Speaker 1: Hey guys, Sunday Sampler time.
Speaker 2: We're giving you some highlights from some of the Nashville
Speaker 2: Podcast Network podcasts, and also there are really no new
Speaker 2: podcast today anyway, because it's Sunday. You're gonna like the Bobbycast.
Speaker 2: I sat down with a really prolific, very famous he's
Speaker 2: killing her right now songwriter and producer who did the
Speaker 2: Morgan wall and stuff a bunch of that the post
Speaker 2: Malone record in the vet's office with doctor Josie. She
Speaker 2: talked to an er vet, which is crazy. On Take
Speaker 2: This Personally, which is Morgan's podcast, Morgan's good friend and
Speaker 2: country artist Julia Cole came by and they talked about heartbreak.
Speaker 2: Julia lets people in under broken off engagement. For the
Speaker 2: first time, Morgan talked about her breakup, so let's start
Speaker 2: with that. Here's a clip of this week's episode of
Speaker 2: Take This Personally.
Speaker 3: Personal Jewels.
Speaker 4: I'm dubbing this the heartbreak episode because I have known
Speaker 4: Julia my entire Nashville life. She was one of my
Speaker 4: very first friends here. You guys may know miss Julia
Speaker 4: Cole as a very famous artist in Nashville, has lots
Speaker 4: of followings on TikTok and Instagram and viral videos and
Speaker 4: she's just a giant star. But she's my good friend
Speaker 4: and all I know her as is Julia. And the
Speaker 4: crazy thing though for Julian and I is we've both
Speaker 4: seen each other through some really really tough relationships.
Speaker 5: Yes, we've had to milk some some heartbreaks and have
Speaker 5: some girls' nights out to solve art problems. So I've
Speaker 5: had a lot of conversations with people after this in
Speaker 5: this past year, and I've had people telling me that
Speaker 5: you're you're supposed to date multiple people. Obviously you're not
Speaker 5: going to a certain level here. This is like going
Speaker 5: to dinners, going to coffees like you're supposed to, you know,
Speaker 5: meet different people until you've decided that you really really
Speaker 5: like someone.
Speaker 6: I've never in my.
Speaker 5: Life felt like I could do that because it felt
Speaker 5: like like loyalty is something so important to me and
Speaker 5: so so special that it was like, oh, well, if
Speaker 5: I'm even texting this person, I should probably not be
Speaker 5: texting anybody else.
Speaker 1: And that is like, I.
Speaker 5: Mean, I honestly like to know people's opinions on that
Speaker 5: and your opinion on that, because I really don't know,
Speaker 5: like what's the standard this is not. This isn't courting
Speaker 5: like it was back in our grandparents' day and age,
Speaker 5: where you date you know ten different people at once
Speaker 5: and then like all of a sudden, one would just
Speaker 5: like propose and you get married.
Speaker 4: I have multiple things on this one. I don't think
Speaker 4: it's a bad thing that you want to be fiercely loyal.
Speaker 7: I have that in me.
Speaker 4: I'm going to date somebody and I'm going to do
Speaker 4: everything in my power to make sure that that person
Speaker 4: feels all of that loyalty all the time. Yeah, and
Speaker 4: I've never cheated on anybody. I don't have that capability
Speaker 4: in my bone.
Speaker 5: It doesn't make much sense, does it.
Speaker 8: No, Like just breaking it will never I don't understand it.
Speaker 1: I just literally just break up the person on the date.
Speaker 1: Just call me and say hate it's over. I'd be like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna crime about.
Speaker 7: Like math like whatever.
Speaker 9: Stupid.
Speaker 4: But I do think dating people is important. I have
Speaker 4: gone on so many dates in my life, and I'm
Speaker 4: not talking like even third, fourth, fifth dates. I'm talking
Speaker 4: about first, second, third, dates. I've been on so many
Speaker 4: because I wanted to learn what I wanted. And this
Speaker 4: is a really interesting thing that got like brought up
Speaker 4: that will that will spiral into this. I learned so
Speaker 4: much about myself by dating other people of different cultures,
Speaker 4: of different religions, of different backgrounds, of different upbrings.
Speaker 7: I learned so many.
Speaker 4: Things of what I wanted, what I didn't want, and
Speaker 4: I could narrow that down so heavily that that's why
Speaker 4: it's so hard for me now to date, because I
Speaker 4: know fiercely what I want. All of those multiple dates
Speaker 4: of saying my favorite color, and walking through the small
Speaker 4: talk and saying yes.
Speaker 7: I'm very where'd you go to college?
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's go through them a million times over, and
Speaker 4: as much as they sucked, and I hated getting dressed
Speaker 4: up and I hated getting ready just to have something fail.
Speaker 5: Maybe again, maybe be nice, maybe be a waste of
Speaker 5: your two hours.
Speaker 7: Yeah I did.
Speaker 4: I did kind of change my mentality when I was dating,
Speaker 4: probably my mid twenties, where I was like, I'm doing everything.
Speaker 8: For the plot.
Speaker 4: My whole life became I'm doing it for the plot.
Speaker 4: Because I genuinely could not go on dates and like
Speaker 4: not think I was getting punked by Ashton Kutcher. There
Speaker 4: were moments where I was like, this isn't real there's
Speaker 4: no way. But it was so when I would leave
Speaker 4: those I'd be like, I did it for the plot.
Speaker 4: Great story, great story.
Speaker 10: Never again.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I learned so much about who I was.
Speaker 4: And it's funny because I had this conversation with.
Speaker 8: My sister on the phone.
Speaker 4: I said, I'm so tired of being these men lessons
Speaker 4: and I'm the heartbreak. Yeah, Like, why am I the
Speaker 4: one who I took all the time. I didn't hurt anybody,
Speaker 4: and I took all the time to figure out stuff
Speaker 4: about myself. But these men come in relationships with me
Speaker 4: and I have to be the one how they get
Speaker 4: their lesson. I'm this emotional punching bag for them to just.
Speaker 7: Figure things out.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think we go into relationships this day and age
Speaker 4: so carelessly.
Speaker 7: I think dating stops that.
Speaker 4: I think going on dates casually stops you from going
Speaker 4: in half hearted or not knowing what you want. Like
Speaker 4: when all those people were saying you should love yourself
Speaker 4: before you're in a relationship, I think we almost had
Speaker 4: it right because I think you can love yourself in
Speaker 4: a relationship. I think you can learn self love with
Speaker 4: friends with a partner. I don't know that you nessa
Speaker 4: I need to be completed in self love to be
Speaker 4: in a relationship.
Speaker 7: I think you need to know yourself.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, fundamentally, yes, your non negotiables, your boundaries, what
Speaker 4: you stand for, who you are as a human being, because.
Speaker 9: So many people don't.
Speaker 5: I think you have to grow up a little bit
Speaker 5: to know all of that. Yeah, And I'm seeing a
Speaker 5: lot of people, you know, dive in super young. I'm
Speaker 5: from the South, I'm from Texas. Like, I know a
Speaker 5: lot of people who got married super young, and it's
Speaker 5: like I am not the same person that I was
Speaker 5: even two years ago.
Speaker 1: You're listening to in the VETS office with doctor Josie Hrschak.
Speaker 6: Now, I figured we can really dive into all things wellness.
