WEBVTT - The Thing Amy Won't Touch Without Protection

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<v Speaker 1>All right, break it down. If you ever have feelings

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<v Speaker 1>that you just won'ts ay and Cat got your cob

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<v Speaker 1>and like an m brother, ladies and bolts, do you

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<v Speaker 1>just follow Anna spirit where it's all the front and

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<v Speaker 1>real stuff to the chill stuff and.

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<v Speaker 2>You but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do

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<v Speaker 2>it just.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop you feel things. This is feeling things with Amy

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<v Speaker 1>and Cat.

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<v Speaker 3>Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>Cat and my feeling of the day is thrilled.

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<v Speaker 2>What are you thrilled about?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I'm thrilled that my laundry room is starting to

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<v Speaker 3>feel like a hum You know. I painted it, which

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<v Speaker 3>was step one, so phase one paint, which don't underestimate

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<v Speaker 3>the power of paint.

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<v Speaker 2>Because sometimes, yeah change, you just.

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<v Speaker 3>Might need to freshen something up, just a fresh coat

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<v Speaker 3>of paint. And also tho magic eraser. I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>how the mister Clean magic eraser works. I can tell you, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>tell me you know the science behind it. How does

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<v Speaker 3>it work?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 4>Because I thought it was insane, because it really does

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<v Speaker 4>erace stuff. I'm pretty sure it's like a little bit

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<v Speaker 4>of a sander and it just sands the bit of

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<v Speaker 4>mess off a very gentle sander.

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<v Speaker 3>Sure, it's a very gentle sander with some heavy chemicals.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you think there's chemicals?

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<v Speaker 3>I think so.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it was like a sanding sponge.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, let's look it up. Okay, I feel like anything,

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<v Speaker 3>mister clean chemical.

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<v Speaker 4>Somebody told me it was a sander, and I believe them.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't fact check it.

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't feel like a sand like. I have a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of the different like I've the thin ones and

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<v Speaker 3>the thick sponges, and then I don't know that i'd

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<v Speaker 3>put it in sand paper category.

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<v Speaker 2>Gentle sandpaper?

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<v Speaker 3>Sure, is that any sponge? There's definitely something in it

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<v Speaker 3>that makes it. Well. My point is, so my laundry

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<v Speaker 3>room goes out to my garage, and the door that

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<v Speaker 3>goes to the garage is a different type of door

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<v Speaker 3>than all the doors in the rest of my house.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like a more commercial type door, like a metal

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<v Speaker 3>ish like. It's not like a wooden door you would

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<v Speaker 3>just paint. And it didn't really need to be painted.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was very, very dirty. So I took a

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<v Speaker 3>little magic eraser to it, and oh my gosh, am

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<v Speaker 3>I right, sorry, Sorry, Shannon just looked up what magic

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<v Speaker 3>eraser is, and it literally says magic eraser works like

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<v Speaker 3>a super fine sandpaper because of the melamine foam, a

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<v Speaker 3>material with a hard, poorus structure that acts as a

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<v Speaker 3>micro abrasive when you wet it. The foam's microplastic fibers

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<v Speaker 3>lift and trap dirt and grime, essentially exfoliating the stain

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<v Speaker 3>from the surface with physical friction rather than dissolving it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's crucial to test the eraser on a hidden spot first.

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<v Speaker 2>You're right, You're right, gentle sandpaper.

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<v Speaker 3>It is super fine. It's a micro abrasive.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I should have been more confident.

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<v Speaker 3>You should haven't. I should have trusted you. I just

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<v Speaker 3>thought it was more like a sponge. But I guess

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<v Speaker 3>it is a sponge. This it's a gentle sandpapering sponge,

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<v Speaker 3>super fine sandpaper sponge thing.

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<v Speaker 2>So now you can feel really good about using it

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<v Speaker 2>in your home.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, I said, out of the gate, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know how it works, and then you said I do,

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<v Speaker 3>and then I said tell us, and then you told us,

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<v Speaker 3>and I doubted you. So I am sorry. I'm really sorry.

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<v Speaker 4>To be fair, there's no reason that you should trust

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<v Speaker 4>me on that.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you see if there's chemicals in there though, because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm always scared to touch it with my bare hand. Yeah. Wait,

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<v Speaker 3>because well she'll look it up and we can continued. No,

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<v Speaker 3>I think you can just wear a glove.

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<v Speaker 4>Melamine foam is the maining green. It contains a chemical

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<v Speaker 4>called Oh no, I think it's just what they put

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<v Speaker 4>the dead cats in when we had a dix formaldehyde.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait does that want it happened? Hold on?

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<v Speaker 4>Hold on? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Malamine foam is the main ingredient in a magic eraser,

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<v Speaker 3>and it contains a chemical called formaldehyde and melamine sodium

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<v Speaker 3>bustle fight copolymer.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you shouldn't feel good about you.

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<v Speaker 3>So you're right and I'm right. We're both right. It's

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<v Speaker 3>a super fine sandpaper chemicals.

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<v Speaker 2>They preserve dead bodies with.

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<v Speaker 3>I will use it, but I keep gloves, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>the gloves that I made our protein balls with. I

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<v Speaker 3>have a whole box full. There's like five hundred latex

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<v Speaker 3>powderless gloves in there or something.

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<v Speaker 2>I just feel like I went through a roller coaster.

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<v Speaker 4>I was right, then I was not sure, then I

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<v Speaker 4>was right again, and then I was wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, this is like a metaphor for life. Feels

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes a roller coaster. You never know, you're just bobbing

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<v Speaker 3>and weaving.

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<v Speaker 2>Life is much like a magic eraser.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and trying to figure out what the heck it

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<v Speaker 3>is and if it's safe. And I love magic eraser,

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<v Speaker 3>and there's chemicals and lots of things that we use.

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<v Speaker 3>I just try to, you know, practice safety when using it.

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<v Speaker 3>So I put on my rubber gloves.

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<v Speaker 2>I just have been grabbing it.

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<v Speaker 3>Wash your hands, but who knows. Oop, Sorry, that was

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<v Speaker 3>my computer. I think that like you also, like we

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<v Speaker 3>have to sometimes absorb or consume an enormous amount of

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<v Speaker 3>certain chemicals for them to be I'd have body yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>like it's not like you're bathing or something like I

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<v Speaker 3>exfoliate my legs with it. And maybe that's me justifying

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<v Speaker 3>like diet coke, because I love diet coke and some

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<v Speaker 3>people are, oh, that's so bad, like you can't have

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<v Speaker 3>diet coke, and I'm like, okay, some of the research

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<v Speaker 3>that you read it shows that, yes, some of what

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<v Speaker 3>they use to produce that is harmful, but that's if

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<v Speaker 3>you're drinking five hundred.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm yeah, my husband drinks like three of them a day.

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<v Speaker 3>Though hyperbole with my numbers here, because I'm obviously not

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<v Speaker 3>sitting scientific fact right now. I'm just saying that sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>we have to do some critical thinking and be like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I can take this research, and then I can also

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<v Speaker 3>take this research and know that a diet coke here

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<v Speaker 3>and there is not going to harm me because I

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<v Speaker 3>love I love diet coke and I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>ever give it up. And maybe this is me just

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<v Speaker 3>justifying it for myself. Also, if they're doing it on

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<v Speaker 3>a rat, it's way smaller than me, so it's tiny, tiny, tiny,

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<v Speaker 3>So I would have to have a lot of diet

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<v Speaker 3>coke for it to be harmful, and you would have

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<v Speaker 3>to exfoliate your whole body with a magic erase.

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<v Speaker 4>Every day every day for it to be Have you

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<v Speaker 4>seen that people diet coke fridge cigarettes, which I think

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<v Speaker 4>at first was like supposed to be cute, And now

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<v Speaker 4>that you're talking, I'm like, I don't like the comparison.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I think it's very different, but they can't be addictive.

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<v Speaker 4>They like make sure it's on TikTok that say fridge

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<v Speaker 4>cigarette and has like a diet coke, And that's why

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<v Speaker 4>I think they thought it was like a cute name.

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<v Speaker 4>But I'm like, I don't think that I want the

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<v Speaker 4>drink that I prefer to be compared to a cigarette.

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<v Speaker 3>What if one day we find out that it is.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll be really happy because I would have let myself

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<v Speaker 4>drink all those diet cokes.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've loved a full, nice life.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, we're not They were thrilled.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not thrilled anymore. So can you bring us

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<v Speaker 2>back to this three?

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<v Speaker 3>Our feeling is not fear, it is thrilled. I am

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<v Speaker 3>thrilled that the magic eraser took all the grime off

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<v Speaker 3>my garage, the door that was white. The door, well,

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<v Speaker 3>it's just fun that it's clean now, like looking at yes,

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<v Speaker 3>it's satisfying to have it clean or organized. The cabinets kept,

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<v Speaker 3>the cabinets painted them, just changed the hardware. Ordered cheap

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<v Speaker 3>o antique brass hardware off of Amazon and new Hinges,

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<v Speaker 3>which total game changer because I at one point when

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<v Speaker 3>I bought the house, I was thinking, oh, we might

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<v Speaker 3>just need to rip these cabinets out because they're old

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<v Speaker 3>and put new ones in eventually. And now I'm like, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>don't underestimate the power of paint. And some new hardware

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<v Speaker 3>because it's changed the game. Let's see, I like to

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<v Speaker 3>get up and go look at your launch it. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I must have been extra dopamine filled or something. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know what neurotransmitter got me to do this, because

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<v Speaker 3>it's not my normal behavior. I mean, maybe if I

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<v Speaker 3>was on adderall I would do something like this, but

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<v Speaker 3>I'm I'm not. But I took my detergent out of

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<v Speaker 3>the thing it came in because I used the little

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<v Speaker 3>pods and I put it in a cute glass charm.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, what TikTok?

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<v Speaker 3>Did you watch nothing? That meat my brain My sister's

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<v Speaker 3>laundroom kind of looks like that, Which.

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<v Speaker 2>Is does it make you happy? Cute?

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<v Speaker 3>It made me happy in the moment, I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>this is not that hard. I don't have to live

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<v Speaker 3>this way, like no one's gonna see in the cabinet

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm not trying to show it off to anybody.

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<v Speaker 3>But I didn't go out and buy the glass container.

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<v Speaker 3>It's left over for my pantry and it wasn't being used. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so there's that if that makes you feel any better.

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<v Speaker 3>But even if I had gone out and bought it,

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<v Speaker 3>that's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>That's okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And then I ordered new wool dryer balls that

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<v Speaker 3>look like bumblebees.

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<v Speaker 2>How many did you get?

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<v Speaker 3>Six?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you gonna put them all in at the same time?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? They're extra large organic bumble bees. And they're so cute.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know they have all kinds of animals. They

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<v Speaker 3>have sheep, they have cow, they have hearts, they have ladybugs.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna have to get all the animals eventually, but

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna have to get more glass jars because you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna store my wool balls in the glass jars

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<v Speaker 3>to match the detergent.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you have to, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm thrilled about that, even though it's not normally

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<v Speaker 3>my personality. And I hung pictures in your laundry room

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<v Speaker 3>in my launder room, which is also think about it.

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<v Speaker 3>I walk out to the garage, I walk out that door,

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<v Speaker 3>I walk in that door. It should be happy. And

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<v Speaker 3>also I have told you, or hopefully at least tried

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<v Speaker 3>to convince you, that I love laundry, So why not

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<v Speaker 3>make the space happy. I put in a new sink.

