1 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: Hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it is. 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:07,920 Speaker 1: It's a strawberry letter subject. I've been a whole fool 3 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: for eighteen years. Here's Stephen Shirley. There is so much 4 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: going on in my home. I've been with my husband 5 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 1: for eighteen years and we've been married for four years. 6 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 1: I have three children from a previous marriage, and we 7 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:24,599 Speaker 1: have a daughter together. My husband does not like my 8 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: children and he talks about them constantly. My kids don't 9 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:31,440 Speaker 1: like him either, and after we got married, they moved 10 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: out of the house. Uh. The daughter that I have 11 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: with him was thirteen years old when we got married, 12 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: and she told me that I should not marry her daddy. 13 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: I questioned her, but she would not tell me why. 14 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: When my husband is at home, he stays in our 15 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 1: bedroom with the door closed, and uh, the TV is 16 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: always on blast. When he's not in the bedroom or 17 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: at work, he spends time at his mama's house. Recently, 18 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: our daughter came to me and finally told me I 19 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: should not have married her dad. She said that he 20 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 1: has a longtime girlfriend in Florida. She's met the woman 21 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: at my husband's mother's house years ago. The girlfriend spends 22 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,639 Speaker 1: time at my mother in law's house when she's in town. 23 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: My husband talks to our daughter about his mistress, and 24 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: he never expected her to say anything to me. My 25 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: other children know too, so I look like a fool. 26 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: He has made all of our lives miserable for his 27 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: own selfish gains. My daughter has no respect for her dad, 28 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 1: and I had to tell her that all men are 29 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: not dogs. My husband says that he's asked God for 30 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: forgiveness for all his wrongdoings, but he is not going 31 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: to stop seeing this woman. So now, okay, said My 32 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: husband said that he's asked God for forgiveness for all 33 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: his wrongdoings, but he's not going to stop seeing this woman. 34 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: So now I'm on a mission to leave him and 35 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 1: make him pay emotionally and financially for everything he has 36 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:07,200 Speaker 1: put me through. How do I heal from this? Well, 37 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: that's a good start, making him pay, especially financially, emotionally financially, however, 38 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 1: you can make him pay, make him pay, But how 39 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 1: do you heal from this? You ask I have one 40 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: word from you for you, and that's forgiveness. Um, he's 41 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: asking God for forgiveness, Yeah, forgiveness. She's got to forgive him. 42 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: He's asking God for forgiveness, but he has an asked 43 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: you for forgiveness. Okay, what a horrible situation this is, Um, 44 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: you know, just so much going on. His mother is 45 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 1: disrespectful by letting the woman come to her house and 46 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 1: hang out with her. And it's just wrong for him 47 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 1: to put your daughter, your young daughter, in the middle 48 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: of all of this. I mean, how is she supposed 49 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: to process all this grown folks mess, your marriage, your 50 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 1: dad seeing this other woman, him telling her about this 51 00:02:57,360 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: other woman, all of this. I mean, she's too young 52 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: to access all of this. Not not good for your daughter. 53 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 1: I mean it's it is going to tain her view 54 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 1: of men. And I you know, it's good that you 55 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 1: told her all men aren't dogs. Okay. Uh, you're right 56 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: about the fact that he's selfish, Uh, that he only 57 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: cares about himself, not to mention that he's inconsiderate and 58 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:24,079 Speaker 1: he's just playing stupid. I mean, so if he if 59 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: he says he's not going to stop seeing this woman, Um, 60 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: then then you have to go on with your life. Okay. 61 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: I have to tell you that you have to go on. 62 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: But to get it started and heal from all of this, 63 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:36,839 Speaker 1: you gotta do something for yourself. You gotta forgive him. 64 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: That's the starting point to get you to start living 65 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: your own life. You gotta do it. I'm sorry, I mean, 66 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: you know, I know you're hurt and all of that, 67 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:46,839 Speaker 1: but go ahead, forgive him. Don't give him any more 68 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: of your precious time. Eighteen years is more than enough. 