WEBVTT - Ep. 127 — So, About That Time Tiffany Got Someone Fired... 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:20.239 All right, hey, hey, hey, we're back. 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:22.200 We're black, We're brown. 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:29.960 I'm Tiffany, I'm Mady and this is Brown Ambition. 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.200 Nailed it. Happy Brown Ambition Wednesday, guys. 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:36.199 Yeah, Happy bron Ambition Wednesday. 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:38.680 So let's talk about the elephant in the room, or 0:00:38.720 --> 0:00:41.120 shall we say the two step in the room. 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:44.519 Are you talking about This Is America? 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:48.360 Yes, only Donald we acknowledge is Glover. 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:52.440 First of all, Donald Glover. I don't know if anyone 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:55.920 listening has ever watched the show Community, Like I never 0:00:55.960 --> 0:00:58.240 really had watched it. My husband liked it. But if 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.280 you look at Donald Glover, his character on Community, it's 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:03.480 like he put that character in a trash can and 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.760 burned it, like blew it up, and he's like, I'm 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:08.520 never going to be this person again. I am doing 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:10.840 things my way. And then he came out with like 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:14.920 Atlanta and now all this music, and basically he's owning 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:17.040 the internet right now because his video for This Is 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.039 America just dropped like the same weekend that he hosted 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:23.240 SNL and what might have been one of the blackest 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:24.720 episodes of SNL in a long time. 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.560 I haven't seen that, but I've seen the video and 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.480 I'm not gonna lie. At first, I saw the Instagram 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:33.880 clips of it, which if that's all you've seen, you 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:35.679 have not seen it, and I was like, what's going on? 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:37.440 Because I'm like, why is he dancing so weird? Like 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:40.000 I didn't get it, you know, I was like, Oh, 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:43.160 he's dancing. And then when I saw the whole video, 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:46.840 I said, Okay, there's a lot to unpack here. And 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:49.160 then I started reading you know articles love he has 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:52.760 a great one, Okay Africa and okay player, I think, 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:53.920 or okay Africa has. 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:54.240 A great one. 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:55.840 Everyone's got a thought piece. 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:58.320 Yes, and it's like but what I liked about it 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:01.320 is that there are components that I missed, Like is 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:03.760 that Trayvon Martin's father that was shot in the beginning, 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:06.640 like the chaos going on in the background. 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:07.240 Wait was it. 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:12.400 There's mixed opinions about whether it was, but like, for example, 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.600 how they handled the guns versus how they handle the 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:19.760 bodies that passed away. They handled the guns so carefully, yes, 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.840 and the people that were killed were just kind of 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:24.680 like looked over or dragged away. 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:26.400 So there's just a lot to unpack. 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:28.520 I wanted to take a minute and read some of 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:30.680 the comments we got on Instagram because I asked our 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:32.760 followers if they wanted if they had any thoughts to 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.320 share on the video. We got some really good, thoughtful comments. 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:38.880 Let me read this one. This one's from Instagram user 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:42.639 deb Hack nineteen ninety one. She says, I think childish 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:45.520 Gambino is a representation of America and all of the 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:50.480 things of distraction from what's going on behind him. Instagram 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:54.600 user man versus Cash says deb Hack nineteen ninety one 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:56.840 has it pretty right. As long as we keep focusing 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:59.919 on the shucking and driving that occurred throughout the entire video, 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.040 so we won't see what has been happening for the 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:05.880 last thirty plus years. All the slave references, references to 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:09.480 Michael Jackson eighties nineties cars to Rodney King. Also the 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.080 fact that both guns were wrapped in a red veil 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:16.200 and protected while the victims were unceremoniously dragged off. It 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:16.600 got me. 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:21.720 Wow, Yes, those are I mean, those are great. I 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:23.240 mean I'm looking at them now. 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:26.720 Honestly, I love when you guys kind of let your 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:30.280 thoughts be known via social So if you didn't know, 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:36.320 we have an Instagram page, it is Brown Ambition podcast, 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:40.600 and if you ever want to leave any commentary, either 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:42.760 on our Instagram page or just in general, use the 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:44.920 hashtag brown ambition so we can find you and we'll 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:46.720 read them in the beginning of the show. 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:50.480 Every week'll be looking. Don't make a fool of yourself. 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:52.760 Don't use the hashtag brown ambition in vain. 