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Speaker 1: All right, break it down. If you ever have feelings

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Speaker 2: You but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do

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Speaker 1: Stop you feel things. This is feeling things with Amy

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Speaker 3: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm

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Speaker 3: Cat and my feeling of the day is thrilled.

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Speaker 2: What are you thrilled about?

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm thrilled that my laundry room is starting to

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Speaker 3: feel like a hum You know. I painted it, which

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Speaker 3: was step one, so phase one paint, which don't underestimate

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Speaker 3: the power of paint.

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Speaker 2: Because sometimes, yeah change, you just.

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Speaker 3: Might need to freshen something up, just a fresh coat

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Speaker 3: of paint. And also tho magic eraser. I don't know

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Speaker 3: how the mister Clean magic eraser works. I can tell you, okay,

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Speaker 3: tell me you know the science behind it. How does

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Because I thought it was insane, because it really does

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Speaker 4: erace stuff. I'm pretty sure it's like a little bit

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Speaker 4: of a sander and it just sands the bit of

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Speaker 4: mess off a very gentle sander.

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Speaker 3: Sure, it's a very gentle sander with some heavy chemicals.

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Speaker 2: Oh you think there's chemicals?

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Speaker 3: I think so.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was like a sanding sponge.

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Speaker 3: Well, let's look it up. Okay, I feel like anything,

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Speaker 3: mister clean chemical.

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Speaker 4: Somebody told me it was a sander, and I believe them.

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Speaker 4: I didn't fact check it.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't feel like a sand like. I have a

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Speaker 3: the thick sponges, and then I don't know that i'd

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Speaker 3: put it in sand paper category.

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Speaker 2: Gentle sandpaper?

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Speaker 3: Sure, is that any sponge? There's definitely something in it

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Speaker 3: that makes it. Well. My point is, so my laundry

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Speaker 3: It's like a more commercial type door, like a metal

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Speaker 3: just paint. And it didn't really need to be painted.

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Speaker 3: But it was very, very dirty. So I took a

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Speaker 3: little magic eraser to it, and oh my gosh, am

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Speaker 3: I right, sorry, Sorry, Shannon just looked up what magic

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Speaker 3: eraser is, and it literally says magic eraser works like

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Speaker 3: a super fine sandpaper because of the melamine foam, a

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Speaker 3: material with a hard, poorus structure that acts as a

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Speaker 3: micro abrasive when you wet it. The foam's microplastic fibers

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Speaker 3: lift and trap dirt and grime, essentially exfoliating the stain

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Speaker 3: It's crucial to test the eraser on a hidden spot first.

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Speaker 2: You're right, You're right, gentle sandpaper.

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Speaker 3: It is super fine. It's a micro abrasive.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I should have been more confident.

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Speaker 3: You should haven't. I should have trusted you. I just

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Speaker 3: thought it was more like a sponge. But I guess

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Speaker 3: it is a sponge. This it's a gentle sandpapering sponge,

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Speaker 2: So now you can feel really good about using it

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Speaker 3: I know, I said, out of the gate, I don't

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Speaker 3: and then I said tell us, and then you told us,

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Speaker 4: To be fair, there's no reason that you should trust

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Speaker 3: Can you see if there's chemicals in there though, because

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Speaker 3: I think you can just wear a glove.

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Speaker 4: Melamine foam is the maining green. It contains a chemical

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Speaker 3: Malamine foam is the main ingredient in a magic eraser,

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Speaker 3: and it contains a chemical called formaldehyde and melamine sodium

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Speaker 2: Maybe you shouldn't feel good about you.

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Speaker 3: So you're right and I'm right. We're both right. It's

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Speaker 2: They preserve dead bodies with.

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Speaker 3: I will use it, but I keep gloves, you know,

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Speaker 2: I just feel like I went through a roller coaster.

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Speaker 4: I was right, then I was not sure, then I

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Speaker 3: I mean, this is like a metaphor for life. Feels

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Speaker 2: Life is much like a magic eraser.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and trying to figure out what the heck it

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Speaker 3: Wash your hands, but who knows. Oop, Sorry, that was

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Speaker 3: like it's not like you're bathing or something like I

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Speaker 3: exfoliate my legs with it. And maybe that's me justifying

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Speaker 3: Though hyperbole with my numbers here, because I'm obviously not

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Speaker 4: Every day every day for it to be Have you

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Speaker 4: seen that people diet coke fridge cigarettes, which I think

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Speaker 3: No, I think it's very different, but they can't be addictive.

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Speaker 4: They like make sure it's on TikTok that say fridge

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Speaker 4: I think they thought it was like a cute name.

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Speaker 3: What if one day we find out that it is.

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Speaker 4: I'll be really happy because I would have let myself

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Speaker 2: So I've loved a full, nice life.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, we're not They were thrilled.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not thrilled anymore. So can you bring us

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Speaker 3: Our feeling is not fear, it is thrilled. I am

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Speaker 3: thrilled that the magic eraser took all the grime off

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Speaker 3: my garage, the door that was white. The door, well,

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Speaker 3: it's just fun that it's clean now, like looking at yes,

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Speaker 3: it's satisfying to have it clean or organized. The cabinets kept,

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Speaker 3: I must have been extra dopamine filled or something. I

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Speaker 3: I'm I'm not. But I took my detergent out of

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, what TikTok?

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Speaker 3: Did you watch nothing? That meat my brain My sister's

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Speaker 2: Is does it make you happy? Cute?

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Speaker 3: It made me happy in the moment, I was like, well,

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Speaker 3: But I didn't go out and buy the glass container.

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Speaker 3: It's left over for my pantry and it wasn't being used. Okay,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And then I ordered new wool dryer balls that

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Speaker 3: Yeah? They're extra large organic bumble bees. And they're so cute.

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Speaker 3: So I'm thrilled about that, even though it's not normally

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Speaker 3: I walk out to the garage, I walk out that door,

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Speaker 3: make the space happy. I put in a new sink.

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Speaker 3: I ordered a new light off Amazon, so bam, bam bam.

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Speaker 3: I'm just over the moon thrilled about it. Because the

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Speaker 3: I've never done that.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I will take him up on that, or take

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Speaker 3: Now my dad could build, like he made all kinds

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not gonna work if you're so.

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Speaker 4: Our types of brains. I just think that, yeah, we're

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Speaker 3: I know. That's why I'm like, what's you know what?