69 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: Then and only then after you forgive him, can you 70 00:03:53,480 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: really really truly move on with your life? Steve, forgive him, 71 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 1: That's what I say. Okay, well, the subject is called 72 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: I've been a whole food for eighteen years. Let me 73 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: just say, after reading this letter, I think you have 74 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: done an excellent job of being a whole fool. And 75 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 1: throughout the letter you have really shown me that you 76 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 1: are a whole fool. See, if you're gonna do something, 77 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 1: don't have do it. What is a half of fool? 78 00:04:29,560 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 1: You might as well do it like you did all 79 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: the way through this letter, be a whole fool. So 80 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 1: let's just start right there. You've been with your husband 81 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: eighteen years. We've been married for folk. You got three 82 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 1: kids from a previous match. Y'all got one daughter together. 83 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: Your husband don't like your kids. He talks about them 84 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: and your kids don't like him either. Damn man, don't 85 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 1: nobody like nobody in this house. The kids moved out. 86 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: Y'all don't like each other. My kids don't like him me. 87 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: Then after we got married, they moved out of the 88 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:13,160 Speaker 1: house where they go? Mmm? Where it see? You've been 89 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: mad eighteen You've been married four years, but you've been 90 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 1: with him for eighteen. I don't know how your kids was, 91 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: Damn I don't. They've grown, they're gonna anyway. They're at 92 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,359 Speaker 1: the house. The daughter that you got with him is thirteen. 93 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:34,360 Speaker 1: Then when y'all got mad, she told you you shouldn't 94 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:38,599 Speaker 1: marry her daddy. Damn. Okay, now, let me get this right. 95 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 1: All your kids didn't like him. All your kids moved out. 96 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:51,120 Speaker 1: Then the one baby y'all had together thirteen years old. 97 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 1: By the time y'all got married, she told me you 98 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 1: shouldn't marry her daddy. Now, you're a nice lady, because 99 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: everybody like you and won't what's the best for you? 100 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 1: Everybody hates his food, you questioned herb but she wouldn't 101 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: tell you why. When your husband at home here in 102 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 1: the bedroom with the dog clothes and the TV on 103 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:16,919 Speaker 1: blast here and that talking here that talker. I have 104 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: to agree with that. When he's not in the bedroom 105 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: or at work, he spent time at his mama's house. Well, 106 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 1: we found out why he be at his mama's house 107 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:29,600 Speaker 1: in the damn show. Ain't cause it, MoMA. Then your 108 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:32,599 Speaker 1: daughter came to you finally told you that you shouldn't 109 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: have married her daddy because he got a long time 110 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 1: girlfriend in Florida and she had met a woman at 111 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:46,479 Speaker 1: your at your mama in law's house. The girlfriend spend 112 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:48,679 Speaker 1: time at the mother in law's house when she in town. 113 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:51,360 Speaker 1: She comes to town a lot. But you say your dad, 114 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: your husband always over there. I think she from Florida originally, 115 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 1: but I think she had moved up here and she 116 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:00,520 Speaker 1: come over to mama's house all time, because you say 117 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 1: he always had his mama's house. I'm gonna tell you 118 00:07:04,520 --> 00:07:06,040 Speaker 1: the rest of it when we come back, and you 119 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 1: ain't gonna like it. You're not gonna like. I'm not 120 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: gonna Lady been married, been with this man eighteen years, 121 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: married for they got She had three kids from previous marriage, 122 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: though none of the kids, like to dude, they had 123 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: one child together when they got married. All the kids 124 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: moved out the thirteen year old that you all got together. Mhmm, 125 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: your daughter finally told you you shouldn't marry my daddy. 126 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: But this ain't this day, kid. But then she says 127 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: to her mother, you shouldn't marry my daddy. She questioned 128 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:47,880 Speaker 1: about it. She never told him. Then she finally told him. 129 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 1: He got a girlfriend to be in my mama's house. Damn? 130 00:07:53,560 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: What's your say, Steve? And yeah, well her mama's house. 131 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: But she got a girlfrid that be at her grandmama's house, 132 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: which is her mother in law's house. Now he has 133 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: been discussing the mistress with his daughter. Who do that? 134 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 1: Who do that? Man? Do? I ain't never heard of 135 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 1: that one right there unless he was planning on leaving 136 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: you was trying to get the girl to side up 137 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: with him. Now, he said, after all this, he has 138 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:50,440 Speaker 1: asked God to forgive him, but he man, but this 139 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: one right here for men? This you did you tell 140 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 1: us to your wife? I have asked God to forgive me, 141 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna stop seeing her, Okay, So let 142 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:05,240 Speaker 1: me ask something, what what did you ask God to 143 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:10,679 Speaker 1: forgive you? Because this doesn't make no damn sense. Don't 144 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: don't if you ask God to forgive. But then you 145 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:17,559 Speaker 1: tell your wife, but I'm not gonna stop seeing her? 146 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: What did you ask God to forgive you? Fall? And 147 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:26,199 Speaker 1: then no way in this letter does he ask you 148 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: to forgive him, because he can't ask you to forgive him, 149 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:32,560 Speaker 1: because he have told you before, whether you forgive me 150 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: or not, I'm gonna not. I'm will not stop seeing 151 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 1: her now. Charletan told you that is best for you 152 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: to forgive him. You know, I understand where you're coming from, Shelly, 153 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: but this is fresh. It's just happened. You're gonna eventually 154 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: have to forgive him and move on for your own benefit, 155 00:09:56,000 --> 00:10:00,320 Speaker 1: like Shelley said, But not right now. Yeah, we got 156 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: we got some stuff we got to do. See. I 157 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:05,200 Speaker 1: don't know why Sherley tried to throw this Christianity out 158 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: there first, like she ain't gonna kick and bus out 159 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 1: all his car windows and put him on face to 160 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 1: him and put him on She tried to act like 161 00:10:13,160 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 1: she didn't fit to do this right here allegedly my ass. 162 00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 1: Now that's all I'm talking about. You're gonna make him pay. 163 00:10:23,280 --> 00:10:25,679 Speaker 1: He's asked God to forgive it. Just the line I 164 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 1: can't get paid. I'm gonna ask God to forgive me, 165 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna stop seeing. I'm gonna keep on 166 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 1: doing this. This woman right here, you're in a position 167 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 1: of a man who don't care nothing about you. Oh no, 168 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: you've never been in the marriage this this man got 169 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 1: busted cheating and instead of asking you for forgiveness, let's 170 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 1: work it out. I'm sorry, he tells you. I don't 171 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: ask God to forgive me, but I'm not fitting to 172 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: stop seeing. You're not fine, man, man, man, let me 173 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:09,560 Speaker 1: tell you something. I mean, dog that that's illogical. I 174 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 1: don't care who you are. It ain't a man in 175 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:16,680 Speaker 1: here really can hear himself saying that. Now. So, lady, 176 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 1: then you said you first before you leave him. So 177 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 1: now I'm on a mission to leave him and make 178 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:31,480 Speaker 1: him pay emotionally and financially. Well, you can definitely get 179 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 1: him financially, not emotional part. I need the latest to 180 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:38,600 Speaker 1: tell me what they what is? What are they gonna 181 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:42,200 Speaker 1: do to him to make him pay emotion Shirley and Carlin. 182 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: I just want Shirley and Carlin talking about I don't 183 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: want to hear from nobody else. What are they gonna 184 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:52,080 Speaker 1: do to this man to make him emotionally. Pay let's 185 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: get into the mind of women. Hell, have no feary 186 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: like a woman's scoring. So some man hadn't done this 187 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: to you with one eye open, That's all I gotta say. Oh, 188 00:12:02,320 --> 00:12:05,679 Speaker 1: don't close both of your eyes at night. Well I'm 189 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:08,240 Speaker 1: you want what I would? Yeah, come on, here we go. 190 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:10,840 Speaker 1: I'm pulling the Florida. Is that what a woman is? 191 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: I'm going down to Florida and me and her, we're 192 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:22,080 Speaker 1: gonna have a conversation. Then we're gonna talk to him. Yeah. Yeah, 193 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:25,640 Speaker 1: she's right there now. But you see, you gotta get 194 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 1: him emotionally because he said he's not gonna stop seeing her. 195 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:32,280 Speaker 1: So now you've got to really go in so correct. 196 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: I mean, if you're gonna do something to her down there, 197 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,439 Speaker 1: you're concerned about that. I mean, I'm just trying to 198 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 1: figure out when they do get back together, she gonna 199 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:52,439 Speaker 1: look different. I might start cooking. Yeah wow, yeah, she said, 200 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: she said, she said, did you tell her that? You go, 201 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:01,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop seeing me? But she has shut both 202 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:07,880 Speaker 1: my eyes. Now I can't see you. This is this 203 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 1: is ugly man. This is ugly. This man cares nothing 204 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:17,080 Speaker 1: about you. Now, now your daughter has no respect for 205 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:20,720 Speaker 1: her dad. He's the most selfish person I've ever seen. 206 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 1: And then you're trying to tell your daughter to all 207 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:28,280 Speaker 1: me and ain't dogs. My husband says that he's asked 208 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:31,320 Speaker 1: God for forgiveness for all his wrong doing. What he 209 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 1: ain't gonna stop seeing it? You get it at your man. 210 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: It's probably the first time God said NP and the 211 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:50,439 Speaker 1: last word is pleased. All right, look, we gotta go, guys, 212 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 1: Please email us your Instagram what's your thoughts on today's 213 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,559 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey FM. 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