Speaker 6: I want to keep it simple but still feel like
Speaker 6: people get informed. And so I thought we would be
Speaker 6: good to like break it down into two sections. So
Speaker 6: I figure the first section, we can just talk about vaccines, Like,
Speaker 6: what in the heck are these vaccines that are being
Speaker 6: recommended to me? I feel like we just come in
Speaker 6: and we're like they're due for X, Y and Z,
Speaker 6: and people are just like okay, yeah, like you say,
Speaker 6: so let's do it. But I feel like it's good
Speaker 6: to understand why your pet is getting these vaccinations. So
Speaker 6: the first, the big one, the big shebang, the like
Speaker 6: non negotiable for me, is the raby's vaccine.
Speaker 10: Definitely. I think most of our clients, if they're going
Speaker 10: to know any vaccine, it's going to be the rabies vaccine.
Speaker 8: Yes.
Speaker 6: And the thing for me is that I didn't realize
Speaker 6: really until I got to VET school. Was like, rabies
Speaker 6: is real. You hear about it and you're like, we
Speaker 6: don't see that anymore, Like that's from like old Yeller,
Speaker 6: like a decade ago, but like it's real. We just
Speaker 6: had a case here in Tennessee. And if you contract
Speaker 6: rabies as a human and you don't get treated right away,
Speaker 6: like you will die. There is not a cure, and
Speaker 6: we see it.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I saw a case of rabies in the er
Speaker 10: when I was working there.
Speaker 6: That's terrifying.
Speaker 7: Yeah, terrifying.
Speaker 10: And I also think I guess I didn't really understand
Speaker 10: this until I was like practicing in general practice too.
Speaker 10: But like, this vaccine is required by the state. Yes,
Speaker 10: I don't think it's required by all states, but in Tennessee,
Speaker 10: it is required for you to vaccinate your dog or
Speaker 10: your cat by six months of age. Yeah, and if
Speaker 10: you don't and they find out it's a class cy misdemeanor,
Speaker 10: I don't know that either.
Speaker 7: So yeah, it's the law.
Speaker 6: It's the law. It's really important. It's a public health risk.
Speaker 6: And if you don't do it, like we kind of
Speaker 6: have to look like the bad guys. We were like, Okay,
Speaker 6: you don't have to. We can't force you into it,
Speaker 6: but you have to understand the ramifications of it, and
Speaker 6: you have to like sign a document. So it's a
Speaker 6: big deal. What was the case that you saw in
Speaker 6: the er that had rabies? It was actually rabies.
Speaker 10: Was not at the top of anyone's list thinking this
Speaker 10: dog had rabies because again, no one actually understands that
Speaker 10: it's real.
Speaker 7: This dog came in for.
Speaker 10: Seizures and it was just neurological and in the er,
Speaker 10: like we saw seizures once a day. Yeah, so having
Speaker 10: a dog come in for seizures is not abnormal. So
Speaker 10: we kind of just went through the normal protocol of
Speaker 10: getting the dog hospitalized, getting them started on seizure meds,
Speaker 10: and along the line, a lot of people came in
Speaker 10: contact with this dog and the dog just wasn't responding
Speaker 10: to any of the seizure meds, which is unusual, especially
Speaker 10: for a dog presenting for seizures right the first time.
Speaker 10: So the neurology service ended up getting involved, and the
Speaker 10: only way to test for rabies, unfortunately in dogs, is
Speaker 10: by testing a piece of their brain tissue, and so
Speaker 10: oftentimes we don't get a diagnosis until they're already deceased.
Speaker 6: Yeah, just for all of you out there, like, I know,
Speaker 6: this is gruesome, but the reality is, like we have
Speaker 6: to cut their head off and send it into the lab.
Speaker 6: That's how we test for it. So it's not an
Speaker 6: easy test. And if there is any suspicion that your
Speaker 6: pet has rabies, like that's the way we test for it,
Speaker 6: So even more reason to get them vaccinated.
Speaker 11: Right.
Speaker 10: So this dog ended up being hospitalized for a while,
Speaker 10: coming into contact with a lot of different staff members,
Speaker 10: and then it ended up I think being euthanized because
Speaker 10: it wasn't responding. And then we found out later that
Speaker 10: she wasn't up to date on her rabies vaccine and
Speaker 10: so she was sent for testing, came back positive, and
Speaker 10: anyone who was in contact with her had to get
Speaker 10: the rabies prophylaxis vaccine treatment, which is intense and expensive,
Speaker 10: very expensive.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't think your insurance covers that.
Speaker 10: So very scary, very scary, because I mean, just coming
Speaker 10: into contact with the saliva of a dog who's seizing
Speaker 10: is very easy, very easy. And Rabi's is transmitted most
Speaker 10: commonly through bites but through body leaf fluids.
Speaker 6: So very very scary, very real. Another thing I hear
Speaker 6: owners say is, oh, well, my dog doesn't really go outside,
Speaker 6: and you just had a case or someone in the
Speaker 6: hospital had a case last week of a cat having
Speaker 6: a bat in its mouth. Yep, that got in the house.
Speaker 10: It wasn't my case, but yeah, indoor only cat. So
Speaker 10: most people would be like, why do I need a
Speaker 10: vaccine my indoor only cat for rabies? But the family
Speaker 10: I guess saw the cat with a live bat in
Speaker 10: its mouth.
Speaker 6: He's like running by, like hey, guys, like what I got?
Speaker 10: And bats are the number one having.
Speaker 6: Carrier of rabies.
Speaker 10: So that cat had to come into the hospital and
Speaker 10: get boosted for its Raby's vaccine, even though it was
Speaker 10: up to date. We boosted them early and then yeah,
Speaker 10: not only for the safety of the pets, but like
Speaker 10: if you have kids in your home, and your cat
Speaker 10: gets raby.
Speaker 6: He's like, you know, it's trouble.
Speaker 10: Yeah, you got to vaccinate them so that we can
Speaker 10: be protected as well, because vaccination against rabies and people
Speaker 10: is not common.
Speaker 2: No, I found them to be very sweet. I think
Speaker 2: that's a great word. Like I think I've had three
Speaker 2: occasions where I've spent more than three minutes with them. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and very like sweet and kind feeling. And he felt
Speaker 2: like he was sensitive to what I wanted to talk
Speaker 2: about or And I did not expect that from somebody
Speaker 2: who was it didn't matter who it was, but somebody
Speaker 2: was just so wildly famous.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: You know, having been around other people that are famous,
Speaker 2: it's usually not that way. A lot of times you'll
Speaker 2: know this better than anyone. People that are wildly famous
Speaker 2: are they're that way because they demand all the attention.
Speaker 2: It's very much a me centric world in the world
Speaker 2: of entertainment. But I did not that any time that
Speaker 2: I was with him, I did not find that at all. Yeah,
Speaker 2: which was extremely different than what I was used to do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say he kind of stuck with that too.
Speaker 3: I mean he's the same and he, you know, is
Speaker 3: just like conscious of the people around him and you know,
Speaker 3: obviously a big yes ma'am, yes sair to everybody, making
Speaker 3: sure you know. He'll also sign more autographs than most people,
Speaker 3: Like he'll sit there and do it for everybody, Whereas
Speaker 3: it's like, you know, I've been with a lot of
Speaker 3: artists who you know, you got to leave, you gotta
Speaker 3: go to the next thing, which is not even anything
Speaker 3: bad on them, they're actually busy.
