Speaker 1: On today's episode, we're joined by hands on sexual educator Somaya,
Speaker 1: founder of Sexual Essentials.
Speaker 2: Today, you can expect to hear.
Speaker 3: How your introduction to masturbation shapes your sexual experiences in adulthood.
Speaker 1: How to talk to your partner about incorporating sex toys
Speaker 1: in play.
Speaker 2: Whether or not sex toys desensitize you.
Speaker 1: Erica converting from buy fun into full on buy shut
Speaker 1: the fuck.
Speaker 3: How to fix broken pussy after pregnancy.
Speaker 1: Mutual masturbation, and a double horror story.
Speaker 2: Y'all do not want to.
Speaker 4: Miss enjoy.
Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom, Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 3: I'm Meela.
Speaker 2: Annie's Wednesday. Hey, Happy hump day. I want to hump
Speaker 2: to night. I'm trying to hump to night. Where's my
Speaker 2: humping partner? I have no humping partner.
Speaker 1: There's no humping partners in a fifty mile radius.
Speaker 2: And it's some bullshit. I mean, if you go on tender,
Speaker 2: there's there on the radius. Is my tender is not
Speaker 2: humping like?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 3: Speaking of tender, I'm on tender right now and I'm
Speaker 3: just on with girls.
Speaker 2: Oh and I'm I'm gonna be lesbian.
Speaker 5: I don't I don't know.
Speaker 4: I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm not feeling very lesbian lately.
Speaker 3: You always say that until they're pretty bitch rolls up like, huh,
Speaker 3: this is true.
Speaker 1: I haven't seen any pretty bitches on Tender and I
Speaker 1: just feel so disappointed in my lack of hole list,
Speaker 1: like I usually, I just feel like I'm too mature
Speaker 1: now because now there's there was a time where I
Speaker 1: could just like, huh, you're cute, let's have sex, And
Speaker 1: now I'm like, I want to talk to you, cuddle me.
Speaker 2: I don't want to cuddle you. So it's just like, no,
Speaker 2: it's good, it's good. I'm glad. I'm this is growth.
Speaker 2: I'm not. I'm the same way.
Speaker 3: I just I'm just exploring my my my womanness, my woman,
Speaker 3: my inner. Okay, because Jamila calls me buy fun, but
Speaker 3: I think I'm like transitioning out of buy fun into
Speaker 3: like just buy.
Speaker 2: So I don't know. I'll give you an update in
Speaker 2: like two months and let you know, but either way,
Speaker 2: either way, yeah, please update.
Speaker 1: Is my journey, your transition from buy fun to just
Speaker 1: a regular buy.
Speaker 2: I'm also like lazy.
Speaker 1: I'm so lazy to like I was Erica, you know,
Speaker 1: I was driving past the airport for anal and it's
Speaker 1: just too far.
Speaker 2: I was just fucking dying.
Speaker 3: She's like, I've been driving past l e X for anal,
Speaker 3: A one anal.
Speaker 2: I'm like specifically anal, Like there's a niggat.
Speaker 3: Past LAX that's giving you a one anal And she
Speaker 3: was like yep. I was like, bitch, I hope, I
Speaker 3: hope your miles are Is he paying a car insurance?
Speaker 1: At point, I was like getting feeling really sexy and
Speaker 1: I like had these crotchless rhymestone pantyhose and I sent
Speaker 1: him a picture like should I wear these? He was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: so in at like four o'clock. So if you're from LA,
Speaker 1: you know nobody's driving on the four or five at four.
Speaker 1: Me I drove all at the four oh five past
Speaker 1: the airport at four in crotchless ryanstone pantyhose and a
Speaker 1: chrench coat to be sexy and to get anal. And
Speaker 1: I at that point I was like, Wow, this is
Speaker 1: this is outrageous. So yeah, I don't know if I'm
Speaker 1: feeling that eager anymore, but I'm just taking this time
Speaker 1: to just I'm gonna take our guests masturbation class and
Speaker 1: work on my masturbation.
Speaker 3: Well, before we get into masturbation anal and everything above,
Speaker 3: I would love to start our episode by oh my god.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's let's it's a new everyone's calling. Everyone's calling,
Speaker 1: you know why because we said we don't have any
Speaker 1: dick and they're like, what what was that?
Speaker 2: That's what happens. As soon as you don't want niggas
Speaker 2: bother you, here they come. They hear the radar.
Speaker 4: B baby.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's get into our our cards. Okay, here we go.
Speaker 3: Like that like that sound love it all right? Page
Speaker 3: of swords, Page of swords. So in this image there
Speaker 3: is a woman here. I'm gonna show it on the
Speaker 3: video because if you're on Patreon you can you can
Speaker 3: watch this video.
Speaker 2: All of our patrons get to watch us weekly.
Speaker 3: But it is a looks like a woman, right, a
Speaker 3: woman looks like a young man with long hair the
Speaker 3: old time, holding a sword up into the sky. There's
Speaker 3: clouds and he's on a little I don't know, but
Speaker 3: can I see it so I can describe it. Sorry,
Speaker 3: she's he's on like a little like a mound of greenery.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you what it is.
Speaker 1: Tell me the page of Swords shows a young man
Speaker 1: standing with his sword pointing upwards to the two point
Speaker 1: upwards to the sky. His body and the sword lean
Speaker 1: in one direction, but he looks the other way, as
Speaker 1: if to see what else is happening around him. A
Speaker 1: breeze blows through the young man's hair, and the clouds
Speaker 1: behind him appear to dash through the sky, bringing dynamic
Speaker 1: energy to the card. The ground on which the page
Speaker 1: stands is green and fertile, suggesting that the page's ideas
Speaker 1: are likely to bring positive change and forward movement. We
Speaker 1: pulled this card upright, and the meaning of this card
Speaker 1: is by the way, we're getting these answers from biddy Taro.
Speaker 1: We didn't just wake up one morning and no Taro.
Speaker 1: We're still working on it. We like Taro, we don't
Speaker 1: know it. We google the shit Biddi Taro dot com.
Speaker 2: No one gonna sue us. Okay.
Speaker 1: The page of Swords is full of energy, passion, and enthusiasm.
Speaker 1: When this card shows up in a tarot reading, you
Speaker 1: are bursting with new ideas and plans for the future.
Speaker 2: That is us.
Speaker 1: You may be excited about starting a new project, pursuing
Speaker 1: a new approach, or learning something new you have so
Speaker 1: much energy that you feel as though you could do
Speaker 1: almost anything, and you can. The challenge, however, is whether
Speaker 1: you can keep it up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we can.
Speaker 1: As with all pages, the beginning always looks promising, but
Speaker 1: you need something else to follow through and keep up
Speaker 1: the pace.
Speaker 2: The page of.
Speaker 1: Swords often emerges when you're exploring a new way of thinking,
Speaker 1: a new idea, a new perspective, new knowledge, or a
Speaker 1: new technique. You have a curious mind and it's thirst
Speaker 1: for knowledge. As you explore this fresh way of thinking,
Speaker 1: you were asking lots of questions and gathering as much
Speaker 1: information as possible. You are also very much in the
Speaker 1: exploratory phase and not mastery. You may be prone to
Speaker 1: making mistakes along the way, but your curiosity means that
Speaker 1: you are eager to learn from your slip ups. I
Speaker 1: like that, I like that, I like that waterme. I'm
Speaker 1: here to grow out.
Speaker 2: I'm capable. I will not I'm relentless, i will not
Speaker 2: give up.
Speaker 1: And today's affirmation is you are more than motherfucking enough.
Speaker 2: You are more than mother enough.
Speaker 1: If you're questioning it, here is your sign. If you
Speaker 1: were suffering from imposter syndrome, here is your motherfucking sign you.
Speaker 2: Is the ship?
Speaker 1: Say a loud, stay abroud say allowed to say it, proud,
Speaker 1: I'm the motherfucking ship.
Speaker 2: Well, on that.
Speaker 3: Note, I would love to introduce Samaya, the owner of
Speaker 3: Sexual Essentials and hands on sexual educator.
Speaker 2: Welcome to the show, Samaya.
Speaker 5: Hey you guys.
Speaker 2: I'm so happy to have you girl. How you doing?
Speaker 5: I am doing good. I'm having a good day, A
Speaker 5: busy day, but a good day. Where started this week?
Speaker 5: Where are you at?
Speaker 2: Where are you at the in the USA?
Speaker 5: I am in Florida?
Speaker 2: Nice? Are you from? Are you from there?
Speaker 5: Absolutely not? Louis, so said Saint Louis.
Speaker 2: Yep. Okay, well how'd you get Okay, I'm on your business?
Speaker 5: I went to the goddamn you Okay, yes, all that
Speaker 5: tell us about your business?
Speaker 1: How did you get into sexual Essentials? How did you
Speaker 1: become a hands on sexual educator?
Speaker 5: So I probably should have thought about that before. I
Speaker 5: was like, hey, let's do this. After I had my son,
Speaker 5: I really needed an outlet. And I have always been
Speaker 5: that friend that you call about sex and will try
Speaker 5: anything three times, that person, And ultimately I just realized
Speaker 5: that you could have a baby and not have an orgasm,
Speaker 5: and I felt like that was a lot to put
Speaker 5: on yourself without even getting a nut off.
Speaker 1: Man, God, imagine getting the baby but no orgasm.
Speaker 2: It's true.
Speaker 4: Damn.
Speaker 2: I mean I can't, but I know that a lot
Speaker 2: of it now.
Speaker 5: So I know, you guys have like probably like thousands
Speaker 5: of listeners that are like ooho, And so I was like,
Speaker 5: you know, I'm gonna teach people how to have better sex,
Speaker 5: make relationships better, right, this is gonna be my part
Speaker 5: to save the rainforest. So first I started with this
Speaker 5: blog and stuff like that. But then I was like, wait,
Speaker 5: I need to tell them about sex toys, because every
Speaker 5: sex store is just trying to sell you, sell you
Speaker 5: everything that has ever been made, and all of that
Speaker 5: stuff ain't good. So I was like, Okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: offer some sex toys. But I was like, well, if
Speaker 5: I'm trying to teach them how to have better sex,
Speaker 5: then I actually have to teach them how to have
Speaker 5: better sex. They could rease Cosmo for some tips, and
Speaker 5: you know, watch YouTube to learn about a grapefruit. You know,
Speaker 5: I have to do something different. We gotta start with
Speaker 5: the essentials first before you learn how to you know,
Speaker 5: dangle from the ceiling and shit. So yeah, I was like,
Speaker 5: fuck it, i'n'ta teach people how to suck big because
Speaker 5: I bet relationships would get a little better, you know,
Speaker 5: and I know women would not be as bitchy if
Speaker 5: we got some nuts off, and you know, I'm just like,
Speaker 5: you know, this is just help everybody.
Speaker 4: Fuck it.
Speaker 5: I'ma I'm gonna teach classes. And I was like, well,
Speaker 5: if I'm gonna teach dicksucking class, they gonna need a
Speaker 5: dick to practice on. So they come to the classes,
Speaker 5: I give them a dildo and they go to work.
Speaker 5: So yeah, I teach hands on classes where you legit
Speaker 5: leave class knowing how to ride, knowing how to sug dig.
Speaker 5: I teach how to masturbate, I teach how to squirt,
Speaker 5: I teach how to have threesomes. I teach everything. Because
Speaker 5: who were you gonna ask?
Speaker 3: Ghostbusters is not the answer, So okay, So question I
Speaker 3: need I need more. I need more clarity on your
Speaker 3: on your classes. So when you are doing dick sucking classes,
Speaker 3: like are you there side by side like teaching them, Like, yeah, don't.
Speaker 2: Do that too much.
Speaker 5: Relax.
