Speaker 1: Tell me I can't see Okay, what's up, y'all? Welcome
Speaker 1: to Hand Me my Purse the podcast. I am Me
Speaker 1: Me Walker, and I will be your forever host, each
Speaker 1: and every single time you tune into this podcast. So
Speaker 1: go ahead and get comfortable. Get yourself a glass of
Speaker 1: your favorite beverage, whether that's alkaline water, red kool aid,
Speaker 1: a high cup of tea with honey, a glass of Cabernet,
Speaker 1: Sauvignon or Hennessy, and light yourself a candle, some incense
Speaker 1: or burn some sage and just get ready to chill
Speaker 1: out and have a good time. What's up, friends and ken,
Speaker 1: It is none other than your resident Auntie Supreme. Here,
Speaker 1: hand me my purse, Me Me Walker, and I'm sipping
Speaker 1: on something special today. I came across a local black
Speaker 1: owned wine company, so of course, in true hand Me
Speaker 1: my Purse fashion, I wanted to make sure I shared
Speaker 1: it with you guys, and we all know here I
Speaker 1: hand me my purse. I support black businesses, and I
Speaker 1: absolutely support local black businesses. The brand, the wine brand
Speaker 1: is called Kid Relief, and the name alone is absolutely hilarious.
Speaker 1: I don't have any kids, but I'm the oldest in
Speaker 1: my generation, I'm the big sister, I'm the big cousin.
Speaker 1: And not only that, but I work. We're close to
Speaker 1: nine hundred kids and quite frankly, cists oftentimes need relief
Speaker 1: from them. Not exactly now, because you know, we're in
Speaker 1: the middle of a panoramic So I actually missed the kids,
Speaker 1: and I'm glad that they're slowly coming back to school,
Speaker 1: but I'm sure there will be getting on my nerves
Speaker 1: within the next two weeks. Anyway, I digress as usual.
Speaker 1: So this wine is created by two dads, yes black dads,
Speaker 1: and they wanted to create a wine for parents to enjoy,
Speaker 1: and especially parents that need to wind down after a
Speaker 1: long day of all out parenting. It's sourced from grapes
Speaker 1: that are grown from local vineyards in the state of Maryland,
Speaker 1: and again it is black owned and local, and that
Speaker 1: is a double wind. They currently have three wines available.
Speaker 1: All three wines are varieties of red wines, and they
Speaker 1: just released the third and final installment of the red wines.
Speaker 1: The one that I'm sipping on today is called kid Relief,
Speaker 1: which is named after the actual brand. It's a really
Speaker 1: unique red blend that is going to go perfectly in
Speaker 1: a sangria or even a wine spritzer. And now the
Speaker 1: days are longer and whether it's starting to get warmer,
Speaker 1: it's starting to play peekaboo with us. So if you're
Speaker 1: interested in supporting a black dad created and owned wine business,
Speaker 1: email the folks at Kid Relief. Their email, which of
Speaker 1: course I will link in the show notes, is m
Speaker 1: as in Mimi dot Seller Sellers excuse me kr x
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. Again, that is m dot c
Speaker 1: E L l A r s k r x as
Speaker 1: an xavier at gmail dot com. If you're local, and
Speaker 1: by local I mean Baltimore City, Baltimore County, they will
Speaker 1: deliver your wine to you. Outside of that area, You're
Speaker 1: gonna have to have your wine ship to you because
Speaker 1: they're not gonna deliver it to you if you live
Speaker 1: in Hoboken. Okay, So big shout out to Kid Relief.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put their ig information in and their email
Speaker 1: address in the show notes, so make sure you go
Speaker 1: check all of that information out and let's go ahead
Speaker 1: and get into this jam. So, friends and Kim, for
Speaker 1: today's jam, I chose a song I actually am hoping
Speaker 1: that most of you have watched it. But if not,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk to you later. Actually, I'm not even
Speaker 1: gonna talk to you later. I'm gonna tell you now.
Speaker 1: Your homework is, yes, homework to watch the Tina Tina
Speaker 1: Turner documentary. If I'm not mistaken, It's on HBO Max.
Speaker 1: That is your homework to watch it. Because I am
Speaker 1: going to do a show about this documentary and within
Speaker 1: the next month, the two months, and I'm going to
Speaker 1: give myself some time because I need the time because,
Speaker 1: as you will hear later on in the show, the
Speaker 1: show had, like the documentary had like a serious impact
Speaker 1: on me, and so I need just some time the
Speaker 1: like sort through that. And so it's good because there
Speaker 1: will be no spoiler alerts and any of that, because
Speaker 1: you can just watch it so that when we talk
Speaker 1: about it, or when I talk about it, like, you
Speaker 1: will be prepared to receive the information that I'm going
Speaker 1: to share. And when I tell you that this documentary
Speaker 1: definitely it did something to my spirit, I'm telling you
Speaker 1: not because of the normal story that we know about
Speaker 1: Tina Turner, which involves he who will not be named.
Speaker 1: But I tell you what, if I could bring him
Speaker 1: back to life and kill him all over again. I would,
Speaker 1: And I know that is a heavy thing to say,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna say his name this one time. I
Speaker 1: Turner wasn't shit and that's it. But you know, some
Speaker 1: people say, if it wasn't for a Turner, there would
Speaker 1: be no Tina Turner. I don't know how I feel
Speaker 1: about that, but whatever, that's neither you nor there. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I chose this song. Oftentimes I'm finding a theme here
Speaker 1: that I choose songs that make me think about my mother,
Speaker 1: or that I can relate to my mother, or that
Speaker 1: reminds me of growing up with my mother and singing.
Speaker 1: And this song is a Tina Turner song that came
Speaker 1: out in the eighties. It's Private Dancer. And I just
Speaker 1: realized that as an adult because I didn't really pay
Speaker 1: attention to well as a child. I didn't know anything
Speaker 1: about strippers at five and six. But I just started
Speaker 1: I mean, I knew it was a song about exotic dancers,
Speaker 1: but I started listening to the actual lyrics of the song,
Speaker 1: and it is like legit about strippers, and it's kind
Speaker 1: of like stripping one o one listen. Tina Turner was
Speaker 1: ahead of her time even before she was ahead of
Speaker 1: her time. She is a magical, mystical, mythical, ethereal goddess.