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.880 Yeah. So on Twitter and Instagram, those are two mains 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:59.160 right now. So Instagram you can comment under one of 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:03.320 our posts, and on Twitter, definitely tag us and use 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:05.400 the hashtag brown ambition so we can find you. 0:04:05.760 --> 0:04:07.840 Some people send us news stories that they think would 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:09.560 be good for a bron booster or brown break. I 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.720 love it you can. Yeah, so if you use the 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.000 hashtag brown ambition every week, I'll be looking for that 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:15.800 on Twitter and on Instagram. So if you want to 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:18.280 share a story, or if you want to say, hey, 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:21.599 I was really brown ambition this week because I got 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:23.960 a's on my exams, or I just got you know, 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:26.080 a huge scholarship to go to college, or I just 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.240 paid off a credit card, like those are the stories 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:31.000 that we love. Please please please share, and of course 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:35.080 comment and and just communicate because this feels like I mean, 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.000 I can't tell you how many emails we get from 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:38.800 people who were like, I feel like I have a friend. 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:42.400 I feel like I have sisters Mandy and Tiffany, but 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:43.560 we want to hear from you. 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:43.800 You know. 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:46.520 It's it's meant to be a conversation that includes you, guys, 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:50.120 So definitely look out for your comments on social. 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:51.920 Yeah, exactly. 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:54.280 Just don't snapchat me because I don't do that anymore. 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:56.800 Yeah, nobody doesn't, no, you know. 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:00.160 Addly enough, like Snapchat is still like the number two 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:05.160 most popular downloaded app on Apple, so I mean someone's 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:12.640 downloading these five year olds. So I was gonna, babe 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:14.360 say this from Brown Booster break, but I think I'll 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:18.600 just share. I got somebody fired, and I feel mixed, 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:22.200 mostly happy but sad because you never want anyone to. 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:24.760 Be fired, but ye and I never. 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.640 Yeah, I mean, well here's the once I tell you, 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:30.280 you're gonna be like, oh, she needs to go. I 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:33.120 was talking to my CFO on Mondays. We have our 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:39.000 team meetings and my sister's kids there three and one, 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:43.440 and you can watch them at daycare at this website 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:45.640 called watch Me Grow. So it's just basically cameras in 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:48.839 every room. And so I was watching and it was 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:50.760 naptime and I'm watching in my nephew's room. 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:51.400 He's asleep. 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:53.560 But there's like a young teacher I want to say, 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:57.040 she's in her twenties and the kids like I remember 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:59.039 these days because I used to be that teacher in 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.159 the classroom, like cleaning up while the kids are on 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:02.840 their cot, supposed to be sleeping. 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:04.480 But they're not. So the kids are a little restless. 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:06.400 Some of them are like taking off their shoes, and 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:08.320 this one is sitting up and this one's moving around. 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:10.559 So she's a little rough with them. I noticed. 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.800 I'm like, ugh, so I'm talking about see a phone. 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:15.200 I'm like, hold on, girl, something's happening in the classroom. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:17.520 She grabs one kid and kind of like like you know, 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:19.839 like roughly puts him back on the cot, and I'm like, oh, 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:22.440 that seems a little excessive, and does it to another. 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:24.520 And it was clear that she was kind of like 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:26.400 whisper yelling at them, you know how you could see 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:29.560 people's mannerisms. And he threw this took this blake off 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:32.000 this little girl, pulled it roughly because she wasn't laying down, 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:33.640 threw it on top of her and gave her a 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:34.960 little pop on the behind, and. 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:36.960 I said, oh my goodness, did she just hit this 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:37.440 little girl? 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:41.040 It wasn't hard, but still I was like, uh, and 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:43.560 what took The cake boy was like not laying down, 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:45.840 and she kind of pushed his head down and then 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:46.560 pulled his. 0:06:46.560 --> 0:06:49.640 Ear, you know how like you seem like the old little. 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.400 Italian lady, like pulling your ear back and forth, like 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:52.640 what are you doing? But I'm like, this is not 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:56.039 your child, and he's too and you're pulling his ear. 0:06:56.160 --> 0:06:59.000 I was like I I quickly got off the phone. 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:02.040 I called my sister and I told her and she 0:07:02.120 --> 0:07:05.240 was like what And she said, you know, she's a 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:07.599 little aggressive with the kids. And I told them, and 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:10.720 they make nothing but excuses for her. But I've never 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:15.280 seen her like do anything. It's always been just like, huh, 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:17.280 you know, you pulled them a little too quickly, or 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:20.200 just you know, like she's never seen anything like this before. 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:24.360 So I called the center myself, so as I'm on 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:27.520 the phone with her, we both watched and she did 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:30.160 something that was slightly in appropriate. And then she rewinds 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:31.400 the tape as I'm on the phone with her and 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:32.600 she's watching, like, oh my good. 