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Speaker 3: I'd be like, what'd you do? I had neurofeedback maybe

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Speaker 3: I've been sitting here perplexed, like what the heck. I've

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Speaker 3: I put my detergent in a jar something.

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Speaker 2: Okay, but here's the test though, something. Will you continue

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Speaker 3: Because it's there, and then when I buy it and

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Speaker 4: Then I feel like when I move, I'm going to

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Speaker 4: and then I'm gonna be like, yeah, So.

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Speaker 3: I think you're gonna be so excited though, like you'll

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Speaker 4: You might have to come and do my laundy room

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Speaker 4: because I was thinking the launder room was the one

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Speaker 3: But you want me to come to your laundry room

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Speaker 4: Yes, okay, I would like to hand off my laundr

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Speaker 4: room to you. Oh my gosh, that will be a fun.

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Speaker 3: What's my budget?

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Speaker 2: So I just like you can use stuff that I

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Speaker 3: It's like I get one hundred dollars in a magic

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Speaker 2: Okay, one hundred dollars not counting paint. How about that?

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Speaker 2: It'll be free.

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Speaker 3: I have to paint it.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you like to paint, now you can use It'll

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Speaker 4: be like a scavenger hunt. I'm like, okay, there's all

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Speaker 2: You have no idea what you will find. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 2: it's so fun. Thank you for doing this.

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Speaker 3: You're welcome. You sound like a mom to her kids,

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Speaker 3: like trying to convince them to do something like, oh

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Speaker 2: I'll time you.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'll time And my mom would do that all

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Speaker 3: you can't do it in less than two minutes. And

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Speaker 3: I'll be like, oh, yes I can.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I bet you can't do my laundry

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Speaker 4: True.

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Speaker 3: True, because I saw how long it took me. Because

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Speaker 2: Thank you, yeah, so that's why I would like you

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Speaker 2: my house will be.

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Speaker 3: Your washer room. Yeah. Do I have a budget for

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Speaker 3: some wool balls, like cute ones like ladybugs?

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Speaker 2: The budget?

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Speaker 3: Sorry, I'll gift some two housewarming gift.

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Speaker 4: Listen, anything for the laundry, like detergent or like wool

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Speaker 3: Okay, there's no new hardware.

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Speaker 4: There's cabinets. My laundry room is just a room. I

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Speaker 4: and then I have like a wire shelf.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So I don't know if I don't know if she's

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Speaker 3: I think we could find some cute baskets. You're gonna

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Speaker 3: need to put some baskets.

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Speaker 2: I already have cute baskets.

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Speaker 3: Can we like put like a wood foux covering over

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Speaker 3: the wire? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I saw that on TikTok Okay. Yeah, yes,

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Speaker 3: Okay, I saw that somewhere too. I guess it was

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Speaker 3: But it is. It's fascinating because it's just kind of

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Speaker 4: Shannon just said that I'm scamming you to unpack for you,

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Speaker 4: and you fell for it. Shannon just said that I'm

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Speaker 3: Fell for it. You're like, just go around to every

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Speaker 3: put it away, and I'm sure you'll find things that laundy.

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Speaker 2: Is working out over me?

444
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Speaker 3: Can I can I hire your dad as my assistant?

445
00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:49,800
Speaker 3: Or not hire, but like maybe my can he be

446
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Speaker 3: my laundry room assistant?

447
00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:51,480
Speaker 2: My dad?

448
00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:54,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'm going to need it. Yes, an assistant

449
00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:55,840
Speaker 3: to be like, hey.

450
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Speaker 2: Yes he can make the shelving Okay, oh my gosh. Okay.

451
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Speaker 4: Here's the great dad hack is when you ask your

452
00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:06,359
Speaker 4: dad to help you make something and he has to

453
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Speaker 4: go to Low's to get the supplies. A lot of

454
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Speaker 4: times he doesn't make you pay for the supplies, so

455
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 4: that would help your budget. You can just be like, hey,

456
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:17,240
Speaker 4: Cat's dad, Can you grab some of these two by

457
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:18,320
Speaker 4: fours on your way over?

458
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:18,920
Speaker 2: Okay?

459
00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 3: This is reminded me of the voice smell that we're

460
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,879
Speaker 3: going to play today from a listener ok that has

461
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Speaker 3: resentment from people to expect our names from their dead.

462
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,359
Speaker 4: I'm not expecting to ask him. He says, what he

463
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Speaker 4: likes about me is I always offer to pay. I

464
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,920
Speaker 4: think he just appreciates people offering. And sometimes when my

465
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Speaker 4: parents and men, Mommy, I vemo them back their money.

466
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Speaker 3: That's true. I can vouch for you on that and

467
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,479
Speaker 3: your parents because you're moving and there's a lot going

468
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:45,960
Speaker 3: on in life right now, and like they were offering

469
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Speaker 3: to pay for something for you, and I was thinking,

470
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Speaker 3: in my mind, are you crazy say yes to that?

471
00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 3: And you were like I told him no, And I'm like,

472
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Speaker 3: what the.

473
00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:56,359
Speaker 2: Maybe?

474
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Speaker 3: Because if it's two again, both my parents are not

475
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Speaker 3: alive and and so there's no fun surprises like that anymore. Yeah,

476
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:06,360
Speaker 3: And I grew up with that, and you obviously grew

477
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:08,359
Speaker 3: up with some of that, and that the voicemail we're

478
00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 3: going to play is someone that didn't grow up with

479
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:13,080
Speaker 3: anything like that. And Kat and I got into this

480
00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:15,879
Speaker 3: whole discussion after we listen to the voicemail about money

481
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Speaker 3: and how it's so relative.

482
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Speaker 2: And we both had to say SIV after because we both.

483
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Speaker 3: Got a little like feisty and snappy, and if you're

484
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Speaker 3: new here, SIB means sorry, I bitchy.

485
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Speaker 2: But also I will say that what I've had to learn.

486
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Speaker 4: And my mom made a comment to me the other

487
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Speaker 4: day when I was like, please don't do that, when

488
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Speaker 4: she was offering to do something for me, she said,

489
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Speaker 4: sometimes I just want to do things for my kids,

490
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Speaker 4: And so I had to be reminded like, Okay, yes,

491
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Speaker 4: I don't want to be expectant of things or I

492
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 4: don't want to take from them and not then give.

493
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Speaker 2: But also her love language is gifts. She likes doing

494
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Speaker 2: that stuff for people.