Speaker 1: She's a god, and I'm telling you this. Watch the documentary,
Speaker 1: but it changed my perspective of her. She is something else.
Speaker 1: She is. She's ethereal than a mug, and she's so gorgeous,
Speaker 1: so regal, so strong, so resilient, and like, oh, I
Speaker 1: don't even because I'll mess around and stark crying. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I want you to check this. Let me say something,
Speaker 1: sometimes it brings me joy looking for these cover songs.
Speaker 1: And I say this all the time because they are
Speaker 1: sometimes so freaking horrible and it makes me laugh and chuckle.
Speaker 1: But then when I find the right one, it makes
Speaker 1: me feel good. I found the right one, and ironically enough,
Speaker 1: the cover of this that I am going with it
Speaker 1: is a woman who was just singing karaoke, had a
Speaker 1: karaoke bar, and she did a really good job. Some
Speaker 1: people really butchered, as usual, this song. And it's easy
Speaker 1: to butcher this song because Tina Turner has one of
Speaker 1: those voices where just don't even try to mock it.
Speaker 1: You know, God bless you if you have a voice
Speaker 1: that is sultry, raspy, and you know all of the
Speaker 1: things in the gumbo that is her voice. But if
Speaker 1: you don't like, just don't even try. But anyway, this lady,
Speaker 1: her name is Alexis reid Um. She did a cover
Speaker 1: of Private Dancer and I want you to get into it.
Speaker 1: She did a really good job. And I've been listening
Speaker 1: to this song all week. You don't look at the
Speaker 1: face and said, that's now, let's get into the show. So,
Speaker 1: friends and ken, I have to start this discussion and
Speaker 1: during this episode off by paying respect to the lives
Speaker 1: of two black men that we have lost in the
Speaker 1: past week. First, I want to pay some respect to
Speaker 1: Dante Wright, who was a twenty year old innocent black
Speaker 1: man who was pulled over by pulled over and fatally
Speaker 1: shot murdered. If you will, and I will, by a
Speaker 1: white female police officer who happens to be a twenty
Speaker 1: six year veteran on the police force. This police officer,
Speaker 1: I believe her name is Kim Porter. No, God have mercy,
Speaker 1: she is not Kim Porter. Rest in peace to Kim
Speaker 1: Porter as well, but I think her name is Kim Potter.
Speaker 1: She is saying that she confused her gun with her taser.
Speaker 1: What happened. Yes, I said, she confused her gun with
Speaker 1: her taser. Now, how a twenty six year police force
Speaker 1: veteran can confuse her gun with her taser is beyond
Speaker 1: my realm of understanding. However, we've been down this road before.
Speaker 1: We know the drill. And if you don't know the drill,
Speaker 1: God bless your heart, because if you are black in
Speaker 1: it and living in America and you don't know the drill,
Speaker 1: you probably want to do some research and learn yourself
Speaker 1: something because this ain't knew. This is a system that
Speaker 1: has been in place for hundreds of years. Slave catchers
Speaker 1: were police at one point in American history. And I mean,
Speaker 1: like I'm just saying, anyway, you know what, google it,
Speaker 1: turn on the news, get into it how you will,
Speaker 1: because at this point, I am exhausted with this shit.
Speaker 1: I am tired of it, I am fed up, I
Speaker 1: am disgusted, and at this point, like I just don't like,
Speaker 1: I don't, I'm not even going to but anyway, rest
Speaker 1: in peace. I pray for this young man's family. I
Speaker 1: pray for his girlfriend, I pray for his spirit. I
Speaker 1: pray for his parents, I pray for his grandparents, his cousins,
Speaker 1: his siblings. You know, I just I can't anyway one thing.
Speaker 1: I do have faith in his karmic energy period, and
Speaker 1: I have faith in our ancestors. And I don't really
Speaker 1: want to discuss any of that too much for because,
Speaker 1: like I said, it literally makes me sick on my stomach.
Speaker 1: And the really disturbing part for me is that this
Speaker 1: shit is just commonplace. And the fact that there is
Speaker 1: no resolve almost ever, if ever, there's like, there's never
Speaker 1: any retribution or vindication. It lets us know that this
Speaker 1: is just us. This is us. And when I say us,
Speaker 1: I mean America. This is America, like it or not.
Speaker 1: It is what it is. This is what this country
Speaker 1: has running through its proverbial veins. And we can pretend
Speaker 1: that it's not and oh well, please stop. This is
Speaker 1: what it is anyway moving forward. Secondly, we have to
Speaker 1: acknowledge the fact that we lost a profit in our community.
Speaker 1: And yes, I did call Earl Simmons also known as DMX,
Speaker 1: a prophet. He was definitely a messenger of God's word.
Speaker 1: I am not necessarily speaking about his lyrics in his songs, okay,
Speaker 1: but if you've ever heard him speak, not wrap, but speak,
Speaker 1: he was always sharing the Gospel and sharing his faith
Speaker 1: and making it so that people could understand it from
Speaker 1: a real perspective and making it relatable. He was such
Speaker 1: a conscious man. He was very aware of his demons
Speaker 1: and shared his life experiences with us in ways that
Speaker 1: a lot of people would be embarrassed and ashamed and
Speaker 1: just not humble enough to do. And he did it
Speaker 1: on a regular basis. You know, he was very authentic.
Speaker 1: And I have a thing for people who show up
Speaker 1: as their authentic self sometimes when you suffer with substance abuse.
