of having

785
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 1: very clear boundaries, Hey, I'm actually I have margin in

786
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,479
Speaker 1: my life. I'm not all the way edge to edge.

787
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:18,719
Speaker 1: I haven't pushed my limits to where I'm stressed. I

788
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:22,440
Speaker 1: think in those moments, we're not as tired, we're not

789
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 1: as irritable, and we're not as impatient. Like we have

790
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:31,239
Speaker 1: bandwidth to show that patience. And one last thing to

791
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: book in this, Granger said, like reading the Word every morning.

792
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 1: One thing that I've started to do with a group

793
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: of guys is take one passage, one parable and read

794
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:54,560
Speaker 1: it and study it every morning for three weeks. Because

795
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:57,959
Speaker 1: you get up the fourth day and it's like, yep, God,

796
00:48:58,000 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 1: I've read this before. I know this. But about the

797
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:03,720
Speaker 1: sixth day of the seventh day, you have to have patience.

798
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:06,759
Speaker 1: And it's it's definitely taught me to wait on the

799
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: Lord and to be patient, because then about the fifth

800
00:49:09,160 --> 00:49:14,760
Speaker 1: or sixth day, it's like, oh, I get what it's.

801
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: Oh it's not that, here's what it is, but you

802
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 1: just have to that's awesome, be patient in it. So

803
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 1: don't just get up and like read this and kind

804
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: of move on you know, coffee cup verse and then

805
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 1: go throughout your day like be patient in the word.

806
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:31,759
Speaker 1: And I think that that is a good practice in

807
00:49:31,800 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 1: the morning that will help show patients kind of throughout

808
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 1: the day too. Love it. We got we got some

809
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 1: We've got a little more time burns. We have wedding worries. Wait,

810
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: we were going to uh're going to Montana bus? You

811
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 1: said that already. Bus on ta bus says, Hey Granger,

812
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 1: just listening to the podcast where you were recording in

813
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 1: on the Montana bus. I'm from Missoula, Montana. Just curious

814
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 1: how you came up with the name of that bus.

815
00:49:56,440 --> 00:50:03,280
Speaker 1: Thanks Evan. So so our buses we have Montana, Freedom,

816
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 1: and Wildflower. Now they were all three named before we

817
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 1: got them. Apparently, as it with ships or planes, buses

818
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 1: falling that in the category yachts, whatever, they are named

819
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: when they're built. Do they get named by the people

820
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: that build them or by the people that buy them?

821
00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 1: Sometimes I think it's the builder, and sometimes it's the

822
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 1: first owner. The first owner. Yeah, so, and then apparently

823
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 1: it's bad luck if you rename them. Butch and Bull.

824
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 1: My drivers told me recently that we've had so much

825
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: bad luck with these buses, that next one we get

826
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Speaker 1: what we want. Sotana. I have no idea, Evan, I

827
00:50:48,719 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 1: have no idea why she was named Montana. But it's interesting, right,

828
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 1: It's interesting that either someone really loved that state, or

829
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Speaker 1: that's where her first job was, or that's where the

830
00:51:00,239 --> 00:51:03,799
Speaker 1: first owner was lived. And so I don't know, but

831
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Speaker 1: I love Montana. We're gonna be there two weeks. We'll

832
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 1: be in in Bozeman, oh Man, and then Cherry Peak,

833
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:14,800
Speaker 1: Utah the next day. I've never been to Montana. Maybe

834
00:51:14,840 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 1: I'll like jump aboard the bus and hide in the

835
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 1: storage shed. Part of it with you. Montana is amazing.

836
00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 1: It's so you've been, You've been a lot through Utah.

837
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:30,879
Speaker 1: And what about Idaho? No, I won't. I won't mention

838
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 1: Idaho because it's the nation's best kept secret, so I'll

839
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 1: keep it a secret. It's incredible. I won't say anything else.

840
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 1: But Montana. It's like you take you take the aspects

841
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 1: of northern Utah with the amazing mountains, but you spread

842
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 1: it out in just these endless valleys. Montana is just endless, big,

843
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: huge valleys. So you see these valleys in Colorado. Sometimes

844
00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:00,839
Speaker 1: you can go through like the Breckenridge Valley, but then

845
00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: the Montana ones are completely unsettled. There's no humans that

846
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 1: live there. It's crazy. It's like seeing Colorado Breckenridge in

847
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:15,279
Speaker 1: eighteen eighty. Yeah, nothing, Why has nobody moved like I

848
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:17,839
Speaker 1: think they're flocking there now there. I think just like

849
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 1: Austin and other places. I think people are going we

850
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 1: don't have to work in the office as song as

851
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: we And with this new Skylink, this new Elon Musk Internet,

852
00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:31,800
Speaker 1: you're going to be able to have high speed internet

853
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:35,160
Speaker 1: anywhere in the world. People are going to start getting

854
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:39,839
Speaker 1: houses in Montana. Yeah, unfortunately for the people that live there,

855
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,560
Speaker 1: fortunate for everyone else that wants to to enjoy it.