Speaker 2: He came and played the Rhyman Show with me. Was
Speaker 2: super cool, and he stayed longer than any other artist.
Speaker 2: He took pictures with every person, and I posted about
Speaker 2: it and I was like, and a little bit it
Speaker 2: was to some of these guys that won't do anything.
Speaker 2: It's like, you got a guy that's twenty x famous
Speaker 2: than you. Yeah, and he spent time with every single
Speaker 2: person that has stayed back to say hello and again
Speaker 2: I found that to be super cool. I'm assuming you
Speaker 2: guys still work well together. I mean, you're doing the
Speaker 2: record as we talk. It's not out yet, but by
Speaker 2: the time this is hurt, it is out. And so
Speaker 2: how long how many years have you guys worked together?
Speaker 10: Now?
Speaker 2: A long time?
Speaker 3: Yeah, technically a long time. We definitely spend some time
Speaker 3: not working together as well, got it, but that'd being
Speaker 3: the case.
Speaker 2: How long have you been known?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we started working. We probably did our first song
Speaker 3: either late twenty fourteen or early twenty fifteen.
Speaker 1: Ten years. Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: So twenty fifteen, we were like locked in really doing
Speaker 3: a lot of stuff. You know, technically, I don't know
Speaker 3: where it says it. I guess you got to buy
Speaker 3: the physical copy of his first album. Technically I'm an
Speaker 3: executive producer on that album. I don't really do all
Speaker 3: the work necessary necessary, like toy executive producer. But that
Speaker 3: was kind of where we were locked in on his
Speaker 3: first album. And then you know, kind of went separate
Speaker 3: ways for a little bit, and then you know, I
Speaker 3: caught I think I put a song on his album
Speaker 3: two albums ago. It was a random song that I
Speaker 3: sent them, you know, But we weren't you know, we
Speaker 3: weren't actually working as much. I was living in Nashville
Speaker 3: doing my thing. He was doing his thing. And then
Speaker 3: we had talked about doing the country album back in
Speaker 3: twenty fifteen, and you know, I go back and forth
Speaker 3: on Power Manifestation Ship, but we did say album six.
Speaker 3: That was the conversation where like your sixth album could
Speaker 3: be country and you could do a pull a reverse
Speaker 3: Taylor Swift and like be the biggest pop star and
Speaker 3: then do a country album. So when he asked me
Speaker 3: to do this album, it was cool because I was
Speaker 3: just like, wait a minute, how many albums have you had?
Speaker 3: He's like five. I was like, shit, you know, so.
Speaker 2: What do you mean you go back and forth on
Speaker 2: the manifestation? Oh, what are your two areas you live in?
Speaker 3: No, just some of it doesn't really make sense. I
Speaker 3: understand that if you're saying something thinking about it, you'll
Speaker 3: actively start making moves towards it, But some of it's
Speaker 3: just kind of ridiculous, like it and it feels like
Speaker 3: it shouldn't be real.
Speaker 2: But it might be.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it might be. And that's why I don't like.
Speaker 3: Then I get into these weird who's got stronger manifestation?
Speaker 3: If we're both manifesting the opposite. I started looking at that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think that too, like if two people
Speaker 2: are praying opposite things, yeah, even in that way, like
Speaker 2: who wins?
Speaker 3: Yeah. It's like so sometimes like someone will say something
Speaker 3: to me and I'll be like, yo, like you know,
Speaker 3: take that back. You don't say that you know, yeah,
Speaker 3: or like I'll be like, oh, your manifestation powers weeks.
Speaker 3: I'm not worried because like people will say some shit,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think about too, And again this is just
Speaker 2: my weird brain going down places that I probably spend
Speaker 2: way too much time that actually makes nothing good for me.
Speaker 2: But I'll think about either if it's manifestation or prayer
Speaker 2: or however you want to even describe that, that that
Speaker 2: communication within yourself or to others. But I'll see somethody
Speaker 2: on Facebook, like, hey, we could use all these prayers,
Speaker 2: but all these what's the number that it becomes? Is
Speaker 2: all these more than one? One? If it's just one,
Speaker 2: does one count as equal as all these?
Speaker 3: Interesting?
Speaker 2: I think about that a lot, because you know, if
Speaker 2: you get ten thousand people to pray for something, does
Speaker 2: that mean it's more powerful than if you just prayed
Speaker 2: for it by yourself. And if so, we need to
Speaker 2: get a prayer, go fund me just for the bigger
Speaker 2: causes then and get more people. So, yeah, I get
Speaker 2: tired thinking about stuff.
Speaker 3: Like that's interesting. And it's also that you bring up
Speaker 3: prayer because it's a separate thing, because I'll pray too,
Speaker 3: But I don't almost exclusively. I don't ask for anything
Speaker 3: in prayer like you. I'll pray more for a situation.
Speaker 3: Uh okay, rephrase. I'll ask for something for somebody who
Speaker 3: maybe is hurt, or somebody who maybe is going through
Speaker 3: some shit but you know, or a safety thing but
Speaker 3: it's not. It's never like, Man, can I get a
Speaker 3: number one song I about asking for shit like that.
Speaker 9: Little food for yourself life?
Speaker 2: Oh it's pretty, but it's pretty beautiful, man, beautiful that for.
Speaker 9: A little mouth's.
Speaker 2: Said.
Speaker 9: He you're kicking it with full with Amy Brown.
Speaker 12: I think that everyone's been through different seasons of life
Speaker 12: where they get stuck, maybe in a pattern or cycle
Speaker 12: where they can realize there's a lot of negativity happening.
Speaker 12: But once you can make that shift, you can really
Speaker 12: see the difference. Even just believing that what does this
Speaker 12: circumstance make possible? Believing that something can come from this,
Speaker 12: some sort of growth, some sort of change that is
Speaker 12: going to be positive. Of course, I didn't want my
Speaker 12: mother to have cancer. I didn't want to lose her,
Speaker 12: but a lot of amazing things came from that. I
Speaker 12: can't even think back to my childhood. I didn't want
Speaker 12: my parents to get divorced, but a lot of amazing
Speaker 12: things happened from that. My mom's life was completely transformed
Speaker 12: because of the divorce. That's when we finally started going
Speaker 12: to church. We didn't go before that, and then she
Speaker 12: became a completely different person not being able to get pregnant.
Speaker 12: Now I've got two beautiful adopted children now seventeen and fourteen.
Speaker 12: And things that seemed negative and hard, but what did
Speaker 12: they make possible? And I think just maintaining that faith,
Speaker 12: that hope that there's a bigger picture here that's.
Speaker 11: Right, and if you can find a way to put
Speaker 11: yourself at a different point in the story when you're suffering,
Speaker 11: like what you just said, is it turns out to
Speaker 11: be true that all the research that looks at suffering
Speaker 11: and cancer patients are a great example, has been well
Speaker 11: studied where a huge majority, like way more than you
Speaker 11: can imagine, of people who are going through cancer, even
Speaker 11: that ultimately succumbed to it, say things like what you
Speaker 11: just described with your mother, that they actually find that
Speaker 11: they've grown through it, they've found purpose through it, that
Speaker 11: their lives had become enriched by it. So it's almost
Speaker 11: like suffering is not optional. If you want to be
Speaker 11: a really well rounded and fully developed human, it's almost necessary.