Speaker 1: It is my experience not as someone who has suffered
Speaker 1: from a substance abuse, excuse me, but who has come
Speaker 1: in contact close contact with people who have who have
Speaker 1: suffered or who are suffering with substance abuse. They're either
Speaker 1: showing up as their full authentic self or they are
Speaker 1: showing up as the complete opposite of their authentic self. Right,
Speaker 1: So I just want to like, this one hit a
Speaker 1: little bit different, and you know, it's really sad, And
Speaker 1: I don't even know if there was anything that anybody
Speaker 1: could do, because if you don't know anyone who's ever
Speaker 1: suffered from substance abuse, like it is literally the kind
Speaker 1: of thing like people can judge them and say, oh, well,
Speaker 1: why would they start doing drugs? And I gotta be honest, like,
Speaker 1: I understand why they would start doing drugs. But for
Speaker 1: the life of me, I guess I'm not just the
Speaker 1: kind of person where I'm like, if I'm watching they
Speaker 1: take all these other people out, I'm not. You know what,
Speaker 1: that ain't true because I eat French fries, yes I do,
Speaker 1: and I like the occasional five Guys burger, and I
Speaker 1: like ice cream. So when it comes to food, I
Speaker 1: drink alcohol. But I you know, I think the thing
Speaker 1: is that moderation and excess, you know what, that doesn't
Speaker 1: even matter. That's not even what I'm talking about. I'm
Speaker 1: saying that to say I don't really know if there
Speaker 1: was anything that anyone else could have done, because that
Speaker 1: is really a struggle that people have to come to
Speaker 1: grips with on their own, and they have to come
Speaker 1: to the space where they are ready to attack those demons,
Speaker 1: confront them head on and get the healing and the
Speaker 1: help that they need. And sometimes even when they do that,
Speaker 1: you know, it's not I don't want to say it
Speaker 1: doesn't work or it's not effective, but they still relapse.
Speaker 1: You know. So, God bless his spirit. We lost a warrior.
Speaker 1: I recently learned of how he was introduced to drugs,
Speaker 1: and it just made me so sad, especially working with children.
Speaker 1: I'm just praying for his family and for those of
Speaker 1: you who have something to say about him having so
Speaker 1: much any children and you know, him being addicted to
Speaker 1: drugs and he this, and he that. Shut the fuck up,
Speaker 1: just straight up. And I don't I'm not pulling no
Speaker 1: cut cards, mainly because that's not what I do. But
Speaker 1: just just straight up, just shut up, because now it's
Speaker 1: not the time for that. God bless his spirit. God
Speaker 1: bless his children, God bless his family and his friends,
Speaker 1: and God bless his fans that are really affected by
Speaker 1: this loss. You know, God bless the dead. We lost
Speaker 1: the real one, as they say, So I want to
Speaker 1: talk about that's so heavy, But I want to talk
Speaker 1: about being aware of your shadow self or your darker self,
Speaker 1: your darker side, which some people call him your demons,
Speaker 1: as I mentioned earlier when I was talking to DMX,
Speaker 1: And people often associate like such a negative connotation with that,
Speaker 1: but you are you are you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So when we talk about your shadow self or your
Speaker 1: dark side. Being aware of that is just not enough.
Speaker 1: Being aware doesn't get you to a place of true healing.
Speaker 1: It won't bring you to a place of peace that
Speaker 1: is necessary for you to move forward and reach your
Speaker 1: highest potential. And I say this on this show so often,
Speaker 1: healing it's ugly work. It's hard work. It's the work
Speaker 1: that you don't look forward to doing until you have
Speaker 1: had enough. And I'll speak a little bit about that later.
Speaker 1: But with DMX, he acknowledged, and I believe that he
Speaker 1: accepted and wanted to work on healing his dark side
Speaker 1: and his shadow self and get to the root of it.
Speaker 1: But addiction is a beast, and it is a beast
Speaker 1: that unless you are in it or you are really
Speaker 1: close to it, you don't really get. And it's a
Speaker 1: beast that comes to destroy, kill, It comes to destroy
Speaker 1: lives and families and relationships, your health, and anything else
Speaker 1: joyous that gets in its way. And so I want
Speaker 1: to talk about coming to a place wherein you meet,
Speaker 1: acknowledge and accept your shadow self. And when I say
Speaker 1: shadow self, I'm talking about the parts of ourselves that
Speaker 1: we think that society we won't approve of or won't
Speaker 1: understand and we push those parts of ourselves deep, deep,
Speaker 1: deep into our subconscious mind. And as black people and
Speaker 1: well you know, people of color period, all across the world,
Speaker 1: in our communities, we are taught that acknowledging and accepting
Speaker 1: that part of yourself which is considered dark or shadowy,
Speaker 1: we're taught that it's bad and it should be avoided
Speaker 1: and hidden at all costs. We in our communities, we
Speaker 1: are taught to hide so much, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: We are taught to hide and suppress and just keep
Speaker 1: so much stuff away from the light. But the only
Speaker 1: way to heal the dark is to bring it to
Speaker 1: the light. But we ain't figured that part out yet.
Speaker 1: But anyway, that is often closely connected to like spiritual
Speaker 1: practice and spiritual practices excuse me, and belief systems. And
Speaker 1: also we're just faced with so much trauma. We don't
Speaker 1: really have time to be acknowledging anything bad because something
Speaker 1: bad is always looming, and we're just raised to just
Speaker 1: push it down, give it to God, give it to
Speaker 1: this and let's just give it to this one, give
Speaker 1: it to that one, instead of really just facing the
Speaker 1: shit head on, you know. And we're just taught to
Speaker 1: hide too much, suppressed too much, and we're not really
Speaker 1: allowed tom I don't want to say allowed, but we're
Speaker 1: not really giving the space to and shit. Sometimes allowed
Speaker 1: as children and even as adults, we're not allowed to
Speaker 1: experience and express our authentic emotions, like we're not even
Speaker 1: allowed to feel, and we don't realize that this can
Speaker 1: cause us and even more grandiose there's that word again.
Speaker 1: I love that word, and even more grandiose issue than
Speaker 1: the fact that the shadow self even exists in the
Speaker 1: first place. So continuing to mash down and tuck away
Speaker 1: these parts of who we authentically are, although we truly
Speaker 1: believe that we're doing a good thing by hiding them
Speaker 1: and keeping them away from the light, if you will,
Speaker 1: and keeping them away from everyone, those things still exist.
Speaker 1: They're still present in our subconscious mind, and we will
Speaker 1: quite often have them manifest in our lives, taken on
Speaker 1: some other form, or expressing itself in some other way.
Speaker 1: So in my preparation for this episode, I read this,
Speaker 1: and I really loved this quote. It says, ultimately, the
Speaker 1: more we suppress feelings and negative emotions into the subconscious,
Speaker 1: the greater the power they have over us. Moreover, they
Speaker 1: can assert themselves in different ways. This could be through
Speaker 1: mental health issues, chronic illness, anxiety, addiction, and low self esteem.
