1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:03,079 Speaker 1: The Thread is a new hit podcast from Ozzy Media 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 1: that explores history surprising connections in order to discover how 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 1: one thing leads to another, like how movie moguls in 4 00:00:09,560 --> 00:00:12,959 Speaker 1: early Hollywood helped spark the me Too movement. Today, get 5 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:15,760 Speaker 1: it on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen, buggle lap, 6 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:17,479 Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you here it 7 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: is the straw Dairy, Tommy. This one's for you. So 8 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: you think subject too many bodies in one bed. Dear 9 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I've been dating a man for six months now. 10 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 1: He is divorced and has two kids, a twelve year 11 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 1: old daughter and a ten year old son. I have 12 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 1: never had kids, and I really like his My only 13 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: problem is that he still lets his kids sleep in 14 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:46,479 Speaker 1: the bed with him. Whenever I'm at his house. The 15 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: kids still sleep in his bed with us. They spend 16 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 1: the weekend with him every other week, and I feel 17 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 1: weird about sleeping with a ten year old boy. I 18 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: told him I'd sleep on the couch, but my boyfriend 19 00:00:57,200 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: won't let me. He promised to have a talk with 20 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: the kids, and he said that he would buy them 21 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: new mattresses, but they said they'd rather sleep with us. 22 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 1: My boyfriend tried to tell me that it's great bonding 23 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: time for him and the kids since they don't live 24 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:13,320 Speaker 1: with him full time. I get it he misses them, 25 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 1: but I don't know what to do. Am I just 26 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 1: being a mean person? Or is it normal for me 27 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: to feel weird about having his kids in the bed 28 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: with us? This has got to change? What should I do? Uh? No, 29 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: you're not mean, and you're not being a mean person. 30 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 1: It is not normal, I think for your man, his 31 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 1: two kids, and you to be all sleeping in the 32 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: same bed. Yeah, you're right, this does have to change. 33 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 1: I think what you should do is you're just going 34 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 1: to have to insist. I know you said and suggested 35 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 1: that you sleep on the couch, but you'd have to 36 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: actually sleep on the couch and insist on it. Uh, 37 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: when you're over there. Um, you shouldn't be uncomfortable sleeping 38 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: in his bed, but you are, and I'm uncomfortable for you. 39 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: It is uncomfortable sleeping with a ten and twelve year old. 40 00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 1: I mean, is is there enough room? I'm thinking of 41 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: about that too, especially if you know, if these kids 42 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: aren't yours, and even if they are, they should have 43 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: their own room and and and he should buy their 44 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: own mattresses. He wants to bond with his kids. I 45 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 1: get it, but um yeah, just go ahead by the mattresses, 46 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: start slowly winning them from sleeping with him in the bed, 47 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: they can bond in other ways. And until then, either 48 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: you don't go over there, he goes over your house, 49 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: or you just sleep on the couch when you're over there. Steve, Well, 50 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 1: this is a crazy situation that this woman is being 51 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:35,519 Speaker 1: put in. It is too many damn bodies in the 52 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: bed sleeping with the person. Unless you're sleeping with them, 53 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,720 Speaker 1: it's sleep is not the time unless you're a couple 54 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 1: to produce bonds. You can bond other ways. You bond 55 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: in a couple relationships sleeping together. That's why a couple 56 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:58,959 Speaker 1: sleep together. It's not healthy for a child to sleep 57 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: with a parent to a certain age. It creates something 58 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 1: in a child that I don't know what it's called, 59 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: and it's just I don't know if it's an enabling 60 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:13,920 Speaker 1: but it's just not healthy, especially now that he's requiring 61 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 1: that you not sleep on the couch, that you over 62 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: there and you gotta sleep with his kids, which is 63 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: great that you love them and you want to have 64 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 