Speaker 11: I have to go through hard things if you want
Speaker 11: to become a really fully developed person. And so we
Speaker 11: find gratitude through those hard moments because we recognize that
Speaker 11: they've given us experiences and opportunities to change and grow
Speaker 11: and learn and connect with other people in ways that
Speaker 11: we wouldn't have been able to do if we hadn't
Speaker 11: gone through suffering. And it's interesting because, just like we
Speaker 11: talked about while ago with quantum physics, like this idea
Speaker 11: that two things can be true at the same time,
Speaker 11: Like it's never going to be okay that I lost
Speaker 11: my son, Like I'm just as sad and broken about
Speaker 11: that eleven years after it happened than I was the
Speaker 11: day it happened. You're not okay with you losing your mom,
Speaker 11: and you never will be. But at the same time,
Speaker 11: it is true that I've grown, I've written books, I've
Speaker 11: connected with people all over the world, like a lot
Speaker 11: of the things that I am. I'm a much more
Speaker 11: compassionate physician and husband and father and grandfather now than
Speaker 11: I was before I lost my son. All of that
Speaker 11: because of having suffered so doesn't make it good, doesn't
Speaker 11: make it right. You would trade it all for having
Speaker 11: your mom back, or I'd trade it all for having
Speaker 11: my son back. That sort of secret sauce of life,
Speaker 11: it turns out to be this meaning that we find
Speaker 11: because we navigated through something hard. And on the brain
Speaker 11: science side, it's true too, Like you look at what
Speaker 11: makes resilience in the brain's this area called the mid
Speaker 11: anterior singula, and what they find is when you do
Speaker 11: hard things, it becomes easier for you to do hard
Speaker 11: things in the future, like all across the board. So
Speaker 11: you do something that's hard, even if you don't want to,
Speaker 11: your brain gets more resilient and you develop more willpower
Speaker 11: and you find more sort of joy in engaging in
Speaker 11: hard things the next time. So it's almost like you
Speaker 11: start saying, I'm ready for the next thing that's hurt,
Speaker 11: that it's going to hurt because I know I can
Speaker 11: get through it because I've done it before.
Speaker 12: Is there a magic number of how many times we
Speaker 12: have to do something for that new neural pathway to
Speaker 12: be built or is it different for everybody?
Speaker 1: Well, it's different for everybody.
Speaker 11: But on the basic physiology side, there's a structure in
Speaker 11: your brain called microtubules, and that's the stuff that makes
Speaker 11: new synapses, the little building blocks of new synapses, and
Speaker 11: they start happening within minutes of you trying something new
Speaker 11: or doing something new. So that's why we always say
Speaker 11: on my show, like thoughts become things, because when you
Speaker 11: think about something, you actually make something in your brain structurally,
Speaker 11: make changes in your brain. And what happens is within
Speaker 11: minutes you start laying down what's going to become ultimately
Speaker 11: the high way towards making a new habit or making
Speaker 11: a new process. But if you don't use it, continue
Speaker 11: to use that new thing, it disappears within about three weeks,
Speaker 11: and so in order to ingrain it and make it permanent,
Speaker 11: you have to engage in that thing over and over
Speaker 11: and over for a while. Some people say twenty one days.
Speaker 11: That's probably true for things that aren't sort of life
Speaker 11: or death. That's probably longer. For things that are really hard,
Speaker 11: like giving up smoking or something, probably takes longer than
Speaker 11: twenty one days. But in terms of what's happening in
Speaker 11: your brain, it starts almost instantly in the first hour
Speaker 11: of you trying to make a change, a positive change
Speaker 11: in your life. You're making it structurally in your brain.
Speaker 11: So that's encouraging. It gives us hope because we feel
Speaker 11: like we can't change, we feel like we're stuck. We
Speaker 11: inherited the genes. We inherited, We went through the tryal
Speaker 11: that we went through, and that means that we can
Speaker 11: ever change what the truth is. As soon as you
Speaker 11: start trying to change, your brain's right there with you.
Speaker 12: Well, so then that's epigenetics. We have the ability to
Speaker 12: change certain parts. You're probably the better person to describe this,
Speaker 12: but I think I have a fear inside of me
Speaker 12: because both my parents had cancer that I'm going to
Speaker 12: get cancer. And sometimes that is a thought that will
Speaker 12: take over and I immediately have to squash it and
Speaker 12: back up because just because they had it does not
Speaker 12: mean I will. But if I keep having those thoughts,
Speaker 12: then I'm increasing the likelihood of something negative happening.
Speaker 11: That's right, because so if you think about the big picture,
Speaker 11: so epigenetics, if somebody is not familiar, is that the
Speaker 11: things that we think about and certain things that we
Speaker 11: go through and lifestyle choices can turn on or off genes.
Speaker 11: So to speak up or down regulate genes is the
Speaker 11: way the bio chemists call it. And what that means
Speaker 11: is that the genetic material the inher for mom and
Speaker 11: dad is not guaranteed to be expressed or turned true
Speaker 11: in your life. So we know that from identical twin studies.
Speaker 11: For example, identical twins often have very different length of
Speaker 11: life and very different disease profiles that they get. And
Speaker 11: it's because even though they have the same genetic starting point,
Speaker 11: they don't have the same lives. And so what that
Speaker 11: means is that your life has a lot of impact
Speaker 11: and what genes get turned on and off. So if
Speaker 11: both your parents have cancer, for example, and you spend
Speaker 11: a lot of time worrying about that and stressing about it,
Speaker 11: your cortisol level is going to rise, and the systems
Speaker 11: in your body that fight cancer and do things on
Speaker 11: your behalf to try to avoid cancer are going to
Speaker 11: be depleted because you're spending so much time in a
Speaker 11: negative biochemical state, and your thoughts are becoming those things
Speaker 11: that are fighting against you and beating those cancer cells.
Speaker 11: So it's true that you can spend time in your
Speaker 11: brain thinking healthier thoughts and that will promote an environment
Speaker 11: that's going to produce a better chemical environment to optimize
Speaker 11: the epigenetic opportunities that you have to turn things on
Speaker 11: and off and make your life as good as it
Speaker 11: can be.
Speaker 9: We're going to do it live the one shoot three
Speaker 9: Sore Losers. What up, everybody. I am lunchbox. I know
Speaker 9: the most about sports, so I'll give you the sports facts,
Speaker 9: my sports opinions, because I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all.
Speaker 13: It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male.
Speaker 13: I live on the North side of Nashville with Bayser,
Speaker 13: my wife. We do have a farm. It's beautiful, a
Speaker 13: lot of acreage, no animals, a lot of crops. Hopefully
Speaker 13: soon corn pumpkins, rye. I believe maybe a little fescue
Speaker 13: to be determined.
Speaker 9: Over to you, coach. And here's a clip from this
Speaker 9: week's episode of The Sore Losers. Now they're going to
Speaker 9: remodel it and make it the hard rock forgot Tropicana.
Speaker 9: They're knocking, they're knocking down, They're a stadium is going there? Sorry, go.
