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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Sierra is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Alie.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Sierra, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Alie?

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Speaker 3: Oh? It's been gosh, like maybe a week doing two weeks? Now?

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Speaker 4: Have you reached out to him in that time?

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Speaker 1: I texted him once and I haven't heard anything back yet,

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Speaker 1: and so he's just ghosting me.

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Speaker 4: It's just it's not awesome. Let's go backwards. Why don't

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Speaker 4: you tell us about how you guys met how the

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Speaker 4: date was.

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I met Ali online and we decided we should

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Speaker 1: do something super fun for our first date. So we

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Speaker 1: do something a little non traditional and went glow bowling.

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Speaker 1: It's like glow night again, like your house. Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: was so much fun. It was like a rave, lots

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Speaker 1: of glow lights everywhere, body paint, you know, like black

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Speaker 1: light everything in loud music, lots of drinks.

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Speaker 3: It was so much fun.

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Speaker 4: Yeah that sound.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it was a really good date. I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: you know, we were dancing and there's a lot of

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Speaker 1: a lot of music and drinks and and like we

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Speaker 1: had a fun time.

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Speaker 3: And then we went back to his place afterwards.

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Speaker 2: Okay, because a chance to talk to him much. Glow

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Speaker 2: bowling is not necessarily a place for talking. It's a

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Speaker 2: place for glowing and bowling.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and we we kind of, you know, knew that

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Speaker 1: going in, but we just wanted to see, like if

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Speaker 1: the chemistry was there, and it was, Okay.

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Speaker 4: I see what you mean. You just got artistic with

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Speaker 4: your body paint.

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Speaker 3: Or yeah, yeah, that's that's a good way for cool.

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Speaker 4: And so the chemistry was there, Yes, I felt it.

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Speaker 3: I feel like we had a really great time.

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Speaker 1: But I will say I think maybe I had maybe

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Speaker 1: one too.

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Speaker 3: Many drinks at the Bullerina. So I feel like my like.

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Speaker 1: I didn't come off as good as I could have,

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Speaker 1: Like I should have just kept myself to two drinks and.

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Speaker 3: Instead I had three. And I just think that it

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Speaker 3: took me to the next leubble. Maybe maybe I scared him.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Do you remember anything that you did that was too much?

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Speaker 3: I just think maybe he didn't expect me to drink

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Speaker 3: as much.

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Speaker 5: I mean, three drinks isn't terrible bad, I mean unless

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Speaker 5: I mean some people are kind of, you know, light.

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Speaker 1: Light, total lightweight. So I am such a lightweight. It's

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Speaker 1: just like one drink for me and then it's like, oh, okay,

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Speaker 1: she's gone.

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Speaker 3: But he was like, oh, I'll drive you home. We'll

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Speaker 3: go to my place, you know, and he drove me home.

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Speaker 5: So like, I don't know, were you sloppy or were

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Speaker 5: you saying things?

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Speaker 3: Maybe?

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Speaker 1: I don't no, I don't know, Like I I definitely

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Speaker 1: was tipsy, but I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't think. I don't think it was that bad.

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Speaker 5: Okay, but if you were to say something weird happened

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Speaker 5: on the day, it would be that you were wasted.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what's the lasting that he said to you?

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Speaker 3: I think he said like, have a good night.

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Speaker 5: You know that what I said after you guys had chemistry,

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Speaker 5: He said have a good night.

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Speaker 2: Oof m not like i'll see you again, And did

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Speaker 2: you guys find another date or anything.

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Speaker 3: I kind of pushed that where I was like, hey,

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Speaker 3: let's use this against it.

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Speaker 1: Let's let's do something later this next week and he

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Speaker 1: was like, I'll have to wait and see.

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Speaker 3: Like I have to go and check some things, and

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Speaker 3: he didn't get He gave me like a non answer,

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Speaker 4: Okay, all right, so it got weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Well we'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 4: Okay, thank you, Okay, we'll play a song, come back

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Speaker 4: and get your first a follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first day follow up,

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Sierra is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Allie. We're

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Speaker 2: about to call him and see if tells why he's ghostinger.

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Speaker 2: But first, Sierra, why don't you catch us up on

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Speaker 2: your situation?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Allie and I went to glow Night at the

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Speaker 1: Bowlerina near us and we had a great time. I

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Speaker 1: got a little to TFC, I think, and now he's

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Speaker 1: ghosting me and we went back to his place and

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Speaker 1: then I went home.

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Speaker 2: Later on and got a strike. He hasn't gotten back

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Speaker 2: to back to you. Are you ready for us to

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Speaker 2: call him? Okay, here we go, hell him, I speak

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Speaker 2: to Allie. Please this is him, Ollie, how are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jeubil Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Ali, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 6: Oh oh hello, oh hello.

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Speaker 4: Do you listen to the show ever?

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Speaker 7: I've heard it before? Yeah, definitely, I definitely recognize Nave. Okay, sweet,

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Speaker 7: that's what we try to go for. I've heard it before,

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Speaker 7: so thank you for hearing it before. Have you ever

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Speaker 7: heard a first day follow up before?

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Speaker 6: I'm not sure.

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Speaker 4: Well, I'll tell you what it is.

