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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not supporting my sister's

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Speaker 1: engagement because she wears bright colors?

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Speaker 2: That's not what it says. I found that story.

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Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. Actually, I'm just gonna I'm gonna keep

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Speaker 1: that in there. This comes from one tone for six

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Speaker 2: That actually even works?

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Speaker 1: What one tone, one color tone, one color tone?

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Speaker 2: He thinks he's a regular jokes.

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Speaker 1: To twenty four female and planning my wedding to my

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Speaker 1: partner of almost six years.

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Speaker 2: Congratulations.

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Speaker 1: We got engaged at the end of November twenty twenty three,

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Speaker 1: and we set our wedding date for September twenty twenty four.

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Speaker 1: Before we get into the current situation, I want to

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Speaker 1: provide a little context. When we were going up, it

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Speaker 1: was always abundantly clear that my sister twenty female was

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Speaker 1: the family favorite. I swear you pick these stories.

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Speaker 2: That are talking about I don't do that.

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Speaker 1: It was always given special privileges.

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Speaker 2: What special privileges was I gived? Okay, but I actually lived.

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Speaker 1: For this reason, we didn't get along during our childhood,

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Speaker 1: which isn't true of me and Sophia and most of

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Speaker 1: our teenage years. After attending therapy as an adult, I

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Speaker 1: came to understand that I couldn't hold my parents treatment

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Speaker 1: the only people to blame are my parents. After working

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Speaker 1: through that, her and I became really close. For the

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Speaker 1: past few years, we have been inseparable, which is also true.

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Speaker 2: This is forced procity. He made me live with him,

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Speaker 2: he made me work, let me out, He won't let

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Speaker 1: She's my best friend and I am her.

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Speaker 2: Ah, you're my best friend, my best friend, are you rightly?

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Speaker 1: I asked her to be my maid of honor and

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Speaker 1: she was so excited.

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Speaker 2: That's gonna be my man of honor.

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Speaker 1: Sick, You're no sorry.

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Speaker 2: I might have to make Isabella my man of honor.

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Speaker 1: I might have to make Christian.

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Speaker 2: I would understand, but I at least want to be.

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Speaker 1: Like second deal. She started dating her current boyfriend, twenty

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Speaker 1: he just so happens to be everything my family has

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Speaker 1: ever dreamed of in his son in law, the exact

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Speaker 1: opposite of my partner. The past six months they have

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Speaker 1: been together, my sister's partner is all my family talks about,

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Speaker 1: even at my bridal appointments, so they're talking about her

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Speaker 1: boyfriend as she's getting married right after my engagement. My

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Speaker 1: She made it clear to her boyfriend that this year

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Speaker 2: To consider it's considered really nice.

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Speaker 1: She said she wanted this to be my year. I've

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Speaker 1: dreamed of this wedding my entire life, and maybe it's

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Speaker 1: to actually be about me, and this leads us to

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Speaker 1: the current situation. This is the current situation. So last night,

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Speaker 1: they decided to get married after six months. After six months,

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Speaker 2: It's fast, that's speeding.

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Speaker 1: This leads us to our current situation. They said they

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. The sister completely took back what she said.

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Speaker 1: I know, and this happened eleven days ago. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: this is like recent. I told them that I needed

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Speaker 1: time to process, and I ended the FaceTime. An hour later,

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Speaker 1: I explained to her that I want to be happy

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Speaker 1: it will be as if I and my wedding doesn't exist.

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Speaker 1: If already the boyfriend friend and Op's sister are taking

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Speaker 2: And it's like he's just a boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah he imagine what happens. And she cried while I

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Speaker 3: Okay, maybe maybe she can come back from this. Maybe

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe she's going to stop the wedding wheels, turning

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Speaker 1: have lost my wedding and my best friend. I am

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Speaker 1: the villain in her story for ruining her moment, and

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Speaker 1: she is the villain in my story. We're taking this

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Speaker 1: milestone from me, even after she promised she wouldn't. Where

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Speaker 1: for not just being happy?

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Speaker 2: For okay?

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Speaker 4: She facetimes her sister being like, hey, me and him

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Speaker 4: are gonna get married in like two to four weeks.

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Speaker 4: Can you help us propose?

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Speaker 2: What is that proposed?

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Speaker 1: Going to propose two to four weeks? Men?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so like they planned themselves that they're going to

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Speaker 4: get engaged, That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: It's weird that she's planning her own engagement.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's like an engagement party or something, and he like,

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Speaker 3: Maybe supposed to be a surprised Maybe he unofficially proposed

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Speaker 3: and then they're like, okay, but we want to do

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Speaker 4: But isn't it supposed to be a surprise it is, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Maybe they're just bucking all the the rules.