Speaker 9: So we go to this lava show, forty five minute
Speaker 9: lava show, and I'm my hell yeah, hell yeah. And
Speaker 9: we just happened to see it because it was in
Speaker 9: the same parking lot as where we're eating at the
Speaker 9: soup kitchen or whatever. At the soup kitchen. I mean
Speaker 9: it sounds like such a party. What are you guys doing,
Speaker 9: like pregame drinks?
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 9: I had some beers and had some soup. What on
Speaker 9: the soup kitchen sign enticed you guys have dinner. My
Speaker 9: wife was doing research and someone on Reddit said, nine
Speaker 9: months later, I'm still thinking about the soup. I had
Speaker 9: the soup what a fucking was and I'm like, oh man,
Speaker 9: this must be amazing freaking soup. I'll do crab. But
Speaker 9: my wife is a she loves soup. Bin loves it.
Speaker 9: Lobster bisk ah. Now they had lamb soup. They had
Speaker 9: they eat a lot of lamb there because they have lamb.
Speaker 9: They have more lambs sheep than they do humans in Iceland.
Speaker 9: Where's my flock? I tied it up here. Hopefully parking
Speaker 9: is good. That's kind of like what they saund me.
Speaker 9: But that's Canadian a little bit. So we go to
Speaker 9: the Lava show and I'm like, all right, and the
Speaker 9: soup was okay, but it wasn't amazing. And I had
Speaker 9: three different kinds and I had the corn and spinach.
Speaker 9: I had the the fish curry one and some other one.
Speaker 9: And then we go to the Lava Show and it's
Speaker 9: in a room and they give you protective glasses you
Speaker 9: know what I mean, because it's gonna get so freaking hot. Right,
Speaker 9: we took off our clothes, so I'm like, forty five
Speaker 9: minutes of lava here we go.
Speaker 11: All right.
Speaker 9: The lady closes the door, comes in. She starts talking, Hi,
Speaker 9: my name is Rock Gel and I'm like, well, this
Speaker 9: is about to be awesome. Nice to meet you. I'm Lunchbox.
Speaker 9: She's like, welcome to the Lava Show, the only place
Speaker 9: in the world where you can see real lava from
Speaker 9: a volcano up close. And I'm like, she goes, it's
Speaker 9: gonna get so hot tho, You're gonna need those goggles
Speaker 9: to protect your eyes that and I'm like, hell yeah, honey,
Speaker 9: take off your bra. So then she proceeded to stand
Speaker 9: up there for fifteen minutes and give us a history
Speaker 9: of the town and the volcanoes that have erupted in
Speaker 9: that town. What the cleef? And I'm like, Okay, that's
Speaker 9: fifteen minutes of my forty five. When are we gonna
Speaker 9: get to the damn lava. Not bad. You still have
Speaker 9: thirty minutes of lava. Then we have thirty minutes of lava.
Speaker 9: She's like, honey, get ready to feel the l rumble
Speaker 9: of the lava, and she goes, now, so before we
Speaker 9: get to the lava, let me show you a video. No,
Speaker 9: I'm not doing the tours with the damn video. Show
Speaker 9: me three d bitch. Sorry, I'll delete that, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 9: So now we're gonna watch a video. So what was
Speaker 9: the video rate? It was a fifteen minute video. We're
Speaker 9: at thirty minutes now. It was a fifteen minute video
Speaker 9: showing exactly what she just talked about. That's bulghit. So
Speaker 9: she talked about the history of the town. Then they
Speaker 9: made a little cartoon video for you to enjoy of
Speaker 9: what she just told you about.
Speaker 14: Nice learning about your town. Like either way, just either pa,
Speaker 14: show us the lava. Where's the I wanted to get
Speaker 14: hot in here, hought in you sheeper boring maw.
Speaker 9: But I did learn if the volcano is going to
Speaker 9: erupt all the tourists you meet at the church on
Speaker 9: top of the hill, that's the evacuation plan, all right,
Speaker 9: So where's the lava? Show exactly where is the lava show?
Speaker 3: Raight?
Speaker 9: Oh? That was it? Fifteen minute video? All right? She goes,
Speaker 9: all right, now should we get to the lava? And
Speaker 9: so she does. It comes rolling out of this like
Speaker 9: tube in the wall, and there's lava and she starts
Speaker 9: picking it up with this stick. Now we're talking and
Speaker 9: she's making little things and then it freezes and she's
Speaker 9: cracking it and she's picking it up. The lava's touching me.
Speaker 9: Then she brings out a big old ice thing piece
Speaker 9: of ice and puts it in the lava and makes
Speaker 9: it blow up like a big balloon. A science project
Speaker 9: exactly what it was bro baking soda and food Colory, dude, No,
Speaker 9: it was real lava. Saw this in second grade. It
Speaker 9: was real lava. And she got your ass. Did you
Speaker 9: feel the hot?
Speaker 10: Oh?
Speaker 9: I could feel the heat.
Speaker 3: Man.
Speaker 9: So they must have just pumped the obviously the heater on. No, no,
Speaker 9: they have the they have to warm up. So what
Speaker 9: they do is they go get the right They actually
Speaker 9: turned the heater like one hundred and ten. They pretty
Speaker 9: much fucked us. No, No, they go get the rocks,
Speaker 9: like the ash from like the actual volcanoes in the mountains.
Speaker 9: And they bring it in and they reheat it up
Speaker 9: and make it into lava. That's making it better. Awesome, Okay,
Speaker 9: she played with the lava for ten minutes. Then the
Speaker 9: show is over. See when you need it a little
Speaker 9: bit more of that. Oh you think it is advertised
Speaker 9: as a forty five minute lava show. Was it ever
Speaker 9: lavaing or No? It was lava? No, no, it is lava.
Speaker 9: It came out like lava, like it does out of
Speaker 9: a volcano. Okay, that's pretty cool. I shouldn't have acted
Speaker 9: it. It was pretty badass for ten minutes, but advertise it
Speaker 9: as ten minutes. And then I get out. I don't
Speaker 9: need to watch the damn video. She had the lava
Speaker 9: like she's like having a rub on her. No, no,
Speaker 9: she had a metal pool because it was so hot.
Speaker 9: All right, she was fully naked. It was actually a
Speaker 9: lava tit show. No no, And I'm like, wow, this
Speaker 9: is amazing, dude, amazing. And we then we're leaving. We
Speaker 9: got to drive to the hotel. We still got an
Speaker 9: hour to drive to the hotel. And we get to
Speaker 9: the hotel and I guess what, They're already closed. You
Speaker 9: can't check in. Wait, it's here's a hotel. Oh yeah yeah,
Speaker 9: but in Iceland nothing. It was only ten o'clock, but
Speaker 9: they only stay on duty till eight. That's my biggest
Speaker 9: fear of other countries. You never know when places closed,
Speaker 9: and I'm like and everything, the lights are off, everything,
Speaker 9: and we're like, how the hell do we get in
Speaker 9: our room back in? How do we do this? We
Speaker 9: already paid online? What do we do? Sleep under the volcano?
Speaker 9: It's warm, So we bust out our flashlights and we're
Speaker 9: looking under matt. We're looking. I mean we're looking. They're
Speaker 9: gonna take the place. I know. That's what I was
Speaker 9: worried about. Well no, shit, Like I'm going around the back,
Speaker 9: like maybe there's a hidden door or something. You Americans
Speaker 9: in your crime rates freeze. And then no, they don't
Speaker 9: have police.