Speaker 3: But because and also because dick sucking is also such
Speaker 3: a personal I mean, I think for a man, it's
Speaker 3: a personal experience, and you know, you kind of have
Speaker 3: to know your partner and what their needs and wants
Speaker 3: are and be able to read body language and how
Speaker 3: do you how do you how do you leave them?
Speaker 3: I guess I guess they're probably just essential like that.
Speaker 3: The main things that kind of help guide.
Speaker 1: Them are you basically asking her how she does it
Speaker 1: without an actual man there.
Speaker 5: Yeah, no, she's because everybody's different too. I totally get
Speaker 5: what you're saying. That's a great question. So I teach
Speaker 5: you how to actually do it. That means that even
Speaker 5: if you get a different dick tomorrow, you still know
Speaker 5: how to do it, because that means I've taught you
Speaker 5: how to adjust. I've taught you. Okay, understand there are
Speaker 5: two spectrums to everything. Some people may like head really fast,
Speaker 5: but don't, just because we may practice that you are
Speaker 5: a living, breathing individual. Use your senses to watch their
Speaker 5: body to say, okay, this person may like it slow
Speaker 5: or at least try it. I don't enable people to
Speaker 5: rely on me. I teach you how to become a
Speaker 5: dick suck, not just how to do a class that
Speaker 5: you learned. I teach you how to be you know,
Speaker 5: a throat baby for baby, and.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to give them to shout out to Orlando
Speaker 1: who put me on that song.
Speaker 2: I know that's on our Spotify playlist because.
Speaker 5: Of definitely, but teach I don't. I don't enable people
Speaker 5: to rely on me, you know how Like you have
Speaker 5: that person that you call about everything. You're like, girl,
Speaker 5: what are next?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 2: No, I don't.
Speaker 5: I don't do that. I reaffirm everybody and let them know, hey,
Speaker 5: you took the class, you know how to suck it?
Speaker 5: Just calm down, talk, you know, because I could teach you.
Speaker 5: I could teach you how to deep throat, and you
Speaker 5: may get with somebody who's like, I don't like it.
Speaker 5: I don't like deep like it's.
Speaker 2: Rare that I was like, oh no that person.
Speaker 5: Think about it, though. I teach men how to eat pussy,
Speaker 5: and there are women that's like, oh I don't care
Speaker 5: for head, and so it's always somebody out there that
Speaker 5: won't like what we consider a quote unquote norm.
Speaker 3: I think the women who don't like head are just
Speaker 3: insecure about their like their vagina. And I'm not not
Speaker 3: shaming because there's people on here that truly have our
Speaker 3: confident in their pussies and like whatever, I'm just curious
Speaker 3: because it's such a it's such a pleasurable experience for
Speaker 3: me at least, that I sometimes wonder, like what is
Speaker 3: that about? Because I've met women that say they don't
Speaker 3: like they're.
Speaker 2: Not into it, and my experience.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure everyone's different, but in my experience,
Speaker 1: either there's a trauma and there's been abuse, or there's
Speaker 1: a control factor. Women don't like to feel out of control.
Speaker 1: They don't want to be like But those are just
Speaker 1: my two experiences.
Speaker 5: I think that it's a couple of things. Sometimes. I
Speaker 5: think that because we have not really felt our pussy
Speaker 5: when it first touches it, like when anything touches it,
Speaker 5: sometimes we don't have patience to see where it's going
Speaker 5: to go. And so it's when you get dig you
Speaker 5: feel the pleasure instantly, as soon as it goes inside
Speaker 5: of you, right. And then sometimes some women are just
Speaker 5: frustrated where it's like you get hit from somebody and
Speaker 5: it feels really great. It feels like you're gonna come,
Speaker 5: and then they stop or you don't, and then it
Speaker 5: all it does is give you an attitude, so it's like,
Speaker 5: fuck it, just skip it, give me to did I'll
Speaker 5: pass right, you know, And then yeah, some people just
Speaker 5: I don't. And also I just think everybody has not
Speaker 5: gotten really good hit. I did not realize anything in
Speaker 5: college and under wasn't good hit. I didn't realize that
Speaker 5: until I got good hit and I was like, oh.
Speaker 2: Dang, So.
Speaker 5: You know, it's it's usually one of those.
Speaker 3: I have another question about your your teachings. So you
Speaker 3: said that you also teach people how to like ride deck,
Speaker 3: So are they are women in your chorus like actually
Speaker 3: masturbating and writing and like, yeah, like actually performing the
Speaker 3: act with you? I mean, and I only want I
Speaker 3: only wonder because I know some people's comfortability ranges from
Speaker 3: you know, comfortable to not until totally uncomfortable. And I
Speaker 3: just obviously if they're taking your course, they're trying to
Speaker 3: be open. So I'm just curious, like what does that
Speaker 3: look like.
Speaker 5: No, that's a great question. So when I go on tour,
Speaker 5: So before the world closed down and locked us in
Speaker 5: the house, I used to go on tour and do
Speaker 5: my classes and so if you can't get to class,
Speaker 5: it was ladies only, doors locked, No cameras none of that, right,
Speaker 5: and you would get a deal though, so you could
Speaker 5: practice the oral sex part and you would partner up
Speaker 5: and practice the writing part.
Speaker 7: Right.
Speaker 5: And since COVID, we do everything on zoom. So for
Speaker 5: the masturbation class, I actually have vaginal props and things
Speaker 5: that are like blown up huge that I can hold,
Speaker 5: and so I can show you exactly where this should be.
Speaker 5: And I show you exactly how to use toys, and
Speaker 5: I show you how to have stronger orgasms, how to
Speaker 5: have longer orgasms, and how to make yourself square. So
Speaker 5: I show you not by pulling out my pussy, because
Speaker 5: my pussy on camera is only like this.
Speaker 8: Baby out, get around, gether around.
Speaker 5: So I blow everything up super big, so I have
Speaker 5: life size stuff. Well actually just way bigger than life size, right,
Speaker 5: so really big. Show you how to do everything like
Speaker 5: the where are right now?
Speaker 2: I want to see one?
Speaker 5: Don't look at my booty when I get up, but
Speaker 5: I'm we're looking at don't look at your booy now.
Speaker 2: Now now you're gonn look at your boots Damn. I
Speaker 2: didn't see the little pussy or the big booty.
Speaker 5: Damn.
Speaker 2: It is that what it is? If you get one,
Speaker 2: you don't get the other.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'll say.
Speaker 5: So my pussy that I practiced on, you know, it
Speaker 5: even has a jeep spot. So I teach all of
Speaker 5: these things, right, and you make this absolutely not girl,
Speaker 5: I don't have that's as far as my art skills go.
Speaker 5: I have a life you know, life size clit here,
Speaker 5: you know, and then it looks like, yes, absolutely, your
Speaker 5: clit is huge.
Speaker 2: What's the top? What's the little gold hook at the top.
Speaker 5: That's so this is the part that you see visually,
Speaker 5: like from the outside of your body. So this part
Speaker 5: right here, this little tip actually.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, now I see it.
Speaker 4: I get it.
Speaker 5: So that's why, like these classes, they get so in depth.
Speaker 5: Like I literally make demon dick. I create demon dick
Speaker 5: in some of my classes.
Speaker 2: What's a demon dick?
Speaker 1: Like digmatized by that devil deck that devil by some
Speaker 1: devil dick?
Speaker 5: And yes, so I teach a class called for play
Speaker 5: and Vaginal Orgasms for men and women, and it teaches
Speaker 5: you from the start to finish out of you know.
Speaker 5: So anyway, this is Stella. It only came in this color.
Speaker 5: But Stella only came in this color. But yeah, like
Speaker 5: she has, you know, a vagina and a clid and
Speaker 5: all of that. So you know, I got my ring
Speaker 5: light on so we can't see as well.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm super excited about this class.
Speaker 5: Yeah wait, it's February fourth. So what's crazy is I
Speaker 5: just had classes last week and you know how people
Speaker 5: go to something they like, bitch you guys to hear
Speaker 5: about this. So then my dms just like, Okay, when
Speaker 5: is class Valentine's they coming up and I said, I
Speaker 5: told you so, long story short, we added more classes,
Speaker 5: so I'm doing a masturbation of sporting class. That's when
Speaker 5: you guys are going to.
Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, I'll be there. Yeah, we're talking. I've been,
Speaker 3: Jamila has been. Basically we did an episode with this
Speaker 3: this podcast called clip Talk and they were talking about
Speaker 3: squirting and like one of the girls was saying, how
Speaker 3: like you know she believes that it's it's the part
Speaker 3: of the community's job is to make sure like your
Speaker 3: friends through your friends can squirt, and Jimmy I was like, well, Eric, like, Erica,
Speaker 3: are you gonna teach me to score?
Speaker 2: You have yet to coach me through. I'm sorry, we
Speaker 2: can do it after this.
Speaker 5: To help you as a resource.
Speaker 3: Well you know, I okay, So like I've been scorting
Speaker 3: since I was like nineteen, Like that's when I really
Speaker 3: that's me.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm locked to squirt.
Speaker 3: But I don't like in my in my exploration of
Speaker 3: women and having sex with women, like I always try
Speaker 3: to like do what I do to myself and it
Speaker 3: doesn't work, And.
Speaker 2: I'm like, why can't they squirret? This works for me?
Speaker 2: Like what the fuck you should? Where's the water? Sholl
Speaker 2: you do?
Speaker 1: Like it's like a platoral formulation or like it I
Speaker 1: can do, but I can squirt from internal sex and
Speaker 1: platoral ever even friend.
Speaker 5: These fingers and yeah, y'all know how I feel about that,
Speaker 5: this nineteen seventies fingers self.
Speaker 3: Sex action Like no, no, no, I know I have sported
Speaker 3: from my fingers, but I'm obviously like it's crazy when
Speaker 3: it's actual toy, it's like out of control.
Speaker 9: Y'all.
Speaker 5: Look at my fingers. Look how big they are. That's
Speaker 5: cramping arthritis and and well I've also.
Speaker 3: Because I'm on my journey of exploring women more, I've
Speaker 3: like really considered like I think I need to like
Speaker 3: not have nails.
Speaker 2: Because that's the perfect shape for it is.
Speaker 1: So I need to ask the lesbian like is this
Speaker 1: Mandy said, this is for the booty holes, and I
Speaker 1: assume that's also for vat giinas it is this is
Speaker 1: the oval? Yeah, she said, this is this, and I
Speaker 1: sent her a picture of my nails. When she posted it,
Speaker 1: I said, like this ominous for I was.
Speaker 3: Just worried because like bacteria can get trapped under nails
Speaker 3: and like all those things.
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know if this is safe.
Speaker 2: I don't know how.
Speaker 5: We're just kind a really good cleaning protocol, you know,
Speaker 5: like a cleaning protocols, get.
Speaker 2: A brush in the shower, you gotta you gotta clean
Speaker 2: those nails. And this is for men to please God.
Speaker 1: If you're listening, men, clean your fucking nails and cut them.
Speaker 1: I hate a nigga with dirty long nails. Discuss this
Speaker 1: grosses me out.
Speaker 4: With your fingers.
Speaker 3: That's so your so in your chorus, I mean, I'm
Speaker 3: not to give too much away, but because obviously we
Speaker 3: want to go. We want to ever, we want everyone
Speaker 3: to go, because I think so many people are interested
Speaker 3: in want to know how to unlock that part of
Speaker 3: their you know, their sexual pleasure. But like is it is?
Speaker 3: Is it based in learning how to do it with
Speaker 3: the actual like the toys? But also there's like is
Speaker 3: there like a like a break a breakaway moment where
Speaker 3: you go when you try to, like, you know, make
Speaker 3: it happen for yourself, Like.
Speaker 2: Take an intermission.
Speaker 1: Everybody trying Eric, You're kinking Erica wants to go on
Speaker 1: virtual and masturbating a room full of people.
Speaker 2: We can do. We can arrange it.
