Speaker 1: People on social media really have an obsession with digging
Speaker 1: if people came from money, like celebrities, like it could
Speaker 1: be like oh, Blake Lively, but she came from money
Speaker 1: or NEPO baby or things like that, like that is
Speaker 1: literally something someone can't control. People want to punish people
Speaker 1: for having come from money. I understand punishing someone for
Speaker 1: having come from money if they are utilizing that or
Speaker 1: cost playing, you know, being super poor or things like
Speaker 1: that. That could that I would imagine is irritated. But I
Speaker 1: don't know why people feel like they have to criticize
Speaker 1: people because they came from money, like it almost makes
Speaker 1: people mad, and it almost and it does make people mad.
Speaker 1: I've seen on social media there are these influencers that
Speaker 1: have now been able to afford expensive cars and houses
Speaker 1: in the Hamptons, and there's so much jealousy on social
Speaker 1: media that other influencers are annoyed. It's it's a due.
Speaker 1: It's looking in the mirror, like why not me? Why
Speaker 1: have I been on this same social media platform and
Speaker 1: I can't buy myself a house in the Hampton's and
Speaker 1: a car. And they'll just like a bully and abuse
Speaker 1: these people for just making money and being successful, as
Speaker 1: if it's not like any other space in capitalism, you know,
Speaker 1: it's like it's a different thing. People do want to
Speaker 1: keep you where you were. People at work want you
Speaker 1: to be in the same position, like you're gets shot
Speaker 1: and freud like I'm only happy if you're down there,
Speaker 1: you know, like it's wild. Most people really aren't happy
Speaker 1: for other people. And you got to stay away from
Speaker 1: anyone with any tinge of that sort of negativity, because
Speaker 1: you know, you hear the comments, you hear the energy,
Speaker 1: you get, the vibe. You got to steer very, very
Speaker 1: clear of that. It's extremely common people want to keep
Speaker 1: you exactly where you are. Sometimes parents too. Sometimes people
Speaker 1: want to keep you exactly where you are from the
Speaker 1: way you look. Someone on social media commented on my
Speaker 1: physical appearance literally was twenty years ago and comparing it now,
Speaker 1: they want that Bethany, and my jaw was completely different
Speaker 1: because I hadn't found botox in the jaw. My jaw
Speaker 1: was much bigger. But like people commenting on someone else's
Speaker 1: physical appearance like being mad that I look better, like
Speaker 1: I literally look better, and they're annoyed, and you could
Speaker 1: tell and again that's a hater. And I like that.
Speaker 1: I like, literally know that you are acting really like
Speaker 1: jealous and bitter and it's annoying you that I look good.
Speaker 1: Where's the old bethany Where? It doesn't fucking matter because
Speaker 1: this is the new bethany bitch Like, You're so annoyed,
Speaker 1: and I love it because the more you get annoyed,
Speaker 1: the more I know it's working the better. The more
Speaker 1: you get annoyed, the better I know. I look, I'm
Speaker 1: bothering you. Keep it coming. People want people to stay.
Speaker 1: They get mad ozembic, you're doing ozempic. I gotta catch you.
Speaker 1: I gotta be mad at you. But it's just because
Speaker 1: you're lying. And I understand the lying part, and I
Speaker 1: understand the leading people to believe it it's about eating
Speaker 1: healthy and working out, because then it's not presenting an
Speaker 1: accurate message. But I think it goes deeper. I think
Speaker 1: people are just mad that other people are allowed to
Speaker 1: like now look good. They don't like it. There's this
Speaker 1: woman on social media that just like curses into the phone,
Speaker 1: being like, I'll do whatever the fuck I want. If
Speaker 1: I want to get plastic surgery, if I want to
Speaker 1: look better, Why can't I look better? Why? Why are
Speaker 1: you fucking telling me that I'm supposed to not get it,
Speaker 1: and who cares at my age, I'll do whatever I want.
Speaker 1: I'll do what I want, to wear what I want.
Speaker 1: I'll get done what I want. None of your fucking business.
Speaker 1: I'll look how I want. That's back to that walk
Speaker 1: in Paris. People are so mad. Bethanye's not a too
Speaker 1: she Why did you want? Why did I walk like that?
Speaker 1: Because I fucking wanted to, because it was iconic, because
Speaker 1: you're talking about it because it landed, because I win,
Speaker 1: because I win because I did that giraffe walk, and Laurie,
Speaker 1: I'll just invite me to something in la I don't
Speaker 1: see them inviting you. Why because their campaign was worth it.
