WEBVTT - Transform Your Closet for Midlife with Stacy London

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Girl. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome back to I Choose Me. Stacy London and I

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<v Speaker 1>have been having the best conversation about mid life and

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<v Speaker 1>how this chapter isn't a decline but it's a real

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<v Speaker 1>power shift as we grow and we regenerate. Because here's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing. We can talk all day long about what

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<v Speaker 1>to wear as we age, but the harder part is

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<v Speaker 1>standing in front of the mirror and loving what you see.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's start there. Okay, you talk about being able

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<v Speaker 1>to look in the mirror without emotion and say I

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<v Speaker 1>love this part of me. I don't love this part

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<v Speaker 1>of me, so that we can dress the good parts.

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<v Speaker 2>How do all the parts?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, all the parts?

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<v Speaker 2>But how do we do that?

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, how do we look in the mirror

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<v Speaker 1>and have no emotional connection to saying oh, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like this about myself?

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<v Speaker 2>Well you can't. You will if you stare in the

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<v Speaker 2>mirror long enough. When your shirt you're going to be like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, I don't want to look at these

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<v Speaker 2>stretch marks. I hate this silly light. When did my

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<v Speaker 2>ass melts into the back of my knees? You got

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<v Speaker 2>to stand in front of that mirror while all those

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<v Speaker 2>all that negative self talk just plays over and over

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<v Speaker 2>and over again, and then eventually you're going to be like,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, girl, we get it. You don't like your ass,

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<v Speaker 2>you do like your shoulders, you like your arms, whatever

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<v Speaker 2>it is. But you have to stay there until the

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<v Speaker 2>embodiment of those feelings, the hatred of your knees or

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it is, burns off, because underneath that is just

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<v Speaker 2>the understanding that your knees are not your favorite body part.

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<v Speaker 2>Right once you can take away the emotion out of it,

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<v Speaker 2>just say, my knees are not a part of my

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<v Speaker 2>body that I love, but my arms are. Then you

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<v Speaker 2>start to think about, Okay, maybe I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 2>wear a miniskirt, but I'm definitely going to do a

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<v Speaker 2>trouser that you know, with like a really sexy because

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<v Speaker 2>I love showing my shoulders in my arms. You start

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<v Speaker 2>to think about how you consciously camouflage. And I know

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<v Speaker 2>that sounds a little Gwyneth Paltrow, but I really do

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<v Speaker 2>mean it. I wrote it in my book fifteen years

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<v Speaker 2>ago that really consciously camouflaging means that you know you

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<v Speaker 2>don't love the way something looks, but you are honoring

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that you don't love the way it looks

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<v Speaker 2>by figuring out how to dress it right. So you're

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<v Speaker 2>not saying I'm going to ignore it. Nine times out

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<v Speaker 2>of ten. If you ignore something you hate about your body,

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<v Speaker 2>it will show in the way you dress nine times better.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you stop the feeling of like you have

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<v Speaker 1>to fix something about yourself in order to be fully happy.

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<v Speaker 2>I really think that, honestly, this is a this is

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<v Speaker 2>a it's a time honoring exercise because you do need

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<v Speaker 2>to really set aside time to get past the visceral emotion. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>That's really all it is is. You just have to

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<v Speaker 2>stand there and stare at yourself until you can say,

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<v Speaker 2>I get it. I'm tired of listening to my you know,

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<v Speaker 2>critical mind. But what it means is that you're willing

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<v Speaker 2>to accept that you don't like something. This is a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit like radical acceptance in dialectical behavioral therapy. It's

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<v Speaker 2>still there. So either you can ignore it and it'll

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<v Speaker 2>look like crap, or you can say, I don't love

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<v Speaker 2>this part of my body, but I'm going to give

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<v Speaker 2>it the same loving attention that I do to my

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<v Speaker 2>shoulders and my arms, because I love them and I

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<v Speaker 2>want to show them off. So what that means is

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<v Speaker 2>I want to find a pair of treasures that aren't

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<v Speaker 2>skin tight so that my knees don't look like they

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<v Speaker 2>you know, are like have creases. Whatever that means is

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<v Speaker 2>you're allowed to prioritize certain parts of your body because