Speaker 5: Okay. So, speaking of Orlando from Harder Stuff and Tahoe
Speaker 5: actually had me do the class on a volunteer for this.
Speaker 2: I saw that, I saw it.
Speaker 5: I was like, oh my god, and I gave her
Speaker 5: three to four orgasms. Right, So during my class, I
Speaker 5: teach everything that I did to her. But no, we
Speaker 5: don't break away and pop out our pussies and hold
Speaker 5: them together or anything. We just do I teach, and
Speaker 5: then I tell y'all to go charge up, y'all shit
Speaker 5: while y'all in this class. And then the next day
Speaker 5: my DMS are.
Speaker 1: Like, yo, was that your first time doing it like
Speaker 1: demonstrating on a live person?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean like, are.
Speaker 1: You do you do do fuck with women?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 1: Okay, So like it was the first time as a demonstrative,
Speaker 1: like a demonstration, but not in your first time around
Speaker 1: the rodeo show.
Speaker 5: No, but it was still the first time that I
Speaker 5: did that because I have not had that much time,
Speaker 5: like a long period of time and women. It's been
Speaker 5: like threesomes or orgies or it was not one on
Speaker 5: one very intimate like I don't think since I started
Speaker 5: Sexual Essentials, you know, so some of the stuff that
Speaker 5: I used I didn't even have in my back pocket
Speaker 5: back in the day.
Speaker 9: You know.
Speaker 5: So everything that I've been doing lately has had a
Speaker 5: guy involved in some sort and so you know, that
Speaker 5: kind of changes things. You want to make sure everybody,
Speaker 5: you know, gets to have their fun. But this was
Speaker 5: even though it was a room full of people, it
Speaker 5: was me and her, and so this was totally different.
Speaker 5: I got to actually get my ship off, and because
Speaker 5: Orlando was really trying me me look like she was
Speaker 5: saying to.
Speaker 2: Be I know, she definitely was nodding to some other ship.
Speaker 3: It was Ego, the actual head it was about.
Speaker 7: I was talking about it.
Speaker 5: Orlando is a sweetheart though, but no, he was like, well,
Speaker 5: you know they say that's what you do, right, you know,
Speaker 5: how to make people squared I mean, can't you do it?
Speaker 5: And it was like, can you give her a three
Speaker 5: or four? And I was like, well, if that's what
Speaker 5: her body wants to do. They was like, nah, I
Speaker 5: don't want to hear that. We want to see it.
Speaker 5: This is what we want to and look here he
Speaker 5: needed a new chair by the time I was done.
Speaker 5: He's supposed to record an episode in his draws because
Speaker 5: we made a bed.
Speaker 2: Oh you hear that. We're holding you to that motherfucking
Speaker 2: that dear.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you need to get back on Tender like Erica
Speaker 1: and get your lesbian up.
Speaker 2: You need to get to get your practices up. You
Speaker 2: can start selling sexual essential packages on Tender. I'm telling you,
Speaker 2: be a hit.
Speaker 7: I would feel so nervous.
Speaker 5: Do you know that? After I did that? I got
Speaker 5: so many dms and they were like, okay, how do
Speaker 5: I volunteer as tribute?
Speaker 2: I would have been like, that'll be one thousand dollars, okay.
Speaker 5: I was like, Yo, some of y'all don't even want
Speaker 5: to pay for my little twenty dollar classes. And you
Speaker 5: talking about me touching your in a panoramic in a
Speaker 5: panera bread.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, as long as you wear the mask, baby,
Speaker 3: I was so honored that.
Speaker 5: I know, because you know, if you please a woman
Speaker 5: that's really saying, especially.
Speaker 2: On camera, how much pressure.
Speaker 1: One time, this girl tried to make me squirt in
Speaker 1: a dracuzzi with like five other people, and literally the
Speaker 1: next thing of vagina heard so bad.
Speaker 2: I was like, this was not.
Speaker 1: A good idea because it's just I just feel like
Speaker 1: it's too much pressure.
Speaker 2: I'm like, girl, you gotta stop. It's not going to happen.
Speaker 2: Everyone's looking at me.
Speaker 5: Into it, And honestly, I brought some of my best stuff,
Speaker 5: the stuff that really just changes lives. I did, I did?
Speaker 4: Are they?
Speaker 2: Are they tools? Are actually just like tricks of the trade.
Speaker 5: Oh no, they're actulutely tools and tricks. Also, it's about
Speaker 5: like reading. I'm really good at reading body language when
Speaker 5: I'm not drunk. When I'm not drunk, all that shit
Speaker 5: goes out the window if I'm sucked up. But when
Speaker 5: I'm in the zone, I don't know, for a goofball,
Speaker 5: I have some sensualness to me.
Speaker 2: You know, when's your birthday?
Speaker 5: April fourteenth? I'm an aries?
Speaker 2: What do you guys? Our manager is going crazy? Is
Speaker 2: are you an aries? But I didn't know I like dairies.
Speaker 2: I guess I do.
Speaker 4: I do.
Speaker 5: I love you, But when it's you all's birthdays, what
Speaker 5: are your signs?
Speaker 1: I'm a scorpio, I'm June twenty second, I'm a cancer.
Speaker 2: We're both cuss Cuspy's.
Speaker 1: I'm a cancer Gemini, but I'm mostly a cancer. I
Speaker 1: don't fuck with Gemini's like that. But speaking of changing lives,
Speaker 1: I know a lot of moms listen to our show,
Speaker 1: and what we really haven't touched on is sex or
Speaker 1: pregnancy and after birth, because first of all, your body
Speaker 1: change is tremendously during pregnancy, and nobody fucking talks about it,
Speaker 1: and then you change tremendously, and your body changes after
Speaker 1: you drop the baby, and nobody fucking talks about it.
Speaker 1: And then like for me, when I was pregnant, I
Speaker 1: was under the impression that I was just gonna do
Speaker 1: so fucking horny, but apparently God punished me because I'm
Speaker 1: so fucking horny naturally, so I wasn't in I wasn't
Speaker 1: really horny during pregnancy, like maybe like two times I
Speaker 1: initiated sex. I was also very yeasty, because if you
Speaker 1: don't know, like sometimes you get super fucking yeasty when you're.
Speaker 2: Pregnant, which is the devil.
Speaker 1: But anyway, just like what are some like what are
Speaker 1: what are your perspectives on just hormones and getting back
Speaker 1: into yourself and getting back into sex after having a baby.
Speaker 5: My pussy was broke after I had my child. Dry.
Speaker 5: It was baby powder pussy.
Speaker 3: It was like, wait, what's that phone that you broke?
Speaker 2: Broken pussy?
Speaker 5: I definitely had that. It wasn't it wasn't talking back.
Speaker 5: We we had to apply lube multiple times in a
Speaker 5: very short period of time. I had wine. I even
Speaker 5: tried the wine thing. Wine wine, you know when we
Speaker 5: drink it worked to get pregnant, right, drink right.
Speaker 2: Like trying to get dry.
Speaker 1: I was like, I mean that sounds like a fine.
Speaker 5: White wine girl to me. Okay, No, So I didn't
Speaker 5: have a sex drive. I wanted to have sex because
Speaker 5: I just wanted my pussy back. I wanted what was
Speaker 5: mine right And then yeah, it was just dry. Even
Speaker 5: when I came. When I finally did catch a nut,
Speaker 5: the first one took forever. The first nut after I
Speaker 5: had the baby took forever, and it was weakest fuck, Like,
Speaker 5: that's not the stuff that they're talking about in them
Speaker 5: R and B songs from the eighties. It was not
Speaker 5: none of that strong beat tingling. It was like ema,
Speaker 5: it was it was unnecessary. So I feel like after
Speaker 5: having a baby, like especially if you're still in a relationship,
Speaker 5: a lot of people feel like, oh, the sex goes
Speaker 5: down after having a baby, But it's because they don't
Speaker 5: know how to sell for lack of betic words medicate
Speaker 5: what's going on. They just think that this is just
Speaker 5: the new norm and they leave it. And so that's
Speaker 5: why people you know, are waiting so long to have kids.
Speaker 5: They just assume they'll never be able to undo all
Speaker 5: this long so short because I've talked for forever. Is
Speaker 5: that the masturbation and squirting class that I teach is truthfully,
Speaker 5: it's everything that I did to bring my pussy back
Speaker 5: to life. And I didn't think anybody was gonna buy
Speaker 5: a class called pussy after Postpartum, Like, I didn't think
Speaker 5: anybody would buy that. So I was like, everybody is
Speaker 5: obsessed with squirting. I can legit do all three. I
Speaker 5: can fix your pussy after postpartum. I will teach you
Speaker 5: how to masturbate, and I will teach you how to
Speaker 5: square and so in this class, a lot of people
Speaker 5: not only get their first orgasm just like in their
Speaker 5: entire life, but they also learn how to bring their
Speaker 5: pussy back to a higher standard than it was before
Speaker 5: they even had the baby. So I will teach you
Speaker 5: how to crack nuts with your pussy would be so funny.
Speaker 2: Can can you give a few tips?
Speaker 3: Like, can you just give the audience a few tips,
Speaker 3: just a little teaser so that we had so they
Speaker 3: can understand for sure.
Speaker 5: So I'm gonna give the simplest teaser of awe, because
Speaker 5: it's going to be. It's going to be. It's gonna
Speaker 5: look at yourself and be like, damn, she's right, so breathe.
Speaker 5: Nobody breathes. Everybody is like and then they let out
Speaker 5: this little two second nut. My orgasms last easily thirty seconds, right,
Speaker 5: and people are like, thirty seconds ain't that long? So
Speaker 5: I think that we should take like ten seconds right now,
Speaker 5: just to a moment of silence for them basic nuts
Speaker 5: that people are having. Okay, so that was ten seconds.
Speaker 2: How was your basic as nut? That's my nut?
Speaker 3: Basic in the street, driving over the across the airport
Speaker 3: for a basic as the anal nuts.
Speaker 5: Maybe aintal feels so good though, if you find somebody
Speaker 5: you can actually do it with. I told you would drive.
Speaker 2: That's the airport too. I haven't done a lot of
Speaker 2: anal in my life. That's shocked that you were driving
Speaker 2: about the airport.
Speaker 5: You got to bring her with you, Like, come on, Erica,
Speaker 5: let let's let we're gonna have you test down.
Speaker 7: I'm show you there.
Speaker 5: So long story short. Your blood your your well, you're
Speaker 5: an orgasm and erection arousal all that. It's just blood
Speaker 5: going to your genitals, right, but your blood needs oxygen.
Speaker 5: If you hold your breath because you're scared that if
Speaker 5: the air condition come on, or if he change up
Speaker 5: his tongue or so down, or if you don't hurry up,
Speaker 5: that you're gonna lose your net. A lot of us start,
Speaker 5: you know, doing all that overthinking, you know, and you
Speaker 5: stop yourself from nutting because you're trying to come right,
Speaker 5: and so you're holding your breath, and so your body
Speaker 5: is greedy, right, it wants an orgasm, but it also
Speaker 5: wants to breathe, so it holds you hold your breath.
Speaker 5: You come really quick, and then you start afterwards, and
Speaker 5: so your body has not even finished. You cut your
Speaker 5: nut short. You cut your nut short by holding your breath.
Speaker 5: A lot of people are gonna listen. Okay, you're like,
Speaker 5: I'm about to come, then I'm gonna make sure I
Speaker 5: take deep breasts. No, you have to do it from
Speaker 5: the jump.
Speaker 2: I try that one too.
Speaker 5: Yes, from the beginning. If you try to remember when
Speaker 5: you're about to come, you're you're crazy. It's not possible.
Speaker 5: Start from the beginning. So if you take three deep
Speaker 5: breasts in three or four deep breasts in you I
Speaker 5: like those the most, the breathe in ones, because it
Speaker 5: feels like you're propelling towards your orgasm super fast. But
Speaker 5: when you breathe out, it's scary because it feels like
Speaker 5: you're about to lose your nut, but you're not. It's
Speaker 5: like when you breathe in, you take three steps forward,
Speaker 5: but when you breathe out, you take one step back.