Speaker 1: You're worth it? About what you think your self worth?
Speaker 1: My self worth is I'm a fucking giraffe and you're
Speaker 1: still talking about it. The media is still talking about it,
Speaker 1: that you really you really made a statement. Yes I did,
Speaker 1: We're still talking about it. We can talk about it
Speaker 1: for the rest of my life. I'm gonna literally tattoo
Speaker 1: myself in a giraffe pattern because I fucking win, because
Speaker 1: I did it the way I want it, and it's
Speaker 1: driving you crazy. And that maybe something I should talk
Speaker 1: about it in therapy. But it makes me happy, so
Speaker 1: that may maybe I have problems. But if I got issues,
Speaker 1: that's okay. And you know I will say this to
Speaker 1: you guys. You have to really have said this before,
Speaker 1: but I have to say it again. Haters must be motivators.
Speaker 1: Haters stay much longer. Haters are more invested. Haters are
Speaker 1: listening more closely. Haters are addicted. Haters and trolls can't
Speaker 1: walk or look away. It's like they need the drug.
Speaker 1: Haters are better for business. You have to have a
Speaker 1: strong constitution. But when I tell you, if they're taking
Speaker 1: the time to hate, debate, argue, you're striking a nerve.
Speaker 1: Nothing's worse than dispassionate, don't care. You ever liked somebody
Speaker 1: and they're just fine back. They don't hate you, they
Speaker 1: don't love you, they don't give a shit. What is
Speaker 1: worse than that? You want to take a cattle prod
Speaker 1: and burn them to like make them have a reaction.
Speaker 1: That's what people are looking for in life. They're looking
Speaker 1: for proof of life, some version of a reaction. So
Speaker 1: when you're in your community or you're part of the
Speaker 1: gossip circle or people are hating, like you have to
Speaker 1: be strong, but you have to even teach your kids
Speaker 1: as it's impossible. Like they're talking about you, they're worried
Speaker 1: about you, they're thinking about you, they're concerned about you.
Speaker 1: Must have said something to provoke them. Now if it's
Speaker 1: hate speech or you said something terrible or you know,
Speaker 1: racist or something, then that's a completely different story. That's
Speaker 1: like they're they're infuriated. But I'm talking about like just
Speaker 1: guard and variety, you having a different opinion than other people,
Speaker 1: or them just wanting to hate let them. But we
Speaker 1: don't take the bait. We don't take the bait. You
Speaker 1: don't go in someone comments on something and you take
Speaker 1: the bait. You don't do it when someone's talking about
Speaker 1: you're in your neighborhood, you are aloof You don't know,
Speaker 1: you don't care. Said this to my daughter about something
Speaker 1: something happened, is bothering her? I go, you don't even
Speaker 1: notice it. People pray on weakness, honey, People pray on weakness.
Speaker 1: You don't go being a pick me. You don't go
Speaker 1: being thirsty. You don't go subtly begging for someone's attention.
Speaker 1: You don't need to be invited. You don't even know
Speaker 1: there is a party. You don't even know there is
Speaker 1: something going on. You don't know this. You are just you,
Speaker 1: rise above. You live your own life, because being happy
Speaker 1: is contagious, and being happy drives people crazy or makes
Speaker 1: them want to be near it. Either way, you win.
Speaker 1: I said to her the thing that one of the
Speaker 1: matchmakers on the podcast said, the rotten apple will rot
Speaker 1: the right apple. The ripe apple will not ripen the
Speaker 1: rotten apple. So if you're the right apple, stay the
Speaker 1: fuck away from the rotten apple in every scenario. I
Speaker 1: don't care if it's your own family. I had a
Speaker 1: situation where someone that I as a child was in
Speaker 1: my life reaching out. You know when someone reaches out
Speaker 1: and it's constant guilt trip everything they did for you,
Speaker 1: They believe they did everything for you, and like just
Speaker 1: just badgering you, and I exploded. I exploded. It was
Speaker 1: my entire life crystallized in one explosion where I basically
Speaker 1: said I was raised by fucking animals. Everyone, all the people,
Speaker 1: all the people I was supposed to trust that were
Speaker 1: as parents, as parental figures, as a father, a stepfather,
Speaker 1: a mother, All the people had me around drugs and
Speaker 1: eating disorders and physical abuse and substance abuse, and being
Speaker 1: at nightclubs when I was thirteen, and taking the train
Speaker 1: by myself into New York City when I was thirteen,
Speaker 1: and teaching me how to get into the nightclub and
Speaker 1: being around walking in on people having sex and then
Speaker 1: watching them get the ship beat out of them ten
Speaker 1: minutes later, like people going to the hospital, arrests, molestation,
Speaker 1: sexual abuse, all of it, and what happens if you're
Speaker 1: in a dysfunctional family or you have a dysfunctional childhood.