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.720 She's like, I'm gonna call you right back. So I 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:37.160 guess she must have jumped off the. 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.960 Phone because then went over there because they're only down 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.400 the street from each other. The two centers went down there, 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:44.080 and I guess they pulled her to the side and 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:47.400 let her go. So, you know, you never want to 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:52.160 get anybody fired, but you can't beat on people's kids. 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:54.920 You know, they knew she knew she was on camera, right. 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:56.600 Yeah, I don't even know what she was thinking. 0:07:57.000 --> 0:07:59.000 Wow, that no one's probably watching. 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.320 Yeah, And I think truth of the matter is because 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:03.880 I told my sister when she went to go pick 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:05.720 up the kids what happened. She's like, they just did 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:07.440 like a general announcement like such a such, just not 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:09.440 with this anymore. Her way of doing things were not 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:13.960 aligned with the center. So I don't think. I don't honestly, 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:16.000 I really think the majority of parents were not are 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:18.520 just they just don't watch. But I watch, you know, 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:20.880 like as I'm kind of chilling by the computer, if 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:22.960 I'm like doing work, I'll just peek in because honestly, 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:25.360 I'm not watching to peek in on the teachers. Quite honestly, 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:26.720 I don't get to see my niece and my nephew 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:27.840 as much as that possible. 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:30.440 So I just watched for stalkers reasons like oh. 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:32.400 Just to kind of see my niece and my nephews 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:34.080 and say I don't see them as often. But I 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:36.760 was horrified, Like I said, she didn't, she didn't, you know, 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:38.640 do anything to him. But I thought to myself, you know, 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:40.400 if you'll do this to one kid, you'll do it 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:41.160 to another, you know. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:45.520 M And with as much as childcare costs, like as 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.160 much as like daycare costs, I would be watching and 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:50.439 expect like, you're not going to hit my kid when 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.439 I'm picking like thousands of dollars. 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:54.800 Yes, when I tell you, like at one point, her 0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:57.600 daycare bill was like something like twenty one hundred dollars 0:08:57.559 --> 0:08:58.040 a months. 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.719 For both of them. Can you want to see one? 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:03.720 I was just like, uh, and you're gonna be inappropriate 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:05.000 with my kid, I don't think. 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:04.960 So. 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:24.000 Let us boost and break. Yes, if you don't mind, 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:26.600 I have a boost this week. Okay did you say 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:27.199 you do mind? 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:27.719 No? 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:29.680 No, I don't mind, okay, because I wasn't gonna care 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:33.400 if you mind it. So I got a boost real quick. 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:36.440 I am just I know I am late to the party. 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:39.199 This is some granola crunchy stuff. But you're vegans that 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:42.760 you can't talk. So I am late to the compost party. 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:47.640 But I love. I freaking love composting, like when you yes, 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:51.040 I am like a convert. I've been wanting to. I 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:53.199 know in New York City they had they were starting 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.760 to do like some composting programs. I think in Brooklyn, 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:58.240 of course, but I never made my way to like 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:01.160 all the composting programs. You're where I lived in Queens 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:03.520 or then in Jersey where I was last year. You 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:05.640 had to like collect your stuff and then bring it 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:08.079 to the food market, which was you know you had 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:09.480 if you did. We didn't have a car, so we 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:12.760 had to like carry a bag of food trash basically, 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:14.959 you know, several blocks if not take a subway to 0:10:15.040 --> 0:10:17.439 drop our food off. It was never convenient. But now 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:19.640 that we moved to the Burbs, so my town just 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:24.280 this past winter launched their food compost program and for 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.080 twenty dollars. You go to the town, and I think 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:28.240 a lot of towns do this now. You go to 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:30.360 the town the nature center or whatever, and they give 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:33.319 you a little food pail that you put on your countertop, 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.720 and you collect your food scraps during the week. And 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:37.960 then I'm listening to myself saying, I know I sound 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:39.040 so crunchy, but I don't care. 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:39.720 It's amazing. 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:41.920 I'm like, oh, and then you collect your food scraps. 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:44.160 So you put your food scraps in the little food 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:47.079 pail on your countertop, but don't worry about it's smelling. 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:49.000 In fact, the reason I love it so much is 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.120 because we used to always have a smelly trash can. 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:52.920 No matter what you did, you put it under the sink, 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:54.800 you put a lid on it, whatever if you like. 