Speaker 5: But it's okay because you still were we two steps forward.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense, Yeah, it's actually totally You're dragging
Speaker 1: the tendon.
Speaker 3: Makes total sense, actually, because I think lately I've been
Speaker 3: because I I've i've been I'm massperating since I was
Speaker 3: a teenager and then be able to like squore it
Speaker 3: when I was eighteen or nineteen, and I don't know,
Speaker 3: like I felt like, okay, I got I got the
Speaker 3: hang of it right. But then in my thirties, late twenties, thirties,
Speaker 3: I really started being cognizant of like how much I
Speaker 3: hold my breath when I orgasm and when I come,
Speaker 3: and that like I will hold my breath for like
Speaker 3: the orgasm is building for at least a minute. I'm
Speaker 3: holding my breath for almost a minute. It's crazy, like
Speaker 3: and then I like at the end, and so if
Speaker 3: we have the.
Speaker 5: Power, that should have been your pussy like.
Speaker 2: And so right.
Speaker 3: And so I have been really over the last I guess,
Speaker 3: like maybe two or three years, been trying to like
Speaker 3: instead of being so much more conscious about because it's
Speaker 3: almost like instinctually the what you want to do, that's
Speaker 3: what your body wants to do, is hold your breath.
Speaker 3: It's harder to like remember to breathe and like let
Speaker 3: your body experience the pleasure. You're supposed to breathe through
Speaker 3: the pleasure.
Speaker 2: Why you want to heart? Why do you not want
Speaker 2: to breathe through it? Why would you want to like
Speaker 2: ten hens up, like relax and let it flow like
Speaker 2: expand every present moment.
Speaker 3: I feel like I really explored that a lot in
Speaker 3: in my last relationship because I had so many orgasms
Speaker 3: in that relationship that I was like, let me try
Speaker 3: and explore this with a partner and let us breathe
Speaker 3: together and do it. And it was amazing. It was amazing,
Speaker 3: and I'm still working. I'm still I'm still need more
Speaker 3: work at it because I still hold my brother. I
Speaker 3: still catch myself holding my breath sometimes I have to say, like,
Speaker 3: sometimes it.
Speaker 2: Feels good to hold your brother.
Speaker 5: I don't know, it's like it's a we know that
Speaker 5: it'll work if we hold our breath, and I think
Speaker 5: that sometimes it's the unfamiliar that's on the other side
Speaker 5: of maybe because it's taking longer. And I think women
Speaker 5: have been had blue pussy for so long, you know,
Speaker 5: like blue balls, for so long of us feeling aroused
Speaker 5: and not getting off that we're like, yo, if I
Speaker 5: feel this net, I'm going after it now. We really
Speaker 5: don't trust our own bodies because a lot of us
Speaker 5: stumble upon how to make ourselves orgasm. We don't know
Speaker 5: how to make our selves orgasm. We stumbled upon what
Speaker 5: works for us, and so in this class, I'm teaching
Speaker 5: you how to work the pussy, not your pussy. I'm
Speaker 5: teaching you how to work pussy. You know what I'm saying. So,
Speaker 5: and I did see the question about mental versus physical.
Speaker 5: The mental does matter, but those are two separate things.
Speaker 5: And most people like can do everything right, but mentally,
Speaker 5: if you're not there, especially in motherhood, it's not going
Speaker 5: to be possible. You have to make space for your sexuality,
Speaker 5: you have to make space for your relationship, and you
Speaker 5: have to speak up when you need help because your
Speaker 5: partner is not a mind reader. And so hell, I've
Speaker 5: taught a class on the perfect orgasm and it has
Speaker 5: five components. That first part, the whole video is about
Speaker 5: mental and the mental blockages we have because really, you're overworked,
Speaker 5: you're tired, you didn't been a slave all damn day
Speaker 5: and now you can got in bed and you're trying
Speaker 5: to rub my booty stop like stop.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, you know.
Speaker 5: We Parenthood is really a journey, and trying to find
Speaker 5: your sexuality on that journey again is one of the
Speaker 5: most selfish, most pleasing things you could ever do in
Speaker 5: your life.
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Speaker 3: when you have a rebirth of your sexuality, I think
Speaker 3: really happens once you have a child.
Speaker 2: Like rarely have I found that anyone.
Speaker 3: After having a baby their sex life hasn't changed in
Speaker 3: some way, like whether what their needs are, what they want,
Speaker 3: like how their body feels.
Speaker 1: But I feel like it's only if you give your
Speaker 1: your body and yourself the opportunity to go there, because
Speaker 1: it could go It could go terribly.
Speaker 2: But that's what I mean too.
Speaker 3: I don't mean positively only, I mean like it can
Speaker 3: go badly too, Like it either is like going great
Speaker 3: or like you're open to exploring more and wanting to
Speaker 3: figure some shit out, or it's like you go deeper
Speaker 3: into like this recluse of your sexuality.
Speaker 2: I remember, like being postpartum. I don't know, maybe it's
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: I'm not maybe it's a couple of weeks because I
Speaker 1: don't think I could have sex out And I.
Speaker 2: Remember my baby.
Speaker 1: Daddy was holding the baby and he had like nudged
Speaker 1: like for me to give him a head, and I
Speaker 1: was just like fucking perplexed, like partially like he was
Speaker 1: holding her she was asleep, and I was just like, how.
Speaker 2: Fucking dare you?
Speaker 5: Who are you to?
Speaker 1: I was just like there was this time like my
Speaker 1: boobs are so huge and leaking, Like I was just like,
Speaker 1: I'm never gonna feel sexual again. I'm a motherfucking cow.
Speaker 1: I'm literally feeding someone. Ah fucking day you want me
Speaker 1: to do something for you. At that moment, I felt
Speaker 1: like a machine. I was like, this is what womanhood
Speaker 1: is like, having a baby and a nigga is giving
Speaker 1: everything inside of you away, including this milk that I
Speaker 1: didn't all this milk in my titties. Now you're asking
Speaker 1: for some I was like, hell no, I was pissed
Speaker 1: and I am a sexual person and I just I
Speaker 1: really remember that I could never forget at that moment,
Speaker 1: thinking this is not life.
Speaker 2: This is the most terriblest decisions. This is not me.
Speaker 1: Who am I like feeling like not only like I
Speaker 1: feel like it's also like feeling you'd be a certain
Speaker 1: type of like wife and a mother, and like the
Speaker 1: freakiness goes out the window, but it was just like
Speaker 1: I just didn't understand.
Speaker 2: And and you know another thing you said it made me think.
Speaker 1: Erica, You're like, I've been masturbating since I was in
Speaker 1: my teenager, so you've been, like, obviously have a much
Speaker 1: more comfortable, healthy relationship with masturbation than I do. Because
Speaker 1: I was thinking, oh my god, you're right, Samaya, like
Speaker 1: I do masturbate. Prefer to masturbate in the way I
Speaker 1: did when I was like a little girl, like hump stuff.
Speaker 1: I will come easy humping stuff.
Speaker 2: I can have a.
Speaker 1: Pillow, I can just hump stuff. I've had a guy
Speaker 1: turnover on his butt, like I'll.
Speaker 2: Hump your bet.
Speaker 7: I'm like, I don't know what I'm gonna come.
Speaker 1: Oh, So I really do masturbate very much like I
Speaker 1: did as a child. And I also I realized that
Speaker 1: I think another kid showed me like humping each other.
Speaker 1: I was humping other girls and like doing weird shit
Speaker 1: very young, and I probably I think maybe I was touched,
Speaker 1: but definitely someone else was touched in the circle of
Speaker 1: kids we were in because I was humping other people
Speaker 1: and at a very young age, and now as an adult,
Speaker 1: I can reflect and understand that there was some unhealthy
Speaker 1: things introduced to movies.
Speaker 5: Girls, could you Like, we used to watch love and
Speaker 5: Basketball when we were with right.
Speaker 1: Right, and you feel this little feeling and then you're
Speaker 1: familiar with this feeling and like nobody talks about that enough.
Speaker 1: But I feel like, because my quote unquote masturbation started
Speaker 1: with like pillows, I do, I'll do that, but also
Speaker 1: with other people prematurely, even I realized when she said
Speaker 1: that this very moment, I've spent a lot of my
Speaker 1: my adulthood masturbating with people. Yeah, not giving and like
Speaker 1: not giving a fuck, like not giving a.
Speaker 2: Fuck who it is. But really I don't really have
Speaker 2: to love you, but no.
Speaker 3: But honestly though, like masturbation will save you like not
Speaker 3: fucking people, because sometimes I'll feel the need, I'll feel
Speaker 3: the urge to have sex, and I'll be like, you
Speaker 3: know what, let me just masturbate and then i'm a
Speaker 3: and I'm like I'm good. I don't even really not
Speaker 3: one person that I was gonna fuck, because just because
Speaker 3: I didn't have to give my energy, I didn't have
Speaker 3: to fucking you didn't have to come over here and
Speaker 3: have figure out how the fuck you're gonna get.
Speaker 1: Out, Like well, and I'm realizing that in this conversation
Speaker 1: that like, because I was introduced to masturbations so early,
Speaker 1: or the feeling or this this sexual like the feeling
Speaker 1: of even what that feels like with other people, I've
Speaker 1: spent my entire life mimicking that behavior without questioning it.
Speaker 2: And just like, man, I don't.
Speaker 1: Really you know, And I think, wow, you know, we
Speaker 1: do have to really as as adults a part of
Speaker 1: like you know.
Speaker 2: When you when we're.
Speaker 1: Growing and examining ourselves and examining a childhood and examining
Speaker 1: our trauma and how it comes out in our relationships
Speaker 1: and our friendships and all these other things.
Speaker 2: Like even shit like that.
Speaker 1: It's just like you have to even examine that. Do
Speaker 1: I have a healthy relationship with masturbation and with pleasure
Speaker 1: and with myself and like, and that reflects a lot
Speaker 1: and how we get in relationships with niggas we don't
Speaker 1: need to get in relationships with because we confuse this
Speaker 1: good feeling with a good relationship and it ain't right.
Speaker 5: I feel what you're saying, Erica. On the after you masturbate,
Speaker 5: you're like, Hm, I don't need to fuck you. Do
Speaker 5: you know how much pussy men get because women are horny,
Speaker 5: not because they actually earned it deserve it, or.
Speaker 3: Between horny and wanting to fuck someone, like like, sometimes.
Speaker 5: You want a person, sometimes you just want a person.
Speaker 5: And honestly, I feel like women go back to people
Speaker 5: that don't even give them orgasms, or go back to
Speaker 5: people who just not even a good fuck in all actuality,
Speaker 5: but in the moment.
Speaker 2: Your day, all the time, constantly.
Speaker 5: It's what you need.
Speaker 10: But I took something from what Melis said, which is
Speaker 10: she basically was talking about mutual masturbation, being able to
Speaker 10: do it with the partner, and I feel like she's
Speaker 10: going to have She's going to flourish in this class.
Speaker 9: Because I'm so excited for my friends too, because she's
Speaker 9: already mastered the part that peoplehood that have been married
Speaker 9: for years cannot master, which is joining your masturbation.
Speaker 5: With your partner. And I think that if we could
Speaker 5: all be honest for a second of your relationship and say, hey, okay,
Speaker 5: let's play this out. Say a lady, say you, Erica,
Speaker 5: are talking to your man and you're like, hey, I
Speaker 5: want to you making the moves for sex to happen.