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<v Speaker 3>I ordered a sink off Wayfair, this fairly inexpensive. And

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<v Speaker 3>I ordered a new light off Amazon, so bam, bam bam.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, obviously I had to hire somebody to do

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<v Speaker 3>put the sink and the light for the electrical but

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, not that much to upgrade this space. And

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<v Speaker 3>I'm thrilled about it. I am just that's the word.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just over.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just over the moon thrilled about it. Because the

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<v Speaker 3>picture frames I've had sitting in a closet since I

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<v Speaker 3>moved here last year into my new house, Like I

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<v Speaker 3>took them down from the other house, hadn't done anything

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<v Speaker 3>with and I had photos of me and the kids

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<v Speaker 3>from the last couple of years or show. Just went

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<v Speaker 3>through my phone and found some of us, printed them out,

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<v Speaker 3>put them in there, hung up the frames. Made what

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<v Speaker 3>I have one of those frames where you can like

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<v Speaker 3>take the little letters and write whatever you want. Those boards,

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<v Speaker 3>what are those called?

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<v Speaker 2>Like a felt board?

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<v Speaker 3>I felt?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what are those called? Why can't I think of

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<v Speaker 2>the word a letterboard? A letter board?

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<v Speaker 3>A felt letterboard?

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<v Speaker 2>That yeah, okay?

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<v Speaker 3>And I sat down.

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<v Speaker 2>What in the.

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<v Speaker 3>World the kind of drugs was on? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't even on a diked. No, I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I just had time and the kids weren't around.

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<v Speaker 3>So I sat down with the letters and put on

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<v Speaker 3>Real Housewives of something or another, and I just started

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<v Speaker 3>playing around with stuff. At the top, I put have

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<v Speaker 3>the day you need to have cue right, Then I

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<v Speaker 3>put be curious.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you should write I already did it. Oh okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm trying to think of the there's four things

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<v Speaker 3>on there. I'm trying to think of what I put

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<v Speaker 3>for the third thing? Okay, how did I need to

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<v Speaker 3>have be curious? Oh? No, you're worth I'm hoping my

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<v Speaker 3>kids will look at this when they're walking out the door.

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<v Speaker 3>The fourth thing is check the calendar. And I have

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<v Speaker 3>that hanging right above my skylight calendar. I had my

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<v Speaker 3>skylight calendar in my kitchen, but I have moved it

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<v Speaker 3>to the laundroom and mounted it on the wall.

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<v Speaker 4>You mounted it, no, oh, Nember had a handyman, got it,

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<v Speaker 4>got it, got it, got it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I had the idea to move off my counter

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<v Speaker 3>and mount it on the wall. But I mean I

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<v Speaker 3>could have, but since he was already here, we had

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<v Speaker 3>to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Are these the same men that came over and you

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<v Speaker 2>had the food in your teeth?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? Because I wanted to update if they acted weird

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<v Speaker 2>or anything.

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<v Speaker 3>No, this is just one guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you didn't have I do have.

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<v Speaker 3>A story about this guy, but I can't say it

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<v Speaker 3>right now.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll tell it.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I'll tell you about it later. So the handyman

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<v Speaker 3>hung the skylight shout out, but the calendar is there,

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<v Speaker 3>so I hung the felt board above it. So it's like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, how did you need to be curious? Know

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<v Speaker 3>you're worth check the calendar? So the kids know because

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<v Speaker 3>they're scheduled schools back in session. Do they have truck practice?

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<v Speaker 3>Do they have tutoring? When are they going to their dads?

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<v Speaker 3>When we need to start laundry to go to their

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<v Speaker 3>dads And it's in the laundry room all the things.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's so it's just it just feels like a home.

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<v Speaker 3>Now my laundry this also this this this my dyson.

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<v Speaker 3>They did back them out, hung them out.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop.

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<v Speaker 3>I've never done that.

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<v Speaker 2>Before three years. I haven't hung my vacuum mount.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well you want my you want my handyman to come.

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<v Speaker 2>Over, I'm gonna have my dad. We'll see.

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<v Speaker 3>Will you have a dad?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't, Well, my dad would come home your Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he would it's fine. He's halfway retired kind of.

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<v Speaker 4>Or he doesn't work Mondays and Fridays, so if you

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<v Speaker 4>need something on Monday or Friday, he would probably love

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<v Speaker 4>to come do it. Okay, Remember when he tried to

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<v Speaker 4>fix your outlets and he couldn't.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I will take him up on that, or take

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<v Speaker 3>you up on hitting him up, because I think you're right.

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<v Speaker 3>I think he would love that. And anytime he has

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<v Speaker 3>come over and helped us with podcast room stuff, it

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<v Speaker 3>is so reminded me of my dad because I know

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<v Speaker 3>if my dad were here, which I was sort of

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<v Speaker 3>making a joke earlier, like, well, you have a dad

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<v Speaker 3>and I don't. If you're new, my dad has passed away,

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<v Speaker 3>and we can stay light about it, stay fun. I

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<v Speaker 3>can be sad and also make jokes about how my

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<v Speaker 3>dad's not here. But he was the type of dad

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<v Speaker 3>that was very, very very handy and absolutely would have

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<v Speaker 3>done that. And is Alex handy he is. He changed

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<v Speaker 3>something on his toilet the other day and he made

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<v Speaker 3>his boys come in. He's like, come here, y'all need

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<v Speaker 3>to learn how to do this, because this is a

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<v Speaker 3>simple thing that's gonna, you know, save you two hundred bucks.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't have to call a plumber.

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<v Speaker 2>Could he have hung your vacuum ount?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>What's his level of handy? Can he change a sink?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have to ask about the sink thing.

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<v Speaker 2>But could your dad change a sink? You think?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? Yeah, night, I could do might I could build

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<v Speaker 3>a house? Okay, yeah, just like your dad?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well, my dad doesn't actually do the building of

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<v Speaker 4>a house, but I guess, but I bet you could.

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<v Speaker 2>He did. I think in college his job was construction,

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<v Speaker 2>like building houses.

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<v Speaker 3>Now my dad could build, like he made all kinds

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<v Speaker 3>of like his house, like the house he was in

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<v Speaker 3>when I was in high school. I remember a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of his furniture he made, like his night stands and

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<v Speaker 3>his headboard. And I don't know. I don't know how

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<v Speaker 3>I thought at that he had the time.

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<v Speaker 4>We can't, well, I shouldn't say that we can't. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't think because I've always thought like, that'd be so

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<v Speaker 4>cool if I was handy, Because I have a friend

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<v Speaker 4>that like just will go to Low's, buy stuff, get

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<v Speaker 4>it cut there, and build it. She built a mantle

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<v Speaker 4>for her apartment to have during Christmas, to like hang

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<v Speaker 4>stuff on a mantle. That crazy, I wish I could

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<v Speaker 4>do that kind of stuff, but I think that my

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<v Speaker 4>attention spanned the detail isn't there. I'd be like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 4>it doesn't have to be exactly correct, and then like

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<v Speaker 4>it'd be crooked or like I'd be like, I'll just

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<v Speaker 4>glue it together instead of nail it, and then it'll

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<v Speaker 4>fall apart.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's not gonna work if you're so.

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<v Speaker 4>Our types of brains. I just think that, yeah, we're

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<v Speaker 4>better if we hire people or a call.

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<v Speaker 3>I know. That's why I'm like, what's you know what?

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<v Speaker 4>I do?

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<v Speaker 3>Have a neurofeedback appointment. I'm going to ask her about that.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd be like, what'd you do? I had neurofeedback maybe

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<v Speaker 3>on this was Thursday or Friday that I did all

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<v Speaker 3>That's that I had the appointment, And I think on

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<v Speaker 3>a Saturday that I did all that stuff. So I'm

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<v Speaker 3>gonna ask her what she did, because I'm telling that whatever, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>brain cocktail that was, that has to be it, because

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<v Speaker 3>I've been sitting here perplexed, like what the heck. I've

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<v Speaker 3>had those felt boards forever and I wrote four things

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<v Speaker 3>on it. I sat down and wrote those four things.

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<v Speaker 3>I put my detergent in a jar something.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but here's the test though, something. Will you continue

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<v Speaker 2>to pour your det in the jar?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>Because it's there, and then when I buy it and

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<v Speaker 3>I'll replenish it.

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<v Speaker 4>Then I feel like when I move, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 4>be really motivated for like a week to get stuff done,

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<v Speaker 4>and then I'm gonna be like, yeah, So.

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<v Speaker 3>I think you're gonna be so excited though, like you'll

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<v Speaker 3>have that adrenaline going I think for like a week

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<v Speaker 3>or I think it's gonna last longer than a week.

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<v Speaker 4>You might have to come and do my laundy room

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<v Speaker 4>because I was thinking the launder room was the one

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<v Speaker 4>room I wouldn't have to do anything.

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<v Speaker 3>But you want me to come to your laundry room

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<v Speaker 3>because now I'm an experienced laundroom designer.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, okay, I would like to hand off my laundr

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<v Speaker 4>room to you. Oh my gosh, that will be a fun.

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<v Speaker 3>What's my budget?

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<v Speaker 2>So I just like you can use stuff that I

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<v Speaker 2>already own.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like I get one hundred dollars in a magic

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<v Speaker 3>erasorry get to work.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, one hundred dollars not counting paint. How about that?

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<v Speaker 2>It'll be free.

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<v Speaker 3>I have to paint it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, of course.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, you like to paint, now you can use It'll

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<v Speaker 4>be like a scavenger hunt. I'm like, okay, there's all

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<v Speaker 4>these boxes all over my house. You can open whatever

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<v Speaker 4>box you want, go through it, grab whatever you want,

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<v Speaker 4>and use that to decorate the laundry room.

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<v Speaker 2>You have no idea what you will find. Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>it's so fun. Thank you for doing this.

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<v Speaker 3>You're welcome. You sound like a mom to her kids,

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<v Speaker 3>like trying to convince them to do something like, oh

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<v Speaker 3>my gosh, this is gonna be so fun. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>a game. I'm going to count to ten.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll time you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I'll time And my mom would do that all

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<v Speaker 3>the time. I would never get ready for bed. I

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<v Speaker 3>would never want to hear I'll time you. I bet

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<v Speaker 3>you can't do it in less than two minutes. And

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<v Speaker 3>I'll be like, oh, yes I can.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, I bet you can't do my laundry

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<v Speaker 2>room in less than a week.

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<v Speaker 4>True.

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<v Speaker 3>True, because I saw how long it took me. Because

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<v Speaker 3>obviously I did all those little things on that one

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<v Speaker 3>Saturday that's most recent, but building up to that, it

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<v Speaker 3>definitely took cool a few weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, yeah, so that's why I would like you

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<v Speaker 2>to do it, and then the one cool room in

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<v Speaker 2>my house will be.

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<v Speaker 3>Your washer room. Yeah. Do I have a budget for

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<v Speaker 3>some wool balls, like cute ones like ladybugs?

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<v Speaker 2>The budget?

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, I'll gift some two housewarming gift.

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<v Speaker 4>Listen, anything for the laundry, like detergent or like wool

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<v Speaker 4>balls or whatever, not part of the budget. The one

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<v Speaker 4>hundred dollars is just for like design features.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, there's no new hardware.

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<v Speaker 4>There's cabinets. My laundry room is just a room. I

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<v Speaker 4>just bought a washer and dryer. Those will be in there,

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<v Speaker 4>and then I have like a wire shelf.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>So I don't know if I don't know if she's

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<v Speaker 4>gonna cut it, but I think you could really make

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<v Speaker 4>something of it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think we could find some cute baskets. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>need to put some baskets.

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<v Speaker 2>I already have cute baskets.

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<v Speaker 3>Can we like put like a wood foux covering over

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<v Speaker 3>the wire? Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, I saw that on TikTok Okay. Yeah, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>if you can get a good deal.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I saw that somewhere too. I guess it was

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<v Speaker 3>probably sick shak and that's why it's in my mind.

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<v Speaker 3>But it is. It's fascinating because it's just kind of

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<v Speaker 3>like slides over like a lot of people do it

0:20:04.240 --> 0:20:06.800
<v Speaker 3>in their pantries, and it just slides right close and

0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:07.800
<v Speaker 3>it just elevates it.

