1
00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,120
Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for

2
00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:06,480
Speaker 1: you here. It is the straw Barry LETTA subject. Something

3
00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:11,520
Speaker 1: wasn't smelling right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a married associate

4
00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:14,680
Speaker 1: pastor and my wife is a stay at home mom.

5
00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:18,400
Speaker 1: Two months ago, I went to Africa on a mission trip,

6
00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:21,599
Speaker 1: and when I came home, my wife was acting weird.

7
00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:26,279
Speaker 1: She would be either really happy or really sleepy, so

8
00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:29,120
Speaker 1: I thought she was having a nervous breakdown until one

9
00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:33,360
Speaker 1: night I leaned into her to kiss her, and I

10
00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:37,200
Speaker 1: noticed a strange smell in her hair and breath. It

11
00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,919
Speaker 1: was weed. I asked her if she had been smoking,

12
00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:44,040
Speaker 1: and she denied it and got irritated, irritated with me

13
00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:47,960
Speaker 1: for asking. After that, I started watching her closely and

14
00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:52,000
Speaker 1: I snooped through her car. I found cigar wrappers, a lighter,

15
00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:56,240
Speaker 1: and an ATM receipt under her seat. She told me

16
00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:58,920
Speaker 1: that she had no idea how that stuff got in

17
00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:03,440
Speaker 1: her car. She knows that I don't condone marijuana use

18
00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:07,759
Speaker 1: at all, and definitely not in my home around my children. Thankfully,

19
00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:11,119
Speaker 1: God revealed her wrongdoings and I was able to bust

20
00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:14,080
Speaker 1: her in the act of smoking weed on the patio

21
00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:17,000
Speaker 1: when she thought I'd be gone for a while. She

22
00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:19,360
Speaker 1: has been living a double life and playing me for

23
00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:22,920
Speaker 1: a fool. She came clean and started defending her smoking

24
00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:24,840
Speaker 1: by saying that she smokes with a few of the

25
00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:28,600
Speaker 1: ladies from our church and it's no big deal. Even

26
00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:32,080
Speaker 1: though it's legal in our state, I still don't allow

27
00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:36,240
Speaker 1: it in my home. She told me that my views

28
00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:39,039
Speaker 1: are old school and I'm stuck on stupid. She said,

29
00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:41,960
Speaker 1: if she is to continue to take care of our

30
00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:45,399
Speaker 1: kids and the home daily, she does not plan to

31
00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:49,120
Speaker 1: stop smoking weed because it's therapeutic for her. I want

32
00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:52,559
Speaker 1: her to go to counseling and or rehab, but she refuses.

33
00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:55,080
Speaker 1: She said that as long as she does it away

34
00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:58,040
Speaker 1: from the kids, it's fine. Am I the only one

35
00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:01,600
Speaker 1: that thinks this is a huge problem? Please help? Oh,

36
00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:06,240
Speaker 1: you're absolutely right. This is a huge problem because it's

37
00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:10,280
Speaker 1: affecting your marriage. It's affecting your marriage in a major way,

38
00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:13,079
Speaker 1: and it sounds like it's could be a deal breaker

39
00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:16,840
Speaker 1: because your wife. Your wife likes her weed, sir, she

40
00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:21,320
Speaker 1: likes her weed. Pastor. It's disrespectful, I think because you

41
00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:23,600
Speaker 1: are a pastor, and it's not a good look for you.

42
00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:26,120
Speaker 1: I get that even though she's smoking it with the

43
00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:28,360
Speaker 1: ladies from the church, the whole church will know in

44
00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:32,920
Speaker 1: a minute. I'm sure I get that it's legal in

45
00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:35,960
Speaker 1: your state. You said that, but you don't support it.

46
00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:38,280
Speaker 1: You didn't mention it. But I don't think this is

47
00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:41,519
Speaker 1: for any type of medicinal reasons or anything like that.

48
00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:45,040
Speaker 1: The issue I have is that you say you don't

49
00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:48,360
Speaker 1: allow it or condone it in your home. Well, guess what,

50
00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:52,760
Speaker 1: it's her home too. It's her home too, and she

51
00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:55,440
Speaker 1: lives there. She takes care of the kids all day.