Speaker 5: If he could actually say to you, I'm not gonna
Speaker 5: lie to you. You sexy as fuck. I would love to,
Speaker 5: but I am not in the mood. But take off
Speaker 5: your panties, take off your clothes. I'm about to still
Speaker 5: pleasure you by masturbating on you instead of giving you
Speaker 5: some basic dig I feel like the world would be
Speaker 5: a better place. I feel like the world would be
Speaker 5: a better place if we didn't do things we actually
Speaker 5: didn't have the energy to do, so we could have
Speaker 5: thorough sex every time. Stop acting like you have to
Speaker 5: be able to do it all. Like there are toys
Speaker 5: out there to help you when you don't feel like it,
Speaker 5: when you are tired, when your body is aching because
Speaker 5: you didn't turn thirty five, you know, she'd just be
Speaker 5: popping up. Oh do we get? But whatever? It is like,
Speaker 5: if we could use masturbation and use toys when we
Speaker 5: fall a little short, I think relationships would be better. So, Mila,
Speaker 5: already having a healthy relationship with mutual masturbation is gone.
Speaker 5: You've already got the hard part out the way. People
Speaker 5: that have been together for years cannot fathom laying down
Speaker 5: and masturbating, even in front of someone. They feel like
Speaker 5: they're in that chakuzie with five other people and it's
Speaker 5: the person that they're with for the rest of their life.
Speaker 2: So many people feel that way.
Speaker 5: You know, here's one more you want to know. Another
Speaker 5: reason they can't do it because they've been faking nuts
Speaker 5: and as soon as they catch the nut, whoever they're
Speaker 5: fucking is going to.
Speaker 10: Know no like, oh that's deep, that's so deep.
Speaker 5: Fuck, thanks for coming to my ted top.
Speaker 7: Let's ride on.
Speaker 5: But seriously, they don't want to masturbate in front of
Speaker 5: somebody else because it's going to be very clear when
Speaker 5: they see everything that your body lets go when you
Speaker 5: do it by yourself, and then when they realize what
Speaker 5: y'all have been doing together. And I feel like we
Speaker 5: need to get to a point where in a relationship,
Speaker 5: in whoever you're fucking, if you're giving somebody head or
Speaker 5: you're having sex and sex and she doesn't come, it
Speaker 5: should be natural reaction for you to pull a toy
Speaker 5: out of the drawer or should already be sitting out
Speaker 5: And so you've already warned, if you've already set the
Speaker 5: mood for whatever can happen, can happen. So she feels
Speaker 5: like her orgasm matters, You know damn well that you
Speaker 5: didn't make her come, and you legit got up and
Speaker 5: got her a rag for what since your ass back down.
Speaker 7: You got the rap for yourself, becau, Yeah, because.
Speaker 5: What do I need that for? Like, I just I
Speaker 5: just really feel like we've gotten to a point where
Speaker 5: everybody is embarrassed to pull out sex toys and like,
Speaker 5: if you didn't make me, he who gives the nut
Speaker 5: can claim the nuts. So if you gave me a
Speaker 5: nut with a toy, it's your nut. You made me come,
Speaker 5: you know what?
Speaker 3: Though, I will say, thinking about like how people feel
Speaker 3: ashamed about pulling out sex toys, like a lot of
Speaker 3: that too, Like I feel for me because I am
Speaker 3: a sex toy user and but really only solo. I've
Speaker 3: done it with partners, but they've made me feel weird
Speaker 3: about it because I think sex toys make men feel
Speaker 3: inadequate or like feel like their dick isn't Yeah, their
Speaker 3: dick isn't enough, their dick doesn't vibrate. It's not gonna
Speaker 3: make you come that way, like, but it doesn't.
Speaker 1: So I don't know everybody, that's one of the situations.
Speaker 5: I feel like there are so many different ways for
Speaker 5: women to come though, and because men can't it stops
Speaker 5: our pleasure. Like women, you can have a clitical orgasm
Speaker 5: and it can feel four different ways just from one
Speaker 5: clitical orgasm. We can have nipple orgasms, anal orgasms, vaginal orgasms.
Speaker 2: A vaginal orgasms are an orgasmic being. We are orgasmal.
Speaker 5: I feel like men low key are insecure because they
Speaker 5: feel like, Oh, I'll love you, okay, hi key, you
Speaker 5: should be able to give me everything. You know, I
Speaker 5: should be able to give you everything. But if you
Speaker 5: really want to give me everything, it has to come
Speaker 5: with just accepting the truth. It is not possible for
Speaker 5: you to help. They don't. They don't even be DJing
Speaker 5: to click correctly when they got their dick in. They
Speaker 5: be all up there on your belly button like you
Speaker 5: can do both all the time. You need to get
Speaker 5: you a cute glass deal though, to fuck her with
Speaker 5: while you eat her pussy, because you cannot give top
Speaker 5: notch dick and top not top notch head at.
Speaker 4: The same time.
Speaker 5: Why you think women won't three someomes in their dreams
Speaker 5: with two men because they really want to be pleasured
Speaker 5: correctly in more than one way. A number of time
Speaker 5: they don't want to give us that you don't want
Speaker 5: to use no toys. You just want to give us
Speaker 5: the same dick that you give us, intimidated by what
Speaker 5: I'm able to do. So you know what. We know
Speaker 5: this as women in our space, but it does matter
Speaker 5: in making your partner feel good. I will say that
Speaker 5: they reciprocate the energy you usually give.
Speaker 4: How do you?
Speaker 3: How do you? How do you can talk to your
Speaker 3: partner about wanting to introduce toys into your sex life?
Speaker 5: So I say just about sex period. If you're not
Speaker 5: talking about sex at all, it's going to sound crazy
Speaker 5: when you ask to basically say that you need.
Speaker 2: Aout sex ever.
Speaker 5: And the first thing you say is like, oh, can
Speaker 5: we add this because I ain't never came. Like the
Speaker 5: reason that people can't talk about sex is because they've
Speaker 5: never been honest. So they really kind of have to
Speaker 5: go back and fix a lot of shit they haven't
Speaker 5: said or said.
Speaker 1: It's not if you if you come to the gate
Speaker 1: talking about sex, asking questions what's your fantasy where.
Speaker 5: You like this is what I like that?
Speaker 1: Those are things that will be fluid and nowncal relationship.
Speaker 1: It is hard if you've gone and never discussed in depth,
Speaker 1: you don't asking questions on a regular basis.
Speaker 2: They're going to be definitely, but it's not too late.
Speaker 2: You can still.
Speaker 5: Say this. This is what you have to do, and
Speaker 5: you have to say the thing that you think you're
Speaker 5: not supposed to say. Right, So, in all honesty, how
Speaker 5: do you feel that's what you need to say politely? Okay?
Speaker 5: So in all honesty, most people are like, Hey, I
Speaker 5: just want you to know I love you, and I
Speaker 5: realize that maybe I have not put as much effort
Speaker 5: into our sex life as I should have, and I
Speaker 5: know that I need to do better. But I just
Speaker 5: want to know. Would you be interested in, like learning
Speaker 5: more about sex with me? Because I've started following this
Speaker 5: page and I heard this and I didn't realize some
Speaker 5: of these things were even possible. I really want to
Speaker 5: try this, but I don't want you to judge me,
Speaker 5: and I don't want you to think I'm not satisfied
Speaker 5: with you. I just want to explore as much as
Speaker 5: I can with you while I can or can we
Speaker 5: do that? Like, are you open to that? Would you
Speaker 5: watch this video with me? I really love the way
Speaker 5: you give me Dick. I heard on this podcast that
Speaker 5: actually if we add this while you're doing that that
Speaker 5: it would probably even get even bigger. And I know
Speaker 5: the fact that we get even and I just I
Speaker 5: feel like, you know, like you got the sad shit.
Speaker 3: You have to finess the ego while you know you
Speaker 3: you though it's my I can say you're a finessina,
Speaker 3: I can tell.
Speaker 5: I can we cut that part out? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I was like.
Speaker 3: Here, I was like, huh, yeah, yeah, whatever you want.
Speaker 2: Watched them the links, let's talk to it together.
Speaker 5: Let I was like, I was like.
Speaker 3: Okay, But as I'm listening to I'm thinking of all
Speaker 3: the people that don't have this finesse.
Speaker 2: I'm like.
Speaker 3: To write, we need to write it down and rehearse
Speaker 3: in the mirror, rewind.
Speaker 5: But it's not coming from an honest place. You have
Speaker 5: to be honest with yourself.
Speaker 2: First, and you absolutely that's me. Huh.
Speaker 5: Everybody wants to know. How do you tell somebody that
Speaker 5: you've actually never come like or that you've been faking it?
Speaker 5: You have to be honest. Yet again, I didn't lie
Speaker 5: with anything I said. I didn't lie, but I also
Speaker 5: did not hope the bear.
Speaker 3: The honesty also comes with I think admitting to yourself
Speaker 3: that like it's not you, because I think as women too,
Speaker 3: we will convince ourselves that, like he maybe maybe it's
Speaker 3: just I'm tripping, like maybe it's like you know, you
Speaker 3: start thinking like maybe my pussy's broken.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe my pussy's.
Speaker 3: Broken, and you have to come to the place where
Speaker 3: you're like, Nope, she's not broken.
Speaker 2: Niggad, we're just not communicating our day, can put it?
Speaker 5: I feel like we don't read the instructions on this
Speaker 5: pussy because guess what, there are no instructions anywhere. Nobody
Speaker 5: has given us pussy instructions. They just teach you how
Speaker 5: to not get an STD and not to get pregnant
Speaker 5: and complex pussies and ask for grand kids. That's all people,
Speaker 5: do you know what? Right? That's there are no instructions,
Speaker 5: So guess what. Some of it is our fault. The
Speaker 5: fault is that we don't know how to work our pussy.
Speaker 5: Is that your fault? No, yes, the fault is that
Speaker 5: you don't know how to work your pussy, But that.
Speaker 2: Alone not your fault.
Speaker 5: Right right now that you've heard this, I am charging
Speaker 5: up everybody to say, you know what, do I really know? Like, Okay,
Speaker 5: y'all ever had sex and then you think about like
Speaker 5: loving basketball, or think about them sex scenes you want
Speaker 5: suppost be watching and like, is this the type of
Speaker 5: sex they was having? Because I don't think.
Speaker 3: I don't think I've had that sex, though I've had
Speaker 3: some loving basketball ass sex for sure.
Speaker 5: Different, Yeah, I do.
Speaker 2: Different.
Speaker 5: It takes for you to get that, to even realize, oh,
Speaker 5: I haven't had it. And if you if some women
Speaker 5: have only been with people that were not satisfying and
Speaker 5: they don't know that this isn't it? How could you
Speaker 5: even know that anything else exists if you've never experienced it. So,
Speaker 5: whoever is listening today, let's give a handclap for good
Speaker 5: mom's bad choices because you're giving they're giving you something
Speaker 5: right now, they're showing you the life. Do not be
Speaker 5: one of those people that are like, I don't need that,
Speaker 5: I don't need this, Okay, that's why I'm bibity boppity
Speaker 5: hopping around, happiest shit. This is why. This is why you're.
Speaker 7: This is why you're upset.
Speaker 5: This is what and I know everybody like says that
Speaker 5: relationships lives longer with better sex, And this is this.
Speaker 5: I promise you, if you can be honest about sex,
Speaker 5: every other conversation will get better. I'm not saying that
Speaker 5: you can have good sex in a bad relationship. I'm
Speaker 5: not telling you to do.
Speaker 1: That, but it runs out the good sex. You can
Speaker 1: have great sex in a trailb of relationship. But guess
Speaker 1: what will happen, Honey, That sex won't even feel good
Speaker 1: because the misery overcomes the pleasure. Every time I have
Speaker 1: been there, I have sat there, and I have like, fuck,
Speaker 1: this is not even good anymore. Your body will stop responding,
Speaker 1: and every time, every.