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<v Speaker 4>Shannon just said that I'm scamming you to unpack for you,

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<v Speaker 4>and you fell for it. Shannon just said that I'm

0:20:27.880 --> 0:20:30.760
<v Speaker 4>scamming you to unpack for you, and you.

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<v Speaker 3>Fell for it. You're like, just go around to every

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<v Speaker 3>box and open it up and pull everything out and

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<v Speaker 3>put it away, and I'm sure you'll find things that laundy.

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<v Speaker 2>Is working out over me?

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<v Speaker 3>Can I can I hire your dad as my assistant?

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<v Speaker 3>Or not hire, but like maybe my can he be

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<v Speaker 3>my laundry room assistant?

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<v Speaker 2>My dad?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because I'm going to need it. Yes, an assistant

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<v Speaker 3>to be like, hey.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes he can make the shelving Okay, oh my gosh. Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>Here's the great dad hack is when you ask your

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<v Speaker 4>dad to help you make something and he has to

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<v Speaker 4>go to Low's to get the supplies. A lot of

0:21:09.200 --> 0:21:11.920
<v Speaker 4>times he doesn't make you pay for the supplies, so

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<v Speaker 4>that would help your budget. You can just be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>Cat's dad, Can you grab some of these two by

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<v Speaker 4>fours on your way over?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>This is reminded me of the voice smell that we're

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<v Speaker 3>going to play today from a listener ok that has

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<v Speaker 3>resentment from people to expect our names from their dead.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not expecting to ask him. He says, what he

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<v Speaker 4>likes about me is I always offer to pay. I

0:21:32.480 --> 0:21:35.920
<v Speaker 4>think he just appreciates people offering. And sometimes when my

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<v Speaker 4>parents and men, Mommy, I vemo them back their money.

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<v Speaker 3>That's true. I can vouch for you on that and

0:21:41.000 --> 0:21:43.479
<v Speaker 3>your parents because you're moving and there's a lot going

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<v Speaker 3>on in life right now, and like they were offering

0:21:46.000 --> 0:21:48.840
<v Speaker 3>to pay for something for you, and I was thinking,

0:21:48.960 --> 0:21:52.200
<v Speaker 3>in my mind, are you crazy say yes to that?

0:21:52.400 --> 0:21:54.159
<v Speaker 3>And you were like I told him no, And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>what the.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe?

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<v Speaker 3>Because if it's two again, both my parents are not

0:21:59.280 --> 0:22:04.080
<v Speaker 3>alive and and so there's no fun surprises like that anymore. Yeah,

0:22:04.280 --> 0:22:06.360
<v Speaker 3>And I grew up with that, and you obviously grew

0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:08.359
<v Speaker 3>up with some of that, and that the voicemail we're

0:22:08.359 --> 0:22:09.960
<v Speaker 3>going to play is someone that didn't grow up with

0:22:10.080 --> 0:22:13.080
<v Speaker 3>anything like that. And Kat and I got into this

0:22:13.119 --> 0:22:15.879
<v Speaker 3>whole discussion after we listen to the voicemail about money

0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:17.720
<v Speaker 3>and how it's so relative.

0:22:17.560 --> 0:22:20.640
<v Speaker 2>And we both had to say SIV after because we both.

0:22:20.520 --> 0:22:24.560
<v Speaker 3>Got a little like feisty and snappy, and if you're

0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:26.560
<v Speaker 3>new here, SIB means sorry, I bitchy.

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<v Speaker 2>But also I will say that what I've had to learn.

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<v Speaker 4>And my mom made a comment to me the other

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<v Speaker 4>day when I was like, please don't do that, when

0:22:34.480 --> 0:22:36.520
<v Speaker 4>she was offering to do something for me, she said,

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<v Speaker 4>sometimes I just want to do things for my kids,

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<v Speaker 4>And so I had to be reminded like, Okay, yes,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want to be expectant of things or I

0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:47.720
<v Speaker 4>don't want to take from them and not then give.

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<v Speaker 2>But also her love language is gifts. She likes doing

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<v Speaker 2>that stuff for people.

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<v Speaker 3>If you don't take that away from it, yes, you

0:22:55.040 --> 0:22:59.240
<v Speaker 3>were robbing her of the opportunity to spread joy. Yeah,

0:23:00.000 --> 0:23:03.240
<v Speaker 3>which just selfish. Yeah, so you should accept that other.

0:23:06.760 --> 0:23:06.920
<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 3>Before we do get to the voicemail, which it's probably

0:23:09.760 --> 0:23:15.679
<v Speaker 3>one of the most authentic, vulnerable voicemails we've received. It's

0:23:15.840 --> 0:23:20.080
<v Speaker 3>very sweet and I appreciate her honesty, but she's definitely

0:23:20.240 --> 0:23:24.080
<v Speaker 3>struggling with a certain feeling and the feeling the feeling

0:23:24.160 --> 0:23:26.040
<v Speaker 3>is resentment. I'll just go ahead and say that it's

0:23:26.080 --> 0:23:28.360
<v Speaker 3>probably obvious by the way we're talking about it. There's

0:23:28.400 --> 0:23:32.720
<v Speaker 3>resentment around money at times, so we're gonna play that.

0:23:33.520 --> 0:23:35.840
<v Speaker 3>And I think even if you don't relate to exactly

0:23:35.920 --> 0:23:39.920
<v Speaker 3>what she's saying, I want you to hear the voicemail

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<v Speaker 3>so that you can be challenged. At least I was,

0:23:44.160 --> 0:23:49.360
<v Speaker 3>and I hope others are too, to examine your feelings

0:23:49.440 --> 0:23:51.879
<v Speaker 3>the way she's examining hers. And that's our hope for

0:23:52.000 --> 0:23:56.159
<v Speaker 3>this podcast, right is that we all have feelings and

0:23:56.240 --> 0:23:59.560
<v Speaker 3>we're trying to figure them out. And this voicemail is

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<v Speaker 3>such a beautiful example of really tapping into the awareness

0:24:03.680 --> 0:24:05.360
<v Speaker 3>of a feeling, like I don't think she really knows

0:24:05.400 --> 0:24:08.120
<v Speaker 3>what to do with it quite yet, but she knows

0:24:08.160 --> 0:24:11.760
<v Speaker 3>it's there and she wants to figure out Yeah, and

0:24:11.800 --> 0:24:14.119
<v Speaker 3>she's owning it. She's not running from it, and you

0:24:14.160 --> 0:24:16.520
<v Speaker 3>can hear the emotion in her voice. It's just tender,

0:24:17.440 --> 0:24:20.680
<v Speaker 3>and that I think will be the main main takeaway

0:24:20.760 --> 0:24:23.080
<v Speaker 3>for every single person. Even if you can't relate to

0:24:23.160 --> 0:24:27.320
<v Speaker 3>the topic, let the takeaway be wow, I want to

0:24:27.400 --> 0:24:30.720
<v Speaker 3>be in tune with other feelings. Maybe I don't have

0:24:30.800 --> 0:24:34.160
<v Speaker 3>that exact one of resentment, but I might have XYZ,

0:24:35.119 --> 0:24:38.040
<v Speaker 3>and I want to be honest like that about it

0:24:38.520 --> 0:24:42.280
<v Speaker 3>and explore what's going on. So before we get to

0:24:42.320 --> 0:24:45.240
<v Speaker 3>the voicemail, though, I gave my feeling today, which was thrilled,

0:24:45.359 --> 0:24:47.600
<v Speaker 3>and I know you have a feeling of the day,

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<v Speaker 3>So what is yours?

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<v Speaker 4>Kat? My feelings have changed a little bit through this

0:24:52.720 --> 0:24:56.479
<v Speaker 4>conversation really because I was a little bit annoyed earlier.

0:24:57.040 --> 0:24:58.000
<v Speaker 3>Oh because Sib.

0:24:59.040 --> 0:25:02.040
<v Speaker 4>No, Well, I think that's maybe why I was SIB,

0:25:02.119 --> 0:25:05.560
<v Speaker 4>because I just have been feeling annoyed and frustrated today.

0:25:06.320 --> 0:25:10.720
<v Speaker 2>But I think my feeling is intrigued.

0:25:11.160 --> 0:25:13.359
<v Speaker 3>While you went from annoyed to intrigued, which you can

0:25:13.400 --> 0:25:15.040
<v Speaker 3>be annoyed and intrigued at the same time.

0:25:15.280 --> 0:25:18.520
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so I don't feel that presently I did fifteen

0:25:18.520 --> 0:25:18.960
<v Speaker 4>minutes ago.

0:25:19.080 --> 0:25:21.480
<v Speaker 3>You were annoyed and now, wow, wow.

0:25:23.080 --> 0:25:26.000
<v Speaker 2>Exact bro. I think I'm just like, well, it's just cool.

0:25:26.800 --> 0:25:28.720
<v Speaker 3>I think it's great. Look what our podcast can do.

0:25:31.000 --> 0:25:35.359
<v Speaker 4>Okay, but I'm intrigued because this morning I got my

0:25:35.960 --> 0:25:38.240
<v Speaker 4>genetic blood test. They don't just like give you the

0:25:38.280 --> 0:25:40.159
<v Speaker 4>results when you do that, they make you do like

0:25:40.200 --> 0:25:43.120
<v Speaker 4>a counseling call. It was really interesting because it wasn't

0:25:43.200 --> 0:25:45.520
<v Speaker 4>like therapeutic. I think they just don't want you to

0:25:45.600 --> 0:25:47.840
<v Speaker 4>get these results without being able to really understand what

0:25:47.880 --> 0:25:49.560
<v Speaker 4>they are because it can freak people out. I'm just

0:25:49.680 --> 0:25:53.960
<v Speaker 4>seeing what mutations that I carry, and it's normal to

0:25:54.119 --> 0:25:58.119
<v Speaker 4>have the mutations. We all have them, except I had

0:25:58.119 --> 0:25:59.679
<v Speaker 4>four and Patrick who had one, and I.

0:26:01.680 --> 0:26:06.280
<v Speaker 2>Felt like I lost. I thought he was gonna have

0:26:06.359 --> 0:26:10.359
<v Speaker 2>like mayby seven or something like that, but he had won, and.

0:26:11.840 --> 0:26:13.240
<v Speaker 3>Oh no, I want to know mine.

0:26:13.520 --> 0:26:14.640
<v Speaker 2>So it is really interesting.

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<v Speaker 4>It's really expensive though, so if you don't have a

0:26:16.680 --> 0:26:18.959
<v Speaker 4>reason to do it, and well, depending on if your

0:26:19.000 --> 0:26:21.080
<v Speaker 4>insurance covers it, our stident. So I sign up for

0:26:21.119 --> 0:26:24.800
<v Speaker 4>a survey, so I got a discount anyway, we had this.

0:26:25.840 --> 0:26:27.200
<v Speaker 3>Well that's good to know that if you do a

0:26:27.240 --> 0:26:28.360
<v Speaker 3>survey you can get a discount.

0:26:28.400 --> 0:26:30.560
<v Speaker 4>Well, I don't know if that's offered. I don't know

0:26:30.560 --> 0:26:32.879
<v Speaker 4>if it's just where we went they offered that. So

0:26:33.000 --> 0:26:35.080
<v Speaker 4>I don't want anybody like, what's the discount. I don't

0:26:35.520 --> 0:26:37.080
<v Speaker 4>I don't know. It could have just been from the

0:26:37.119 --> 0:26:42.040
<v Speaker 4>clinic AnyWho. We're doing this testing and basically all she's

0:26:42.080 --> 0:26:44.320
<v Speaker 4>saying is like, these are the mutations that you have.

0:26:44.440 --> 0:26:45.359
<v Speaker 2>This is what you carry.