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Speaker 4: I think they just want attention, all attention.

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Speaker 1: But I feel like the sister maybe doesn't want that.

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Speaker 1: I think maybe what this is my thought of what happened.

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Speaker 1: The boyfriend proposed yes, and she's just going with the flow. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I disagree with that because the whole life she has

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Speaker 4: Tom and Tom again, like oh, like oh, people make

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Speaker 4: I don't think they heard a word I said straight a's.

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Speaker 1: Sraight a a mom. I think that whatever Riley said.

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Speaker 2: Riley, I agree implicitly.

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Speaker 1: I agree unless what he said is wrong, and then

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Speaker 1: I disagree. Say that, how dare you acal statement?

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Speaker 4: The sister just takes the spotlight every chance she gets.

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Speaker 2: She's doing it again, Riley, that's astounding.

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Speaker 4: This is what I heard, Riley.

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Speaker 1: Because it's comments f A f Well, it really really

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Speaker 1: quick is no, I don't think the ahole. I don't

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Speaker 2: Don't think the ahole her year and the comments.

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Speaker 1: Especially because the sister recognized the sister literally knows how

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Speaker 1: not And they had a conversation where they agreed, and

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Speaker 1: thirteen says, not the a whole, but I would definitely

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Speaker 1: take a step back from your entire family. Your sister

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Speaker 1: psythe says this deep down, she's not really your best friend.

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Speaker 1: Plan your wedding and have a fabulous time with people

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Speaker 1: not the a hole. She did it on purpose. She

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Speaker 1: got engaged six months into the relationship. Now you have

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Speaker 1: to plan her official proposal. After that, they will ask

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Speaker 1: you to plan other events for her wedding. They're not

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Speaker 1: one month after yours. That's crazy. If they look for venues,

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Speaker 1: at all costs, and that of a high school bully

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Speaker 1: that says something that does something else. Not the a

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm getting intentional bully, I'm getting inconsiderate.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm getting inconsiderate too. I feel like someone

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Speaker 1: opas said the relationship is actually pretty strong with the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems like they're good, Like they had a

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Speaker 1: Anyway, it's just the parents that are that are kind

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Speaker 4: I think it's intentional.

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Speaker 1: What do you all think? Put your answers in the

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Speaker 1: for the advice in the comments of my original posts.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry for taking so long to post an update

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Speaker 1: for you. By the way, the sister is not pregnant.

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Speaker 1: I spoke with my sister on Tuesday this past week,

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Speaker 1: and it was not a very positive conversation. I was

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Speaker 1: still extremely hurt. I love Sophia reading ahead saying oh no.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't a very positive conversation.

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Speaker 1: I said, I talked to my sister fast week and

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Speaker 2: Oh no.

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Speaker 1: I was still extremely hurt, and she was angry with me. No,

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Speaker 1: she was angry with me, oh no, for ruining her excitement.

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Speaker 1: I ended that conversation about telling her that at the

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Speaker 1: She said that she doesn't want things to be bad

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Speaker 1: I asked how it went She said that he told

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Speaker 1: I asked her what they decided to do, and she

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Speaker 1: said that after several days of talking over, they have

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Speaker 1: decided to postpone the proposal until after my wedding in September,

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Speaker 1: which is supporting the fact that Opie's sister is actually

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Speaker 1: a good person.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She said that their new plan is to get engaged

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Speaker 1: twis twenty five. They have not said anything to our

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Speaker 1: I guess you could say that this is the best

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Speaker 3: I think it is good that they are deciding to

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Speaker 1: Can actually see Yeah, maybe they can think about the

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Speaker 2: With you, subscribe.

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Speaker 1: He will make sure to subscribe. Okayo right now? Okay

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Speaker 2: Wait, what that was so ominous? Is not the end?

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Speaker 1: Wait? What what do you mean? Did the sister get married?

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Speaker 2: Maybe that was the change the weather.

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Speaker 1: I'm confused.

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Speaker 2: That was so honest that her chances?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, literally, I guess she didn't take what I

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Speaker 2: I'm bamboozled.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what the heck?

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Speaker 4: What you just read? That was Op's response to a commenter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, Do you get it?

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I guess Tate decided to take this.

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Speaker 3: This might have happened before before they got engaged or

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that sounds ominous. I don't know what

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Speaker 2: But you know what else is ominous?

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Speaker 1: That's next story.

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