495
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Speaker 3: If you don't take that away from it, yes, you

496
00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 3: were robbing her of the opportunity to spread joy. Yeah,

497
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:03,240
Speaker 3: which just selfish. Yeah, so you should accept that other.

498
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 1: Well.

499
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: Before we do get to the voicemail, which it's probably

500
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:15,679
Speaker 3: one of the most authentic, vulnerable voicemails we've received. It's

501
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 3: very sweet and I appreciate her honesty, but she's definitely

502
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:24,080
Speaker 3: struggling with a certain feeling and the feeling the feeling

503
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 3: is resentment. I'll just go ahead and say that it's

504
00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,360
Speaker 3: probably obvious by the way we're talking about it. There's

505
00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:32,720
Speaker 3: resentment around money at times, so we're gonna play that.

506
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 3: And I think even if you don't relate to exactly

507
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,920
Speaker 3: what she's saying, I want you to hear the voicemail

508
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 3: so that you can be challenged. At least I was,

509
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:49,360
Speaker 3: and I hope others are too, to examine your feelings

510
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 3: the way she's examining hers. And that's our hope for

511
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:56,159
Speaker 3: this podcast, right is that we all have feelings and

512
00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 3: we're trying to figure them out. And this voicemail is

513
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 3: such a beautiful example of really tapping into the awareness

514
00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:05,360
Speaker 3: of a feeling, like I don't think she really knows

515
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:08,120
Speaker 3: what to do with it quite yet, but she knows

516
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 3: it's there and she wants to figure out Yeah, and

517
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 3: she's owning it. She's not running from it, and you

518
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 3: can hear the emotion in her voice. It's just tender,

519
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:20,680
Speaker 3: and that I think will be the main main takeaway

520
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 3: for every single person. Even if you can't relate to

521
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 3: the topic, let the takeaway be wow, I want to

522
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 3: be in tune with other feelings. Maybe I don't have

523
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,160
Speaker 3: that exact one of resentment, but I might have XYZ,

524
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Speaker 3: and I want to be honest like that about it

525
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 3: and explore what's going on. So before we get to

526
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Speaker 3: the voicemail, though, I gave my feeling today, which was thrilled,

527
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Speaker 3: and I know you have a feeling of the day,

528
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 3: So what is yours?

529
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Speaker 4: Kat? My feelings have changed a little bit through this

530
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:56,479
Speaker 4: conversation really because I was a little bit annoyed earlier.

531
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Speaker 3: Oh because Sib.

532
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 4: No, Well, I think that's maybe why I was SIB,

533
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 4: because I just have been feeling annoyed and frustrated today.

534
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 2: But I think my feeling is intrigued.

535
00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 3: While you went from annoyed to intrigued, which you can

536
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 3: be annoyed and intrigued at the same time.

537
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I don't feel that presently I did fifteen

538
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 4: minutes ago.

539
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 3: You were annoyed and now, wow, wow.

540
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 2: Exact bro. I think I'm just like, well, it's just cool.

541
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 3: I think it's great. Look what our podcast can do.

542
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 4: Okay, but I'm intrigued because this morning I got my

543
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 4: genetic blood test. They don't just like give you the

544
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Speaker 4: results when you do that, they make you do like

545
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 4: a counseling call. It was really interesting because it wasn't

546
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 4: like therapeutic. I think they just don't want you to

547
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 4: get these results without being able to really understand what

548
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 4: they are because it can freak people out. I'm just

549
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 4: seeing what mutations that I carry, and it's normal to

550
00:25:54,119 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 4: have the mutations. We all have them, except I had

551
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,679
Speaker 4: four and Patrick who had one, and I.

552
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 2: Felt like I lost. I thought he was gonna have

553
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 2: like mayby seven or something like that, but he had won, and.

554
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 3: Oh no, I want to know mine.

555
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 2: So it is really interesting.

556
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Speaker 4: It's really expensive though, so if you don't have a

557
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Speaker 4: reason to do it, and well, depending on if your

558
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 4: insurance covers it, our stident. So I sign up for

559
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 4: a survey, so I got a discount anyway, we had this.

560
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Speaker 3: Well that's good to know that if you do a

561
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Speaker 3: survey you can get a discount.

562
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Speaker 4: Well, I don't know if that's offered. I don't know

563
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Speaker 4: if it's just where we went they offered that. So

564
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 4: I don't want anybody like, what's the discount. I don't

565
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 4: I don't know. It could have just been from the

566
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 4: clinic AnyWho. We're doing this testing and basically all she's

567
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 4: saying is like, these are the mutations that you have.

568
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Speaker 2: This is what you carry.

569
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Speaker 4: So if me and Patrick had the same mutation, that

570
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 4: would not be great because then we could pass that

571
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 4: to our kid. But they're recessive, so like, if I

572
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 4: have it, the chances of our kid having it isn't.

573
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Speaker 2: Super super likely.

574
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Speaker 4: However, she's going through these, I forget the names of them,

575
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 4: and I don't have the like PaperWorks, so I can't

576
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 4: say what they are. She gets to the third one

577
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 4: and she's like, oh, and then you have this one.

578
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:13,120
Speaker 4: She says the name, it's like a long scientific name

579
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 4: for alder.

580
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 3: Hyde, magic eraser.

581
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:19,920
Speaker 2: And she goes, and do you guys know who Helen

582
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 2: Keller is?

583
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 4: And I go, we go, yeah, she goes, this is

584
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 4: what they think Helen Keller had, So that's pretty cool.

585
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 2: I did not to say so I think I was like,

586
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 2: that's so neat.

587
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:39,920
Speaker 3: You're blind dead, she goes.

588
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 2: She goes, she was blind and deaf, but she was

589
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 2: able to communicate, so that's really exciting. She has mute, she.

590
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 4: Was able to communicate in other ways because her brain

591
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 4: was still there, Like she had a functioning brain and

592
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 4: she was able to like think, I.

593
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 3: Know, speaking of TikTok. There's all kinds of conspiracies about

594
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 3: how like if Helen Keller is as inspiring as we Oh,

595
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 3: really no, I mean I'm sure she's inspiring. Is just like,

596
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 3: come on, was she really able to?

597
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 2: Did she write a book?

598
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:15,200
Speaker 3: I'm only laughing because of the tiktoks I've seen. I

599
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 3: don't know.

600
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 4: I don't know, Okay, to be fair, I don't know

601
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 4: a lot about her, but now I feel like I

602
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 4: should look into it.