1: a bond with them, but technically they're not your kids. Now, 65 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: this boy is ten. Come on, we see now it's 66 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: boy ten. And you say you feel a little uncomfortable 67 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: sleeping with a ten year old boy? I got news 68 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 1: for you. Should be telling you right now the former 69 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: old boy and the former team about to be twitter 70 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: and the way things is happening. No, it's probably happening 71 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: for them a little bit earlier. You can't be there 72 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: for one of them surprises quiet time. It ain't his fault, 73 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: but you don't need to be there now. I'm assuming 74 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: you got to be fine. Called the daddy thank you. 75 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: So I'm pretty sure his boy gonna feel the same. 76 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:21,119 Speaker 1: And they ain't mad at you because they he ain't 77 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: with a mama, no mo and all that. Oh girl, 78 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: what is that sugarfoot moment? Your loving? No more? I'm 79 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 1: gonna make up my own mind. Your shi will uh, 80 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: I don't think I don't. Did she say the twelve 81 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,360 Speaker 1: year old girl was sleeping in that? Yeah? They're all 82 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 1: sleeping in there and in there. Yeah, and looks sir, 83 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: you know you're sleeping in the bed every night. It's 84 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:56,960 Speaker 1: nothing wrong. It's your daughter. I got it. I'm not 85 00:04:57,040 --> 00:05:00,599 Speaker 1: even my mind ain't even in that direction. And I 86 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: got you on a bond with your kids. But listen, man, 87 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: it's unfair to your new partner, your girlfriend. It's unfair 88 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: to her. You've got to get these kids a mattress. 89 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 1: You've got to get him away to sleep on their own. Y'all. 90 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:22,680 Speaker 1: Can't all sleeping that, man, It ain't it's it's not cool. 91 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: It's not cool. I'll see. First of all, let me 92 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: explain this to you. He doesn't get to see him 93 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 1: but once every other week. So now he's Disney Dad. 94 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: He trying to make it all fun, lovey dovey. These 95 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: my kids. Man, when they come over here, they get whatever. 96 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 1: They won't do whatever, they won't sleep whatever, you won't. 97 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: He being Disney Dad because he just want to have 98 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: the time that he has with his children to be 99 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 1: a wonderful experience. I understand, and spend as much time 100 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 1: with them as he can. I got it. Sleeping ain't 101 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: the way to go. I gotta be naked sometimes I do. 102 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: Now I'll give you a personal exp Rose was sleeping 103 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: with us one time, my little granddaughter, And you know 104 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 1: I sleep with clothes on when the grandkids is open, 105 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:11,159 Speaker 1: all right, because you don't need him to go to therapy. 106 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:17,039 Speaker 1: Get to the point, I'm on food, mother, What is 107 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:23,280 Speaker 1: that over there by? Papa? So rose foot? She laid 108 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 1: her foot on my ass one night. Now I forgot 109 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: she was in the bed. So when I reached over 110 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 1: to touch what I thought was Marjorie's hand and wound 111 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: up with a baby foot in my hand. The shock 112 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:52,560 Speaker 1: that my head said straight on, I was scared to tell, 113 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 1: oh lor I went out stairs and started immediately talking 114 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 1: to God because our little foot landed on my button. 115 00:07:04,520 --> 00:07:07,279 Speaker 1: I got on sweatpants. But I'm gonna okay my girl, 116 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 1: all right, all right. I stuck my hand back there 117 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 1: and had number the hand fum the little bit of 118 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:18,280 Speaker 1: baby foot. Hey man, I got him carmeing downstair and 119 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: start watching CNN in my office. You'd be over there 120 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 1: sleep one time. Let that little ten year old boy 121 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: reach over and pat you one time on your ass. 122 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 1: You ain't gonna understand it, and he ain't either. All right, 123 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: let's go to break right here. Uh we'll let Part 124 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: two responded subject too many bodies in one bed. Let's 125 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 1: recap it is too many bodies in one basis. Man, 126 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 1: it gets custed of his kids every other weekend, and 127 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 1: when they come over here has got a new girlfriend. 