0:26:45.880 --> 0:26:49.119
<v Speaker 4>So if me and Patrick had the same mutation, that

0:26:49.200 --> 0:26:52.520
<v Speaker 4>would not be great because then we could pass that

0:26:52.600 --> 0:26:54.480
<v Speaker 4>to our kid. But they're recessive, so like, if I

0:26:54.680 --> 0:26:57.440
<v Speaker 4>have it, the chances of our kid having it isn't.

0:26:57.280 --> 0:26:58.160
<v Speaker 2>Super super likely.

0:26:59.000 --> 0:27:02.880
<v Speaker 4>However, she's going through these, I forget the names of them,

0:27:02.920 --> 0:27:05.240
<v Speaker 4>and I don't have the like PaperWorks, so I can't

0:27:05.240 --> 0:27:07.840
<v Speaker 4>say what they are. She gets to the third one

0:27:08.000 --> 0:27:09.760
<v Speaker 4>and she's like, oh, and then you have this one.

0:27:10.280 --> 0:27:13.120
<v Speaker 4>She says the name, it's like a long scientific name

0:27:13.200 --> 0:27:13.919
<v Speaker 4>for alder.

0:27:13.680 --> 0:27:17.920
<v Speaker 3>Hyde, magic eraser.

0:27:18.080 --> 0:27:19.920
<v Speaker 2>And she goes, and do you guys know who Helen

0:27:20.000 --> 0:27:20.440
<v Speaker 2>Keller is?

0:27:20.680 --> 0:27:22.920
<v Speaker 4>And I go, we go, yeah, she goes, this is

0:27:22.960 --> 0:27:25.560
<v Speaker 4>what they think Helen Keller had, So that's pretty cool.

0:27:28.240 --> 0:27:30.119
<v Speaker 2>I did not to say so I think I was like,

0:27:30.640 --> 0:27:31.359
<v Speaker 2>that's so neat.

0:27:34.080 --> 0:27:39.920
<v Speaker 3>You're blind dead, she goes.

0:27:40.280 --> 0:27:42.840
<v Speaker 2>She goes, she was blind and deaf, but she was

0:27:42.960 --> 0:27:46.840
<v Speaker 2>able to communicate, so that's really exciting. She has mute, she.

0:27:46.960 --> 0:27:49.040
<v Speaker 4>Was able to communicate in other ways because her brain

0:27:49.200 --> 0:27:52.320
<v Speaker 4>was still there, Like she had a functioning brain and

0:27:52.400 --> 0:27:53.800
<v Speaker 4>she was able to like think, I.

0:27:53.880 --> 0:27:57.680
<v Speaker 3>Know, speaking of TikTok. There's all kinds of conspiracies about

0:27:57.920 --> 0:28:02.439
<v Speaker 3>how like if Helen Keller is as inspiring as we Oh,

0:28:02.520 --> 0:28:05.560
<v Speaker 3>really no, I mean I'm sure she's inspiring. Is just like,

0:28:05.680 --> 0:28:06.920
<v Speaker 3>come on, was she really able to?

0:28:07.560 --> 0:28:08.480
<v Speaker 2>Did she write a book?

0:28:11.760 --> 0:28:15.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm only laughing because of the tiktoks I've seen. I

0:28:15.320 --> 0:28:15.720
<v Speaker 3>don't know.

0:28:16.320 --> 0:28:18.080
<v Speaker 4>I don't know, Okay, to be fair, I don't know

0:28:18.119 --> 0:28:19.359
<v Speaker 4>a lot about her, but now I feel like I

0:28:19.440 --> 0:28:20.560
<v Speaker 4>should look into it.

0:28:21.080 --> 0:28:25.680
<v Speaker 2>You guess it's only a one in thirteen thousand chances.

0:28:25.720 --> 0:28:27.520
<v Speaker 2>So she was like, so it's not like a lot.

0:28:27.920 --> 0:28:29.960
<v Speaker 3>I mean that sounds high to me, Like what in

0:28:30.040 --> 0:28:33.000
<v Speaker 3>a million? Seems like well, actually one day.

0:28:33.119 --> 0:28:37.200
<v Speaker 4>So the two other ones were one in two hundred.

0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:39.840
<v Speaker 4>I'm just thinking some other things that she said that

0:28:39.960 --> 0:28:43.480
<v Speaker 4>cracked me up. I have this other mutation that it's

0:28:44.080 --> 0:28:46.720
<v Speaker 4>night blindness. Then I think it turns into like blindness

0:28:46.880 --> 0:28:50.280
<v Speaker 4>you have that. I just have bad eyesight, but I

0:28:50.280 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 4>don't have this disorder. But she goes Actually my sister's

0:28:54.400 --> 0:28:57.840
<v Speaker 4>babysitter growing up, when she used to run into walls

0:28:57.880 --> 0:28:58.640
<v Speaker 4>and they thought she was.

0:28:58.680 --> 0:29:00.760
<v Speaker 2>Just clumsy, but turns out she was going blind.

0:29:01.920 --> 0:29:05.160
<v Speaker 4>Do you have all these like antidotes from all these stories,

0:29:05.560 --> 0:29:08.240
<v Speaker 4>but that could be my kid. But that one I

0:29:08.360 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 4>only have a one in two hundred thousand chance. So

0:29:11.920 --> 0:29:15.120
<v Speaker 4>she said, there never can be a zero chance of anything,

0:29:15.240 --> 0:29:18.760
<v Speaker 4>but one in two hundred thousand is basically zero, so

0:29:18.840 --> 0:29:21.160
<v Speaker 4>it doesn't need like one in a million. So one

0:29:21.240 --> 0:29:25.760
<v Speaker 4>in thirteen thousand is pretty unlikely. Okay, I'm not worried

0:29:25.800 --> 0:29:28.280
<v Speaker 4>about it. And then my other one was a lot

0:29:28.360 --> 0:29:30.680
<v Speaker 4>more likely, and that's one in eight hundred. But it

0:29:30.800 --> 0:29:33.000
<v Speaker 4>was like an iron deficiency thing that I think people

0:29:33.080 --> 0:29:34.120
<v Speaker 4>live pretty healthy lives with.

0:29:34.640 --> 0:29:36.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm pretty sure I have an iron deficiency.

0:29:37.680 --> 0:29:38.640
<v Speaker 2>It was a certain kind.

0:29:38.800 --> 0:29:40.760
<v Speaker 4>Well, actually it was interesting because she said it was

0:29:40.840 --> 0:29:43.400
<v Speaker 4>something that most people don't realize they have until they

0:29:43.440 --> 0:29:44.200
<v Speaker 4>go through menopause.

0:29:45.120 --> 0:29:45.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't know why.

0:29:46.480 --> 0:29:48.760
<v Speaker 3>That's when it starts. That's when they start to I

0:29:48.800 --> 0:29:50.680
<v Speaker 3>guess it's like asymptomatic until then.

0:29:50.760 --> 0:29:52.320
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so like you live a pretty normal life. And

0:29:52.440 --> 0:29:55.560
<v Speaker 4>the blindness one, the night blindness, she said, you go

0:29:55.720 --> 0:29:56.800
<v Speaker 4>blind in adulthood.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, this is crazy. And sorry, I don't

0:30:00.600 --> 0:30:03.120
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I need to apologize about the Helen

0:30:03.200 --> 0:30:05.280
<v Speaker 3>Keller thing and giggling like I don't know. I've just

0:30:05.360 --> 0:30:09.040
<v Speaker 3>seen conspiracies on TikTok. I'm not saying they're true.

0:30:09.680 --> 0:30:13.360
<v Speaker 4>I think you're talking about my kid right now, and

0:30:13.480 --> 0:30:16.760
<v Speaker 4>now I'm identifying with Helen Keller as one of my children.

0:30:16.840 --> 0:30:18.840
<v Speaker 3>Maybe that's why I want to apologize, is because I

0:30:18.880 --> 0:30:20.680
<v Speaker 3>don't want to offend your like I'm not trying to

0:30:21.000 --> 0:30:25.360
<v Speaker 3>if anybody, or if anybody knows Helen, which they didn't,

0:30:25.800 --> 0:30:29.680
<v Speaker 3>but maybe she's a distant relative. I just didn't want

0:30:29.720 --> 0:30:33.200
<v Speaker 3>to be offensive because I think she did a lot

0:30:33.240 --> 0:30:35.760
<v Speaker 3>of amazing things, and she had a teacher and a

0:30:36.440 --> 0:30:37.000
<v Speaker 3>well guy.

0:30:37.400 --> 0:30:39.360
<v Speaker 4>I don't really know a lot about her, but my

0:30:39.480 --> 0:30:42.240
<v Speaker 4>point in the story is she was so excited to share.

0:30:42.040 --> 0:30:45.160
<v Speaker 3>With me that fact when that doesn't seem like to me,

0:30:45.640 --> 0:30:47.480
<v Speaker 3>like that would be a very like so fun.

0:30:48.360 --> 0:30:51.720
<v Speaker 4>I think also, she probably talks about this stuff a lot,

0:30:51.840 --> 0:30:53.800
<v Speaker 4>and when she first said it, I was like, oh,

0:30:53.880 --> 0:30:55.640
<v Speaker 4>I don't really know what that means. So maybe it's

0:30:55.640 --> 0:30:58.280
<v Speaker 4>a way for her to help us understand what she's saying.

0:30:58.400 --> 0:31:01.000
<v Speaker 3>Right, you know, you're intrigued.

0:31:01.320 --> 0:31:02.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm intrigued.

0:31:02.280 --> 0:31:03.040
<v Speaker 3>I'm intrigued too.

0:31:03.280 --> 0:31:07.200
<v Speaker 2>I forget what Patrick's one mutation was probably was like

0:31:08.200 --> 0:31:08.720
<v Speaker 2>blonde hair.

0:31:10.400 --> 0:31:11.080
<v Speaker 3>That's not a mute.

0:31:11.120 --> 0:31:12.560
<v Speaker 2>That's a recessive. Isn't that recessive?

0:31:12.600 --> 0:31:16.360
<v Speaker 3>Oh? I don't know. I don't know anything about these thing.

0:31:15.680 --> 0:31:18.200
<v Speaker 2>That's less likely, but that wouldn't be like a mutation.

0:31:19.320 --> 0:31:25.720
<v Speaker 3>Okay, well keep us posted. This is so interesting. Okay,

0:31:25.840 --> 0:31:28.360
<v Speaker 3>well shall we get into the voicemail?

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, Amy and Kat. My name is McKinsey. I live

0:31:31.560 --> 0:31:35.160
<v Speaker 5>in Texas. You can share all the facts. You can

0:31:35.240 --> 0:31:38.840
<v Speaker 5>play this voicemail before actually getting to the voicemail. Your

0:31:38.960 --> 0:31:43.160
<v Speaker 5>little intro for the voicemail message is super funny. Maybe

0:31:43.240 --> 0:31:45.280
<v Speaker 5>smile before. Like, I want to say something I'm kind

0:31:45.280 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 5>of sad about. So my feeling is resentment. I have

0:31:49.800 --> 0:31:53.080
<v Speaker 5>a really hard time, especially in the last few years,

0:31:53.800 --> 0:31:58.560
<v Speaker 5>being around people that came from money and kind of

0:31:58.680 --> 0:32:02.520
<v Speaker 5>this expectation that they have around the things that families

0:32:02.600 --> 0:32:06.800
<v Speaker 5>do for them that you know, they had their college

0:32:06.880 --> 0:32:10.640
<v Speaker 5>paid for, they have their parents pay for their weddings,

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:15.800
<v Speaker 5>they are having babies and these big baby showers where

0:32:15.880 --> 0:32:19.960
<v Speaker 5>they received these really fancy and expensive gifts when I

0:32:20.080 --> 0:32:24.040
<v Speaker 5>didn't come from any of that. And so although I'm

0:32:24.120 --> 0:32:28.120
<v Speaker 5>around it now and I like these people, they're kind

0:32:28.200 --> 0:32:31.240
<v Speaker 5>to people that they don't even realize the privilege that

0:32:31.400 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 5>they have, and I end up holding up with her

0:32:34.280 --> 0:32:38.400
<v Speaker 5>present'm it against them, and I'm just not really sure

0:32:38.520 --> 0:32:43.760
<v Speaker 5>how to navigate that without holding against them. Well, also

0:32:44.120 --> 0:32:48.360
<v Speaker 5>not having icky feelings whenever I see something good in

0:32:48.440 --> 0:32:51.040
<v Speaker 5>their life that I'm not kidding. So I would love

0:32:51.240 --> 0:32:55.680
<v Speaker 5>just some advice around that. Appreciate that you guys so.