Speaker 1: Come on, now, think about it and think about your
Speaker 1: own self. Don't think about DMX. Think about you and
Speaker 1: how this manifests itself in your life, because the only
Speaker 1: way to heal this is to look at you. Reflection
Speaker 1: is important. Reflection is a very important part of acknowledgement
Speaker 1: and acceptance of who you really are now who you
Speaker 1: want people to believe who you are, but who you
Speaker 1: truly are. For my friends who love astrology, who you
Speaker 1: want people to believe you are is your rising sign
Speaker 1: and who you truly are like your innate response to life,
Speaker 1: That dark, shadowy side is your moon sign. Okay, my
Speaker 1: rising is Libra, my moon is Scorpio. I don't need
Speaker 1: to say no more because Scorpios is as dark as
Speaker 1: it gets when you talk about astrology. Anyway, I digress.
Speaker 1: Shout out to all my friends again who like astrology.
Speaker 1: I love astrology anyway. We did see that happen in
Speaker 1: Dmax's life, Michael Jackson's life, your auntie's life, your mama's life,
Speaker 1: your dad's life, hell, your life. So, Mimi, what does
Speaker 1: shadow self. It's hard to say this shadow self actualization
Speaker 1: look like. Well the kids to get to the root.
Speaker 1: Auntie Yanla, who I love to quote on this show,
Speaker 1: Auntie Yanla Van's aunt said, until you hear the here
Speaker 1: well shit, you need to hear and heal them. Until
Speaker 1: you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue
Speaker 1: to bleed out. That's a word and it's so true.
Speaker 1: You go to the root of your shadow self and
Speaker 1: identify the wound. You look at it, you listen into it,
Speaker 1: you smell it, you touch it, don't taste it. But
Speaker 1: if you need to taste it, okay, and you see
Speaker 1: it exactly for what it is. We don't sugarcoat it,
Speaker 1: we don't honeycoded, we don't agave coded. We don't blame
Speaker 1: anyone else, or guilt anyone or project it onto anyone else.
Speaker 1: Just own it because it is a part of who
Speaker 1: you actually are. And this requires a lot of reflection
Speaker 1: and a lot of self observation, paying very close attention
Speaker 1: to how your shadow self manifests itself in your life,
Speaker 1: how does the dark side of who you are show
Speaker 1: up in your daily movement And oftentimes when you are
Speaker 1: doing this work, you may want to be prepared to
Speaker 1: have you know me, not a show goes by, but anyway,
Speaker 1: you want to be prepared to have a professional aka
Speaker 1: a therapist or counselor on deck, because this is when
Speaker 1: the ship hits the fan, friends and can And no,
Speaker 1: I'm not a therapist nor any type of license clinician,
Speaker 1: but you know what, I am someone who is in
Speaker 1: the middle, who is just in the thick of doing
Speaker 1: this kind of work. And at one point I thought that,
Speaker 1: you know, I was making a lot of progress, and
Speaker 1: let me not do that to myself, because I have
Speaker 1: made mountains of progress. I have come a long way
Speaker 1: in the matter of a year and some a year
Speaker 1: and two months. But I have so much further ago.
Speaker 1: I really do. And so if you ever hear people
Speaker 1: mentioning shadow work, that's what this kind of work is.
Speaker 1: Shadow Work is just healing. It's just looking at the
Speaker 1: ugly parts of you. I don't even want to call
Speaker 1: them ugly, because that's not positive. It's looking at the
Speaker 1: darker side of you, the sides of you that you
Speaker 1: don't necessarily want to wake up in the morning, run
Speaker 1: outside and share with everybody, for fear of being judged,
Speaker 1: for fear of disappointing people for fear of becoming embarrassed,
Speaker 1: and a lot of times that's also associated with your ego.
Speaker 1: But that's neither here nor there. But that's what shadow
Speaker 1: work is, and the title shadow work can be very misleading. However,
Speaker 1: if you are serious about healing, that won't really matter
Speaker 1: to you because at some point, like you just get tired,
Speaker 1: You get sick and tired of the bullshit that you
Speaker 1: deal with your own self, and then it's like, you
Speaker 1: know what, let me handle this, let me handle my scandal.
Speaker 1: As I said before, it's important to have some professional
Speaker 1: assistance on deck and know your home girls and your
Speaker 1: boyfriend or your girlfriend or in my opinion, not even
Speaker 1: your spiritual advisor sometimes is enough for this kind of work.
Speaker 1: Not saying that you can't consult other people, because you can,
Speaker 1: but I don't know if it's enough. I think that
Speaker 1: you can go to them for guidance, but I truly
Speaker 1: believe that it is of major importance to have a
Speaker 1: license a nition in your corner. In other words, friends
Speaker 1: and ken, you might just need to go ahead and
Speaker 1: get you some therapy, get you a therapist, and let
Speaker 1: your therapist know what it is on the front end
Speaker 1: what you're looking to do. You don't need to call
Speaker 1: a shadow work if you don't want to. You can
Speaker 1: just say you want to get to the root of
Speaker 1: you know, some issues that you have. You may want
Speaker 1: to say you want to be more aligned with your
Speaker 1: authentic self. You want to figure out who your authentic
Speaker 1: self is. I want to get to the root of
Speaker 1: my trauma. You can call it anyway you want, but
Speaker 1: I do think that oftentimes we need some assistance in
Speaker 1: this game. When it's time to start this work, we
Speaker 1: have to start looking for the things that set us
Speaker 1: off and the things that cause us to have an
Speaker 1: innate response of stress, of feeling overwhelmed or anxiousness. Those
Speaker 1: are the things that we need to look to find
Speaker 1: those things, if you need to write them down when
Speaker 1: you experience them, write them down. It's good to have
Speaker 1: a journal when you start this work, because those things
Speaker 1: are connected to the root of the issue, and that's
Speaker 1: half the battle. Identifying the roots of the wound, or
Speaker 1: you know, the roots of your shadow self or the
Speaker 1: darker side of you, or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 1: Those things. What are the things, excuse me, that make
Speaker 1: you emotionally uncomfortable. Those are the roots of your wound
Speaker 1: and the things that trigger you. And it's smart to
Speaker 1: keep a journal, like I said, during this time so
Speaker 1: that you can this time of healing, excuse me, so
Speaker 1: that you can have a point of reference to go
Speaker 1: back to, because who knows what's going to come out
Speaker 1: during this time, So it's good to write stuff down
Speaker 1: to date it. For me, as a woman who also
Speaker 1: has a hormonal condition, it's important for me to journal
Speaker 1: when I have mood swings because I can align it
Speaker 1: with my cycle. I can see that this may have
Speaker 1: something to do with like a health issue versus a
Speaker 1: shadow self issue, or you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 1: it's important to write things down so that you are
Speaker 1: not misdiagnosing yourself. You are not giving your therapist or
Speaker 1: you know whoever is assisting you in this journey false information,
Speaker 1: not false information, excuse me, inaccurate information. You don't want
Speaker 1: to do that. You want to give them as much
Speaker 1: detailed and accurate information as possible so that you can
Speaker 1: accurately identify what these triggers are. And so, as I
Speaker 1: just mentioned, doing this work, you're gonna look for your
Speaker 1: innate response to like feeling emotional discomfort. When you start
Speaker 1: to feel that, you'll start to identify your triggers. And
Speaker 1: when you do that, you have to understand that you
Speaker 1: can't dismiss the feelings that are associated with you, know,
Speaker 1: this shadow self or this other side of you, this
Speaker 1: authentic you that you don't want everybody to know about.