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<v Speaker 2>you like them, but you can't prioritize them to the

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<v Speaker 2>point where it's you know, at the it's at the

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<v Speaker 2>deficit of the rest of your body. You are still

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<v Speaker 2>one body. And the more that you can say I

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<v Speaker 2>like this and I don't like this without the emotions,

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<v Speaker 2>then you can reasonably think this is how I dress

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<v Speaker 2>this part of me, and this is how I dress

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<v Speaker 2>this part of me, so all of me feels great.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, It's all a package.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a package deal, but you have to kind of

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<v Speaker 2>maybe split it into parts first. You have to and

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<v Speaker 2>it's not easy. I'm not saying this is easy, but no.

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<v Speaker 2>I always refer to it as the yes and the

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<v Speaker 2>improv exercise, right, meaning that if you and I were

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<v Speaker 2>improving together and you said to me, here is a

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<v Speaker 2>tabby cat Stacey and I said no, well, okay, then

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<v Speaker 2>I've shut down any possibility of the scene going anywhere

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<v Speaker 2>of us doing anything interesting in improvisation. But if I say,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, Jenny, thank you for this gorgeous, large

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<v Speaker 2>tabby cat who happens to sting opera and also be

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<v Speaker 2>a private detective, Well now we've got a whole story

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<v Speaker 2>to work with. Right. So the yes is just saying

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<v Speaker 2>I accept what has been given to me. I accept

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<v Speaker 2>my body on its own terms. I may like something's more,

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<v Speaker 2>I like something's less, but it's okay. Yeah that is okay.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the and is coming up with the cat's

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<v Speaker 2>a private investigator or an opera singer at all, and

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<v Speaker 2>is recognizing that you love the color purple or that

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<v Speaker 2>you love wearing metallic sneakers. The creative, investigative fun part

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<v Speaker 2>of the yes is that you then turn it into

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<v Speaker 2>something more than just acceptance. You turn it into creativity

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<v Speaker 2>and passion and joy.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you how do you though, how do you

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<v Speaker 1>dress for the body that you have today and stop

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<v Speaker 1>grieving the body you had yesterday?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? That's hard. I think a lot of it is hard,

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<v Speaker 2>and as we change, of course, we change. But the

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<v Speaker 2>one thing that I would definitely say is if most

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<v Speaker 2>of your wardrobe is comprised of pieces that no longer

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<v Speaker 2>fit or you know, to fit differently, and you're buying

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<v Speaker 2>cheap clothes that are kind of like stand ins for

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<v Speaker 2>your you know, they're like extender pieces just until you

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<v Speaker 2>lose the weight. You're never going to lose the weight,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're going to be miserable in your closet.

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<v Speaker 1>Or or if you do lose the way, which is

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a possibility. Of course, you can invest in

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<v Speaker 1>updating your style, like yes, get some new, updated things

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<v Speaker 1>that make you feel even better than those old clothed

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<v Speaker 1>it because probably they're out of style anyway exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>And even if they aren't, that's fine. Keep I say,

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<v Speaker 2>one to three pieces out of any old wardrobe. But

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<v Speaker 2>if you have been a different body shape or size

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<v Speaker 2>for more than a year and eighty percent of your

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<v Speaker 2>wardrobe doesn't fit you correctly, then you're not thinking realistically.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not thinking in a way that's going to bring

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<v Speaker 2>you joy. You're just using your closet to torture your thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>So true, you know that I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think is worse than throwing everything away forget. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously you can donate, you can put things on consignment.

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<v Speaker 2>Poshmark Deep pop all of these sites. The real real

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<v Speaker 2>sell whatever you want to sell. But all I'm saying

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<v Speaker 2>is if you hold on to that stuff, all you

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<v Speaker 2>do is make yourself feel inadequate. You make yourself feel

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<v Speaker 2>like a failure. And that is not the point of style.

