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Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. The Breakfast Club. Morning.

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Speaker 2: Everybody is dj En V Charlamagne the gud We are

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Speaker 2: the Breakfast Club. We got some special guests joining.

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Speaker 1: Us this morning. Yes, indeed we have Queen and Four

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Speaker 1: welcome back, so glad to be back. And Stephanie McRae welcome.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Now you have an event this Thursday, October fifth at

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Speaker 2: Harlem Hospital. Well, first of all, how are you guys doing.

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Speaker 3: I like to hear that.

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Speaker 4: I'd like to excellent, excellent, Well, it's excellent. It feels

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Speaker 4: so good in here. Thank you so much for having us.

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Speaker 4: You've always supported the wellness for our community, so thank you.

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Speaker 4: I'm welcome to see you all.

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Speaker 1: I'm welcome to see you all together.

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Speaker 4: We are partnering in warm a work of warm as.

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Speaker 4: We're coming forth to bring awareness to Domestic Violence month,

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Speaker 4: you know, and and within that in October. It's happening

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Speaker 4: right now on Thursday the fifth, we're coming to our

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Speaker 4: spectacular works today of Harlem Healing.

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Speaker 1: What is that?

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Speaker 3: Tell us what that is?

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Speaker 4: Well, we're coming together and we're going to share ways

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Speaker 4: in which to protect ourselves, to heal ourselves. And it's

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Speaker 4: a family affair. Although the women you know, you have

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Speaker 4: all the women that have been challenged that they've been

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Speaker 4: murdered basically in their own homes. So there's violence in

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Speaker 4: our homes, and we have to heal as people, as families.

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Speaker 4: So it's not we're pointing a thing at our men,

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Speaker 4: but we're looking at us as a community. What can

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Speaker 4: we all do collectively to protect one another, because when

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Speaker 4: you take a woman's life, you're taking your own life,

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Speaker 4: and then the children are highly in danger. So we're

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Speaker 4: coming together as me a hold Sequila for the last

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Speaker 4: fifty years, and you're doing your work in community building

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Speaker 4: and not for profit and Warm. But it's been over

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Speaker 4: twelve years, and.

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Speaker 1: It's been actually thirteen years. Chance is thirteen year I've

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Speaker 1: gave birth to Warm and twenty ten coming out of

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Speaker 1: this recycle of domestic violence. And when I came back

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Speaker 1: to Harlem, I didn't see any women that looked like me.

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Speaker 1: I didn't see any representation of women of color, and

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Speaker 1: I certainly didn't see any lived experienced women. Where I

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Speaker 1: come from, it is you are to be quiet and

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Speaker 1: it is a shame. And we're saying that domestic violence

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Speaker 1: is not a shame it's a crime, and we want

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Speaker 1: expose it for what it is because women are dying

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Speaker 1: this book right here. Every woman in this book has

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Speaker 1: been murdered. Did the candlelight visuals, did the funerals for

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Speaker 1: mother and children. So it's a critical issue here and

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Speaker 1: I'm so honored to you to have us here. And

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Speaker 1: one of the things that we want to talk about

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Speaker 1: is important to feel. You got to feel first, then

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Speaker 1: you got to deal, and then you got to come

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Speaker 1: to that table of healing our body, mind and spirits.

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Speaker 1: So that's what we're going to do in Harlem this year.

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Speaker 1: We in Harlem on October fifth, is bring our community

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Speaker 1: together because we've been devastated. We live in deserts, right

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Speaker 1: We live where our women and children are in battlefields,

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Speaker 1: they're in the war. So we want to bring some

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Speaker 1: kind of restitution, some kind of understanding peace. So you

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Speaker 1: could get out, but you're not going to get out

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Speaker 1: into you move that muscle, because when you move the muscle,

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Speaker 1: the thought is going to move with it. So we

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Speaker 1: want to give them the opportunity to come in and

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Speaker 1: start the process of healing because that's the only way out.

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Speaker 2: Let me ask you a question, when you I mean,

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Speaker 2: I'm sure you speak to families and when you deal

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Speaker 2: with people that's been affected by domestic violence, right, especially

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Speaker 2: now culture black men, Why don't you think people shun

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Speaker 2: them enough or shove those cases enough. A lot of

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Speaker 2: times you see a lot of domestic violence cases get

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Speaker 2: swept under the rug. A lot of times you see

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Speaker 2: domestic violent cases people get they plead out to lesser charges.

