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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for continuing no contact after

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Speaker 2: Don't you ever talk to me again?

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Speaker 1: Kind of ask and you're like okay, And now they're

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Speaker 1: So mew gold Cat says, and this is an okyope

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Speaker 1: what are you say?

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Speaker 4: Go ahead?

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Speaker 1: So we have to give really good advice?

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Speaker 4: How they get the story on.

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Speaker 1: Here by submitting it to our slash okop show on Reddit?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: What do they don't want to write?

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Speaker 1: Well, they can call four four zero five zero eight

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Speaker 4: That's crazy. And let's say they don't want to call,

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Speaker 4: they don't want to write, but they just want to

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Speaker 4: hang out. Where do they go?

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Speaker 1: They can go to our live streams or the discord.

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Speaker 2: What that's crazy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's insane. There's so many places.

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Speaker 4: So many questions to get plugged in.

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Speaker 1: So many places as you can see. But you know what,

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Speaker 1: gold Cat says, my parents' relationship is more of a dictatorship.

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Speaker 1: What type of dictatorship? With my mom controlling everything and

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Speaker 4: Oh, oh that's good, you have a rocket bottle in

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Speaker 1: They're not letting you. They're not letting you express it

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Speaker 2: What it was like, Sorry, where does.

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Speaker 1: Your cousin come from? Is your cousin lived close by?

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Speaker 4: It was like, Mom, we're having me and my mom

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Speaker 1: Yes, I know my cousin and my boyfriend hooked up.

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Speaker 4: That's awful to pay the rent.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, your family is mean. My mother did

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Speaker 4: Sensible thing. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Over the years, my mom has ambushed me with a

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Speaker 4: Look here osa mirror, Yeah, look at that.

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Speaker 1: You did what you did? I'm sorry. So she told

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Speaker 4: She must have forgot, and then because she's crazy.

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Speaker 4: Why this is what mom tells OP two months our

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Speaker 2: She's like, who told you she was going to come?

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Speaker 1: Oh? God, she keeps forgetting my birthday and spending my

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Speaker 4: Good job going to therapy, Yes, and even though you

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Speaker 1: When did I learn to be criticized? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: My parents do that to me and Sam. They also

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, tell us your name in the comments. I

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Speaker 1: Yeah. If we get them wrong, that's what.

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Speaker 4: But you just wait until they have both your name,

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Speaker 1: Nothing? Just sections of ones and zeros. But that's all

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Speaker 1: the stories we have for today. I hope you enjoyed them.

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Speaker 1: I hope you guys have better parents than some of

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Speaker 5: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 4: If you don't tell us about an er, sub added

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Speaker 4: or go to therapy, please go to therapy.

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Speaker 1: Either way.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we cannot help you that much. We can give

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Speaker 1: Laughter, despite what everyone says is not maybe the best therapy.

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Speaker 1: Therapy is the.

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Speaker 4: Most therapeutic.

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Speaker 1: Therapy. But if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 5: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

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Speaker 1: Time for okop relas.

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Speaker 5: Am I be a hole for criticizing my step family's

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Speaker 5: dirty laundry and thanksgiving uh oh after they criticized for

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Speaker 5: being unmarried. Also to everyone listening to these point fives,

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Speaker 5: we are reading stories from our community from the Okay

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Speaker 5: Gang over on our subreddit r slash okop show. So

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Speaker 5: if you have a crazy story or just something that

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Speaker 5: you want advice on from fool buffoons over here. Besides

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Speaker 5: some MIC's submitted there no way, I'm still getting shit

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Speaker 5: from my family, so as possible, I may be a

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Speaker 5: bit of an a hole here. But let's see. I'm

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Speaker 5: twenty nine female, and the players are my mom's stepdad

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Speaker 5: and four siblings thirty five male, thirty seven male, forty female,

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Speaker 5: forty two male, and their families.

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Speaker 4: I'm the black sheep in.

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Speaker 5: The family and I'm the only one not married with kids,

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Speaker 5: but that's my preference. I love living alone. I don't

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Speaker 5: want kids and having a partner. No thanks, just not

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Speaker 5: very important to me.

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Speaker 1: Get it out of here.

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Speaker 5: My family has been asking me when I'm going to

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Speaker 5: get a boyfriend and settled down since I was nineteen,

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Speaker 5: and the answer has always been ill.

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Speaker 4: Never.

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Speaker 5: I was going to skip Thanksgiving, but my mom insisted

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Speaker 5: that she wanted everyone home this year if possible, so

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Speaker 5: I went. It was the usual drill, but the youngest

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Speaker 5: stepbrother and his wife were having another kid, so there's

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Speaker 5: this big announcement. This was fine until around the end

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Speaker 5: of dinner, one of the stepsister in laws asked if

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Speaker 5: I'm not anxious to have kids since I'm almost thirty

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Speaker 5: and time is running out. That biological clock keep ticking.

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Speaker 5: I laughed and said, oh nah, I'm good. That led

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Speaker 5: to one of my stepbrothers saying that every family needs

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Speaker 5: an old maiden and some other comments I didn't appreciate.

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Speaker 5: I said, let's move on, but my mom said, we're

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Speaker 5: just worried about you. This is where I'm possibly the ahole.

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Speaker 5: I know all the family dirt. And so I said, well,

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Speaker 5: I'm the only person at this table that's not an alcoholic,

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Speaker 5: a cheater, or constantly broke as fuck because I have

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Speaker 5: more kids than I can afford, so I'm not the

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Speaker 5: one to worry about.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 5: And that's how I brought Thanksgiving to a dead halt.

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Speaker 5: And no one said a thing the rest of dinner,

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Speaker 5: but my x are still radioactive. I feel like it

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Speaker 5: was probably writing the live and my mom says this

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Speaker 5: has gone a lot of problems among the siblings, but also, hey,

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Speaker 5: they gotta started.

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Speaker 1: It, so okay, So here's my thing.

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Speaker 3: She said that her mom is basically for ten years,

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Speaker 3: her mom is like, when are you settling down?

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Speaker 4: When are you settling down?

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Speaker 3: It really depends on how much and how intense they're like,

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Speaker 3: like these comments are like if if she got comments

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Speaker 3: like that constantly for nine whole life or whatever. You

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Speaker 3: know what go offis, but I don't know, I'm it is,

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Speaker 3: you know, the most passionate thing to do would be

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Speaker 3: to not say that. Yeah, but I understand op if

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Speaker 3: you're fed up with it, So I'm gonna say everyone's

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Speaker 3: the a hole here ding ding ding bing bang bo. Also, Hey,

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Speaker 3: if you like this and you want to submit your

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Speaker 5: We'd love to hear from you. We got one hundred

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Speaker 5: people in the community, a hundred people we did to

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Speaker 5: all of y'all. Shout out to those hundred Okay gangers

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