603
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:25,680
Speaker 2: You guess it's only a one in thirteen thousand chances.

604
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 2: So she was like, so it's not like a lot.

605
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 3: I mean that sounds high to me, Like what in

606
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 3: a million? Seems like well, actually one day.

607
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 4: So the two other ones were one in two hundred.

608
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 4: I'm just thinking some other things that she said that

609
00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 4: cracked me up. I have this other mutation that it's

610
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 4: night blindness. Then I think it turns into like blindness

611
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 4: you have that. I just have bad eyesight, but I

612
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 4: don't have this disorder. But she goes Actually my sister's

613
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 4: babysitter growing up, when she used to run into walls

614
00:28:57,880 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 4: and they thought she was.

615
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 2: Just clumsy, but turns out she was going blind.

616
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 4: Do you have all these like antidotes from all these stories,

617
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 4: but that could be my kid. But that one I

618
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 4: only have a one in two hundred thousand chance. So

619
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 4: she said, there never can be a zero chance of anything,

620
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 4: but one in two hundred thousand is basically zero, so

621
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 4: it doesn't need like one in a million. So one

622
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 4: in thirteen thousand is pretty unlikely. Okay, I'm not worried

623
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 4: about it. And then my other one was a lot

624
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 4: more likely, and that's one in eight hundred. But it

625
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 4: was like an iron deficiency thing that I think people

626
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 4: live pretty healthy lives with.

627
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure I have an iron deficiency.

628
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 2: It was a certain kind.

629
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 4: Well, actually it was interesting because she said it was

630
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 4: something that most people don't realize they have until they

631
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 4: go through menopause.

632
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 2: I don't know why.

633
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 3: That's when it starts. That's when they start to I

634
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 3: guess it's like asymptomatic until then.

635
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, so like you live a pretty normal life. And

636
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 4: the blindness one, the night blindness, she said, you go

637
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:56,800
Speaker 4: blind in adulthood.

638
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, this is crazy. And sorry, I don't

639
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 3: I feel like I need to apologize about the Helen

640
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 3: Keller thing and giggling like I don't know. I've just

641
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 3: seen conspiracies on TikTok. I'm not saying they're true.

642
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 4: I think you're talking about my kid right now, and

643
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 4: now I'm identifying with Helen Keller as one of my children.

644
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 3: Maybe that's why I want to apologize, is because I

645
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 3: don't want to offend your like I'm not trying to

646
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 3: if anybody, or if anybody knows Helen, which they didn't,

647
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 3: but maybe she's a distant relative. I just didn't want

648
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 3: to be offensive because I think she did a lot

649
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 3: of amazing things, and she had a teacher and a

650
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 3: well guy.

651
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 4: I don't really know a lot about her, but my

652
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 4: point in the story is she was so excited to share.

653
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 3: With me that fact when that doesn't seem like to me,

654
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 3: like that would be a very like so fun.

655
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Speaker 4: I think also, she probably talks about this stuff a lot,

656
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 4: and when she first said it, I was like, oh,

657
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 4: I don't really know what that means. So maybe it's

658
00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,280
Speaker 4: a way for her to help us understand what she's saying.

659
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 3: Right, you know, you're intrigued.

660
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:02,000
Speaker 2: I'm intrigued.

661
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 3: I'm intrigued too.

662
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 2: I forget what Patrick's one mutation was probably was like

663
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 2: blonde hair.

664
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 3: That's not a mute.

665
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 2: That's a recessive. Isn't that recessive?

666
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 3: Oh? I don't know. I don't know anything about these thing.

667
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 2: That's less likely, but that wouldn't be like a mutation.

668
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 3: Okay, well keep us posted. This is so interesting. Okay,

669
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 3: well shall we get into the voicemail?

670
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:31,479
Speaker 5: Hi, Amy and Kat. My name is McKinsey. I live

671
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 5: in Texas. You can share all the facts. You can

672
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 5: play this voicemail before actually getting to the voicemail. Your

673
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 5: little intro for the voicemail message is super funny. Maybe

674
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 5: smile before. Like, I want to say something I'm kind

675
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 5: of sad about. So my feeling is resentment. I have

676
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 5: a really hard time, especially in the last few years,

677
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 5: being around people that came from money and kind of

678
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 5: this expectation that they have around the things that families

679
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 5: do for them that you know, they had their college

680
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 5: paid for, they have their parents pay for their weddings,

681
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 5: they are having babies and these big baby showers where

682
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:19,960
Speaker 5: they received these really fancy and expensive gifts when I

683
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 5: didn't come from any of that. And so although I'm

684
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 5: around it now and I like these people, they're kind

685
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 5: to people that they don't even realize the privilege that

686
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 5: they have, and I end up holding up with her

687
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 5: present'm it against them, and I'm just not really sure

688
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 5: how to navigate that without holding against them. Well, also

689
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 5: not having icky feelings whenever I see something good in

690
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 5: their life that I'm not kidding. So I would love

691
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 5: just some advice around that. Appreciate that you guys so.

692
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 3: Good, like a very very very special boy, smil would

693
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 3: you see what I mean about the man? I know

694
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 3: you know because we listen to it together, but to

695
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 3: the listeners, like y'all see what we mean about just

696
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 3: the tenderness and the honesty and vulnerability there opening up

697
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 3: and sharing that and being like, hey, you can play

698
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 3: this and share it with everybody. Thoughts, Kat, you're.

699
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 2: Just passing that over to me.

700
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 4: So I think that one the best part about her

701
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 4: sharing this is her acknowledging it, like we already said,

702
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 4: because a lot of times when we have those feelings,

703
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 4: we push them down and we then they end up

704
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 4: being like pushed towards the other person. And I think

705
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 4: in that voicemail, she was saying they're good people, like

706
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 4: this isn't really about them.

707
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 2: I just don't know what to do with it. I

708
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,200
Speaker 2: think that already is going to relieve something for her.

709
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 2: I don't know that there is.

710
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 4: Anything that we can say or do on the podcast

711
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:51,920
Speaker 4: that's going to help her untangle all of that. It

712
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 4: sounds like there's something underneath the thing. So she's feeling

713
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 4: resentment when and correct me if I'm getting some of

714
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 4: this wrong, but she's feeling resentment when she sees people

715
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 4: expectant of things financial things from their families, or when

716
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 4: people just get things that are kind of extravagant in

717
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 4: her eyes. Okay, that's the thing, But what's the thing

718
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,799
Speaker 4: underneath the thing? And that's what she has to kind

719
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 4: of unravel with herself. And if she was sitting here,

720
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 4: I'd probably ask her some questions to get to that.