Speaker 4: Man.
Speaker 9: I don't think they have guns. I don't think they
Speaker 9: have anything. Over a nice one. It was it was
Speaker 9: like there's no one there. It is empty. And so
Speaker 9: then I, oh, wait, wait, what's that sign over there?
Speaker 9: It's on one of the windows that says, oh, sorry,
Speaker 9: we're not here to greet you, but we close at
Speaker 9: eight pm. Just so you know, your cabin five D,
Speaker 9: your key is in the door. Excuse me, anybody a
Speaker 9: polar bear sleeping in there right now? Dude? So you
Speaker 9: just go up and the key is in the door.
Speaker 9: Quite The security says, no, that's how nice it is
Speaker 9: in Iceland. They don't have any crime. They got nothing
Speaker 9: on nest. They have no problem. They just left the
Speaker 9: key in the door for us. What do you mean
Speaker 9: you were robbed? I don't know. The door was open.
Speaker 9: It was awesome. I was like, how cool is this Americans?
Speaker 9: Of course we tried to break in a back door.
Speaker 9: We're trying to break in a back door and they're like,
Speaker 9: just go to your cabin, man. We left the key
Speaker 9: in the door, and you look, and there was other
Speaker 9: cabins that just had the key in the door. So
Speaker 9: there was other families that hadn't arrived. Jet Honey, I'm
Speaker 9: gonna go sleep in five A if you don't mind.
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Mike d And this week a movie Mike's
Speaker 1: Movie Podcast. My wife Kelsey and I did our Movies
Speaker 1: of the Months where we go through all the movies
Speaker 1: we watched in August and talked about the ones we
Speaker 1: recommend best of the month and the ones we don't recommend,
Speaker 1: the worst of the Month. I want to play you
Speaker 1: this of us talking about our favorite movie as the
Speaker 1: summer blockbuster season comes to it end. So be sure
Speaker 1: to check out this full episode. But right now, here's
Speaker 1: just a little bit of movie Mike's movie podcast Movies
Speaker 1: of the Month for August. I feel like it's been
Speaker 1: one of the best months of the summer. Interesting, you
Speaker 1: don't what was your favorite month?
Speaker 8: July?
Speaker 1: Oh, July, I think was my least favorite.
Speaker 8: July had Twisters and Deadpool.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that was two and Fly Me to the Moon.
Speaker 1: I feel like there are so many more in August.
Speaker 1: I'm looking at my list here and there's like eight movies.
Speaker 8: Interesting, that's a hot take.
Speaker 1: I thought August was way stronger, which August is usually
Speaker 1: the decline of the summer blockbuster season. But I felt
Speaker 1: like there were more hidden gems. I have more flours
Speaker 1: in August than I did for July.
Speaker 8: I don't agree with that.
Speaker 15: But the last time I told you that your take
Speaker 15: was stupid, someone on the internet called me a not
Speaker 15: nice name.
Speaker 1: Is because you love Twisters so much that we've now
Speaker 1: seen twice, possibly we'll see first third time in theaters.
Speaker 1: We have a code now to watch it at home.
Speaker 1: Thanks to everybody at Universal who send us awesome box
Speaker 1: if you didn't watch that on TikTok.
Speaker 8: The greatest package we've ever received.
Speaker 1: But is it because you loved that movie so much?
Speaker 10: Now?
Speaker 8: There was just always something to see.
Speaker 15: It was like the first weekend we saw just pick
Speaker 15: on Me for and there was fly Me to the Moon,
Speaker 15: and there's Twisters. Then there was Deadpool and Twisters again,
Speaker 15: Like there was great stuff in July, there was always something.
Speaker 15: I feel like this month we kind of had to
Speaker 15: be like, Okay, what's coming out this week?
Speaker 8: What are we going to see?
Speaker 1: And I think it's because we had lower expectations going
Speaker 1: into the movies this month that I felt like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is a really solid month and more. Before we
Speaker 1: get into our favorite and our least favorite, I'll go
Speaker 1: through all the movies we saw, and we did see
Speaker 1: some movies apart. You saw one without me, I saw
Speaker 1: one without you.
Speaker 8: This is correct, suis factual.
Speaker 1: So going through the list, Trap which you didn't see
Speaker 1: with me, The Instigator, which was an at home one,
Speaker 1: Dedie Gunner, which was also I watched that one at home.
Speaker 1: I had a screener for that alien Romulus, which you
Speaker 1: didn't see with me Sing Sing, and then we closed
Speaker 1: it out with Blink twice. I feel like those all
Speaker 1: together is a solid month.
Speaker 8: And then I saw it ends with us true.
Speaker 1: I think that's better for me.
Speaker 8: Okay, I still disagree, but.
Speaker 1: We'll get into our bed and the worst you kick
Speaker 1: it off. What was the best thing out of all these?
Speaker 8: For August, I'm gonna gome on that surprise paint Blink twice.
Speaker 1: I was saying that I feel like this is a
Speaker 1: movie people are either going to love or hate.
Speaker 8: TikTok is a buzz.
Speaker 1: It's right, it's kind of pull our opposites.
Speaker 15: I think any movie, if you are concerned that you're
Speaker 15: not gonna like it, you need to watch the trailer.
Speaker 15: There were trigger warnings even the trailer, Like I didn't
Speaker 15: watch the trailer thinking this is gonna be funny, Like
Speaker 15: you know that it's gonna be kind of like a
Speaker 15: creepy psychological thriller. Reviews compared it to Get Out Before
Speaker 15: and people are like, what did I just watch?
Speaker 8: This was terrible?
Speaker 15: There were no warnings like no, there was a literal
Speaker 15: full screen warning before the movie.
Speaker 1: That leads me to believe there is still a select
Speaker 1: group of people that would just go watch a movie
Speaker 1: based on the A list are based on the lead.
Speaker 15: Yeah, the lady and the TikTok was like, I just
Speaker 15: wanted to watch Channing Tatum.
Speaker 1: It's like okay, which is a bizarre way to go
Speaker 1: into a movie just because Channing Tatum, who you probably
Speaker 1: know from Magic and maybe haven't seen a Chanting Tative
Speaker 1: movie since, or like twenty two Jump Street, twenty one,
Speaker 1: Jump Street, Step Up and you think, oh, yeah, that movie, you.
Speaker 8: Forgot my favorite movie all the time.
Speaker 1: I feel like he's had such an evolution as an actor,
Speaker 1: primarily being in the rom coms. Then he kind of
Speaker 1: shifted into being like the action star, which never really
Speaker 1: kicked off. He kind of transitioned into being the comedic star,
Speaker 1: which I think was kind of a juxtaposition of you
Speaker 1: see him and you don't think comedy, but then he's
Speaker 1: really good at comedy right at comedy, And now I
Speaker 1: feel like he's just making really good movies, having one
Speaker 1: of the best years out of any actor.
Speaker 8: He's having a summer.
Speaker 1: So it's weird for me to see somebody go into
Speaker 1: just watching a movie and thinking it's gonna be everything.
Speaker 1: He's done maybe ten fifteen years ago. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 15: I think that, Yeah, you just need to watch the trailer,
Speaker 15: like if you're concerned at all about the movie.