0:32:55.840 --> 0:32:59.280
<v Speaker 3>Good, like a very very very special boy, smil would

0:32:59.280 --> 0:33:01.000
<v Speaker 3>you see what I mean about the man? I know

0:33:01.080 --> 0:33:02.440
<v Speaker 3>you know because we listen to it together, but to

0:33:02.520 --> 0:33:04.240
<v Speaker 3>the listeners, like y'all see what we mean about just

0:33:04.360 --> 0:33:09.520
<v Speaker 3>the tenderness and the honesty and vulnerability there opening up

0:33:09.560 --> 0:33:11.200
<v Speaker 3>and sharing that and being like, hey, you can play

0:33:11.240 --> 0:33:16.960
<v Speaker 3>this and share it with everybody. Thoughts, Kat, you're.

0:33:16.920 --> 0:33:18.120
<v Speaker 2>Just passing that over to me.

0:33:18.640 --> 0:33:23.120
<v Speaker 4>So I think that one the best part about her

0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:25.640
<v Speaker 4>sharing this is her acknowledging it, like we already said,

0:33:25.880 --> 0:33:27.840
<v Speaker 4>because a lot of times when we have those feelings,

0:33:28.200 --> 0:33:30.480
<v Speaker 4>we push them down and we then they end up

0:33:30.520 --> 0:33:34.000
<v Speaker 4>being like pushed towards the other person. And I think

0:33:34.120 --> 0:33:36.760
<v Speaker 4>in that voicemail, she was saying they're good people, like

0:33:36.840 --> 0:33:38.080
<v Speaker 4>this isn't really about them.

0:33:38.680 --> 0:33:40.560
<v Speaker 2>I just don't know what to do with it. I

0:33:40.640 --> 0:33:43.200
<v Speaker 2>think that already is going to relieve something for her.

0:33:44.120 --> 0:33:45.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't know that there is.

0:33:45.240 --> 0:33:49.320
<v Speaker 4>Anything that we can say or do on the podcast

0:33:49.400 --> 0:33:51.920
<v Speaker 4>that's going to help her untangle all of that. It

0:33:52.000 --> 0:33:56.400
<v Speaker 4>sounds like there's something underneath the thing. So she's feeling

0:33:56.440 --> 0:33:59.080
<v Speaker 4>resentment when and correct me if I'm getting some of

0:33:59.120 --> 0:34:02.920
<v Speaker 4>this wrong, but she's feeling resentment when she sees people

0:34:03.520 --> 0:34:09.200
<v Speaker 4>expectant of things financial things from their families, or when

0:34:09.320 --> 0:34:12.040
<v Speaker 4>people just get things that are kind of extravagant in

0:34:12.080 --> 0:34:15.319
<v Speaker 4>her eyes. Okay, that's the thing, But what's the thing

0:34:15.440 --> 0:34:17.799
<v Speaker 4>underneath the thing? And that's what she has to kind

0:34:17.800 --> 0:34:19.880
<v Speaker 4>of unravel with herself. And if she was sitting here,

0:34:19.920 --> 0:34:23.279
<v Speaker 4>I'd probably ask her some questions to get to that.

0:34:24.280 --> 0:34:28.480
<v Speaker 4>But what I can offer her is that feeling of resentment,

0:34:28.560 --> 0:34:31.080
<v Speaker 4>which there might be some jealousy or some envy in

0:34:31.120 --> 0:34:34.080
<v Speaker 4>there too. Jealousy and envy aren't really they're not bad.

0:34:34.760 --> 0:34:37.680
<v Speaker 4>Those help us identify things that we care about and

0:34:37.760 --> 0:34:41.600
<v Speaker 4>things we want, but that might not ever totally go away.

0:34:41.800 --> 0:34:45.960
<v Speaker 4>And so rather than I think when we are looking

0:34:46.080 --> 0:34:49.240
<v Speaker 4>to process things, we want the feeling to go away,

0:34:49.360 --> 0:34:51.000
<v Speaker 4>we think, when we process it, oh, this will then

0:34:51.280 --> 0:34:54.000
<v Speaker 4>go away or dissipate, when a lot of times it

0:34:54.280 --> 0:34:57.160
<v Speaker 4>just maybe shrinks a little bit and then we find

0:34:57.200 --> 0:35:01.040
<v Speaker 4>something else that's there too. So if you're processing this

0:35:01.239 --> 0:35:03.120
<v Speaker 4>and you're doing the digging or doing the work to

0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:06.839
<v Speaker 4>understand what's the thing underneath the thing, know that those

0:35:06.920 --> 0:35:10.239
<v Speaker 4>feelings might be there and this other thing might be there.

0:35:11.120 --> 0:35:13.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think that whatever the work needs to be

0:35:13.960 --> 0:35:16.440
<v Speaker 3>done to untangle that. I like that word untangle and

0:35:16.520 --> 0:35:20.360
<v Speaker 3>figure out what's underneath there. While the feeling of resentment

0:35:20.400 --> 0:35:22.680
<v Speaker 3>may always be there, maybe it's sometimes it just won't

0:35:22.719 --> 0:35:25.719
<v Speaker 3>be as loud anymore and it won't be as like

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:28.359
<v Speaker 3>bring up such emotion.

0:35:28.480 --> 0:35:33.040
<v Speaker 4>And maybe just more from resentment to more of this envy.

0:35:33.560 --> 0:35:36.200
<v Speaker 4>I think envy and jealousy get like a bad rap

0:35:36.480 --> 0:35:39.480
<v Speaker 4>when like they can be very helpful. I get jealous

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:42.160
<v Speaker 4>of people that have things that I want or things

0:35:42.200 --> 0:35:47.399
<v Speaker 4>that I have grieved or things that I never got

0:35:47.480 --> 0:35:51.440
<v Speaker 4>to have. And that's not that I'm mad at those people.

0:35:51.880 --> 0:35:54.680
<v Speaker 4>It's that, oh, dang it, that would have been cool.

0:35:55.320 --> 0:35:58.279
<v Speaker 3>And sometimes it's even information to what you do want

0:35:58.600 --> 0:36:00.279
<v Speaker 3>or what you want to work towards. Some of it

0:36:00.800 --> 0:36:02.920
<v Speaker 3>may or may not be attainable. It's not always going

0:36:02.960 --> 0:36:04.440
<v Speaker 3>to be that, but if it is something you can

0:36:04.560 --> 0:36:08.680
<v Speaker 3>work towards, it can be information of like, well maybe

0:36:09.120 --> 0:36:11.879
<v Speaker 3>that's what I want. Not in this caller's case, I'm

0:36:11.960 --> 0:36:15.920
<v Speaker 3>just saying the feeling of jealousy or envy when that

0:36:16.000 --> 0:36:20.399
<v Speaker 3>does come up, it can be information for that, right right, right, yeah,

0:36:20.520 --> 0:36:23.080
<v Speaker 3>licensed therapist, But what do you.

0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:25.279
<v Speaker 4>Want to talk about what you said earlier and why

0:36:25.360 --> 0:36:38.600
<v Speaker 4>we got into a little SIV? Do you want to

0:36:38.600 --> 0:36:40.920
<v Speaker 4>talk about what you said earlier and why we got

0:36:41.120 --> 0:36:42.400
<v Speaker 4>into a little SIV? Well?

0:36:42.440 --> 0:36:46.799
<v Speaker 3>I think that, like it's it's all in perspective at

0:36:46.840 --> 0:36:52.319
<v Speaker 3>times too, and money is so relative because I don't

0:36:52.360 --> 0:36:54.839
<v Speaker 3>know how she grew up, so that's hard to say.

0:36:55.520 --> 0:36:58.399
<v Speaker 3>I do know that sometimes we can do a lot

0:36:58.480 --> 0:37:02.320
<v Speaker 3>of comparing or feeling like, oh, well, you know, because

0:37:02.360 --> 0:37:07.800
<v Speaker 3>we don't have XYZ, we don't have money, or I

0:37:07.840 --> 0:37:10.400
<v Speaker 3>guess it's not even like a luxury, but we aren't privileged.

0:37:10.960 --> 0:37:14.719
<v Speaker 3>But again not knowing her circumstances specifically, but I just

0:37:14.800 --> 0:37:19.400
<v Speaker 3>think I didn't think I grew up super wealthy, but

0:37:19.520 --> 0:37:21.960
<v Speaker 3>now that I'm an adult, I think I did grow

0:37:22.080 --> 0:37:25.440
<v Speaker 3>up wealthy, ish and privileged, but also my dad went

0:37:25.520 --> 0:37:28.400
<v Speaker 3>bankrupt multiple times, so I had speaking of We were

0:37:28.400 --> 0:37:32.040
<v Speaker 3>talking about roller coaster of emotions earlier. I have such

0:37:32.040 --> 0:37:35.200
<v Speaker 3>a roller coaster of emotions with money. And I think

0:37:36.000 --> 0:37:39.600
<v Speaker 3>we lived in a country club neighborhood. But then my

0:37:39.719 --> 0:37:41.879
<v Speaker 3>dad moved out when I was nine, and my mom

0:37:42.120 --> 0:37:45.040
<v Speaker 3>was a single mom working all the time, and all

0:37:45.160 --> 0:37:47.560
<v Speaker 3>my not all. A lot of my friends in my

0:37:47.560 --> 0:37:50.200
<v Speaker 3>neighborhood went to private school. I went to public school

0:37:50.280 --> 0:37:52.640
<v Speaker 3>with some of my other friends. I don't mean to

0:37:52.680 --> 0:37:55.640
<v Speaker 3>paint it like everybody in my neighborhood went to private school,

0:37:55.680 --> 0:37:57.520
<v Speaker 3>but a lot of people did. But I think I

0:37:57.640 --> 0:38:00.720
<v Speaker 3>compared myself, so to me, I'm like, well, my friends

0:38:00.920 --> 0:38:03.200
<v Speaker 3>in my neighborhood have a lot of money. But then

0:38:03.280 --> 0:38:05.799
<v Speaker 3>anybody looking at my life thinking, oh, she grew up

0:38:05.800 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 3>in that neighborhood, which my mom never wanted to move

0:38:08.160 --> 0:38:09.640
<v Speaker 3>because she wanted us to live in the same house

0:38:09.680 --> 0:38:12.359
<v Speaker 3>stro eighteen. So she figured that out and then part

0:38:12.360 --> 0:38:14.080
<v Speaker 3>of the divorce, my dad gave her the house. But

0:38:14.120 --> 0:38:16.239
<v Speaker 3>I don't think she would have stayed there. Ideally. It

0:38:16.400 --> 0:38:19.840
<v Speaker 3>wasn't great for her, but she made it work because

0:38:19.880 --> 0:38:23.640
<v Speaker 3>she wanted as little disruption on our lives as possible,

0:38:23.800 --> 0:38:27.799
<v Speaker 3>which I admire a lot. Looking back, There's no way

0:38:27.880 --> 0:38:30.600
<v Speaker 3>someone else would like working with Bobby and knowing how

0:38:30.640 --> 0:38:33.919
<v Speaker 3>he grew up in you were privilege, a trailer park