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:57.280 It would take us a while to fill the trash can, 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:59.720 and you put you make a salad, you put your 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:01.840 scrap in there, and then two days later your house 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:05.720 is funky. So this way the food pail, it seals. 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:09.199 It's like air tight, so the fumes stay in the 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.440 pail as long as it's closed. So you just put 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:13.760 your scraps in there during the week, and then slowly 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:16.640 you fill up one little pail and then you close 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:19.480 the bag and you put it into a slightly larger 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:22.679 pail that they also give you for that twenty dollars. 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:25.160 And then when you're done, you just drop it off 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:27.560 at the compost facility like whenever. I don't know, we 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:30.360 did it like once a week and the the like 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:34.960 I we create such little trash. Now it's amazing. Our 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:38.360 recycling bin is packed, the compost bin is full. But 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:41.200 the actual we have one sad little trash bag in 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:43.000 our trash can this week. And I just felt really 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:43.880 good about myself. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:44.959 That's good. 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:48.680 Look at you lowering your carbon finger No, what is 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:49.559 it carbon footprint? 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:50.239 Fingerprint? 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:54.200 Yeah, I was trying to be up on the hip 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:57.000 food the hip like lingo of like you know, of 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.400 the vegan. So when we were kids, we used to 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:01.920 compost the little because my dad always kept the garden. 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:04.200 So we would save our vegetable and fruit scraps and 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.440 like throw it in this like pile in the backyard 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:09.079 and he would use it to like you know, fertilize 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:10.439 the fruits and vegetables. 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:12.200 Oh I can't do that, man. I saw a possum 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:13.400 troll in the streets last week. 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:16.000 Yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah, Now you have to. 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:18.760 Keep that food pill in the house. Listen. I found 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:20.600 a bunny rabbit in my thought. I saw a beaver 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:23.959 last week. The amount of wildlife is a little overwhelming. 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:28.080 Beaver, a bundy, a baby beaver, a deer, then you 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:29.440 just get deer in fox too. 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:32.320 Who I could use a fox. There's also coyotes roaming 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:36.679 my county. Now. One coyote attacked a little girl had 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:39.280 a playground. Y'all think I have never been more afraid 0:12:39.920 --> 0:12:42.199 than I am as a homeowner. Can never I never 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:45.400 really feared anything living in an apartment in New York City, 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:48.079 Jersey Queens wherever. My parents were always worried about. You, 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:50.160 Like this is I feel safe all the time. I 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:53.000 could be out late, take the subway home. There's still 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:55.840 be people out and about. It is creepy. As a 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:59.840 mother in the suburbs, it is quiet, everyone is inside. Yeah, 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:02.160 you feel like no one could hear you scream. And 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.840 if someone if, like a coyote attacked me, what am 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:08.600 I going to do about it? Like there's no it's 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.320 so scary, Like I'm turning into a big baby. This 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:14.040 brown boost, this brown boos is turning into a break 0:13:14.400 --> 0:13:16.800 for being alone in a house by yourself, which I, 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.280 an adult woman in her thirties, just can't do. 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:24.520 Apparently, Oh yeah, I see, I've done both. I've lived 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.720 in the city, well not super city like you. I 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:29.319 feel like Newark is not it's city, but it's not 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.960 like super city. And then but I've mostly lived in 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:33.719 the suburbs as a kid, so like I'm used to 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:36.920 all the like, oh, look there's a deer and there's 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:40.080 a you know, I don't know, beaver and whatever, so. 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:44.480 Yeah, you know what it is. 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:46.560 My dad is traditional African man, so he's like, go 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:48.120 get go, get my pitchfork. 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:51.720 I'm like, what I can remember. 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:53.440 I don't know what kind of animal it was, but 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:56.480 it was like in our garage, like making thrashing about, 0:13:56.520 --> 0:13:57.760 and my dad was like, can my pitchpork? 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:00.920 I don't know what happened. I was like, Daddy, let's 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:01.840 just call it animal control. 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.840 You are not, like, are you crazy? You're gonna battle 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:06.719 of that one with whatever this thing is. 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:10.680 Now. He came back, breathing heavy. I said, what happened? 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:14.480 He was like, I got it into the corner and 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:16.880 I had my pitchfork raise and then I looked at 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:19.320 its beautiful brown eyes and it looked so sad and scared. 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:21.080 So I opened the garage door and let it go. 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:22.960 It was like daddy transition. 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:24.280 It was too fast for me, and. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:33.200 That's the man's planning for Oh that is hilarious. 