1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:06,840 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please 3 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:10,319 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:10,440 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:16,280 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now, and you never know 7 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: it could be yours. Huh. Buckle up and hold on tight. 8 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,759 Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. 9 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject he got fired and put out 10 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: of the house. Dear Stephen Shirley, I was married for 11 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:34,200 Speaker 1: six years to a man that I didn't even want 12 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:37,320 Speaker 1: to be with at first, but he pursued me heavily 13 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 1: and I gave in after he proposed to me. I 14 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: waited three years to marry him, and I guess it 15 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: was my intuition because I had second thoughts about getting 16 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: married up until my wedding day. Looking back on things, 17 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: the signs were there that he was a cheater, but 18 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 1: we had sex three or four times a week, and 19 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: I was naive enough to think that would satisfy him. 20 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: Whenever he was in the bathroom, he locked the door 21 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: and he'd be in the shower a very long time. 22 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: His phone was always in his hand or in his pocket, 23 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: and he stopped wearing his ring and told me he 24 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: didn't want to damage it at work. But I found 25 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:18,840 Speaker 1: out that he's a liar that lies about everything. Here's 26 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: what happened. He works as a logistics supervisor for a 27 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:25,039 Speaker 1: delivery service, and he had a driver that didn't show up, 28 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 1: so he had to cover the delivery route himself. And 29 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: he was driving a company vehicle and he stopped by 30 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:34,959 Speaker 1: a woman's home and her husband came home and caught 31 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:38,680 Speaker 1: them having sex. They got into a fight in the 32 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: front yard and the lady called the cops. My husband 33 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:46,320 Speaker 1: had weed on him, so he got arrested. I didn't 34 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:49,760 Speaker 1: even know he smoked weeds. He got fired for having 35 00:01:49,800 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: the marijuana in a company vehicle. I went to the 36 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: jail to bail him out, but I heard what had happened, 37 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: so I left him there. He got out the next 38 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: day and all of his clothes and personal belongings were 39 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: packed up in his car, and I put the car 40 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: on the street. I told him to leave and never 41 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 1: come back. When I saw him at a divorce mediation, 42 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: he got so mad that he admitted to having several 43 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: women on the side. How could he ruin my life 44 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: like this? Will I ever be able to trust a 45 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: man again? Please advise. Listen, let me tell you something. 46 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,919 Speaker 1: You should be thanking God right now that you got 47 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 1: out of this mess and that guy got you out 48 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: of this mess. This marriage was a disaster from beginning 49 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:35,839 Speaker 1: to end. You said in the letter you didn't want 50 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 1: him in the first place. You knew up until your 51 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: wedding day that this was the wrong thing to do, 52 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 1: and you're right. Three to four times a week was 53 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: putting in work. So please do not blame yourself. Don't 54 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: blame yourself. Let's face it, your husband was stupid. I 55 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: mean you didn't know it at the time it was happening, 56 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: but he did a lot of stupid stuff. I mean, 57 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 1: what gave him the idea that he do all this 58 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 1: and never get caught and then get mad and tell 59 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: you about it at the divorce mediation to what make 60 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:10,359 Speaker 1: you feel even worse? You know, Well, he did finally 61 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:12,399 Speaker 1: get caught, and that was a good thing for you. 62 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:16,079 Speaker 1: I will say that again. It was like he wanted 63 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 1: you to find out because he really got careless with 64 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: the marijuana and the company vehicle with being over this 65 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:26,799 Speaker 1: married woman's house. I mean, that was just crazy. It's 66 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 1: gonna take a little time. You ask if you'll ever 67 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: be able to trust a man again. It'll take a 68 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: little time. But I said, go on, get out, you know, 69 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: get back out there and date. If you allow yourself 70 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:40,119 Speaker 1: to open up when it comes to the right one, 71 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: and when the right one comes along, you can begin 72 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: to trust again. But you need to trust yourself first. 