Speaker 1: We are not here to do that. We ain't negating
Speaker 1: our feelings. We are not dismissing our feelings. We're not
Speaker 1: going to continue to suppress our feelings and hide them
Speaker 1: because that's kind of what got us here in the
Speaker 1: first place, and we're trying to move forward. We are
Speaker 1: here to acknowledge and accept who we are, and we
Speaker 1: are here to stand in our truth and in our
Speaker 1: true selves, not in the true you that you want
Speaker 1: people to believe you are. Like that, it's just it's
Speaker 1: not helpful. You know, it doesn't serve you. And at
Speaker 1: some point the jig is gonna be up. Somebody is
Speaker 1: gonna know you. You're gonna meet somebody like me who
Speaker 1: meet you and who can read your energy within ten
Speaker 1: minutes and like just pick up on your energy with
Speaker 1: a quickness. Sometimes it's just better to just show up
Speaker 1: as who the fuck you are excuse my French ou
Speaker 1: la la awiwi I say Muhammad, Ali say cash just Clay,
Speaker 1: I say Butter, you say Park. Shout out to my
Speaker 1: generation X folks who love hip hop, and shout out
Speaker 1: to Greg Knights and Smooth b Anyway. I had the
Speaker 1: biggest crush on Smooth Bee. Anyway. Anyway, you gotta listen
Speaker 1: to time out. I digress and I'm gonna allow this
Speaker 1: Greg Nison's movie B. They were a rap group in
Speaker 1: the eighties, late eighties, early nineties called Nights and Smooth.
Speaker 1: If you go back and listen to some of their
Speaker 1: songs and listen to the lyrics, even though their songs
Speaker 1: were really fun, they were fun rap songs. You know
Speaker 1: you want to dance to them when you listen to
Speaker 1: their lyrics. Dudes ain't rapping like that. No more like
Speaker 1: they don't these rappers. I know this is such a segue,
Speaker 1: but allow me a moment. They don't even have the
Speaker 1: vote vcabulary to rap like these dudes. And these aren't
Speaker 1: even your heavy rappers of the eighties, like your rock
Speaker 1: kims and your you know, prolific krs ones. I'm talking
Speaker 1: nice and smooth. They're fun. Their party it's all about
Speaker 1: the party. But they like these dudes just don't rap
Speaker 1: like that. They don't even have the language to rap
Speaker 1: like that. I digress, my friends. I am so sorry. Now,
Speaker 1: let me figure out where I was, because I just
Speaker 1: wanted to share that with people, because somebody on here
Speaker 1: listen to this show as a hip hop head like
Speaker 1: me and a hip hop head from the eighties, Who's
Speaker 1: gonna understand what I'm talking about? Excuse me while I
Speaker 1: was about to say, excuse me while I kissed the sky,
Speaker 1: Excuse me while I figure out where I was before
Speaker 1: I sidestepped into the hip hop again, friends, and can
Speaker 1: I digress? As I was saying, we are not here
Speaker 1: to not stand in truth. We are here to stand
Speaker 1: in our truth and acknowledge and accept who we are.
Speaker 1: And when we do that, other people will acknowledge and
Speaker 1: except who we are. We are not here for how
Speaker 1: do I say this? We are not doing this to
Speaker 1: be accepted by anyone else. This is really about us,
Speaker 1: you know, and I often talk about on this show.
Speaker 1: It's not about being selfish. You know. My cousin Julia
Speaker 1: told me something. I don't know where she got it from.
Speaker 1: She either got it from TV, a TV show, or
Speaker 1: I don't know where she got it from, but she
Speaker 1: told me this thing. Oftentimes, people basically mistake being selfish
Speaker 1: with being self full, okay, And that's powerful, because you
Speaker 1: have to feel yourself right, And if feeling myself makes
Speaker 1: you feel like I'm depriving you, I don't really know
Speaker 1: what to tell you, like I gotta take care of me.
Speaker 1: I cannot give you everything that I have because when
Speaker 1: you do that, you look up and you realize that
Speaker 1: you're empty. You're left with nothing, And here you filled
Speaker 1: somebody else's cup up and you look at your cup
Speaker 1: and your cup is dry, dry boots. You can't do that.
Speaker 1: It's not healthy. And so in doing this work, we
Speaker 1: have to learn how to manage all of the emotions
Speaker 1: that come along with it and feel them responsibly and
Speaker 1: in a way that is not harmful nor punitive to ourselves,
Speaker 1: because oftentimes in our communities, and I'm talking communities of color,
Speaker 1: I ain't even just talking black communities today, I'm talking
Speaker 1: communities of color because I've seen it in so many communities.
Speaker 1: We oh, my god, we treat ourselves so bad just
Speaker 1: for feeling. Aside from the fact that other people do
Speaker 1: it to you. Case in point, I was talking to
Speaker 1: my worker about this. Men are not allowed to feel
Speaker 1: and to emote and to vent, and when they do, oh,
Speaker 1: it's so much. Oh you're a bitch, you're pussy, you
Speaker 1: are so many other things that I'm not going to say.
Speaker 1: That's not you know, but y'all know what it is.
Speaker 1: We do that to little boys, like that's not necessary.