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Speaker 2: Why do you think that happens so much in our community?

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Speaker 2: And why don't you think people speak up about what's

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Speaker 2: going on so much? Because when you hear domestic violence,

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Speaker 2: it's usually a man that has a low ego, low

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Speaker 2: it's spoken about more in our community?

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Speaker 1: Well, the first thing is that it is. It is

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Speaker 1: an uncomfortable conversation and a lot of times because we

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Speaker 1: don't take it serious enough. It's like, Okay, well it

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Speaker 1: is a human right issue now because women and children

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Speaker 1: didn't make it out. And one of the things that

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Speaker 1: you know in our community, there's just so much, there's

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Speaker 1: came back to Harlem, because there wasn't anything in Harlem

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Speaker 1: thousands of his children in.

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Speaker 3: Who are some of the people you'll have at the event.

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Speaker 4: Oh, we're going to have well, both of us are

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Speaker 4: going to be yes, yes, And then we're.

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Speaker 1: Gonna have China.

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Speaker 4: China is the CEO of Dollhouse Cosmetics, and we invited

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Speaker 4: her because she's she overcame domestic violence and as a result,

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Speaker 4: she became an entrepreneur to let you know that there's

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Speaker 4: a future even though you've been beat down and hurt

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Speaker 4: and wounded in your own home, that you can rise up,

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Speaker 4: you can overcome. And she has a healthy relationship now,

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Speaker 4: so that's an example. Then we have a moderator, BB Smith.

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Speaker 4: She's gonna moderate everything. And then we have doctor Jeffrey Gernard.

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Speaker 4: So he's going to be there and he's going to

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Speaker 4: talk about the psychology and the emotions of it. I'm

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Speaker 4: going to be talking about a way to bring medicine

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Speaker 4: in our own homes. Who's medicine is my specialty. And

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Speaker 4: a lot of the anger and the stresses is what

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Speaker 4: we're eating and was eating at us and so we're acting.

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Speaker 4: One of the things I had asked you, I said, well,

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Speaker 1: The violence? And you said on the weekend.

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Speaker 4: So that's after having some alcohol and some you know,

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Speaker 4: something to numb the hurt. Women and men are not

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Speaker 4: doesn't numb out, it actually expresses itself further out.

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Speaker 1: So I have a whole.

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Speaker 4: Campaign of detoxing.

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Speaker 1: We can detox the woundedness, the hurt.

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Speaker 4: And there's a study that was done in Britain, he says,

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Speaker 4: that in the prison system when they tested it and

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Speaker 4: they found that the crime went down within the system

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Speaker 4: and the violence went down and the stealing from one

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Speaker 4: another went down. So's a lot of it's chemically induced.

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Speaker 4: We're not really eating real food, reading processed food and

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Speaker 4: us going off, being short of fighting one another. And

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Speaker 4: then women are shamed. They don't want to talk about it.

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Speaker 4: They're not talking about it out loud. I went through

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Speaker 4: a domestic abuse situation. I was in my twenties, and

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Speaker 4: so I really know about trying to keep the family

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Speaker 4: your detriment, and so I had to come out of it.

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Speaker 4: My daughter said at three years old, because we think

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Speaker 4: it's just a husband and wife, the children are suffering.

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Speaker 4: At three years old, said mom, we have to go

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Speaker 4: to grandmother's. So that means the children really feeling the

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Speaker 4: same thing that the parents are feeling. They're feeling lost,

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Speaker 4: they're feeling frightened, they're feeling scared, and we got to

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Speaker 4: show them that we can work together. Women and men

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Speaker 4: can work together to heal our conditions. Not about putting

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Speaker 4: the finger at them and those, but it's to say

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Speaker 4: what can we all do, and that's what Thursday's all about.

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Speaker 1: So thank you for having us.

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Speaker 4: They we're bringing attention that we can distress, we can

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Speaker 4: release our anger in a positive way, maybe walking, maybe

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Speaker 4: you know, working together fast and cleansing. So I'm doing

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Speaker 4: a seven day at.

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Speaker 1: The end of October. End of October.