856
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 1: But yeah, Montana's a special place. Yep. Time for one more. Yeah,

857
00:52:50,719 --> 00:52:55,719
Speaker 1: we do does does anything else that I've said? We

858
00:52:55,760 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: have Q and A. We have how to get over death,

859
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:02,560
Speaker 1: we have grief, we have help if I need relationship advice,

860
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:11,680
Speaker 1: Bible question left arm wedding worries, Let's do wedding worries,

861
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,719
Speaker 1: says Hey, my name is Mike. I'm emailing you from

862
00:53:16,760 --> 00:53:20,400
Speaker 1: the Midwest, good old Indiana as a fan of not

863
00:53:20,440 --> 00:53:22,440
Speaker 1: only your music but your wisdom and outlook on life.

864
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 1: I felt like I could really trust you that I

865
00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:30,720
Speaker 1: can get the right answer. On December twelfth makes us.

866
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 1: It made my girlfriend and I sixth anniversary. It may

867
00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:38,760
Speaker 1: sound like cliche, but I'm planning on popping the question.

868
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:41,759
Speaker 1: Her father and I seem to get along and I've

869
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 1: never felt any bumps in the road, but I'm still worried.

870
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:49,040
Speaker 1: I'm a man of mixed ethnicity, mother Caucasian, father African

871
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 1: American and working on becoming a vocalist and audio engineer

872
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 1: as a career. She's Caucasian and a nurse. I shouldn't

873
00:53:56,120 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 1: worry about things like this, but I'm constantly going back

874
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 1: and forth in my mind with the pigment of my

875
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:05,839
Speaker 1: skin being an issue and career choice. As well as

876
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:08,279
Speaker 1: do all girls on their big day. She really wants

877
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 1: to walk down the wants him to walk her down

878
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:13,399
Speaker 1: the aisle, and I ultimately would love to have one

879
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 1: big old family with nothing but joy and happiness. Granger,

880
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:19,520
Speaker 1: Am I overthinking this? Should I be worried in today's world?

881
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:21,479
Speaker 1: And if you have any tips on popping the big question?

882
00:54:21,520 --> 00:54:24,400
Speaker 1: Could you help a brother out? Thank you for all

883
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:32,280
Speaker 1: that you do. Mike man. So, first of all, December twelfth,

884
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:36,359
Speaker 1: so that's he's he's talking about twenty twenty one. So

885
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 1: let me read that again. I felt like I could

886
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,400
Speaker 1: really trust you. I know you could get the right answer.

887
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:44,839
Speaker 1: On December twelfth makes my girlfriend and I's sixth anniversary.

888
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 1: He's gonna pop the question. This email came to me yesterday,

889
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:55,040
Speaker 1: so it's fresh. Okay, does he have a name? Mike? Mike? Uh?

890
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 1: So there's two questions, One, how do you pop the question?

891
00:54:59,480 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 1: If we have any tips? And two should he worry

892
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:10,440
Speaker 1: about joy and happiness with concerning the pigment of his

893
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 1: skin and hers? That's what it sounds like, is that's

894
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:18,080
Speaker 1: what the question is. So there's no uh, there's no

895
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 1: question about the parents' acceptance. Like I thought he was worried.

896
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: Father and I seem to get along okay, and I've

897
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:28,399
Speaker 1: never felt any bumps in the road. Okay, but I'm

898
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 1: still worried he has. Mike has some some deep down

899
00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:37,800
Speaker 1: issues that go way beyond this relationship or this family.

900
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:47,359
Speaker 1: In laws or potential in laws haven't given him any reason. Yeah.

901
00:55:47,400 --> 00:55:49,480
Speaker 1: So that's hey, Mike, that's why we're kind of stumped

902
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 1: right now, because it sounds it sounds great. Yeah, you

903
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 1: may be worrying for no reason. Yeah, he says, he says.

904
00:55:57,560 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 1: Two times, he says, one, am I were thinking this?

905
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:04,400
Speaker 1: And two he says, should I be worried? So the

906
00:56:04,480 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 1: quick answer is no, this this sounds great. It sounds

907
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:14,160
Speaker 1: like it sounds like you're seeing You're watching a little

908
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:16,839
Speaker 1: bit too much social media, a little bit a little

909
00:56:16,840 --> 00:56:21,000
Speaker 1: bit too much news. You're seeing, Uh, you're seeing what

910
00:56:21,040 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 1: the world wants you to see. And that's not what

911
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 1: love is. Yep, that's not what your future wife has

912
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 1: giving you signals back with. It's not what your in

913
00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:34,399
Speaker 1: laws seemed to be giving you signals back with. They're

914
00:56:34,440 --> 00:56:37,520
Speaker 1: seeing love as it should be, which has no color,

915
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,800
Speaker 1: has no pigment of skin, we all have red blood.