0:38:34.120 --> 0:38:37.480
<v Speaker 3>and going from house to house and getting evicted, and

0:38:37.880 --> 0:38:40.200
<v Speaker 3>his single mom life was very different than my single

0:38:40.320 --> 0:38:42.959
<v Speaker 3>mom life because I also had a dad that still

0:38:43.080 --> 0:38:47.040
<v Speaker 3>wanted to support us financially, and I was gifted my

0:38:47.560 --> 0:38:51.520
<v Speaker 3>first car and a gas card. Our poor listener who

0:38:51.560 --> 0:38:53.800
<v Speaker 3>left the voicemails listening right now, And I hope not

0:38:53.880 --> 0:38:56.520
<v Speaker 3>having resentment towards me, but I don't think I expect

0:38:56.640 --> 0:39:01.400
<v Speaker 3>that though, But that's what happened. And then my wedding

0:39:01.520 --> 0:39:04.879
<v Speaker 3>paid for my college. I kind of wish he would

0:39:04.920 --> 0:39:07.960
<v Speaker 3>have made it a little more difficult on me, quite honestly,

0:39:08.440 --> 0:39:13.640
<v Speaker 3>And for that very reason, I'm parenting my children differently,

0:39:14.120 --> 0:39:16.640
<v Speaker 3>Like for the first time ever now that our daughter's eighteen,

0:39:16.760 --> 0:39:18.759
<v Speaker 3>and Ben and I had a little sit down with

0:39:18.840 --> 0:39:21.920
<v Speaker 3>her on expectations and money, and for the first time

0:39:22.040 --> 0:39:26.040
<v Speaker 3>ever this month she started paying us like a lump

0:39:26.120 --> 0:39:28.960
<v Speaker 3>sum at the beginning of every month. Now that she's eighteen,

0:39:29.080 --> 0:39:33.799
<v Speaker 3>she's paying us a chunk towards cell phone, car insurance,

0:39:34.840 --> 0:39:38.120
<v Speaker 3>gas and it's a chunk, but she's earning it at

0:39:38.160 --> 0:39:41.279
<v Speaker 3>her job, and then we're trying to get her ready

0:39:41.320 --> 0:39:43.560
<v Speaker 3>for that's what rent and bills will be like. And

0:39:43.640 --> 0:39:46.799
<v Speaker 3>so at the first of every month she is paying us,

0:39:47.080 --> 0:39:49.200
<v Speaker 3>she has an amount due and it's like fork it

0:39:49.280 --> 0:39:51.960
<v Speaker 3>over and she's sort of excited about it.

0:39:52.480 --> 0:39:55.160
<v Speaker 2>And because agency too.

0:39:55.360 --> 0:39:58.839
<v Speaker 3>Yes, that never was expected of me, and I'm sort

0:39:58.880 --> 0:40:02.160
<v Speaker 3>of annoyed that my dad didn't teach me that and

0:40:02.440 --> 0:40:06.239
<v Speaker 3>do that for me of like saying, hey, pay for

0:40:06.360 --> 0:40:08.640
<v Speaker 3>your own cats, pay for your own insurance. Now I

0:40:08.680 --> 0:40:11.759
<v Speaker 3>had friends that did that. Anyway, back to my original point,

0:40:12.320 --> 0:40:15.320
<v Speaker 3>I think money there's all different kinds of conversations you

0:40:15.400 --> 0:40:18.440
<v Speaker 3>can have around it, obviously, but it's so relative because

0:40:19.120 --> 0:40:22.560
<v Speaker 3>I felt less than but that's because people I was

0:40:22.600 --> 0:40:26.600
<v Speaker 3>surrounded by had so much money. But then people would

0:40:26.640 --> 0:40:30.320
<v Speaker 3>look at our lives. Even if you have the opportunity

0:40:30.400 --> 0:40:34.400
<v Speaker 3>to have clean water, you have more than other people.

0:40:34.880 --> 0:40:37.640
<v Speaker 3>I mean, obviously my kids being from Haiti and knowing

0:40:37.719 --> 0:40:41.120
<v Speaker 3>what their life was like at the orphanage, those kids

0:40:41.200 --> 0:40:43.480
<v Speaker 3>there would come look at their life here now and

0:40:43.600 --> 0:40:47.680
<v Speaker 3>be like, oh my gosh, this is crazy. So it's

0:40:47.719 --> 0:40:51.400
<v Speaker 3>all relative. That's what Kat and I were talking about earlier.

0:40:51.480 --> 0:40:54.319
<v Speaker 3>And then I started talking about Becca Bloom beca ex

0:40:54.400 --> 0:40:58.320
<v Speaker 3>Bloom on Instagram, who is this crazy wealthy woman. Actually

0:40:58.400 --> 0:41:01.200
<v Speaker 3>she got really famous on TikTok, but I follow her

0:41:01.560 --> 0:41:05.120
<v Speaker 3>mostly and see her stuff on Instagram and she is

0:41:05.600 --> 0:41:09.720
<v Speaker 3>stupid wealthy and makes these ridiculous over those hop videos.

0:41:09.800 --> 0:41:11.680
<v Speaker 3>But I kind of like her, like she's likable, and

0:41:11.719 --> 0:41:14.240
<v Speaker 3>if you go in the comments, most people are saying

0:41:14.480 --> 0:41:17.480
<v Speaker 3>just that that They're like, you're the only rich person.

0:41:17.600 --> 0:41:20.360
<v Speaker 3>I like, like, there's something about you that's a little endearing.

0:41:20.920 --> 0:41:23.200
<v Speaker 3>And then Kat wasn't really feeling the vibe, and so

0:41:23.360 --> 0:41:26.560
<v Speaker 3>that I got. I suddenly got defensive of this Becca

0:41:26.640 --> 0:41:29.360
<v Speaker 3>girl on Instagram that I don't know in TikTok and

0:41:29.480 --> 0:41:32.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, wait, why am I defending this rich girl

0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:33.080
<v Speaker 3>online that I.

0:41:33.160 --> 0:41:34.200
<v Speaker 2>Don't know to you?

0:41:34.640 --> 0:41:37.239
<v Speaker 3>Because I was being a little judgmental, Yeah you are.

0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:43.239
<v Speaker 3>I was like, maybe you have resent me or in

0:41:43.360 --> 0:41:46.279
<v Speaker 3>the or maybe I do you're jealousy. But then you

0:41:46.360 --> 0:41:48.440
<v Speaker 3>were like, well, would you want to yah be that?

0:41:48.600 --> 0:41:50.399
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, well, I don't know, maybe yeah,

0:41:50.440 --> 0:41:51.719
<v Speaker 3>And You're like, I'd never want to be that, and

0:41:51.760 --> 0:41:54.720
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, what, I don't have a worry in the world.

0:41:55.080 --> 0:41:56.120
<v Speaker 2>No, we talked about this.

0:41:56.520 --> 0:42:00.200
<v Speaker 4>I would like to be that wealthy if nothing else

0:42:00.239 --> 0:42:02.879
<v Speaker 4>in my life changed, except I always knew that I'd

0:42:02.920 --> 0:42:05.560
<v Speaker 4>be okay financially, and I'd always know that if I

0:42:05.640 --> 0:42:07.320
<v Speaker 4>needed something or wanted something, I could have it.

0:42:07.400 --> 0:42:09.000
<v Speaker 2>But I wouldn't want to spend that.

0:42:09.080 --> 0:42:12.839
<v Speaker 3>Way, right. But my point was she grew up that way,

0:42:12.880 --> 0:42:15.120
<v Speaker 3>and it's not she was born into that, so her

0:42:15.200 --> 0:42:17.560
<v Speaker 3>spinning that way is very But would you want to

0:42:17.600 --> 0:42:21.719
<v Speaker 3>marry into normal? Well, she doesn't know, like that's her baseline.

0:42:21.840 --> 0:42:22.839
<v Speaker 2>No, that's not my question.

0:42:23.000 --> 0:42:25.520
<v Speaker 4>My question was do you want would you want to

0:42:25.560 --> 0:42:27.680
<v Speaker 4>be born in that? Or knowing what it's like on

0:42:27.800 --> 0:42:30.160
<v Speaker 4>this side of the world, would you not like to

0:42:30.200 --> 0:42:30.840
<v Speaker 4>be born into that?

0:42:31.800 --> 0:42:36.920
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. She was just in Paris. I've never

0:42:37.120 --> 0:42:39.080
<v Speaker 3>been there, and I think she just flew there to

0:42:39.120 --> 0:42:43.360
<v Speaker 3>buy some shoes, So what would I want to do that?

0:42:44.160 --> 0:42:46.239
<v Speaker 2>Maybe that's okay if you don't, but I don't.

0:42:46.560 --> 0:42:48.640
<v Speaker 3>But you're right, like I, I like my life and

0:42:48.719 --> 0:42:51.520
<v Speaker 3>I want to be normal like I I'm there's something

0:42:51.600 --> 0:42:54.600
<v Speaker 3>about her there's just not pretentious, if that's the right word.

0:42:56.120 --> 0:42:59.520
<v Speaker 3>Because she's not pretentious about it. She's being blatantly. Maybe

0:43:00.120 --> 0:43:03.600
<v Speaker 3>watched enough of her videos, maybe I have watched too many.

0:43:07.280 --> 0:43:09.520
<v Speaker 2>And he's like, she's so normal, it's so normal.

0:43:09.800 --> 0:43:12.160
<v Speaker 4>She shows seventeen of her watches and it's okay because

0:43:12.200 --> 0:43:13.000
<v Speaker 4>she didn't buy any of them.

0:43:13.280 --> 0:43:19.560
<v Speaker 2>Somebody just gifted her seventeen yelexes. Yeah, I'm like, wait,

0:43:20.200 --> 0:43:21.680
<v Speaker 2>what we lost the plot here?

0:43:21.760 --> 0:43:23.120
<v Speaker 3>No no no no no no no no no no no.

0:43:23.640 --> 0:43:26.920
<v Speaker 3>I never said she was normal. Back it on, up,

0:43:27.040 --> 0:43:30.200
<v Speaker 3>I never you said. I think in my head, I

0:43:30.320 --> 0:43:33.080
<v Speaker 3>was just picturing her as normal, I said, Kat. She

0:43:33.320 --> 0:43:37.000
<v Speaker 3>packs the caviare in her China lunch box like China,

0:43:37.239 --> 0:43:39.120
<v Speaker 3>like nice China, fine China.

0:43:39.000 --> 0:43:42.399
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, like glat like like I packed my Kroger bags

0:43:45.960 --> 0:43:48.920
<v Speaker 4>right like, and I did throw away my ziplocked bags.

0:43:48.960 --> 0:43:51.719
<v Speaker 4>And she reuses her she does, see yes.

0:43:51.880 --> 0:43:55.719
<v Speaker 3>In one of the videos, her husband is sharing like

0:43:55.840 --> 0:43:57.879
<v Speaker 3>fun facts about her or they are doing it about

0:43:57.880 --> 0:44:00.840
<v Speaker 3>each other, and he's like, something out her is she

0:44:01.080 --> 0:44:04.480
<v Speaker 3>will hire someone, or she wants hand painted wallpaper all

0:44:04.520 --> 0:44:09.080
<v Speaker 3>throughout the house. But she will reuse ziploc bags over

0:44:09.160 --> 0:44:11.480
<v Speaker 3>and over and gets mad if he uses like a

0:44:11.520 --> 0:44:14.839
<v Speaker 3>whole piece of paper towel wild. Yeah, because she doesn't

0:44:14.840 --> 0:44:17.440
<v Speaker 3>want to be wasteful, and who knows how.

0:44:17.840 --> 0:44:21.080
<v Speaker 4>May recycling though she probably is really good at it.

0:44:21.280 --> 0:44:24.279
<v Speaker 4>Maybe and maybe because she well she has a job.