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Speaker 4: Yes, we're gonna come together. We're gonna launch at warm

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Speaker 4: at your location on twenty sixth year in Harlem. Yes,

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Speaker 4: and we're gonna launch our seven day detos. Not saving

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Speaker 4: too much, not twenty one days. Hen we do seven

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Speaker 4: days and every night we'll be talking to the women,

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Speaker 4: encouraging them, strengthening them, because I always see the women

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Speaker 4: as the healers of the home. The women can heal

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Speaker 4: and if they raise their vibrations strong enough and we

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Speaker 4: differently because we'll be able to help them. We're they

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Speaker 4: walk them off the edge, walk them over the bridge,

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Speaker 4: help them to detach.

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Speaker 1: Just something a green juice.

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Speaker 4: Every day was stressed, bringing stress of us all the

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Speaker 4: way down a hell in barefoots. Have you not fight

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Speaker 4: What did I carry over through my mother and father fighting,

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Speaker 4: and I'm bringing that into my house in this generation,

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Speaker 4: Because you talked about the u disial cycle within your

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Speaker 2: Know, somebody might say, well, you know, why should we

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Speaker 2: be the person to stop them from doing that. What

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Speaker 2: would you say to that woman, people out there listening,

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Speaker 1: I would say that it is our duty to help

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Speaker 1: It is what we've been called to do to help

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Speaker 1: our men. You know, everything is birth from a woman.

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Speaker 1: Everything comes from a woman. So we are talking about

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Speaker 1: if we are getting ourself right, if we are doing

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Speaker 1: all the healing and eating right and fastening and praying,

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Speaker 1: and if we don't bring our men into this equation

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Speaker 1: So it is our obligation to tell our brothers. Look,

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Speaker 1: and it is your obligation to tell your brothers, your

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Speaker 1: brother that's domestic violence for thirty something years I'm in

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Speaker 1: living in this world, and I didn't have the identification.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't talked about, so we just thought that's what

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Speaker 1: my father do. So what our job is to bring

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Speaker 1: obligation to say, yeah, you did something wrong, but who

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Speaker 1: am I to judge you for what you did? We

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Speaker 1: know hurt people, hurt people, So we want our brothers

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Speaker 1: to say, it's a space, there's a time, there's a

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Speaker 1: It's about redemption. Okay, it is not about blame. I

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Speaker 1: we deflect, and we dismiss. We're not doing that no longer.

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Speaker 1: We take a responsibility for our action. And then we're

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Speaker 3: He had from that moment on, he probably had a

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Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely for me, and I got it okay, But

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Speaker 2: Wow yeah, wow, wow wow.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for asking that question. So WARM is a

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Speaker 4: Well, it's not just we do one thing, it's a

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Speaker 4: Spoke of them. One of the last cases you said

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Speaker 4: We're saying everyone come out on WINDESDA on Thursday because

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Speaker 1: The fact that Harlem Hospital.

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Speaker 1: And we moved to shame.

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Speaker 4: And so if we remove the shame and said this

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Speaker 4: So on the October twenty seventh, this is like part

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Speaker 4: You don't have to be ashamed. Women don't have to

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Speaker 4: So we ask you to be a part of the

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Speaker 2: We're talking about the event and the time and where

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Speaker 1: working with Queen has been one of my greatest gifts,

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Speaker 1: and I give that which she gave me to the women.

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Speaker 1: It's all gravy. I love it.

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Speaker 4: I love what I do. Well.

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Speaker 2: We appreciate you guys so much for joining us this morning.

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Speaker 4: But also for those who want to change their lives

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Speaker 4: day detox and make it the community of wellness. So

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Speaker 4: men are getting well, our people getting well. So check

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Speaker 1: Of the change.

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Speaker 4: And if you have an organization that the women are

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Speaker 4: stressing out, you know it's time to bring those women together.

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Speaker 4: They can help the other women and help our families

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Speaker 4: in our community to build up. So we're just so

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Speaker 4: grateful that you have us Today we're going to pass

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Speaker 4: the word. You're passing the word globally.

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Speaker 1: Respect.

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Speaker 2: Stephanie McGough, thank you so much, and don't forget the event.

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Speaker 2: It's this Thursday, October fifth at Harlem Hospital and it's

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Speaker 2: the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, wake that ass up in the morning for

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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club