Speaker 1: You know, in our communities, specifically in Blackmuns, you're always
Speaker 1: told to man up. I'm a woman. I don't want
Speaker 1: a man up. I want to cry. Or he is
Speaker 1: a man, he doesn't need to man up anymore. He
Speaker 1: is a human. Allow him to feel. But when we
Speaker 1: deny ourselves that opportunity to feel those feelings, we put
Speaker 1: ourselves in a place where it's just a very unhealthy state.
Speaker 1: And when you deny that this is who you are.
Speaker 1: When when talking about being your true, authentic self, when
Speaker 1: you deny that that's who you are, you tend to
Speaker 1: show up in an inauthentic form or as an inauthentic
Speaker 1: form of who you are. You send the representative a
Speaker 1: versus showing up as your true self. And this is
Speaker 1: why having a therapist or a counselor is important because
Speaker 1: you need a professional clinician to share these findings with.
Speaker 1: It's like research. Consider yourself a scientist, a scientist of self.
Speaker 1: You want to share this information with someone who can
Speaker 1: give you healthy coping strategies for dealing with your true self.
Speaker 1: Because child, when you find the true self, you gotta
Speaker 1: deal with her or him. Shout out to the men
Speaker 1: that listen to the show the uncles. But when you
Speaker 1: find the true self, when you find the shadow self,
Speaker 1: then you gotta deal with the true self or the
Speaker 1: shadow self. And this ship is hard work. And while
Speaker 1: I you know, I talk about therapy every episode, like
Speaker 1: that's a theme here, Like is that my niche or
Speaker 1: my niche? Is this some mental health show? I don't know. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I sound like I got it together or I got
Speaker 1: a downpat. Let me tell you something. Life reminded me
Speaker 1: last week that I do not just recently, like I said,
Speaker 1: as in last week, I had a really hard time.
Speaker 1: I watched that damned Tina Turner documentary. And when I say,
Speaker 1: that thing triggered some shit in me that I thought
Speaker 1: i'd suppressed, mashed down, real deep down far and a
Speaker 1: real dark, small nook and cranny in my spleen. Nope,
Speaker 1: it was still there, and it came back up like
Speaker 1: spoiled milk. And it took someone that I loved so much,
Speaker 1: I love him so much and really close to me
Speaker 1: to say to me, are you okay? You seem like
Speaker 1: you're really really sad, And it was like, oh shit,
Speaker 1: I am sad. And then I had to do some
Speaker 1: quote unquote shadow work. And let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: I had suppressed that thing so much that I hadn't
Speaker 1: even realized what was wrong. I went to therapy last
Speaker 1: week like everything was fine. I went in and sat down,
Speaker 1: I was smiling, I was talking. Spent my whole therapy
Speaker 1: session talking about everybody else except myself. Come on, distraction, distraction, Jenkins,
Speaker 1: What was I doing? Not wanting to deal with my
Speaker 1: true shadow self? That's what I was doing, not being
Speaker 1: my authentic self in that moment, or not even realize that.
Speaker 1: I not even realizing that I was not being my
Speaker 1: authentic self. That's the heavy part. I didn't even realize
Speaker 1: it until someone else who knows me said, and this
Speaker 1: is why it's good to have people who know and
Speaker 1: care about you and know. This is why it's good
Speaker 1: to be authentic around people because then they can identify
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, this because something's up with you. This
Speaker 1: ain't right. So, like I said, it dawned on me,
Speaker 1: Oh shit, something is wrong. So when I go to
Speaker 1: therapy next time, we're gonna be there for a minute
Speaker 1: because I got to unpack this team to turn of
Speaker 1: documentary ship. I have to. And so then I, like
Speaker 1: I said, I had to do some shadow work. I
Speaker 1: had to go to the root of what was going on.
Speaker 1: And because I've been in such intense therapy for over
Speaker 1: a year, I had the strategies in place and knew
Speaker 1: how to confront my shadow self and figure out how
Speaker 1: to move forward. One of the things that I have
Speaker 1: to do to move forward is I have to bring
Speaker 1: it up to my therapist and I have to be honest.
Speaker 1: And see, the thing about it is that you have
Speaker 1: to that ego. You got to put it away because
Speaker 1: I might have to go to this woman and say,
Speaker 1: you know what. When I was here last week, I
Speaker 1: didn't even realize I wasn't being my authentic self. I
Speaker 1: didn't even realize I was trying to distract myself so
Speaker 1: that I didn't have to talk about this. But I
Speaker 1: need to talk about it. You know, it's heavy work.
Speaker 1: It's heavy and if it sounds scary, the shit is scary.
Speaker 1: But like, what's the alternative? What is the alternative to
Speaker 1: just live in a state of disingenuineness and inorganic movement
Speaker 1: all the time, and nobody got time for that? Like,
Speaker 1: straight up, I don't have time for it. It's too
Speaker 1: much to me. It's more work to walk around this
Speaker 1: earth as an inauthentic being than it is to just
Speaker 1: accept myself for who I am. And this is why
Speaker 1: it is important, like I said, to have a therapist.
Speaker 1: If you don't have access to a therapist, see if
Speaker 1: you have local therapy services that may offer like some
Speaker 1: kind of free services or a lower fee scale. Not
Speaker 1: to mention, most jobs have the EAP or the Employee
Speaker 1: Assistance Program. They have EAP and you can have a
Speaker 1: few sessions I think six for free ninety nine. So
Speaker 1: all you need to do is ask your boss or
Speaker 1: your HR rep about EAP the Employee Assistance Program, and
Speaker 1: if your job doesn't have EAP, find some ways that
Speaker 1: will help you to calm your spirit and clear your
Speaker 1: head until you can figure it out legal ways. Friends,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying to start or continue. I mean, like,
Speaker 1: I don't care, do what you want, but because I
Speaker 1: can't tell you what to do, but just find some
Speaker 1: healthy ways to help you clear your head and calm
Speaker 1: your spirit. It could be swimming. It could be if
Speaker 1: you live near a body of water. It could be
Speaker 1: going to a body of water and just listening to it.
Speaker 1: It could be going to the beach and just laying
Speaker 1: out in the sun if it's close to you. It
Speaker 1: could be hiking. It could be writing. It could be running.
Speaker 1: For me, oftentimes it's painting. It's really cathartic for me,
Speaker 1: and I can go to a really laser focused place.