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:36.160 But yeah, I'm gonna yeah, Okay, So I'm gonna brown 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:38.240 break and just a quick brown break because I posted 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:39.520 this on my ig stories. 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:40.880 I'm brown breaking from. 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:43.760 My mentee reached out to me because she had spent 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:46.560 like a lot of money to learn how to grow 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:48.640 a business from, like, you know, everybody now is like 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:52.800 a business culture consultant, and a lot of these are millennial, 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:54.680 you know, there's most of them are like millennial ass 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:56.720 which is no shame shade to millennials, but like just 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:57.600 young people, you know. 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:01.040 And so she was attracted to this because she was like. 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:03.480 Oh, they're young, I'm young. They're going to teach me 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:05.760 how to grow business. She spent a couple thousand dollars 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:08.920 and she walked away feeling like I didn't really learn anything, 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:11.640 and so I'm gonna kind of brown break from. I 0:15:11.640 --> 0:15:14.440 gave her some tips next time about investing in herself 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:17.560 that she should. There's nothing wrong with investing in yourself. 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:20.480 You obviously should. And so she never thought about it, 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:23.400 you know, like, oh, did this person ever grow business 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:26.520 outside of like them selling me this business class, and 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:28.480 they if you really kind of looked into this person's 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:32.680 social media whatever, that you don't see anything else other 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:34.560 than my business is to tell you how to have 0:15:34.600 --> 0:15:35.080 a business. 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:37.160 And so I was like, that's a red flag. 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:40.880 And so I'm kind of brown breaking from that business model, 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.920 which is the business of teaching you how to have 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:45.080 a business, but not. 0:15:45.000 --> 0:15:47.320 Having a business, not having a business myself. 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:49.400 And I felt bad because I could tell she was like, 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:50.840 cause she doesn't have a whole bunch of money, so 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:52.880 to spend two thousand dollars and it. 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:55.880 Was two thousand dollars. 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:59.240 The gall the unmitigating golfing, the actual f you know. 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:01.080 But I told her, you we all learned these lessons, 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:03.160 my mentee, we all learn these lessons. And it's a 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:06.920 hard lesson to learn. But knowing that when you're choosing 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:11.960 experts to listen to, to make sure that they've actually done 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:14.200 the thing that they're teaching you, not just teaching you 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:16.000 how to do the thing. I mean, I'm not trying to, 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:20.360 you know, stop anybody's hustle, but you know, you know, 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:23.720 it's just honestly, it's it's not very fair and it's 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:25.520 not right. Someone' was like well, what about you. You 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:27.800 taught about money before you have money. I'm like, no, no, no. 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:30.760 When I was broke, all I taught was how to 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:33.640 budget because I was the best broke budget and that's 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:36.000 literally what I taught. And then when I fixed my credit, 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.280 I taught how did I fix my credit? And then 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:39.920 when I got out of debt, I taught how did 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:41.720 I get out of debt. I always talk from a 0:16:41.720 --> 0:16:45.320 place of I did this thing, It actually works, And let. 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.840 Me show you how if you. 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.760 You know, are looking for business advice, especially if you're 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:53.400 going to pay for it, to really you know, to 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:55.600 vet the person that you're paying to make sure that 0:16:55.720 --> 0:17:00.120 they they really have an expertise in that topic, that 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:03.120 they have a business outside of teaching you how. 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:03.800 To have a business. 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:05.919 Can I add one thing because we got an email 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:08.919 from a listener named Carly. It's not a question, but 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:11.600 she just wanted to let us know about some scam. Essentially, 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:14.879 she you know these like group trips online, like retreats 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:17.840 or girl tribes. You know these these group travel trips. 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:19.960 We've talked about some of them before. Just to make 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:22.760 sure you vet those two because she got scammed out 0:17:22.760 --> 0:17:26.120 of money. She basically paid for a costa Rica retreat 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:29.480 that she paid for in full before departure, and then 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.320 two days before they were supposed to leave, they canceled 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:34.800 the trip and the person who was running the trip 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:37.879 said that she was scammed and all this messiness happened 0:17:37.920 --> 0:17:41.480 and they never received a refund. So just another example 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:42.520 that makes me so mad. 0:17:43.600 --> 0:17:45.919 Yes, so I would say with those type of things, 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:50.119 if you could pay via PayPal, because PayPal typically sides 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:51.679 with the with the buyer. 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:55.520 Ah, that's that's true, and you're like your credit card. Yeah, 0:17:55.600 --> 0:17:59.119 some credit cards have good liability, like if you have 0:17:59.240 --> 0:18:01.320 a if you have a record to the transaction and 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:03.040 you tell your credit card company that you didn't get 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:04.960