52
00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:57,720
Speaker 1: She takes care of the home and the children, and

53
00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:01,240
Speaker 1: she says she does not want to stop. So this

54
00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,360
Speaker 1: is a major problem. You want her to stop. You

55
00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:05,639
Speaker 1: don't condone it, You don't think it's cool. You don't

56
00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,960
Speaker 1: want her smoke it in in the house or around

57
00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:11,000
Speaker 1: the kids, and she says it's therapeutic for her, and

58
00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,120
Speaker 1: she's not going to stop. You've suggested you want her

59
00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,560
Speaker 1: to go to counseling. Have you suggested that to her

60
00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:20,280
Speaker 1: counseling or rehab? Well, yeah, you said that, but she refuses.

61
00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,240
Speaker 1: You guys, have a major impasse in your marriage. You're

62
00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,720
Speaker 1: gonna have to try and work this out. But if

63
00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:28,920
Speaker 1: if you're not into weed smoking and she is, I

64
00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:37,040
Speaker 1: don't see this working. Absolutely not. Steve well Pastor, you

65
00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:42,400
Speaker 1: don't believe in weed smoking, but she do. We have

66
00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:46,720
Speaker 1: two different belief systems under one roof. You ain't gonna

67
00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:49,240
Speaker 1: have it because where you found out you started watching

68
00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:53,520
Speaker 1: her closely snoop through her car. You found cigar rappers,

69
00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:57,440
Speaker 1: a lighter, and an ATM receipt. She told me she

70
00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:59,800
Speaker 1: ain't had no idea how this stuff gotten her car.

71
00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:03,200
Speaker 1: What I do know is I don't condone Mariano use

72
00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:06,400
Speaker 1: marijuana youth, saying it's all definitely not in my home

73
00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:09,960
Speaker 1: around my children. Then he says, thankfully God revealed her

74
00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:12,200
Speaker 1: wrong doings and I was able to bust her in

75
00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,920
Speaker 1: the act smoking weed on the paddil when she thought

76
00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:17,400
Speaker 1: I'd be going for a while. Now she's saying your

77
00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:20,400
Speaker 1: old fashion because hearing some of the ladies from the

78
00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:24,479
Speaker 1: church are smoking, you don't allow it in your house.

79
00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,440
Speaker 1: Told you your views is old school and you stuck

80
00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,520
Speaker 1: old stupid. Then she told you if you want her

81
00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:32,480
Speaker 1: to continue to take care of them damn kids, she

82
00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:37,880
Speaker 1: gonna have to smoke a weed. So now let's get

83
00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:43,760
Speaker 1: into why she got to smoke so much weed. Let's

84
00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:49,360
Speaker 1: talk about your sermons, pastor, are they good sermons or

85
00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:51,760
Speaker 1: the am sermons where people go, Man, what time isn't

86
00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:57,880
Speaker 1: what the game is on? So I'm thinking, I don't know, man,

87
00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:00,240
Speaker 1: I don't, I don't. I don't really know on how

88
00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:02,680
Speaker 1: to put this to you, except you're dealing with the

89
00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:07,239
Speaker 1: situation here where your wife smoke weed and you don't.

90
00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:10,000
Speaker 1: And I think the best way to do this is

91
00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:14,120
Speaker 1: just a complete reenactment, because we're not gonna get to

92
00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:18,279
Speaker 1: the bottom of this any other way. She says that

93
00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:21,640
Speaker 1: she thinks that it is a problem because it's affecting

94
00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:24,880
Speaker 1: your marriage, so we need to go on and act

95
00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:28,120
Speaker 1: this out. That Jay been going for a while, but

96
00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:33,800
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he still remember I'm the pastor and

97
00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:44,520
Speaker 1: you the weed smoker. Oh how perfect this is? A baby, baby, baby,

98
00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,200
Speaker 1: I would you would sleep not smelled your breath in

99
00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,560
Speaker 1: your hair and a smell like we was atting it.

100
00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:56,440
Speaker 1: First of all, you have got to stop yelling women.