Speaker 1: It helps me. You got to find your thing, and
Speaker 1: you need to dive deep into it, but don't dive
Speaker 1: so deep into it that you get lost, and you
Speaker 1: get lost on the journey of getting to the root
Speaker 1: of the trigger or getting to the root of the
Speaker 1: shadow self. But it's those things are helpful. And I'm
Speaker 1: not going to talk about the Tina turn of documentary
Speaker 1: today because I'm just not ready, because I ain't. I ain't,
Speaker 1: I ain't cleared it up yet. But one day in
Speaker 1: the near future, I am definitely going to discuss it
Speaker 1: because it opened some stuff up. And you know, most
Speaker 1: of you may be thinking, oh, the domestic violence piece. Nope,
Speaker 1: that wasn't even it because we already knew that. We
Speaker 1: already knew that stuff about, like not all of it. Oh,
Speaker 1: he was such a horrible man. But whatever, I'm not
Speaker 1: giving him any more energy. It just opened a lot
Speaker 1: of stuff up in my subconscious mind that I forgot
Speaker 1: was there. And listen, that's all I got for you.
Speaker 1: I'm in the middle of some healing work outside of
Speaker 1: my normal quest for healing, and like I said, the
Speaker 1: next time I go to therapy, I got at We
Speaker 1: got a lot to talk about, and I am apologizing
Speaker 1: to my therapist in advance for the next session because
Speaker 1: it's going damn So guys, I hope you got something
Speaker 1: from this conversation. It's just something that was on me,
Speaker 1: and it was just something I was thinking about after
Speaker 1: DMX's death and after seeing that documentary and then experiencing
Speaker 1: my own little like shake up, like just thinking about
Speaker 1: how important it is to go to that place, and
Speaker 1: going to that place is it's I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: it's ucky, it's ucky, it's icky, it's ugly, it's uggy.
Speaker 1: It's yuck, yuck, but it is essential for your healing.
Speaker 1: So you know you kind of gotta walk through the
Speaker 1: mud to get to the sunshine, didn't I didn't even
Speaker 1: have a good analogy for it. Or you know, you
Speaker 1: gotta go through it to get to it to get
Speaker 1: through it, if that makes sense. So I hope it
Speaker 1: was helpful. And uh, let's go ahead and move forward
Speaker 1: and get into the straight fact question. So, friends and ken.
Speaker 1: Today's question comes from David P. Of Albany, New York,
Speaker 1: and David says, Hi on Tie Meeting, I'm a huge
Speaker 1: fan and love the show. I value your opinion and
Speaker 1: one of your advice on a situation I'm having with
Speaker 1: my guy. Okay, David, let's see what's up. We have
Speaker 1: been dating since last October. It wasn't serious until it was. Listen,
Speaker 1: that's scary, ain't it. That's some scary shit. It wasn't
Speaker 1: serious until it was, and listening to get serious before
Speaker 1: you realize that it had gotten serious. Anyway, it wasn't
Speaker 1: serious until it was. We've been spending every day together,
Speaker 1: even taking trips every day together. Jesus Christ, it's October.
Speaker 1: He mentioned to me that he and his ex plan
Speaker 1: to cruise in May. I didn't really care too much
Speaker 1: at the time because it was so new. Fast forward
Speaker 1: six months later, and I do not like it. My
Speaker 1: question is should I ask him to cancel it or
Speaker 1: should I have him make it a double couple's trip. David.
Speaker 1: It's April, okay, and Auntie Mimi has been on several cruises.
Speaker 1: I used to organize my family's family reunion cruises. And
Speaker 1: you do have time to cancel it because you paid
Speaker 1: a deposit. They he paid a deposit. This is you know,
Speaker 1: it's funny. This conversation is about shadow self and shadow work. David.
Speaker 1: This is when you got to go to your shadow self, baby,
Speaker 1: and you need to find out. You need to go
Speaker 1: to your shadow self and you need to ask yourself self,
Speaker 1: how do I feel about my man going on a
Speaker 1: cruise with his ex. I don't know about you, David,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna go ahead and say this. I'm not
Speaker 1: even in a committed, exclusive, committed relationship with a man
Speaker 1: right now with anybody with a dog, a man, a cat,
Speaker 1: a television program, a plant app. But I'll tell you
Speaker 1: one thing. If I was, and I don't care if
Speaker 1: it was only six months in. I have a major
Speaker 1: problem with you going on a cruise with your ex. Personally,
Speaker 1: I would have brought it up in January. I would
Speaker 1: have been paying attention. But since we are here, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm not going to dwell in the past because we
Speaker 1: can't do anything about January because it's April. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: let him know I don't like it and I'm not
Speaker 1: comfortable with it. So you also have to go to
Speaker 1: your shadow self, David, and ask your shadow self self,
Speaker 1: how do I feel about going on a double couple's
Speaker 1: trip with my boot and his ex and the ex's
Speaker 1: new boot. If those are your only two options from me,
Speaker 1: I'm going with a couple of trip because you damn
Speaker 1: show ain't going without me. I'm not built like that.
Speaker 1: It's not okay with my soul. It's not okay with
Speaker 1: my shadow self. If we're being honest with each other,
Speaker 1: and I said, you know, you gotta just sit in
Speaker 1: your truth. If I'm being honest, it's not okay with
Speaker 1: my shadow self. No, no, no, we're not doing that.
Speaker 1: You're not going. So if it has to be a
Speaker 1: couple of trip, okay, then go go on the cruise.
Speaker 1: Here's the awesome thing about cruisers, David. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you've ever been on one, but cruisers are so
Speaker 1: amazing because the ships are so huge that you can
Speaker 1: go with a group of people and only see them
Speaker 1: at dinner. It's so much stuff to do on the cruises.
Speaker 1: You can get lost on the lido deck or the
Speaker 1: top deck. You could go to Arts and Crafts clash,
Speaker 1: you can go to wine tastings. You can go to shows.
Speaker 1: There's so many shows. God have mercy. You can go
Speaker 1: get a ten, you can go to the spa, you
Speaker 1: can go to the gym. And of course, on the
Speaker 1: days when it's time to get off the boat and
Speaker 1: do excursions, you don't have to do what they do.
Speaker 1: So the couple strip might be the best way to go.