73 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: You said you had second thoughts, and that was an 74 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 1: important sign that you missed. So please don't take your 75 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 1: bad marriage baggage into your new relationship by complaining, you know, 76 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 1: to all the men and comparing all the men your 77 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 1: lowdown husband. This time, you know, just be better at 78 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: believing and acting on those warning signs, because they are there. Steve, 79 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: he got fired and put out the house. That ain't 80 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: even what this letter about. Just the worst subject we've 81 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: ever had, because this ain't got nothing to do with 82 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: him getting fired or put out the house. This letter 83 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: is about something totally different. I don't, ma'am. He was 84 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:30,799 Speaker 1: married for six years to a man that you didn't 85 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 1: even want to be with at first, okay, but he 86 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:41,040 Speaker 1: pursued you heavily, and you gave in after he proposed, 87 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: you waited three years to marry him. I guess it 88 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 1: was my tuition, my intuition, because I had second thoughts 89 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:54,599 Speaker 1: about getting married all the way up until my wedding day. 90 00:04:55,760 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: Oh my god. So your five alarm fire bailed alarm, 91 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: which is your intuition, has been going off from day one. 92 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 1: It went off the entire three years, and it continued 93 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 1: to ring, ring, ring, right up until your wedding day. 94 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 1: And you ignore that. I told women a long time 95 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:23,840 Speaker 1: ago that intuition is real. See. God gives women intuition. 96 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: And the reason he gives women intuition unlike he gives 97 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:30,599 Speaker 1: it to men, is because it's women's device that He 98 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: awarded them to help protect them from the hunter, which 99 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: is us. So when we come with the hunting, with debate, 100 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 1: the games, the traps, and sometimes the lies, your bails. 101 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:48,039 Speaker 1: An alarm clock that goes off is called your intuition. 102 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: It goes off to alert you danger. Danger. Now, if 103 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: you ignore that, then we have this letter looking back 104 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 1: on things. The signs was that he was a Cheatah, 105 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: it was all there. We had sex three four times 106 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: a week. I was there enough. Thank that is satisfying. 107 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:07,919 Speaker 1: But when it was in the bathroom, he kid he 108 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: locked the door. He'd be in a shower long time. 109 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: His phone is always in his hand, his pocket. He 110 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:16,280 Speaker 1: stopped wearing his wedding ring. Told you he didn't want 111 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:20,479 Speaker 1: to damage it at work. Wow, Famous people don't have 112 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: to wear wed and rings. Everybody know we're married, regular people. 113 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: You gotta put that damn ring on. You can't go 114 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 1: no way talking about you. You ain't because you because 115 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: you're gonna use that as the lot. When we come back, 116 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: I'll continue this. This is not an enjoyable letter, though. 117 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 1: I want you to know that this is not an 118 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: enjoyable letter for you. I'm having a great time no reading. 119 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 1: We'll have part two off your response coming up at 120 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject he got 121 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 1: fired and put out of the house. We'll get back 122 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:56,359 Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve, 123 00:06:56,400 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subjec it is he 124 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: got fired and put out of the house. A title 125 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 1: subject you don't like, yeah, because it has nothing to 126 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: do with the letter. This letter is about a woman 127 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 1: who ignored her intuition. She was with this guy for 128 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: six years, but the whole time he answered the marriage, 129 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: she thought second. She thought about it over and over. 130 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: She didn't like the idea. He pursued her heavily for 131 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: three years. He didn't marry her because she just had 132 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: us feeling about it. Then asked you to marriage. She 133 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: had doubts about this marriage all the way up to 134 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 1: the wedding day. Because intuition works. Is God's protective factor 135 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 1: that he instilled and all women is called women's intuition. 136 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 1: You all have it much much sharper and better than men, 137 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: and it protects you from the game, the traps, and 138 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 1: sometimes the lies. You have to not ignore the intuition. 139 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: But she said she always knew he was a Cheatahship, 140 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 1: the signs were there. They was having sexty four times 141 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: a week. Thought that was satisfying. But he going to bathroom, 142 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: locked Adobe in our longtime phone in his hand and 143 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: didn't wear his ring at work, didn't want to damage it. Then, 144 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: she says, but I find out he lies about everything. 145 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 1: Here's what happened. He works as a logistics supervisor. This 146 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: is important because if you're logistics supervisor, that means you 147 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 1: should be good at logistics. That's what it symbolizes. Let 148 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: me show you why he ain't got the job no 149 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: more because an Auletta says he got fired and put 150 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: out the house. And let me tell you why, because 151 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:38,679 Speaker 1: he don't know nothing about no damn logistics. And so 152 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: here's who had happened. He works for a delivery service. 