721
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 4: But what I can offer her is that feeling of resentment,

722
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 4: which there might be some jealousy or some envy in

723
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 4: there too. Jealousy and envy aren't really they're not bad.

724
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 4: Those help us identify things that we care about and

725
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 4: things we want, but that might not ever totally go away.

726
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 4: And so rather than I think when we are looking

727
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:49,240
Speaker 4: to process things, we want the feeling to go away,

728
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 4: we think, when we process it, oh, this will then

729
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 4: go away or dissipate, when a lot of times it

730
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 4: just maybe shrinks a little bit and then we find

731
00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 4: something else that's there too. So if you're processing this

732
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 4: and you're doing the digging or doing the work to

733
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 4: understand what's the thing underneath the thing, know that those

734
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:10,239
Speaker 4: feelings might be there and this other thing might be there.

735
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that whatever the work needs to be

736
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 3: done to untangle that. I like that word untangle and

737
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:20,360
Speaker 3: figure out what's underneath there. While the feeling of resentment

738
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 3: may always be there, maybe it's sometimes it just won't

739
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 3: be as loud anymore and it won't be as like

740
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,359
Speaker 3: bring up such emotion.

741
00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 4: And maybe just more from resentment to more of this envy.

742
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 4: I think envy and jealousy get like a bad rap

743
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 4: when like they can be very helpful. I get jealous

744
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 4: of people that have things that I want or things

745
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:47,399
Speaker 4: that I have grieved or things that I never got

746
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 4: to have. And that's not that I'm mad at those people.

747
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 4: It's that, oh, dang it, that would have been cool.

748
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 3: And sometimes it's even information to what you do want

749
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 3: or what you want to work towards. Some of it

750
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 3: may or may not be attainable. It's not always going

751
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 3: to be that, but if it is something you can

752
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 3: work towards, it can be information of like, well maybe

753
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,879
Speaker 3: that's what I want. Not in this caller's case, I'm

754
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 3: just saying the feeling of jealousy or envy when that

755
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:20,399
Speaker 3: does come up, it can be information for that, right right, right, yeah,

756
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 3: licensed therapist, But what do you.

757
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,279
Speaker 4: Want to talk about what you said earlier and why

758
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 4: we got into a little SIV? Do you want to

759
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 4: talk about what you said earlier and why we got

760
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:42,400
Speaker 4: into a little SIV? Well?

761
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 3: I think that, like it's it's all in perspective at

762
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:52,319
Speaker 3: times too, and money is so relative because I don't

763
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,839
Speaker 3: know how she grew up, so that's hard to say.

764
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:58,399
Speaker 3: I do know that sometimes we can do a lot

765
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:02,320
Speaker 3: of comparing or feeling like, oh, well, you know, because

766
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:07,800
Speaker 3: we don't have XYZ, we don't have money, or I

767
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 3: guess it's not even like a luxury, but we aren't privileged.

768
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 3: But again not knowing her circumstances specifically, but I just

769
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 3: think I didn't think I grew up super wealthy, but

770
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 3: now that I'm an adult, I think I did grow

771
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 3: up wealthy, ish and privileged, but also my dad went

772
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 3: bankrupt multiple times, so I had speaking of We were

773
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 3: talking about roller coaster of emotions earlier. I have such

774
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 3: a roller coaster of emotions with money. And I think

775
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 3: we lived in a country club neighborhood. But then my

776
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:41,879
Speaker 3: dad moved out when I was nine, and my mom

777
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 3: was a single mom working all the time, and all

778
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 3: my not all. A lot of my friends in my

779
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 3: neighborhood went to private school. I went to public school

780
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 3: with some of my other friends. I don't mean to

781
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 3: paint it like everybody in my neighborhood went to private school,

782
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 3: but a lot of people did. But I think I

783
00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:00,720
Speaker 3: compared myself, so to me, I'm like, well, my friends

784
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 3: in my neighborhood have a lot of money. But then

785
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 3: anybody looking at my life thinking, oh, she grew up

786
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 3: in that neighborhood, which my mom never wanted to move

787
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 3: because she wanted us to live in the same house

788
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,359
Speaker 3: stro eighteen. So she figured that out and then part

789
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 3: of the divorce, my dad gave her the house. But

790
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 3: I don't think she would have stayed there. Ideally. It

791
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 3: wasn't great for her, but she made it work because

792
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 3: she wanted as little disruption on our lives as possible,

793
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:27,799
Speaker 3: which I admire a lot. Looking back, There's no way

794
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 3: someone else would like working with Bobby and knowing how

795
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:33,919
Speaker 3: he grew up in you were privilege, a trailer park

796
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 3: and going from house to house and getting evicted, and

797
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 3: his single mom life was very different than my single

798
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,959
Speaker 3: mom life because I also had a dad that still

799
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 3: wanted to support us financially, and I was gifted my

800
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 3: first car and a gas card. Our poor listener who

801
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:53,800
Speaker 3: left the voicemails listening right now, And I hope not

802
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 3: having resentment towards me, but I don't think I expect

803
00:38:56,640 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 3: that though, But that's what happened. And then my wedding

804
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:04,879
Speaker 3: paid for my college. I kind of wish he would

805
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 3: have made it a little more difficult on me, quite honestly,

806
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 3: And for that very reason, I'm parenting my children differently,

807
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 3: Like for the first time ever now that our daughter's eighteen,

808
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 3: and Ben and I had a little sit down with

809
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 3: her on expectations and money, and for the first time

810
00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 3: ever this month she started paying us like a lump

811
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 3: sum at the beginning of every month. Now that she's eighteen,

812
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 3: she's paying us a chunk towards cell phone, car insurance,

813
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 3: gas and it's a chunk, but she's earning it at

814
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 3: her job, and then we're trying to get her ready

815
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 3: for that's what rent and bills will be like. And

816
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 3: so at the first of every month she is paying us,

817
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 3: she has an amount due and it's like fork it

818
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 3: over and she's sort of excited about it.

819
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 2: And because agency too.