916
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:45,879
Speaker 1: And I honestly think this is the product of coming

917
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 1: out of twenty twenty and seeing what the world did

918
00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 1: to itself, which should never have gone that far. And

919
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:57,319
Speaker 1: then he's coming out of twenty twenty, he's coming out

920
00:56:57,360 --> 00:57:00,319
Speaker 1: of seeing all that on the news, and he's like, man,

921
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:04,400
Speaker 1: is this whole critical race theory real? And is it

922
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 1: inside my future in laws? And are they just putting

923
00:57:08,400 --> 00:57:10,160
Speaker 1: on front And they're gonna hate me as soon as

924
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: we get married. Yeah, I mean, so the answer is false,

925
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: that's false. Yeah, you got Blake Bernie, you have a

926
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 1: black daughter. Yes, what you know you've thought about this,

927
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:34,320
Speaker 1: You're the future of this. Yeah. I I want to

928
00:57:34,320 --> 00:57:42,040
Speaker 1: empathize with Mike and understand. I it's it's hard. It's

929
00:57:42,080 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 1: hard and not really in my just natural psychology nature

930
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:54,480
Speaker 1: to empathize with fear and to when it's not warranted.

931
00:57:56,400 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 1: When and and I think that this is one of

932
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 1: those times where I understand concern and there are certain

933
00:58:04,560 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 1: things maybe you you do think about. But when our

934
00:58:10,440 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 1: fear keeps us from doing the will of God, I

935
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,800
Speaker 1: think we're outside of our place. I think that we

936
00:58:18,880 --> 00:58:25,919
Speaker 1: need community to like help us realign. And so yeah,

937
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:28,560
Speaker 1: I mean, there's there's a good chance that you could

938
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:31,360
Speaker 1: and I know with my daughter Stella and with our

939
00:58:31,520 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: with our family and in the comments that we've had

940
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 1: in the past, like you could receive some nasty comments

941
00:58:40,520 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 1: and some you know, persecution of some kind. I think

942
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 1: that if you have this deep love, you know, like

943
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:55,840
Speaker 1: it sounds like you do and sounds like you have

944
00:58:55,880 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 1: the support of your in laws, we're going to face

945
00:58:59,160 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 1: those things. In our life in some capacity. I think

946
00:59:01,720 --> 00:59:04,920
Speaker 1: it's just about being in the will of God when

947
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:09,560
Speaker 1: you do it. Yeah, yeah, amen. So if we're outside

948
00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:14,360
Speaker 1: of that, I think it makes it tougher to endure.

949
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 1: But if you're in the will of God and you're

950
00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:21,280
Speaker 1: you're close to him and you're walking in the path

951
00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:24,160
Speaker 1: that he has for you, and you're soon to be fiance,

952
00:59:26,200 --> 00:59:29,520
Speaker 1: I think you can attest to this. Whatever the world

953
00:59:29,560 --> 00:59:37,000
Speaker 1: throws at you, whatever life throws at you, you'll be fine. Yeah.

954
00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: And I want to say this too, because the second

955
00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:42,880
Speaker 1: part of his question is not just about skin color.

956
00:59:42,960 --> 00:59:45,520
Speaker 1: It's about career choice, because he's talking about he is

957
00:59:45,560 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 1: a he's working on being coming a vocalist and audio

958
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:51,600
Speaker 1: engineer as a career. So you know how what we

959
00:59:51,680 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 1: stand on that because me and you both did that.

960
00:59:54,440 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 1: And I look back on when Amber married me in

961
00:59:58,120 --> 01:00:02,640
Speaker 1: twenty ten and sometimes I ask her to this day,

962
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:06,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, why did you marry me? Because I was nobody,

963
01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:10,400
Speaker 1: making no money. She was going to my shows and

964
01:00:10,520 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 1: selling merch with me. When we were dating. No one

965
01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:15,880
Speaker 1: was there. She could she looked at this, she could

966
01:00:15,920 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 1: have easily been like, this guy is going nowhere. Yeah,

967
01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:21,520
Speaker 1: he just played a show in Waco, Texas and twelve

968
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:27,160
Speaker 1: people came, and you would think that, you would think

969
01:00:27,280 --> 01:00:28,880
Speaker 1: a girl could look at that and be like I

970
01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:31,600
Speaker 1: got there's plenty of guys out there that are going

971
01:00:31,640 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 1: somewhere that have a good job and that could be