0:44:24.360 --> 0:44:25.839
<v Speaker 4>I was gonna say, if she's not working, then maybe

0:44:25.880 --> 0:44:28.120
<v Speaker 4>can she can spend a lot of money recycling.

0:44:28.200 --> 0:44:31.120
<v Speaker 3>No, she has a job in finance, okay, which that's good.

0:44:31.200 --> 0:44:34.200
<v Speaker 2>So she's really wealthy and she still works, right.

0:44:34.560 --> 0:44:37.040
<v Speaker 3>I think she was from the videos that I've seen,

0:44:37.080 --> 0:44:41.120
<v Speaker 3>the few the few videos that I've seen the few fifty,

0:44:41.680 --> 0:44:45.760
<v Speaker 3>I think her parents had very high expectations for their upbringing,

0:44:45.840 --> 0:44:49.040
<v Speaker 3>like their kids, like they probably had an excellent education,

0:44:49.800 --> 0:44:52.719
<v Speaker 3>like you could tell top top grades were expected.

0:44:53.280 --> 0:44:55.239
<v Speaker 2>We're looking at the outside. We don't know the inside, so.

0:44:55.239 --> 0:44:57.640
<v Speaker 4>We're just I don't know the inside, preparing our insides

0:44:57.719 --> 0:44:59.800
<v Speaker 4>to her outside. And like her life might not be

0:44:59.840 --> 0:45:01.799
<v Speaker 4>a greatest she makes it look like on TikTok.

0:45:02.320 --> 0:45:05.080
<v Speaker 3>But I don't know that she's like saying my life

0:45:05.160 --> 0:45:07.200
<v Speaker 3>is so great. I don't really hear her say, look

0:45:07.239 --> 0:45:08.360
<v Speaker 3>how fabulous my life is.

0:45:08.719 --> 0:45:09.680
<v Speaker 2>That's the thing. Okay.

0:45:09.880 --> 0:45:11.960
<v Speaker 3>So that's where I want to be clear here, which

0:45:12.000 --> 0:45:13.600
<v Speaker 3>all will just have to go watch her videos and

0:45:13.600 --> 0:45:16.360
<v Speaker 3>see for yourself. But it's like there is a difference

0:45:16.520 --> 0:45:20.680
<v Speaker 3>in you know, pretentious people, right like, she doesn't give

0:45:20.719 --> 0:45:26.320
<v Speaker 3>me gums vibes, right Like, I feel like she's cool.

0:45:27.080 --> 0:45:29.719
<v Speaker 2>But you're just trying to get on her like yacht

0:45:29.800 --> 0:45:34.000
<v Speaker 2>or private place. No, no, no, I'm just kidding, not

0:45:34.200 --> 0:45:34.520
<v Speaker 2>at all.

0:45:34.680 --> 0:45:36.480
<v Speaker 4>No, I hear what you're saying. She's not saying like

0:45:37.080 --> 0:45:39.200
<v Speaker 4>I'm better than you. She's just saying, matter of factly,

0:45:39.320 --> 0:45:40.920
<v Speaker 4>this is these are all my watches.

0:45:41.080 --> 0:45:44.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she's like, watch me pack my lunch, or this

0:45:44.600 --> 0:45:46.840
<v Speaker 3>is my watch collection and they're all gifts from my

0:45:46.960 --> 0:45:50.839
<v Speaker 3>family and they're special to me. Or here, we're going

0:45:50.920 --> 0:45:54.920
<v Speaker 3>on a date night to a Michelin star restaurant and

0:45:55.040 --> 0:45:58.080
<v Speaker 3>we're stopping at this fancy jeweler beforehand to pick up

0:45:58.120 --> 0:46:02.560
<v Speaker 3>a piece of jewey. And then they come home from

0:46:02.600 --> 0:46:05.080
<v Speaker 3>their date night and they go to their movie theater

0:46:05.239 --> 0:46:08.480
<v Speaker 3>in their house and watch, Uh, what are they watching?

0:46:09.120 --> 0:46:11.480
<v Speaker 2>They get like before that's released to the theaters, movies.

0:46:11.800 --> 0:46:13.880
<v Speaker 3>No, they're watching they were watching a TV show, like

0:46:14.000 --> 0:46:20.960
<v Speaker 3>just like us. Becca Blimb's just like us. The New

0:46:21.040 --> 0:46:23.560
<v Speaker 3>York Times just did a write up on her. I

0:46:23.719 --> 0:46:26.880
<v Speaker 3>believe I saw an article posted and I think her

0:46:26.880 --> 0:46:30.800
<v Speaker 3>real name is Rebecca ma or may or something, and

0:46:31.080 --> 0:46:35.520
<v Speaker 3>she goes by Becca x Bloom. And she only joined

0:46:35.560 --> 0:46:39.200
<v Speaker 3>TikTok in January. It is, We're already mid September. At

0:46:39.239 --> 0:46:42.880
<v Speaker 3>this point, it's almost Christmas. She hasn't even been online

0:46:42.920 --> 0:46:44.920
<v Speaker 3>for a year, and charity has millions of followers. She

0:46:45.040 --> 0:46:47.400
<v Speaker 3>knows what she's doing, like life like playing it up.

0:46:47.600 --> 0:46:49.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if you had a life like that, you could

0:46:49.280 --> 0:46:50.040
<v Speaker 2>get millions to follow.

0:46:50.080 --> 0:46:52.440
<v Speaker 3>But I don't know that. No, I don't know that

0:46:52.560 --> 0:46:54.640
<v Speaker 3>everybody can do it the way she's doing it. Like

0:46:54.719 --> 0:46:57.040
<v Speaker 3>there are some people that are obnoxious and annoying.

0:46:57.200 --> 0:46:59.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yeah, she's gets more haters. Yeah, yeah, I.

0:47:00.080 --> 0:47:04.480
<v Speaker 3>Feel like something about it. But definitely how about this,

0:47:05.239 --> 0:47:06.280
<v Speaker 3>check it out see for yourself.

0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:09.360
<v Speaker 4>Give me another week, let me look at more of

0:47:09.360 --> 0:47:11.479
<v Speaker 4>her stuff and let it sink in, and then maybe

0:47:11.520 --> 0:47:13.280
<v Speaker 4>I won't have this automatic reaction.

0:47:14.040 --> 0:47:18.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'd definitely being a hater. You were the kitchen counter.

0:47:19.160 --> 0:47:24.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah me too. I just found somebody that I like online,

0:47:24.560 --> 0:47:25.200
<v Speaker 3>not because.

0:47:24.920 --> 0:47:25.320
<v Speaker 4>I want to.

0:47:26.960 --> 0:47:27.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry.

0:47:28.680 --> 0:47:31.959
<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry apology existed, but I also was a little

0:47:32.040 --> 0:47:34.080
<v Speaker 3>sib about it. And back to the whole thing. It's

0:47:34.160 --> 0:47:37.080
<v Speaker 3>like relative, Like she she has a lot of money,

0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:39.960
<v Speaker 3>but there are wealthier people that might have more money

0:47:40.000 --> 0:47:42.360
<v Speaker 3>than her, and she might think like, oh wow, I

0:47:42.480 --> 0:47:45.800
<v Speaker 3>do not think she thinks that, probably not that she

0:47:45.960 --> 0:47:47.720
<v Speaker 3>has never one to for anything.

0:47:47.920 --> 0:47:48.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:47:48.280 --> 0:47:50.040
<v Speaker 4>I get what you're saying, and I agree that it

0:47:50.160 --> 0:47:52.279
<v Speaker 4>is relative, but there is a limit to it where

0:47:52.320 --> 0:47:55.759
<v Speaker 4>it's like, Okay, you're like crazy rich, you're not.

0:47:56.160 --> 0:47:57.720
<v Speaker 2>That's what us relatives.

0:47:58.200 --> 0:48:03.640
<v Speaker 3>Get confused about, really really really crazy rich hundreds of

0:48:03.680 --> 0:48:06.799
<v Speaker 3>millions type people and they just like keep making money,

0:48:06.880 --> 0:48:09.440
<v Speaker 3>make their money. Well, I understand being smart with them

0:48:09.520 --> 0:48:11.399
<v Speaker 3>making money off of money, but they like want more.

0:48:11.840 --> 0:48:14.600
<v Speaker 3>Could never be me like like they want more, It's

0:48:14.640 --> 0:48:15.920
<v Speaker 3>like what are you wanting for?

0:48:16.680 --> 0:48:18.680
<v Speaker 2>Like what's the well that's their like brain because this

0:48:18.800 --> 0:48:21.279
<v Speaker 2>is the whole Taylor Swift thing. Like I have said this.

0:48:21.440 --> 0:48:23.480
<v Speaker 4>I've had this to Patrick about like multiple people that

0:48:24.000 --> 0:48:26.520
<v Speaker 4>if I was were talking about Michael Jordan the other

0:48:26.600 --> 0:48:28.600
<v Speaker 4>day he has like three billion dollars or something crazy

0:48:28.680 --> 0:48:30.920
<v Speaker 4>like that, and in my head I was like, once

0:48:31.000 --> 0:48:34.520
<v Speaker 4>I make a billion dollars, I'm not working anymore.

0:48:34.920 --> 0:48:38.319
<v Speaker 2>Right, But those people their brain is wired.

0:48:38.040 --> 0:48:40.480
<v Speaker 4>Differently that it's not just about the money. It's about

0:48:40.560 --> 0:48:43.120
<v Speaker 4>what they're accomplishing and like the actual work. Like Taylor

0:48:43.160 --> 0:48:46.600
<v Speaker 4>Swift really likes what she does, it's not just about

0:48:46.640 --> 0:48:50.120
<v Speaker 4>the money. Yeah, I think that's a nice little bonus bonus,

0:48:50.640 --> 0:48:52.760
<v Speaker 4>but like, yeah, if I was Taylor Swift, I wouldn't

0:48:52.760 --> 0:48:55.560
<v Speaker 4>work another day in my life. Their brains are wired

0:48:55.640 --> 0:48:58.320
<v Speaker 4>so differently than me. If I was a therapist and

0:48:58.360 --> 0:49:01.160
<v Speaker 4>I made a billion dollars for well, that would never happen.

0:49:01.680 --> 0:49:02.279
<v Speaker 2>I'd be done.

0:49:03.120 --> 0:49:06.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but you would have the desire to maybe help.

0:49:07.120 --> 0:49:09.600
<v Speaker 3>You could volunteer. Yeah, you wouldn't just like sit around.

0:49:10.160 --> 0:49:11.799
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I would shield a movie theater in my house

0:49:11.840 --> 0:49:13.719
<v Speaker 4>like Bega Bloom, and I would watch TV shows in

0:49:13.800 --> 0:49:16.120
<v Speaker 4>the houseband. No, I would do other things, but I

0:49:16.719 --> 0:49:20.400
<v Speaker 4>wouldn't still have this drive to work that crazy of hours.

0:49:20.640 --> 0:49:23.960
<v Speaker 3>Oh this just popped into my head a relatable Becca

0:49:23.960 --> 0:49:27.040
<v Speaker 3>Bloom video that I saw where she posted she goes,

0:49:27.080 --> 0:49:29.040
<v Speaker 3>these are the houses that my fiance and I were

0:49:29.080 --> 0:49:31.759
<v Speaker 3>considering buying. She talks a real soft like this. She's like,

0:49:32.120 --> 0:49:34.480
<v Speaker 3>these are the houses that we were considering buying, But

0:49:34.560 --> 0:49:35.719
<v Speaker 3>we did it, and I'm going to tell you the

0:49:35.800 --> 0:49:37.839
<v Speaker 3>reasons why and then she shows them. Of course they're

0:49:37.920 --> 0:49:42.200
<v Speaker 3>like mega mansions, but she's like this one, she's like, honestly,

0:49:42.360 --> 0:49:44.120
<v Speaker 3>it wasn't in the school district that we wanted.

