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Speaker 1: It's Steve Fishman from Orbit Media. You're listening to Get

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Speaker 1: the Money and Run. In this episode, episode two, we

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Speaker 1: ask the question what happens when a protector cannot protect

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Speaker 1: those he loves most. I find this episode, particularly part three, heartbreaking.

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Speaker 1: on Apple Podcasts. All right over to Ben.

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Speaker 2: You are listening to The Burden season four, Get the

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Speaker 2: Money and Run there and this is episode two. Who's

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Speaker 2: your daddy?

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Speaker 3: How did you?

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Speaker 2: How did you discover this bank right here?

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Speaker 4: You know a lot of times what I would do

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Speaker 4: is I'd go to areas and I would just we

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Speaker 4: would drive around and see if there's possibilities.

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Speaker 5: Of banks to rob.

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Speaker 4: I used to spend a lot of time down the

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Speaker 4: street here at a friend's house, so I know this area.

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Speaker 4: I finally drove past this bank and I thought, hey,

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Speaker 4: you know what, it's not the kind of bank I robbed,

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Speaker 4: which is on the corner because my whole thing was

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Speaker 4: I like to leave a bank. So when I'm followed,

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Speaker 4: people step out of the bank and immediately start swiving

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Speaker 4: in their head side to side looking for cars driving

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Speaker 4: of the parking lot because they're looking for a getaway car.

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Speaker 4: Here they would see me leave the bank and not

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Speaker 4: get into a car in the parking lot where all

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Speaker 4: the cars are. That's too easy for them. So I

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Speaker 4: had to park far away. You want to get on walker, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Let's good, let's walk. Let's see what would have happened.

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Speaker 3: So now you've parked your car now and now you're

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So I get out of the car. I feel

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Speaker 4: Marshaled enough for my will and violence and determination and focus.

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Speaker 5: So I'm gonna walk in. I'm gonna do what I do.

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Speaker 5: But when I start giving delivery my spiel, I notice

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Speaker 4: There's a woman who's the manager. She spots me and

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Speaker 4: she realized I'm wronging the bank. Eyes locked on me fearlessly.

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Speaker 4: I get the money I spend and I come out

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Speaker 4: the front here and I think, all right, I've done

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Speaker 5: So when I walk out of the bank, I start

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Speaker 4: I look back and the woman's over there and kind

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Speaker 4: the hell He's like, I'm gonna try and follow me

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Speaker 4: She's gonna see it. So I look at her and

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Speaker 4: I basically say, like I do my finger like naw,

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Speaker 5: You don't want to do this. Then again, but just like.

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Speaker 4: Sure you know she's walking to take care's someone like

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Speaker 5: Her tiptoe slowly like she's right here.

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Speaker 4: So now I aggressively look back and I'm like I

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Speaker 5: She was scared. Now now I got her. I'm running

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Speaker 4: I hope that's in the DNA, man, because that shit

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Speaker 2: Part one the Good Life.

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Speaker 3: So after the last episode, I wanted to get some

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Speaker 6: Joe was cute as a cute as a bug the kid.

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Speaker 6: He was a talkative, He's very charismatic, giving as a

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Speaker 6: He wouldn't follow anybody. He was the one that took

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Speaker 6: I said, this kid is going to be a leader.

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Speaker 3: This is Joe's dad, Joe Loyr. There was a time

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Speaker 3: before all the abuse that we heard about in the

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Speaker 3: next several episodes, and joe'sdad is going to sound like

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Speaker 3: a villain. Both Joe's are going to sound like villains

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Speaker 3: before we're done. But they're not just villains. So before

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Speaker 3: terrors and terrorized, I want to mark this time, the

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Speaker 3: time before before the wife and mother died, before things

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Speaker 2: They both were.

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Speaker 6: One day I asked, I used to ask him. He'd

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Speaker 6: be playing around and I'd be in the kitchen doing it, reading, studying, learning,

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Speaker 6: and i'd I need to come running. The little guy. Okay,

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Speaker 6: he was just five. So he comes into the kitchen. Yes, daddy, Hey,

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Speaker 6: you love me? Yes, I love you a lot. I

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Speaker 5: How much you loved me? I love you.

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Speaker 6: He's learning his numbers, right.

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Speaker 5: I love you a hundred. I love you a hundred,

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Speaker 6: And one day he came home. He looks at me,

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Speaker 6: he says, Daddy, did you know that numbers never end?

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Speaker 6: I said, yes, I know that. So a few days

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Speaker 6: he doesn't just answer quickly. He thinks about it. He

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Speaker 6: more than counting goes. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Joe was everything

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Speaker 6: you could ever want, I could ever want in a child.

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Speaker 6: He was so incredibly wonderful. I remember that I would

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Speaker 6: felt so great, so terrific. That's an image that's here.

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Speaker 6: And he grew up and he was just so incredibly wonderful.

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Speaker 6: I just I was so proud of him.

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Speaker 2: This is Joe's younger brother, Paul.

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Speaker 7: And one of the things and God blessed him for this.

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Speaker 7: One of the things that my mother and my father

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Speaker 7: did was they Now that I think about it, maybe

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Speaker 7: And you know, as I imagine that, you know, having

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Speaker 7: understood like he had this role in my life. Certainly

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Speaker 7: growing up. He he was very much a protector of me.

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Speaker 7: I was the shy kid who hung out with his brother.

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Speaker 7: Because we moved around a lot, there was always a

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Speaker 7: in these situations than I was I was much more insecure.

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Speaker 7: Joe would always let me tag along because he was

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Speaker 7: And you know, I remember I didn't have friends. They

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Speaker 7: the friends that I had weren't always my age. They

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Speaker 7: I remember when I first started learning guitar. I was horrible.

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Speaker 7: I don't even know why. I was like like I

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Speaker 7: as I knew that it was cool with Joe, that

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Speaker 7: you know, but that's still Those are the types of

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Speaker 7: things where I can't really articulate, like say, hey, you know,

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Speaker 7: Joe would come over and you know, rubber stat me

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Speaker 7: These are just the things that emotionally that I knew

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Speaker 7: So I lived in that world and Joe always made

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Speaker 2: This is Anne Hefernan. She was a friend of Joe's

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Speaker 2: when he was robbing banks.

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Speaker 8: Joe he knows how to make people love him and

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Speaker 8: he knows how to use language. Some people might feel

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Speaker 8: manipulated by that, but I don't mind being manipulated because

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Speaker 8: I don't mind it. I totally got something out of it.

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Speaker 8: I mean Joe changed my life. Joe wasn't like anyone

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Speaker 8: I had ever met before, and I was this good

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Speaker 8: And so when a hot Mexican bank robber comes to

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Speaker 8: work in your restaurant and you perk up. Joe came

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Speaker 8: in and he's so full of life, super dynamic, super

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Speaker 8: self assured, and he paid attention to me, and.

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Speaker 7: I like that.

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Speaker 8: He just was super jovial, like super super up, super funny. Joe.

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Speaker 8: He loves women, so if you're working in a restaurant,

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Speaker 8: you're surrounded by women generally, right. But also, if I

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Speaker 8: remember correctly, I'm pretty sure he held a knife to

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Speaker 2: Part two, Troublemaker.

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Speaker 4: I don't think I saw, oh, I want a track

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Speaker 7: It was, it was. It was a weird time, you know,

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Speaker 7: But this particular time, you know, my dad yelled at us,

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Speaker 5: He lifts Paul's head on and he says, the words

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Speaker 5: It is the worst memory in my life, and I

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Speaker 5: be here. I cannot live with my cowardice. I confronted

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Speaker 5: I was intense. I had this aggression, and I felt

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