Speaker 1: And then you probably just need to have a conversation
Speaker 1: with your boyfriend on the front end, like, look, I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to be hanging out with your X, so
Speaker 1: let's just establish that right now, and then I think
Speaker 1: you just go from there. But the common theme, as
Speaker 1: with most of these questions, is honest communication, and you
Speaker 1: gotta go to the shadow self. You gotta go to
Speaker 1: the dark side that you might be trying to hide it,
Speaker 1: and who knows, maybe you don't try to hide it.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but you got to go to that
Speaker 1: place and be like, what can I handle? And let
Speaker 1: me be honest about what I can handle? Because see,
Speaker 1: that's what it is. That is a shadow self thing,
Speaker 1: being honest with yourself and saying this is truly what
Speaker 1: I can handle, because if X was to happen, this
Speaker 1: is how I'm gonna feel. I don't want to feel
Speaker 1: that way, so let me let me go straight to
Speaker 1: it now, versus saying you know it's okay, because I
Speaker 1: don't really have the right to say that, and he
Speaker 1: can do what he want and did no fuck all that.
Speaker 1: I don't want you going with the X. I don't
Speaker 1: like it. It does not make me comfortable. Would you
Speaker 1: feel comfortable if I went with my ex? Sometimes you
Speaker 1: gotta be careful with that because the other person could
Speaker 1: say it wouldn't bother me because I trust you well,
Speaker 1: I trust you too, But no, I don't like it.
Speaker 1: It doesn't make me feel good. It doesn't it doesn't
Speaker 1: bring me joy, so it's not good. So good luck
Speaker 1: with that, David, and next time, don't wait so long, Okay, boo,
Speaker 1: because ain't nobody got time to be doing it when
Speaker 1: you pay deposits for your trips and stuff. Come on, now,
Speaker 1: friends are getting further. We got to do better today.
Speaker 1: The quote comes from Alice Walker, and the quote just
Speaker 1: resonates with me because of that documentary, the Tina Turn
Speaker 1: documentary that I watched. And also, let me say this,
Speaker 1: I don't I didn't know this. I think I knew
Speaker 1: and it was in the back of my mind. But
Speaker 1: Katore Hall, I did know this. I did. Katoi Hall,
Speaker 1: who was the writer and the creator of one of
Speaker 1: my favorite TV shows as of Late p Valley. She
Speaker 1: created a musical a Tina I think it was called
Speaker 1: Tina the Musical. Katoi Hall, who I have actually talked
Speaker 1: to via Instagram. She's commented on some of my posts
Speaker 1: that's me bragging but intense really not, but it really is,
Speaker 1: Katore Hall. This is a message to you. I would
Speaker 1: like to see this musical. How do I get to
Speaker 1: see it? Sis? Like, is it recorded? I would like
Speaker 1: to find it. Of course, after I post this, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go to Google and see what I can drum up.
Speaker 1: But I would love to see it, and I would
Speaker 1: love it if you brought it back on the road.
Speaker 1: She shout out to Katore Hall, who is a genius
Speaker 1: for creating pe Valley. That's all. That's all. But anyway,
Speaker 1: this quote hit me when I saw it because I
Speaker 1: just thought about Tina Turner and how in so many
Speaker 1: ways this relates to her story in different phases of
Speaker 1: her life. I'm not gonna get into it too much
Speaker 1: because I am going to do a show about this
Speaker 1: documentary and about this woman, because she's amazing. As I said,
Speaker 1: but the quote by Alice Walker is the most common
Speaker 1: way people get Let me stop. It ain't just about
Speaker 1: Tina Turner, because I can relate to this too. But
Speaker 1: because I've done some healing work, I can feel I
Speaker 1: feel like I've reclaimed some of it. Anyway, the most
Speaker 1: common way people give up their power is by thinking
Speaker 1: they don't have any. Come on, I tell us, let's
Speaker 1: say one more time for y'all. The most common way
Speaker 1: people give up their power is by thinking they don't
Speaker 1: have any. Check Jesus. The most common way people give
Speaker 1: up their powers by thinking they don't have any That's it,
Speaker 1: and just let that sit where it is, friends, and
Speaker 1: can I want to start off by thinking God first,
Speaker 1: because it is what I do. God is supreme in
Speaker 1: my life. You know, in church, if you grew up
Speaker 1: in black church, you say, first giving honor to God,
Speaker 1: who's the head of my life. That's it. And you
Speaker 1: know to say that, you don't even need to be
Speaker 1: in a church because that's a universal kind of thing.
Speaker 1: First given honor to God, who is the head of
Speaker 1: my life. Listen, I ain't got nothing to do with
Speaker 1: the nominations and dogmae and what you believe if you
Speaker 1: believe in God. Right, So anyway, I want to thank
Speaker 1: God first because, as I said, God, it's a premum
Speaker 1: my life, and I recognize and appreciate the grace Listen,
Speaker 1: especially after this episode, I appreciate the grace that God
Speaker 1: extends to me every single day of my waking life.
Speaker 1: I want to thank myself as well, though. I want
Speaker 1: to thank me today for doing all the work, for
Speaker 1: doing the hard work, for doing this ugly healing work,
Speaker 1: because this shit is not fun. Yes, I cursed after
Speaker 1: talking about God. God knows who I am. I don't
Speaker 1: have to hide from Him. But that's a part of
Speaker 1: that that shadow self work. I'm showing up as my
Speaker 1: authentic self, and my authentic self will say I love God,
Speaker 1: and I thank God for extending me grace and say
Speaker 1: shit in the next breath, and God loves me as
Speaker 1: I am, and I love me as I am. That's saddle,
Speaker 1: that's saddle, that's shadow self work. Any who. I want
Speaker 1: to thank me for doing this, the hard work, the
Speaker 1: hard healing work, and working and striving really hard to
Speaker 1: show up as my authentic self as often as possible.
Speaker 1: I am thankful for my family, my friends, my supporters,
Speaker 1: and of course all of my friends and ken out
Speaker 1: here listening to me. I love y'all. I wish that
Speaker 1: I could really get you guys to understand how much
Speaker 1: I do. I appreciate you so much, and it's an
Speaker 1: honor for me to be able to share this time
Speaker 1: and the energy with you, mainly because you listen. Because
Speaker 1: I understand that in life we have options, and in
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