Speaker 5: Time, it will stop. But I will say this, the
Speaker 5: more that you can talk about sexuality, everything else doesn't
Speaker 5: seem as bad because I promise you talking about sex
Speaker 5: and the taboo this world has put on it to
Speaker 5: make us feel nasty. Nothing else in the world is
Speaker 5: like that. If you want to learn how to you know,
Speaker 5: pay taxes, if you want to learn how to I
Speaker 5: don't start a business. All of that is hard, But
Speaker 5: guess what you could talk about it Anywhere? Where are
Speaker 5: you gonna talk about sex where it's not gonna be
Speaker 5: misconstrued as you nasty or you married? You shouldn't be
Speaker 5: doing it. Hell, we watch what happened when WAP came out.
Speaker 5: Everybody was talking bad about them, and I'm like, shit,
Speaker 5: I got a nasty side too, like.
Speaker 2: And everybody likes it. All the niggas like it until
Speaker 2: you talk.
Speaker 1: About it, and then all of a sudden you're unworthy.
Speaker 1: You have to advocate for your pleasure. You have to
Speaker 1: advocate for your pleasure and for your fucking self. And
Speaker 1: the only way you could do that is by being
Speaker 1: super completely honest.
Speaker 2: And you know what I've learned, because I'm a whole
Speaker 2: lot of women.
Speaker 1: If they can't handle it, you ain't for me.
Speaker 2: It's fine, You're just not my nigga.
Speaker 5: If this is true, like I can't.
Speaker 1: I've had friends tell me, relaxed, don't be so honest,
Speaker 1: so early, calm down. Why so in three months they
Speaker 1: be like, this is crazy.
Speaker 5: If it's the truth, it's not going anywhere. You know
Speaker 5: what I'm saying, Like, if it's the truth, why not
Speaker 5: get it out the way now? And then also, the
Speaker 5: fact is a lot of people that are intimidated by
Speaker 5: nasty ass women are the men that can't get you.
Speaker 5: So now you're nasty because when you was, when you
Speaker 5: was in my DM asking for it, it was nasty.
Speaker 5: When I said no, then I was a nasty bitch.
Speaker 5: You know what, I take my nasty bitch ass on
Speaker 5: over there and suck somebody else did good bye? Like, look,
Speaker 5: I give myself more nuts you will ever be able
Speaker 5: to give me. So you can't talk to me like that,
Speaker 5: Like you can't. You can't even talk to me if
Speaker 5: you ain't made me come. You fucked did you? It
Speaker 5: don't count If I didn't come.
Speaker 7: I fucked you.
Speaker 2: I fucked you, so you believe that doesn't count if
Speaker 2: you didn't.
Speaker 5: Come, absolutely, I'm like, I don't fight. How many for
Speaker 5: I haven't even counted. But I will say this though,
Speaker 5: when having sex, I can always catch my net.
Speaker 7: But but I'm very.
Speaker 5: Clear who gave me the nut? It was me because
Speaker 5: I knew what to.
Speaker 2: Do, But because you knew that this wasn't gonna work,
Speaker 2: it wasn't gonna happen.
Speaker 3: I think that's where I've gotten it fucked up, is
Speaker 3: that I sometimes I don't I'm not clear, and that'll
Speaker 3: make me stay around for longer because I'm like, no.
Speaker 2: Like he made me come, right, like eventually it was
Speaker 2: eventually it was him?
Speaker 5: Right asked, how do you know if you never had
Speaker 5: an orgasm? If you had to ask you've never had one,
Speaker 5: and if I said, have you ever shipped yourself? You
Speaker 5: would know the answer.
Speaker 7: No, you just you know that's.
Speaker 3: How okay, Oh my gosh, okay, well we have some
Speaker 3: we have some people that wrote in and had some
Speaker 3: questions for you, So all right.
Speaker 2: That someone wants to know if you have any dick
Speaker 2: sucking tricks.
Speaker 5: Yes, I do.
Speaker 2: My bag of tricks and pull them out. In fact,
Speaker 2: I do so.
Speaker 5: I teach a class called dick writing one on one
Speaker 5: and one of the main questions I always get her
Speaker 5: what are your dick writings or what are your dick
Speaker 5: sucking tips? And I just want to clarify this. It's
Speaker 5: gonna make me sound like a bitch, but I'm okay
Speaker 5: with that. I've already accepted it. I teach a one
Speaker 5: hour class on the topic because that's how long I need.
Speaker 5: If I gave you some tips, you would be sucking
Speaker 5: dick the same way you're doing now. It's half ass
Speaker 5: or piss poor. Need to take the entire class because
Speaker 5: I'm going to go so in depth about why what
Speaker 5: feels good, so that way you can always adjust depending
Speaker 5: on whatever type of dick you're sucking, whether it's curved
Speaker 5: or straight or short or long or whatever. If I
Speaker 5: don't teach you about why what feels good, you will
Speaker 5: only know how to suck one dick. And that's the
Speaker 5: deal though, that I keep you in class.
Speaker 7: And that's not thorough that's though.
Speaker 5: I'm a thorough ass bitch, and I will never try
Speaker 5: to put one hour of content into a five minute class.
Speaker 5: And I'm not going to do it. So I have
Speaker 5: a question.
Speaker 2: About dick sucking.
Speaker 3: It's not a test, but I'm just curious now that
Speaker 3: because I'm thinking about thoroughness.
Speaker 2: So is licking ass a part of the dick second
Speaker 2: class or is that not? Is that or is this
Speaker 2: specific to the dick, like only dick second.
Speaker 5: You need to dig seting. But I leave ass as
Speaker 5: an option. I let them know, Hey, if you foxed
Speaker 5: with it. Yeah, so I don't put an ass eating
Speaker 5: class on my Patreon, Like that was a fifteen minute class.
Speaker 7: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's a short class.
Speaker 2: I don't mind.
Speaker 7: I can hear that.
Speaker 5: That's short. I can get it.
Speaker 2: Drop the patreon.
Speaker 5: What the fuck is it? Oh, it's sexual essential. My
Speaker 5: patreon has all kind of shit on there, but it's
Speaker 5: on my Instagram page sexual.
Speaker 2: So we'll tag your Patreon in our details of this episode. People.
Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, Instagram, it's in the link in the bio.
Speaker 5: All that stuff is there. But because I know how
Speaker 5: much kickback I get about it, I discuss it. But
Speaker 5: what I actually do in the class is teach you
Speaker 5: how to pleasure the area if you're not okay with
Speaker 5: eating ass, which I found is more popular because it's
Speaker 5: more people that I've met that are not.
Speaker 7: Willing to go down that carry ass road.
Speaker 5: So I'm like, okay, let me still give them this. Wow.
Speaker 5: So I actually do teach you how pleasure the prostate
Speaker 5: without actually having to put your tongue in this man's.
Speaker 3: Man boy, we need to have you on our after
Speaker 3: dark on Patreon. On Patreon Close Friend, we have a
Speaker 3: segment on Patreon called Close Friends after Dark where we
Speaker 3: have you know, our we have our very interesting introspective
Speaker 3: freaky guest song.
Speaker 5: Oh we should throat on there.
Speaker 2: I'm down.
Speaker 5: I would teach you. Oh that sounds fun? All right?
Speaker 2: Well, look after that, I'm just.
Speaker 5: Like, yo, y'all gotta come to the classic. I'm gonna
Speaker 5: teach you why you should be doing what I'm teaching.
Speaker 5: I'm not just gonna tell you to do it.
Speaker 3: I want to right right, you know, I'm excited. No,
Speaker 3: I'm excited for your class on the fourth. Okay, we
Speaker 3: have this question, which I think actually is a really
Speaker 3: good question because I was this is something we were
Speaker 3: talking about before we started recording, and I have.
Speaker 2: I is she okay, she's still here, I'm here. Oh
Speaker 2: her video went out? Your video went out?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 7: Oh, okay?
Speaker 3: Okay, how do you know or is it possible? How
Speaker 3: do you know or is it possible to be overstimulated
Speaker 3: from masturbation?
Speaker 5: Okay, So a toy will not desensitize you. I think
Speaker 5: that's the word that has been thrown around right, like, well,
Speaker 5: masturbating will masturbating with the toy desensitize you. It will
Speaker 5: not be sensitizing. But you can develop a preference. Okay.
Speaker 5: You ever seen a kid like when you give them everything,
Speaker 5: like all types of foods. Originally they're fine with it,
Speaker 5: but if you start only giving them one thing, that's
Speaker 5: all they're gonna want. So, you know how we were
Speaker 5: talking about, when you learn how to make yourself come,
Speaker 5: you just want to come in that way and that
Speaker 5: way only, and so mentally, that's where your mind is
Speaker 5: going to go. So was your pussy de sensitized. No,
Speaker 5: but you are developing a preference mentally on how you want,
Speaker 5: you know, on what you want your sexuality to be like.
Speaker 5: So if you use a toy that is jackhammer strong,
Speaker 5: you can't go up from there. And so this is
Speaker 5: about learning how to properly masturbate. I'm not even telling
Speaker 5: you can't use your jackhammer deal though, I'm not telling
Speaker 5: you that. I'm just thinking God, but I'm gonna say God,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna teach you how to do other things you
Speaker 5: cannot start Okay, Do I drink wine? Yeah, you don't
Speaker 5: start off with an eighty bottle of wine if you've
Speaker 5: never had wine before. You start with a twenty thirty
Speaker 5: dollars So you can appreciate the eighty dollars, right, And
Speaker 5: you have to know how to pair things up. If
Speaker 5: it's gonna be you and someone else that night, why
Speaker 5: would you use a toy that absolutely can nowhere near
Speaker 5: do anything that he can do. That's just not good matchup.
Speaker 5: If I have eighty dollars wine, I don't want grilled
Speaker 5: cheese tonight, Well sometimes I might, So that's not a
Speaker 5: good check. But you get what I'm saying. I don't
Speaker 5: want McDonald's with my eighty dollars one. It doesn't match.
Speaker 5: If it's a Chick fil a night, Let it be
Speaker 5: a Chick fil a night. But if we talking about
Speaker 5: steak and aud you cannot mix and match. So you
Speaker 5: need to pair your toys up properly so that way
Speaker 5: you get the reaction that you want. If you don't
Speaker 5: pair them up properly, your body is going to want
Speaker 5: something specific. It's not desensitized. You just don't want to
Speaker 5: overstimulate it one time and then try to go backwards.
Speaker 3: You know, I guess, I know, I don't know. I
Speaker 3: do use pretty strong toys. I'm like, I'm the jackhammer girl.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna teach you how to have such a strong
Speaker 5: neut Oh, I'm going to work wonders.
Speaker 3: So maybe I need to go I need to scale back.
Speaker 3: I need to go back to level one, because I'd
Speaker 3: be just going straight to level time. Be like, let's
Speaker 3: just get, let's just go, let's just get. We don't
Speaker 3: want to just get it over with no, no, no,
Speaker 3: no reason, no, no, I don't I don't master I
Speaker 3: trust it does take.
Speaker 2: I do take my time, but like it's a teasing thing.
Speaker 3: It's like, Okay, maybe I don't go straight to ten,
Speaker 3: but get there quickly, don't.
Speaker 7: I can't. I'm definitely shit.
Speaker 4: I came.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna show I'm gonna show you how to do
Speaker 5: that in the class. But one thing that everybody can
Speaker 5: do before that is take a pussy pause, give your
Speaker 5: pussy a second to breathe. If you feel like you've
Speaker 5: been using toys that are just hella hella strong, how
Speaker 5: do you know it's hell hella strong If your booty
Speaker 5: cheeks still vibraating when you turned it off, it was strong,
Speaker 5: the vibrations still go.
Speaker 3: Still feel My only concern is that I feel like
Speaker 3: I was able to reach like coming and squirting with
Speaker 3: my fingers before and now I can't. And that's where
Speaker 3: my concern comes from. Like with using toys, is that,
Speaker 3: like I recently tried, I didn't have it. I was
Speaker 3: I was traveling, I didn't have a toy, I didn't
Speaker 3: have ship, but I wanted to I wanted to come
Speaker 3: and so I didn't have my toys. So I was
Speaker 3: using my hands and I was like, this is not
Speaker 3: the fucking same.