820
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:58,839
Speaker 3: Yes, that never was expected of me, and I'm sort

821
00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 3: of annoyed that my dad didn't teach me that and

822
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 3: do that for me of like saying, hey, pay for

823
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:08,640
Speaker 3: your own cats, pay for your own insurance. Now I

824
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:11,759
Speaker 3: had friends that did that. Anyway, back to my original point,

825
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,320
Speaker 3: I think money there's all different kinds of conversations you

826
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 3: can have around it, obviously, but it's so relative because

827
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 3: I felt less than but that's because people I was

828
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 3: surrounded by had so much money. But then people would

829
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 3: look at our lives. Even if you have the opportunity

830
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 3: to have clean water, you have more than other people.

831
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 3: I mean, obviously my kids being from Haiti and knowing

832
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 3: what their life was like at the orphanage, those kids

833
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 3: there would come look at their life here now and

834
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 3: be like, oh my gosh, this is crazy. So it's

835
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 3: all relative. That's what Kat and I were talking about earlier.

836
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:54,319
Speaker 3: And then I started talking about Becca Bloom beca ex

837
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:58,320
Speaker 3: Bloom on Instagram, who is this crazy wealthy woman. Actually

838
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 3: she got really famous on TikTok, but I follow her

839
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 3: mostly and see her stuff on Instagram and she is

840
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 3: stupid wealthy and makes these ridiculous over those hop videos.

841
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 3: But I kind of like her, like she's likable, and

842
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,240
Speaker 3: if you go in the comments, most people are saying

843
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 3: just that that They're like, you're the only rich person.

844
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 3: I like, like, there's something about you that's a little endearing.

845
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 3: And then Kat wasn't really feeling the vibe, and so

846
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 3: that I got. I suddenly got defensive of this Becca

847
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 3: girl on Instagram that I don't know in TikTok and

848
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, wait, why am I defending this rich girl

849
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 3: online that I.

850
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 2: Don't know to you?

851
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 3: Because I was being a little judgmental, Yeah you are.

852
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 3: I was like, maybe you have resent me or in

853
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: the or maybe I do you're jealousy. But then you

854
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 3: were like, well, would you want to yah be that?

855
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:50,399
Speaker 3: And I was like, well, I don't know, maybe yeah,

856
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 3: And You're like, I'd never want to be that, and

857
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,720
Speaker 3: I'm like, what, I don't have a worry in the world.

858
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 2: No, we talked about this.

859
00:41:56,520 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 4: I would like to be that wealthy if nothing else

860
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,879
Speaker 4: in my life changed, except I always knew that I'd

861
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 4: be okay financially, and I'd always know that if I

862
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 4: needed something or wanted something, I could have it.

863
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 2: But I wouldn't want to spend that.

864
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:12,839
Speaker 3: Way, right. But my point was she grew up that way,

865
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 3: and it's not she was born into that, so her

866
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 3: spinning that way is very But would you want to

867
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 3: marry into normal? Well, she doesn't know, like that's her baseline.

868
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:22,839
Speaker 2: No, that's not my question.

869
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 4: My question was do you want would you want to

870
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 4: be born in that? Or knowing what it's like on

871
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 4: this side of the world, would you not like to

872
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:30,840
Speaker 4: be born into that?

873
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 3: I don't know. She was just in Paris. I've never

874
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 3: been there, and I think she just flew there to

875
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 3: buy some shoes, So what would I want to do that?

876
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:46,239
Speaker 2: Maybe that's okay if you don't, but I don't.

877
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 3: But you're right, like I, I like my life and

878
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 3: I want to be normal like I I'm there's something

879
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 3: about her there's just not pretentious, if that's the right word.

880
00:42:56,120 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 3: Because she's not pretentious about it. She's being blatantly. Maybe

881
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 3: watched enough of her videos, maybe I have watched too many.

882
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 2: And he's like, she's so normal, it's so normal.

883
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 4: She shows seventeen of her watches and it's okay because

884
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 4: she didn't buy any of them.

885
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 2: Somebody just gifted her seventeen yelexes. Yeah, I'm like, wait,

886
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 2: what we lost the plot here?

887
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 3: No no no no no no no no no no no.

888
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 3: I never said she was normal. Back it on, up,

889
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 3: I never you said. I think in my head, I

890
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 3: was just picturing her as normal, I said, Kat. She

891
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 3: packs the caviare in her China lunch box like China,

892
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 3: like nice China, fine China.

893
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, like glat like like I packed my Kroger bags

894
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:48,920
Speaker 4: right like, and I did throw away my ziplocked bags.

895
00:43:48,960 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 4: And she reuses her she does, see yes.

896
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 3: In one of the videos, her husband is sharing like

897
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:57,879
Speaker 3: fun facts about her or they are doing it about

898
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,840
Speaker 3: each other, and he's like, something out her is she

899
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 3: will hire someone, or she wants hand painted wallpaper all

900
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 3: throughout the house. But she will reuse ziploc bags over

901
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 3: and over and gets mad if he uses like a

902
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 3: whole piece of paper towel wild. Yeah, because she doesn't

903
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 3: want to be wasteful, and who knows how.

904
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 4: May recycling though she probably is really good at it.

905
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:24,279
Speaker 4: Maybe and maybe because she well she has a job.

906
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, if she's not working, then maybe

907
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 4: can she can spend a lot of money recycling.

908
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 3: No, she has a job in finance, okay, which that's good.

909
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 2: So she's really wealthy and she still works, right.

910
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 3: I think she was from the videos that I've seen,

911
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 3: the few the few videos that I've seen the few fifty,

912
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:45,760
Speaker 3: I think her parents had very high expectations for their upbringing,

913
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 3: like their kids, like they probably had an excellent education,

914
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 3: like you could tell top top grades were expected.

915
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:55,239
Speaker 2: We're looking at the outside. We don't know the inside, so.

916
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 4: We're just I don't know the inside, preparing our insides

917
00:44:57,719 --> 00:44:59,800
Speaker 4: to her outside. And like her life might not be

918
00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 4: a greatest she makes it look like on TikTok.

919
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 3: But I don't know that she's like saying my life

920
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 3: is so great. I don't really hear her say, look

921
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:08,360
Speaker 3: how fabulous my life is.

922
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 2: That's the thing. Okay.

923
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 3: So that's where I want to be clear here, which

924
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 3: all will just have to go watch her videos and

925
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 3: see for yourself. But it's like there is a difference

926
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 3: in you know, pretentious people, right like, she doesn't give

927
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 3: me gums vibes, right Like, I feel like she's cool.

928
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 2: But you're just trying to get on her like yacht

929
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 2: or private place. No, no, no, I'm just kidding, not

930
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 2: at all.