0:49:44.560 --> 0:49:48.160
<v Speaker 2>Relatable, right, So it's like, I get that. I just

0:49:48.239 --> 0:49:48.640
<v Speaker 2>went through that.

0:49:48.920 --> 0:49:52.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and then some of the other reasons were very

0:49:52.239 --> 0:49:55.160
<v Speaker 3>similar to things we contemplate as.

0:49:55.280 --> 0:49:57.560
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't like the normal people. It wasn't coated in

0:49:57.640 --> 0:50:00.320
<v Speaker 2>gold foil ceilings. That's not what it was. It was

0:50:00.400 --> 0:50:02.520
<v Speaker 2>more like actual No.

0:50:02.800 --> 0:50:04.799
<v Speaker 3>But the other one, like she was like, and this one,

0:50:04.840 --> 0:50:06.959
<v Speaker 3>my husband couldn't get over the price per square foot.

0:50:06.960 --> 0:50:09.439
<v Speaker 3>He said was way overpriced and it just didn't make sense.

0:50:09.520 --> 0:50:11.440
<v Speaker 3>But it's like at that point they probably just bought it,

0:50:11.520 --> 0:50:14.239
<v Speaker 3>like who cares, but they're still paying attention to price

0:50:14.320 --> 0:50:19.080
<v Speaker 3>per square foot. See, they're just like us. She's relatable.

0:50:20.000 --> 0:50:25.880
<v Speaker 3>It's relatable. Okay, well, I have no idea our Our

0:50:25.880 --> 0:50:29.000
<v Speaker 3>advice was helpful, but to your point, like you said,

0:50:29.160 --> 0:50:32.800
<v Speaker 3>there's nothing we could say or do other than celebrate

0:50:32.920 --> 0:50:38.160
<v Speaker 3>her for acknowledging and being aware and sharing with us,

0:50:38.360 --> 0:50:42.560
<v Speaker 3>because that's it probably felt very cathartic and maybe even

0:50:42.640 --> 0:50:46.240
<v Speaker 3>why it evoked that emotion and tears because just getting

0:50:46.320 --> 0:50:50.160
<v Speaker 3>it off your chest sometimes can feel so good and know,

0:50:50.400 --> 0:50:53.439
<v Speaker 3>like I'm sharing this with someone, I'm gonna figure this out.

0:50:53.600 --> 0:50:55.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And what's popping up in my head.

0:50:55.160 --> 0:50:57.120
<v Speaker 4>I don't know if this is coming from what you

0:50:57.239 --> 0:51:01.200
<v Speaker 4>shared or just my brain, but I think when you

0:51:02.200 --> 0:51:06.880
<v Speaker 4>grow up without something, two things happen. A lot of

0:51:06.920 --> 0:51:10.520
<v Speaker 4>things happen, but two specifically things happen. One you have

0:51:10.640 --> 0:51:12.920
<v Speaker 4>more of an awareness of that thing that you don't have,

0:51:13.719 --> 0:51:16.680
<v Speaker 4>and two you learn and like you grow from having

0:51:16.719 --> 0:51:20.640
<v Speaker 4>to do it yourself. And so I wonder, because I

0:51:20.640 --> 0:51:23.040
<v Speaker 4>don't know if she said this or not in the voicemail,

0:51:23.520 --> 0:51:26.680
<v Speaker 4>if there's this idea that her friends don't understand what

0:51:26.880 --> 0:51:30.600
<v Speaker 4>they have, you know, right, appreciation for it, which like

0:51:30.800 --> 0:51:31.799
<v Speaker 4>there's no way for us to.

0:51:31.840 --> 0:51:32.360
<v Speaker 2>Really know that.

0:51:33.160 --> 0:51:36.239
<v Speaker 4>We can take context clues, but like we can't really

0:51:36.440 --> 0:51:39.680
<v Speaker 4>know because even you talking about, like my mom offering

0:51:39.760 --> 0:51:42.719
<v Speaker 4>me something, whether or not I accept it or not,

0:51:42.920 --> 0:51:45.880
<v Speaker 4>doesn't mean I am not understanding or I am understanding

0:51:45.920 --> 0:51:48.719
<v Speaker 4>what she's giving me, Like I have an acute awareness

0:51:49.320 --> 0:51:50.759
<v Speaker 4>of what she's offering me.

0:51:50.880 --> 0:51:53.080
<v Speaker 2>But you would never know that from the out from

0:51:53.120 --> 0:51:55.560
<v Speaker 2>looking at the outside, you know, Yeah.

0:51:55.440 --> 0:51:56.960
<v Speaker 3>I mean I know it because I'm your friend and

0:51:57.040 --> 0:52:01.360
<v Speaker 3>I know that you also have extreme gratitude for your parents.

0:52:01.960 --> 0:52:04.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm almost thinking too, just because we were talking about

0:52:05.080 --> 0:52:07.200
<v Speaker 3>loss of my parents and you have both of yours.

0:52:07.320 --> 0:52:11.360
<v Speaker 3>It would almost be like sometimes I might have like

0:52:11.440 --> 0:52:15.279
<v Speaker 3>a hint of envy or jealousy towards you, of like

0:52:15.800 --> 0:52:19.279
<v Speaker 3>the convenience of you just like popping down my dad

0:52:19.320 --> 0:52:21.640
<v Speaker 3>would do it right, right right, Or you're like, oh,

0:52:21.640 --> 0:52:23.600
<v Speaker 3>I got a swing by my parents' house and they're

0:52:23.640 --> 0:52:26.880
<v Speaker 3>gonna help with this. And sometimes I have like a

0:52:27.040 --> 0:52:31.840
<v Speaker 3>quick thought but it's not lasting or it's not similar

0:52:31.920 --> 0:52:36.239
<v Speaker 3>to the voicemail where I have this extreme emotion about it.

0:52:36.360 --> 0:52:39.200
<v Speaker 3>But right I don't have like a resentment towards you

0:52:39.320 --> 0:52:42.800
<v Speaker 3>because I know that you are grateful for your parents

0:52:42.920 --> 0:52:45.120
<v Speaker 3>and you appreciate them. Now, if you were taking them

0:52:45.160 --> 0:52:48.759
<v Speaker 3>for granted and had a totally different attitude about your

0:52:48.800 --> 0:52:51.560
<v Speaker 3>relationship and how helpful your dad was towards helping you

0:52:51.680 --> 0:52:54.799
<v Speaker 3>with different things, then I might have a little bit

0:52:54.840 --> 0:52:57.600
<v Speaker 3>more resentment of being like, do you realize how lucky

0:52:57.680 --> 0:53:01.600
<v Speaker 3>you are to have a dad that can do that

0:53:01.719 --> 0:53:03.640
<v Speaker 3>for you? Right now? I would give anything for my

0:53:03.760 --> 0:53:06.040
<v Speaker 3>dad do that, But I know how I know you,

0:53:06.280 --> 0:53:08.920
<v Speaker 3>Like you said, you have an acute awareness of how

0:53:09.040 --> 0:53:10.120
<v Speaker 3>fortunate you are.

0:53:10.360 --> 0:53:13.839
<v Speaker 2>And so maybe you have sadness that comes up. Maybe

0:53:13.880 --> 0:53:14.520
<v Speaker 2>that's yeah.

0:53:14.560 --> 0:53:17.560
<v Speaker 3>I mean sometimes I may have feelings of sadness or

0:53:18.360 --> 0:53:21.480
<v Speaker 3>jealousy or envy, like, oh, I wish my parents were around,

0:53:21.560 --> 0:53:24.160
<v Speaker 3>but I don't have that resentment towards you. And I

0:53:24.320 --> 0:53:29.160
<v Speaker 3>wonder to your point, Yeah, if she knew the perspective

0:53:29.239 --> 0:53:32.080
<v Speaker 3>her friends had, because she said they're kind people, and

0:53:32.360 --> 0:53:35.440
<v Speaker 3>maybe she could be assigning to them that they have

0:53:35.640 --> 0:53:39.040
<v Speaker 3>this expectation or maybe they've acted that way and she

0:53:39.239 --> 0:53:42.120
<v Speaker 3>has that data or that information. But sometimes we can

0:53:42.760 --> 0:53:47.040
<v Speaker 3>just project that on other people and think they expect it,

0:53:47.200 --> 0:53:50.440
<v Speaker 3>when really maybe they do have awareness and they are

0:53:50.600 --> 0:53:53.360
<v Speaker 3>grateful and they don't expect it, but their parents just

0:53:54.080 --> 0:53:55.200
<v Speaker 3>do it. It could be a combo.

0:53:55.719 --> 0:53:57.439
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And when we have a story written in our head,

0:53:57.520 --> 0:54:01.120
<v Speaker 2>what we end up doing is we are brains only.

0:54:00.960 --> 0:54:03.360
<v Speaker 4>Look for the data that supports that story. So she

0:54:03.440 --> 0:54:05.480
<v Speaker 4>could be picking up things that maybe not aren't even

0:54:06.040 --> 0:54:06.960
<v Speaker 4>really accurate.

0:54:07.320 --> 0:54:10.560
<v Speaker 3>So the challenge there which this could be helpful, would

0:54:10.600 --> 0:54:16.000
<v Speaker 3>be to try to see if that's what you're doing. Man.

0:54:18.040 --> 0:54:20.120
<v Speaker 2>But that's so inncisely at the end.

0:54:20.400 --> 0:54:22.160
<v Speaker 3>Well, I just mean, like I was like, I hope

0:54:22.200 --> 0:54:24.080
<v Speaker 3>we've been helpful, because there's nothing we could really like.

0:54:24.200 --> 0:54:26.520
<v Speaker 3>It's really one of like, it's work she needs to do,

0:54:26.640 --> 0:54:29.040
<v Speaker 3>either one on one with a therapist or digging deeper

0:54:29.239 --> 0:54:33.080
<v Speaker 3>and seeing what's underneath there. But that's something that we

0:54:33.200 --> 0:54:38.160
<v Speaker 3>offered her a good job. Yeah, okay, and she can

0:54:38.520 --> 0:54:40.400
<v Speaker 3>follow Becca Bloom and get really angry.

0:54:41.640 --> 0:54:43.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to encourage you not to do that.

0:54:43.640 --> 0:54:47.960
<v Speaker 3>Definitely could do that, although we don't know that Becca

0:54:48.200 --> 0:54:48.719
<v Speaker 3>expects it.

0:54:49.239 --> 0:54:51.839
<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna say, maybe now's not the time for her.

0:54:51.800 --> 0:54:52.080
<v Speaker 4>To do that.

0:54:52.400 --> 0:54:54.960
<v Speaker 3>Okay, definitely not. Okay, Kat's the therapist, listen to her.

0:54:55.400 --> 0:54:58.719
<v Speaker 3>We hope that everybody has the day they need to have.

0:54:59.480 --> 0:55:00.480
<v Speaker 3>That's not the way we say it.

0:55:00.680 --> 0:55:01.480
<v Speaker 2>Hope you have the day.

0:55:01.680 --> 0:55:03.239
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I said it wrong. I'm sorry.

0:55:03.360 --> 0:55:05.320
<v Speaker 2>I hope that you're having the day. I hope you

0:55:05.440 --> 0:55:06.200
<v Speaker 2>have the day.

0:55:06.280 --> 0:55:09.440
<v Speaker 3>Day. You're wearing the shirt right now, Kat's wearing our

0:55:09.520 --> 0:55:11.480
<v Speaker 3>shirt that says have the day you need to have,

0:55:12.239 --> 0:55:15.600
<v Speaker 3>which we'll have an update on merch soon ish. We're

0:55:15.640 --> 0:55:21.600
<v Speaker 3>cooking up something special. We are cooking. We're cooking. Yes, Okay,

0:55:21.719 --> 0:55:25.320
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