Speaker 8: I also think it was righted R. Wasn't it?
Speaker 1: It was righted R.
Speaker 15: Okay, that tells you all you need. That tells you
Speaker 15: all you need to know. And yeah, it was disturbing.
Speaker 15: That's why there were trigger warnings.
Speaker 1: And if you go into the movie you see the
Speaker 1: trigger warning and think, I don't know if this is
Speaker 1: for me, you can go get a refund. I think
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't know that. I think it's
Speaker 1: within the first twenty to thirty minutes, probably different based
Speaker 1: on the theater you go to, you can still get
Speaker 1: a refund.
Speaker 8: Should have done that when I took my grandma to
Speaker 8: Talladey Nights.
Speaker 1: So if you see that at the beginning and thining, huh,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm in for that. I also
Speaker 1: feel like that was a little bit rage bait. My
Speaker 1: best of the month comes down to two movies, Alien
Speaker 1: Romulus and d D which Alien Romulus was the most
Speaker 1: surprising to me because, like we've been talking about in
Speaker 1: this month, I went in with pretty low expectations and
Speaker 1: ended up really enjoying it, even though I'm not the
Speaker 1: biggest fan of the Alien franchise as a whole. But
Speaker 1: I think when it comes down to my favorite of
Speaker 1: the month, it goes to DDI just because I haven't
Speaker 1: seen a movie take place in that time period done
Speaker 1: that well too, so good, like two thousand and nine.
Speaker 1: Two thousand and eight to two thousand and nine is
Speaker 1: like a golden year for me and seeing all those
Speaker 1: things that Dedie went through and realizing that also the
Speaker 1: director is like my ab So I feel like that
Speaker 1: movie was made for somebody exactly my age, also somebody
Speaker 1: who their parents migrated from another country. And it was
Speaker 1: also just I won't call it a straight on comedy.
Speaker 1: There were some funny parts, but it was kind of
Speaker 1: a dramedy. Yeah, where I wouldn't tell somebody go watch
Speaker 1: this movie because it's hilarious, but there are funny parts
Speaker 1: in it. And I feel like that movie is relatable
Speaker 1: to anybody who's ever been a teenager. That's really the
Speaker 1: prerequisite for it.
Speaker 15: I mean it captured similar to what we talked about,
Speaker 15: like eighth grade, it captured which you probably related to
Speaker 15: this one more because it was a teenage boy where
Speaker 15: was I.
Speaker 1: Read did a tighth grade?
Speaker 15: But it was like it captures the essence of that
Speaker 15: awkward time of being like thirteen fourteen, eighth grade into
Speaker 15: ninth grade. And my trauma that I still haven't forgiven
Speaker 15: my parents for is that they moved me in the middle.
Speaker 8: Of eighth grade.
Speaker 1: Eighth grade was my worst year ever.
Speaker 15: The movie in the middle of it, which was incredibly
Speaker 15: rude and difficult. But I did meet my best friend
Speaker 15: who was still my best friend this day on the
Speaker 15: bus and we were like the two weird kids and
Speaker 15: we've been best friends ever since, so that was the
Speaker 15: only good thing. But that was some trauma.
Speaker 1: I think I lost any friend I made from six
Speaker 1: to seventh grade. In eighth grade, it's great, is brutal,
Speaker 1: it is so and I don't even know why. It
Speaker 1: just got to a point where I just stopped talking
Speaker 1: to people because they stopped talking to me.
Speaker 15: Everyone thinks that they're better, and then you get to
Speaker 15: ninth grade and it's like everyone who was terrible to
Speaker 15: you in eighth grade is like, hey, happy.
Speaker 1: First day of school, and you're like me, I still
Speaker 1: have the blade in my back from last year.
Speaker 15: You're like you've literally spit on me, like, why are
Speaker 15: you being nice to me?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I remember eating lunch alone a lot in eighth grade,
Speaker 1: making friends with people I did not want to be
Speaker 1: associated with, just because they'd be the only ones who
Speaker 1: would sit around me at lunch, and I just remember
Speaker 1: that time being awful.
Speaker 15: I also apparently got a lot of hate because I
Speaker 15: came in and I was really smart, and I would
Speaker 15: like raise my hand and answer questions and I didn't know,
Speaker 15: I didn't really fully realize that being smart would put
Speaker 15: a target on your back. But sucks to be all
Speaker 15: of them because I was smarter than all of them,
Speaker 15: and I did graduate third in my class in high school.
Speaker 1: So that's a fun thing to talk about. What were
Speaker 1: the things that put a target on your back in
Speaker 1: let's just say seventh and eighth grade. You said that
Speaker 1: one for me, one of the big ones with just
Speaker 1: me wearing all black all the time, which people associated
Speaker 1: me with being emo goth, and I would get made
Speaker 1: fun of that all the time because I wore all black.
Speaker 8: Having a hard to pronounce last name. Oh yeah, I
Speaker 8: don't know why that just makes you a target.
Speaker 1: Because would they make fun of it?
Speaker 15: Yeah, I was telling my younger brother the story the
Speaker 15: other day. And one time somebody made fun of my
Speaker 15: last name and I was like, sorry, take it up
Speaker 15: with my dad.
Speaker 8: Dad not shut them up. Ooh, that was a good coming.
Speaker 1: That's always like the una reverse card.
Speaker 15: Yeah, that like being smart, having a hard to pronounce
Speaker 15: last name, and then weirdly like I had a hot mom,
Speaker 15: which makes it really difficult to be a teenage.
Speaker 1: Girl from the teenage boy or the teenage girl.
Speaker 8: The teenage boy.
Speaker 15: Like my mom would come have lunch with me at
Speaker 15: school and everyone be like, oh man, who's that, And
Speaker 15: I mean, it's my mom. I could tell they found
Speaker 15: my mom more attractive than they found me.
Speaker 1: So that was all so difficult. That's quite the top
Speaker 1: three there.
Speaker 8: It was pretty rough for me.
Speaker 1: It was the all black clothing goes hand in hands
Speaker 1: being into punk rock. Number two was being chunky. That's
Speaker 1: just an easy target. Number three, I guess being Mexican,
Speaker 1: just because people expect things out of me or assume
Speaker 1: stereotypes about me. All right, now, they were through all
Speaker 1: of our traumas.
Speaker 8: Now that we are through Kelsey's childhood trauma.
Speaker 15: Thank you for joining. If anyone is a psychologist, listening.
Speaker 15: Please let me know what's wrong with me.
Speaker 1: But there you go. DD was my best.
Speaker 9: Caral. She's a queen and talking.
Speaker 13: It was a song.
Speaker 2: She's getting not afraid to face, so so just let
Speaker 2: it float.
Speaker 1: No one can do we quiet, Calne, It is time
Speaker 1: for Caroline.
Speaker 7: Were any pard too?
Speaker 1: Are you ready? I'm ready?
Speaker 16: This microphone is rolling way, so I'm just gonna hold
Speaker 16: it to my face.
Speaker 17: I loved part one where we talked about the front
Speaker 17: the front half of Hannah. Yeah, but we can't stop now.
Speaker 17: We can't because now we're getting to like the juicy
Speaker 17: as bits. Yeah, so can we keep going?
Speaker 6: Can we dive in?