931
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 4: No, I hear what you're saying. She's not saying like

932
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 4: I'm better than you. She's just saying, matter of factly,

933
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:40,920
Speaker 4: this is these are all my watches.

934
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like, watch me pack my lunch, or this

935
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 3: is my watch collection and they're all gifts from my

936
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:50,839
Speaker 3: family and they're special to me. Or here, we're going

937
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:54,920
Speaker 3: on a date night to a Michelin star restaurant and

938
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 3: we're stopping at this fancy jeweler beforehand to pick up

939
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:02,560
Speaker 3: a piece of jewey. And then they come home from

940
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 3: their date night and they go to their movie theater

941
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:08,480
Speaker 3: in their house and watch, Uh, what are they watching?

942
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:11,480
Speaker 2: They get like before that's released to the theaters, movies.

943
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 3: No, they're watching they were watching a TV show, like

944
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 3: just like us. Becca Blimb's just like us. The New

945
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 3: York Times just did a write up on her. I

946
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:26,880
Speaker 3: believe I saw an article posted and I think her

947
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,800
Speaker 3: real name is Rebecca ma or may or something, and

948
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 3: she goes by Becca x Bloom. And she only joined

949
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 3: TikTok in January. It is, We're already mid September. At

950
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 3: this point, it's almost Christmas. She hasn't even been online

951
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 3: for a year, and charity has millions of followers. She

952
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 3: knows what she's doing, like life like playing it up.

953
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you had a life like that, you could

954
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 2: get millions to follow.

955
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,440
Speaker 3: But I don't know that. No, I don't know that

956
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 3: everybody can do it the way she's doing it. Like

957
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 3: there are some people that are obnoxious and annoying.

958
00:46:57,200 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, she's gets more haters. Yeah, yeah, I.

959
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 3: Feel like something about it. But definitely how about this,

960
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:06,280
Speaker 3: check it out see for yourself.

961
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 4: Give me another week, let me look at more of

962
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:11,479
Speaker 4: her stuff and let it sink in, and then maybe

963
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,280
Speaker 4: I won't have this automatic reaction.

964
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:18,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd definitely being a hater. You were the kitchen counter.

965
00:47:19,160 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 3: Yeah me too. I just found somebody that I like online,

966
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 3: not because.

967
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:25,320
Speaker 4: I want to.

968
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

969
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,959
Speaker 3: I'm sorry apology existed, but I also was a little

970
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 3: sib about it. And back to the whole thing. It's

971
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:37,080
Speaker 3: like relative, Like she she has a lot of money,

972
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 3: but there are wealthier people that might have more money

973
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 3: than her, and she might think like, oh wow, I

974
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:45,800
Speaker 3: do not think she thinks that, probably not that she

975
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:47,720
Speaker 3: has never one to for anything.

976
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

977
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 4: I get what you're saying, and I agree that it

978
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:52,279
Speaker 4: is relative, but there is a limit to it where

979
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 4: it's like, Okay, you're like crazy rich, you're not.

980
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:57,720
Speaker 2: That's what us relatives.

981
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 3: Get confused about, really really really crazy rich hundreds of

982
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:06,799
Speaker 3: millions type people and they just like keep making money,

983
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,440
Speaker 3: make their money. Well, I understand being smart with them

984
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:11,399
Speaker 3: making money off of money, but they like want more.

985
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 3: Could never be me like like they want more, It's

986
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 3: like what are you wanting for?

987
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 2: Like what's the well that's their like brain because this

988
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 2: is the whole Taylor Swift thing. Like I have said this.

989
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 4: I've had this to Patrick about like multiple people that

990
00:48:24,000 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 4: if I was were talking about Michael Jordan the other

991
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 4: day he has like three billion dollars or something crazy

992
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:30,920
Speaker 4: like that, and in my head I was like, once

993
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 4: I make a billion dollars, I'm not working anymore.

994
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:38,319
Speaker 2: Right, But those people their brain is wired.

995
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 4: Differently that it's not just about the money. It's about

996
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 4: what they're accomplishing and like the actual work. Like Taylor

997
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:46,600
Speaker 4: Swift really likes what she does, it's not just about

998
00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 4: the money. Yeah, I think that's a nice little bonus bonus,

999
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:52,760
Speaker 4: but like, yeah, if I was Taylor Swift, I wouldn't

1000
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 4: work another day in my life. Their brains are wired

1001
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:58,320
Speaker 4: so differently than me. If I was a therapist and

1002
00:48:58,360 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 4: I made a billion dollars for well, that would never happen.

1003
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:02,279
Speaker 2: I'd be done.

1004
00:49:03,120 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you would have the desire to maybe help.

1005
00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:09,600
Speaker 3: You could volunteer. Yeah, you wouldn't just like sit around.

1006
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would shield a movie theater in my house

1007
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:13,719
Speaker 4: like Bega Bloom, and I would watch TV shows in

1008
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 4: the houseband. No, I would do other things, but I

1009
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:20,400
Speaker 4: wouldn't still have this drive to work that crazy of hours.

1010
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 3: Oh this just popped into my head a relatable Becca

1011
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 3: Bloom video that I saw where she posted she goes,

1012
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 3: these are the houses that my fiance and I were

1013
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:31,759
Speaker 3: considering buying. She talks a real soft like this. She's like,

1014
00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 3: these are the houses that we were considering buying, But

1015
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:35,719
Speaker 3: we did it, and I'm going to tell you the

1016
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:37,839
Speaker 3: reasons why and then she shows them. Of course they're

1017
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 3: like mega mansions, but she's like this one, she's like, honestly,

1018
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 3: it wasn't in the school district that we wanted.

1019
00:49:44,560 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 2: Relatable, right, So it's like, I get that. I just

1020
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 2: went through that.

1021
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then some of the other reasons were very

1022
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:55,160
Speaker 3: similar to things we contemplate as.

1023
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 2: It wasn't like the normal people. It wasn't coated in

1024
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 2: gold foil ceilings. That's not what it was. It was

1025
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 2: more like actual No.

1026
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:04,799
Speaker 3: But the other one, like she was like, and this one,

1027
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:06,959
Speaker 3: my husband couldn't get over the price per square foot.

1028
00:50:06,960 --> 00:50:09,439
Speaker 3: He said was way overpriced and it just didn't make sense.

1029
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 3: But it's like at that point they probably just bought it,

1030
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 3: like who cares, but they're still paying attention to price

1031
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 3: per square foot. See, they're just like us. She's relatable.