Speaker 2: How the fuck? What the fuck?
Speaker 3: I need a dick or I need the And then
Speaker 3: I was like, oh no, we got to go back
Speaker 3: to basics, baby, we gotta go back face.
Speaker 5: By washing dishes by hand and using a dishwasher, both
Speaker 5: will get it done. But it depends on how much
Speaker 5: time you have in patience, because.
Speaker 2: I wasn't being patient, I wasn't being paid.
Speaker 5: And it's scary. Honestly, our sexuality and us catching an
Speaker 5: orgasm is so scarce and rare in this world. After
Speaker 5: you figure out how to do it, you are so scared,
Speaker 5: and you treat it so gentle because you're like, yo,
Speaker 5: I know that orgasms are hard to come by. Most
Speaker 5: women don't get it. I need to make sure I
Speaker 5: can always do this right. But it's just anxiety because
Speaker 5: we have not learned how to properly always make the
Speaker 5: pussy come. After you know about your pussy and what
Speaker 5: to do with it and all that stuff, you won't
Speaker 5: be as nervous because if you know you have five minutes,
Speaker 5: you'll know, okay, I need to use my toy because.
Speaker 2: I don't have time.
Speaker 5: Versus, if you have five minutes and you try to
Speaker 5: use your fingers, you're going to be in your head
Speaker 5: the whole time because that it just may not have
Speaker 5: been enough time. We are not like you have to
Speaker 5: know when to do what, how to mix it together.
Speaker 5: But honestly, we have a lot of trauma around orgasms
Speaker 5: as women because we've never been able to have them,
Speaker 5: or it's always been our fault. Oh that worked on
Speaker 5: everybody else, I don't know what's wrong with you, Or
Speaker 5: we had so many failed attempts by ourselves trying to
Speaker 5: make ourselves come that anytime it doesn't go the way
Speaker 5: we are used to it come it happening, we get scared.
Speaker 5: I mean, think about it. Most people masturbate the exact
Speaker 5: same way all the time. They lay on their back,
Speaker 5: starfishing it, put their hand down the exact same way
Speaker 5: every time, every single time. Why because we are scared
Speaker 5: that if we do something different, what if we don't
Speaker 5: catch our nut? And frustrated we don't have.
Speaker 7: Living fear of the nut the nut, fear.
Speaker 2: Of the nut. Oh man, that's the episode tittle of
Speaker 2: the nut.
Speaker 3: May write that jown that down, here's the nut.
Speaker 5: You have a question in the chat oh it do.
Speaker 2: Oh oh?
Speaker 3: Are certain decks more compatible to certainaginas.
Speaker 5: I think that dicks that can take criticism.
Speaker 2: Our most compatible man. Absolutely.
Speaker 3: You know it's true because I've had sex with all
Speaker 3: different size dicks, and you could have told me that
Speaker 3: was the best sex of my life then like he was.
Speaker 3: It wasn't that big, it was, but he it was
Speaker 3: he was to do with it. Then I have another
Speaker 3: man who has a curved penis, and that's that that
Speaker 3: hits me in a way that I'm like, damn, like
Speaker 3: you can't, like, I don't know how you you can't.
Speaker 2: You can't my lip over here you said curved, salivating.
Speaker 3: And then I've had sex with, you know, a guy
Speaker 3: who doesn't have that, and I've had the most incredible
Speaker 3: sex of you know.
Speaker 2: So it's just I don't know. I think compatibility is
Speaker 2: it comes with factors.
Speaker 5: It definitely has factors. I also feel like people are
Speaker 5: always wondering how to make a dick work, and I
Speaker 5: will say, never push your body because some people can
Speaker 5: take the biggest dick in the world and it could
Speaker 5: be enjoyable and somebody else would be like, it really hurts,
Speaker 5: and they're trying to figure out how do I make
Speaker 5: it more comfortable. You can always gauge yourself, you know,
Speaker 5: just like your ear rings, like gauged, you know your
Speaker 5: whole and start and work up. But if it is uncomfortable,
Speaker 5: there are no magic pills for something that doesn't work
Speaker 5: for you, right right, You know that part. So that's
Speaker 5: the other side to the compatibility part. If it doesn't work,
Speaker 5: it doesn't work.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 5: But Dick said, take credits.
Speaker 1: Well, I learned so much, so much, I can't wait
Speaker 1: for the fourth I'm like, Mark.
Speaker 5: Make sure that you guys remember to log in and
Speaker 5: make sure y'all don't have nothing scheduled that night, because.
Speaker 2: Oh no, we know the baby. Get your babysitters for sure,
Speaker 2: because I'm getting this done. Get the babysitters.
Speaker 3: And then when you log off, go practice, Okay, to
Speaker 3: break out, room to break out, to take the class. Here,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be in my bedroom. She'll be in the
Speaker 3: living room.
Speaker 2: We'll be like, be right back, okay, Well be back
Speaker 2: in twenty five minutes.
Speaker 5: I feel like riding class, I'm gonna wears out. I'm like,
Speaker 5: we're on different sides of the country, but I could
Speaker 5: still put in work anywhere where I am.
Speaker 1: Oh you know what, because I do get tired on
Speaker 1: top sometimes I'm like, I do have a couple of
Speaker 1: my tricks, you know, you know one foot.
Speaker 2: You know what in my last relationship.
Speaker 3: In my last relationship, I did so much top that
Speaker 3: I'm like, more than ever I've ever done. And like
Speaker 3: I think it really matters who it's with because it
Speaker 3: was like I could go forever.
Speaker 5: I don't know why I'm tired.
Speaker 3: I just figured out different positions that where I could
Speaker 3: rest but still be on. We're like, yeah, my legs
Speaker 3: were relaxed and I could still ride, and like I
Speaker 3: were so bad.
Speaker 5: Yeah, if you can be comfortable, you can do it
Speaker 5: all day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, your head and lean forward, the sitting up, even
Speaker 3: like laying across the body and just like just doing
Speaker 3: a little science and just literally you're laying there.
Speaker 2: Leg I get such a position one on one I
Speaker 2: need to bring up. I'm gonna show with.
Speaker 1: All my my, my my, you're on top of sting
Speaker 1: positions on topic. Paton, you need to join asap because
Speaker 1: we're doing a sex position series called rest writing.
Speaker 2: Eric will show you how to ride.
Speaker 3: It'll be I'll you know, you know what Samaya can
Speaker 3: do her class. Actually we need to team up. Okay,
Speaker 3: we're gonna do a workshop, somaya, I'm gonna we're gonna
Speaker 3: do sex position.
Speaker 2: Dick writing. I'm gonna do rest writing.
Speaker 5: To finis, to really finis. So I think I need something.
Speaker 5: I think that you guys should do a sex positions
Speaker 5: Patreon and use you guys like get an open space,
Speaker 5: pulling camera back and show.
Speaker 2: That's what we do. That's what we do, sex position.
Speaker 2: We have a segment called sex Positions.
Speaker 3: One on one re enact sex positions. And actually Orlando
Speaker 3: was one of was our first threesome.
Speaker 1: Yeah, here's our first third person in our sex position segment.
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, okay, threesome is Yeah, was fucking fucking was
Speaker 5: it good?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: No, no, we're fully so, we're fully closed.
Speaker 2: It's instructional. It's literally to teach people how to do
Speaker 2: the position. One time we were launder, right.
Speaker 7: We didn't bring that back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we probably need to get sexier. We usually this
Speaker 2: were a regular sweat. We're gonna try harder.
Speaker 5: Just kind of made my nipples hard. That's nice.
Speaker 2: We'll send you a little link. We'll send you a
Speaker 2: little link. We'll show you the threesomes.
Speaker 5: Orlando's I'm in Orlando's close friends and I was like, yes,
Speaker 5: yes my reactions. I was like, but oh.
Speaker 2: Yeah it was I'm telling you guys friends.
Speaker 5: Yeah, if that was his close friends, I was like, yo,
Speaker 5: I wish I saw the other side of this.
Speaker 3: You guys, If you guys haven't joined our close friends,
Speaker 3: you got to join our what is it?
Speaker 9: Our?
Speaker 4: What's that?
Speaker 3: The five dollars tier, our five dollars year on Patreon
Speaker 3: gets you access to our close friends.
Speaker 2: And you will have to be disappointed. I'm really I
Speaker 2: don't y'all have joined. Y'all who have not joined Patreon
Speaker 2: are sleeping. Yeah, we don't do a lot of shit.
Speaker 1: We're over they're pranking, We're doing our close friends. There's
Speaker 1: lots of it's like everything but nudity.
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't know how we milk it so hard.
Speaker 2: It was just like there might have been nude.
Speaker 1: To be honestly, it was just every like so much.
Speaker 5: So people are not even getting the same content they
Speaker 5: were getting from creators because Instagram is like this.
Speaker 3: And especially now, I'm so off fucking Instagram. I'm so
Speaker 3: off of fucking Instagram.
Speaker 5: Look, I'm telling you.
Speaker 3: Right now, mark my words, people, listeners, listen up. One
Speaker 3: day when I can get off Instagram. I'm getting the
Speaker 3: funk off and you're gonna have to pay for all
Speaker 3: the content because I'm done trying to censor myself. Instagram
Speaker 3: wants to censor all my ship and I'm an uncensored
Speaker 3: ass bitch and I can't.
Speaker 2: I can't live my life like that. We needed were
Speaker 2: their only fans. What the fuck?
Speaker 3: Well, Patreon is basically our only fans.
Speaker 5: I feel I love only fans, But I feel like
Speaker 5: because I know I'm not gonna pop no pussy unclothed,
Speaker 5: I don't really want to get if I can only fans,
Speaker 5: I'm showing pussy. I just know that it's gonna be
Speaker 5: pussy power. But until until I'm able to do that,
Speaker 5: I feel like I could just do like you said,
Speaker 5: do everything except for that.
Speaker 3: Well, how about this, we have the best thing, the
Speaker 3: next best thing. Well, I think this is the perfect
Speaker 3: way to get into a little segment on our show
Speaker 3: that we call horries.
Speaker 4: Who Stories.
Speaker 2: By the way, that was our moanings. We recorded that personally.
Speaker 2: We probably need to read it. We probably need to
Speaker 2: do a crisper version of it. Little ghettos.
Speaker 5: Need to listen to them to test, you know, to
Speaker 5: make sure they're you know, giving the people what they want.
Speaker 5: You got to have my numbers, so they do it.
Speaker 8: Now.
Speaker 5: I like to say, I love my job.
Speaker 2: You're so dramatic.
Speaker 5: Okay. So I was told about horis. Can I can
Speaker 5: I share two?
Speaker 8: Yes?
Speaker 2: For sure, thank god, more than one.
Speaker 5: Okay. So the first one is funny. So y'all know
Speaker 5: I do love to masturbate. So, because it's COVID, I've
Speaker 5: been taking staycations and stuff. So I went on a
Speaker 5: staycation at this beautiful hotel and I was having a
Speaker 5: fuck fest with myself. So I brought this toy. So
Speaker 5: this is the toy that I used, and it does this,
Speaker 5: so it fucks you. Okay, all right, So this is
Speaker 5: like called a Monroe thrusting something machine or some shit,
Speaker 5: and it sticks to like the wall and it fucks you.
Speaker 5: I thought I was going to be able to use
Speaker 5: this in the shower, but it wouldn't stick. So long
Speaker 5: story short, I ended up on the floor at the
Speaker 5: mini fridge and I stuck it to the mini fridge
Speaker 5: and I sucked myself on the floor on pillows and
Speaker 5: it was the quickest, biggest squirt of my life. And
Speaker 5: then I did it again, just to make sure it
Speaker 5: wasn't a fluke, and it.