101
00:05:56,480 --> 00:06:03,800
Speaker 1: Hold on, old Claire and I ain't nobody yether't screaming

102
00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:08,039
Speaker 1: all the time, sell at nobody screaming. You don't smoke

103
00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:13,720
Speaker 1: that weed as take it down or not? While are

104
00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:15,440
Speaker 1: you telling me to take it down or not? And

105
00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:27,120
Speaker 1: you are smoking weed? Dude, dude, don't dude me, dude, dude,

106
00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:32,480
Speaker 1: just happening. So every day you let me go preach

107
00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:38,320
Speaker 1: and you stay here with you seeing smoking. Man. I'm

108
00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:44,480
Speaker 1: telling you this ain't an easy job. Baby. I married you.

109
00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:47,640
Speaker 1: You didn't smoke no one, and I ain't gonna have

110
00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:50,960
Speaker 1: it in my house now. I'm not even smoking in him,

111
00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:57,360
Speaker 1: my outside behind them, I'm outside, not even in the house. Yeah,

112
00:06:57,400 --> 00:06:59,479
Speaker 1: but baby, at night, dude, we're so on your breath

113
00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,720
Speaker 1: and say your hair. Look, let me just say this.

114
00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:05,840
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'm sure weeds was in the Bible.

115
00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:11,160
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm not sure. Twelve dudes and I

116
00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:17,560
Speaker 1: smoked something. Hold on, Clara and a pastor, man, we'll

117
00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:21,360
Speaker 1: have part two of this re enactment and of Steve's response.

118
00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:25,920
Speaker 1: Let's recap today's Strawberry letter and the subject is something

119
00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:33,000
Speaker 1: wasn't smelling right Steve. So this past is married to

120
00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:36,640
Speaker 1: this woman, went on a trip and came back, noticed

121
00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:41,360
Speaker 1: she was acting kind of strange and uh, she was

122
00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:46,120
Speaker 1: always tired or just one't herself. So he's one night

123
00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,720
Speaker 1: he smells a hair and a mout and smell ain't weed.

124
00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:54,920
Speaker 1: H So he says in the letter at wedding point,

125
00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:56,800
Speaker 1: let me pull it up because I wanted to quote

126
00:07:56,800 --> 00:08:03,240
Speaker 1: it to you. She said that she had no idea

127
00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:09,160
Speaker 1: how the stuff got in her car. She knows that

128
00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:14,760
Speaker 1: I don't condone marijuana use at all, definitely not my home. Thankfully,

129
00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:18,720
Speaker 1: God revealed her wrongdoings and I was able to bust

130
00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:22,080
Speaker 1: her in the act of smoking weed on the patio

131
00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:26,480
Speaker 1: when she thought I was going for a while. This

132
00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,160
Speaker 1: ain't really trying to hide it. Past I'm gonna be

133
00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:35,960
Speaker 1: real with you. Do she out on the patio. So

134
00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:43,000
Speaker 1: now here's the pastor confronting her, his beloved Clara, who

135
00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:55,319
Speaker 1: he didn't They didn't, he didn't know she was a joke. Clara, Clara. Yeah, man, no, no, Clara,

136
00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:57,760
Speaker 1: you're gonna have you gonna go pick your head up.

137
00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:03,800
Speaker 1: Now look at me now and out of that, Reverend Clara,

138
00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:08,440
Speaker 1: I'm shocked that you would go to de or know it.

139
00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:11,840
Speaker 1: I'm against I'm a man of God. I'm against weed smoking.

140
00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:16,679
Speaker 1: How could you, Claren? I'm ill? But with this, can

141
00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:20,320
Speaker 1: we make a deal. I'm willing to see things Joe way,

142
00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,720
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna have to smoke what I got left

143
00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:31,120
Speaker 1: to get rid of all these snacks. I got tell

144
00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:36,480
Speaker 1: us soon as that's gone. Clara, Yeah, I can't stand

145
00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:41,600
Speaker 1: by hearing good consciousness. Well you can smoke. We reef

146
00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:46,800
Speaker 1: was in this hillhouse. Okay, I'm gonna I'll give it

147
00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:50,240
Speaker 1: a try to give it up. I'm I'm under a

148
00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:56,200
Speaker 1: lot of pressure. What type of pressure, Clara? These kids, man,

149
00:09:56,400 --> 00:10:01,040
Speaker 1: you don't not here with you. You have no idea, Clara.

