1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: It's Erica and we're back with another bonus episode exclusively 2 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:08,600 Speaker 1: on Patreon. But you know we had to put the 3 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: teaser here. This episode is featuring our homegirls, the Black 4 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:16,080 Speaker 1: Girl Bravado. Now, you know, podcasting friendships and just getting 5 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:19,119 Speaker 1: into business with friends can be tricky. We've seen it 6 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: time and time again with some of your favorite podcasts 7 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:26,000 Speaker 1: splitting up, and so we dive deep into how we've 8 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 1: been able to maintain a healthy relationship and a business 9 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: relationship with each other. We also talk about red flags 10 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: and friendships, women ghosting each other, and get deep about 11 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: our own insecurities in our friendships with one another. So 12 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: this episode gets really real, it gets really raw, and 13 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 1: if you are a woman who is struggling with a 14 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: friendship right now or trying to find your tribe, you 15 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: are going to want to tap into this episode. There 16 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: are so many gems, there are so many honest moments, 17 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: and so I'm going to leave you here with this teaser, 18 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 1: but make sure you click the link in this episode 19 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: description to join the Tribe chat on Patreon. Enjoy to 20 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,479 Speaker 1: have like sometimes this fear of like, oh my God, 21 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:09,959 Speaker 1: like would you leave me? Like and as having to 22 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:12,559 Speaker 1: acknowledge that and say that to one another, and say 23 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: that out loud and then say, I'm never leaving you 24 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: like to have a woman, a friend of mine, like 25 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: my sister say that to me. I've never I never 26 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 1: even thought how important that was until she said that 27 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: to me. And I think also like me saying that 28 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 1: to her, and it was like, wow, this is it's 29 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 1: it's powerful. It feels just as it feels just as 30 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:39,320 Speaker 1: nourishing as a romantic like a man saying that to 31 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: you in that way. But it's different. It's like, I 32 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: don't know, it's even it's like all encompassing, even even 33 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 1: more so than maybe that relationship is, because it's based 34 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: in where we are rooted, our femininity, our divine femininity. 35 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: You know, this like thing that we all share that 36 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: only a woman can understand, connection, that we have, this 37 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: bondship that we have when we are nurturing one another 38 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: and really coming together. It's like, there's no feeling like it. 39 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're speaking to the depths of my soul. 40 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:16,919 Speaker 1: Have the lower our cast gets at the same time, 41 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: our friends so much. 42 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 3: Honestly, honestly, it's very sick. It's it's so sick. It's beautiful. 43 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:27,640 Speaker 3: I'm so happy that you guys said that you also 44 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 3: feel married, because I thought that we were the only 45 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 3: ones describing each other as like platonic wives. And people 46 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 3: really are like, what the fuck are you talking about? 47 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:38,639 Speaker 3: But I'm like it because they don't have a girl 48 00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 3: like this. Yeah, yeah, and it's like this is my wife. 49 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 3: Like we discuss a lot of aspects of life and 50 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 3: of business and of finances and the future together and 51 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 3: like it, Like the relationship is so deep and I 52 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 3: feel the same way, Like I feel so committed to it, 53 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 3: like a marriage, Like I don't see at any point 54 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 3: that this would ever dissolve or and and we'ven't talked 55 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 3: about that. Like we met in a like a specific 56 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 3: time in our lives, coming up out of relationships and dating. 57 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 3: And we've seen each other in relationships and out of relationships, 58 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 3: and even for like I think for women in like 59 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 3: female relationships, that's sometimes scary because a lot of times 60 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:20,359 Speaker 3: women leave, you know, I feel like, oh, you get 61 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 3: a boyfriend and now you know, you get married and 62 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:25,920 Speaker 3: I my friend is gone, or you started acting brand 63 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 3: new or some shit like that. I think, like women 64 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 3: get that rap, and we have that fear too that 65 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 3: like romantic relationships are superior to your friendships and ways, 66 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 3: and you know, like even even changing out of like 67 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 3: being you know, some one of us being a relationship 68 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 3: one of us, not vice versa, and like, oh, you 69 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 3: got a new boyfriend and like you don't really fuck 70 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 3: with him, I can tell you know what I mean, 71 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 3: like all of all of those different aspects and just 72 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 3: like so even throughout that, like hey, I'm here always. 73 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 3: You're my bitch always, Like I actually are a bank account 74 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 3: with this bitch. Kids are our kids are best friends. 75 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 3: And even even now being in a serious relationship, I 76 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 3: really do feel like I have like a husband and 77 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 3: a wife and it does I'm like, I'm as polly 78 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 3: as it gets, okay, because this is i mean not poly, 79 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:17,360 Speaker 3: but you know what I mean, Like it's a real 80 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 3: web of deep love and deep relationships and like not 81 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 3: and I used to think like a map like that. 82 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:26,919 Speaker 3: The whatever boyfriends we get are gonna really definitely have 83 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:30,599 Speaker 3: to understand this level of friendship and this deep level 84 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:35,119 Speaker 3: of like family sister wifehood that we've you know, we've 85 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,799 Speaker 3: both navigated, yeah, and we've navigated this so much together 86 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 3: and you know, just us that for someone to come in. 87 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 3: You really have to hold space for that. And like, 88 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 3: I'm wondering, how how has that been for you guys too, 89 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:50,359 Speaker 3: like one being single, one not being single, like the 90 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 3: challenges that have come with that, and like how you've 91 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 3: gotten through those obstacles. 92 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 2: Well, Eric has talked about the abandonment issues that that's 93 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 2: come up in me too. Like when Germany got into 94 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:05,599 Speaker 2: her relationship, I'm like, okay, this we we had came together, 95 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 2: like you said, at a special point in our lives. 96 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 2: We were in long term relationships, so we were in 97 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 2: at the same place at the same time, at the 98 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 2: point where our friendship started. 99 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:16,040 Speaker 1: And even like. 100 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 2: Relating to wanting to get out of those relationships, so 101 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 2: we got out of the relationships at similar times, and 102 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:22,160 Speaker 2: we were, you know, on our. 103 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:28,559 Speaker 1: Single parallel lives in different parts of the city. 104 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:33,040 Speaker 2: Basically are you're in our single girl thing. And then 105 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,720 Speaker 2: when Germany got into her relationship with Undress, I'm like, oh, 106 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 2: this bits just serious, this is this is stealing a 107 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 2: little this. 108 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 3: Is feeling a little more real than the others. 109 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 2: And the type of person I am, I'm like, you know, 110 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna allow this space for her to do whatever 111 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 2: she wants to do Like, I'm not going to be overbearing, 112 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:57,360 Speaker 2: even though inside I'm suffering. I'm suffering this nigga likes 113 00:05:57,400 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 2: to be outside. He's taking my friend away. I'm I mean, 114 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 2: where's my person to do my things with? Like I 115 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:08,480 Speaker 2: definitely was feeling that, And so. 116 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:10,839 Speaker 1: I just love Germany and Brittany of the Black or Bravado, 117 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 1: so shout out to them again. Make sure you check 118 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 1: out this full length episode exclusively on Patreon. We are 119 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: doing a lot of cool stuff over there during the 120 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: off season, so I'm really excited to connect with you 121 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: guys one on one on Patreon. 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