Speaker 2: Was wait, you put this on the mini fridge? Yes,
Speaker 2: oh wait, I didn't even hear that.
Speaker 1: I waited on the mini free I had stick to
Speaker 1: the floor. Oh you were on the floor and she
Speaker 1: the mini fridge. I can't just see her now on.
Speaker 5: So I had to scoop my ass. So I tried
Speaker 5: so many positions to get it to work another way,
Speaker 5: but I'm so sure. I had to scoop my ass
Speaker 5: to the mini fridge and then I turned it on
Speaker 5: and I was so close I couldn't even run from it.
Speaker 5: It was drilling my ass. I was like, whoa. I
Speaker 5: felt so bad. I had to wipe off the mini
Speaker 5: fridge fridge? What is that?
Speaker 2: Boy? First of all, what is that called? I?
Speaker 5: I need to get that off the monro thrusting something
Speaker 5: toys something thrusting machine or whatever?
Speaker 2: What do you stick it to you at home?
Speaker 5: Actually? I changed. I upgraded so because I love this like,
Speaker 5: I was so like, I girl, I felt like I
Speaker 5: didn't even need a man no more.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna know.
Speaker 5: That says a lot, because you can't you can't replace
Speaker 5: no fine ass man, you know. I upgraded and now
Speaker 5: I have the big machine so over there, hold on,
Speaker 5: uh see it?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so it's like it's like a fun machine,
Speaker 3: like that's the issues that.
Speaker 2: Is a Doc Johnson machine.
Speaker 5: Yes, so I loved that one that much that I
Speaker 5: invested in one of the fucking porn fuck machines. Girl.
Speaker 5: That was my kind of funny story about myself, right.
Speaker 5: But then I have a story about like my first orgy.
Speaker 5: So I went to Hito. I went to Moca Fest. Actually,
Speaker 5: Mocafest is at Heito, Jamaica. It's a clothing optional resort.
Speaker 5: And the first time was really dope. So the person
Speaker 5: that I was with was my partner at the time,
Speaker 5: and a woman asked me. She was like, are you
Speaker 5: guys here to play or you know what's up? And
Speaker 5: I was the one who was into it, and he
Speaker 5: was trying get out for the first time. So I
Speaker 5: knew I had to hook him up with someone first
Speaker 5: for me to be able to frolic and you know time. Yes,
Speaker 5: So she walked up to him and was cressing him
Speaker 5: and it's like you're you know, you're gorgeous. This is this
Speaker 5: She's like, you want to come up to the room
Speaker 5: and fuck me? And I was like, go ahead. So
Speaker 5: all of us, the people that we were with, were like, Okay,
Speaker 5: well we're gonna go. Like I didn't know everybody in
Speaker 5: the group, but all of us decided to go together.
Speaker 5: I knew some people. They invited some people, you know,
Speaker 5: so then to be a group of us, and we
Speaker 5: were like, we're gonna watch them have sex. So we
Speaker 5: went upstairs to watch them, and you know, we're all
Speaker 5: just kind of turned on. Next thing, you know, another
Speaker 5: couple jumps in, another person jumps in. Then there's a
Speaker 5: guy and he likes he has a fetish of like watching.
Speaker 5: He's a voyeur and he actually makes videos and edits
Speaker 5: them and gives them to the people who participate in whatever,
Speaker 5: and then he deletes it for himself. Oh wow, Like
Speaker 5: he deletes it, but he gives you your content. He
Speaker 5: records you and edits it, edit edits it, like in
Speaker 5: the same thirty minutes or so, you know, after everything
Speaker 5: is done, gives you a copy of your work.
Speaker 2: So you am fucking efficiency right.
Speaker 5: It was, but it was just it was sexy as shit.
Speaker 5: So all I know is at one set because I'm
Speaker 5: definitely a voyeur as well. But next thing, I know,
Speaker 5: I saw my guy like drilling this girl down and
Speaker 5: I'm like really filling her up, like she was a
Speaker 5: very petite woman. And then I was watching another couple
Speaker 5: have sex the next thing, you know, like I felt
Speaker 5: like she was like on the brink of orgasm. So
Speaker 5: I started sucking her toes. I was just like.
Speaker 2: Amazing.
Speaker 5: So I'm sucking this woman's toes. I'm just like, yo,
Speaker 5: we gotta like really get her off. So she's sucking
Speaker 5: his dick, so I'm like, okay, I'm gonna have to
Speaker 5: like eat her pussy from the back, like this pussy's
Speaker 5: this lady's pussy is like drizzling on my forehead. Like
Speaker 5: and then by the time everybody was tired out, I
Speaker 5: had not got a chance to fuck the guy that
Speaker 5: I had went there with. So when everybody was kind
Speaker 5: of winding down, like, I saw his dick was still hard,
Speaker 5: and so I sat on it and you know, did
Speaker 5: the dick riding class and.
Speaker 4: It was good.
Speaker 2: It was amazing. That is a wonderful, beautiful story.
Speaker 1: So what was his takeaway after his first experience in
Speaker 1: the type of environment, Since you said that was his
Speaker 1: first time.
Speaker 5: He didn't stay with it, but he did enjoy it.
Speaker 5: He definitely had a great time.
Speaker 1: He'll never forget you.
Speaker 3: Open niggas up, like, yeah, it's gonna be hard to
Speaker 3: to the top five.
Speaker 5: It was. It was really amazing and I cannot wait
Speaker 5: to go back to heato.
Speaker 2: So when is it? Let me wreate this down.
Speaker 5: What did he Oh? I'll actually be teaching there this
Speaker 5: summer if we can get the world to.
Speaker 2: Oh, I would love to come. Honestly, when you said
Speaker 2: that part about he was feeling.
Speaker 1: Her when she was a very petite woman, you know,
Speaker 1: I just wanted on the record to say, you know.
Speaker 2: What they say about petiitue women? Okay, what did they
Speaker 2: can take that? Sorry?
Speaker 5: Look here, small women love really big dicks. I feel
Speaker 5: I feel they like they do that.
Speaker 2: How tall are you?
Speaker 5: I'm five to three, Okay, I'm really tall.
Speaker 2: Same same, I keep telling bitches, look I'm taller.
Speaker 5: Ship.
Speaker 2: But yeah, it was, it was.
Speaker 5: It was good. It was just really good to watch,
Speaker 5: and it was just like even watching like I felt
Speaker 5: like an orgasm building up, like you know, how like
Speaker 5: you feel that you know, how like you feel hornish
Speaker 5: and you like, you know, if you touch your click
Speaker 5: you're gonna come like That's how I was feeling watching them.
Speaker 5: It was it was good, and by the end of
Speaker 5: it, it just it turned me on. I was like, Okay,
Speaker 5: you sucked her really great. You definitely deserve some pussy
Speaker 5: like I was proud.
Speaker 2: I was crazy with me.
Speaker 1: With me, there's something about honesty and transparency and like
Speaker 1: the exploration and the freedom and the non ownership that's
Speaker 1: like really gets a pussy weed.
Speaker 2: I think, well that and also you seem like, yeah,
Speaker 2: like I got a good one.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, like of course it didn't last, but moments
Speaker 5: or for moments.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was the moment and he never needed it
Speaker 1: more than you did.
Speaker 5: Enjoy the moment, so those are mine.
Speaker 3: Well, thank you so much for coming on. This was
Speaker 3: so fun, this was great. I'm so happy we did this.
Speaker 3: I feel like I have a lot to learn from you.
Speaker 3: I'm excited for your classes.
Speaker 5: You guys have definitely coming to class, and we're going
Speaker 5: to link up and give all of our subscribers on
Speaker 5: Patreon something special.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, exclusive resting while writing.
Speaker 5: Next week, like I thought you, I said I was
Speaker 5: gonna be teaching us how to dep throw.
Speaker 1: You already know you said it on records, so to
Speaker 1: tell tell.
Speaker 2: Our listeners where they can find you.
Speaker 5: All right, So you can find meet on Instagram at
Speaker 5: sexual Essentials, or you can find me on my website
Speaker 5: www dot sexual essentials one dot com. But if you
Speaker 5: go on Instagram, it'll kind of give you a overview
Speaker 5: of everything that I do if you watch the highlights,
Speaker 5: watch my stories. I posted my stories the most. But
Speaker 5: I have a link in my bio that has all
Speaker 5: my links there where you can find my Patreon register
Speaker 5: for the next set of classes. Classes are definitely coming.
Speaker 5: This is on the February fourth and fifth, right before
Speaker 5: Valentine's Day, and you can order a dildo from my
Speaker 5: store online, so that way you have something to practice
Speaker 5: on so we can be what thor row as fuck?
Speaker 5: Yeah I have. I'm gonna change your life, So come
Speaker 5: to class, you know.
Speaker 2: Yes, make sure you check her out.
Speaker 3: And you know, speaking of Valentine's Day, we have our
Speaker 3: live show on February thirteenth. You guys, it's Ladies' Night.
Speaker 3: I'm so excited to give you to finally meet all
Speaker 3: of you guys, I guess virtually unfortunately because you know COVID.
Speaker 3: But this show is about to be lit lit lit.
Speaker 3: It's not your regular zoom call. And I know we
Speaker 3: keep saying that, but I'm just I'm trying to really
Speaker 3: let y'all know, like this is a real last shot.
Speaker 2: This is a production. It's a production, and you don't
Speaker 2: want to miss it. We'll be dreaming live from a
Speaker 2: studio in Los Angeles. Get dressed, put that put your
Speaker 2: fucking clothes on.
Speaker 3: Put that little hoochi ass dress you bought in twenty nineteen.
Speaker 3: They didn't get no shine in twenty twenty.
Speaker 2: Put that shit on. Put that heels on.
Speaker 3: Call your homies, get the bottle book, the babysitter, because
Speaker 3: we're about to turn up.
Speaker 2: Yes, and we need you there too.
Speaker 7: We need you there tomorrow.
Speaker 5: Okay, I'm in there. What do I need you? The Patreon?
Speaker 5: I need to go. You tell us where to get tickets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you guys can get tickets on our Instagram. It's
Speaker 3: on evet bright, but just click the link in our
Speaker 3: bio on Instagram and you can buy tickets. Make sure
Speaker 3: you I think there's a few vip bags left if
Speaker 3: you guys want a vip bag.
Speaker 2: We have some cool brands that we're going to ship
Speaker 2: out to you. But yeah, let's see you on February thirteen.
Speaker 1: Have you joined Patreon, where we offer even more juicy content.
Speaker 2: Yes, y'all.
Speaker 3: We have secret episodes, secret segments, and some very personal
Speaker 3: blog posts that we don't share on the interwebs.
Speaker 2: So make sure you go check out our Patreon.
Speaker 3: That's patreon dot com, backslash, Good Moms, Bad Choices.
Speaker 2: Here's a little sneak peek.
Speaker 5: So yeah, like there are specific ins, like we went
Speaker 5: to Palm Springs with a bunch of people who are
Speaker 5: quote unquote in the lifestyle, but there wasn't a single
Speaker 5: orgy that happened all weekend.
Speaker 2: It's just not what.
Speaker 5: It wasn't the vibe of the weekend. It could have happened,
Speaker 5: but it didn't.
Speaker 6: You know, I have a corn team, and we're just
Speaker 6: a bunch of couples that are you know more are
Speaker 6: kind of open and somewhat non monogamous. But we're just friends.
Speaker 6: You know, like very rarely will there be like a
Speaker 6: hookup situation. You know, maybe it's like cool that the
Speaker 6: girls make out like for like a minute.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 6: If anything, it's just a really deep level of intimacy
Speaker 6: and trust with a group of people who are going
Speaker 6: through a similar life path. Where they're they're in the
Speaker 6: conversation about non monogamy as a lifestyle and