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Speaker 2: A First Day follow up is a segment we do

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Speaker 2: on the show where if you go out on a

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Speaker 2: date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting them. Okay, and we got

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Speaker 2: an email about you from somebody really, Yes, have you

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Speaker 2: been globling lately?

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Speaker 6: Globally?

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Speaker 4: Mm hmmm, yes, okay. Was it with somebody named Sierra?

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Speaker 6: Sierra? Yeah? Sierra, uh huh okay.

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Speaker 4: And it's been a few weeks since you talked to Sierra.

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Speaker 4: You had to spoon feed him. Then are you really

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Speaker 4: seeing that many people?

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Speaker 8: Well, you know, I don't think I'm ghosting anyone. Yes,

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Speaker 8: there was a lot of fun. We had a lot

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Speaker 2: She told She said that you guys really hit it off,

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Speaker 2: but now you're not responding to her, which would be ghosting.

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Speaker 6: It was fun. I had a lot of fun. And yeah,

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Speaker 6: I just haven't gone back to her. I guess.

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Speaker 5: I mean generally, when you don't get back to somebody

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I mean, I'm I was very busy with work,

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Speaker 9: and like my work's a very intense and kind of

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Speaker 4: So you want to go out with her again? Sounds

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Speaker 4: like if you really like somebody, you're going to make

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Speaker 4: sure you talk to them.

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Speaker 6: Well, I mean we had fun. We definitely had a

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Speaker 6: lot of drinks.

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Speaker 8: And then I took her to my place and you know,

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Speaker 8: we had another drink and.

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Speaker 6: Well, she pat herself, what.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 4: No, Allie, Ollie, that's that's Sierra. She's actually on the

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Speaker 3: Wait.

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Speaker 4: Yes, she was also wait till we got the answer

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Speaker 4: all the way out of you.

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Speaker 3: But Ollie, I didn't think you'd go there.

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Speaker 6: They asked, why I know you look, I mean it

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Speaker 6: was fine. I'm not mad. He had a lot to drink.

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Speaker 3: But I was laughing, by the way I was.

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Speaker 1: I was in the middle of laughing, like he had

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Speaker 1: me laughing, and that's.

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Speaker 6: Why I peek.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Like it was.

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Speaker 5: Just a little middle what I mean, it's when you

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Speaker 4: That's not a big deal. It happens to everybody all

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Speaker 6: No, I mean, it was more than a piddle.

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Speaker 9: I had to get paper towels and you know, and

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Speaker 9: I was like, not upset.

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Speaker 6: I was just like, it's fine, it's fine.

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Speaker 1: But then it wasn't that bad, Okay, Seriously, seriously, I'm

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Speaker 1: not saying it's bad that you peede and it's fine.

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Speaker 9: I'm definitely not saying it's bad. It's what I totally

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Speaker 9: get it. Oh my gosh, I peed behind a donuts

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Speaker 4: You know the amount of people that I that have

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Speaker 4: peed on dates with me a lot?

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Speaker 5: Wait, are you serious, Like, especially when drinking is involved,

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Speaker 5: it's not that uncommon.

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Speaker 4: I mean, and I've also done it too, so.

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Speaker 6: It's not it's not a bad thing.

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Speaker 3: The drinking had a lot to do with this, you know, like.

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Speaker 8: It was just sort of a first impression thing that like,

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Speaker 8: like I can't do that.

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Speaker 6: I mean, it was fun, definitely fun.

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Speaker 8: But then I think once that happened, I was like, okay,

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Speaker 4: Where did that happen? Were you guys like on the

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Speaker 6: Kind of bold?

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Speaker 9: Okay, I mean I did make a comment that her

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Speaker 9: piece I could smell her peed that.

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Speaker 6: Strong. I mean at this point, I'm just it's just commentary.

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Speaker 6: What's going on.

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Speaker 3: It did not smell that Okay, it did not just smell.

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Speaker 6: It was like it could definitely smell the sense of it.

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Speaker 6: It was like a stronger.

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Speaker 4: Drinking, a lot of drinking.

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Speaker 2: It was just an observation, weird thing to point out, Well, Alli,

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Speaker 2: would you like to go out another day with Sierra?

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Speaker 4: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, but I like Sierra, You're you're definitely like a

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Speaker 1: I'm not a weekend only girl. Just because I peed

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Speaker 1: while I was.

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Speaker 8: Drunk, there's I mean, there's nothing wrong with the weekend

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Speaker 8: only girl.

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Speaker 3: There was no thanks, So.

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Speaker 4: That's a yes, Allie.

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Speaker 8: I mean, yeah, if on the weekend. You want to

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Speaker 8: do something, they're going to pay for it. I would

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Speaker 8: glow ball again. It just puts down some.

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Speaker 3: Likely considering it because it was a lot of fun.

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Speaker 1: But no, I'll find someone who is an every day

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Speaker 1: a guy who wants an every day of the week

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Speaker 1: kind of goal.

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Speaker 8: Well, you know, if you're ever you know, bored on

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Speaker 8: a Saturday or something and you need somewhere to come

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Speaker 8: and see.

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Speaker 1: You offer, No, I'll find somewhere else to be.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. First date follow up