Speaker 1: Those people want to be the kings and queens of
Speaker 1: the dipshits. They want to tell you how they were
Speaker 1: better than the others. Well, at least I wasn't your
Speaker 1: father beating the shit out of me with a phone.
Speaker 1: It's like, right, you were the one who gave me
Speaker 1: the keys to go to the car to go to
Speaker 1: the night club. Like, it's literally fifty shades of shit.
Speaker 1: And someone from my past was trying to like guilt
Speaker 1: trip me. Well, you did go to a private school,
Speaker 1: I did take you away to Europe. I'm like right,
Speaker 1: But also a couple of your friends molested me, So
Speaker 1: I feel like it's still not I don't. I feel
Speaker 1: like going to the South of France makes up for
Speaker 1: your business partner trying to fuck me. So I recently
Speaker 1: and I was talking to my therapists about this morning,
Speaker 1: about this this morning, unleashed and just mentioned it all.
Speaker 1: I've never once set out loud how many things were
Speaker 1: wrong and that it's unacceptable, and that it's affected my
Speaker 1: relationships now as an adult, and that I don't want
Speaker 1: my daughter near any of this, So that I've disconnected
Speaker 1: many relationships that you could feel guilty about, like what
Speaker 1: if someone's gonna die, someone gets sick and die of
Speaker 1: you can feel guilty. I have to say, you have
Speaker 1: to choose your mental and emotional sanity and your kids
Speaker 1: and your people around you. Like I could feel guilt
Speaker 1: about fleeting moments in my childhood that were good and
Speaker 1: not wanting to leave someone alone who's older. But I
Speaker 1: could also say I got out, I broke the chain,
Speaker 1: I created a lo life for my child, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to go back ever. So blood is not
Speaker 1: necessarily thicker than water because my blood well this wasn't
Speaker 1: actually a blood relative, but it's to me, it's not.
Speaker 1: I don't care how connected by blood I am to someone.
Speaker 1: I'm not being around anything dysfunctional ever. I'm never allowing
Speaker 1: it for my daughter and the criminally insane house that
Speaker 1: I grew up in, as one of my childhood friends
Speaker 1: described it when my mother passed away, I'm never going
Speaker 1: fucking back there. I don't want to talk to anyone
Speaker 1: from it. I don't want to be part of it.
Speaker 1: I left. So don't let your mind play tricks on you.
Speaker 1: All that's toxic, and anything that smells like that at all,
Speaker 1: you stay away from. I don't give a shit who
Speaker 1: someone's related to, but they're your family. I don't necessarily
Speaker 1: always know what that means when it pertains to dysfunction
Speaker 1: and abuse. So have the power to know what's good
Speaker 1: for you. You don't do heroin because you know it's
Speaker 1: bad for you. You don't if you have diabetes. You're
Speaker 1: not mainlining sugar if you know it'll kill you. So
Speaker 1: if you're emotionally well and you've gotten out of a
Speaker 1: toxic situation, you don't go near that at all. That's
Speaker 1: a drug that's that's not that's bad for you, And
Speaker 1: I don't care in what form it takes, whether it's
Speaker 1: family or not. Family, friends, old friends, childhood friends, obligations.
Speaker 1: You be as selfish as possible in those situations. And
Speaker 1: in those situations, here's the thing. If someone is pulling
Speaker 1: you down at work or in your relationship, or in
Speaker 1: your friendships, or in your life or on your sports team,
Speaker 1: like I know, we're only as good as our weakest link,
Speaker 1: and you have we have to do that. But if
Speaker 1: someone is hanging onto you and it's pulling you down,
Speaker 1: you're both gonna drown. So you're gonna have to let
Speaker 1: go so you don't drown with them. To walk back
Speaker 1: to the back to the after, walk back to the aster,