150
00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:05,640
Speaker 1: Dee's kids is twenty nine and thirty two. That's what

151
00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:08,200
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. They need to be out of here

152
00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:15,719
Speaker 1: out But Clara, kids have their old apartment. Sweeten, what

153
00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:19,160
Speaker 1: is wrong with you? I don't want to disrespect you, daddy,

154
00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:23,480
Speaker 1: I swear I don't. I don't, but you if you

155
00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:28,560
Speaker 1: say do it your way, I'll give it a try

156
00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:36,520
Speaker 1: because I don't want to joint to come between us. Okay, Clara,

157
00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:39,800
Speaker 1: where did you pick this habit up? There? Just terrib me.

158
00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:44,040
Speaker 1: There's a Jamaican that be up and back of the church.

159
00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,120
Speaker 1: I don't know you know about it, the back of

160
00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:55,840
Speaker 1: the church and back. But we're doing back down, selling weed,

161
00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:06,480
Speaker 1: selling weed. But if it all keyby, if it all

162
00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:11,760
Speaker 1: key by, our relationship going, I give it up. But

163
00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:15,679
Speaker 1: I gotta finish this last little bag. Well, how much

164
00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:18,280
Speaker 1: is in the bag? How many? How many reflets? Couldn't

165
00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:21,200
Speaker 1: you make out the bag? I got? Well, I'm gonna

166
00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:26,079
Speaker 1: be honest, I got about two pounds left. Who does

167
00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:36,040
Speaker 1: that go through? That? Two pounds of reefles you? Where'd

168
00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:41,439
Speaker 1: you buy that much? That's distribution them charges you. You're

169
00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:43,840
Speaker 1: just making it sound like a lot. That is that's

170
00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:50,960
Speaker 1: just a weekends worth for a weed. And oh, my guard,

171
00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:56,440
Speaker 1: the weekend is worth two pounds. Yeah, I got. I

172
00:11:56,559 --> 00:12:00,040
Speaker 1: got religious weed too. Man, I got walk on the

173
00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:05,400
Speaker 1: water I got some of that. You you got to

174
00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:14,320
Speaker 1: walk on the water wheel some holy roly bar blue Claire?

175
00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:20,400
Speaker 1: M hm, where did you bird walk on waterwhee? Then

176
00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:32,160
Speaker 1: jamaking in the back. I got some bulley. Can you

177
00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:35,800
Speaker 1: get Jamaican on phone from me? No problem? Hold on

178
00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:42,120
Speaker 1: m hallo mine? Why why why are you war mine?

179
00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:49,079
Speaker 1: Why do you want? Do you say oh oh, oh

180
00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:55,120
Speaker 1: oh or reefs products to Claire? Nor mine? No? Man,

181
00:12:55,679 --> 00:12:59,120
Speaker 1: I sell had nothing man men run a tab she

182
00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:03,400
Speaker 1: We're not selling let's she's running a tab oh building,

183
00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:12,920
Speaker 1: how much she owe you by seven thousand dollars now seven?

184
00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:16,840
Speaker 1: But because it's your wife, I let it go and

185
00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:21,480
Speaker 1: then argue with her, My wife, won't you something dollar?

186
00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:28,160
Speaker 1: Old reefs? Seven thousand dollar in weed? Man? But I

187
00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:31,840
Speaker 1: tell you what she do every night when the summons over,

188
00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:34,040
Speaker 1: she bring out the battle of church wine and give

189
00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:39,000
Speaker 1: back to me. Man. Oh you shall come between your marriage.

190
00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:42,560
Speaker 1: Man in it now. But what she bringing jeff wine?

191
00:13:42,960 --> 00:13:45,640
Speaker 1: She mayn't wind them little tinny cookies she bring them

192
00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:50,600
Speaker 1: to They're like, they're very small, but you gotta eat

193
00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:53,560
Speaker 1: a lot of them for to be tasted. Boy, they

194
00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:59,600
Speaker 1: ain't cookie them communion crackers. Oh, put some peanut butter

195
00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:09,920
Speaker 1: on them, and they're good at day. I'm tired of

196
00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:14,120
Speaker 1: talking to you because that one that's gonna get a leader. Man.

197
00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:19,720
Speaker 1: All right, guys, we gotta get out of here. Uh Listen.

198
00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:23,920
Speaker 1: You can email us or instagram us at Steve Harvey

199
00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:26,360
Speaker 1: f M if you want to comment on today's letter,

200
00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:29,480
Speaker 1: or you can check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.

201
00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:32,640
Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.