128 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 1: She walks all on. He wants all of them sleep 129 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:56,840 Speaker 1: in the bed together, twelve year old girl, the ten 130 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: year old boy, and the new girlfriend. She's uncomfortable, Yeah, 131 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: sleeping in bed with the ten year old boy because 132 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: I don't tell you what's happening right now. It's the 133 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 1: daddy on the edge, the twelve year old girl next 134 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 1: to her, the twin year old boy next to the 135 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: twelve year old girl, and then she the other end, 136 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: that little boy right there. I don't want to order, Yeah, 137 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:25,040 Speaker 1: it's ain't. No other order can be in time. That's 138 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 1: why she's struggling. You can't hand it. She's struggling. This 139 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 1: boy ted hes gonna roll over and touch something he 140 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:34,280 Speaker 1: not felt before. It's gonna be on the corrected dud 141 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: on those mattresses. Okay, Steve, you gotta get it. When 142 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:41,559 Speaker 1: you can't have all the breast and stuff in the 143 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:45,440 Speaker 1: little bit of boy face because he handles, that's gonna 144 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:49,839 Speaker 1: be a show and telling. It's hard to be the 145 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:56,840 Speaker 1: story to school with the story kid story in there 146 00:08:56,880 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: getting Noble Peace Prize. When he stuff kneeling. Well, well, 147 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 1: y'all didn't let me tell you what I was doing here. Yeah, 148 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 1: and so I think it's not healthy. I think you do. 149 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: Have to get the mattress and he can bond with him. 150 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 1: Get up, fix some breakfast, taking wherever they're going, spend time, 151 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:19,199 Speaker 1: go to lunch, go to park, sit up watching v 152 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: play video games, with time to go to bed. Y'all 153 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 1: go over there. We need some time apart because what 154 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: I'm doing in here with this girl, y'all don't need 155 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: to be in here. I mean we're in here too. 156 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:33,959 Speaker 1: Go when y'all ain't here some clowning, and please get 157 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:39,680 Speaker 1: away from the dough. Please please get away from the door. 158 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:44,400 Speaker 1: Quit knocking, Quit trying to listen. You ain't gonna understand 159 00:09:44,440 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: the noises. I can't he Mama that if they watching 160 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: the movie Steve, I think Dad, it hurt what bottom 161 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 1: line a little boy. Little boy's gonna be shocked. They've 162 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:31,920 Speaker 1: only been dating for six months. Yeah, yeah, a lot 163 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: of Holida in six months? Is he barking? I don't know. 164 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 1: Animal noises like Jurassic Park? We just number one? Are 165 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 1: you quite done? Oh? The junglest we at we're in 166 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 1: the serengetti though for sure. Oh, it's got good. You 167 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:14,560 Speaker 1: know I love animals. It's jungle noise is going on 168 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: all gay got the scream man, she's got about doing 169 00:11:55,600 --> 00:12:00,680 Speaker 1: only let one slip out color day. She was gonna 170 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: you hit that dog back then, that dog dog, That 171 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:10,080 Speaker 1: dog was being the dog man. No, I didn't hear it. 172 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:21,160 Speaker 1: What I did, I did, I missed it. Got to 173 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 1: get you that boy been balking. You don't understand, boy, 174 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:31,439 Speaker 1: Get you there right there? That was good. Sit down, boy, boy, 175 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:41,840 Speaker 1: that was good. I love animal knows what can I say? 176 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: What likes? What she likes? Today? That monkey is there? 177 00:12:55,679 --> 00:13:01,719 Speaker 1: The monkey is real. Dogs, no strong going on. I'm 178 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 1: so happy right now. Yeah, the dog the monke has 179 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:27,200 Speaker 1: been actually talking about becoming a vegan. Done do it? Birds? Birds, birds? 180 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: He got in there. But what are the kids doing 181 00:13:30,200 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: up against that? Though? It's better on their mattresses. He 182 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:40,680 Speaker 1: watching good. Get out there there to sleep on the floor. 183 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: I know I do all the time from a countrymen. 184 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:57,960 Speaker 1: What you say, I might try to wish to night cool? 185 00:13:58,920 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: That's actually me right? What is the faint hollow? Oh waited? 186 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: All right? We gotta go, We gotta go keep it 187 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: up though, all right? Listen, email us or Instagram. 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