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<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>Point of style is to be who you truly are

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<v Speaker 2>and who you want to be, not this self deprecating

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<v Speaker 2>play it small person. And if you're sitting around with

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of clothes that make you feel that way,

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<v Speaker 2>then I really, really, from the bottom of my heart,

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<v Speaker 2>suggest that you start thinking about a new wardrope, not

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<v Speaker 2>even what your new style is going to be, just

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that your clothes should not make you feel

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<v Speaker 2>badly about yourself. Your clothes are meant to work for you,

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<v Speaker 2>not against you.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely you mentioned before finding pieces from different designers within

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<v Speaker 1>a curated sort of space or intention like QBC does.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we talk about the ten things we should have

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<v Speaker 1>in our closets so we can grab them when we're

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<v Speaker 1>in a hurry and just get dressed and ready to go.

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<v Speaker 1>Besides your beautiful put the outfits together, which I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's going to change my life, But what are the

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<v Speaker 1>ten things we should have in our closet.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so this is hard for me only because not

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<v Speaker 2>everybody needs the same ten things truly, right, But I

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<v Speaker 2>will say more generally, I can talk about a few things.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously, denim is essential, and when I talk about denim

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<v Speaker 2>as a category, I'm talking about jeans for a second. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>We can talk about denim jackets and shamberry shirts and

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<v Speaker 2>all of that, but let's just talk about jeans. My

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<v Speaker 2>feeling is you really should have five pair of jeans,

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<v Speaker 2>probably more, but I'm going to stay five for you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the average person who is not completely obsessed with like

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<v Speaker 2>whatever leg style is in. But what I find is

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<v Speaker 2>that if I have one of every style that I

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<v Speaker 2>really love, that you know your jeans are there to

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<v Speaker 2>make your ass look great. So if your ass doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>look great, just kick them to the curve. But I

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<v Speaker 2>have a flare pair, I have a wide leg pair.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a boot cut pair. I have a stretched pair,

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<v Speaker 2>I have straight pair, I have a skinny pair. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>that's already six, right, But I know that these are

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<v Speaker 2>the styles that I look best in. So I go

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<v Speaker 2>I pass over styles that I won't even wear that

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<v Speaker 2>don't look good on me, period, Like You're never going

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<v Speaker 2>to see me in a low rise kick flare ever. Again,

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<v Speaker 2>That's never gonna happen these days. Those days are. But

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<v Speaker 2>I will take the most relevant legs silhouettes, find the

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<v Speaker 2>genes that I look best, and have one of those,

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<v Speaker 2>and I may only wear one of those for three years.

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<v Speaker 2>I may only wear the boot cuts from now on.

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<v Speaker 2>But when I want a wide leg gene, I know

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<v Speaker 2>it's in my closet. Those are just Denim is the

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<v Speaker 2>blank canvas to try any single trend. So whether or

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<v Speaker 2>not you get the leg right, as long as you

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<v Speaker 2>have denim, you can do. You can go wild on

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<v Speaker 2>the top right. You could do let's say, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know sexy secretary is in. You can do a pussy

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<v Speaker 2>bow blouse and a really cute little blazer. But do

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<v Speaker 2>it with jeans and it's much less of a risk.

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<v Speaker 2>So having genes to be kind of that clear palate

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<v Speaker 2>cleanser for any trend you want to try is essentral.

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<v Speaker 2>I also think it's important to have a pair of

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<v Speaker 2>faux or real leather trousers. They could be a baggy trouser,

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<v Speaker 2>they could be a five pocket gene. But a leather

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<v Speaker 2>pant does something to a wardrobe that is like magic.

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<v Speaker 2>It just it elevates it almost automatically. Yeah, you can

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<v Speaker 2>do this really with lots of different kinds of leather.

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<v Speaker 2>This looks great. A leather trench coat will do that trick,

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<v Speaker 2>a leather jacket will do that trick. Even a leather skirt, right.