1032
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 3: It's relatable. Okay, well, I have no idea our Our

1033
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 3: advice was helpful, but to your point, like you said,

1034
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:32,800
Speaker 3: there's nothing we could say or do other than celebrate

1035
00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 3: her for acknowledging and being aware and sharing with us,

1036
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 3: because that's it probably felt very cathartic and maybe even

1037
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:46,240
Speaker 3: why it evoked that emotion and tears because just getting

1038
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 3: it off your chest sometimes can feel so good and know,

1039
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:53,439
Speaker 3: like I'm sharing this with someone, I'm gonna figure this out.

1040
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, And what's popping up in my head.

1041
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 4: I don't know if this is coming from what you

1042
00:50:57,239 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 4: shared or just my brain, but I think when you

1043
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 4: grow up without something, two things happen. A lot of

1044
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 4: things happen, but two specifically things happen. One you have

1045
00:51:10,640 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 4: more of an awareness of that thing that you don't have,

1046
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 4: and two you learn and like you grow from having

1047
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 4: to do it yourself. And so I wonder, because I

1048
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 4: don't know if she said this or not in the voicemail,

1049
00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 4: if there's this idea that her friends don't understand what

1050
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 4: they have, you know, right, appreciation for it, which like

1051
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 4: there's no way for us to.

1052
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:32,360
Speaker 2: Really know that.

1053
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:36,239
Speaker 4: We can take context clues, but like we can't really

1054
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 4: know because even you talking about, like my mom offering

1055
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:42,719
Speaker 4: me something, whether or not I accept it or not,

1056
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:45,880
Speaker 4: doesn't mean I am not understanding or I am understanding

1057
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:48,719
Speaker 4: what she's giving me, Like I have an acute awareness

1058
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:50,759
Speaker 4: of what she's offering me.

1059
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 2: But you would never know that from the out from

1060
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 2: looking at the outside, you know, Yeah.

1061
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:56,960
Speaker 3: I mean I know it because I'm your friend and

1062
00:51:57,040 --> 00:52:01,360
Speaker 3: I know that you also have extreme gratitude for your parents.

1063
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 3: I'm almost thinking too, just because we were talking about

1064
00:52:05,080 --> 00:52:07,200
Speaker 3: loss of my parents and you have both of yours.

1065
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 3: It would almost be like sometimes I might have like

1066
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:15,279
Speaker 3: a hint of envy or jealousy towards you, of like

1067
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:19,279
Speaker 3: the convenience of you just like popping down my dad

1068
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 3: would do it right, right right, Or you're like, oh,

1069
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 3: I got a swing by my parents' house and they're

1070
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:26,880
Speaker 3: gonna help with this. And sometimes I have like a

1071
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:31,840
Speaker 3: quick thought but it's not lasting or it's not similar

1072
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 3: to the voicemail where I have this extreme emotion about it.

1073
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 3: But right I don't have like a resentment towards you

1074
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:42,800
Speaker 3: because I know that you are grateful for your parents

1075
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 3: and you appreciate them. Now, if you were taking them

1076
00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:48,759
Speaker 3: for granted and had a totally different attitude about your

1077
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 3: relationship and how helpful your dad was towards helping you

1078
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 3: with different things, then I might have a little bit

1079
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,600
Speaker 3: more resentment of being like, do you realize how lucky

1080
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 3: you are to have a dad that can do that

1081
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 3: for you? Right now? I would give anything for my

1082
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 3: dad do that, But I know how I know you,

1083
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:08,920
Speaker 3: Like you said, you have an acute awareness of how

1084
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 3: fortunate you are.

1085
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:13,839
Speaker 2: And so maybe you have sadness that comes up. Maybe

1086
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 2: that's yeah.

1087
00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:17,560
Speaker 3: I mean sometimes I may have feelings of sadness or

1088
00:53:18,360 --> 00:53:21,480
Speaker 3: jealousy or envy, like, oh, I wish my parents were around,

1089
00:53:21,560 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 3: but I don't have that resentment towards you. And I

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Speaker 3: wonder to your point, Yeah, if she knew the perspective

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Speaker 3: her friends had, because she said they're kind people, and

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Speaker 3: maybe she could be assigning to them that they have

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Speaker 3: this expectation or maybe they've acted that way and she

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Speaker 3: has that data or that information. But sometimes we can

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Speaker 3: just project that on other people and think they expect it,

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Speaker 3: when really maybe they do have awareness and they are

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Speaker 3: grateful and they don't expect it, but their parents just

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Speaker 3: do it. It could be a combo.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And when we have a story written in our head,

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Speaker 2: what we end up doing is we are brains only.

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Speaker 4: Look for the data that supports that story. So she

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Speaker 4: could be picking up things that maybe not aren't even

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Speaker 4: really accurate.

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Speaker 3: So the challenge there which this could be helpful, would

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Speaker 3: be to try to see if that's what you're doing. Man.

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Speaker 2: But that's so inncisely at the end.

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Speaker 3: Well, I just mean, like I was like, I hope

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Speaker 3: we've been helpful, because there's nothing we could really like.

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Speaker 3: It's really one of like, it's work she needs to do,

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Speaker 3: either one on one with a therapist or digging deeper

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Speaker 3: and seeing what's underneath there. But that's something that we

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Speaker 3: offered her a good job. Yeah, okay, and she can

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Speaker 3: follow Becca Bloom and get really angry.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to encourage you not to do that.

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Speaker 3: Definitely could do that, although we don't know that Becca

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Speaker 3: expects it.

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say, maybe now's not the time for her.

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Speaker 4: To do that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, definitely not. Okay, Kat's the therapist, listen to her.

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Speaker 3: We hope that everybody has the day they need to have.

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Speaker 3: That's not the way we say it.

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Speaker 2: Hope you have the day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I said it wrong. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: I hope that you're having the day. I hope you

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Speaker 2: have the day.

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Speaker 3: Day. You're wearing the shirt right now, Kat's wearing our

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Speaker 3: shirt that says have the day you need to have,

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Speaker 3: which we'll have an update on merch soon ish. We're

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Speaker 3: cooking up something special. We are cooking. We're cooking. Yes, Okay,

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Speaker 3: so stay tuned. We'll probably share first on Instagram to

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Speaker 3: make sure you're following Feeling things podcast right right right, Okay,

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Speaker 3: have the day you need to have.

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Speaker 2: Bye Bye,