972
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:42,960
Speaker 1: a father to my children. So yeah, similar story, similar

973
01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:46,240
Speaker 1: story to Mike, and we could almost wrap it back

974
01:00:46,320 --> 01:00:52,800
Speaker 1: up to the being content when the American idea is

975
01:00:52,880 --> 01:00:57,280
Speaker 1: always to jump ship, there's something better, and like I said,

976
01:00:57,320 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 1: with the Mexican culture doesn't seem to think that. And

977
01:01:02,400 --> 01:01:04,200
Speaker 1: keep in mind, when I say Mexican culture, I'm not

978
01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:07,320
Speaker 1: talking about Hispanics. I'm not talking about pigment of skin,

979
01:01:07,680 --> 01:01:10,080
Speaker 1: because once they become American, they want to do the

980
01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:15,840
Speaker 1: same thing. This is an American thing, not by heritage,

981
01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:20,800
Speaker 1: but by your origin. Because if you're from Mexico, you

982
01:01:20,880 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 1: think there seems to be a higher level of contentment.

983
01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:28,680
Speaker 1: But when you're a Mexican American, you have the same

984
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:32,640
Speaker 1: want a jump ship and be there's something greater for me,

985
01:01:33,440 --> 01:01:36,400
Speaker 1: and that's what built this country. It's amazing, but it

986
01:01:36,480 --> 01:01:40,440
Speaker 1: also hurts people like Mike who's like, man, I always

987
01:01:40,480 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 1: want to be an audio engineer, but I don't know

988
01:01:42,880 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 1: if that's going to be enough money for this family.

989
01:01:45,360 --> 01:01:47,600
Speaker 1: But didn't think like that sixty years ago. They're like,

990
01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:50,800
Speaker 1: this is what I do. I work at the bread factory.

991
01:01:50,880 --> 01:01:55,600
Speaker 1: That's what I do. And the main thing I want

992
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:58,840
Speaker 1: to look at here is you asked I want a

993
01:01:58,880 --> 01:02:03,200
Speaker 1: big old family with nothing but joy and happiness. Nothing

994
01:02:03,280 --> 01:02:07,040
Speaker 1: you've said in your email should affect that, right, career,

995
01:02:07,720 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 1: pigment of skin, nothing, in laws, in laws, nothing should

996
01:02:13,240 --> 01:02:15,600
Speaker 1: stop you from having a big old family with joy

997
01:02:15,600 --> 01:02:18,840
Speaker 1: and happiness. Mike, you go get it, man. Yeah, this

998
01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:21,680
Speaker 1: is for you. Yeah, absolutely, man, this is for you

999
01:02:22,080 --> 01:02:23,560
Speaker 1: and me and Burns are going to be thinking about

1000
01:02:23,600 --> 01:02:28,000
Speaker 1: you on December twelfth, and he asked ways to propose. Yeah,

1001
01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 1: I think you do it at a Granger Smith show.

1002
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:35,080
Speaker 1: Y'all have done that before, right, come on, Mike, Yes, Hey, Mike,

1003
01:02:35,280 --> 01:02:38,080
Speaker 1: email me back, or you do it on the podcast

1004
01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 1: special guest Mike, Oh, girlfriends here, that would be so awkward. Hey,

1005
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:46,800
Speaker 1: by email me back if you want to get if

1006
01:02:46,840 --> 01:02:49,360
Speaker 1: you want to propose it one of my shows. But

1007
01:02:49,440 --> 01:02:51,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if we're playing December twelfth. I can't

1008
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:55,560
Speaker 1: can't even look it up. But twelve twelve. Regardless, Buddy,

1009
01:02:55,720 --> 01:02:58,320
Speaker 1: twelve twelve, twenty one, I'll be thinking about you the

1010
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:01,520
Speaker 1: day of the proposal. I appreciate you, buddy. I appreciate

1011
01:03:01,600 --> 01:03:03,680
Speaker 1: you writing in. Get rid of that fear, Go get

1012
01:03:03,720 --> 01:03:06,160
Speaker 1: your big joy and happiness and big old family. Yep

1013
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:09,680
Speaker 1: burns read of time. But I appreciate you dropping up here.

1014
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:12,080
Speaker 1: It's been awesome, man. Yeah, appreciate you, dude. See you guys.

1015
01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 1: Thanks for joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I

1016
01:03:15,520 --> 01:03:18,120
Speaker 1: appreciate all of you. Guys. You could help me out

1017
01:03:18,240 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 1: by rating this podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube,

1018
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: subscribe to this channel, hit that little like button and

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1020
01:03:29,120 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 1: a video. If you have a question for me that

1021
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:35,360
Speaker 1: you would like me to answer, email Grangersmith Podcast at

1022
01:03:35,400 --> 01:03:37,920
Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Yi