153 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: A driver didn't show up, so he had to cover 154 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 1: the delivery route himself. He was driving a company vehicle 155 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: and he stopped. Here we go by a woman's home 156 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: and her husband came home and caught them having sex. 157 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: Where is the legistics in that, right, dude? I don't 158 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: understand you're going by another man's house to have sex 159 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:14,560 Speaker 1: with his wife. Man, where your room? When you got 160 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: to get control of something? That logistics is off right here? 161 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: Now a husband come in and all hell break loose. 162 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: So guess what they got into a fight in the 163 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 1: front yard. Bro. First of all, you're not leaving that 164 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: bed room. Secondly, you're naked. It's hard to fight naked. 165 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: I'm not giving you time to dress. Ain't none of 166 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: this here. But they're fighting so hard in the front yard. 167 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 1: I mean, y'all, they bugging so hard this woman called 168 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 1: the police. Let me tell you something. Do you know 169 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: it take a police at least a few minutes. Yea, 170 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: even in the best of neighborhoods, is a three to 171 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 1: five minute response time. I don't know where they had, 172 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: but let's just say they're in a great neighborhood response 173 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: time it's three to five minutes. Five minutes, an asked woman. 174 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 1: That's a long ass fight. Though. They're fighting so hard 175 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: that the police come and your husband had weed on him, 176 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: so he got arrested. I didn't even know he's smoked weed. 177 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 1: What do you have COVID? You can't smell? Goodness? Where 178 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: did you come home? You've got to be having COVID? 179 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: How the hell you can't tell somebody been smoking weed. 180 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:38,560 Speaker 1: I don't smoke weed, but I know what we smell like. Yeah, 181 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: he got fired for having the marijuana in a company vehicle. 182 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: What who has the logistics in this? I went to 183 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: the jail to bare him out, but I heard what 184 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: had happened, so I left him there. So you went 185 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:56,440 Speaker 1: to jail a bailly baby. I got to get out. 186 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: They found some weed in the car, but you got 187 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 1: out there, so you got asked the police as you 188 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:07,840 Speaker 1: offer a bell. What is he being charged with? Disorderly conduct, conduct, fighting, 189 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:13,719 Speaker 1: domestic violence? What is the domestic violence? Well, he was 190 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:16,079 Speaker 1: at a woman's house and her husband came home and 191 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: he was fighting him. Yet, why was he fighting my husband? Well, 192 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 1: because he came home early and he was over there. 193 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: My husband is a logistics supervisor. Where's the logistics in this? 194 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 1: But because he ain't got no business, damn supervisor. He 195 00:11:33,400 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 1: got out the next day and all his closing personal 196 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: belongings were packed in his car, and I put the 197 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 1: car on the street. I told him to leave and 198 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:43,679 Speaker 1: never come back. When I saw him at the divorce mediation, 199 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 1: he got so mad that he admitted to having several 200 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:50,559 Speaker 1: women on the side. Where's the logistics in that? You 201 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: already any here losing dog? Now you come in here 202 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,719 Speaker 1: to make sure you lose. How could he ruin my 203 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 1: life like this? Your life isn't ruined. Your life has 204 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:11,880 Speaker 1: been saved. The breakup is often the blessing. Now you're 205 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: no longer married to a Cheatah, will I ever be 206 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:18,960 Speaker 1: able to trust a man again? You won't be able 207 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:23,680 Speaker 1: to trust him again, But you can trust a man again. 208 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 1: The man that walked in and his wife was having 209 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:29,719 Speaker 1: sexual he'd be able to trust a woman again. I 210 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: bet you he will. So after he got arrested in 211 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 1: everything and all is here, man, he got fired from 212 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 1: his job and all like that, and it's just please advise, lady. 213 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:46,000 Speaker 1: The breakup is the blessing. You can't trust him again, 214 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 1: but you can. But this dude consistently makes stupid mistakes. 215 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 1: And now you're away from him, and you don't have 216 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 1: to be a part of the stupid mistakes. It don't 217 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: make no sense what he did. He's not a logical 218 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:02,719 Speaker 1: thinking person, so he's along with the logistics supervisor and 219 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: now you are free. Congratulations, go do you all right? 220 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: Hit us up on Instagram and Steve HARVEYFM with your 221 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:12,720 Speaker 1: thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter, and check out the Strawberry 222 00:13:12,800 --> 00:13:16,720 Speaker 1: Letter podcast on demand coming up next Junior and Sports Talk. 223 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to The Dame Harvey Morning Show.