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<v Speaker 2>I generally think personally, as I've gotten older, I wear

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<v Speaker 2>a lot less, a lot fewer dresses and skirts than

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<v Speaker 2>I did before. But I do think like a leather

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<v Speaker 2>pencil skirt or MIDI skirt, really it looks incredible. And

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<v Speaker 2>the things that elevate the wardrobe without you having to

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<v Speaker 2>do very much at all, then I guess there's something

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<v Speaker 2>that I do think that you really should have. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to call this category character builders. Is that one

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<v Speaker 2>wild piece, whether it's a crazy print, crazy color, crazy embellishment, whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>it is a few of those in your closet that

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<v Speaker 2>do the same thing that a great pair of leather

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<v Speaker 2>pants are going to do, just elevates the outfit into

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<v Speaker 2>something that you don't have to do the work except

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<v Speaker 2>put it on. And it's a w it's wild and

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<v Speaker 2>it goes with any neutral that you have. Then I

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<v Speaker 2>do think you need a suit, whether that's a pantsuit

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<v Speaker 2>or a squirtsuit. You need something that is the shell

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<v Speaker 2>in which you can put any filling and it will

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<v Speaker 2>work right. So I can wear a pantsuit with a

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<v Speaker 2>T shirt and sneakers and that's casual, or I can

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<v Speaker 2>wear it with a blouse and heels and go to

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<v Speaker 2>a job interview. Having a suit means that you always

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<v Speaker 2>have something to wear, and then I can wear that

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<v Speaker 2>blazer with a jillion other pieces and has the sweaters exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>So getting a suit is always your getting bang for

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<v Speaker 2>your buck, and then I do I am a sucker

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<v Speaker 2>for outerwear. I'm a sucker for outerwear.

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<v Speaker 1>If you make beautiful outerwear, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>I just love it so much. And I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>if you have a coat, a bag, and a shoe,

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<v Speaker 2>anything you wear underneath it fine, as long as that

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<v Speaker 2>coat somehow has personality and is outstanding that bag. The

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<v Speaker 2>thing about accessories, bags and shoes in particular, the less

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<v Speaker 2>they go with anything, the more they go with everything.

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<v Speaker 2>So I love shiny and prints and pony skin and

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<v Speaker 2>fur and all sorts of things that you can do

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<v Speaker 2>in your accessories that look like you're participating in a trend.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's say Leopard was really big this season. Let's say

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to wear Leopard. Do a Leopard bag,

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<v Speaker 2>do a Leopard shoe, do a Leopward scarf, and immediately

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<v Speaker 2>you're relevant in that you're participating in the trend, but

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing it in a way that's personal and personally

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<v Speaker 2>stylish to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, such good tips, do you. I'm curious you believe

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<v Speaker 1>in buying the same thing in multiple colors.

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<v Speaker 2>Not really, not unless it is such an incredible cut

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<v Speaker 2>on you that there's no way you could find it

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<v Speaker 2>from anybody else. So if you're buying, like the uniclosed

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<v Speaker 2>sweater that you love, in five different colors, I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's a waste of time. Maybe two maybe maybe. Generally speaking,

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<v Speaker 2>I only like multiples for things that I know that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm wearing consistently and that have such a special shape

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<v Speaker 2>to them, that are really flattering, or that the color

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<v Speaker 2>palet is a really flattering In those cases, yes, I

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<v Speaker 2>think you can do copies, but I don't think you

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<v Speaker 2>ever need to do more than three of anything.

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<v Speaker 1>M I agree, because it's boring.

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<v Speaker 2>It's boring, and then again you're locking yourself in. I

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<v Speaker 2>know this shirt looks good on me, so I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>buy it in every color.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>What about the opportunity to find a different kind of

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<v Speaker 2>shirt that looks good on you that works with three

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<v Speaker 2>pairs of pants that you own instead of just two.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, Okay, I love this question because we talked about

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<v Speaker 1>the term self care on our other episode and which

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<v Speaker 1>you said are not all bubble bath based, right, meaning

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<v Speaker 1>that it's not only just for you. What are some

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<v Speaker 1>things that we can do right now in this world

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<v Speaker 1>that are self care?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I think that self care. There's two ways to

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<v Speaker 2>look at it, right. There's self care that makes you

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<v Speaker 2>feel good because you've done something for yourself, and self

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<v Speaker 2>care that makes you feel good because you've done something

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<v Speaker 2>that has a retal effect. So really, the first thing

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to say for self care is volunteer. I

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<v Speaker 2>just got my application to start volunteering at a pet

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<v Speaker 2>shelter because there's just so much need in the world.