Speaker 7: I hope we do part two? Here we can be
Speaker 7: sad if we didn't.
Speaker 16: I know, this is like, oh my god, the main attraction.
Speaker 7: Buckle up here we come.
Speaker 18: We did a marriage intensive at on site, no okay,
Speaker 18: and but we did it with another couple. It was
Speaker 18: a two Christian like husband and wife like counselor peers,
Speaker 18: and so we would come in with them every day.
Speaker 18: And I was so excited about it because I was like,
Speaker 18: we're going to fix all of Shay's problems.
Speaker 4: How to go?
Speaker 18: We came out of it and I was just like
Speaker 18: shell shocked because we had storyboarded have you ever heard
Speaker 18: of this?
Speaker 10: Oh?
Speaker 7: Tell me, this is good?
Speaker 9: I love this.
Speaker 18: We storyboarded out. This was one of our exercises. We
Speaker 18: each were given a poster board and we wrote out
Speaker 18: in thumbnail pictures our lives beautiful. It was like moments
Speaker 18: of our lives.
Speaker 16: A great way to know yourself and your partner.
Speaker 18: Gosh, when I tell you, it was emotionally exhausting because.
Speaker 7: I imagine to thirty years. I was thirty. This was
Speaker 7: three years ago. I went through thirty years of like
Speaker 7: trying to think.
Speaker 18: Of the things that like impacted my life and like
Speaker 18: that were pretty important to who I've become.
Speaker 7: So shared a lot.
Speaker 18: We spent hours just like doodling. Like it's funny because
Speaker 18: on our storyboards, we both start out and it's like
Speaker 18: so beautiful and like detailed, and by the end it's
Speaker 18: just like stick figures and we're just like dead. Yeah,
Speaker 18: and nothing else happened in the last ten years because
Speaker 18: I'm tired and my brain hurts.
Speaker 17: Why do way to clear the pipe cell? Well, so
Speaker 17: we did that, and the actual like realizations you probably
Speaker 17: learned of yourself.
Speaker 18: Well, no, the shocking part was that she then went
Speaker 18: through and she was like, I'm going to go through.
Speaker 18: I want I want each of you, one at a time,
Speaker 18: to go through your life and explain each of these
Speaker 18: and then I'm gonna come back through with my sticky
Speaker 18: notes and I'm gonna I'm gonna put on the board
Speaker 18: what I hear.
Speaker 17: You saying, WHOA, This is intense, intense, exhausting.
Speaker 18: It was like when I tell you, like emotionally.
Speaker 16: It's like an exorcism almost.
Speaker 7: It was, so she ran out of sticky notes.
Speaker 6: Was laughing over there.
Speaker 16: It's not like an exorcism kind.
Speaker 18: I feel like we went through Shaise and basically they
Speaker 18: were like, oh, you can turn lemons into lemonade, but
Speaker 18: she can't. Like that was like the thesis for his life.
Speaker 18: And she ran out of sticky notes through me You're like.
Speaker 17: We're gonna come vic se, I got this all figured out.
Speaker 18: So she literally ended with like chronic trauma and I
Speaker 18: was like what.
Speaker 12: I was like what?
Speaker 18: So anyway, all that to say, we both spent that
Speaker 18: week and I think the.
Speaker 16: What a moment in your marriage?
Speaker 18: I think the important part was that we were we
Speaker 18: were opening this up in front of each other and
Speaker 18: so we literally and then we had to like talk
Speaker 18: to our younger selves, this is.
Speaker 16: So beautiful and vulnerable each other.
Speaker 17: But just to be able to get that vulnerable, not
Speaker 17: that you're not already vulnerable, but like to go all
Speaker 17: the way into the demons and the dark of it all,
Speaker 17: that was a door that's so beautiful.
Speaker 18: Literally had to let go and like talk to my
Speaker 18: little girl self and tell her, like and talk to her.
Speaker 6: What did you tell her?
Speaker 7: It was something really sad and.
Speaker 18: It was just like it was so sad, and SHA's
Speaker 18: just seeing this, you know what I mean? And like
Speaker 18: he did the same thing.
Speaker 16: What was your coping mechanism for your little girl? How
Speaker 16: did you cope?
Speaker 9: Well?
Speaker 16: What did you do to protect her so she didn't
Speaker 16: have to feel Well?
Speaker 18: It's funny because like I went back and because she
Speaker 18: was like, you need to probably do some solo therapy for.
Speaker 7: Like your five years.
Speaker 18: She's like, you probably need to like go do some
Speaker 18: work on your own. And we did, we've both done that.
Speaker 18: But but it was I actually said, I was like,
Speaker 18: you're because I was bullied a lot, like a lot
Speaker 18: of bullying. And again I'm a doormat and so I've
Speaker 18: always been like quiet and reserved or ways.
Speaker 7: I feel like I've like sorry, I feel like i've.
Speaker 18: I've something about having kids really make you step into like.
Speaker 16: Who mama, Lian, Yeah, you're like, I.
Speaker 18: Really give a rats, but tuity what anyone thinks of me,
Speaker 18: because now I'm a mom and there's more important things
Speaker 18: in life than someone's opinion, so other than God's.
Speaker 7: Like, yeah, as long as God's telling me I'm doing.
Speaker 16: Good and you and your husband are on the same page,
Speaker 16: that's exactly it.
Speaker 18: Like I sat the other day and I was like,
Speaker 18: I feel like I haven't talked to you in a
Speaker 18: long time. God, and I just felt him say you're
Speaker 18: a good mom, and I just started bowling you. Sometimes
Speaker 18: you just like need need to hear it, you know.
Speaker 16: Okay, So what did you tell your little girl there's
Speaker 16: music to your personal share?
Speaker 18: No, I just said the reason that I was bullied
Speaker 18: a lot was because I was. They called me miss
Speaker 18: goody two shoes, like I didn't break the rules and
Speaker 18: like I was just like a rule follower and and
Speaker 18: I and my mom told me my whole life, you're
Speaker 18: a good girl, and like she'd always say, make good choices.
Speaker 7: And I literally told her.
Speaker 18: I was like, you're a good girl, and you are,
Speaker 18: you are.
Speaker 7: You did a good job, and you did a good job,
Speaker 7: and you tried. You've been trying so hard, and.
Speaker 18: Like the thing that came out of it was the
Speaker 18: therapist actually said she was like do you know what?
Speaker 18: She was like, I'm looking at your whole life, and
Speaker 18: she was like, and you never followed. And I was like, like,
Speaker 18: I'd never thought of that. But like as much as
Speaker 18: I was picked on her, bullied or like all this
Speaker 18: for for like being good, she was like, you never
Speaker 18: followed them, like I never.
Speaker 16: Like you just kind of raced it, raced for it.
Speaker 18: I like I mom told me I was good and
Speaker 18: I wanted to be good, and like, thank goodness for
Speaker 18: that foundation because Shane and I were both like raised
Speaker 18: to know and love the Lord, and I'm so thankful
Speaker 18: for that. But I'd never heard that before in my
Speaker 18: whole life. She looked at me and she was like,
Speaker 18: you were never a follower, So proud of you. And
Speaker 18: there was something about that that was like, oh, all
Speaker 18: that hard work really did pay off and it is
Speaker 18: a harder road it is.
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