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<v Speaker 2>There's just so much need. Right you can sort of

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<v Speaker 2>code drive because it's freezing, I mean, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>the East Rivers filled with ice today. It's so cold,

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<v Speaker 2>and so doing something for others, contributor, donate to your

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<v Speaker 2>community garden, whatever it is, I think is a way

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<v Speaker 2>to get out of the way of our own ego

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<v Speaker 2>and feel good about something that does not require looking

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<v Speaker 2>in a mirror or purchasing something or putting something on

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<v Speaker 2>your face or getting in a bath or you know whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>It is.

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<v Speaker 2>Another great way to do self care is to really

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<v Speaker 2>think about what do I need to take care of

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<v Speaker 2>myself in order to be a vibrant member of my community.

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<v Speaker 2>So self care may look like a facial to some people,

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<v Speaker 2>but it may look like a Texa scan to others. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>how do you know the status of your own health

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<v Speaker 2>and are you on a track to keep you strong

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, allow you to live a long life

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<v Speaker 2>so that you can be around other people that you care.

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<v Speaker 1>That kind of thing is not just for you. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not a selfish thing to take care of yourself in

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<v Speaker 1>that manner. It's for the people around you that love you,

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<v Speaker 1>that depend on you, the people that need you, all

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<v Speaker 1>the people. So I sometimes self care, or when I

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<v Speaker 1>talk about choosing yourself, people can see it as this

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<v Speaker 1>very selfish or self absorbed thing. But I am just

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<v Speaker 1>here to blow that perception out because we're stuck on.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we've talked about before, making everybody else happy and

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<v Speaker 1>doing what other people want us to do and saying

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<v Speaker 1>yes to everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>And thing us to everyone. You know, also that you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you've got to be really careful, right, Even volunteering can

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<v Speaker 2>wind up being a people pleasing thing if you're not

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<v Speaker 2>doing it with boundaries. And I think certainly when it

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<v Speaker 2>comes to self care, the stronger your boundaries, the better

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<v Speaker 2>your self care is going to be, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>So if there's something you know right now that you

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<v Speaker 2>want to think about in terms of self care, think

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<v Speaker 2>about the kinds of boundaries that you have with your

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<v Speaker 2>friends and family. Do you feel secure in them? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like they have been, you know, broken? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like people are trying or disrespecting you on

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<v Speaker 2>a kind of very base level of your belief system?

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<v Speaker 2>How can you rectify that? How can you at least

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<v Speaker 2>communicate that in a way that is good for you

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<v Speaker 2>and good for the people around you. But this is

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<v Speaker 2>not about people pleasing. This is really truly about how

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<v Speaker 2>we continue to fortify ourselves and become more of who

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<v Speaker 2>we are so that we can be in community with

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<v Speaker 2>other people. And maybe that is a treat, Maybe that

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<v Speaker 2>is wharing, you know, getting a new red left stick

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<v Speaker 2>or getting your hair done or taking them. It's just

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<v Speaker 2>not limited to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely so good to remember everybody you you're just an inspiration.

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<v Speaker 2>No only please, No, it's everything that you're doing. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel the same way. And it really is funny. It

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<v Speaker 2>is interesting to think that like a company, a company

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<v Speaker 2>brought us together to do something that I think has

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<v Speaker 2>such a higher purpose. You know, in a way, it's

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<v Speaker 2>like thank god a company thought of it, because we

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<v Speaker 2>should be doing you know, we should be discussing the

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<v Speaker 2>age of possibility anyway all the time, because.

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<v Speaker 1>This is this is it, This is this is it.

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<v Speaker 1>Wherever you are right now is it?

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<v Speaker 2>It's it? Yeah, it really is. And I feel like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, look, times are hard. They're always going to

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<v Speaker 2>be hard. Things are going to be hard. But the

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<v Speaker 2>more we have conversations like this, the more that we're

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<v Speaker 2>willing to be open and vulnerable and kind and afraid

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<v Speaker 2>eat the better.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Well you are, like I said before, reppin my friend,

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. I love having our conversation and I

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<v Speaker 1>hope everybody listening has taken something away from this conversation,

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<v Speaker 1>because I know I have. Thank you Stacy